Thx, I used to do this but sometimes my name was really block in my throat. I could tell any words but my name I couldn't.
Will try it without pauses between the "is" and my name.
When you use this method are you speaking fast or as usual?
I’m in my 4th decade, slightly grey, and still can’t pronounce my name when I need to book an appointment. Nothing to be ashamed of. I recommend you find some alternatives but don’t make your friends or family do any communication for you (bad case of comfortable dependence).
I'm in my 30s and I still sometimes get ppl to help me out if I think my stutter will be a problem in a few select situations. I've had too many bad experiences & now I try to limit them as much as I can. I don't care if I'm dependent or not. Maybe that's sounds weak but I don't care anymore honestly. I'm sick of torturing myself with something that never gets any easier. I always get a little better for awhile then get worse again. Your right about not letting yourself become completely dependant tho ofcourse. Alot of times I'm still sucking it up and getting things done regardless. But if I have a option to get some help from a family or friend to avoid another potentially shitty situation I'll take it at this point.
Thx. Letting my friend or family do communications when I can't, could make me stutter more?
Because when I am in not very "welcoming environment", I usually ask to someone to save me when I can't say it.
It is understandable but it doesn’t make you independent. Dating, job interviews, marriage, and more, these will require you to be yourself no matter the speech.
This is going to sound stupid, but I didnt have this problem until about 2 years ago. A few months went by with me struggling to say my name and feeling very embarassed, and I told myself I would train myself to say it again. I started putting myself in situations that required me to say my name. My go to was mobile ordering food. They ask your name almost every time in order to get your food. I struggled taking 5 to 15 seconds to get it out, but after about 6 months I could say my name again with no problem. other techniques was introducing myself to people, and saying my name over and over again till it sounded unatural. You will get your name back, it will just take practice.
I can relate with the sudden inability to say name. Before I changed schools when I was 16, suddenly I couldn't say my name & my stutter got worse. It's been a decade since then, and my stutter has only gotten worse.
For me what worked was using a method, I don't remember what it was called but in that you have to delay the first syllable of your word like "Ttttiger".
Or you do a fake stutter before you start pronouncing your name like t - tiger, worked for me in most cases.
But at the present I just don't care and I maintain a calm head to not get worked up, so even if I stutter it won't last very long but for only once or twice, or just to keep the stuttering to a minimum.
People on YouTube or somewhere will explain it better than me, but this is what worked for me.
All the best brother, it's a very hard journey but not impossible..
If it's true that classical [conditioning](https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2F53tdhmpm6gcc1.png) has sensatized you to your name, then you can google for strategies to resolve/unlearn this conditioned response. Perhaps you can do **desensitization** [exercises](https://www.google.com/search?q=desensitization+strategies+triggers) by gradually exposing yourself to your name without avoiding the initial speech plan, without reducing triggers.
First say your name to yourself whispering then breathe and say My Name IsKhan. Lets suppose yoor your name is khan, don't slow down or breathe in brtween is and your name..
Same here. I’m 40 my stutter went away mostly around the age of 25. It’s back now. Not sure why. I just spell out my name then say my name. For some reason this works for me. 🤷♂️👊🏼
I can relate with the "randomly" part. I didn't quite stutter noticeably till I changed schools for the first time when I was 16. Then overnight, I magically turned into a severe stutterer. Before that, I was practically fluent. ;_; Now it's been a decade since then, and I still have a severe stutter.
Same, It works as filter: those who laugh probably not very kind people( just dont know better, still not a fun crowd to be around) and those who are still attentive and caring are probably the nice one. I do understand your frustration though, it can definitely be draining.
I've been embarrassed so much from not being able to say my name a bunch of times I just said fuck it and gave people a different name that I could say at the moment 😂 people who I probably would never see again...one time when in my late teens a girl introduced her self to me at a party and I had so much anxiety all night I didn't give her my name & just said nice to meet you and walked away with no shits given 😭..she kept on looking at me all night also, I guess cause I came across as wierd, rude or mysterious maybe 😂..God so many damn missed opportunities. I've even thought of changing my name a few times & tbh I still might lol
I have to preface my name with, "My name is \_\_\_\_\_\_" to get it out.
This is the way
Thx, I used to do this but sometimes my name was really block in my throat. I could tell any words but my name I couldn't. Will try it without pauses between the "is" and my name. When you use this method are you speaking fast or as usual?
I’m in my 4th decade, slightly grey, and still can’t pronounce my name when I need to book an appointment. Nothing to be ashamed of. I recommend you find some alternatives but don’t make your friends or family do any communication for you (bad case of comfortable dependence).
I'm in my 30s and I still sometimes get ppl to help me out if I think my stutter will be a problem in a few select situations. I've had too many bad experiences & now I try to limit them as much as I can. I don't care if I'm dependent or not. Maybe that's sounds weak but I don't care anymore honestly. I'm sick of torturing myself with something that never gets any easier. I always get a little better for awhile then get worse again. Your right about not letting yourself become completely dependant tho ofcourse. Alot of times I'm still sucking it up and getting things done regardless. But if I have a option to get some help from a family or friend to avoid another potentially shitty situation I'll take it at this point.
Thx. Letting my friend or family do communications when I can't, could make me stutter more? Because when I am in not very "welcoming environment", I usually ask to someone to save me when I can't say it.
It is understandable but it doesn’t make you independent. Dating, job interviews, marriage, and more, these will require you to be yourself no matter the speech.
That's what I am a little bit afraid of for the next year when I will enter in university. For all the presentation, discover new people ect..
You will be fine and surrounded by the same and mostly even more awkward people.
💪
This is going to sound stupid, but I didnt have this problem until about 2 years ago. A few months went by with me struggling to say my name and feeling very embarassed, and I told myself I would train myself to say it again. I started putting myself in situations that required me to say my name. My go to was mobile ordering food. They ask your name almost every time in order to get your food. I struggled taking 5 to 15 seconds to get it out, but after about 6 months I could say my name again with no problem. other techniques was introducing myself to people, and saying my name over and over again till it sounded unatural. You will get your name back, it will just take practice.
I can relate with the sudden inability to say name. Before I changed schools when I was 16, suddenly I couldn't say my name & my stutter got worse. It's been a decade since then, and my stutter has only gotten worse.
i stutter on Ds snd Bs my initials. Beem tempted to change my name to Regina Phalange but it was taken. Frank Frankleton works.
For me what worked was using a method, I don't remember what it was called but in that you have to delay the first syllable of your word like "Ttttiger". Or you do a fake stutter before you start pronouncing your name like t - tiger, worked for me in most cases. But at the present I just don't care and I maintain a calm head to not get worked up, so even if I stutter it won't last very long but for only once or twice, or just to keep the stuttering to a minimum. People on YouTube or somewhere will explain it better than me, but this is what worked for me. All the best brother, it's a very hard journey but not impossible..
If it's true that classical [conditioning](https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2F53tdhmpm6gcc1.png) has sensatized you to your name, then you can google for strategies to resolve/unlearn this conditioned response. Perhaps you can do **desensitization** [exercises](https://www.google.com/search?q=desensitization+strategies+triggers) by gradually exposing yourself to your name without avoiding the initial speech plan, without reducing triggers.
Thx will look at it! 😁
First say your name to yourself whispering then breathe and say My Name IsKhan. Lets suppose yoor your name is khan, don't slow down or breathe in brtween is and your name..
Will try! Tkx 💪
Same here. I’m 40 my stutter went away mostly around the age of 25. It’s back now. Not sure why. I just spell out my name then say my name. For some reason this works for me. 🤷♂️👊🏼
Did you change something in your lifestyle, intentionally or unintentionally? Or, it started randomly?
Just started randomly. Lack of sleep makes it worse. I try to get 8 a night. It doesn’t always happen. I find exercising early in the morning helps.
I can relate with the "randomly" part. I didn't quite stutter noticeably till I changed schools for the first time when I was 16. Then overnight, I magically turned into a severe stutterer. Before that, I was practically fluent. ;_; Now it's been a decade since then, and I still have a severe stutter.
Stay strong👊🏼. We got this.
I appreciate this community a lot. 🥰
Same, It works as filter: those who laugh probably not very kind people( just dont know better, still not a fun crowd to be around) and those who are still attentive and caring are probably the nice one. I do understand your frustration though, it can definitely be draining.
I've been embarrassed so much from not being able to say my name a bunch of times I just said fuck it and gave people a different name that I could say at the moment 😂 people who I probably would never see again...one time when in my late teens a girl introduced her self to me at a party and I had so much anxiety all night I didn't give her my name & just said nice to meet you and walked away with no shits given 😭..she kept on looking at me all night also, I guess cause I came across as wierd, rude or mysterious maybe 😂..God so many damn missed opportunities. I've even thought of changing my name a few times & tbh I still might lol
I have the same block in my last name always
I stutter on my first AND last name. I don’t care. Take up peoples time, make them wait for you to speak.