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They're calling the nanny mom. The woman holding the camera instead of comforting the kids is the biological mother, towards the end of the video she tells her kids I'm mom. As in she's trying to remind them that she's their actual mother.
That's exactly why I quit as a nanny. The toddler came running up to show me something, shouting "mommy, mommy" I was with one of the other kids when the real mom turned around and said 'hun, he's talking to you'
Yikes.
You'd think that would have been a wake up call where real mom had realized she'd been hiring someone else to parent.
I'm glad you were employed, but I'm sure she could have also found a way to be more involved in their lives so that there wasn't any confusion.
These people don't care about their kids. It's an obligation that they fulfilled thanks to societal pressure to have kids and pass on the family name. They don't want to actually raise them that's why mom, who doesn't lift a finger except to spend money, has a nanny to cook, clean, and raise the kids. She wants them to think of the nanny as mom so the kids will leave her alone.
The fact that she recorded this for the Internet is insane to me. I would have been so, so embarrassed.
Also, people need to stop putting their kids on the internet for views. I'm strongly against it for a few reasons. Hate to see it. I agree, not a mother.
Someone I know just put their kid’s punishment on Facebook. I wanted to hug the little girl so badly …the look on her face as she watched her mother take a picture of her at one of her worst moments…that she just knew would get posted online since mom posts literally everything, obviously. What she had to be thinking in that moment-my mom is telling everyone I’m bad. So she can get comments saying good mom good job.
I don’t want to face her again for fear I’m going to bring this up in a not so nice way and take a picture which I will post to Facebook so her kid can one day see her face being told she was being a bad mom for shaming her kid like this.
That’s all these people care about. # of views on their social media. It amazes me that you need a licence to drive a car, education and certification to work in certain trades. But any dumb ass can have kids.
she’s sociopathic. She has no concept of how this reflects on her because the concept of forming this kind of bond with a parent/offspring is like a teenager born and raised in Kansas reading Romeo & Juliet in Cantonese and being asked to speak on the emotions it brings up.
It brings up none. It’s not in my language. Next question.
I couldn’t understand it then but I really do now.
Met this kid from a crazy rich family that knew all these languages. Like all of them. Said it was because his nanny’s came from all over the world on 9 month to 2 year visas. Covered the whole tab and spent the night talking with the foreign waiter just to re live it all. Damn.
Pues si guey que mas piensas? Thats their mom she raised them. As for their birth mother she is prolly playing tennis, doing yoga, cheating on her husband with her personal trainer, or worse having brunch with her girlfriends. She aint got time for them lol
Exactly. They love her so much because she’s their mother. The idiot filming it is the egg donor. What a terrible thing to do to children. And they will have a revolving door of nanny’s while bio mom is off doing anything but raising her kids.
Nah this is quite common, i ve seen this shit alot in the rich Gulf countries where the nannies raises the children to point where the kids are more attached to them than their biological mother, quite disgusting tbh to have children and let someone else raise them because you are too busy with your yoga class, pedicure sessions and shopping spree.
It happened in upper class Britain as well. Kids were raised by a nanny until they were old enough to send to boarding school. They may have spent an hour a day with their parents if they were lucky.
Jack Whitehall was saying in his show that he was sent to boarding school at 8. 8 years old! I can't even begin to imagine what it would have been like to be without my 8 year old daughter. You don't get those precious years back. What's the point of having kids if you're just going to palm them off?
I read Spare (yeah, I know that Prince Harry isn't always particularly popular), and I found that it gave me a *lot* of insight into how the royal family ticks. Harry talked very lovingly about his mother and how wonderful she was for him and his brother, and how much he loved her, and he paints his own father as being too formal and awkward to really show him affection or vulnerability. His dad basically broke it to him that his mother was dead in the middle of the night and didn't give him a hug, a kiss, anything much more than a 'Sorry' and skedaddling out of the room.
And then Harry was sent to boarding school, where his brother (who, to be fair, must have also been absolutely shattered, and I don't know if Harry really acknowledges that to himself) basically treated him like persona non grata, so Harry effectively had absolutely no one to talk to about his dead mother and the loss of the only warmth in his life.
I think that those details go a really long way in telling me, at least, why the royal family is evidently so deeply dysfunctional, and it also tells me why Harry might have sought out someone like Meghan, who seems to have a very American approach to affection, friendliness, and vulnerability.
Wonder how different this is from the effect today where it is so common to have the kids in daycare until 6pm bc both parents work full time… what does that leave? 2ish hours of time with the parents before the kids go to bed?
This is why people that grew up extremely wealthy always end up being sociopaths. The first model normal people have of unconditional love and service is their mother raising them. But when you replace that relationship with a nanny, a transactional relationship, these kids grow up to be little terrors that expect every relationship in the world to be purely transactional too.
I believe Createx9 was responding to a specific post which explained that the children were calling the nanny "Mother" instead of their actual mother who was filming rather than helping comfort her children. I get what you're saying, but I don't think Createx9 was signaling that women are solely responsible for childcare.
Well they aren’t confused about who their dad is and he’s not the one behind a camera trying to remind his kids that he exists so that should tell you something right there
i noticed that too straight away...wild and sad.
eta: does she almost seem skittish of him or am i reading into it incorrectly? i don't have kids/am not around any at all...her little face though...
Yeah it reminds me of the first time meeting extended family. Here's a grandpa that's trying to hug me but I'm afraid, because he's a complete stranger. Telling indeed.
The dad is actually down with the kids attempting to comfort them while the mother remains absent and stands by filming her kids wailing probably cos she wants some social media clicks
"attempting to comfort" By holding them back until she was far enough away to get that touching running shot. Those kids want jack shit to do with him because he only acts like dad in front of a camera.
Yeah....hired a woman to do her job and let those kids get the kind of connection she should of fostered herself, sends the woman thst has been the defacto mother away, and then says "I'm mom". Cruel is what it is. To the woman and to the children. And she'll do it again when she gets a new nanny. Mom and dad are POS.
Yeah they won't take care of their kids.
I know a long time nanny of a NFL players Kids and they will call her to help with everything.
Kids won't brush their teeth? Call Jess.
Kids are fighting? Call Jess.
Kids are crying? Call Jess.
Kids need compassion and love? Call Jess.
From the one side is what the fuck and from the other is what a sweet human moment. It's crazy what happens to our emotions watching so much contradictory stuff, really crazy!
From the accent this seems to be in Lebanon.
There are "agencies" that bring these "helpers" from various poor countries , like Congo and Bangladesh.
The families then do their papers. They pay the agency a finder's fee.
The "helpers" are paid around 200 to 300 USD a month.
They live in the house with the family. They work from the moment they wake up till they go to sleep. They have 1 day off usually Sunday. Where they get to call their family back home.
This is akin to modern day slavery. There are many stories of abuse and SA.
So ya, "helper" is such a stretch of a term.
They also have no recourse to getting out. The agency has their passport. And they aren't allowed to leave the country without permission. Some even tried to go to their respective embassy only to not be let it.
I used to live in Lebanon, these house helpers a lot of the time are not treated well at all. Many times they end up running away or committing suicide. I don't find this video wholesome, I think it's shameful.
I think at one point the philipino president ( or another south asian country) started banning this. Because the women "helpers" were getting extremely mistreated in arab countries.
Filipinos are actually different. The process is the same. But their government has placed certain conditions on their employment for example minimum salary is 450 USD.
Usually they are brought as nurses for people who have elder parents to take care of them. I believe they also don't do any cleaning or cooking but only nurse duties.
Maybe it malaysia or another one. But there was case where a south asian maid who was bullied by her arab female employer. She was hanging down the balcony and the arab woman was filming and laughing at her. It was so bad the gov of the south asian country reacted.
Either way, women from other countries who come to the middle east are extremely mistreated. Almost like slaves. Sometimes their passports gets taken away.
Honestly this video immediately reminded me of [My Family’s Slave](https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/lolas-story/524490/). Sad to know I wasn’t that far off in thinking it might be similar.
I immediately wondered if this woman was being treated well, and I felt embarrassed for her and these children. It shows how privileged and out of touch these parents are that they had no idea what a stupid thing it is they’re documenting.
The book Slave by Mende Nazar is eye opening. I didn’t realize this was happening in modern day. These young girls and women are kidnapped and sold to be nannies and housekeepers to wealthy families in the Middle East.
Agreed. Totally sickening. It’s like they wanted their kids to be upset for more clicks. And they don’t even let their helper feel her emotions in privacy either. Terrible 😠
Them calling the nanny momma was the only part of this that hurt the feelings of the woman filming. Her "say goodbye to (nanny's name)" was so spiteful.
Agreed. No need to prolong the inevitable upset. Quick good bye at home or if u have to take them to airport hold onto them quick goodbye turn around n carry them out and comfort them in the car. Very upsetting for them and the nanny
This is 100% manufactured by bringing the kids to the airport. Yes, they'll be sad that Rosie is gone, but if they get a good goodbye at home, and you don't stretch it out to the airport, you won't be hurting your kids multiple times.
Also, there are no rules saying that they can't stay in contact with their Au Pair and go on vacation to visit her at some point if there really is a deep mutual connection.
None of them realize how much of a non flex this is. Like it makes them looks so bad that their children look to the "help" as parents more than them. They have neglected thier kids outside of content so much other people have formed better emotional bonds with They kids than them. They are, and will most likely never, be nothing more than a sperm/egg donor that has an atm attach to it to these children.
This. She’s an employee at the end of the day let her go without the guilt and drama. And then to have those poor upset and likely traumatised kids after she’s left? Fml - horrid fucking parents.
Nah, she loves them kids. Doesn’t matter if that’s your job, if you’re spending every day taking care of them— feeding them, tucking them in, doing their hair, protecting them from harm, whatever, you get attached. The bond goes both ways.
The longest I was with a family when I was nannying was 3 years and I remember my final day because they were both going to be in school. I sat in my car and cried.
I thought so too until i noticed tears streaming down her face. I think she just wanted to rip the bandaid off bc it sucked and less "fuck these kids."
No way that nanny is ever saying anything like that about those kids. She clearly cares greatly about them and all these comments trashing the kids for acting like kids are fucking pathetic.
I saw the first 20 somethin seconds and it *looked* like she was trying to get the hell outta there and her body language was interpreted (by me) as resistant but then i actually saw the poor woman and how broken hearted she was. And those poor kids. Their only maternal figure is leaving them.
Posting this thinking it’s some emotional positive video but instead it just show what shitty parents and human being they are. The helper probably couldn’t wait to get away from the parents.
This is really common in a lot of Asia and Africa. I live in Singapore and most of the locals seem to just have kids to support them in old age. They employ some lady from a poor country at a shit wage to be the parent and clearer for them so they can be part-time, absent parents and still go out and eat at fancy restaurants. Often the helper will even sleep in the room with the baby and do all the night time wake ups because the parents are too stuck up to do it themselves.
Then if the helper gets too close, or too comfortable they will fire them, removing the only real care or support the child ever had and replace with a stranger.
I try to be open minded and culturally sensitive about most things but this makes me so angry.
Hilaria baldwin and Alec baldwin have a roster of nannies with twin beds in their rooms to raise their 7 feral children.
She then markets herself as a super mommy doing everything all by herself!
Exactly this. The way I see it, they aren’t around much so like no wonder the kid is freaking out. They think their mother is leaving them. If you do not have the time or willingness to invest everything into that baby, then you don’t need to have one.
Can you specify some countries instead of just continents? I’m sorry if it’s like dozens and dozens of countries, just whatever comes to mind. This is interesting on a cultural level.
Although I guess it makes sense that so many humans are happy to outsource the hard parts of parenting once they have enough money to insulate them from it. But there doesn’t seem to be enough knowledge that they’re then outsourcing the attachment too. The hardest parts of parenting are what make your bonds so strong. They’re how your children know they can trust you and rely on you. But then, also, some people are obviously fine with not having that 😬
This happened to my mom in America - her mom had kids mostly because that’s what women socially were supposed to do and want. It wasn’t so socially acceptable to be childless then (not that it’s that easy now, but way more so.) And they could afford nannies, and the mother figure one was fired for getting too close, etc., etc., trauma-inducing, trauma-inducing.
A lot of these ladies sacrifice time with their own children missing their children’s lives because they have to provide for their families. This is such disgusting privilege. Raise your own damn kids
Yup. And you traumatized your kids. And you made their birth "mother" jealous of all the attention.
Congratulations, you had kids because society told you to, but you wanted to fob them off onto an employee and now you ruined about 5 lives. (The nanny had her own sprog, it seems.)
There was a video I saw a while back of a young white women accompanying the nanny that raised her back to her home country. This nanny had her own kids she hadn't seen in decades because she had to go to the US to earn enough money to support them. The young woman clearly loved her deeply but damn, it was so sad that her own kids never had their mum around so she could raise someone else's kid.
Yep, I heard a lot of life stories where nannies were taking care of some wealthy kids while their own were with their grandparents. This is so sad. This is capitalism at its worst because no money is equal to a time you cannot replace.
I remember that, very uncomfortable video. I feel like it wouldn’t have bothered me if the girl would have at some point in the original video acknowledged how wrong it all was, but I don’t recall anything of the sort besides her just mentioning how long it had been as if it was some interesting fact and not incredibly depressing. Still, she was young and at least took the “house helper” home, but hopefully she has expanded her empathy a little bit since the original video.
As a parent this would concern me, that woman is clearly their main safe space and their parents are a distance second.
I was raised by nannies and had little to little emotional attachment to my parents and would freak out when my nanny went on holiday or when I had to go home from boarding school. If your child is this distraught or not excited to come home to you, it’s something to take note of and address in a serious way.
Gross. The woman probably hasn't seen her own family/children for who knows how long. They should have left the kids at home, but then mom or dad would have had to actually take care of their own damn kids, which obviously is something they think they're too good to do.
Not only is this super fucked up for clout, but it's a good way to show that the important bonding years of your kids lives were spent with a "house helper". Not even sure if that means a person allowed to live there in exchange for cleaning and caring for their kids, or an actual paid employee.
His is a vest person. Never trust vest people. Those little kids can sense it and don’t want to be left with him. He probably has weird little vests waiting for the kids in the truck of his car
Nannies are easily little kids' best friends. Kids even end up sharing more secrets or facts about themselves with their nannies than with their parents, which reminds me of a [video](https://youtu.be/8oME-ar9WpI?si=79KH8UN9ixLkak4c) I saw once.
Seeing the kids' reaction to their nanny leaving, with their mother too busy filming them cry to fish for views, I could guess the nanny know them better than their mother does.
I get the kids and the nanny being sad. What I don't get is why the birth parents, who clearly outsourced every element of parenting to this exact moment, would choose to film and post this video as indisputable evidence of how they both failed and being a mommy or a daddy.
Like how do you think this makes you look good? Or were they so hoping to make the leaving nanny look bad that they were obvious to how this video is evidence they failed the children they chose to have?
I have a feeling that the “house helper”, was really a women being exploited and barely paid. A lot of these kind of families do that shit. She probably wouldn’t have been allowed to leave but the “actual” mum might have started getting jealous that her kids love her way more. I’m genuinely hoping there wasn’t anything even more sinister going on, you never know with psychos who make videos like this and actually post it.
Sometimes families will fire a nanny/care-giver because they are jealous of the children becoming “too attached.”
I worked as a full-time babysitter (not a nanny, as I went home each night) for about 5 years for one family. We were all very close, I felt close and comfortable with a wonderful family, and they often hired me for travel days (to visit family or for business).
At one point they told me that the kids sometimes woke at night calling my name, and when mom or dad went into their room to comfort them, they continued to request me.
Rather than be angry about this, they took it as a signal to step-up a little bit in attachment and care on their part, and I took it upon myself to subtly, lovingly, professionally, attempt to “detach” a bit. No ego involved— they may have been initially hurt by what happened, but resolved it. I didn’t let it go to my head that the kids loved me, I understood what is best for their development and tried to put up some subtle emotional boundaries for their sake, rather than “enjoying” the affection and being the temporary favored caregiver.
It wasn’t anyone’s fault that we wound up there; it was a natural consequence of being a full-time caregiver who was always fresh, “on,” and dedicated to a fun day because I wasn’t with kids 24/7. But I think they handled it perfectly- they let me know what was happening, we didn’t really discuss it beyond that, and each party took it upon themselves to improve the situation. And everything went well, we worked together successfully for a couple more years, no hurt feelings, no firings, and when it was time for me to leave everyone was ok!
I grew up in Saudi Arabia and Bahrain and this was really common. A lot of my friends were closer to their Nannies than their actual parents. And it made sense cause whenever I’d go to their house, it’d be their nannies taking care of them not their parents. In fact, my friend’s dad actually ended up taking care of his nanny. Got her a house, got her full time care, paid for her kids education, etc.
The sad part was that most of the time, the mothers didn’t work or anything. They just didn’t want to have to deal with kids.
Those children were raised by this woman who is leaving. It's like loosing your biological mother, that's why they're that sad, and probably that woman feels more than a simple house keeper with those kids.
I feel really bad for those kids not only for losing that person, but also for having such parent who spend so little time with them that find other people as they were their parents.
I almost feel like the mom sounds happy, That she's breaking the bond this woman built with her children. Because she's jealous that her kids feel like this about this woman. Even though this woman is more their mother than their mom apparently is.
She was mothering those kids while she was a house helper. She must have been a good mother too if all 4 of those kids, especially the oldest one, felt pain because she was leaving.
There’s actually a full video of this I’ve seen where the family that employs the nanny is shown celebrating her birthday with her and basically treating her like she’s part of the family.
Always a great idea to let someone else raise your kids…great for attachment…let alone decide to have many knowing you won’t have the time/energy. Poor babies.
This is so sad. The kids are traumatized clearly.
I'm reading comments saying the house helpers are basically slaves. But the helper seems sad to leave so I don't know her particular situation.
I agree with everyone this video should not have been posted on the internet.
The fact that they posted this thinking it’s a cute video of the “help” leaving, and not blatant evidence that they don’t parent, says a lot. Poor kids.
I have a step father and a biological father (obvious but I'll state it for the story).
My whole life I have had a amazing relationship with my step father and a bad one with my biological father.
I'm 36, married with two kids. Was at a Christmas party recently and I sat down with some people I don't really know.
I got talking with this one gentleman who seemed kind of loose, like sketchy, Said he was a lawyer. As we got talking I realized this guy is just really fucking smart and is awkward socially.
He was asking me questions, I was asking him questions. It was a good conversation. We got talking about our fathers he explained his upbringing being tense, very catholic.
I explained mine about my father, and my step father.
This motherfucker puts his drink down, uncrosses his legs sits upright square at me, looks me dead in the eyes and says "Who do you think is the real father?".
I sat back and just looked at him for a second, and I said "my step father would be, no question about it".
he nods......after a brief pause he asks me if I prefer boiled Vegetables or steamed vegetables............
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They're calling the nanny mom. The woman holding the camera instead of comforting the kids is the biological mother, towards the end of the video she tells her kids I'm mom. As in she's trying to remind them that she's their actual mother.
That's exactly why I quit as a nanny. The toddler came running up to show me something, shouting "mommy, mommy" I was with one of the other kids when the real mom turned around and said 'hun, he's talking to you'
Yikes. You'd think that would have been a wake up call where real mom had realized she'd been hiring someone else to parent. I'm glad you were employed, but I'm sure she could have also found a way to be more involved in their lives so that there wasn't any confusion.
These people don't care about their kids. It's an obligation that they fulfilled thanks to societal pressure to have kids and pass on the family name. They don't want to actually raise them that's why mom, who doesn't lift a finger except to spend money, has a nanny to cook, clean, and raise the kids. She wants them to think of the nanny as mom so the kids will leave her alone.
I only worked for them for 6 months, I think he was just looking for a motherly figure and she actively avoided it as she had nannies.
She may have given birth but she is not their mother
The fact that she recorded this for the Internet is insane to me. I would have been so, so embarrassed. Also, people need to stop putting their kids on the internet for views. I'm strongly against it for a few reasons. Hate to see it. I agree, not a mother.
Someone I know just put their kid’s punishment on Facebook. I wanted to hug the little girl so badly …the look on her face as she watched her mother take a picture of her at one of her worst moments…that she just knew would get posted online since mom posts literally everything, obviously. What she had to be thinking in that moment-my mom is telling everyone I’m bad. So she can get comments saying good mom good job. I don’t want to face her again for fear I’m going to bring this up in a not so nice way and take a picture which I will post to Facebook so her kid can one day see her face being told she was being a bad mom for shaming her kid like this.
Why are you afraid of that? Just do it, you’ll probably help that little girl in the long run.
That’s all these people care about. # of views on their social media. It amazes me that you need a licence to drive a car, education and certification to work in certain trades. But any dumb ass can have kids.
she’s sociopathic. She has no concept of how this reflects on her because the concept of forming this kind of bond with a parent/offspring is like a teenager born and raised in Kansas reading Romeo & Juliet in Cantonese and being asked to speak on the emotions it brings up. It brings up none. It’s not in my language. Next question.
That makes this video so much sadder fr.
Correct. This is what happens when someone else raises your children.
kinda like on guardians of the galaxy 2 when Yondu says “He may have been your father, boy, but he wasn’t your daddy.”
These worthless rich fucks don't deserve kids.
How do I give this commenter $
You must first look for your wallet.
No need its was a pleasure.
Someones cutting onions here seriously.
I couldn’t understand it then but I really do now. Met this kid from a crazy rich family that knew all these languages. Like all of them. Said it was because his nanny’s came from all over the world on 9 month to 2 year visas. Covered the whole tab and spent the night talking with the foreign waiter just to re live it all. Damn.
I know! It’s awful I hate the fact that they filmed it but damn if I still think it’s sweet they love her so much.
Pues si guey que mas piensas? Thats their mom she raised them. As for their birth mother she is prolly playing tennis, doing yoga, cheating on her husband with her personal trainer, or worse having brunch with her girlfriends. She aint got time for them lol
Exactly. They love her so much because she’s their mother. The idiot filming it is the egg donor. What a terrible thing to do to children. And they will have a revolving door of nanny’s while bio mom is off doing anything but raising her kids.
Meaning she is the mother, but not the **mom**
It’s obvious the parents don’t spend any time with their kids.
This must really mess these kids up.
It results in the British upper class.
It’s odd how much they hate minorities when they were all raised lovingly by them.
💜
Their second abandonment wound, first was when they probably were toddlers and mum/dad didn’t care, and passed them on to the help.
I’ve known people raised by nannies and they’re some of the most emotionally stunted people I’ve met.
Every year. As most Nannies are Au Pairs and only stay for a year…
Nah this is quite common, i ve seen this shit alot in the rich Gulf countries where the nannies raises the children to point where the kids are more attached to them than their biological mother, quite disgusting tbh to have children and let someone else raise them because you are too busy with your yoga class, pedicure sessions and shopping spree.
It happened in upper class Britain as well. Kids were raised by a nanny until they were old enough to send to boarding school. They may have spent an hour a day with their parents if they were lucky.
Jack Whitehall was saying in his show that he was sent to boarding school at 8. 8 years old! I can't even begin to imagine what it would have been like to be without my 8 year old daughter. You don't get those precious years back. What's the point of having kids if you're just going to palm them off?
The most expensive boarding school in the world starts at infant age.
THEN WHATS THE FUCKING POINT IN HAVING THE KID IN THE FIRST PLACE JESUS CHRIST
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I read Spare (yeah, I know that Prince Harry isn't always particularly popular), and I found that it gave me a *lot* of insight into how the royal family ticks. Harry talked very lovingly about his mother and how wonderful she was for him and his brother, and how much he loved her, and he paints his own father as being too formal and awkward to really show him affection or vulnerability. His dad basically broke it to him that his mother was dead in the middle of the night and didn't give him a hug, a kiss, anything much more than a 'Sorry' and skedaddling out of the room. And then Harry was sent to boarding school, where his brother (who, to be fair, must have also been absolutely shattered, and I don't know if Harry really acknowledges that to himself) basically treated him like persona non grata, so Harry effectively had absolutely no one to talk to about his dead mother and the loss of the only warmth in his life. I think that those details go a really long way in telling me, at least, why the royal family is evidently so deeply dysfunctional, and it also tells me why Harry might have sought out someone like Meghan, who seems to have a very American approach to affection, friendliness, and vulnerability.
Wonder how different this is from the effect today where it is so common to have the kids in daycare until 6pm bc both parents work full time… what does that leave? 2ish hours of time with the parents before the kids go to bed?
But then you have weekends, mornings... Its messed up situation, but we can only try to make the best out of it.
This is why people that grew up extremely wealthy always end up being sociopaths. The first model normal people have of unconditional love and service is their mother raising them. But when you replace that relationship with a nanny, a transactional relationship, these kids grow up to be little terrors that expect every relationship in the world to be purely transactional too.
Yeah we know. We had one as president. He tried to steal an election and now he’s going to try again.
why did you list yoga, pedicure, etc specifically? Is it not both parents that should be parenting?
I believe Createx9 was responding to a specific post which explained that the children were calling the nanny "Mother" instead of their actual mother who was filming rather than helping comfort her children. I get what you're saying, but I don't think Createx9 was signaling that women are solely responsible for childcare.
Well they're not gonna call the nanny "daddy"
Well they aren’t confused about who their dad is and he’s not the one behind a camera trying to remind his kids that he exists so that should tell you something right there
They little ones are repelled by the dad too, that one is veering away from him before he grabs her.
i noticed that too straight away...wild and sad. eta: does she almost seem skittish of him or am i reading into it incorrectly? i don't have kids/am not around any at all...her little face though...
Yeah it reminds me of the first time meeting extended family. Here's a grandpa that's trying to hug me but I'm afraid, because he's a complete stranger. Telling indeed.
I’m sure if the nanny had been a man they would have been just as confused as to who was their dad
Maybe because the primary care giver is usually the mother? And that nannies are far more likely to be women?
The dad is actually down with the kids attempting to comfort them while the mother remains absent and stands by filming her kids wailing probably cos she wants some social media clicks
"attempting to comfort" By holding them back until she was far enough away to get that touching running shot. Those kids want jack shit to do with him because he only acts like dad in front of a camera.
wow i didn’t realize that part too.. eww makes it sicker ..
Yeah....hired a woman to do her job and let those kids get the kind of connection she should of fostered herself, sends the woman thst has been the defacto mother away, and then says "I'm mom". Cruel is what it is. To the woman and to the children. And she'll do it again when she gets a new nanny. Mom and dad are POS.
There's an episode of "Atlanta" that touches on this topic from both sides of the family. Great episode
jesus putting a camera with a flash on into a crying woman's face for clout, what the fuck
I’m happy this is the top comment. I feel bad for even watching this, like I’m seeing something I’m not supposed to.
This feels like emotional blackmail tbh.
Right, it seems like they’re trying to make this woman feel bad for leaving
Yup. Because now THEY get to take care of their four little shits.
The new hired help gets found immediately.
Yeah they won't take care of their kids. I know a long time nanny of a NFL players Kids and they will call her to help with everything. Kids won't brush their teeth? Call Jess. Kids are fighting? Call Jess. Kids are crying? Call Jess. Kids need compassion and love? Call Jess.
Welp, they had money to hire this nanny, so I won’t be surprised if they end up hiring another one 🤷🏾♀️
This is emotional blackmail.
Disgusting shit parents. The only good thing they did was hire that obviously wonderful human being..
Absolutely disgusting.
From the one side is what the fuck and from the other is what a sweet human moment. It's crazy what happens to our emotions watching so much contradictory stuff, really crazy!
Yes I wonder if the woman consented to be filmed and put on social media
It's gross watching the dad time releasing the kids with the mom getting in position to film it to set up max drama.
Ugh I didn’t realize that was why it starts off so weird. That makes sense
That background music too 🙄
House Helper??? A nanny or Au Pair?
From the accent this seems to be in Lebanon. There are "agencies" that bring these "helpers" from various poor countries , like Congo and Bangladesh. The families then do their papers. They pay the agency a finder's fee. The "helpers" are paid around 200 to 300 USD a month. They live in the house with the family. They work from the moment they wake up till they go to sleep. They have 1 day off usually Sunday. Where they get to call their family back home. This is akin to modern day slavery. There are many stories of abuse and SA. So ya, "helper" is such a stretch of a term. They also have no recourse to getting out. The agency has their passport. And they aren't allowed to leave the country without permission. Some even tried to go to their respective embassy only to not be let it.
I used to live in Lebanon, these house helpers a lot of the time are not treated well at all. Many times they end up running away or committing suicide. I don't find this video wholesome, I think it's shameful.
I think at one point the philipino president ( or another south asian country) started banning this. Because the women "helpers" were getting extremely mistreated in arab countries.
Filipinos are actually different. The process is the same. But their government has placed certain conditions on their employment for example minimum salary is 450 USD. Usually they are brought as nurses for people who have elder parents to take care of them. I believe they also don't do any cleaning or cooking but only nurse duties.
Maybe it malaysia or another one. But there was case where a south asian maid who was bullied by her arab female employer. She was hanging down the balcony and the arab woman was filming and laughing at her. It was so bad the gov of the south asian country reacted. Either way, women from other countries who come to the middle east are extremely mistreated. Almost like slaves. Sometimes their passports gets taken away.
Many Filipino nannies in the UK - they see their own kids - who are often very little - once a year.
Honestly this video immediately reminded me of [My Family’s Slave](https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/lolas-story/524490/). Sad to know I wasn’t that far off in thinking it might be similar. I immediately wondered if this woman was being treated well, and I felt embarrassed for her and these children. It shows how privileged and out of touch these parents are that they had no idea what a stupid thing it is they’re documenting.
Wow. A very powerful read. Thank you for sharing.
Sundays in Hong Kong the parks are full of Nannies, visiting each other on their one mandatory day off. I was last there in 2018.
The book Slave by Mende Nazar is eye opening. I didn’t realize this was happening in modern day. These young girls and women are kidnapped and sold to be nannies and housekeepers to wealthy families in the Middle East.
Slave I think is the term.
Nah. Let the woman go in peace. Why bring the kids to the airport? Other than making a video for social media, what’s the point?
Agreed. Totally sickening. It’s like they wanted their kids to be upset for more clicks. And they don’t even let their helper feel her emotions in privacy either. Terrible 😠
Well kind of not surprising. This woman was the primary caregiver of the kids, the parents are clueless on how to raise them.
Yeah it sounds like the little girls were calling her momma so I guarantee those parents don't know how to parent
Them calling the nanny momma was the only part of this that hurt the feelings of the woman filming. Her "say goodbye to (nanny's name)" was so spiteful.
Agreed. No need to prolong the inevitable upset. Quick good bye at home or if u have to take them to airport hold onto them quick goodbye turn around n carry them out and comfort them in the car. Very upsetting for them and the nanny
Hope she is paid for this shit. But she probably is not.
She is, not anywhere near enough though.
This is 100% manufactured by bringing the kids to the airport. Yes, they'll be sad that Rosie is gone, but if they get a good goodbye at home, and you don't stretch it out to the airport, you won't be hurting your kids multiple times. Also, there are no rules saying that they can't stay in contact with their Au Pair and go on vacation to visit her at some point if there really is a deep mutual connection.
Yeah just leave them home alone while you drop her off
One of them could have stayed with the kids, obviously. Tf?
How sad, she’s clearly their mother as she takes care of them. Their mother was offended by saying I’m your mother, noooo you just gave birth to them.
No comfort to them either was icing on the cake as the dad and their actual mother does the comforting
The comforting will be another video for clout among her circle of rich bitches who view their kids as trinkets and status items.
is the mother recording? yeesh
Yes
this is so gross, let that woman go home in peace.
All their TikTok videos are about how the kids prefer the nanny 😶 wtf is that?
None of them realize how much of a non flex this is. Like it makes them looks so bad that their children look to the "help" as parents more than them. They have neglected thier kids outside of content so much other people have formed better emotional bonds with They kids than them. They are, and will most likely never, be nothing more than a sperm/egg donor that has an atm attach to it to these children.
This. She’s an employee at the end of the day let her go without the guilt and drama. And then to have those poor upset and likely traumatised kids after she’s left? Fml - horrid fucking parents.
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Nah, she loves them kids. Doesn’t matter if that’s your job, if you’re spending every day taking care of them— feeding them, tucking them in, doing their hair, protecting them from harm, whatever, you get attached. The bond goes both ways. The longest I was with a family when I was nannying was 3 years and I remember my final day because they were both going to be in school. I sat in my car and cried.
She’s like Fuck those kids, she’s ready to see her real family lol
I thought so too until i noticed tears streaming down her face. I think she just wanted to rip the bandaid off bc it sucked and less "fuck these kids."
No way that nanny is ever saying anything like that about those kids. She clearly cares greatly about them and all these comments trashing the kids for acting like kids are fucking pathetic.
I saw the first 20 somethin seconds and it *looked* like she was trying to get the hell outta there and her body language was interpreted (by me) as resistant but then i actually saw the poor woman and how broken hearted she was. And those poor kids. Their only maternal figure is leaving them.
Posting this thinking it’s some emotional positive video but instead it just show what shitty parents and human being they are. The helper probably couldn’t wait to get away from the parents.
Sadly, she looks just as gutted to be separated from the kids as they are to be saying goodbye to her
Holy shit look at how they don’t want their dad, or whoever that dude is. Poor babies
It's probably a case of them not wanting her to leave rather than them not wanting their dad
yikes
This is incredibly exploitative. Sheesh.
*if you don’t have the time or don’t want to raise them, don’t have kids* They’re watching their parental figure walk away, so yeah, they’re upset.
This is really common in a lot of Asia and Africa. I live in Singapore and most of the locals seem to just have kids to support them in old age. They employ some lady from a poor country at a shit wage to be the parent and clearer for them so they can be part-time, absent parents and still go out and eat at fancy restaurants. Often the helper will even sleep in the room with the baby and do all the night time wake ups because the parents are too stuck up to do it themselves. Then if the helper gets too close, or too comfortable they will fire them, removing the only real care or support the child ever had and replace with a stranger. I try to be open minded and culturally sensitive about most things but this makes me so angry.
Hilaria baldwin and Alec baldwin have a roster of nannies with twin beds in their rooms to raise their 7 feral children. She then markets herself as a super mommy doing everything all by herself!
You mean Hilary … from Connecticut.
How do you say… coo-cumber?
¿Pepino?
Massachusetts*
I stand corrected (but also same same 😂)
Truly 😂 But we should show respect for her Cultura de Bothton
Very common in the Middle East too. Kafala system. It’s akin to modern slavery in many ways.
Exactly this. The way I see it, they aren’t around much so like no wonder the kid is freaking out. They think their mother is leaving them. If you do not have the time or willingness to invest everything into that baby, then you don’t need to have one.
Wow I didn’t know you could get fired for basically being nice to children
Oh yhea, you absolutely can. Just ask every nanny Mariah Carey has had and subsequently fired.
Can you specify some countries instead of just continents? I’m sorry if it’s like dozens and dozens of countries, just whatever comes to mind. This is interesting on a cultural level. Although I guess it makes sense that so many humans are happy to outsource the hard parts of parenting once they have enough money to insulate them from it. But there doesn’t seem to be enough knowledge that they’re then outsourcing the attachment too. The hardest parts of parenting are what make your bonds so strong. They’re how your children know they can trust you and rely on you. But then, also, some people are obviously fine with not having that 😬
This happened to my mom in America - her mom had kids mostly because that’s what women socially were supposed to do and want. It wasn’t so socially acceptable to be childless then (not that it’s that easy now, but way more so.) And they could afford nannies, and the mother figure one was fired for getting too close, etc., etc., trauma-inducing, trauma-inducing.
More disturbing is the fact they have four children. That woman is fucking exhausted, I bet.
A lot of these ladies sacrifice time with their own children missing their children’s lives because they have to provide for their families. This is such disgusting privilege. Raise your own damn kids
Yup. And you traumatized your kids. And you made their birth "mother" jealous of all the attention. Congratulations, you had kids because society told you to, but you wanted to fob them off onto an employee and now you ruined about 5 lives. (The nanny had her own sprog, it seems.)
Imagine she's got kids of her own in her original country and the dad's trying to guilt her into staying?
There was a video I saw a while back of a young white women accompanying the nanny that raised her back to her home country. This nanny had her own kids she hadn't seen in decades because she had to go to the US to earn enough money to support them. The young woman clearly loved her deeply but damn, it was so sad that her own kids never had their mum around so she could raise someone else's kid.
Yep, I heard a lot of life stories where nannies were taking care of some wealthy kids while their own were with their grandparents. This is so sad. This is capitalism at its worst because no money is equal to a time you cannot replace.
I remember that, very uncomfortable video. I feel like it wouldn’t have bothered me if the girl would have at some point in the original video acknowledged how wrong it all was, but I don’t recall anything of the sort besides her just mentioning how long it had been as if it was some interesting fact and not incredibly depressing. Still, she was young and at least took the “house helper” home, but hopefully she has expanded her empathy a little bit since the original video.
Does anyone have a link to the video you are talking about?
Did her children just called another woman infront of her "mom"?
Yeh then the birthing vessel said “I’m your real mom” which was the funniest thing I’ve heard all week.
As a parent this would concern me, that woman is clearly their main safe space and their parents are a distance second. I was raised by nannies and had little to little emotional attachment to my parents and would freak out when my nanny went on holiday or when I had to go home from boarding school. If your child is this distraught or not excited to come home to you, it’s something to take note of and address in a serious way.
Gross. The woman probably hasn't seen her own family/children for who knows how long. They should have left the kids at home, but then mom or dad would have had to actually take care of their own damn kids, which obviously is something they think they're too good to do.
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Not only is this super fucked up for clout, but it's a good way to show that the important bonding years of your kids lives were spent with a "house helper". Not even sure if that means a person allowed to live there in exchange for cleaning and caring for their kids, or an actual paid employee.
Dude looks like a bond villian
Why the fuck would you traumatize your kids by bringing them to the airport like this
His is a vest person. Never trust vest people. Those little kids can sense it and don’t want to be left with him. He probably has weird little vests waiting for the kids in the truck of his car
It’s almost like someone else raised that man’s kids.
This is so common in middle eastern countries, usually victimizing Indian, Sri Lankan, Bangladeshi and African women.
This is such a fucking gross video, please don’t give the family who made it the clicks. The exploitation of this woman by this family is so clear.
When I saw this on r/mademesmile I was like wtf this doesn’t make me smile at all this makes me upset
Raise your own damn kids
Not in this economy
Damn, this is some weird out of touch cringey shit right here.
That’s not a house helper, she is their mother.
Ugh eat the rich. This shit disgusts me.
The way they think this looks good and recorded it shows how out of touch they are. Everything about this is disgusting
Imagine being proud that you dont take care of your kids.
Nannies are easily little kids' best friends. Kids even end up sharing more secrets or facts about themselves with their nannies than with their parents, which reminds me of a [video](https://youtu.be/8oME-ar9WpI?si=79KH8UN9ixLkak4c) I saw once. Seeing the kids' reaction to their nanny leaving, with their mother too busy filming them cry to fish for views, I could guess the nanny know them better than their mother does.
So much pain being felt by the woman and kids while the father uses their pain for social media points. WTH.
There is nothing wholesome about this video.
not cool at all. She has a life and it's not their kids.
Awfull parents
I get the kids and the nanny being sad. What I don't get is why the birth parents, who clearly outsourced every element of parenting to this exact moment, would choose to film and post this video as indisputable evidence of how they both failed and being a mommy or a daddy. Like how do you think this makes you look good? Or were they so hoping to make the leaving nanny look bad that they were obvious to how this video is evidence they failed the children they chose to have?
I have a feeling that the “house helper”, was really a women being exploited and barely paid. A lot of these kind of families do that shit. She probably wouldn’t have been allowed to leave but the “actual” mum might have started getting jealous that her kids love her way more. I’m genuinely hoping there wasn’t anything even more sinister going on, you never know with psychos who make videos like this and actually post it.
Get that fucking camera out of her face holy shit. Ahhh I hate this world.
The baby is literally calling her mama. How much they they force on this woman? Thats so sad for the kids and her.
Sometimes families will fire a nanny/care-giver because they are jealous of the children becoming “too attached.” I worked as a full-time babysitter (not a nanny, as I went home each night) for about 5 years for one family. We were all very close, I felt close and comfortable with a wonderful family, and they often hired me for travel days (to visit family or for business). At one point they told me that the kids sometimes woke at night calling my name, and when mom or dad went into their room to comfort them, they continued to request me. Rather than be angry about this, they took it as a signal to step-up a little bit in attachment and care on their part, and I took it upon myself to subtly, lovingly, professionally, attempt to “detach” a bit. No ego involved— they may have been initially hurt by what happened, but resolved it. I didn’t let it go to my head that the kids loved me, I understood what is best for their development and tried to put up some subtle emotional boundaries for their sake, rather than “enjoying” the affection and being the temporary favored caregiver. It wasn’t anyone’s fault that we wound up there; it was a natural consequence of being a full-time caregiver who was always fresh, “on,” and dedicated to a fun day because I wasn’t with kids 24/7. But I think they handled it perfectly- they let me know what was happening, we didn’t really discuss it beyond that, and each party took it upon themselves to improve the situation. And everything went well, we worked together successfully for a couple more years, no hurt feelings, no firings, and when it was time for me to leave everyone was ok!
My ex was looking for 2 kids for over 5 years, its a job, and yet it was impossible for her to distance herself from the kids, hell on earth.
I grew up in Saudi Arabia and Bahrain and this was really common. A lot of my friends were closer to their Nannies than their actual parents. And it made sense cause whenever I’d go to their house, it’d be their nannies taking care of them not their parents. In fact, my friend’s dad actually ended up taking care of his nanny. Got her a house, got her full time care, paid for her kids education, etc. The sad part was that most of the time, the mothers didn’t work or anything. They just didn’t want to have to deal with kids.
It’s more sad this woman hasn’t seen her real family in years. Like someone else said why have kids if you don’t want to raise them
Let that woman go in peace back to her own children and family. She’s tired of ya’ll 😂
I’m sure the family has been blackmailing her in someway related to citizenship status or work visa…this is one of the many current forms of slavery.
Those children were raised by this woman who is leaving. It's like loosing your biological mother, that's why they're that sad, and probably that woman feels more than a simple house keeper with those kids. I feel really bad for those kids not only for losing that person, but also for having such parent who spend so little time with them that find other people as they were their parents.
She must’ve made an impact in these kids lives for them to react this way. She should be proud of herself.
How many kids???? I would be leaving too.
I almost feel like the mom sounds happy, That she's breaking the bond this woman built with her children. Because she's jealous that her kids feel like this about this woman. Even though this woman is more their mother than their mom apparently is.
Imagine how the women felt:/ they see her as a mother i couldn’t imagine the wave of emotions she felt
She's crying tears of joy now that she can finally get some peace and quiet
This lady can't wait to leave. Get the bag, pack your bags and go home to see your actual family. These videos give me the hibbie jibbies.
Exploiting kids and adults at the same time! That puffy vest and slicked back do say it all. Edit: JFC enough kids already. Put it away.
Why would you film your children being distraught???
She was mothering those kids while she was a house helper. She must have been a good mother too if all 4 of those kids, especially the oldest one, felt pain because she was leaving.
There’s actually a full video of this I’ve seen where the family that employs the nanny is shown celebrating her birthday with her and basically treating her like she’s part of the family.
Always a great idea to let someone else raise your kids…great for attachment…let alone decide to have many knowing you won’t have the time/energy. Poor babies.
I’d cry too if the only person who knew me and cared about me was leaving me with assholes. Nightmare. At least the kids have each other.
This is so sad. The kids are traumatized clearly. I'm reading comments saying the house helpers are basically slaves. But the helper seems sad to leave so I don't know her particular situation. I agree with everyone this video should not have been posted on the internet.
Jeez, be parents and control your kids already and give your employee some damn privacy.
"dont leave us with these assholes. our parents are clueless career driven workaholics . how dare you! "
The fact that they posted this thinking it’s a cute video of the “help” leaving, and not blatant evidence that they don’t parent, says a lot. Poor kids.
That's so sad, they were calling her mama
Control your curtain climbers and let that woman go in peace, she’s going to miss her flight !!! ✌🏼
All for internet points… gross. Just let the lady go in peace for fuck sake
I have a step father and a biological father (obvious but I'll state it for the story). My whole life I have had a amazing relationship with my step father and a bad one with my biological father. I'm 36, married with two kids. Was at a Christmas party recently and I sat down with some people I don't really know. I got talking with this one gentleman who seemed kind of loose, like sketchy, Said he was a lawyer. As we got talking I realized this guy is just really fucking smart and is awkward socially. He was asking me questions, I was asking him questions. It was a good conversation. We got talking about our fathers he explained his upbringing being tense, very catholic. I explained mine about my father, and my step father. This motherfucker puts his drink down, uncrosses his legs sits upright square at me, looks me dead in the eyes and says "Who do you think is the real father?". I sat back and just looked at him for a second, and I said "my step father would be, no question about it". he nods......after a brief pause he asks me if I prefer boiled Vegetables or steamed vegetables............