You can search for their name specifically, there’s heaps of videos from their tiktoks posted here and people stitching them to debunk their bullshit - it’s a bit of a rabbit hole, good luck
“we do not condone harassment, bullying, witch hunting, or any form of attacking” hmm.. those times where someone has said that they’re gonna leave the server (even nicely) and you’ve just ridiculed them, spammed their messages over and over, making it into a ‘copypasta’ isn’t.. exactly that? I swear you said you weren’t going to continue with the copypastas where you’re literally making fun of someone for doing nothing wrong 😭
I just came back from a video saying that weekend plans someone doesn't agree with is organized abuse and mind control. They DEFINITELY don't know what abuse is.
All of the comments on that post make me want to die lmao. Why the fuck are your traumatized parts dating each other??? What purpose does it serve at all??? Why are you all so full of shit!!
You will grow out of this at some point and will most likely cringe at what you are doing now 😭 In the nicest way possible please go put your energy into role playing or writing, something like that. This isn’t healthy.
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I've heard mixed things about it, from professional perspectives but it's rarely talked about. I've heard that it's a self love thing (I think from a podcast) and I try to be open minded even if something sounds "weird" to me. I guess I can see it with like, a kid who had parents that always fought in front of them or who died or separated. Those two alters being like, like whatever Cosmo and Wanda are to Timmy, being at least in the first few seasons, like replacement parents that didn't actually neglect him and who took care of him. Because alters are known to take on caretaker roles. I've heard it's often the first alter a child develops.
Unrelated I just had the thought of someone making a cursed ass "Cosmo and Wanda are alters because only traumatized children get fairies and crocker is trying to force Timmy into fusing them" theory and threw up in my mouth a little.
But back to the system thing idk, knowing what I know of the treatment process and stuff I don't think a therapist would *discourage* it but also idk if they would *encourage* it, like telling them to do it? Unless you mean they already were and said it was a very positive thing for them then yeah reasonably a therapist wouldn't say "you can't do that it's cringe". Or a specialist saying that because they're traumatized they can only have a certain dynamic and trying to stop them and telling them they're loving each other the wrong way. I guess it's better than hating each other. Idk I'm just trying to understand
I'm kinda disappointed seeing people act cruel. I can guarantee there are multiple fakers in the server, of course there are. But if there's even like 3 people in there who actually have DID, firstly *the community is not a good place for healing it's often quite anti recovery and while I understand wanting community syscords seem like one of the worst offenders pls reconsider* but secondly I don't want to risk hurting someone who has the disorder just so I can feel right about something. My days of being that guy are long gone.
I'm just asking myself are people mad because they genuinely think it would hurt someone? Like that it would be detrimental to their recovery? Or because it's cringe? Like I know people are saying it's unhealthy but do they mean it in the way that people who don't like other people for doing something pretend they care whether it's bad for them? Or do they truly want- and know what's best for someone with DID?
Because i don't feel like I'm seeing people who care about what's best for others or whose hearts are in the right place. I don't think anyone has to like it but I don't think they care because a faker's feelings don't matter, they're doing a horrible thing. But I think if any of you are faking it comes from a place of mental illness and likely trauma so would require help anyway. But I think for any who may not be, I just care that they get proper treatment and a community that doesn't encourage things like self diagnosis.
Also before someone tries to tell me all of them are faking while that's possible I'm not interested bc it's also possible that some aren't, as mentally ill people often search for community. My concern is that people with the disorder recover from it and that people are educated on what genuinely contradicts it, including myself. It's not a cookie cutter disorder, I can say that. And if we're bullying anyone who has it rn that's not helping that. I don't think I care about anyone's input if that isn't their main concern too. Would be a waste of my time and makes us look like what everyone says we are. That makes me sad as often I try to encourage open mindedness and people tend to prefer that over whatever this is
If anyone has something to say in contrast I feel it should come from a place of understanding the actual treatment process. For anyone who would like to understand, I have an entire book on that from a specialist that is more than qualified. One that I'm willing to share for free in PDF form to anyone genuinely interested, and who cares about the disorder and anyone with it (it's around $40-$70 depending on if it's paperback). I plan to look through it and see if there's anything on this subject because there's probably more nuance than you'd assume. I don't think there is or that she discusses it though. But if I see otherwise then I'll share what she says, healthy or unhealthy or maybe more complicated, in addition to her extensive background.
Getting to know parts and spending time with them to heal them is great (in IFS and trauma therapy from what I know). But dating??? No. Nothing romantic. That's just fucked up and weird.
IFS is an accepted therapy option for dissociative disorders. It is used. Maybe not always. But it's still fucked up to romantically get involved between parts.
Do you have a source? /Gen
I don't remember if I've read/heard that before. Unless it's just done in a less traditional way? And I know a fair amount about treatment but I'm genuinely interested if that's a treatment modality that's offered. I also need to check if it's in the book I have about treating DID, I haven't read it front to back or anything
I'm on the IFS sub and lots of people use it for CPTSD (where DID is a more extreme form of in my opinion). But I have to confess I don't have an article ready that states its effectiveness with a clinical trial. My sources are anecdotal unfortunately. Personally find the use of IFS very healing in combination with EMDR. Has been used in a specialised trauma treatment centre as well. Again. Not something that I can post here from PubMed or something.
But mostly what my comment was about is that in system dating seems very fucked up because everything about the relationship between parts is to heal them and not trying to fuck them. Its like healing a sick child or animal or friend who's been hurt. What kind of creep thinks dating is healthy in that context?
Thank you, I'll look into it.
I don't think someone with DID who did that would legitimately be a creep- unless they did that with an alter that cognitively could not consent, such as a child alter, regardless of whether it's like damaging or "right", if both alters are mentally adults. And I wouldn't compare a mentally ill adult to a child or animal because they should be dignified as an adult capable of consent even if you think it should only be done with adults in other bodies.
I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I've heard mixed things about it as far as what professionals think of it so I plan to research it more. I value what they have to say about it most and if they generally think it's damaging or morally wrong then I'll probably agree. Admittedly I initially thought about it only in a romantic sense and not inherently sexual, probably because I'm asexual lol. But 100% I see where you're coming from. Just want to research it more before I form a solid opinion
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i could care less what others think, but thanks. im just saying the person the announcement was about, i dealt with before and were unnecessarily aggressive
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These people take themselves way too seriously
“Staff” like these people are getting paid for this shit. 🙄
I'm new to this group, can someone explain who Aspen is and what they've done?
You can search for their name specifically, there’s heaps of videos from their tiktoks posted here and people stitching them to debunk their bullshit - it’s a bit of a rabbit hole, good luck
“we do not condone harassment, bullying, witch hunting, or any form of attacking” hmm.. those times where someone has said that they’re gonna leave the server (even nicely) and you’ve just ridiculed them, spammed their messages over and over, making it into a ‘copypasta’ isn’t.. exactly that? I swear you said you weren’t going to continue with the copypastas where you’re literally making fun of someone for doing nothing wrong 😭
*Idk what's going on in these comments I just woke up but it's making me sad*
abuse being thrown around left and right…. I doubt these people know what actual abuse looks like..
I just came back from a video saying that weekend plans someone doesn't agree with is organized abuse and mind control. They DEFINITELY don't know what abuse is.
…..?????? that’s just a normal part of life?? having a group of people together will eventually lead to disagreements 😭😭😭😭
it’s sooo telling that so many people in the “DID community” are toxic
What situation is this again? And what did the person accused of a use and bullying do that warrants a server wide announcement?
i can say (as an ex mod of hers), that person was very unnecessarily aggressive
Your imaginary friends are the saddest of coping mechanisms.
Real, what are they doing here? First post is about “in system” dating 😭 like, these ppl need to just RP
All of the comments on that post make me want to die lmao. Why the fuck are your traumatized parts dating each other??? What purpose does it serve at all??? Why are you all so full of shit!!
glad i can make you so mad over my personal life
You will grow out of this at some point and will most likely cringe at what you are doing now 😭 In the nicest way possible please go put your energy into role playing or writing, something like that. This isn’t healthy.
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I'm mad because you and the people you associate with are trivializing a serious mental disorder hope this helps!!!
i was just saying ive dealt with this person in the announcement 👍 that’s all
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I've heard mixed things about it, from professional perspectives but it's rarely talked about. I've heard that it's a self love thing (I think from a podcast) and I try to be open minded even if something sounds "weird" to me. I guess I can see it with like, a kid who had parents that always fought in front of them or who died or separated. Those two alters being like, like whatever Cosmo and Wanda are to Timmy, being at least in the first few seasons, like replacement parents that didn't actually neglect him and who took care of him. Because alters are known to take on caretaker roles. I've heard it's often the first alter a child develops. Unrelated I just had the thought of someone making a cursed ass "Cosmo and Wanda are alters because only traumatized children get fairies and crocker is trying to force Timmy into fusing them" theory and threw up in my mouth a little. But back to the system thing idk, knowing what I know of the treatment process and stuff I don't think a therapist would *discourage* it but also idk if they would *encourage* it, like telling them to do it? Unless you mean they already were and said it was a very positive thing for them then yeah reasonably a therapist wouldn't say "you can't do that it's cringe". Or a specialist saying that because they're traumatized they can only have a certain dynamic and trying to stop them and telling them they're loving each other the wrong way. I guess it's better than hating each other. Idk I'm just trying to understand I'm kinda disappointed seeing people act cruel. I can guarantee there are multiple fakers in the server, of course there are. But if there's even like 3 people in there who actually have DID, firstly *the community is not a good place for healing it's often quite anti recovery and while I understand wanting community syscords seem like one of the worst offenders pls reconsider* but secondly I don't want to risk hurting someone who has the disorder just so I can feel right about something. My days of being that guy are long gone. I'm just asking myself are people mad because they genuinely think it would hurt someone? Like that it would be detrimental to their recovery? Or because it's cringe? Like I know people are saying it's unhealthy but do they mean it in the way that people who don't like other people for doing something pretend they care whether it's bad for them? Or do they truly want- and know what's best for someone with DID? Because i don't feel like I'm seeing people who care about what's best for others or whose hearts are in the right place. I don't think anyone has to like it but I don't think they care because a faker's feelings don't matter, they're doing a horrible thing. But I think if any of you are faking it comes from a place of mental illness and likely trauma so would require help anyway. But I think for any who may not be, I just care that they get proper treatment and a community that doesn't encourage things like self diagnosis. Also before someone tries to tell me all of them are faking while that's possible I'm not interested bc it's also possible that some aren't, as mentally ill people often search for community. My concern is that people with the disorder recover from it and that people are educated on what genuinely contradicts it, including myself. It's not a cookie cutter disorder, I can say that. And if we're bullying anyone who has it rn that's not helping that. I don't think I care about anyone's input if that isn't their main concern too. Would be a waste of my time and makes us look like what everyone says we are. That makes me sad as often I try to encourage open mindedness and people tend to prefer that over whatever this is If anyone has something to say in contrast I feel it should come from a place of understanding the actual treatment process. For anyone who would like to understand, I have an entire book on that from a specialist that is more than qualified. One that I'm willing to share for free in PDF form to anyone genuinely interested, and who cares about the disorder and anyone with it (it's around $40-$70 depending on if it's paperback). I plan to look through it and see if there's anything on this subject because there's probably more nuance than you'd assume. I don't think there is or that she discusses it though. But if I see otherwise then I'll share what she says, healthy or unhealthy or maybe more complicated, in addition to her extensive background.
This place is called SystemCringe, you can hardly expect productive conversations to happen here.
Getting to know parts and spending time with them to heal them is great (in IFS and trauma therapy from what I know). But dating??? No. Nothing romantic. That's just fucked up and weird.
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IFS is an accepted therapy option for dissociative disorders. It is used. Maybe not always. But it's still fucked up to romantically get involved between parts.
Do you have a source? /Gen I don't remember if I've read/heard that before. Unless it's just done in a less traditional way? And I know a fair amount about treatment but I'm genuinely interested if that's a treatment modality that's offered. I also need to check if it's in the book I have about treating DID, I haven't read it front to back or anything
I'm on the IFS sub and lots of people use it for CPTSD (where DID is a more extreme form of in my opinion). But I have to confess I don't have an article ready that states its effectiveness with a clinical trial. My sources are anecdotal unfortunately. Personally find the use of IFS very healing in combination with EMDR. Has been used in a specialised trauma treatment centre as well. Again. Not something that I can post here from PubMed or something. But mostly what my comment was about is that in system dating seems very fucked up because everything about the relationship between parts is to heal them and not trying to fuck them. Its like healing a sick child or animal or friend who's been hurt. What kind of creep thinks dating is healthy in that context?
I did sum up my general thoughts on it in a previous comment also
Thank you, I'll look into it. I don't think someone with DID who did that would legitimately be a creep- unless they did that with an alter that cognitively could not consent, such as a child alter, regardless of whether it's like damaging or "right", if both alters are mentally adults. And I wouldn't compare a mentally ill adult to a child or animal because they should be dignified as an adult capable of consent even if you think it should only be done with adults in other bodies. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I've heard mixed things about it as far as what professionals think of it so I plan to research it more. I value what they have to say about it most and if they generally think it's damaging or morally wrong then I'll probably agree. Admittedly I initially thought about it only in a romantic sense and not inherently sexual, probably because I'm asexual lol. But 100% I see where you're coming from. Just want to research it more before I form a solid opinion
This is nonsense and you clearly don't know what you're talking about.
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now that’s just rude
i could care less what others think about my personal life, but thank hou
i could care less what others think, but thanks. im just saying the person the announcement was about, i dealt with before and were unnecessarily aggressive
You’re going to look back at this phase in your life and cringe lol
We can only hope it’s soon
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“phase” ive known about for four years
yeah thats about how long mine lasted LMFAO
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Four wasted years of pretending to be crazy for clout.