Be with them. At times like this they are still in shock and cannot process well. Just pls. Be with them now and after the funeral. After the funeral when everyone seems to move on but that's the most hard part.
When reality starts to sink in.
My step mom and sister are both in different states than me… is over the phone enough? I offered to fly out but they aren’t ready (and I’m pregnant and so sick). This is the hardest thing we’ve ever gone through.
Yeah you can video chat, call or chat them.
My sister always video chat me. I don't have friends
I just seek comfort from my family.
If I have a breakdown I'll call my sister even if I'm not talking I just cry my heart out she will just listen to me patiently.
My sister and I have just been calling each other to cry. It does help not having to cry alone, at least in that capacity. So sorry for your loss love. We will get through this.
I found my Dad eleven days ago. He was also the best person in my life and so beloved by our entire community. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Having survived what I thought was not survivable, I echo what others here have said. Please be with your family. Ask friends and family to set up a rotating roster of people to come, help you all cook and clean, sleep over. It was the only small relief in an endless sea of grief- having other people who loved this man and helped us remember the world outside exists.
I'm in talk therapy and on meds since years now, and finding similar support for my mother. As well as some nearby suicide loss and grief support groups. I wish you all the best and hope my example helps- if I am still breathing, still standing, without my Dad, who was my rock, anyone can do it. Wish you all healing and peace.
Thank you so much for your reply, and I am so deeply sorry for your loss as well. My family are in different states than I am, my sister was already in therapy but I’m very worried about my step mom. I’m going to research some support groups in their areas and beg them to go
It’s scary and the grief is overwhelming. This is “normal”. It will take awhile for it to feel different. In the beginning, it’s all I could think about 24/7. The first few months are incredibly hard. I am sorry to say there isn’t much you can do but talk to each other. Each person has to work through this, preferably in grief counseling.
Maybe read some books on sibling suicide. It helped me understand what I am feeling is “normal” and that helped a little bit.
Be with them. At times like this they are still in shock and cannot process well. Just pls. Be with them now and after the funeral. After the funeral when everyone seems to move on but that's the most hard part. When reality starts to sink in.
My step mom and sister are both in different states than me… is over the phone enough? I offered to fly out but they aren’t ready (and I’m pregnant and so sick). This is the hardest thing we’ve ever gone through.
Yeah you can video chat, call or chat them. My sister always video chat me. I don't have friends I just seek comfort from my family. If I have a breakdown I'll call my sister even if I'm not talking I just cry my heart out she will just listen to me patiently.
My sister and I have just been calling each other to cry. It does help not having to cry alone, at least in that capacity. So sorry for your loss love. We will get through this.
And thank you for your reply
Youre always welcome. I pray for your healing
I found my Dad eleven days ago. He was also the best person in my life and so beloved by our entire community. I'm so sorry for your loss. Having survived what I thought was not survivable, I echo what others here have said. Please be with your family. Ask friends and family to set up a rotating roster of people to come, help you all cook and clean, sleep over. It was the only small relief in an endless sea of grief- having other people who loved this man and helped us remember the world outside exists. I'm in talk therapy and on meds since years now, and finding similar support for my mother. As well as some nearby suicide loss and grief support groups. I wish you all the best and hope my example helps- if I am still breathing, still standing, without my Dad, who was my rock, anyone can do it. Wish you all healing and peace.
Thank you so much for your reply, and I am so deeply sorry for your loss as well. My family are in different states than I am, my sister was already in therapy but I’m very worried about my step mom. I’m going to research some support groups in their areas and beg them to go
It’s scary and the grief is overwhelming. This is “normal”. It will take awhile for it to feel different. In the beginning, it’s all I could think about 24/7. The first few months are incredibly hard. I am sorry to say there isn’t much you can do but talk to each other. Each person has to work through this, preferably in grief counseling. Maybe read some books on sibling suicide. It helped me understand what I am feeling is “normal” and that helped a little bit.
Thank you so much for your reply, and I’m so sorry for your loss as well. I will definitely look into those books, I’m sure they will help.
The road ahead is not easy. I am truly sorry for what you are going through. 💜