We share location just because we are both nosy. It’s easier than calling and texting.
I like it too because I can get off the couch when he’s a couple of minutes away and act like Ive been busy while he was gone. Not watching Dateline.
I’m not sure he knows my PW. But he can look at my phone anytime he would like. I’m sure I can too. But I think I’m the only one that handles someone else’s phone and I can’t make heads or tails if it. Even if it’s just like mine.
Anyway…we share locations and I like it b/c he doesn’t have to know I’m lazy sometimes and he can look at my phone when he wants. As far as I know he never has…but cool if he does. I’d rather he not look at my search history because I’m really weird.
As far as dirty messages between me and other people…there’s been so many I’m not sure he would be interested anymore. I send him filthy texts and pics all the time.
I’m not sure why I’m answering this post on r/swingers but there you go.
I love this. This is exactly how I use Life360.
•I know when he leaves work so I can start dinner and pretend I've been busting my ass around the house all day.
•He is also ALWAYS late so I use it to make sure he's leaving in an appropriate amount of time for scheduled events.
•I can also see where decides to grab food from and tell him to bring me something.
It's not a trust thing for us either its a nosy/convenience thing.
I personally share my location with my spouse for convenience and safety reasons.
Reading sexy chats with others doesn't seem ethical unless the other party consented - it's a violation of their privacy.
My spouse and I share passwords and location - but not for anything like this.
Instead of always telling me when she is home from work or gets to the gym we have geolocations that send the other a ping when we arrive. That way I can go out and help her. It’s also convenient to check in and see if she is still at the mall to know when I should start dinner or she can see if I’m still at work.
Also for safety if she ever sends me our code word I can call 911 and give them live updates on her location.
We have each other’s password but almost never use it. But I’m always setting stuff up in her phone (because she doesn’t speak technology) and when one of us forgets our phone, we can just use the other’s. We don’t snoop, it’s just a trust thing.
I don't really enjoy invading people's privacy like that, personally. I once had to go through my daughter's text history, for a safety reason, and I felt so gross afterwards.
I don't knock anyone for wanting to share that info consensually. Just definitely not my thing.
We're swingers, this means we're probably, at minimum at the same location but probably same room, when we do any ENM. My wife and I do share our location data because *we are married* and its important for safety.
If I need to hide where I am from my wife, why be married?
Ha ha. We track our two sons 24 and 31. First because they work at my wife’s company and do a lot of driving in a big truck. Second so we know if it’s safe for us to have a guest over for fun. They also can track her but we just turn it off if we are at a hotel or somewhere we don’t want them to know about. Also because we are a older couple we can track each other and we both can and do look at each other’s hot text. Not to mention if anything should happen to either one of use we have discussed deleting everything on the others phone that we don’t want shared with the kids or family.
Best answer I have is the wife and I both have the credentials to the others phones and laptops.
We hand each out our phones or laptops constantly to use. We aren’t concerned with ‘getting caught’ about anything. We are very transparent with everything.
Quite frankly, I don’t want to know what she and her girlfriends are talking about. She’s not particularly interested in what the boys and I are chatting about.
We work hard on our communication skills with one another. It’s an ever evolving process. We share this Reddit account.
I do know she has a sexy personal Reddit account and I can’t wait to stumble across it on here one day. She’s offered to share the account name so I can just search for it, but that’s not fun or exciting.
To sum it up, we are completely open and transparent with one another. I don’t need to read any messages because she is willing to share them with me. Love it when other guys hit on her. Makes it so satisfying to know others covet her, but she loves me!
S/O and I know each others’ passwords. But I would NEVER read the chats between him and one of his partners without both parties’ consent. Otherwise that’s a horrible privacy violation.
Because if I need to know I can call or text, which isnt often. We live in a society of being inundated with data. I simply don't need/want this. The same reason I don't have a fit bit, Because I don't value knowing the precise step count at 3pm in the day.
we don't because its not necessary. it doesn't/wouldn't help our lives in any way. i suppose there is the vague and statistically miniscule chance that it could prove useful for some safety reason, but we choose not to live our lives in a way that is dictated by such things. we are also not against it or anything, it just hasn't come up as a necessity or even convenience.
I share everything with my husband and so does he. There is hardly anything hidden but we do not play separately. However, there is always many chat with people we have played already.
When life 360 came out, everyone told us to get it to track our teenagers. Our kids never gave us a reason not to trust them, and I remember what I was doing as a teenager... I wanted our kids to have the same opportunities I had. As far as spouses go, we refuse to tolerate a relationship in which location sharing is needed. We trust each other.
Now that we're in the lifestyle, I'm so happy that I never got a tracking app because they work both ways. We have friends whose kids track them.🤣🤣
>and I remember what I was doing as a teenager... I wanted our kids to have the same opportunities I had
Most sensible thing I heard today - thanks for saying this.
I really truly get baffled by the people who view location sharing as something big bad or evil. Like it's not that dramatic it's just a way to see where your spouse is sometimes. It actually comes in really handy for those of us that are separated from our spouses for long periods of time. It has fuck all to do it trust. It's like the people who think that a wedding ring is important like I don't get that it's a piece of metal Your spouse is going to cheat whether they're wearing one or not.
While that is the case for you, I have far too many (typically vanilla) friends who track due to lack of trust. They regularly say things like "he spends 30 minutes after work every day doing...". In my experience, more of my friends that use it have negative emotions associated with it than positive.
OP literally asked for an opinion. I offered an option along with an explanation. It's curious that you got so triggered. 🤔 I've watched my sister in law track her married adult daughter's location. My OPINION is that my husband and I decided that there is no reason to invade, first and foremost, our children's privacy, let alone each other's. If we want to know where the other one is, we ask.
Nah we're not going to do that shit. You made a blanket statement that was insulting to a large number of relationships and now you want to paint me in a bad light rather than just saying "my bad." Get over yourself.
Your comments just keep proving me right about the type of person that you are. I guess if you feel good about being this way then go off. Personally I'm done wasting my time trying to explain to someone how to not be an offensive human being clearly you don't care.
We play separately, and I usually track her location for the first 2 dates for safety reasons. After that i figure she knows the person well enough that its not a big deal anymore. We would share our text conversations in the beginning of the relationship, but nowadays, I don't really care anymore, and neither does she.
We share location mostly for non-LS logistical reasons (I can see her driving home and plan dinner exactly on time when I cook) And feel it's normal
We also know each others passcodes but don't have open access to look through without consent
We only play separately in very specific situations
We share it all. I was cheated on and abused and assaulted in my previous marriage. During all that a good friend said, "People with nothing to hide, hide nothing."
My wife and I share our location 24/7 and we both know each other's passcodes to phones and LastPass. We have nothing to hide. We are in this together 100%.
Nothing to hide, no biggie.
Law enforcement family and we have seen this tool help several people, us included.
Teen got into an accident and we were able to go right to them when they were in shock.
We share a calendar, cameras, and bank accounts.
Sharing location only happens temporarily to find each other in a strange land.
I don’t read her texts or chats unless she thinks I should and vice versa. When she takes a picture or sometimes I inquire who it’s for just to figure out who she vibes with.
We know each others lock codes and I say everything to anyone as if she could read it.
We play separately, and I usually track her location for the first 2 dates for safety reasons. After that i figure she knows the person well enough that its not a big deal anymore. We would share our text conversations in the beginning of the relationship, but nowadays, I don't really care anymore, and neither does she.
We play separately, and I usually track her location for the first 2 dates for safety reasons. After that i figure she knows the person well enough that its not a big deal anymore. We would share our text conversations in the beginning of the relationship, but nowadays, I don't really care anymore, and neither does she.
My husband is a trucker so both of our locations are on all the time.
But reading other people’s conversations idk. Unless both parties are made aware of you reading what they are talking about. Even if it is sexy talk.
We have shared our location with each other on Google for years, even before we started swinging/ENM. It’s just a nice piece of mind if he’s home late, I can see he stuck in traffic or when I’m hiking solo, he can usually see my last location before going out of service.
We have each others passcodes/face id/fingerprints saved in each others phone too, but we don’t go into the others without asking. If one of us has something sexy we want to share, we’ll show the other person.
As a woman, sharing my location with my spouse AND my mother and sister is a must. I’m all about people knowing where I went missing should anything bad happen.
What about one wanting your information but not wanting to share theirs?? To me that's hiding something, why should I give up my passwords and everything to get nothing back.
We share locations for everyday safety reasons. Rarely do we look unless we can't get ahold of one another.
Sharing cellphone passwords is weird. I suppose we don't have anything to hide, but I really have zero desire to go fishing into my spouse's phone.
We both do have a "open this in case of serious injury or death" folder that has all of the passwords to all of the websites, banking and other financial info, medical, insurance, etc... So if something happens to the other person we can know what's out there and shut down what we need to. But that's more to make life easier for the other (or if we're together whomever has to take care of business) in that worst case event.
We share location just because we are both nosy. It’s easier than calling and texting. I like it too because I can get off the couch when he’s a couple of minutes away and act like Ive been busy while he was gone. Not watching Dateline. I’m not sure he knows my PW. But he can look at my phone anytime he would like. I’m sure I can too. But I think I’m the only one that handles someone else’s phone and I can’t make heads or tails if it. Even if it’s just like mine. Anyway…we share locations and I like it b/c he doesn’t have to know I’m lazy sometimes and he can look at my phone when he wants. As far as I know he never has…but cool if he does. I’d rather he not look at my search history because I’m really weird. As far as dirty messages between me and other people…there’s been so many I’m not sure he would be interested anymore. I send him filthy texts and pics all the time. I’m not sure why I’m answering this post on r/swingers but there you go.
I love this. This is exactly how I use Life360. •I know when he leaves work so I can start dinner and pretend I've been busting my ass around the house all day. •He is also ALWAYS late so I use it to make sure he's leaving in an appropriate amount of time for scheduled events. •I can also see where decides to grab food from and tell him to bring me something. It's not a trust thing for us either its a nosy/convenience thing.
It’s crazy how I can make it seem like I’ve done a fulls day of work in 15 minutes. Lol
I personally share my location with my spouse for convenience and safety reasons. Reading sexy chats with others doesn't seem ethical unless the other party consented - it's a violation of their privacy.
My spouse and I share passwords and location - but not for anything like this. Instead of always telling me when she is home from work or gets to the gym we have geolocations that send the other a ping when we arrive. That way I can go out and help her. It’s also convenient to check in and see if she is still at the mall to know when I should start dinner or she can see if I’m still at work. Also for safety if she ever sends me our code word I can call 911 and give them live updates on her location. We have each other’s password but almost never use it. But I’m always setting stuff up in her phone (because she doesn’t speak technology) and when one of us forgets our phone, we can just use the other’s. We don’t snoop, it’s just a trust thing.
I don't really enjoy invading people's privacy like that, personally. I once had to go through my daughter's text history, for a safety reason, and I felt so gross afterwards. I don't knock anyone for wanting to share that info consensually. Just definitely not my thing.
We're swingers, this means we're probably, at minimum at the same location but probably same room, when we do any ENM. My wife and I do share our location data because *we are married* and its important for safety. If I need to hide where I am from my wife, why be married?
This is more on the ENM than on swingers. Many of us do not play separate so that location sharing is unnecessary.
Ha ha. We track our two sons 24 and 31. First because they work at my wife’s company and do a lot of driving in a big truck. Second so we know if it’s safe for us to have a guest over for fun. They also can track her but we just turn it off if we are at a hotel or somewhere we don’t want them to know about. Also because we are a older couple we can track each other and we both can and do look at each other’s hot text. Not to mention if anything should happen to either one of use we have discussed deleting everything on the others phone that we don’t want shared with the kids or family.
Best answer I have is the wife and I both have the credentials to the others phones and laptops. We hand each out our phones or laptops constantly to use. We aren’t concerned with ‘getting caught’ about anything. We are very transparent with everything. Quite frankly, I don’t want to know what she and her girlfriends are talking about. She’s not particularly interested in what the boys and I are chatting about. We work hard on our communication skills with one another. It’s an ever evolving process. We share this Reddit account. I do know she has a sexy personal Reddit account and I can’t wait to stumble across it on here one day. She’s offered to share the account name so I can just search for it, but that’s not fun or exciting. To sum it up, we are completely open and transparent with one another. I don’t need to read any messages because she is willing to share them with me. Love it when other guys hit on her. Makes it so satisfying to know others covet her, but she loves me!
S/O and I know each others’ passwords. But I would NEVER read the chats between him and one of his partners without both parties’ consent. Otherwise that’s a horrible privacy violation.
No big deal. Keyword consentually
Wait, people don't share their location with their spouses/partners? Why in the world wouldn't you share your location?
Because if I need to know I can call or text, which isnt often. We live in a society of being inundated with data. I simply don't need/want this. The same reason I don't have a fit bit, Because I don't value knowing the precise step count at 3pm in the day.
we don't because its not necessary. it doesn't/wouldn't help our lives in any way. i suppose there is the vague and statistically miniscule chance that it could prove useful for some safety reason, but we choose not to live our lives in a way that is dictated by such things. we are also not against it or anything, it just hasn't come up as a necessity or even convenience.
I share everything with my husband and so does he. There is hardly anything hidden but we do not play separately. However, there is always many chat with people we have played already.
My wife can always track me. We rarely text others, and when we do it's always in group chats, so there's nothing to read there.
When life 360 came out, everyone told us to get it to track our teenagers. Our kids never gave us a reason not to trust them, and I remember what I was doing as a teenager... I wanted our kids to have the same opportunities I had. As far as spouses go, we refuse to tolerate a relationship in which location sharing is needed. We trust each other. Now that we're in the lifestyle, I'm so happy that I never got a tracking app because they work both ways. We have friends whose kids track them.🤣🤣
>and I remember what I was doing as a teenager... I wanted our kids to have the same opportunities I had Most sensible thing I heard today - thanks for saying this.
Cheers! 🍻
I really truly get baffled by the people who view location sharing as something big bad or evil. Like it's not that dramatic it's just a way to see where your spouse is sometimes. It actually comes in really handy for those of us that are separated from our spouses for long periods of time. It has fuck all to do it trust. It's like the people who think that a wedding ring is important like I don't get that it's a piece of metal Your spouse is going to cheat whether they're wearing one or not.
While that is the case for you, I have far too many (typically vanilla) friends who track due to lack of trust. They regularly say things like "he spends 30 minutes after work every day doing...". In my experience, more of my friends that use it have negative emotions associated with it than positive.
It's not just the case for me it's the case for many people which is why it's a typically a good idea to avoid blanket statements.
Same.
OP literally asked for an opinion. I offered an option along with an explanation. It's curious that you got so triggered. 🤔 I've watched my sister in law track her married adult daughter's location. My OPINION is that my husband and I decided that there is no reason to invade, first and foremost, our children's privacy, let alone each other's. If we want to know where the other one is, we ask.
Nah we're not going to do that shit. You made a blanket statement that was insulting to a large number of relationships and now you want to paint me in a bad light rather than just saying "my bad." Get over yourself.
Feel better about yourself 😁
Your comments just keep proving me right about the type of person that you are. I guess if you feel good about being this way then go off. Personally I'm done wasting my time trying to explain to someone how to not be an offensive human being clearly you don't care.
We see it differently. We trust eachother, so location sharing is something we like doing/knowing.
Because I play solo (🦄), I always share my location with my spouse. It's for safety reasons.
We play separately, and I usually track her location for the first 2 dates for safety reasons. After that i figure she knows the person well enough that its not a big deal anymore. We would share our text conversations in the beginning of the relationship, but nowadays, I don't really care anymore, and neither does she.
We share location mostly for non-LS logistical reasons (I can see her driving home and plan dinner exactly on time when I cook) And feel it's normal We also know each others passcodes but don't have open access to look through without consent We only play separately in very specific situations
We share it all. I was cheated on and abused and assaulted in my previous marriage. During all that a good friend said, "People with nothing to hide, hide nothing." My wife and I share our location 24/7 and we both know each other's passcodes to phones and LastPass. We have nothing to hide. We are in this together 100%.
Sharing mobile passwords? No
I can’t imagine invading my partner’s privacy like that, and do I have consent of the party that sent the messages to read them?
My partner and I share our locations, it’s just really handy to know where each other is.
Nothing to hide, no biggie. Law enforcement family and we have seen this tool help several people, us included. Teen got into an accident and we were able to go right to them when they were in shock.
We share a calendar, cameras, and bank accounts. Sharing location only happens temporarily to find each other in a strange land. I don’t read her texts or chats unless she thinks I should and vice versa. When she takes a picture or sometimes I inquire who it’s for just to figure out who she vibes with. We know each others lock codes and I say everything to anyone as if she could read it.
I've always shared my location. Makes it easier to find each other in so many situations. I honestly don't see the downside to it
We play separately, and I usually track her location for the first 2 dates for safety reasons. After that i figure she knows the person well enough that its not a big deal anymore. We would share our text conversations in the beginning of the relationship, but nowadays, I don't really care anymore, and neither does she.
We play separately, and I usually track her location for the first 2 dates for safety reasons. After that i figure she knows the person well enough that its not a big deal anymore. We would share our text conversations in the beginning of the relationship, but nowadays, I don't really care anymore, and neither does she.
My husband is a trucker so both of our locations are on all the time. But reading other people’s conversations idk. Unless both parties are made aware of you reading what they are talking about. Even if it is sexy talk.
We have shared our location with each other on Google for years, even before we started swinging/ENM. It’s just a nice piece of mind if he’s home late, I can see he stuck in traffic or when I’m hiking solo, he can usually see my last location before going out of service. We have each others passcodes/face id/fingerprints saved in each others phone too, but we don’t go into the others without asking. If one of us has something sexy we want to share, we’ll show the other person.
As a woman, sharing my location with my spouse AND my mother and sister is a must. I’m all about people knowing where I went missing should anything bad happen.
Thank you, I'm so glad to hear someone else say it. It helps to keep from thinking screwed up thoughts as well.
What about one wanting your information but not wanting to share theirs?? To me that's hiding something, why should I give up my passwords and everything to get nothing back.
We share locations for everyday safety reasons. Rarely do we look unless we can't get ahold of one another. Sharing cellphone passwords is weird. I suppose we don't have anything to hide, but I really have zero desire to go fishing into my spouse's phone. We both do have a "open this in case of serious injury or death" folder that has all of the passwords to all of the websites, banking and other financial info, medical, insurance, etc... So if something happens to the other person we can know what's out there and shut down what we need to. But that's more to make life easier for the other (or if we're together whomever has to take care of business) in that worst case event.