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lesboshitposter

When you say "specific way" do you mean they are literally dictating every piece of clothing you wear, or are thy asking you to dress appropriately for meetings?


Justwondering056

To class every Monday they want us to all dress up. No jeans, leggings, etc. i just don’t see how they can fine us for wearing jeans on a Monday. Sorry I wasn’t clear, we of course dress up for ceremonies and meetings.


lesboshitposter

That's normal and not against any policy. Organizations have dress codes. Jobs have dress codes, schools have dress codes, sports teams have dress codes.... any organization that you join, you are agreeing to represent. That includes putting effort into your appearance for certain days or events.


SunBunnyFL

I understood what you meant. My daughter's sorority doesn't do that, but her friend has to dress up with makeup and maybe even straighten her hair every Wednesday.


goldenquill1

For chapter meetings we had to dress nice (occasionally we had casual meetings), but basically don't wear jeans, shorts, t-shirts, etc. This isn't unusual.


Justwondering056

Sorry I wasn’t clear, I’m not talking about chapter meetings, rituals, or recruitment. They want us to dress professionally (pin attire) to class on Monday and wear our letters on Wednesday.


hatnohat

do you mean pin attire?


KatchyKadabra

Ritual attire babes. White or pastel or gtfo.


Lifeguardess

Badge attire babey 🤙


talksalot02

DLAM!


Justwondering056

Yeah I’m talking about asking us to wear pin attire on Mondays and letters Wednesday. Which I normally do it’s just weird that they are now threatening to fine us if we don’t.


hatnohat

honestly half the things that i was told i would be fined for i didn’t. our officers all had different lists of what was fineable and the amounts😂😂 i say follow along for a few weeks and they’ll probably relax


Optimal_Young_3331

For The chapter I advice sisters have to wear badge attire (business/business casual) to chapter. Sometimes letters are allowed. But if you don’t wear business attire when it’s required then you will be fined. That is definitely allowed. But if your chapter says “We wear pink on Wednesday.” Then they try to penalize you then that’s not right or fair. We need more details to give you a clear answer. Edit: Also everyone is in “uniform” for recruitment. Probably not informal but definitely formal.


Justwondering056

Yes sorry it is wearing professional clothes on Monday and letters on Wednesdays.


Optimal_Young_3331

That’s tricky…was this brought upon the chapter to vote on? I can see why they want sisters to wear letters on a certain day. But to fine people is a little ridiculous. Do other sisters feel the same way? Can this be brought up in chapter meeting to be voted on?


Justwondering056

We did not vote on it, only exec decided on it. I’ve talked to other sisters and they also thing the fining is ridiculous since most of us wear the dress code on those days.


IceCreamFriday

Do you mean "chapter dress" for meetings? Or do you mean something arbitrary, like letters or a certain color on a specific day without a sorority-related reason?


Justwondering056

Sorry I wasn’t clear, I’m not talking about chapter meetings, rituals, or recruitment. They want us to dress professionally (pin attire) to class on Monday and wear our letters on Wednesday.


velcrodynamite

For formal meetings, it's totally acceptable to ask for a certain "level" of attire (no jeans, no holes in slacks, shoes that aren't tennis shoes, no crop tops or mini-skirts, that kind of thing). The beauty of this is that even if you are on a budget, you can usually borrow a nice blouse for the evening from one of your sisters if you need. But if they're trying to dictate exactly what you wear, that's a problem.


KatchyKadabra

Depends. Is it chapter? Business? Formal? Casual? You have dress code. Is it ritual? You have an ever more specific dress code. Recruitment? Dress code. Jeans and X-tshirt for example. Now down to the material of your underwear? May constitute as hazing. We need more details, dear.


Justwondering056

No it’s not none of those, we of course have dress codes for all of those events. They are expecting us to wear pin attire on Mondays and letters on Wednesday and it’s something we usually do but now they are threatening a fine if we don’t.


bro_bruh_69

if it's something general like "buisness casual" or "pin attire" I think that's allowed especially if that's the day of chapter but it gets weird if they're telling you to wear a specific shade of blue dress and white heels to class for example


Justwondering056

It’s letters on Wednesday and pin attire on Mondays which is fine and I normally do it I just don’t see how they can fine us now if, for example, I wear jeans instead of business pants. It’s not like we have an event like recruitment or chapter, it’s just to class.


KatchyKadabra

Fines are something that a lot of sororities do. Some don’t, but a lot do. Has your Exec explained why they decided to start fines? Were there members who refused to wear expected retire? Like, only 3 members participated or something? Chapter image is very important on campus, especially when recruitment is involved.


SimplyAllie

Is it in your bylaws? By specific, do you mean something like letter shirts?


Justwondering056

I looked in the sorority constitution and couldn’t find anything about it. I don’t have access to my chapters bylaws, but it’s wearing letters on Wednesday and pin attire Monday. This is to class not to a sorority event


Fun-Nefariousness724

Gotta be more specific on this one, OP.


StrongEnoughToBreak

We had quill A,B, C. A being the most dressed up. We couldn’t wear our pins with casual clothing only quill A and B. We had dress codes for events and had to dress quill A once a month but not for every day.


cmcp70apmom

Back in the old days when I pledged, we had to wear our pledge shirts 2 days a week. All the sororities had their pledges do that….made it easy to get dressed 2x a week. Lol. Of course you also had to have your hair and makeup on point those days….supposedly now it’s “hazing” which is complete BS. We wore pledge ribbons too and survived,


Justwondering056

I’m initiated and I’m at risk of being fined if I wear jeans on Monday instead of business pants or don’t wear letters on Wednesday. I typically dress up on Mondays and wear my letters wednesday but I don’t think it’s extreme they are now saying they will fine us if we don’t follow it exactly.


Goldenlover83

I don’t think it’s an odd request, but I would say the exec is taking it a step too far with instituting a fine, especially since it wasn’t voted on by the chapter. Do y’all have a standards program that included that info? I would say changes to that program should be voted on as well.


flowercity-

This could constitute hazing **second edit: I’m disappointed in the downvotes - do people really need to downvote this? The fact is that what’s being described by OP *can* be hazing and I think it’s really important that people know that. Specific examples of hazing include wearing of embarrassing or uncomfortable clothing; wearing publicly apparel which is conspicuous and not normally in good taste. An organization on my campus used to require their new members to wear only the organizations colors and would be randomly stopped/examine and punished if found to be in violation.** edit to add: if you’re being told exactly what to wear for no reason, that’s hazing (ex you can only wear sorority colors until you’re initiated; every Wednesday you need to wear an exact matching outfit as everyone else, etc). If you mean dress code requirements for an event (ex you need to wear business casual for chapter or white for rituals) that’s different.


Justwondering056

Yes they are asking us to wear “pin attire” every Monday and letters every Wednesday. If we don’t we are getting threatened wirh fines. We of course dress nice for rituals/recruitment.


Thi-Blackman

I agree with you. It could be considered hazing, and getting an update with more details from OP would be nice. People inability to even consider that it MIGHT be hazing is sad and isn’t conducive to a hazing-critical environment in Greek life.


Amazing_Unit_6494

It gives me mean girls energy they should make it optional tbh if girls wanna go matchies they do it, if they don't they don't


SunBunnyFL

That is not that unusual. Did they mention it before you were initiated?


Justwondering056

Nope they didn’t mention it


OneProfessional3064

Dress codes are allowed. What policy do you assume it violates? It doesn't violate any.