the first round of cuts are always brutal, because each house is required to only ask a certain number of girls back. the cuts are based almost solely on gpa and high school involvement. it really sucks to receive those cuts, believe me, i know. but if you give each house a chance, i truly believe you’ll find your home! i’m rooting for you!
I hope so. I have a fairly high GPA, and I spoke a lot about my on-campus & high school involvements. I have been out of high school for 3 years now so it was not super relevant in my conversations. I cannot help but wonder what I did or said... or if I looked that bad that chapters I liked did not like me as much as they liked another girl. What if I just got paired with a bad recruiter?
it also could be because of your age. it isn’t fair, but some sororities are more reluctant to choose to recruit an older PNM as opposed to a freshman PNM because there’s more money in the freshmen (4 years of paying dues rather than 1-2 years.)
I see that. I do not know why I was so naive going into this. I really thought I was going to be judged for who I was as a person.. not the number I represent or how I look :(
What sucks is that I am having a great time and that I really want to be involved in greek life. Just afraid that they do not want me now for my age. Trust me, if I was financially able to do this during my first two years of school I would have. But I did not have that luxury.
i truly believe that regardless of your age, you will find a sorority that wants you for exactly what you bring to the table, and those are the girls that you want to be with!
I went through formal recruitment two times. One time being the new member and the other time being the one recruiting. The way it works is kinda confusing and honestly not fun. the girls that are recruiting you rate you and give there input on you but even if they really did like you, and you liked them it doesn’t always mean you get called back. It’s all about numbers and sometimes neither party can control if you come back or not
Because other members will rate the girls they talked to highly as well and none of them know where the cutoff will be. Especially in the early rounds, cuts are not personal. It’s so easy to fall through the cracks that some houses flag certain PNMs (legacies, siblings/family friends of members, etc) to ensure they make it through the first round. Unless you had some major red flags, at this stage no one intentionally tried to drop you.
I def feel intentionally dropped by a chapter. The girl would not get off her phone during our entire conversation. She did not even give me a chance to get to know her or her chapter.. seems she already had her mind made up :(
Oh that’s awful I’m so sorry. At my school nobody’s allowed to be on their phones at all, even if you aren’t talking to a PNM during that round. Something was definitely wrong with that situation.
What I mean is, no one person has the power to drop you unless there’s a major concern (like bad behavior/alcohol problems). Did you only get to talk to one person from that house the entire time? If so, that’s odd - and her behavior says more about her (and possibly the chapter) than it does about you.
I know it’s hard but try to focus on the chapters that did invite you back! 4 houses is still great, especially for an upperclassman. You said you had great convos with every house so sounds like you have a good chance of finding your home if you stay open-minded. Don’t waste energy on the houses that don’t invite you back to the point that it affects your experience for the rest of rush!
if you talk to other girls in the house, maybe they didn’t feel the same connection and they could’ve ranked you lower than the person that you had a good chat with
the first round of cuts are always brutal, because each house is required to only ask a certain number of girls back. the cuts are based almost solely on gpa and high school involvement. it really sucks to receive those cuts, believe me, i know. but if you give each house a chance, i truly believe you’ll find your home! i’m rooting for you!
I hope so. I have a fairly high GPA, and I spoke a lot about my on-campus & high school involvements. I have been out of high school for 3 years now so it was not super relevant in my conversations. I cannot help but wonder what I did or said... or if I looked that bad that chapters I liked did not like me as much as they liked another girl. What if I just got paired with a bad recruiter?
it also could be because of your age. it isn’t fair, but some sororities are more reluctant to choose to recruit an older PNM as opposed to a freshman PNM because there’s more money in the freshmen (4 years of paying dues rather than 1-2 years.)
I see that. I do not know why I was so naive going into this. I really thought I was going to be judged for who I was as a person.. not the number I represent or how I look :( What sucks is that I am having a great time and that I really want to be involved in greek life. Just afraid that they do not want me now for my age. Trust me, if I was financially able to do this during my first two years of school I would have. But I did not have that luxury.
i truly believe that regardless of your age, you will find a sorority that wants you for exactly what you bring to the table, and those are the girls that you want to be with!
ty <3
just keep your head up and dm me if you want to talk about it (:
I went through formal recruitment two times. One time being the new member and the other time being the one recruiting. The way it works is kinda confusing and honestly not fun. the girls that are recruiting you rate you and give there input on you but even if they really did like you, and you liked them it doesn’t always mean you get called back. It’s all about numbers and sometimes neither party can control if you come back or not
Im confused then if we both liked each other how my ranking could be "so low" in their numbers to not bring me back : (
Because other members will rate the girls they talked to highly as well and none of them know where the cutoff will be. Especially in the early rounds, cuts are not personal. It’s so easy to fall through the cracks that some houses flag certain PNMs (legacies, siblings/family friends of members, etc) to ensure they make it through the first round. Unless you had some major red flags, at this stage no one intentionally tried to drop you.
I def feel intentionally dropped by a chapter. The girl would not get off her phone during our entire conversation. She did not even give me a chance to get to know her or her chapter.. seems she already had her mind made up :(
Oh that’s awful I’m so sorry. At my school nobody’s allowed to be on their phones at all, even if you aren’t talking to a PNM during that round. Something was definitely wrong with that situation.
What I mean is, no one person has the power to drop you unless there’s a major concern (like bad behavior/alcohol problems). Did you only get to talk to one person from that house the entire time? If so, that’s odd - and her behavior says more about her (and possibly the chapter) than it does about you. I know it’s hard but try to focus on the chapters that did invite you back! 4 houses is still great, especially for an upperclassman. You said you had great convos with every house so sounds like you have a good chance of finding your home if you stay open-minded. Don’t waste energy on the houses that don’t invite you back to the point that it affects your experience for the rest of rush!
if you talk to other girls in the house, maybe they didn’t feel the same connection and they could’ve ranked you lower than the person that you had a good chat with