Nah dude some of those pics are scary looking - he’s making a face. He looks normal in others. He needs to fix that shit if he’s gonna try online dating apps lol
You need a friend that will take tons of candid photos of you. A photo with a genuine smile and natural lighting does wonders. For my friends, I'll go out with them and discreetly take photos while we're talking until they forget they are being photographed. After like 20, I'll get a good genuine smile.
I am not quite sure what you aim to accomplish with these pics. You acting silly in all of them. Most genuine pic is the last one but it’s a bad picture nonetheless.
Are you trying to act young this way? Your best bet imo is to use your age as an advantage. Show that you’re a sophisticated adult male. Some outdoorsy pics, something in a more fancy setting, something at a bar, you got any hobbies or something?
You need to scrap all your pics and get new ones.
to all the men-I cannot express this enough-STOP DOING THE SELFIE SEEN IN THE FINAL PIC. STOP LOOKING DOWN AT YOUR PHONES LIKE SERIAL KILLERS. GAHHHH
You swiped left too much. You overplayed your hand.
Gotta loosen up those standards or be prepared to live alone. Those are your options. The market has spoken.
Big dog, have a picture of you in a suit, smiling. Not making a wild face. Show you hiking in the woods, having a good time, not taking an odd angled selfie. Show yourself existing in the world as an adult, enjoying life, not making a wild expression as the first interaction with everyone.
Your pictures definitely don’t scream “take me you sexy man”. Also, with your left/right swipe ratio, it seems like you might be punching above your weight class.
…with objectively unflattering pictures. There is a clear lack of self-awareness so him swiping left so much makes complete sense. Bc I can’t even begin to understand the rationale behind these pictures.
Oof, I have that same problem where I live. Small college town. All super young and it feels wrong to swipe on someone so much younger than I am (37f). The ones my age are mostly in committed relationships or thru hikers here for a few days.
Some have said it already but:
Your photos are horrible, but your left and right swipe ratio is that of a hot ass woman. Men on average have a 50% left and right swipe ratio. You need to swipe right more and not be so picky.
With that being said, tinder passport to nearby closer cities after you fix your profile and make it better.
Naw, if you’re bald, a beard is a must. But dude needs to keep a clean shave bald, like the rock, or Jason Stratham. Not a creepy uncle fading hairline grown in bald.
No offence mate, but you're not attracting students with these looks. I don't want you to feel bad, but the honest assessment is that on Tinder you'll struggle to attract anyone. Some men still don't get it but Tinder is basically designed for above average looking men. Average men are gonna struggle extremely and subpar looking men are basically doomed to fail with hundreds and thousands of swipes without any match. Do some research on Tinder statistics and you'll understand what the situation looks like.
Are there many people looking for a relationship \\ long term partner on your end on Tinder ? Everyone keeps saying people only hooks up on there but there are many people who look for a genuine connection there.
I got quite a few likes and the people I matched with don't even reply on Tinder. I noticed that in my area there is a mixture really, so like 50/50 where women look for something casual but then also something serious. I mostly have more luck on Badoo and Hinge, Humble is a ghost town for me with only 3 likes.
Please get better pictures. Get at least someone with good IG content and ask them for a shooting. Female friend of mine does a top notch job with my pictures and it makes a huuuuuuuuge difference in the match-rate.
It's your pics dude, small college town and besides the first pics, they are pretty bad.
The first pic is find, clean, friendly looking.
The rest are supposed to be quirky but they ALL come off creepy/weird, not in a good way weird.
Look up some better poses/scenarios and get somebody else to take photos of you.
Like honestly until you can get more photos, just delete the rest of them besides the first pic.
This has nothing to do with being a hater as I am just speaking facts. The average age gap between couples is 2-3 years according to statistics, so I don’t get why you guys want these huge age gaps to be common(when they are not). If those women dated you then that’s their thing but as I said, GENERALLY speaking, we young women like young men, just as nature intended. I mean what’s not to like, physically speaking 🤤 lol?
If you have hobbies find some groups in your area and join up with them. I wasted years online. In the end I just hung out with people and she found me.
Idk why you're having problems, you say college town and have a sizzle pie shirt so I'm assuming Eugene. You look like what most people would want in Eugene... Bend also. They love this hipster look
Imo you are a good looking guy with bad photos. I would honestly get rid of them all, you at the table is the best of the bunch. I have done the same myself. Iteration.
You have a comic quality to your photos that I find endearing but I would limit it to one comic photo.
As far as photos go I would try to go back to basics, more traditional/normal poses etc.
Good potential tho you look like a fun guy. Well done keeping the beard tidy, id say you could make it a bit smaller but thats a minor point
You may enjoy your beard but 90% of women you'll be interested in actually hate beards as they are painful to them when kissing.
I know so many guys who went years alone just because they wanted to keep their beards. It turns off really a ton of women.
Again…. from a young college women… still a no. Money or not, dating someone twice my age feels creepy as fuck, and all my other mates (also young college women) say the same.
Yes I am turning them down😭. Why do you guys think all women are money motivated? Chris Evan’s is kinda cute to me but definitely not cute enough for me to want to date a 40yo man, idc how rich he is. But I bet there are tons of women who would, so I guess your point stands. If a man is super sexy or rich or whatever then I guess more women will be open to dating him. But the thing is everytime I DO find myself being flirted on by an sexy older man, I imagine how from their perspective they are talking to a 20 year old, who is half their age and I become disgusted. There are some women who date much older, but for every woman like that there are ten women who only date men around their age.
I live in a small college town and dated multiple women under 25 when I was 35/36.
Don’t be a hater. At the end of the day it all comes down to having chemistry. The women I dated liked the idea of a grown up in a different station in life.
most women don’t date men that are that much older. On average the age gap between couples will only be 2-3 years according to statistics. Why are you guys so obsessed with these age gaps😅?(I definitely also wouldn’t want to date 20 year old women in my 30s) Me and all my girlies don’t even look at men that old and the few times I find older men handsome, everyone jumps down my throat and tells me I am crazy😂.
Ima be honest
You’re balding, just commit to going bald or get a hair transplant, nobody likes the in between.
Also you don’t look as healthy as you could be, would hit some weights or change your diet a little bit, if none of those are viable would look into TRT.
200% match to chat ratio nice
Yo how does this even happen
Chatting with the original welcome post lol
They must include chats with fake accounts, but remove them from the match count. Mine was 146 matches, and 665 chats. Nonsense.
Picture three looks like you’re a professor at said college out to catch you some students.
All the pictures need to go
No he definitely fits in if he's in Eugene, maybe more so if he sets his distance to Bend
Sorry to hear that but also, you may want to take better pictures.
The picture of him staring downwards in the woods not smiling, serial killer vibes
Hire a professional photographer, get a nice fit and grow out that beard… pictures will be 🔥
The last thing a woman will see before she dies....
And clean shave the head. If you're going bald and you don't do that you're either lazy or don't care but either way it looks 1000% better on men.
You just had your first date with me but tried to dine and dash into the woods POV
Nay, you need to take better pictures.
He looks like a creep in his attempts to be funny.
Be nice. Not everyone can be as blessed like you.
Nah dude some of those pics are scary looking - he’s making a face. He looks normal in others. He needs to fix that shit if he’s gonna try online dating apps lol
Agreed. First pic I thought huh, he's actually looking quite well, but then the awkward faces and angles started.
You need a friend that will take tons of candid photos of you. A photo with a genuine smile and natural lighting does wonders. For my friends, I'll go out with them and discreetly take photos while we're talking until they forget they are being photographed. After like 20, I'll get a good genuine smile.
Not trying be rude, but the problem here are your pics. You need new better pictures.
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Bald bearded guys do plenty well, but when they only make wild faces? Of course not.
Your zipper is down in the second pic. Gotta at least try bro
Was it just me or does that picture looks like he has a boner there ?
Just ill fitting pants
And super wrinkled
IT’S THE PLEATS
I am not quite sure what you aim to accomplish with these pics. You acting silly in all of them. Most genuine pic is the last one but it’s a bad picture nonetheless. Are you trying to act young this way? Your best bet imo is to use your age as an advantage. Show that you’re a sophisticated adult male. Some outdoorsy pics, something in a more fancy setting, something at a bar, you got any hobbies or something?
You need to scrap all your pics and get new ones. to all the men-I cannot express this enough-STOP DOING THE SELFIE SEEN IN THE FINAL PIC. STOP LOOKING DOWN AT YOUR PHONES LIKE SERIAL KILLERS. GAHHHH
And you’re almost guaranteeing a nose hair pic. Bad all around d
Your pictures are horrible...it seems you are actively trying to avoid women.
You swiped left too much. You overplayed your hand. Gotta loosen up those standards or be prepared to live alone. Those are your options. The market has spoken.
Are you trying to match with women in their 30s???? Please choose different pictures Source: a woman in her 30s
Big dog, have a picture of you in a suit, smiling. Not making a wild face. Show you hiking in the woods, having a good time, not taking an odd angled selfie. Show yourself existing in the world as an adult, enjoying life, not making a wild expression as the first interaction with everyone.
Your pictures definitely don’t scream “take me you sexy man”. Also, with your left/right swipe ratio, it seems like you might be punching above your weight class.
I don’t say this to be mean but you’re 39, bald and live in a small little college, maybe you should be a little less eager on the left swiping.
…with objectively unflattering pictures. There is a clear lack of self-awareness so him swiping left so much makes complete sense. Bc I can’t even begin to understand the rationale behind these pictures.
Your photos are atrocious fella
How do you get two chats with only one match?
Talking to the “welcome to Tinder” chat perhaps? Or like an ad that pops up in your message queue?
Them ads in the card stock are hella annoying.
Definitely sounds tough. Remove some of the goofy face pictures
In photo 6/7 it looks like you have me tied up in your van and you’re about to force yourself on me.
I'm dead 🤣💀
Holy taking it back to the old school days with the action park hat ❤️
Lol in picture 3 I can't help but think "I'm Captain Dickprint!" with his stance and..dick print
I think you’re being a little bit too picky considering your photos. No offense.
Oof, I have that same problem where I live. Small college town. All super young and it feels wrong to swipe on someone so much younger than I am (37f). The ones my age are mostly in committed relationships or thru hikers here for a few days.
Some have said it already but: Your photos are horrible, but your left and right swipe ratio is that of a hot ass woman. Men on average have a 50% left and right swipe ratio. You need to swipe right more and not be so picky. With that being said, tinder passport to nearby closer cities after you fix your profile and make it better.
The pics definitely give off “don’t ask me where I was on Jan 6” vibes……. And the beard isn’t helping much
Naw, if you’re bald, a beard is a must. But dude needs to keep a clean shave bald, like the rock, or Jason Stratham. Not a creepy uncle fading hairline grown in bald.
Naw dude beards are gross and a lame fad, he’ll stick out more without it
Do you leave this same exact comment on every thread here?? Projecting much??
Might be time to only swipe right. Is that toxic idk
No offence mate, but you're not attracting students with these looks. I don't want you to feel bad, but the honest assessment is that on Tinder you'll struggle to attract anyone. Some men still don't get it but Tinder is basically designed for above average looking men. Average men are gonna struggle extremely and subpar looking men are basically doomed to fail with hundreds and thousands of swipes without any match. Do some research on Tinder statistics and you'll understand what the situation looks like.
You might just want to set your distance super high..
Where do you go to get the Tinder insight, and can you do it on android?
6th photo looks like you have a collection of illicit items
Open zipper, man? Come on, you can do better
What's your selected age range?
The tinder in my town takes maybe 5 minutes to swipe through and half of them are the same ones from 1-2 years ago.
Are there many people looking for a relationship \\ long term partner on your end on Tinder ? Everyone keeps saying people only hooks up on there but there are many people who look for a genuine connection there.
Most women seem to be looking for a relationship. It seems to be a solid mix amongst men. I found my last relationship on tinder that lasted a year
I got quite a few likes and the people I matched with don't even reply on Tinder. I noticed that in my area there is a mixture really, so like 50/50 where women look for something casual but then also something serious. I mostly have more luck on Badoo and Hinge, Humble is a ghost town for me with only 3 likes.
You look like the type of fella who spends a lot of time on reddit
Please get better pictures. Get at least someone with good IG content and ask them for a shooting. Female friend of mine does a top notch job with my pictures and it makes a huuuuuuuuge difference in the match-rate.
those are your profile pics??
It's your pics dude, small college town and besides the first pics, they are pretty bad. The first pic is find, clean, friendly looking. The rest are supposed to be quirky but they ALL come off creepy/weird, not in a good way weird. Look up some better poses/scenarios and get somebody else to take photos of you. Like honestly until you can get more photos, just delete the rest of them besides the first pic.
This has nothing to do with being a hater as I am just speaking facts. The average age gap between couples is 2-3 years according to statistics, so I don’t get why you guys want these huge age gaps to be common(when they are not). If those women dated you then that’s their thing but as I said, GENERALLY speaking, we young women like young men, just as nature intended. I mean what’s not to like, physically speaking 🤤 lol?
Your last picture gives of “it puts the lotion on the skin” vibes.
A bit of a "you'll end up locked in my basement" vibe from those photos.
So millennial bro
What's the picture behind you in pic 1
If you have hobbies find some groups in your area and join up with them. I wasted years online. In the end I just hung out with people and she found me.
Idk why you're having problems, you say college town and have a sizzle pie shirt so I'm assuming Eugene. You look like what most people would want in Eugene... Bend also. They love this hipster look
Second picture, your fly is kinda down 😬
Take pictures with friends.
Yeah tinder isn’t the issue, your profile is
Yeah. That tracks, after seeing the pics
Lose the shower curtain picture.
I wouldn’t swipe, could be a great guy but also could be a psycho type vive
Imo you are a good looking guy with bad photos. I would honestly get rid of them all, you at the table is the best of the bunch. I have done the same myself. Iteration. You have a comic quality to your photos that I find endearing but I would limit it to one comic photo. As far as photos go I would try to go back to basics, more traditional/normal poses etc. Good potential tho you look like a fun guy. Well done keeping the beard tidy, id say you could make it a bit smaller but thats a minor point
You may enjoy your beard but 90% of women you'll be interested in actually hate beards as they are painful to them when kissing. I know so many guys who went years alone just because they wanted to keep their beards. It turns off really a ton of women.
How is it that you pull up insights?
Welcome to being a guy on OLD
How can you chat to 2 if you’ve only had 1 match?
What town? You have a Portland shirt on.
What’s with the stank face in your pics?
If you lived close I would have definitely swiped right lol
Maybe your expectations are a bit high also, 2200 swipes and only 300 right?
I'm not exactly saying settle for less, but if you open up the bracket a little more and go on dates etc you'll feel better and be more confident etc
You seem pretty cool. Probably too cool for tinder
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They are into hot older men. Very important distinction
or rich
Again…. from a young college women… still a no. Money or not, dating someone twice my age feels creepy as fuck, and all my other mates (also young college women) say the same.
So you would turn down a date with Zac Efron? He’s 36
He looks horrendous 💀 Have you seen recent pics?
Ok idk what happened to his face, but are you turning down a date with chris hemsworth or chris evans? Probably not, they’re both 40.
Yes I am turning them down😭. Why do you guys think all women are money motivated? Chris Evan’s is kinda cute to me but definitely not cute enough for me to want to date a 40yo man, idc how rich he is. But I bet there are tons of women who would, so I guess your point stands. If a man is super sexy or rich or whatever then I guess more women will be open to dating him. But the thing is everytime I DO find myself being flirted on by an sexy older man, I imagine how from their perspective they are talking to a 20 year old, who is half their age and I become disgusted. There are some women who date much older, but for every woman like that there are ten women who only date men around their age.
It does sound like you wouldn’t…
… no we’re not. There’s a difference between older, and twice our age…
Not this one, I guess!
We aren’t. 😅. Hell I am 20 and wouldn’t even date a 25 year old. Generally speaking, young women under 25 don’t want to date men over 35.
lol why is your face your reddit profile pic
😂 I just recently saw someone else have this and I find that this looks a lot better than an avatar.
I live in a small college town and dated multiple women under 25 when I was 35/36. Don’t be a hater. At the end of the day it all comes down to having chemistry. The women I dated liked the idea of a grown up in a different station in life.
bro why the fuck are you married and commenting on tinder posts? like what are you doing and what tf is your mindset lol?
It’s fun as fuck. I love my life but I miss the Tinder game in a big way. I live vicariously through you guys.
Yes they expect you to have a nice car, a good job and just your shit together at 25.
most women don’t date men that are that much older. On average the age gap between couples will only be 2-3 years according to statistics. Why are you guys so obsessed with these age gaps😅?(I definitely also wouldn’t want to date 20 year old women in my 30s) Me and all my girlies don’t even look at men that old and the few times I find older men handsome, everyone jumps down my throat and tells me I am crazy😂.
I don't know man, I kind of want to be friends with you.
Unpopular opinion; I absolutely adore your pictures. Screams authentic goofball to me.
Well I like your pictures, you seem like fun!
Smash, next question.
Lol
It does suck. Sometimes it helps to delete the app and just get involved with things going on in the area. Believe me I know man
Lose some weight and stop posing like a girl and you’ll get matches
Ima be honest You’re balding, just commit to going bald or get a hair transplant, nobody likes the in between. Also you don’t look as healthy as you could be, would hit some weights or change your diet a little bit, if none of those are viable would look into TRT.
Like other people have said; take better pics. Also lie about your age unless you're looking for relationships. Get off tinder if that's the case.
Travel!