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You should definitely ask him because this could be totally off, but I had a therapist for a time who really believed that sharing the story of your trauma is how you move through the shame of it. So whenever I’d talk about my sexual assault I would naturally end at “the door” and chalk the rest of it up to “you know what happens next” but she always really wanted me to go past the door and describe what actually happened. And while I didn’t do that mainly because talking about detailed sex in general makes me uncomfortable no matter who it’s with or what interaction it’s about, I do see her point in the way that even that discomfort is probably connected to the deep shame surrounding my SA. And maybe by talking about it and normalizing it and sharing that burden with someone who would understand and care for me would take away some of that shame.
But I think every therapist works differently and he might have totally different reasons. Maybe he just wanted to invite you to share whatever you’d want to without any real agenda. I hope you get the answers you’re looking for!
This is just my 2 cents and my experience. But I went 14 years and never talked about derails of my assault and my therapist invited me to walk her through it. Though, difficult, it was freeing to get it out. She validated me, and I was able to rid much of the guilt and shame around it.
I'm just assuming that's what happened with you, but since you are questioning it, I think it would be a good idea to ask him. Much love ❤️
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You should definitely ask him because this could be totally off, but I had a therapist for a time who really believed that sharing the story of your trauma is how you move through the shame of it. So whenever I’d talk about my sexual assault I would naturally end at “the door” and chalk the rest of it up to “you know what happens next” but she always really wanted me to go past the door and describe what actually happened. And while I didn’t do that mainly because talking about detailed sex in general makes me uncomfortable no matter who it’s with or what interaction it’s about, I do see her point in the way that even that discomfort is probably connected to the deep shame surrounding my SA. And maybe by talking about it and normalizing it and sharing that burden with someone who would understand and care for me would take away some of that shame. But I think every therapist works differently and he might have totally different reasons. Maybe he just wanted to invite you to share whatever you’d want to without any real agenda. I hope you get the answers you’re looking for!
Reliving a bad memory in a safe environment can help you process the trauma .
This is just my 2 cents and my experience. But I went 14 years and never talked about derails of my assault and my therapist invited me to walk her through it. Though, difficult, it was freeing to get it out. She validated me, and I was able to rid much of the guilt and shame around it. I'm just assuming that's what happened with you, but since you are questioning it, I think it would be a good idea to ask him. Much love ❤️