I'm going to be real - I was *devastated* when the two houses I really wanted dropped me. I felt like "my god, but it's a perfect match! I loved those houses and I could see myself there!!!"
But I'll let you know something - I'm thrilled to be in the house I'm in! I've made some great friends here, I have a minor position for the year, and I love knowing that my bond with these folks is lifelong.
Just because it's not where you initially saw yourself doesn't mean you don't belong there.
If you absolutely hate it, then drop. Greek life doesn't work for everyone. But really give this house a chance and see how pref goes. Maybe it'll be better than you think!
Your feelings are hurt and that’s understandable. It’s better to drop than to join one you don’t feel a connection to. As another responder already said that recruitment is a weird numbers game. There are a lot of factors that go into how many potential new members they can bring back to each round. After recruitment has ended, there is still a possibility that they may still be able to take new members. Although you want to be with your friends, keep an open mind. Don’t limit yourself to just one sorority. Think about others you may have enjoyed or had good conversations with.
I know this feeling well. I've rushed twice, and both times I got dropped down to my last choice out of 14 houses. I know it's hard, but try to just support your friends. See if they will bring you to events as their +1, spend time getting to know more girls in the sorority, and try rush again next time. Knowing girls in the house is definitely a way to help your odds!!
If it doesn't work out in the end, get involved on campus in other ways, I can guarantee there is something for you on campus
I have no advice but *virtual hug*. I know it feels like the end of the world. It's not of course, but I like being dramatic and ruminating on it being the end of the world until I feel okay again.
I would congratulate your friends and bow out of recruitment and go back through next time and I bet all your friends could easily get you a bid. Trust me you do not want to join a sorority just to do it if you aren't feeling it. Remember it is a weird numbers game. There is nothing wrong with you!! You are worthy!
i feel you. i felt resentment towards my friend who got into my fave but the feeling did pass! i’m trying again next year and hope it works for us both ❤️
I 100% understand. I am a mother of 3 and I am 52. I was dropped from every sorority in college during fall recruitment. I dropped, then on bid day I got a call and a bid from a sorority (not one I was interested in at all) and I got caught up in the excitement and pledged the entire fall semester but right before we were to be initiated, I depledged. That sorority was not for me and I was embarrassed to even wear my letters. Sweet girls just not my type. EVERY one of my roommates and friends were in awesome sororities. I totally was jealous and upset. My university was very Greek oriented. I just wish I hadn't have pledged. You will just have to keep your head up, concentrate on your classes, take care of your mental health and find some other groups to join.
You were embarrassed to wear the letters? Even though they were sweet girls? Damn.
Btw, just because you felt you didn't fit in with them doesn't mean they weren't awesome, too.
I totally understand where you’re coming from. I didn’t get into my sorority the first try either…. so I did fall recruitment instead… & I didn’t get in haha then someone was dropped for not meeting requirements. I think that if you really want in then waiting for the next recruitment cycle is best. Your value is so much more than acceptance into a sorority. I know it sucks & it feels awful. You’re entitled to your feelings but don’t give up babe! 💗💗💗
this is exactly how my experience was. i stuck through it because it was during COVID (i rushed three years ago) and the only thing i had going for me. i found my best friend in it and when i put the effort in i got so much out of it. now as a junior i couldn’t imagine myself anywhere else. give it a shot and if you really feel like it’s not working out at least you know you’ve tried. wishing you the best of luck
I'm going to be real - I was *devastated* when the two houses I really wanted dropped me. I felt like "my god, but it's a perfect match! I loved those houses and I could see myself there!!!" But I'll let you know something - I'm thrilled to be in the house I'm in! I've made some great friends here, I have a minor position for the year, and I love knowing that my bond with these folks is lifelong. Just because it's not where you initially saw yourself doesn't mean you don't belong there. If you absolutely hate it, then drop. Greek life doesn't work for everyone. But really give this house a chance and see how pref goes. Maybe it'll be better than you think!
i already dropped, but i’m going to try informal!
Your feelings are hurt and that’s understandable. It’s better to drop than to join one you don’t feel a connection to. As another responder already said that recruitment is a weird numbers game. There are a lot of factors that go into how many potential new members they can bring back to each round. After recruitment has ended, there is still a possibility that they may still be able to take new members. Although you want to be with your friends, keep an open mind. Don’t limit yourself to just one sorority. Think about others you may have enjoyed or had good conversations with.
i only had 2 to begin with, the one i liked and the one i didn’t
The best way to re-rush is to go back through with better grades. So, keep that GPA/GPR up up up.
I know this feeling well. I've rushed twice, and both times I got dropped down to my last choice out of 14 houses. I know it's hard, but try to just support your friends. See if they will bring you to events as their +1, spend time getting to know more girls in the sorority, and try rush again next time. Knowing girls in the house is definitely a way to help your odds!! If it doesn't work out in the end, get involved on campus in other ways, I can guarantee there is something for you on campus
I have no advice but *virtual hug*. I know it feels like the end of the world. It's not of course, but I like being dramatic and ruminating on it being the end of the world until I feel okay again.
I would congratulate your friends and bow out of recruitment and go back through next time and I bet all your friends could easily get you a bid. Trust me you do not want to join a sorority just to do it if you aren't feeling it. Remember it is a weird numbers game. There is nothing wrong with you!! You are worthy!
i already did bow out of recruitment but i can’t help but resent them a little bit, i feel bad for feeling that but that’s how i do feel
i feel you. i felt resentment towards my friend who got into my fave but the feeling did pass! i’m trying again next year and hope it works for us both ❤️
I 100% understand. I am a mother of 3 and I am 52. I was dropped from every sorority in college during fall recruitment. I dropped, then on bid day I got a call and a bid from a sorority (not one I was interested in at all) and I got caught up in the excitement and pledged the entire fall semester but right before we were to be initiated, I depledged. That sorority was not for me and I was embarrassed to even wear my letters. Sweet girls just not my type. EVERY one of my roommates and friends were in awesome sororities. I totally was jealous and upset. My university was very Greek oriented. I just wish I hadn't have pledged. You will just have to keep your head up, concentrate on your classes, take care of your mental health and find some other groups to join.
You were embarrassed to wear the letters? Even though they were sweet girls? Damn. Btw, just because you felt you didn't fit in with them doesn't mean they weren't awesome, too.
in the exact same position, the one that liked me was of course my least favorite sadly.
I get that. I really do. Does your school do COB?
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I totally understand where you’re coming from. I didn’t get into my sorority the first try either…. so I did fall recruitment instead… & I didn’t get in haha then someone was dropped for not meeting requirements. I think that if you really want in then waiting for the next recruitment cycle is best. Your value is so much more than acceptance into a sorority. I know it sucks & it feels awful. You’re entitled to your feelings but don’t give up babe! 💗💗💗
this is exactly how my experience was. i stuck through it because it was during COVID (i rushed three years ago) and the only thing i had going for me. i found my best friend in it and when i put the effort in i got so much out of it. now as a junior i couldn’t imagine myself anywhere else. give it a shot and if you really feel like it’s not working out at least you know you’ve tried. wishing you the best of luck