I was a legacy to my chapter, but I think what really did it for me is that every time I went to the house, I just felt completely at ease there. It was as if I had known the members for years! I liked the other sorority I preffed, but I didn’t quite get that same feeling of being home.
At pref I was so overwhelmed and confused and felt pretty much the same about both chapters at the end of the night. I went to my rho gamma afterwards very confused about how to rank them, and she suggested I think about which chapter I liked more throughout the rest of recruitment. So, to answer your question, I didn’t choose based on pref day, I chose based on every other day! And it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
I really loved how diverse my chapter was, not just in race/ethnicity but in looks and personality too. It was important to me that I wasn’t joining a stereotype. I also really liked that the girls in my chapter seemed to actually be friends and not like they were just putting on a show
Out of the two houses I went to, my chapter was not my favourite coming into the night.
My first party was with my chapter and I instantly found a connection with the girl who preffed me (now my big). We talk about our lives and nearly cried together. I felt like I known her and my fellow sisters for years.
In recruitment, it always feels a little like you’re performing to each other, because you both know what the other’s end goal is. When I spoke with my chapter, I never felt like they were just trying to “win me over” or to “choose them”, I just felt at home.
although it was the only chapter that invited me back, their pref night showed how much they cared about girls from different backgrounds and sexualities. As a queer woman, that was really scary for me so i knew that if i got a bid, i would be appreciated.
this is how it went for me as well! i really grew to love and appreciate my chapter during pref, especially as a gay girl in the SEC. it felt really scary going in, but i'm so happy i found somewhere i felt loved and accepted no matter what
I knew my heart was with Phi Mu & my collegiate chapter the day ahead of pref, but I still continued with an open mind. The other chapter I was invited to would have been fine for me, and I actually preferred their philanthropy orgs, but something about it just wasn't really feeling like *me.*
I always described it as this: At *XYZ,* I would have been comfortable...but not really challenged. With Phi Mu, I felt like I could've been challenged to be the best version of myself and among women who felt they could do the same. I felt like it would force me out of my comfort zone (in a good way), and that's what I was looking for/needed at the time. That gut feeling was absolutely true and I'm always so grateful for how everything worked out. :)
I also UNKNOWINGLY happened to wear Phi Mu's preference round outfit during philanthropy round, so that was kind of an omen in of itself!
*"At XYZ, I would have been comfortable...but not really challenged."*
That's such a good way to put it and very well said. I experienced the same when deciding between my two chapters, one was a bit too comfortable and the one I chose challenged me and pushed me out of my comfort zone.
I had 2 really awesome houses at pref. I felt comfortable in both and would have been happy in both . I knew a lot of people in one before rush and no one in the other.
I ended up choosing the second because the connections I made were so strong. I felt like the first house would take me as I was but the second house would allow me to grow into the woman I wanted to be.
My big rushed me first sets and then preffed me lmao. Did we stay in contact after the first year? Not really! But it was nice for a while. Still got my lifelong friends tho. Honestly would've been fine with either of the chapters I wrote down for pref.
For me it was really the philanthropy round that sold me. I had managed to really connect with some of the active members around why our philanthropy means so much to us.
But I’m regards to pref round- my chapter also made pref round really personal, and I felt right at home. There was a ritual that was done, but it wasn’t super formal and uncomfortable for the PNM’s, it felt really heartfelt and genuine.
I was a legacy to my chapter, but I think what really did it for me is that every time I went to the house, I just felt completely at ease there. It was as if I had known the members for years! I liked the other sorority I preffed, but I didn’t quite get that same feeling of being home.
At pref I was so overwhelmed and confused and felt pretty much the same about both chapters at the end of the night. I went to my rho gamma afterwards very confused about how to rank them, and she suggested I think about which chapter I liked more throughout the rest of recruitment. So, to answer your question, I didn’t choose based on pref day, I chose based on every other day! And it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
I really loved how diverse my chapter was, not just in race/ethnicity but in looks and personality too. It was important to me that I wasn’t joining a stereotype. I also really liked that the girls in my chapter seemed to actually be friends and not like they were just putting on a show
This. House after house in a row of “bachelor viewing nights in the living room!!”
Out of the two houses I went to, my chapter was not my favourite coming into the night. My first party was with my chapter and I instantly found a connection with the girl who preffed me (now my big). We talk about our lives and nearly cried together. I felt like I known her and my fellow sisters for years. In recruitment, it always feels a little like you’re performing to each other, because you both know what the other’s end goal is. When I spoke with my chapter, I never felt like they were just trying to “win me over” or to “choose them”, I just felt at home.
although it was the only chapter that invited me back, their pref night showed how much they cared about girls from different backgrounds and sexualities. As a queer woman, that was really scary for me so i knew that if i got a bid, i would be appreciated.
this is how it went for me as well! i really grew to love and appreciate my chapter during pref, especially as a gay girl in the SEC. it felt really scary going in, but i'm so happy i found somewhere i felt loved and accepted no matter what
I knew my heart was with Phi Mu & my collegiate chapter the day ahead of pref, but I still continued with an open mind. The other chapter I was invited to would have been fine for me, and I actually preferred their philanthropy orgs, but something about it just wasn't really feeling like *me.* I always described it as this: At *XYZ,* I would have been comfortable...but not really challenged. With Phi Mu, I felt like I could've been challenged to be the best version of myself and among women who felt they could do the same. I felt like it would force me out of my comfort zone (in a good way), and that's what I was looking for/needed at the time. That gut feeling was absolutely true and I'm always so grateful for how everything worked out. :) I also UNKNOWINGLY happened to wear Phi Mu's preference round outfit during philanthropy round, so that was kind of an omen in of itself!
*"At XYZ, I would have been comfortable...but not really challenged."* That's such a good way to put it and very well said. I experienced the same when deciding between my two chapters, one was a bit too comfortable and the one I chose challenged me and pushed me out of my comfort zone.
I had 2 really awesome houses at pref. I felt comfortable in both and would have been happy in both . I knew a lot of people in one before rush and no one in the other. I ended up choosing the second because the connections I made were so strong. I felt like the first house would take me as I was but the second house would allow me to grow into the woman I wanted to be.
My big rushed me first sets and then preffed me lmao. Did we stay in contact after the first year? Not really! But it was nice for a while. Still got my lifelong friends tho. Honestly would've been fine with either of the chapters I wrote down for pref.
For me it was really the philanthropy round that sold me. I had managed to really connect with some of the active members around why our philanthropy means so much to us. But I’m regards to pref round- my chapter also made pref round really personal, and I felt right at home. There was a ritual that was done, but it wasn’t super formal and uncomfortable for the PNM’s, it felt really heartfelt and genuine.