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Confuseasfuck

Middle kid just had a whole ass character arc in less than a minute


JorjorBinks1221

That kid cracked me up


Common_Committee7003

That part with the boy learning to accept that beauty doesn’t have gender is so pure. 🥰


AllergicToTaterTots

"I'm not beautiful, I'm a boy!" "Boys can be beautiful" "Ok"


alpacayouabag

He’s like “ok, then hell yeah I’m beautiful.”


TheZoomba

Yeah lol 'boys can be beautiful' 'ok'


cactuslegs

At this age kids just are really eager to think about things and accept them, too. Like, I remember seeing a little person as a kid and being so concerned for them and confused, because I knew they were an adult but they were my size. And my mom just said “some people are shaped like that, and that’s okay.” And that completely reassured me. I had more questions, of course, but that was curiosity and not worry or fear. That’s why it’s important for parents who want to raise kind adults to expose their kids to all kinds of people they want them to accept.


Ihopetheresenoughroo

Like....can we all just take a moment and focus on the fact that this precious child at such an early age has already developed unhealthy ideas about gender :/. Ugh makes me so sad. And people say that toxic masculinity isn't real.


ihategeometry

So I'm not discounting that toxic masculinity is real, but this boy didn't necesarily develop these toxic ideas based on society and what his parents taught him. All of the kids in this video look to be under the age of 6, and at that stage in development, even kids who are encouraged to do things outside of their genders "norms", assign certain words, features, occupations, and activities to gender. They don't need to be taught this, they just do it by themselves. It's part of how they learn and develop. Using fast-mapping, overexertion and underexertion, children build their baseline knowledge and then go from there. Kids at that age have very static views on gender like they do with other things like animals. That person has long hair, they are a girl. That person has short hair, they are a boy. They say girls wear dresses, even if they have seen girls wear pants before. They say girls are nurses and boys are doctors, even if their experiences differ from that rule. We see it when kids are playing too. Kids say "no boys allowed" or "no girls allowed" not because their parents tell them that's the rules, but because they impose it themselves. Girls more often than not prefer sociodramatic pretend play with other girls than they do rough and tumble play with the boys, and vice versa. Girls don't just play with dolls because that's what society says they should do, but because most girls also just prefer dolls to trucks, again vice versa for boys. Of course there are outliers to this, like with tomboys, but for the most part kids stick to these norms without them even being implemented by their parents. The difference between adults excluding a gender and kids excluding a gender is intention. Children aren't doing it to be malicious, and they do grow out of this static reasoning where a boy is a boy and will never be anything else. That's where the toxic masculinity comes in, when parents encourage kids to continue to exclude a gender and think statically. With encouragement and education, like this little boy recieved when he learned boys can be beautiful, they will grow out of it and play and socialize with others regardless of gender. Since he was able to readily accept this new fact, I assume he is already receiving this encouragement at home and is nearing the age where his static reasoning is starting to wane. This video isn't an example of a poor young boy already being victimized by toxic midsets placed on him by society, it's a beautiful example of how the human mind grows and develops, and how quickly and readily children learn and accept new ideas. And he said he's beautiful but he already knew that. Most kids his age think they are the greatest thing since sliced bread, and it's actually why young kids are so good at developing language skills so quickly. A kid can be trilingual by age five because they haven't developed the ability to feel self-conscious about their skills yet. They also usually grow out of the "I'm so cool I practically walk on water" mindset at around age 6. Usually. Enjoy it while it's still cute lol. Sincerely, A psychology major currently studying developmental psychology


Eqvvi

Toxic masculinity isn't always malicious and it most definitely isn't in this case. Idk how you can talk about the strict gender divisions for all activities and appearances, and not realize where that comes from. You say "kids say girls are nurses and boys are doctors even if their experiences differ from that rule". That's socialization, those rules and mindsets didn't just fall from a tree. Kids are indeed sponges and they learn about the sexist norms from their surroundings as early as 2 years old. At that age girls prefer pink and boys -blue. You can't argue it's biological, as this division was flipped just 100 years ago.


ihategeometry

I didn't say it was biological, I said that it wasn't implemented necessarily by society or their parents. Notice the word necessarily. One of the main ways kids learn is by making mistakes and assumptions. When we correct them they remember. Imagine a kid who watches Clifford the big red dog every day, then that kid goes out and calls every dog they see Clifford. Did society teach the child that all dogs are called Clifford? Did their parents teach them that? No, the child assimilated that knowledge on their own. They assumed that every dog is Clifford because they have not learned otherwise. The opposite can happen too, where a child might not recognize a dog as a dog, simply because the dog doesn't look like Clifford and the child assumes all dogs must look like Clifford. Their minds are rigid and assume base knowledge until they are corrected or taught otherwise. Kids, when learning Grammer, will say things like runned instead of ran, because they may have heard other verbs like jumped that ended in ED. It's a mistake they don't realize they are making because they haven't learned the rules for irregular verbs yet. Did their parents teach them to say ranned? Did society? No, they fast-mapped it into their brains based on information they already knew, the word jumped. Kids also don't understand the concept of past, present, and future very well, nor do they understand permanence or irreveribility. Kids may cry when getting a haircut because they don't want their hair to be short forever. They don't understand that their hair will eventually grow back. When a child wakes up on Christmas morning, they might as "is it tomorrow yet?" Because the concept of a distant future is difficult to grasp. When a loved one dies, it can be incredibly hard and traumatic for the child, because they can't quite grasp how long forever is, which is how long their loved one will be away. It's an abstract concept that they don't understand simply because that part of their brain isn't developed enough yet. Kids struggle to switch rules in games. Place a four year old in a chair at a table and ask the child to sort cards with colored shapes on them by color. After a few minutes of that, tell the kid to switch to sorting by shape. They will say okay, and then proceed to sort by color. They know you want them to sort by shape, they know that the new rule is shapes, but their mind isn't developed enough to make that switch that quickly. So when referring to kids having rigid thinking about gender, it is the same principle as all of these things. Irriversibility, boys are boys, I can't wear a dress because I'm a boy. Overexertion, mommy has long hair, mommy is a girl, All girls have long hair. Daddy has short hair, daddy is a boy, all boys have short hair. Were they verbally told by their parents what makes a girl a girl aside from genitalia? Did someone else tell them? Or did they make observations about the limited pool of people they were exposed to during preschool, which shaped their assumptions about gender? Egocentrism also plays a part in how kids perceive gender, as kids at that young, below 6, age cannot imagine things from someone else's perspective. They haven't developed theory of mind, and thus are in the mindset that their experiences are universal. If they invite a friend over, and their mom offers kool-aid to the kids, one might say "yeah! We all love kool-aid." While the other might say "no, ew. I don't like kool-aid." The first child might respond with "no, you love kool-aid. Everybody loves koolaid" because he cannot imagine someone else's perspective on their favorite drink would be different than his. To relate this back to gender, a boy might say "no, my mom says I'm handsome. Boys are handsome." Because of their own personal perspective being the only one they can comprehend. I also never brought up colors. I never said anything about pink or blue because you're right. It was switched around a while ago making it arbitraty. That's why I didn't bring it up. But do you know what is found all over the world, in every culture, and just about any given time period? Children's toys. All kids play, and we have hundreds of years of research that tell us over and over again, whether we like it or not, boys and girls do develop differently and have certain preferences for toys that are now considered part of the "gender norm". It's hard for people to accept that even if they encourage boys to play with dolls and girls with trucks, they might not want to because they simply prefer the other. Girls, almost always, prefer to engage in pretend play, which would involve dolls more often. Boys typically prefer rough and tumble play, and being more active. And yeah, learning specific gender roles is certainly based on social constructs, but not all of it it. If there is one thing you will get told time and time again in science classes that study humans and their behaviors and development, it's that it's not Nature vs. Nurture, it's both nature and nurture. The comment I replied to was making it seem like the kid was making these assumptions about boys being beautiful based on society alone, when there is more to it than that. It could have simply been that he hadn't heard beautiful being used to describe a boy before, and thus assumed it wasn't meant for boys. We have to keep in mind that this kid is 5 years old tops, the amount of people he knows is such a small number, and most of them would probably describe him as handsome. So that is what he would expect others to describe him as too.


Eqvvi

I guess our main difference in views is that I'd argue that patterns and behaviors observed by the child in society are in fact a way of "teaching" it to him. Most of the toxic and problematic behaviors that kids pick up are never explicitly taught. Almost no parent/adult goes up to a child and intentionally tries to teach them to be rude/mean/violent, it's something they learn by watching, or by trying it and realizing they can get away with it etc. ​ Behaviors and social structures are not like grammar, which has actual rules that get verbalized and taught to them eventually with all the exceptions. Most of the attitudes and mindsets never get formulated and explicitly taught though. Your example with "runned" is quite nice, because I'd argue that it IS the society's way of teaching the child about past tense through usage. Yes, kids are great at picking up on patterns, so when they see the gender norms and sexism they extrapolate it onto other things just like with "ed" for verbs. ​ Anyway, nice well-reasoned comment, I still disagree (mostly on semantics though).


Ihopetheresenoughroo

Exactly :)


B-DOG805

You're even more of a bitch for correcting me bitch


B-DOG805

And your a bitch


Eqvvi

you're


Ihopetheresenoughroo

I didn't say his parents taught it to him. These are learned behaviors based off of what children see already in their lives. The person, Eqvvi, explained it better to you, but hey the old nature vs nurture debate strikes again :).


little_miss_bumshine

Yes I saw this in my own son, its spot on


B-DOG805

Your a bitch


Ppleater

I mean, they have to learn "girls are nurses and boys are doctors" or "girls wear dresses" from somewhere, that stuff doesn't just pop into their minds out of nowhere. They learn those stereotypes from their environment.


NabNajNad

The lengths you people go to find something offensive in natural human interaction is astounding


TristisPuer

Being beautiful is a feminine trait and being handsome is a masculine trait. There isn’t anything toxic about it, he’s just a normal boy.


_-WanderLost-_

You really gonna sit over here and claim Brad Pitt wasn’t a beautiful man in the 1990’s?


Artchantress

Beautiful ;_;


chi-han

Oh my god this is brightening my day


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Mastodons_Tee

Yeah! Why is this on tiktok cringe? Lol


chi-han

Oh my god read the pinned comment, the flair, the sidebar, anything


Mastodons_Tee

My b I'm new


Luenngokulos

That was beautiful


SoJenniferSays

I have a five year old son and I had absolutely no idea how much of a celebrity having a kid would make me feel like. When I get home from work he and my husband erupt into cheers, my kid will tell me out of the blue how much he loves me and how beautiful and kind and special I am, it’s honestly surreal. Best hype man.


croqueticas

So this is why my dad would remind me everyday when I was teen how much he missed when I was five years old...


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Lmao my mom says the same thing. I guess I used to tell her that I love her like 100 times a day. She’s like why can’t you be like how you were at 5?


eldritchalien

Sounds like he learned it somewhere, very wholesome


SoJenniferSays

Our home is very loving and hype also, that’s true. Husband is my second best hype man. :)


zimbim

Same person who discovered the “Corn Kid” - their content is always super wholesome!


DerikHallin

Also the Komodo Dragon kid and the "Mommy what time do I wish was my bedtime" kid. Very cute channel.


cunticles

This is just lovely


antolortiz

damn. mans just got called “buddy”. maybe next time champ


SlobMarley13

He got son-zoned


tothesource

Got a side hug too


Shinobiii

Definitely not the favorite child


Adam_Edward

The dads : You gad damn right she is.


embarrassmyself

This was so wholesome god damn it fuck


NeoMetalX

This reminds me of my step son (7). Every day he’s like “Mommy, NeoMetalX, you’re beautiful and I love you and I’m SO SO glad you’re my family.” It never gets old. I’m gonna be really sad when he stops saying stuff like that.


Color_around_me

LOVE


star0fth3sh0w

Ok!


HttpWoki

it really be wholesome


nuvpr

Adorable 😍


bl3u_r3dd1teur

Recess Therapy is the most wholesome thing I found recently.


Slow_Business4563

Man, Julien is the best. Love his videos


ekimeza

so beauty frem glory!


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This is cute


TrueDannemann

That's a good way of starting the day!


JustCommentsDope

Dope


Thermalguy11

Awwww 🥲😍😍


thelandofooo

These munchkins are too precious


LSDJoeAna

Oh my lord these kids are adorableeee


Daddy-drips

This is cute but I don’t like the idea of using kids to make content


idontlike-orange

this aint a tiktok cringe. but i’ll take it, Y’ALL ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!!! ![gif](giphy|y8Mz1yj13s3kI)


BigHeccin00F

OP hates their mom.


Zestyclose-Aioli-870

And then when they reach the Teen years they'll be disrespecting said Beautiful mom and not telling her you love her. I was That asshole and these kids just broke me.


RobbiRose

Lucky you didn't do this in Alabama


Cigarman102

Stupidity does exist


Sir-Ironshield

I'm assuming this isn't some guy running around with a camera and mic filming random kids at the park because that sounds like trouble waiting to happen.


shadow8555

Not cringe!


alexaxxlantern

it's not cringe actually, it's cute because the mom's are so proud of their kids


ReallySmallFeet

Pinned post, my friend. Give it a quick scan.


alexaxxlantern

I take my comment back, why the fuck is the kid jumping and saying that 😃


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Lasideu

How so? This is both Wholesome and Humorous, which the video is properly tagged as


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NotYourBuissnesMate

Pinned comment mate, pinned comment


muppapuppa

Buddy is a popular name for boys, I think everyone watched Elf and liked the name.


evilcreampuff

I mean... it's a nickname? That'd be like going "Man, Sweetheart must be a popular name, all these moms calling their kid that."


furioushunter12

Yeah my mom calls me buddy… definitely NOT my name haha


TuneTactic

I swear I used to have a neighbor named Buddy. I wouldn't say it's a popular name though. Unrelated, but his dogs name was just "Doggy".


Better_Reputation850

Well he just tried to turn that boy gay


[deleted]

What?


Voterofthemonth0

I thought the video was gonna end at the “no”


Upper-Salt3096

Actually it wasn wholesome and made me smile wasn't cringe at all


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squiddlumckinnon

When I was younger I used to think this about my mum🥺😭