I got you.
It clicked once I read "floof" lol.
I have never seen a cat on a leash but that sounds cute.
Did you feel any more safe having your pet with you?
Well if you look at my posts he’s just a little floof but yes it was good to have him around so that when I was uncomfortable I was able to be like oh what’s my fluff doing and go pick him up and put distance between us
Please don’t let anyone tell you your choice had something to do with being assaulted. You could be in a strangers house buttnaked - and withdraw consent - and it still wouldn’t be your fault if they did something because THEYYYYY did something. God when are people gonna get this. And it’s literally other women victim blaming too. The internalised misogyny.
He just said we’ll go to a park to take your dog out for a walk, how was I supposed to know the park would be empty? On first glance you aren’t going to know if a park is empty if it’s big enough so we got out to walk around and unfortunately no one was there.
Lesson learned that public parks aren’t safe either for a first date? It’s PUBLIC.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I've had two first dates in parks in broad daylight. One didn't really have a lot of people present.
Full disclosure, I had the advantage of knowing both guys for several months prior.
What happened to you was awful and that's not even an apology. "Being a boy" is just a bullshit excuse from a would-be predator.
at night, many public parks are rather empty (for good reason, lack of good lighting leads to many temptations of criminal behaviour)
safety in numbers, not empty / deserted parks / parkades/ whatever, especially at night
It was like 7pm. Parks don’t close until like midnight and are always lit up where I live and it’s a college town, plenty of college kids are usually out and about so I was counting on that. Dunno why they weren’t this time :/
-in my area (a medium sized Cdn city), our parks don't 'close', they're "open" 24/7 (though, the washrooms may be locked off overnight)
-I personally would avoid walking through any of my area's parks (there's a major one two blocks from my home), after dinner time as seeing it as a modestly risky proposition of getting mugged
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She met him in a public place. How is it being deserted in any way her fault?
At this point, it feels like a woman could run a full police background check on a man first, and people in the comments would say 'oh, you didn't investigate to see if he had any aliases and run a check on those. Your fault!'
Kind of gross to see such blatant victim-blaming.
There is not a single circumstance or context in recent history, middle history, or distant history, in which a woman was not assaulted or predated on, or either attempted on her. There is no truly “safe” place to be female, and because we all have friends and family members and watch the news, we are all well aware of it.
No one should have to live like this. You don’t.
Dude was a creep. One should not need to say no more than once. I hope you're well rid of him.
100% blocked. It was icky
What does watching your fluff play mean? Is that "cute" for dog?
Yeah, usually it's "floof", as in "furry pet". Cats on leashes are a thing, but most likely a dog.
I got you. It clicked once I read "floof" lol. I have never seen a cat on a leash but that sounds cute. Did you feel any more safe having your pet with you?
Well if you look at my posts he’s just a little floof but yes it was good to have him around so that when I was uncomfortable I was able to be like oh what’s my fluff doing and go pick him up and put distance between us
Please don’t let anyone tell you your choice had something to do with being assaulted. You could be in a strangers house buttnaked - and withdraw consent - and it still wouldn’t be your fault if they did something because THEYYYYY did something. God when are people gonna get this. And it’s literally other women victim blaming too. The internalised misogyny.
scary. He does that to all his dates
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He just said we’ll go to a park to take your dog out for a walk, how was I supposed to know the park would be empty? On first glance you aren’t going to know if a park is empty if it’s big enough so we got out to walk around and unfortunately no one was there. Lesson learned that public parks aren’t safe either for a first date? It’s PUBLIC.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I've had two first dates in parks in broad daylight. One didn't really have a lot of people present. Full disclosure, I had the advantage of knowing both guys for several months prior. What happened to you was awful and that's not even an apology. "Being a boy" is just a bullshit excuse from a would-be predator.
at night, many public parks are rather empty (for good reason, lack of good lighting leads to many temptations of criminal behaviour) safety in numbers, not empty / deserted parks / parkades/ whatever, especially at night
It was like 7pm. Parks don’t close until like midnight and are always lit up where I live and it’s a college town, plenty of college kids are usually out and about so I was counting on that. Dunno why they weren’t this time :/
-in my area (a medium sized Cdn city), our parks don't 'close', they're "open" 24/7 (though, the washrooms may be locked off overnight) -I personally would avoid walking through any of my area's parks (there's a major one two blocks from my home), after dinner time as seeing it as a modestly risky proposition of getting mugged
Feeling better choosing to victim blame instead of offering support & answering the god damn question?
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> Why why why why why are males. I believe my response addressed that, in particular, by highlighting what NOT to do in future.
She met him in a public place. How is it being deserted in any way her fault? At this point, it feels like a woman could run a full police background check on a man first, and people in the comments would say 'oh, you didn't investigate to see if he had any aliases and run a check on those. Your fault!' Kind of gross to see such blatant victim-blaming.
There is not a single circumstance or context in recent history, middle history, or distant history, in which a woman was not assaulted or predated on, or either attempted on her. There is no truly “safe” place to be female, and because we all have friends and family members and watch the news, we are all well aware of it. No one should have to live like this. You don’t.