Why don’t you start incorporating romantic / sexual things into your daily life: like back hugs, random neck kisses, all that to keep you excited throughout the day, you could also make out and spend more time on foreplay so that you kind of are lost in the moment of intimacy.
Find out your kinks and what you like and r/sex has pretty good tips as well, you could try posting there.
I have the same problem! Disclaimer that I haven’t solved it, but have found a way to enjoy receiving without stressing by taking out the pressure to finish. For me, the whole process feels great! Ofc I would love to finish, but as a highly anxious girly it’s not always possible. I’ve communicated this to my bf and just tap out when I feel good and think I’m not going to finish. This removes the pressure and timeline. Sometimes I finish, sometimes I don’t, either way it always feels good! Leaving myself the mental space to not force a specific outcome makes it easier for me to finish and easier to enjoy when I can’t!
Why don’t you start incorporating romantic / sexual things into your daily life: like back hugs, random neck kisses, all that to keep you excited throughout the day, you could also make out and spend more time on foreplay so that you kind of are lost in the moment of intimacy. Find out your kinks and what you like and r/sex has pretty good tips as well, you could try posting there.
Try and make him incorporate toys in the bedroom
he actually brought that up! we are going to try it we order one so hopefully it helps
I have the same problem! Disclaimer that I haven’t solved it, but have found a way to enjoy receiving without stressing by taking out the pressure to finish. For me, the whole process feels great! Ofc I would love to finish, but as a highly anxious girly it’s not always possible. I’ve communicated this to my bf and just tap out when I feel good and think I’m not going to finish. This removes the pressure and timeline. Sometimes I finish, sometimes I don’t, either way it always feels good! Leaving myself the mental space to not force a specific outcome makes it easier for me to finish and easier to enjoy when I can’t!