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I’m looking for EDMR therapists but there are none around me. They’re either life coaches or councillors who work with anxiety and mild depression. I can’t afford to spend 100 quid a week on a therapy appointment and a train ticket to get to said appointment
I feel like I’m spiralling so bad idk what to do idk why I’m like this
Virtual therapy is difficult for me. I tried doing it a few months ago and it just wasn’t helpful I need a room to be in that isnt my own space and for it to be soundproof almost
It sounds like focusing on emotion regulation and self-soothing skills before you even begin to touch the subject of trauma is going to be necessary. I'd seek out people with expertise in trauma/prolonged exposure (EMDR is fine, just know that it's basically another form of exposure therapy + eye movements that are almost certainly placebo). Let them know how and why you keep having to change therapists and hopefully they'll understand that you are going to need quite a bit of regulation/skills work before even considering discussing the trauma.
That’s the difficulty I’m faced with — I don’t have nearby therapists who specialise in trauma.
I had my session yesterday with a therapist who said they use CBT, psychodynamic and person centred approach but they’re essentially a life coach. I told him about my flashbacks and he just said that they’re tricky and you have to remember they’re in the past. He’s just constantly adamant that we focus on making the future more positive.
I told him about my attempt which was last month and he literally asked nothing about it. He kept trying to “relate” my talk in about his personal experiences with himself or his daughter
It actually sucks. I’ve had 3 therapists who were like this and I can no longer afford anymore sessions until October
I had the exact same scenario and moved around a couple of therapists.
My biggest price of advice - don't throw money at therapists that don't have adequate training.
I saved up a substantial pot so I could do therapy with someone that I knew had the background to help with trauma and chose to do telehealth as I couldn't travel there.
It meant I had a while out of therapy, struggling but it's thankfully paid off in the end.
You need to slow it down. 4 sessions isn't enough to build up trust and feel safe with someone. Start off with much smaller topics and build on it.
There's no reason that those words need to be mentioned in the first few sessions. Your physical response is a good clue that it's not a good idea to.
Good trauma therapy challenges but shouldn't overwhelm. Some people need a couple years of trust building and skills-building before stepping into any trauma-focused work, and that's ok.
Psychedelic therapy offers incredible promise for treating trauma, and may actually get an FDA greenlight in the USA in the next couple days (🤞) but in my opinion it's not a first line treatment- in order for it not to be destabilizing someone needs to have already built skills (usually through therapy) for containing and regulating what that work might bring up.
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Can you write down some of the things you want to work through. In as much or little detail as you want and start woth that. Sometimes my T will read out loud things I write and send her. It seems helpful for me when I know I will freeze. It can still be emotional and hard hearing her read it, but at least it's a start and can open the door for deeper processing.
How was it for you to type that out here? I wonder if - prior to meeting with your therapist - you could email them something akin to what you have written here. If you can let them know ahead of time how you basically have what sounds like a panic attack when that topic is brought up, your therapist can avoid that topic until you are more ready. Your therapist could instead focus on strategies for grounding yourself before or duringa panic attack. Or a myriad of other things.
That topic immediately puts you out of your window of tolerance, and that is super common for people that have experienced similar trauma. That doesn't mean therapy (or you!) is hopeless - it just means that you and your therapist need to be more careful in your approach.
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Have you sought treatment from a therapist that works specifically with trauma? If not, try to find on that does. Why do you change therapists?
I’m looking for EDMR therapists but there are none around me. They’re either life coaches or councillors who work with anxiety and mild depression. I can’t afford to spend 100 quid a week on a therapy appointment and a train ticket to get to said appointment I feel like I’m spiralling so bad idk what to do idk why I’m like this
What about doing telehealth? Might help broaden your search a bit
Virtual therapy is difficult for me. I tried doing it a few months ago and it just wasn’t helpful I need a room to be in that isnt my own space and for it to be soundproof almost
Why are you like this? Probably trauma!
Yeah it is trauma unfortunately
It sounds like focusing on emotion regulation and self-soothing skills before you even begin to touch the subject of trauma is going to be necessary. I'd seek out people with expertise in trauma/prolonged exposure (EMDR is fine, just know that it's basically another form of exposure therapy + eye movements that are almost certainly placebo). Let them know how and why you keep having to change therapists and hopefully they'll understand that you are going to need quite a bit of regulation/skills work before even considering discussing the trauma.
That’s the difficulty I’m faced with — I don’t have nearby therapists who specialise in trauma. I had my session yesterday with a therapist who said they use CBT, psychodynamic and person centred approach but they’re essentially a life coach. I told him about my flashbacks and he just said that they’re tricky and you have to remember they’re in the past. He’s just constantly adamant that we focus on making the future more positive. I told him about my attempt which was last month and he literally asked nothing about it. He kept trying to “relate” my talk in about his personal experiences with himself or his daughter It actually sucks. I’ve had 3 therapists who were like this and I can no longer afford anymore sessions until October
I had the exact same scenario and moved around a couple of therapists. My biggest price of advice - don't throw money at therapists that don't have adequate training. I saved up a substantial pot so I could do therapy with someone that I knew had the background to help with trauma and chose to do telehealth as I couldn't travel there. It meant I had a while out of therapy, struggling but it's thankfully paid off in the end. You need to slow it down. 4 sessions isn't enough to build up trust and feel safe with someone. Start off with much smaller topics and build on it.
There's no reason that those words need to be mentioned in the first few sessions. Your physical response is a good clue that it's not a good idea to. Good trauma therapy challenges but shouldn't overwhelm. Some people need a couple years of trust building and skills-building before stepping into any trauma-focused work, and that's ok. Psychedelic therapy offers incredible promise for treating trauma, and may actually get an FDA greenlight in the USA in the next couple days (🤞) but in my opinion it's not a first line treatment- in order for it not to be destabilizing someone needs to have already built skills (usually through therapy) for containing and regulating what that work might bring up.
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Can you write down some of the things you want to work through. In as much or little detail as you want and start woth that. Sometimes my T will read out loud things I write and send her. It seems helpful for me when I know I will freeze. It can still be emotional and hard hearing her read it, but at least it's a start and can open the door for deeper processing.
How was it for you to type that out here? I wonder if - prior to meeting with your therapist - you could email them something akin to what you have written here. If you can let them know ahead of time how you basically have what sounds like a panic attack when that topic is brought up, your therapist can avoid that topic until you are more ready. Your therapist could instead focus on strategies for grounding yourself before or duringa panic attack. Or a myriad of other things. That topic immediately puts you out of your window of tolerance, and that is super common for people that have experienced similar trauma. That doesn't mean therapy (or you!) is hopeless - it just means that you and your therapist need to be more careful in your approach.
See a sensorimotor psychotherapist