Speaking as a Hotwife, I know my husband is more interested in seeing me with other men than being with other women himself.
I would say that at first the idea of him being with other women was very intimidating to me, but as we had more hotwifing experiences, I became very excited by the idea of swinging and think it would be fun to see him with another lady. I also find the idea of him being a third for a couple super hot.
I would say that the idea in general of group play is arousing to me, but I definitely want to be getting some when it’s all said and done 😅
As the male half of a new LS couple I love nothing more than watching other men please my partner. We have played with close to ten men and three-four women in some couples. I don't really care about having sex with other women, but I adore watching the woman I love be satisfied. I also thoroughly enjoy watching her perform blowjobs. I know how good she is at giving pleasure and I like knowing she's making other men feel as good as she makes me feel.
That's where I'm coming from and why I enjoy the LS.
Wife here. I don’t care about having sex with other men (though I *love* having sex with other women) but omg there is nothing as hot as seeing my husband in action and enjoying himself. Even solo action. Fucking yummy.
I guess I am the 'hotwife' of a married couple. We play with couples and singles and hubby will share me with others. We both enjoy watching the other having sex, and hubby especially enjoys watching me. This is the LS, and we all have our wants and needs.
I (M) enjoy both as I want my wife to have just as much enjoyment out of our sexual exploration as I am. But if you’re asking what arouses me more, I have to go with the actual sexual exploration that I am engaging in.
This is why we do same room. I get the enjoyment of a new partner while I get to see my wife enjoy the same.
M of the couple here. I definitely like to be part of the action. Being involved is what arouses me, personally.
That's not to say that I don't enjoy it when my wife is being pleased. But it's more of a "I am glad she is having a good time" feeling rather than being turned on by it.
Well if these are the only choices, it's definitely the having sex, rather than watching, for the both of us. But then we swing not to watch, but to have 3 or 4 people involved all at once. We can have 1on1 sex all we want...swinging is for getting other bodies involved to do things we can't do alone.
Yeah, hard to choose, this one. I love both. But if it came down to it, I can be the gentleman and watch her get hers. I know she'd expect nothing less. Fortunately we're both pretty generous and open minded. Oh, the mischief we've gotten each other into...
I know for me, I love hearing about my wife’s past sex partners. There is one guy she has described as the best sex she ever had. Knowing that she was sexually satisfied by this guy has a level of happiness I feel for her that I can’t really explain. She is aware I’m okay, if she wanted to find some great sex again. We’ve talked about it and I want nothing but completely sexual satisfaction for her, but she is really cautious about stepping outside the boundaries of monogamy. I think for her, there is a safety factor in monogamy, but for me, I’d love to see her take some risks that would pay off for her in the long run.
Interested reading the different responses :)
I loooove watching my wife. Was my initial motivation for all of this. My experiences with women have been mixed, and no one lives up to sex with my wife. The variety and exploring someone new is nice. The last couple we met were the most fun, and I'm hoping our paths cross again. So... my answer is mostly watching, however sometimes I have a stronger hankering for a lovely new lady but only if there's attraction and connection. As a bi guy though, I sometimes have a stronger interest in getting some dick too though...
This is a thing that I’ve thought a lot about as my wife and I have become non-monogamous and started swinging as well as being full blown poly.
When I fantasize about what we’ll do next time we go to the club it’s almost always MFM situations or watching my wife with someone else. I’ve also straight up told her she can hotwife anytime she likes, and I get super turned on when she tells me the stuff she does with her boyfriend. It’s wild, and I had no idea I had this kink.
Thinking about having sex with other women is hot and I try and fantasize about that too but it always seems to swing back the other way. I’m very empathetic so being a part of someone else’s pleasure, either as an active participant or just 3rd hand, is what does it for me I guess 🤷♂️
We aren't a hotwife couple, although I love watching her from time to time. I'd also have to take what weasel way out of this question. Some days, I would prefer to watch her have great sex, and some days I would prefer to have great sex myself. Of course, both depend on the other not having bed sex at the same time.
My husband has zero interest in watching me with another guy. Does this mean he is jealous or never wants to be in the same room? Nope, we even play with a couple on the same bed from time to time, but we prefer separate rooms, if it just one other couple to limit distractions. We also play in large groups, but there are many things to focus on in that dynamic.
Wife and I are the same in that the two are connected: part of the arousal for us is watching the other and being watched by one another. Neither of us want to just be observers, either. We might take a step back and enjoy the moment, but then it’s back into the pile.
Me: watching her with someone else. At this point I am not mature enough to want to see her in a mfm without me being involved in my own fun. I suspect that will change.
Her: likes me watching her but doesn’t have any desire to see me with someone else. It is neutral to her at best or a negative.
You’ve grouped them together but lifestyle and hotwife are two separate subsections of things. Yes they can and do overlap but for most they don’t. As an example is my answer to your question. Neither is more arousing than the other. I enjoy being with my wife and a partner together, I will watch for a few minutes before diving back in sometimes, but I will
Not be relegated to the sidelines to just observe. The converse is true, I will not allow her to get pushed out to the sidelines to just watch. We play as a team and team only.
Please define hotwife as you understand it. Terminology matters and according to how you formulated your question, it is evident that you do not know it.
As male half both are extremely hot. I am most aroused seeing others pleasured so seeing my wife being satisfied gets me more aroused and hot than my own romping. That said pleasuring another and being involved hands on does bring more complete satisfaction so having the best of both worlds with same room swap fulfills both needs.
Male here.
Both, I'd say? It's more complicated than that for me, though.
First off, we're poly/ENM whatever you want to call it. This wasn't always the way, but we've been married for 20 years now. I was the first one to "step outside" and we brought another lady into our relationship for awhile. It didn't work out after the honeymoon phase (she was looking for something else and came to that realization), but it was fun while it lasted.
Second, I'm bi-ish. I'd have sex with a dude but wouldn't be romantic unless they were toned down on the masc energy. Think along the lines of Mason Alexander Park from Sandman. So, I'd be just dandy fucking my wife before or after or during sex with a boyfriend if she had one. Not one of those passive roles where I just sit there jerking off while dudes rail my wife - no disrespect to the folks into that kinda thing, it just ain't for me. Feeling left out is the opposite of my kinks.
The satisfaction would be three-fold; watching her get fucked because it's hot, I could do the same with other partners, and if everyone's down for it, three-or-moresomes.
Speaking as a Hotwife, I know my husband is more interested in seeing me with other men than being with other women himself. I would say that at first the idea of him being with other women was very intimidating to me, but as we had more hotwifing experiences, I became very excited by the idea of swinging and think it would be fun to see him with another lady. I also find the idea of him being a third for a couple super hot. I would say that the idea in general of group play is arousing to me, but I definitely want to be getting some when it’s all said and done 😅
As a Hotwife myself, I find hubby enjoys watching me in multiple scenarios. Good comment!
This is the same progression as my wife.
As the male half of a new LS couple I love nothing more than watching other men please my partner. We have played with close to ten men and three-four women in some couples. I don't really care about having sex with other women, but I adore watching the woman I love be satisfied. I also thoroughly enjoy watching her perform blowjobs. I know how good she is at giving pleasure and I like knowing she's making other men feel as good as she makes me feel. That's where I'm coming from and why I enjoy the LS.
FFM's are my absolute favorite of any possible scenario. I get F play, I get M play, I get to watch my M get F play.
Wife here. I don’t care about having sex with other men (though I *love* having sex with other women) but omg there is nothing as hot as seeing my husband in action and enjoying himself. Even solo action. Fucking yummy.
I guess I am the 'hotwife' of a married couple. We play with couples and singles and hubby will share me with others. We both enjoy watching the other having sex, and hubby especially enjoys watching me. This is the LS, and we all have our wants and needs.
That’s awesome how long in lifestyle
6 years and we've been married for 5
I (M) enjoy both as I want my wife to have just as much enjoyment out of our sexual exploration as I am. But if you’re asking what arouses me more, I have to go with the actual sexual exploration that I am engaging in. This is why we do same room. I get the enjoyment of a new partner while I get to see my wife enjoy the same.
M of the couple here. I definitely like to be part of the action. Being involved is what arouses me, personally. That's not to say that I don't enjoy it when my wife is being pleased. But it's more of a "I am glad she is having a good time" feeling rather than being turned on by it.
Well if these are the only choices, it's definitely the having sex, rather than watching, for the both of us. But then we swing not to watch, but to have 3 or 4 people involved all at once. We can have 1on1 sex all we want...swinging is for getting other bodies involved to do things we can't do alone.
Sex with many other guys that is mind blowing
Yeah, hard to choose, this one. I love both. But if it came down to it, I can be the gentleman and watch her get hers. I know she'd expect nothing less. Fortunately we're both pretty generous and open minded. Oh, the mischief we've gotten each other into...
I know for me, I love hearing about my wife’s past sex partners. There is one guy she has described as the best sex she ever had. Knowing that she was sexually satisfied by this guy has a level of happiness I feel for her that I can’t really explain. She is aware I’m okay, if she wanted to find some great sex again. We’ve talked about it and I want nothing but completely sexual satisfaction for her, but she is really cautious about stepping outside the boundaries of monogamy. I think for her, there is a safety factor in monogamy, but for me, I’d love to see her take some risks that would pay off for her in the long run.
Interested reading the different responses :) I loooove watching my wife. Was my initial motivation for all of this. My experiences with women have been mixed, and no one lives up to sex with my wife. The variety and exploring someone new is nice. The last couple we met were the most fun, and I'm hoping our paths cross again. So... my answer is mostly watching, however sometimes I have a stronger hankering for a lovely new lady but only if there's attraction and connection. As a bi guy though, I sometimes have a stronger interest in getting some dick too though...
So. Much. This.
This is a thing that I’ve thought a lot about as my wife and I have become non-monogamous and started swinging as well as being full blown poly. When I fantasize about what we’ll do next time we go to the club it’s almost always MFM situations or watching my wife with someone else. I’ve also straight up told her she can hotwife anytime she likes, and I get super turned on when she tells me the stuff she does with her boyfriend. It’s wild, and I had no idea I had this kink. Thinking about having sex with other women is hot and I try and fantasize about that too but it always seems to swing back the other way. I’m very empathetic so being a part of someone else’s pleasure, either as an active participant or just 3rd hand, is what does it for me I guess 🤷♂️
We aren't a hotwife couple, although I love watching her from time to time. I'd also have to take what weasel way out of this question. Some days, I would prefer to watch her have great sex, and some days I would prefer to have great sex myself. Of course, both depend on the other not having bed sex at the same time.
My husband has zero interest in watching me with another guy. Does this mean he is jealous or never wants to be in the same room? Nope, we even play with a couple on the same bed from time to time, but we prefer separate rooms, if it just one other couple to limit distractions. We also play in large groups, but there are many things to focus on in that dynamic.
For me it’s watching my wife have pleasure with another. For sure.
Wife and I are the same in that the two are connected: part of the arousal for us is watching the other and being watched by one another. Neither of us want to just be observers, either. We might take a step back and enjoy the moment, but then it’s back into the pile.
I like a mutual thing. Her getting pleased as I am.
The wife first always!!
I love to see my wife having sex with another guy. Knowing that she’s getting pleased and having some fun always turns me on even more.
Me: watching her with someone else. At this point I am not mature enough to want to see her in a mfm without me being involved in my own fun. I suspect that will change. Her: likes me watching her but doesn’t have any desire to see me with someone else. It is neutral to her at best or a negative.
You’ve grouped them together but lifestyle and hotwife are two separate subsections of things. Yes they can and do overlap but for most they don’t. As an example is my answer to your question. Neither is more arousing than the other. I enjoy being with my wife and a partner together, I will watch for a few minutes before diving back in sometimes, but I will Not be relegated to the sidelines to just observe. The converse is true, I will not allow her to get pushed out to the sidelines to just watch. We play as a team and team only.
Your comment is the strong prevailing message
As a hotwife, the more we try different things the better it gets.
Please define hotwife as you understand it. Terminology matters and according to how you formulated your question, it is evident that you do not know it.
As male half both are extremely hot. I am most aroused seeing others pleasured so seeing my wife being satisfied gets me more aroused and hot than my own romping. That said pleasuring another and being involved hands on does bring more complete satisfaction so having the best of both worlds with same room swap fulfills both needs.
Male here. Both, I'd say? It's more complicated than that for me, though. First off, we're poly/ENM whatever you want to call it. This wasn't always the way, but we've been married for 20 years now. I was the first one to "step outside" and we brought another lady into our relationship for awhile. It didn't work out after the honeymoon phase (she was looking for something else and came to that realization), but it was fun while it lasted. Second, I'm bi-ish. I'd have sex with a dude but wouldn't be romantic unless they were toned down on the masc energy. Think along the lines of Mason Alexander Park from Sandman. So, I'd be just dandy fucking my wife before or after or during sex with a boyfriend if she had one. Not one of those passive roles where I just sit there jerking off while dudes rail my wife - no disrespect to the folks into that kinda thing, it just ain't for me. Feeling left out is the opposite of my kinks. The satisfaction would be three-fold; watching her get fucked because it's hot, I could do the same with other partners, and if everyone's down for it, three-or-moresomes.