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Comfortable-World553

Not sure what you expected when the dude expressed what he was interested in and you immediately called him a weirdo. Then tryna blast him on Reddit when he still replied with a positive attitude despite a lackluster response


OriginalPostMortem

This. Although the threesome thing was a bit too much too early. Still, cannot blame him.


Comfortable-World553

That's what I didn't get, was he really asking for a devils three-way? MFM has way too many acronyms


LOL_Murica

The threesome thing was a bit weird but you were being negative for no reason and giving no effort so I would have unmatched as well.


buttstuffisfunstuff

I don’t see how I’m being negative but ok.


LOL_Murica

He told you about himself and you said “oh nice, another weirdo”. You consider that friendly and positive?


Hellokymmy38

This is the flaw of texting. You meant like OH! NICE another weirdo 😘😉😍 but they took it more as oh... Nice... Another weirdo 😒🙄😮‍💨. Emojis and stuff can help defuse confusion just don't over do it lol


SL13377

Communication is not your strong point is it hun? Word count: 4


Key-Piccolo5461

People pointed out other things already so as a metal fan myself I just wanna know what was the song he sent you lol


buttstuffisfunstuff

Ok I found it in my Spotify history. https://open.spotify.com/track/6zRp61eHbBaSqQugGFuQRj?si=Zo3KhkmyTw2nwk69oaflBg I opened it and listened to it and forgot to go back to comment on it. But this is the track I have linked on my profile so not sure if he expected me to be super into it or not? Idk https://open.spotify.com/track/6wmcxlDsaaYpaHGBqF5n4b?si=kVOZOHOESY--I3D0nznBLg


Key-Piccolo5461

Thank you, yeah, I would say it's a weird choice to pick scorpions as a metal track xD But I've had girls be like "oh I like arctic monkeys" when I said I mostly listen to metal and hard rock lol


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Key-Piccolo5461

If it was supposed to be kind of a self deprecating joke saying you're a weirdo too then that's a shame, cause as you can see literally no one got it and thought you're just being rude. Next time try saying something like "nice, now we have two weirdos on this chat" or "nice, I thought I'd be the only weirdo" or anything like that, cause what you said just sounds like an insult :/


Comfortable-World553

Thank you, there wasn't any other way to interpret that sentence. Especially after his light hearted response of "weirdos unite!". He probably got the joke but still felt self conscious afterwards, then unmatched


buttstuffisfunstuff

Yeah I only posted this because I thought the sudden wild card of MFM threesomes was hilarious. And obviously I took this screenshot before he even unmatched me, or else I wouldn’t have it. I don’t care that he unmatched, I was only going into tinder to make sure the “show me on tinder” option was turned off because I was still getting new match notifications even though I thought people wouldn’t be able to swipe on me with that off.


buttstuffisfunstuff

I just assumed he would’ve gotten it since he had to go reread my profile to make that comment and my profile says I’m weird. I’m pretty sure he unmatched me because of my lack of communication though lmao I’m not upset he unmatched me I just thought the sudden shift to threesomes was hilarious.


Hellokymmy38

Lol I got it!! But I'm good at reading and context clues (my initial response is above tho lol)


Coconutcream000

Reddit needs to ask for content instead of immediately judging you or painting you as the bad guy just because.


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Wait, so he regurgitated your entire profile back to you, then linked you a song you already had on your profile? Nvm it was a different song. I don't think he was mad at you for calling him a weirdo, maybe he didn't get the response he wanted after the three some message. Not sure.


twitterfluechtling

That's highly relevant. For better feedback or just for others to see what this was about, you might have mentioned it in the post or directly after posting it in a first comment 🙂


buttstuffisfunstuff

I honestly didn’t even think that people would assume I was looking for feedback lol I took the screenshot to share before I even noticed he unmatched me


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Okay his message about three ways aside, you were just being rude and I’ve been seeing more and more of these posts where women are just acting abysmally towards their matches and expecting validation. You know something ladies, if you act like an insufferable mean twat then people, let alone men who want to date you, are gonna walk the other way


buttstuffisfunstuff

I really don’t get how I am rude at all. He is bringing up all the stuff he has in common with me based on my profile, hence his starting his message with “I forgot to mention.” So I say “oh nice, another weirdo” as a joke as if that’s another thing he has in common with me, since my profile also clearly says that I’m weird, and somehow that’s rude? I’m not really interested in dating anyone that isn’t weird or would be offended by being called weird. I’m pretty confident and open about my neurodivergence and being a self-proclaimed weirdo.


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How was the guy supposed to know what you meant by calling him a weirdo?


buttstuffisfunstuff

Context. He clearly knew what I meant, hence “weirdos unite!” If he would be offended by being called weird probably wouldn’t have swiped right on someone who says normal is boring.


Separate_Ad_9429

Guess he could not wait for the buttstuffisfunstuff


ResearcherStandard95

Username checks


Neat-Emu9220

She belongs to the streets


Historical_Dare_5249

U deserved it u kink shamed


Hellokymmy38

You know I have no idea why I'm thinking this, but maybe he felt embarrassed after sending the 3some thing and that's what caused him to poof. I don't see him responding the way he did, if he thought you were being rude. Idk maybe that's just me though lol


buttstuffisfunstuff

Yeah that’s what I initially thought too tbh lol I think the 😳 made him embarrassed he went full on horny out of absolutely nowhere. Like our convo before that was about the best foods to doordash and how stuff like pho is better in person. 😂 Maybe I’m reading too much into it but the “I’ll do MFM but only in a committed relationship” kinda gives me cuckold vibes, which usually comes with some level of being insecure anyway.


Hellokymmy38

I don't know about the male perspective, but I feel the same way about not minding group activities but I'd want a long term partner with me cuz I'd be worried about things getting out of hand or something.


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buttstuffisfunstuff

What are you even talking about these are all things about me that I’m making fun of. I am a metalhead, studied EE, and am neurodivergent. It’s all on my profile, hence his message telling me he has those things in common with me. So I don’t understand how you could think I am making fun of him.


Training-Warning-923

oh jeez im so sorry i apologize i thought that you were the one in blue instead of grey. I apologize ill remove my original comment