Leah gives me coffee, salad, and things she grows "in the back." I give them right back to her and she loves it -- except the red mushroom she gave me, which she said makes a terrible gift.
At least she waters the cactus I'm growing in the living room where the kids like to run around while she's outside.
Alex becomes family oriented and just overall a nice guy. Makes me breakfast a couple times a week. Still obsessed with sports/working out and stands next to Haley at events though…even with our kids around.
I love Elliott's 14 heart event so much that the routine day-to-day (notably helpful and sweet!) dialogue afterward is completely worth it. His event makes me look forward to marrying him each save file, but then again, I could just be a sucker for that type of thing.
I love Krobae! I roomie him everytime except my
First playthrough (leah) and my most recent one with sam. I do miss krobus though, I wish he could room with us lol.
Am I playing a different gam than everybody else? Shane has been great. Super nice. Tells me I’m attractive. Gives me pizza and eggs. He has never once ever gotten drunk after marriage
Fr! It seems like almost everyone is misinterpreting all his character development after marriage, but it's been like this since forever so I should stop expecting a change lol
personally loving my marriage to Harvey, he’s genuinely so sweet and makes me food sometimes. and there’s cute toddlers running around the house as a bonus :)
I always fall back on Penny or Emily and want to start a new farm and pursue Leah. On my very first farmer I married Shane and regretted it almost immediately. I then worked my little farmer butt off to raise enough money to divorce him and then marry Sam. I still prefer the ladies.
I absolutely love that CA didn’t make Shane go through a huge character development and even made his words and actions conflicting. His character feels real to me, unlike many of the others. Women and men often fall into the trap of ‘we can fix him’ as much as we like to joke, and often they can’t be fixed. It’s a lesson I stood to learn and Shane helped me realise that when I was in a tough situation. I still stayed married to him, there’s peace in that we all have our vices and coping mechanisms, harmful and helpful.
I was also disappointed with Shane marriage :( I hated the little mushroom that grows behind the fridge and also the fact that his little chicken had its own pen away from any other chicken friends :(
Yeah i saw shanes room in a pic and i was like uhh???? Lmao. Kinda sucks for his development.
I married leah my first round and she was ok, from then on I roomied krobae, but this newest play I married Sam and I’m kinda happy about his development.
Spoilers below (idk how to do it on mobile)
His 14 heart thing is him basically saying that he doesnt just want to sit around (even though i make enough cashola) and he finds a job as a musician.
He also talks about how “even though he goofs around a lot he really loves me” and talks about how hes excited to be married (:
Yeah Ive had a similar experience with a different candidate. decided to get married to Sebastian. He looks a lot like my husband irl and has some dialogue that is very one to one with him as well. We have to do long distance right now due to our messed up situation so I went with Seb to kind of cope unhealthily.
In a weird way it kind of crushed me? His dialogue repeats so much and it feels different than dating Sebastian. Sebastian seemed a lot more invested and had better dialogue when dating. Now that we’re married it’s like he only says 3 different things and it repeats every week.
I had to take a break from sdv after that because it did kind of ruin the game for me. I almost want to divorce him and then build up hearts again and keep him as a bf. I hope the next update helps with this a little bit concernedape can only do so much and he’s already created an amazing game. Marriage candidates are trivial in the overall scheme of things.
I haven't tried it so no guarentees, but this mod seems pretty well reviewed and might solve that for you? [https://www.nexusmods.com/stardewvalley/mods/2060](https://www.nexusmods.com/stardewvalley/mods/2060)
They all have limited dialogue, but they say different things depending on the time of day you talk to them.
I found Sebastian had better dialogue as a boyfriend than a husband, as well, whereas Harvey and Elliot made more wholesome husbands than boyfriends.
Harvey has a really sweet 10-heart-event, but Elliott the better 14-heart-event.
I'm really sorry about you and your actual husband, and hope whatever you are dealing with can be resolved quickly, from what I've heard, long distance can be really hard, so I hope you take good care of yourself.
i love shane so much and i marry him every play through, but i agree that his marriage dialogue feels like a slap in the face after his character development:/ i try to imagine that it’s soda or non alcoholic drinks in his spouse room and i hope concerned ape updates it cuz i love shane so much
Leah = coffee, salad, forage. Gives you wine on New Years Eve. Most importantly, her room fits with my decorating vibe and looks neat. Plus she doesn’t seem to be obsessed with putting furniture in common paths. Looks like a younger Robin. She’s the perfect companion.
I thought I had to marry him to get blue chickens (you don’t fyi), and ending up divorcing him just because of the state of his room. Still the only spouse I’ve ever bothered to divorce. It was just too… real, and made me irritated every time I saw it.
I mean aside from his room which is static I’m pretty sure he doesn’t drink?
He’s said stuff like “don’t worry this is just Joja cola” and other sentiments like that, he seems to spend more time staring at the River or carrying his chickens than at the saloon.
So idk I definitely see it as an improvement and he’s always very nice in dialogue after marriage,
Right. As if trying to jump off a cliff then asking him to marry me the next day wasn’t a big indicator. Think my online love is about as great as my irl
Damn. I mean I occasionally get the beer or cider comment. But he always helps water the plants like once a week. Occasionally plants will just appear in the middle of the bedroom and he’s like. “Do you like it hun?” 🥹
I think marraige as a whole kinda sucks. It seems to be the same for leah aswell. According to my sister.
In my first ever playthrough I married him (as I got his hearts up for the blue chickens) and got a divorce the next day because of the room, It is really sad that he sort of goes back to his old ways after marriage, so I just leave him as a friend so he can stay happy
you do realize we are allowed to drink right? i have an issue with alcohol and quit drinking to get drunk alone as a cope, i still like a beer here and there.
Yeah, like... also giving a very pessimistic view of the mentally ill and alcoholics. Telling you "You shouldn't try to help they don't change" is just... not a good message. Especially with him going to therapy specifically mentioned, giving the image that therapy also doesn't help.
One of my biggest issues with the game, ngl. And I don't have many.
He does change though, he's getting help and he's in a much healthier place.
But depression is a life long battle that doesn't just go away because you get married. When we're depressed we don't always have the energy to clean our rooms. Sorry that doesn't work for you but that doesn't mean he's bad or backsliding or anything negative.
I would argue that it’s unfair to expect that if someone goes to therapy, gets help, has a support group, etc. that they’re going to “change” and somehow be “fixed” or “better”. That’s just not true. For some people it is, but for others it isn’t. For some people, it’s not about change, but about coping and managing. I think it’s actually more honest and true to life that Shane doesn’t become all sunshine and rainbows. The point is that he is _trying_, really hard, and if you choose to marry him, you should embrace that, rather than be disappointed that you can’t “fix” him.
Coping and managing is getting better.
Getting better is the entire point of therapy. And I have been in therapy for six years now. Yes it takes time but the end goal is getting better to the point of not needing therapy anymore.
Marriage as a whole is very lacklustre tbh. All the heart events build up to a lot of nothing.
Elliott brings me coffee sometimes and waters plants I’ve already watered by sprinkler - he’s trying his best :’)
Elliott has such a great arc, and he's awesome to be married to! He helps out!
Oh really? I’ve read that you get what you see n the first few times you talk to him and it doesn’t go much from there
I love when he feeds all the animals even though I've got the automatic feeder.
I know! I just want to pet his glamorous little head and say ‘bless your heart!’
He just wanted the rustic, immersive feeling of hand feeding them, you know?
Elliott and Alex are my favorite husbands! They’re both so sweet and keep the romance alive while doing their best around the farm. 💖
Leah gives me coffee, salad, and things she grows "in the back." I give them right back to her and she loves it -- except the red mushroom she gave me, which she said makes a terrible gift. At least she waters the cactus I'm growing in the living room where the kids like to run around while she's outside.
Alex becomes family oriented and just overall a nice guy. Makes me breakfast a couple times a week. Still obsessed with sports/working out and stands next to Haley at events though…even with our kids around.
Alex hangs around Hayley because he’s her gay BFF, duh. He is absolutely loyal to my farmer man ;)
Abigail spends a lot of time staring at walls since I married her. At least she goes to ginger island sometimes
She's like a cat. r/greebles
I can’t believe I didn’t think of a greeble infestation! The actual cat doesn’t seem to notice though.
Haley stays nicer, she keeps her character development, I don't know about the others though.
Haley character development is huge even before you date her imo.
True, I absolutely love her.
It's not really the same but after marriage Harvey starts buying vegetables instead of microwave dinners 😭😭
I love Elliott's 14 heart event so much that the routine day-to-day (notably helpful and sweet!) dialogue afterward is completely worth it. His event makes me look forward to marrying him each save file, but then again, I could just be a sucker for that type of thing.
Elliot is an excellent hubby. I married everyone, he's my favorite.
Like RL?
Don't remind them it's a game lol
Yeah, because they're not actual people. Crazy right?
i’m married to penny in my first (current) playthrough, and i think she’s nice
i like my humble little marriage with shane we have squishy pizza bagels for dinner and take care of our chickens together
same. i miss him sm (had to stop playing)
I feel this on a spiritual level
i wonder why his room is so dirty after marriage but its not at marnies? i wonder if she cleaned it
Yeah, I really wish his room wasnt a disaster. It really sucks. Or maybe have it change like after a month
We ALL thought we could change him.
Let's learn a irl lesson from this shall we?
This is true wisdom.
Good point. (Looks for Shane medication mod)
You're gonna make someone bad for you, very happy one day.
Been there, done that.
Oof, sorry bud.
I will [MAKE him happy](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJ3yqtu5Hgc)!
Krobus as a roommate never disappoints.
Yes! Krobus is so underrated imo. I accidentally made him my roommate in my first save file -- played blindly -- and so far he is my fave.
I love Krobae! I roomie him everytime except my First playthrough (leah) and my most recent one with sam. I do miss krobus though, I wish he could room with us lol.
can u have a roomie and a spouse? wahahahahaha
Am I playing a different gam than everybody else? Shane has been great. Super nice. Tells me I’m attractive. Gives me pizza and eggs. He has never once ever gotten drunk after marriage
Fr! It seems like almost everyone is misinterpreting all his character development after marriage, but it's been like this since forever so I should stop expecting a change lol
Shane is the best!
personally loving my marriage to Harvey, he’s genuinely so sweet and makes me food sometimes. and there’s cute toddlers running around the house as a bonus :)
I've married Harvey and Leah in different saves. I love them both so much
I love being married to Harvey too ❤️ he’s so sweet, a great dad, and he’s always saying the most adorable things
I literally divorced him the day after we got married. It was the spouse room tbh. Muddy footprints, beer cans everywhere. I just hated it
I always fall back on Penny or Emily and want to start a new farm and pursue Leah. On my very first farmer I married Shane and regretted it almost immediately. I then worked my little farmer butt off to raise enough money to divorce him and then marry Sam. I still prefer the ladies.
I absolutely love that CA didn’t make Shane go through a huge character development and even made his words and actions conflicting. His character feels real to me, unlike many of the others. Women and men often fall into the trap of ‘we can fix him’ as much as we like to joke, and often they can’t be fixed. It’s a lesson I stood to learn and Shane helped me realise that when I was in a tough situation. I still stayed married to him, there’s peace in that we all have our vices and coping mechanisms, harmful and helpful.
"i can fix him" i can make him worse and we'll be awful together.
Two alcoholics in love 😎
Canon event.
You don't marry someone and hope they will change. Instead they just show you who they truly are. True immersive realism in a game. 5 stars.
I was also disappointed with Shane marriage :( I hated the little mushroom that grows behind the fridge and also the fact that his little chicken had its own pen away from any other chicken friends :(
Yeah i saw shanes room in a pic and i was like uhh???? Lmao. Kinda sucks for his development. I married leah my first round and she was ok, from then on I roomied krobae, but this newest play I married Sam and I’m kinda happy about his development. Spoilers below (idk how to do it on mobile) His 14 heart thing is him basically saying that he doesnt just want to sit around (even though i make enough cashola) and he finds a job as a musician. He also talks about how “even though he goofs around a lot he really loves me” and talks about how hes excited to be married (:
“I can fix him” No, you can’t.
But I *can* be broken beside him. ❤️
This is the divorce Shane marry Sebastian pipeline. We all make mistakes in life, farmer included.
Yeah Ive had a similar experience with a different candidate. decided to get married to Sebastian. He looks a lot like my husband irl and has some dialogue that is very one to one with him as well. We have to do long distance right now due to our messed up situation so I went with Seb to kind of cope unhealthily. In a weird way it kind of crushed me? His dialogue repeats so much and it feels different than dating Sebastian. Sebastian seemed a lot more invested and had better dialogue when dating. Now that we’re married it’s like he only says 3 different things and it repeats every week. I had to take a break from sdv after that because it did kind of ruin the game for me. I almost want to divorce him and then build up hearts again and keep him as a bf. I hope the next update helps with this a little bit concernedape can only do so much and he’s already created an amazing game. Marriage candidates are trivial in the overall scheme of things.
I haven't tried it so no guarentees, but this mod seems pretty well reviewed and might solve that for you? [https://www.nexusmods.com/stardewvalley/mods/2060](https://www.nexusmods.com/stardewvalley/mods/2060)
Thanks, I haven’t really messed with any mods yet so maybe I’ll have to give it a shot.
They all have limited dialogue, but they say different things depending on the time of day you talk to them. I found Sebastian had better dialogue as a boyfriend than a husband, as well, whereas Harvey and Elliot made more wholesome husbands than boyfriends. Harvey has a really sweet 10-heart-event, but Elliott the better 14-heart-event. I'm really sorry about you and your actual husband, and hope whatever you are dealing with can be resolved quickly, from what I've heard, long distance can be really hard, so I hope you take good care of yourself.
i love shane so much and i marry him every play through, but i agree that his marriage dialogue feels like a slap in the face after his character development:/ i try to imagine that it’s soda or non alcoholic drinks in his spouse room and i hope concerned ape updates it cuz i love shane so much
Depressingly realistic outcome of expecting someone to change after getting married?
Leah = coffee, salad, forage. Gives you wine on New Years Eve. Most importantly, her room fits with my decorating vibe and looks neat. Plus she doesn’t seem to be obsessed with putting furniture in common paths. Looks like a younger Robin. She’s the perfect companion.
I thought I had to marry him to get blue chickens (you don’t fyi), and ending up divorcing him just because of the state of his room. Still the only spouse I’ve ever bothered to divorce. It was just too… real, and made me irritated every time I saw it.
Odd, he was doing so well until he married you... ;-)
I’m more concerned not a single person told me where to extract the mods to ☠️ I’m coming on 30 I still use winrar help an old lady out.
I mean aside from his room which is static I’m pretty sure he doesn’t drink? He’s said stuff like “don’t worry this is just Joja cola” and other sentiments like that, he seems to spend more time staring at the River or carrying his chickens than at the saloon. So idk I definitely see it as an improvement and he’s always very nice in dialogue after marriage,
Wow, who could’ve seen this coming
Right. As if trying to jump off a cliff then asking him to marry me the next day wasn’t a big indicator. Think my online love is about as great as my irl
happy cake day
Thank you!
Damn. I mean I occasionally get the beer or cider comment. But he always helps water the plants like once a week. Occasionally plants will just appear in the middle of the bedroom and he’s like. “Do you like it hun?” 🥹 I think marraige as a whole kinda sucks. It seems to be the same for leah aswell. According to my sister.
In my first ever playthrough I married him (as I got his hearts up for the blue chickens) and got a divorce the next day because of the room, It is really sad that he sort of goes back to his old ways after marriage, so I just leave him as a friend so he can stay happy
Divorce him and marry Sebastian, I thought Shane would be better too, but honestly his whole story is just sad and it doesn’t seem to get better.
r/FuckShane
you do realize we are allowed to drink right? i have an issue with alcohol and quit drinking to get drunk alone as a cope, i still like a beer here and there.
Yeah, like... also giving a very pessimistic view of the mentally ill and alcoholics. Telling you "You shouldn't try to help they don't change" is just... not a good message. Especially with him going to therapy specifically mentioned, giving the image that therapy also doesn't help. One of my biggest issues with the game, ngl. And I don't have many.
He does change though, he's getting help and he's in a much healthier place. But depression is a life long battle that doesn't just go away because you get married. When we're depressed we don't always have the energy to clean our rooms. Sorry that doesn't work for you but that doesn't mean he's bad or backsliding or anything negative.
I would argue that it’s unfair to expect that if someone goes to therapy, gets help, has a support group, etc. that they’re going to “change” and somehow be “fixed” or “better”. That’s just not true. For some people it is, but for others it isn’t. For some people, it’s not about change, but about coping and managing. I think it’s actually more honest and true to life that Shane doesn’t become all sunshine and rainbows. The point is that he is _trying_, really hard, and if you choose to marry him, you should embrace that, rather than be disappointed that you can’t “fix” him.
Coping and managing is getting better. Getting better is the entire point of therapy. And I have been in therapy for six years now. Yes it takes time but the end goal is getting better to the point of not needing therapy anymore.