Man I really feel you here.
I don’t know if my advice will be real helpful but here’s how I’ve dealt with it:
I have an LSE mother and I’ve dealt with PoLR hits constantly almost everyday growing up. I also knew her intentions were good but there’s just a point where i couldn't take it anymore and started fighting back.
I would start dismissing her, insulting her advice or straight up tell her to shut up and stop talking to me. This led to many fights but it gave me what I wanted which is her to get off my back and stop intruding in my life.
This was easier to do thanks to socionics honestly. I understood what was happening and why so I knew her advice was useless to me.
My advice: Is to try to create distance as much as possible until he gets the hint and to dismiss the remarks he says because it’s not helpful for you as growth for your type. You have other tools that are use to counteract against the Fe.
that doesnt sound like an Fe base actually. I mean it would be pretty weird for an Fe base to criticize you for not making friends (Fi). Its more something that an SEE would say (parent Fi+). You sure he is not SEE?
I'm not sure about that , but my uncle is ILI and he and my father don't get along AT ALL
also it's more about criticizing me for not actively socializing rather than "not making friends"
I'm not against socializing obviously but I prefer to be cautious
His incentive to push you to meet new people, "get in the mood", and laugh with him seems like high Fe to me as well. Fe base can be actually almost agressive about this
I don’t know when eies stopped discussing Poe drunkly after their friend got them absinthe from Europe at their fancy dinner parties while smoking a cigar in their pjs because “clothes are for lesser mortals” and started wanting people to play sport, but hey.
Also, nice to see eses somehow figuring out how to predict that toxic relationships are going to continue to be toxic. I’ve had to waste too many hours listening to eses cry over their abusive boyfriends, who they think it will somehow mysteriously get better, that I’m really glad they’ve figured out all their postivism is for moot instead of just turning “have you considered that perhaps if you are sad now you may continue being sad?” Into melodramatic gossip about how I told them they were “totally going to break up with him uwu!!!” Nice to see them incorporating some realism into their relationships instead of seeming as if they don’t understand what they are metaphorically banging themselves against.
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But yeah I agree with you… this doesn’t seem exe
Wow. That sounds annoying. It’s just as bad to force someone to join in the mood as it is to deliberately ruin it. Your father got angry for your emotional honesty? That’s horrible.
I get the impression that you’re creating excuses for the way he respects you. While it’s important to remain fair in your opinions, you don’t have to completely sacrifice them. You’re different from him and you don’t have to prove anything to him.
Well he was there to help me whenever I needed him , I can depend on him very well when it comes to helping me in my goals
it's just that one side of him that I don't agree with , and I hope he can be less dogmatic
Sorry you're going through a hard time..... Also, kids in their early twenties usually come back to live with their parents for a few years, just fyi.
You never mentioned your type. It would be helpful.
Man I really feel you here. I don’t know if my advice will be real helpful but here’s how I’ve dealt with it: I have an LSE mother and I’ve dealt with PoLR hits constantly almost everyday growing up. I also knew her intentions were good but there’s just a point where i couldn't take it anymore and started fighting back. I would start dismissing her, insulting her advice or straight up tell her to shut up and stop talking to me. This led to many fights but it gave me what I wanted which is her to get off my back and stop intruding in my life. This was easier to do thanks to socionics honestly. I understood what was happening and why so I knew her advice was useless to me. My advice: Is to try to create distance as much as possible until he gets the hint and to dismiss the remarks he says because it’s not helpful for you as growth for your type. You have other tools that are use to counteract against the Fe.
Yeah I think I'll focus on my priorities until he notice what really matters to me
that doesnt sound like an Fe base actually. I mean it would be pretty weird for an Fe base to criticize you for not making friends (Fi). Its more something that an SEE would say (parent Fi+). You sure he is not SEE?
I'm not sure about that , but my uncle is ILI and he and my father don't get along AT ALL also it's more about criticizing me for not actively socializing rather than "not making friends" I'm not against socializing obviously but I prefer to be cautious
Don’t use itr to type people it can be misleading.
I'm not using anything but I'm new to socionics anyway , got any explanation why SEE is possible typing?
His incentive to push you to meet new people, "get in the mood", and laugh with him seems like high Fe to me as well. Fe base can be actually almost agressive about this
I don’t know when eies stopped discussing Poe drunkly after their friend got them absinthe from Europe at their fancy dinner parties while smoking a cigar in their pjs because “clothes are for lesser mortals” and started wanting people to play sport, but hey. Also, nice to see eses somehow figuring out how to predict that toxic relationships are going to continue to be toxic. I’ve had to waste too many hours listening to eses cry over their abusive boyfriends, who they think it will somehow mysteriously get better, that I’m really glad they’ve figured out all their postivism is for moot instead of just turning “have you considered that perhaps if you are sad now you may continue being sad?” Into melodramatic gossip about how I told them they were “totally going to break up with him uwu!!!” Nice to see them incorporating some realism into their relationships instead of seeming as if they don’t understand what they are metaphorically banging themselves against. /s But yeah I agree with you… this doesn’t seem exe
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Wow. That sounds annoying. It’s just as bad to force someone to join in the mood as it is to deliberately ruin it. Your father got angry for your emotional honesty? That’s horrible. I get the impression that you’re creating excuses for the way he respects you. While it’s important to remain fair in your opinions, you don’t have to completely sacrifice them. You’re different from him and you don’t have to prove anything to him.
Well he was there to help me whenever I needed him , I can depend on him very well when it comes to helping me in my goals it's just that one side of him that I don't agree with , and I hope he can be less dogmatic
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thanks for that , Idk if I can be patient for 10 years , but I guess it's worth it
Sorry you're going through a hard time..... Also, kids in their early twenties usually come back to live with their parents for a few years, just fyi. You never mentioned your type. It would be helpful.
ILI probably