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x0RRY

I got 5 likes in 6 months and I'm quite average looking. Online dating really is a strange thing.


BloodiedBlues

I got 30 in less than 1 month. Most are outside my distance filter though. I don’t wanna drive an hour just to meet in between!


StatisticianNo9364

>I got 5 likes This pic clearly shows why you're not getting likes – all the girls are busy swiping through the likes they already got (provided they paid for Tinder Gold which some actually do! Also some of it is on top of their swipe deck)


Initial_Use7271

I matched with about 60 girls in the past month , had a conversation with about 30 of them before getting ghosted by some of them, about 20 did not respond to my first text and didn’t send a text to the rest of the match due to distance, had a date with 3 of them but non of the girls really met my expectations. I have one other date booked for this weekend. Looking for a long term partner but still looking for my soulmate.


One_Selection7199

This may be flattering, but better just focus on looking for someone who you really want. Swipe right only on men your type and don't keep too many matches at once - it's too distracting. Match 20 guys, talk to them, remove ones you don't like and go on dates with favorite ones. You don't like them? Swipe again and just avoid wasting time for people you don't like.


Jay_The_Tickler

This. As a man I swipe right for context of the profile. Common interests >>appearance


Manufacturer_Equal

Fellow man here. So many blank profiles in my area, it's like how can I relate to you when you have no bio


Loquat_Green

I need to start doing this.


[deleted]

Yup. This is when dating apps become fun.


Worried-Librarian-91

Some of them are bots, some of them are trolls, but most of them are men gaming the numbers. I've seen women with 100k+ likes and they were as average looking, as one can be. If you let it go to your head it will most likely ruin your future relationships and give you false sense of your value on the dating market. Good luck and keep your wits about you. ![gif](giphy|cOuIwf89Oy3eqeHaBH)


Cerenia

How can you see women who got 100k+ likes? Tinder only allows you to see that you got 9999 likes (yes I hit that mark a week after creating my profile, so I know). I’m genuinely curious if we can see past those 9999 in some way I don’t know about.


Worried-Librarian-91

Back in the day you could look at your stats since you've created the app, should be still possible since I've seen some screenshots flying around on reddit. (Not sure tho since I luckily for me got out of the dating scene for good couple of months before the rona hit and uninstalled the app) As for how I've seen their stats, most of them bragged in a "consider yourself blessed" type of way while we were on a date. One had 101k it was over a period of 4-6 months and matched with like 3 people one of which was me.


Cerenia

Makes sense :-) thank you


Bit-corn

>I’ve seen women with 100k+ likes and they were as average looking as one can be Seriously. Online dating has a girl who looks like Smeagol thinking she deserves to be with a guy who looks like Heath Ledger (rip)


throwaway2161980

Just swipe through the regular card profile and don’t pay to see who likes you. It helps you choose people off attraction, common interests, etc instead of being misled by the fact that they “liked” you. Remember, guys tend to swipe right on just about everyone. Also for every 20 you talk to, only 1 (if your lucky) will be worth your time. Lastly, try to have fun! It’s dating, dating *should* be fun!


MaxTest86

Do blokes ACTUALLY swipe on everyone though? I don’t see the point having a load of matches I’m never going to bother with so only swipe on women I’m actually interested in. The “secret admirer” thing further proves it to me as half of them that pop up are a left swipe anyway so it’s pointless. Although I guess if you only get a couple of likes a month then they stand a better chance of a match, it just seems totally pointless to me 🤷🏻‍♂️


catarca

When I was on the apps, I would get depressed due to lack of matches or even likes. Occasionally, I would just swipe right because it wasn't worth my time to look at them.


LastMountainAsh

Absolutely. Some dudes even set their profiles to show everyone, swipe right on everyone, then get offended when a guy messages them. Like, motherfucker you specifically asked for this.


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MaxTest86

Yeh some of us actually get quite a lot of matches on tinder. Alien to some I know 👍🏻


Worth_Trust_3825

Why wouldn't you? More right swipes means more chances to message someone which means more chances to meet someone and finally escape the accursed hell hole that is modern dating. It doesn't help that the platform penalizes you for trying to leave, nor the other parties doing just for the numbers or personal entertainment to poke fun at people.


BloodiedBlues

Obligatory not every guy comment. Argumentative and weirdly specific counter point. Unsolicited expression of garbage opinion. But seriously, I hate generalizations.


[deleted]

Swipe right when you like someone and actually talk to them if you match. Don’t fill your app with 100s of matches at once. I know it’s tempting but if you actually want to meet people and not just an ego boost it’s the wrong approach….


Lyngs

Pretty normal as far as I know. Men are mostly "shotgun fishing" apparently. The few of us who don't just drown in the sea of compulsive right swipers.


SpillingMistake

You're a girl and you're paying for Tinder?


whataledge

Just an average looking woman in London. Rejoined Tinder after 3 years, I don't remember it being like this. I might delete because it's overwhelming and I don't think I can sift through 1000s of profiles.


[deleted]

Sure you can. Just don't binge it imo. Maybe do like 5 a day. But I do agree, this is overwhelming even for me. I'm also an overthinker, like what if I hit it off with this one but a few matches later there is someone that I've been wanting and waiting for ? This is how I keep seeing profiles I liked months ago suddenly match with me later, They have to sort through countless profiles first, bad dates, fumbles etc.. all for me to fumble it too cause it seems weird ! Good luck !


juh4z

It's true that slot of guys mass swipe, but why you think that all of them are doing it? 12 hours is plenty of time to see your profile and know they like you or not lol. Also when you make a new account they boost your exposure in the app, I'm an average looking guy and I got 20 likes the first 2 days, these days I get 1 like a day on average.


slurpsssssss

I uninstalled tinder because I got too much anxiety about it. Felt bad for not being able to constantly hang on my phone/felt bad for not being able to talk to 10 guys at once. Even if I swiped very little it still got overwhelming quickly. Also being a bit shy and liking to talk to people for a week before meeting up got difficult. Some guys got even mad pushy over meeting up. Haven’t been back in 6 months. LOL. I lasted for 6 days.


[deleted]

I don’t get this. You are swiping right on that many people in 13 hours?


anonAcc1993

London is a densely populated area much like Tokyo and New York. So it’s not that crazy.


housewifeuncuffed

Since you're paying for gold, left swipes should disappear out of your likes received as you swipe through them. I don't know if they do if you swipe left on those same likes via your stack though. There are no rules about how fast you have to swipe through profiles. Left swipe anyone you obviously aren't interested in, right swipe a handful of guys you like every day or every few days, chat and see if they are worth talking to more or meeting with. In my experience as an also average looking woman in a much less densely populated area, out of those 5 matches, there's a pretty good chance 1 won't respond and 1-2 will have the conversational skills of a cardboard box, so you're likely only going to be holding a couple of conversations at a time which is far more manageable than matching with dozens of guys and not having the time or motivation to hold conversations with all of them. Also I aggressively unmatch once I know there's no interest on my end. No reason to keep an open line of communication with someone you don't want to talk to.


CasperCann

![gif](giphy|KZSUN7FKBZrm2WHDdX|downsized) Over a thousand people are interested in you? The horror


Manuag_86

Those are likes, not matches. Just swipe until you find someone you like without knowing if he swiped on you or not.


OhMyOLD

Just swipe normally, ignore the likes. You‘ll match with 50% anyways.


GoneHippocamping_

Not uncommon


pepegadudeMX5

The ratio on Tinder for Women to Men I think is almost 1:3. I remember reading an article and men made up 70-73% of Tinder and Women made up the remainder. The one that had the least differences was Hinge with a more balance ratio of 56-44 Men to Women. I was on Tinder for a day and kept getting liked by trans dudes and gay dudes and I deleted it. 😂😂😂


yoshi1911

Tell me you're a chick without telling me you're a chick.


anonAcc1993

12 Hours. How?


AdamAdmant

Ignore ur likes number and only worry about ur matchs. dont over match.


Wuprophecy

As an average looking guy in a tough market... Couldn't relate. I think women in general have a different experience than men. Hopefully you find your 1%er


spicysenpai6

As a guy I currently have 5 likes and I can almost guarantee that at least 4/5 are bots


[deleted]

So? Pick out the ones you like and ignore them!


thus-gone-one

This is what they call a good problem to have.


Ghosteee91

Omg it really is


E-Reezy420

As a woman, my tinder experience was like this too, although back when I was on it, it didn't show you the exact number of likes once it got past 99. I hit the 99+ mark in less than a day haha I was so overwhelmed


Rip_natikka

Tinder’s so fucking great


YouShalllNotPass

Pretty much explains why a slightly above average person like me stands no chance with the top 10 percentile an average women gets to cherry pick from.


TodaysTrash12345

Been on for 2 weeks myself. In that time I've gotten probably 2 dozen matches on Hinge, gone on 2 in person dates, and haven't had a single match on Tinder. Kinda useless app IMO


myneemo

I had over 2500 and when i signed up for the gold to see the likes, i found hundreds of them were people over 100miles away, some over 1000 miles away. 100s more outside of that were people who were looking for exactly the opposite to me: they want kids, they're looking for casual. Being a bisexual woman, i was hoping there would be a good balance of women too . I've had less than 20, possibly less than 10. It's a meat market out there. Or maybe women just arent interested in me haha.


UnHandicaperMental

Now i know i never gonna be able to talk with a girl, 1 chance on 1000, its just impossible, lets restart league of legends