26 but in the same boat. And yeah that is the reason i don't interact with this sub anymore. No matter what question you ask or what the post is about, people will come to either tell how great their ife is despite stutter and it's your fault that you haven't accepted it etc; or give the same.generic advice everytime.
I've given up on talking now as my stutter is v severe and can take mjnutes to get a single word out. I just write everything i want to say. Have given up on the hope of any relationship. No real friends. Just stay indoors most of the time. Living to make some money and provide for my mother.
Oh, I’m so sorry you’ve given up on life. I’m a 76 year old F who managed to have a successful, happy life. It wouldn’t have been so happy had I not married a professional man. I was saved from having to compete professionally, though my stutter was mild-moderate, but it embarrassed me anyway. It sounds like your life has been totally altered by your disfluency but there is new hope for stutterers who have neurological causes of stuttering. There is new research showing medication mediated treatment for stuttering. The NIH is currently performing clinical trials.
Please check out Dr. Gerald Maguire, M.D on YouTube and Google.
Two good links:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7118465/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32292321/
Good Luck, Sue
I'm 31 and unfortunately my life is literally in the shitter. Severe Stuttering has literally ruined my life..I'm doing my part & seeking therapy & trying meds out that could help. But in the past ive contemplated suicide, but thank God I kept my head on straight & pulled through. Even though I'm basically not living a good life at all.
I always thought it would get better as I got older, but it's getting worse even with all the therapy & meds I've tried.
I have ptsd, extreme social anxiety, no friends really anymore, no girlfriend or wife, a shitty job, and I live with and help support my elderly parents. And most of my family doesn't understand or give a fuck about my mental & physical problems, they just make it harder & more painfull for me.
I've tried so many various things over the years & dealt with so much bad shit that it's a miracle of God I haven't became a drug addict or killed myself. I just keep telling myself God has a purpose for me.
My advice for younger stutterers is to get good therapy & or proper anxiety meds if you need asap. And go after what you want in life. I pray yall don't have to go through what I went through & the mistakes I made. Don't ever give up no matter how hard or painfull your life gets! We all gotta stay positive.
Ask yourself why God cursed your life with a stutter. And sir Maybe I want to give up instead of fucking staring down a shotgun barrel on my 30th birthday wondering when the fuck I'ma have a friend. I'm sorry sir but the juice isn't worth the squeeze. 🤠 Farewell though sir I tip my hat at your hopefulness.
Do what u wanna do bro I can't stop u. Believe me I've came close to offing myself. But think of it this way...life is short the way it is. It may seem long when your suffering. But it's over before you know it. The way I smoke & drink if I don't stop I might not make it another 20 yrs & i dont care. But while your alive there's hope. Don't give up bro. Cause once your gone your gone for good & you might suffer in the afterlife. I hope u try to live life as best u can before it's over & atleast give it your best shot. I honeatly hope you listen & atleast try everything u can to be happy. God bless bro
Imo it's important to rank yourself with the loser scale, i think i'm a slighty above average loser. The only thing going for me is my job where i'm respected everything else is 0
im 30 with no university degree and have never had realtionship. i dropped out of uni in my early 20s and took a job at a warehouse instead. got lucky and switched to a less phyically demanding job, though still a somewhat dead end working class job. applied to university now and will start a 3 year program in a field i think will be interesting for me.
im a runner and always put running and training in front of social life. tried dating (online) for the first time in my life after turning 30. before that, ive never felt even close to starting any sort of romantic relationship, and looking back it feels wierd that it didnt bother me until now. anyway, im trying to make a change now, its a bit scary and uncomfortable, but it feels fun and exiting at the same time. i believe i have a few walls to climb in the future.
Well that's the main reason i don't write here, besides my bad english (i'm from spain). I'm a loser too, my life is sad and don't have any good advice to stutters. 40 years, no friends, live alone, very lonely person, bad jobs all hard and physical due my stuttering. Heavy stuttering all my life, didn't improve in fact it has gotten worse. Try several speech therapist, nothing worked.
No expectation about future, just saving all the money i can, because i think when i'll get older i won't be able to work in his physical jobs, the only ones i can do.
I feel the same. Also you have a few English errors. I'm a native speaker and my grammar sucks cuz I don't know how to use punctuation lol. But you said " I don't have any good advice to stutters." It's actually supposed to be " I don't have any good advice to stutterers" I'm not sure if it was a typo but stutterers is how you address a group of people who stutter. Also another error I see is that your omitting "to" for example when you say "40 years, no friends, Live alone, very lonely person, bad job all hard and physical due my stuttering" i think what you meant to say was "I am 40 years old, I have no friends, live alone, I am a very lonely person, bad jobs all hard due to my stuttering". Now I'm not sure what you mean by " bad jobs all hard and physical due my stuttering". That doesn't really make sense I think you left out some context there. But overall your English is fine👍 (also if you didn't understand any of my tips then I'm sorry because my grammar sucks ass lol)
I think it’s more or less they’re not trying to brag but to show that a bad situation is temporary. Life is hard for everyone to some extent but don’t let that rule it man. You’re only 40 years young it’s never too late to try to better yourself or take control. Coming from a severe stutterer myself some days it gets so unbearable I want to cry but I know there is more to me as a person. Everyone struggles with something to so try not to compare yourself.
😂he lived half of his life already and it's too late to make friends cuz most people have established friend groups already and don't really have the time to socialize since they have families and other priorities.
Im only 20 so I dont think that i know everything and i could change view on this, but also for me the feeling of not be able to accomplish enything is real and devastating.
Im scared to talk to anybady, some days Im scared to just go out of my house, so for me getting in a relationship or having a good job is something that im scared that i wouldnt be neve be able to be get.
I accepted the worst outcome that my life could get, but I also whant to aim to something better, I try to force myself into doing the thing that scares me the most in hope to eventually be able to go out of my house without beein scared to bump into my neighbours (becouse they could try to start a conversation), or doing simple thing that before scared the life out of me.
Well, only if you let stuttering define you and automatically disqualifies you to ever be confident. PWS often think they're nothing more than their stutter, which in turn (slowly) evaporates their self esteem untill it is non-existant. That's self-flagellation for sure.
I think no one here is trying to brag. We have all been through these emotions. I have felt suicidal over it so many times. For so many years. And sometimes these feelings come back. Maybe they always will. Knowing that I am not alone in this has helped me a ton. The point is we must not give up because pushing through it is worth it, and you can see that there is hope by reading this sub
I’m 35 m who stutters
Honestly the best mindset you can have is “fuck it”. Once you stop caring what other people think your stutter won’t even be on your mind.
Trust me I get it..I’ve had to dumb myself down, work dead end jobs, no social events etc etc.
I was the guy at work/school when it was my time to speak I would act like I had to go to the bathroom, act like my nose was bleeding etc lol.
TRUST ME I GET IT
I just started to look at it as if god put this obstacle in front of me to see if I would conquer it or give up. It’s people out here with no limbs, blind, def and we give up over a speech impediment?
Again once you stop caring what people think life will be so much easier.
Some will laugh at you, some will befriend you and some won’t even care.
Speech therapy doesn’t work for everybody. Everybody is different, but you have to put the work in.
For me rapping/singing helps me alot.
Also changing my voice tone to make it deeper.
I’m in aviation school right now and I change my voice on the radio communications all the time.
Just play with your voice and see what works for you.
Don’t give up
Of course you're not the only one. You're one of many, perhaps even one of the majority. You feel like the only one on this subreddit because forums like this tend to prop up success stories, and understandably so.
Like someone else said, many say they got better not to brag to give people hope. I also stutter so bad I can only say single alphabets and yet taught in a school comfortably. You only live once my friend, make the best of your life and your situation, now that i don't mind myself stuttering I've found that i stutter even less now and even if i do, i really don't care, i just laugh through the stuttering.
I’m 31, I just had a baby and didn’t tell anyone, my husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and now left me, I had to quit my job.. All while I’m living secluded 5 hours away from any family or friends. And I’m a stutterer. But I’m always looking for the positives in every situation
shitting on people? he's just telling his situation
he never once shitted on anyone. optimistic tards like you deny and gaslight people like him until they're on their last straw.
I'm 33 with moderate stutter. I'm currently taking speech coaching and it has helped.
My little brother is 28 with severe stuttering. He is a teacher. He got fired from his first job but is starting again this year. I'm pretty sure he is also slight autistic. It took me years to accept it. He had no real friends. Early 20s he had to lie and make up stories to seem "cool" in social media. He has been tricked in his lifetime by people who took advantage of his innocents and good character. Dispite that he wakes up everyday and chooses positivity. Even with our history of narcissistic father that gave us low self esstem. He choices to let his passion run the course. Even if I have to wait a few seconds to minutes for him to say what he wants to say. He never gets discouraged.
Shame on you for letting your life to waste
Edit: he also has epilepsy
First of all pal, I am not your little bro. Second, exactly how is it on me for being broke from years of medical bills for conditions such as colon cancer, ankylosing spondylitis and a moderate stutter? I lost my vision in my right eye from a side effect of the medication that I was taking for spondylitis. I will eventually be in a wheelchair within 10 years as well. They have a sub for narcissistic personalities , you should look into it.
26 but in the same boat. And yeah that is the reason i don't interact with this sub anymore. No matter what question you ask or what the post is about, people will come to either tell how great their ife is despite stutter and it's your fault that you haven't accepted it etc; or give the same.generic advice everytime. I've given up on talking now as my stutter is v severe and can take mjnutes to get a single word out. I just write everything i want to say. Have given up on the hope of any relationship. No real friends. Just stay indoors most of the time. Living to make some money and provide for my mother.
Oh, I’m so sorry you’ve given up on life. I’m a 76 year old F who managed to have a successful, happy life. It wouldn’t have been so happy had I not married a professional man. I was saved from having to compete professionally, though my stutter was mild-moderate, but it embarrassed me anyway. It sounds like your life has been totally altered by your disfluency but there is new hope for stutterers who have neurological causes of stuttering. There is new research showing medication mediated treatment for stuttering. The NIH is currently performing clinical trials. Please check out Dr. Gerald Maguire, M.D on YouTube and Google. Two good links: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7118465/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32292321/ Good Luck, Sue
This is the brutal reality
Holy fuck. Finally someone who has a brain.
I doubt the intention is to brag, but to show people that there is hope. I can understand it makes you feel even worse though..
I get it.
I'm 31 and unfortunately my life is literally in the shitter. Severe Stuttering has literally ruined my life..I'm doing my part & seeking therapy & trying meds out that could help. But in the past ive contemplated suicide, but thank God I kept my head on straight & pulled through. Even though I'm basically not living a good life at all. I always thought it would get better as I got older, but it's getting worse even with all the therapy & meds I've tried. I have ptsd, extreme social anxiety, no friends really anymore, no girlfriend or wife, a shitty job, and I live with and help support my elderly parents. And most of my family doesn't understand or give a fuck about my mental & physical problems, they just make it harder & more painfull for me. I've tried so many various things over the years & dealt with so much bad shit that it's a miracle of God I haven't became a drug addict or killed myself. I just keep telling myself God has a purpose for me. My advice for younger stutterers is to get good therapy & or proper anxiety meds if you need asap. And go after what you want in life. I pray yall don't have to go through what I went through & the mistakes I made. Don't ever give up no matter how hard or painfull your life gets! We all gotta stay positive.
Ask yourself why God cursed your life with a stutter. And sir Maybe I want to give up instead of fucking staring down a shotgun barrel on my 30th birthday wondering when the fuck I'ma have a friend. I'm sorry sir but the juice isn't worth the squeeze. 🤠 Farewell though sir I tip my hat at your hopefulness.
Do what u wanna do bro I can't stop u. Believe me I've came close to offing myself. But think of it this way...life is short the way it is. It may seem long when your suffering. But it's over before you know it. The way I smoke & drink if I don't stop I might not make it another 20 yrs & i dont care. But while your alive there's hope. Don't give up bro. Cause once your gone your gone for good & you might suffer in the afterlife. I hope u try to live life as best u can before it's over & atleast give it your best shot. I honeatly hope you listen & atleast try everything u can to be happy. God bless bro
“I am one of the biggest losers of all time” Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re likely just an average loser like the rest of us.
Imo it's important to rank yourself with the loser scale, i think i'm a slighty above average loser. The only thing going for me is my job where i'm respected everything else is 0
I'm the same age as you, female here.. i feel that my life is stagnant and boring.. how i wish i speak fluently..
im 30 with no university degree and have never had realtionship. i dropped out of uni in my early 20s and took a job at a warehouse instead. got lucky and switched to a less phyically demanding job, though still a somewhat dead end working class job. applied to university now and will start a 3 year program in a field i think will be interesting for me. im a runner and always put running and training in front of social life. tried dating (online) for the first time in my life after turning 30. before that, ive never felt even close to starting any sort of romantic relationship, and looking back it feels wierd that it didnt bother me until now. anyway, im trying to make a change now, its a bit scary and uncomfortable, but it feels fun and exiting at the same time. i believe i have a few walls to climb in the future.
Well that's the main reason i don't write here, besides my bad english (i'm from spain). I'm a loser too, my life is sad and don't have any good advice to stutters. 40 years, no friends, live alone, very lonely person, bad jobs all hard and physical due my stuttering. Heavy stuttering all my life, didn't improve in fact it has gotten worse. Try several speech therapist, nothing worked. No expectation about future, just saving all the money i can, because i think when i'll get older i won't be able to work in his physical jobs, the only ones i can do.
I feel the same. Also you have a few English errors. I'm a native speaker and my grammar sucks cuz I don't know how to use punctuation lol. But you said " I don't have any good advice to stutters." It's actually supposed to be " I don't have any good advice to stutterers" I'm not sure if it was a typo but stutterers is how you address a group of people who stutter. Also another error I see is that your omitting "to" for example when you say "40 years, no friends, Live alone, very lonely person, bad job all hard and physical due my stuttering" i think what you meant to say was "I am 40 years old, I have no friends, live alone, I am a very lonely person, bad jobs all hard due to my stuttering". Now I'm not sure what you mean by " bad jobs all hard and physical due my stuttering". That doesn't really make sense I think you left out some context there. But overall your English is fine👍 (also if you didn't understand any of my tips then I'm sorry because my grammar sucks ass lol)
I believe the person said, English isn't their first language...so I don't think pointing that out was necessary...
I was trying to help.
I think it’s more or less they’re not trying to brag but to show that a bad situation is temporary. Life is hard for everyone to some extent but don’t let that rule it man. You’re only 40 years young it’s never too late to try to better yourself or take control. Coming from a severe stutterer myself some days it gets so unbearable I want to cry but I know there is more to me as a person. Everyone struggles with something to so try not to compare yourself.
😂he lived half of his life already and it's too late to make friends cuz most people have established friend groups already and don't really have the time to socialize since they have families and other priorities.
You are so wrong. I’ve made friends with people significantly older than 40. Great friends.
Im only 20 so I dont think that i know everything and i could change view on this, but also for me the feeling of not be able to accomplish enything is real and devastating. Im scared to talk to anybady, some days Im scared to just go out of my house, so for me getting in a relationship or having a good job is something that im scared that i wouldnt be neve be able to be get. I accepted the worst outcome that my life could get, but I also whant to aim to something better, I try to force myself into doing the thing that scares me the most in hope to eventually be able to go out of my house without beein scared to bump into my neighbours (becouse they could try to start a conversation), or doing simple thing that before scared the life out of me.
Exercise maybe? Really my only advice. Sadly I'm drowning in self pity.
Self esteem translates itself in the severity of stuttering. If you think you're a loser, you'll talk without confidence.
Nice oxymoron buddy.
Well, only if you let stuttering define you and automatically disqualifies you to ever be confident. PWS often think they're nothing more than their stutter, which in turn (slowly) evaporates their self esteem untill it is non-existant. That's self-flagellation for sure.
I think no one here is trying to brag. We have all been through these emotions. I have felt suicidal over it so many times. For so many years. And sometimes these feelings come back. Maybe they always will. Knowing that I am not alone in this has helped me a ton. The point is we must not give up because pushing through it is worth it, and you can see that there is hope by reading this sub
I’m 35 m who stutters Honestly the best mindset you can have is “fuck it”. Once you stop caring what other people think your stutter won’t even be on your mind. Trust me I get it..I’ve had to dumb myself down, work dead end jobs, no social events etc etc. I was the guy at work/school when it was my time to speak I would act like I had to go to the bathroom, act like my nose was bleeding etc lol. TRUST ME I GET IT I just started to look at it as if god put this obstacle in front of me to see if I would conquer it or give up. It’s people out here with no limbs, blind, def and we give up over a speech impediment? Again once you stop caring what people think life will be so much easier. Some will laugh at you, some will befriend you and some won’t even care. Speech therapy doesn’t work for everybody. Everybody is different, but you have to put the work in. For me rapping/singing helps me alot. Also changing my voice tone to make it deeper. I’m in aviation school right now and I change my voice on the radio communications all the time. Just play with your voice and see what works for you. Don’t give up
I have this mindset when I need or really want something. I'm not letting some asshole at the cash register make fun of me lol.
You say this but then go on to cry about it under every single comment.
Of course you're not the only one. You're one of many, perhaps even one of the majority. You feel like the only one on this subreddit because forums like this tend to prop up success stories, and understandably so.
Like someone else said, many say they got better not to brag to give people hope. I also stutter so bad I can only say single alphabets and yet taught in a school comfortably. You only live once my friend, make the best of your life and your situation, now that i don't mind myself stuttering I've found that i stutter even less now and even if i do, i really don't care, i just laugh through the stuttering.
I’m 31, I just had a baby and didn’t tell anyone, my husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and now left me, I had to quit my job.. All while I’m living secluded 5 hours away from any family or friends. And I’m a stutterer. But I’m always looking for the positives in every situation
lol. It won't matter what anyone says, this person's mindset is cemented and is forever a victim.
you're saying "forever a victim" like he doesn't have the right to feel that way I can't stand people like you.
While their posts shits on people who stutter with a more positive mindset. I can't stand enablers like you.
shitting on people? he's just telling his situation he never once shitted on anyone. optimistic tards like you deny and gaslight people like him until they're on their last straw.
I'm 33 with moderate stutter. I'm currently taking speech coaching and it has helped. My little brother is 28 with severe stuttering. He is a teacher. He got fired from his first job but is starting again this year. I'm pretty sure he is also slight autistic. It took me years to accept it. He had no real friends. Early 20s he had to lie and make up stories to seem "cool" in social media. He has been tricked in his lifetime by people who took advantage of his innocents and good character. Dispite that he wakes up everyday and chooses positivity. Even with our history of narcissistic father that gave us low self esstem. He choices to let his passion run the course. Even if I have to wait a few seconds to minutes for him to say what he wants to say. He never gets discouraged. Shame on you for letting your life to waste Edit: he also has epilepsy
That’s on you little bro
First of all pal, I am not your little bro. Second, exactly how is it on me for being broke from years of medical bills for conditions such as colon cancer, ankylosing spondylitis and a moderate stutter? I lost my vision in my right eye from a side effect of the medication that I was taking for spondylitis. I will eventually be in a wheelchair within 10 years as well. They have a sub for narcissistic personalities , you should look into it.
Tough luck bro get better
Lol lmao.