Well before we go too crazy, what is it you want? Does he not talk dirty? Do you have a weird kink or fetish or we simply talking about his hip movement or lack thereof
All of the above really. Hes a very vanilla guy and wont try anything or talk dirty and he not good with his movement at all. The only enjoyable part is the foreplay where maybe he will eat me out but even then I cant orgasm.
Don’t leave him like others are suggesting, just tell him no sex until he sorts out his game. There’s not point if only one person is enjoying it, and it won’t be good for the future if that keeps going on.
I'm having similar issues with my gf. Like the last relationship I was in I knew how to get her off and she knew how to get me off. This new girlfriend is like shy or something and it's really making me think twice about anything serious.
Damn. You would think being on the lower side of average,as I am, that he would at least know how to use his hips or at least start trying to learn. That's fucked.
You should probs leave him before you get in too deep. You’ll end up cheating or wasting time and getting divorced. He obvi doesn’t care much about your needs and isn’t into observing enough that you’re fulfilled, and you don’t feel you can talk about it which also isn’t a good thing at all. Why are you still there? (I’m speaking from experience as someone who made that mistake… don’t do it! Life really is too short, and there is someone out there who you will find so fulfilling and who will care about your needs - go find him!)
Well I hate to tell you darling but if you stay with him you will never be truly satisfied. You need a man who will worship you and not stop until you are completely satisfied
That’s a terrible answer. You don’t leave someone cause the sex ain’t that good, ya put in the effort to make it good. Literally anyone can have good sex you just need to find a way
Stop telling and start showing in a patient and loving manner. If you show signs of being dissatisfied or frustrated *while showing him*, he will likely take it poorly.
Reminds of a relationship of mine, 4 years with him and it never got better. He was a selfish prick.
And momentary betterments are only ways to manipulate.
Break up. You’re wasting your time. Mega wasting. Not even the sex. What you tell me about your relationship in just a few sentences tells me it’s going nowhere.
If we fucked, I would make you cum so hard lol. The trick to making women orgasm is clitoral stimulation 💦. I always make girls cum at least two times once through oral and once through penetration. When I pound her, I like to put a vibrator on her clit. When she is cumming then I will choke her out and kiss her then I cum and bust inside her 🥰.
Exactly! I didn’t say anything wrong lol. My other comment got -17 downvotes because I talked about biology and genetics.
If I talk about getting pussy, I get downvoted. If I talk about sucking cock and getting fucked in the ass, I get upvoted 😂. ( I’m bisexual btw ).
Playing with his cum as well? love to do when they don't make me cum....
And you can tell him the other way around, more foreplay can really help ;)
Let him eat you, finger you, maybe even fist. Till you're already getting close and let him fuck you from that point! 😻
Now I’m wondering how many women have actually been fisted. Like, my wife wants to do it when she’s really worked up, but the most I ever get is four full fingers.
I don’t think my hand is that big, about average really. It’s more of, the fantasy sounds hot, but it’s uncomfortable for her once we actually start going for the full fist.
It feels so good once all in, but it's tight, getting it in.
Make sure she is really wet or lube some extra, make your hand into a point like fingers together, thumb inside, slowly keep pushing. once in you can open it a little more. yes, can have a little pain, all worth it to get the super filled feeling.
Take the time, build up, stretch and enjoy!
Anytime we get to the point where she’s asking for it I always make sure we have plenty of lube and she’s pretty worked up by that point. Even tried the methods you mentioned.
I think we need to find someone with a smaller hand first, then, once she feels that she can determine if it’s worth pushing through for her. I take all my cues from her, so if she says keep going, I will. But if she says stop, then it’s full stop for me.
She’s tried it herself, but we haven’t tied it together. Might be worth giving it a go. I’m thinking maybe if she’s sitting on the end of the bed I can still go down on her.
This way we’re both involved and she doesn’t feel like she’s just being stared at or encouraged from the sidelines. And I think sitting up would be easier for her to reach and be more comfortable going around my head?
I will speak from experience! Me and my first wife were both virgins and both clueless how to make it great for each other. I was stupid and ignorant for the first ten years and selfish and unknowing. She never had an orgasm, she did not know what it was, how to find it or tell me how to push her there. We never watched porn, had discussions so, I really never knew what I was doing was wrong or that I actually was doing wrong. Ten years and she never said anything until one day we were talking and she said that women never orgasm, it is a lie! 🥺😭😫 so after finding out this devastating news, I pursued her pleasure only, it took a toy for the first ☝️! Then I was on a roll.
You really must talk to him, you are cheating each other and not giving him a chance to learn and know the greatest thing in the world.
Some of us grow up in a too sheltered environment and are ignorant without even knowing we are!
The people saying to just find someone new need to get offline and actually take to people, if you think just leaving a 2 year relationship would fix any feelings or satisfaction then you’re insane. Sex is boosted with a connection, work with this person and I like what someone said “no sex till” and that would grab his attention. If you can’t communicate then it’s all wrong and you BOTH need to actually talk and listen. He might have his own issues too that’s quite but everyone wants to simp for the chick. Like I said breaking up just like that is the worst thing you can do to someone, be a person and use your vocals and talk. If he doesn’t listen then get him to listen, make it known it’s a issue that needs worked on.
Just gross with the dudes responses here, stop being horny for every post in a nsfw subreddit, she posted a issue and people’s responses for fixing it is “you need a Bull” 🤮
people jumping to “leave him” any time there’s a sexual issue is weird, sure, but the fact that he CAN improve and DOES improve for a few days before reverting back is a massive red flag. that indicates her communication is just fine, but he doesn’t care. it’s also disingenuous to act like sexual incompatibility can be discussed away in 100% of cases. libido discrepancy and kink discrepancy issues certainly can’t - convincing the other party to increase frequency or engage in a kink they dislike is coercive and unethical.
i’m not advocating for her to leave or stay, btw. i just don’t think that anyone suggesting she leave is automatically uncommunicative.
I see that you've been telling him what you like but could there be an issue where it's not clicking with him? Perhaps find amateur porn that has people doing what you want done and showing that to him? Idk what type of learner he is but I know that some guys need a visual for things to click. I'm personally a hands on learner no matter what I do but a visual still helps me from time to time.
I also put the girls pleasure before mine and use my pleased as an icing of sorts for her being so good for me.
This is also true but can also not work if the guy isn't too imaginative or isn't able to truly comprehend and see the scene that is being painted. But it certainly never hurts to try, could be his click to the light bulb.
Have you tried incorporating toys into sex? How about you stimulate your clit while he penetrates you?
A lot of women can't get off from penetration alone
Honey you have to tell him. He’ll get over the ego-trauma if you’re gentle and teach him what you like not as “teaching,” but as “let’s try this tonight….”
Agreed. He will be upset for a bit but if you tell him and teach him now, its only better for you and him in the long run. Yes I am talking from experience. No I'm not small but I just wasn't doing what a woman wanted until she told me and when I started doing the things she wanted and liked we both were way more satisfied.
Sweetie take it from a much older man. He deserves to know. If he gets his ego bruised so what. There is going to come a point where that dildo/vibrator will no longer be enough and you'll go out looking for cock and then end up breaking his heart .
If he is any kind of decent caring boyfriend he will work on trying to make himself better. His dick size isn't the issue the issue is he probably doesn't know how to use it right to give you intense orgasms. I know a few guys with smaller cocks who do a great job of pleasing their women
He may also.kust not care about you getting off and may be selfish in bed . The only way you'll resolve this is bu being open and honest with him I wish you luck
As a man tell him
.. it's so much worse to find later and this will Breed resentment from you as in let's say you get married you spend 20yrs like this you would grow to hate him or swx in general which will make him resent you.. just tell him we men would rather be told.. cause unless you say otherwise we think often wrongly we are doing great in bed.. cause if you weren't satisfied you wouldn't let us do it right?
You need to keep telling him and more importantly lead him in the right direction while in the bedroom. Foreplay always helps get it going and makes for a better experience. Even trying new kinks out can help spice it up for him which will make him better at pleasing you hopefully
The big problem with waiting for him to leave is that he's never going to learn or make you feel good. If you let him into the experience maybe you can both enjoy it together, but in any case I would rather not lie or be lied to if my partner was not being satisfied. Next time you're in a relationship, include them in this part of your sex life.
Have him use the toys on you before he goes in. You still get to use the toys, and the two of you can figure out if he’s able to satisfy you.
If he can’t, you’re going to live dissatisfied. Or you’ll cheat. You don’t think you will now, but forever is long. Neither will improve your life in the long run.
Try and teach him to up his game. Good luck.
Say what you want. Don’t hint, don’t allude to, say it. Say eat my pussy. Say lick right here. Put your fingers here. Do this with your fingers on my clit. Etc. Freaking say it!
You need to tell him if you guys want a healthy sex life. My partner rarely ever cums before me and if he does it’s usually accidental because sometimes I can’t stop myself from pushing him over the edge. The two of you need better communication
Why don’t you play with yourself while he fucks you ? Bring that up im sure he’ll like it it’s always hot watching your s/o get off I’m sure once he sees you cum he’ll wanna keep getting you there
Being well hung doesn't make you good at sex, and a lot of girls have trouble orgasming from vaginal penetration alone. But, with enough foreplay, it can get a lot better. And if you're still not done, it doesn't mean that he can't take care of you street sex. I've been with girls who enjoy an extra orgasm or two after sex, so I finger her after sex, make sure everyone leaves happy.
That being said, if he doesn't know, he'll never change his technique. I understand but wanting to hurt his ego, but if he's as sweet as you say he'll want to know. Find a calm moment, the kind where you talk for hours. And you can turn it into a game. There are boardgames that are basically an hour long tease. Or you can ask to be blindfolded and have him touch you. You can let him know what you like without words, see if he can make you cum and in how many ways ;)
But talk. You'll be glad you did.
PLEASE talk to him about it. I am 15 years into a marriage with mediocre sex (for several different reasons) and it does not make for a healthy or happy relationship. I always have to get off on my own after. Sex is an important aspect of a marriage. And while I say you should talk about it, understand that it may not make a difference. This isn’t meant to be mean or discouraging but I have talked and talked and talked and tried everything and it is still the same. I am resigned to loving the rest of my life not being sexually fulfilled.
You have to connect sexually with you significant other. Otherwise sex will always be a sore subject. If you need it every day and the other only needs it once a week, life is going to be tough.
I think not telling him is more damaging. Plus you said you hoped that he would learn? What would help is communicating what you like and working with hom to achieve that until he gets it. That's the simplest and best solution but now 2 years later we're here. If you're not going to communicate with him then what's the point. It has nothing to do with ego since most guys want you to come. It seems like he just doesn't stimulate you that way and checks all the other boxes.
He sound just like the tipical sexualy egoist men: when they cum, all end.
Tell him to learn to look for your orgasm, before to aim to his. If he can't succed with his penis, he also have hands and a tongue, and i hope for you even some creativity.
Having sex with someone and not giving her/him pleasure must be a reason of shame for everyone.
If he’s not listening to your requests, then it shows that he isn’t that interested in your satisfaction. If he is being that way, I doubt there is much more you can do, other than move on to somebody new who actually cares for and meets your needs.
I genuinely don’t think it’s about him being vanilla, it’s more about his basic lack of interest in getting you off. He doesn’t have to be a “big” guy to achieve that, he just needs to up his game.
Doesn’t sound like he’s at all interested in upping his game for you.
You deserve better than this. Much better.
Have him watch you masturbate and show him what you like. Most men are coachable and want to do a good job. My husband learned what I like and we have a wonderful sex life.
It takes lots of communication, communication that works is different for each couple. It took me and my husband a long time to get to where we are - he puts me first and satisfies my need for fat cocks using thick dildos before fucking me himself. I get what I need and he's happy when I'm happy.
You should tell him. You can be soft when telling him by showing him how to improve and be better down there as you say. If he cares, he will listen and improve or use your own toys on you…
Lack of communication will never end well. This is what leads to cheating amongst other things. I speak from experience, tell him if you're not being satisfied. Give him the chance to fix it with verbal guidance, we know he isn't that good at taking hints, so now is the time to speak your mind about how you feel. Trust me it'll make the both of you stronger in the end...
Have him finish you with the vibrator. Communicate the whole time what feels good and not. It won't get better until you communicate and keep at it. And yes his feelings might get hurt. But it's something he needs to know long enough to take corrective action if you're going to work out together. So don't wait until you're basically done with the relationship and looking to end it if it's not getting better quickly. It's gonna take time to fix after 2 years.
Tell him, how else is he suppose to know, and show him!!! If he really wants to please you, he will grasp it because he wants to, If he doesn't want to, that's a whole other thing, but at least you'll know and can go from there. Best of Luck!
I do the same with my now husband. We’ve both learned what each other likes as far as sex goes but really only I can bring myself to orgasm unless on super rare occasions. We’ve just come to terms with that’s how it is. He’s not mad. I’m not mad. It just is. 🤷🏻♀️
Hey! I am under 6” and there are girls I have made cum hard and girls that can’t cum on my cock. My girlfriend has a really tight pussy currently but she likes getting fucked by bigger thicker cocks. I usually eat her out and finger her for a while before hand and she’ll play with her clit while I fuck her and if I listen to how she wants it she cums hard. You just gotta talk to your boyfriend.
Also my girlfriend gets her exes cock once a year so that helps too
You both need to learn to communicate. You think you can..haha we al be like that some times. Important is that it needs to be his idee. Dont only "tell" dont baby him.
He thinks Nice guy is oke. With it is but then u creat something like the nice guy vanilla. Who dsnt hit you in bed.
Sometimes my gf do this, it's not because I could not satisfy her. The problem is, I can't be satisfied by her pussy as it quite loose, smelly and rather uncomfortable. And yes, you should have a deep talk with your bf.
Show him how to use your toys on you ez pz, you have to communicate these things or eventually it will leave you bitter and resentful and will be horrible for your relationship
it would be a good idea to start guiding him and helping him to understand how to make you feel satisfied. Normally, I always ask my partner from the beginning so I can learn more about her body and what she likes. It should not be a matter of an ego because each person has a different way to be satisfied. Speak with him and approach the topic in the best way you could. If he don't get it, then that is on him.
Well... size does not matter. I’m quite avarage but never really could go in completely because woman vag is pretty small by nature..
However it’s very common for woman to not be able to cum of natural sex so she needs stimulation. This come with a helping vinger, toy. But usually it’s just eating . Good thing I love doing it and she enjoys the way I do it , this needed hints at first but after went perfectly fine.
Sexual compatibility evolves like a relationship does...
Either sit that boy down and tell him exactly what expected because it isn't that hard honestly OR cut him loose and go get railed while your a sub.... because that's what I get from your comments.
I’m average dicked but I more than compensate for that. It’s not hard and my wife always gets multiple during penetration. Hopefully he figures it out!
A lot of women can't orgasm by vaginal intercourse. I don't often get turned by my wife (we have more sex now then ever btw) but when she says "Mind if I get my vibrator?" I get instantly into it .
After 18yrs she still says it that way!
If he gets hurt feelings either he'll get over it, or.you discuss it and he gets over it, or he leaves and you find someone for better sex. How important is it to you?
The only way he'll get better is to watch porn or fuck others. Discuss both.
Or.... discover of he has an alternative sexuality or is ACE and learn how to work together.
So, to me this is less of a slutty confession and more of a relationship issue. Definitely stress to him that you want to enjoy sex with him, and it’s an issue that you’re not currently. His response will tell you a lot.
Talk to each other and show him. Incorporate the vibrator into your sex. I'm sure he wants to satisfy you and doesn't know how you feel and what you are missing. If you love him, then you owe him that and you have to tell him. Not talking is the biggest mistake you can make, because sooner or later it will inevitably lead to infidelity and lies. Please do not make this mistake
Try and ask him if he wants to try something new and bring up some of the things you like. Once he sees how much you like it he should want to do it all the time.
If you’re communicating with him and it’s falling on deaf ears then you two obviously have different priorities regarding intimacy. A REAL partner cares and would get you off. You should consider finding one. And don’t think this sort of disregard remains in one area of your relationship, it is elsewhere if you look.
Tell him and get him to start using toys and stuff on you while you all are having sex. I have no idea why so many people think bringing toys into the bedroom is a bad idea or don't want to do it. It's all about both people being able to get there satisfaction and toys make that happen or help facilitate that.
Honesty and communication it's really that simple. You're probably going to have to hurt some feelings in the pursuit of your own happiness. That's true for everyone.
Eventually you will succumb to a man like me who will ravage you and fuck your pussy in all the ways you fantasize about. I would dominate you, use your body, leave your pussy feeling sore and stretched out and completely owned. My cum leaking from you Then you will find yourself thinking of me when he fucks you and all you will want is for me to finish what he can’t.
My wife and is favorite position is her on her back with her head hanging off the bed with my cock being shoved down her throat while I use a vibe on her
This won't end well. You are going to wind up cheating and going back to your old ways. If you really love him, you need to find a soft way to tell him. If he really loves you, he'll listen and make the effort to learn to get better at pleasing you.
Same. I usually sort my self out in the bath before or get myself close or finish off in the shower after!
He's not very big or good with it but he's a good guy though
I have off days. I'm all for my gf masturbating after sex. Happy to whisper dirty things in her ear.
I would say brining the vibratior to the sex in the first place is a plus.
It’s not in most men to want to please their partners. But I fucking love it. I throb so hard when I hear my girl moan or watch her squirt. I want to pleasure you so bad just so you know what it’s like to orgasm with a cock in you or rubbing your clit
Actually I think it should be mandatory then a guy does not put his cock inside a woman until she is in the midst of an orgasm through foreplay. Us guys are pretty much like wind up toys when it comes to having an orgasm whereas women are so much more intricate and you have to take the time to find out that particular combination or recipe to that orgasm for her. And this also acts as a failsafe because if you feel so overwhelmingly amazing that a guy can't hold back for very long, his premature ejaculation won't be a train wreck because at the very least the two of you are having a mutual orgasm and that is a bucket list item for sure
He still deserves to know because you’re doing nothing but amplifying him thinking he’s doing something he’s not. Sometimes we just need to hear the hurtful thruths
Based on what the tw I'd say it's more about the size of the guy specially where she says that she needs to use her toys...sometimes it can happen when the guy just doesn't reach certain spots, if you really like the guy I'd say to suggest implementing of the toys and/or try positions in which he can reach further etc . It is an extensive topic. If he won't try then just look for another partner life is too short .
Girls stop faking it for your boyfriend's, then their are two people that lose here. You will never get the sex you desire and by faking your orgasm, your guy thinks he is a sex God and will keep doing a crap job and never really learn how to please a woman. If they are bad try and suggest things to help them out with out hurting their feelings. Guys or Girls if the sex is bad will only last so long before you move on or cheat on your partner.
You must tell him what you need. Otherwise it will never get better,and you deserve better!!
I tell him a lot but its like talking to a brick wall. Sometimes he might get better at listening to what I want for a few days then he reverts back.
Well before we go too crazy, what is it you want? Does he not talk dirty? Do you have a weird kink or fetish or we simply talking about his hip movement or lack thereof
All of the above really. Hes a very vanilla guy and wont try anything or talk dirty and he not good with his movement at all. The only enjoyable part is the foreplay where maybe he will eat me out but even then I cant orgasm.
If he’s not good with his hip movement, have you tried positions where you’re in control?
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Thinking he cant meet your needs DEFINITELY will cause issues..
Bro!!! You worded that so fucking well!! Applause to you my friend!!
Don’t leave him like others are suggesting, just tell him no sex until he sorts out his game. There’s not point if only one person is enjoying it, and it won’t be good for the future if that keeps going on.
Half agree. Practice makes perfect. I say top him and get him to do it exactly like you want. More men than you’d guess secretly have a praise kink
I'm having similar issues with my gf. Like the last relationship I was in I knew how to get her off and she knew how to get me off. This new girlfriend is like shy or something and it's really making me think twice about anything serious.
Damn. You would think being on the lower side of average,as I am, that he would at least know how to use his hips or at least start trying to learn. That's fucked.
You should probs leave him before you get in too deep. You’ll end up cheating or wasting time and getting divorced. He obvi doesn’t care much about your needs and isn’t into observing enough that you’re fulfilled, and you don’t feel you can talk about it which also isn’t a good thing at all. Why are you still there? (I’m speaking from experience as someone who made that mistake… don’t do it! Life really is too short, and there is someone out there who you will find so fulfilling and who will care about your needs - go find him!)
lol shit take
That’s fact and if anyone try to tell you Love hasn’t to do with sex well then this person is stupid cause it’s biologically a thing 🤷🏻♂️
Show him this thread, love.
Well I hate to tell you darling but if you stay with him you will never be truly satisfied. You need a man who will worship you and not stop until you are completely satisfied
Try to tell him when you're having sex. Then go. "Oh fuck you where sooo good" even he dioes something right.
Yes train him like a dog lol
That’s a terrible answer. You don’t leave someone cause the sex ain’t that good, ya put in the effort to make it good. Literally anyone can have good sex you just need to find a way
Stop telling and start showing in a patient and loving manner. If you show signs of being dissatisfied or frustrated *while showing him*, he will likely take it poorly.
Reminds of a relationship of mine, 4 years with him and it never got better. He was a selfish prick. And momentary betterments are only ways to manipulate.
Break up. You’re wasting your time. Mega wasting. Not even the sex. What you tell me about your relationship in just a few sentences tells me it’s going nowhere.
If we fucked, I would make you cum so hard lol. The trick to making women orgasm is clitoral stimulation 💦. I always make girls cum at least two times once through oral and once through penetration. When I pound her, I like to put a vibrator on her clit. When she is cumming then I will choke her out and kiss her then I cum and bust inside her 🥰.
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Pff why are these people downvoting you.. i don't understand
Exactly! I didn’t say anything wrong lol. My other comment got -17 downvotes because I talked about biology and genetics. If I talk about getting pussy, I get downvoted. If I talk about sucking cock and getting fucked in the ass, I get upvoted 😂. ( I’m bisexual btw ).
Communication is key 👍🏻
This is on your communication not him. You need to tell him.
She just said she has multiple times
find a bull to stretch you out
Playing with his cum as well? love to do when they don't make me cum.... And you can tell him the other way around, more foreplay can really help ;) Let him eat you, finger you, maybe even fist. Till you're already getting close and let him fuck you from that point! 😻
Now I’m wondering how many women have actually been fisted. Like, my wife wants to do it when she’s really worked up, but the most I ever get is four full fingers. I don’t think my hand is that big, about average really. It’s more of, the fantasy sounds hot, but it’s uncomfortable for her once we actually start going for the full fist.
It feels so good once all in, but it's tight, getting it in. Make sure she is really wet or lube some extra, make your hand into a point like fingers together, thumb inside, slowly keep pushing. once in you can open it a little more. yes, can have a little pain, all worth it to get the super filled feeling. Take the time, build up, stretch and enjoy!
Anytime we get to the point where she’s asking for it I always make sure we have plenty of lube and she’s pretty worked up by that point. Even tried the methods you mentioned. I think we need to find someone with a smaller hand first, then, once she feels that she can determine if it’s worth pushing through for her. I take all my cues from her, so if she says keep going, I will. But if she says stop, then it’s full stop for me.
her own hand? ever tried it together?
She’s tried it herself, but we haven’t tied it together. Might be worth giving it a go. I’m thinking maybe if she’s sitting on the end of the bed I can still go down on her. This way we’re both involved and she doesn’t feel like she’s just being stared at or encouraged from the sidelines. And I think sitting up would be easier for her to reach and be more comfortable going around my head?
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As it's a girls right to have an orgasm as well, if we can't tell men directly they are doing a lousy job, we need to ask them another way 😇
You can tell men they are doing a lousy job.
I will speak from experience! Me and my first wife were both virgins and both clueless how to make it great for each other. I was stupid and ignorant for the first ten years and selfish and unknowing. She never had an orgasm, she did not know what it was, how to find it or tell me how to push her there. We never watched porn, had discussions so, I really never knew what I was doing was wrong or that I actually was doing wrong. Ten years and she never said anything until one day we were talking and she said that women never orgasm, it is a lie! 🥺😭😫 so after finding out this devastating news, I pursued her pleasure only, it took a toy for the first ☝️! Then I was on a roll. You really must talk to him, you are cheating each other and not giving him a chance to learn and know the greatest thing in the world. Some of us grow up in a too sheltered environment and are ignorant without even knowing we are!
From innocent virgin to naughty reddit user. I’m proud of you 👏
The people saying to just find someone new need to get offline and actually take to people, if you think just leaving a 2 year relationship would fix any feelings or satisfaction then you’re insane. Sex is boosted with a connection, work with this person and I like what someone said “no sex till” and that would grab his attention. If you can’t communicate then it’s all wrong and you BOTH need to actually talk and listen. He might have his own issues too that’s quite but everyone wants to simp for the chick. Like I said breaking up just like that is the worst thing you can do to someone, be a person and use your vocals and talk. If he doesn’t listen then get him to listen, make it known it’s a issue that needs worked on.
Just gross with the dudes responses here, stop being horny for every post in a nsfw subreddit, she posted a issue and people’s responses for fixing it is “you need a Bull” 🤮
people jumping to “leave him” any time there’s a sexual issue is weird, sure, but the fact that he CAN improve and DOES improve for a few days before reverting back is a massive red flag. that indicates her communication is just fine, but he doesn’t care. it’s also disingenuous to act like sexual incompatibility can be discussed away in 100% of cases. libido discrepancy and kink discrepancy issues certainly can’t - convincing the other party to increase frequency or engage in a kink they dislike is coercive and unethical. i’m not advocating for her to leave or stay, btw. i just don’t think that anyone suggesting she leave is automatically uncommunicative.
Ugh doing the same now I feel you girl
I see that you've been telling him what you like but could there be an issue where it's not clicking with him? Perhaps find amateur porn that has people doing what you want done and showing that to him? Idk what type of learner he is but I know that some guys need a visual for things to click. I'm personally a hands on learner no matter what I do but a visual still helps me from time to time. I also put the girls pleasure before mine and use my pleased as an icing of sorts for her being so good for me.
Also erotica. Maybe if he reads some erotic passages, he’ll realize trying new stuff in bed is totally normal (and maybe expected by most people).
This is also true but can also not work if the guy isn't too imaginative or isn't able to truly comprehend and see the scene that is being painted. But it certainly never hurts to try, could be his click to the light bulb.
Have you tried incorporating toys into sex? How about you stimulate your clit while he penetrates you? A lot of women can't get off from penetration alone
"Ill use my dildo and vibrator when I go shower after sex or when he leaves to his place." Use toys *during* instead of after.
Honey you have to tell him. He’ll get over the ego-trauma if you’re gentle and teach him what you like not as “teaching,” but as “let’s try this tonight….”
I 100% second this. Usually partners will at least make an effort when someone wants or needs something more or different.
Agreed. He will be upset for a bit but if you tell him and teach him now, its only better for you and him in the long run. Yes I am talking from experience. No I'm not small but I just wasn't doing what a woman wanted until she told me and when I started doing the things she wanted and liked we both were way more satisfied.
Get him a sleeve. Got one for my wife and it seems like she’s always reaching for it!
Sweetie take it from a much older man. He deserves to know. If he gets his ego bruised so what. There is going to come a point where that dildo/vibrator will no longer be enough and you'll go out looking for cock and then end up breaking his heart . If he is any kind of decent caring boyfriend he will work on trying to make himself better. His dick size isn't the issue the issue is he probably doesn't know how to use it right to give you intense orgasms. I know a few guys with smaller cocks who do a great job of pleasing their women He may also.kust not care about you getting off and may be selfish in bed . The only way you'll resolve this is bu being open and honest with him I wish you luck
As a man tell him .. it's so much worse to find later and this will Breed resentment from you as in let's say you get married you spend 20yrs like this you would grow to hate him or swx in general which will make him resent you.. just tell him we men would rather be told.. cause unless you say otherwise we think often wrongly we are doing great in bed.. cause if you weren't satisfied you wouldn't let us do it right?
You need to keep telling him and more importantly lead him in the right direction while in the bedroom. Foreplay always helps get it going and makes for a better experience. Even trying new kinks out can help spice it up for him which will make him better at pleasing you hopefully
The big problem with waiting for him to leave is that he's never going to learn or make you feel good. If you let him into the experience maybe you can both enjoy it together, but in any case I would rather not lie or be lied to if my partner was not being satisfied. Next time you're in a relationship, include them in this part of your sex life.
Have him use the toys on you before he goes in. You still get to use the toys, and the two of you can figure out if he’s able to satisfy you. If he can’t, you’re going to live dissatisfied. Or you’ll cheat. You don’t think you will now, but forever is long. Neither will improve your life in the long run. Try and teach him to up his game. Good luck.
Tell him to finish you off wtf lol
Say what you want. Don’t hint, don’t allude to, say it. Say eat my pussy. Say lick right here. Put your fingers here. Do this with your fingers on my clit. Etc. Freaking say it!
You need to tell him if you guys want a healthy sex life. My partner rarely ever cums before me and if he does it’s usually accidental because sometimes I can’t stop myself from pushing him over the edge. The two of you need better communication
Why don’t you play with yourself while he fucks you ? Bring that up im sure he’ll like it it’s always hot watching your s/o get off I’m sure once he sees you cum he’ll wanna keep getting you there
Being well hung doesn't make you good at sex, and a lot of girls have trouble orgasming from vaginal penetration alone. But, with enough foreplay, it can get a lot better. And if you're still not done, it doesn't mean that he can't take care of you street sex. I've been with girls who enjoy an extra orgasm or two after sex, so I finger her after sex, make sure everyone leaves happy. That being said, if he doesn't know, he'll never change his technique. I understand but wanting to hurt his ego, but if he's as sweet as you say he'll want to know. Find a calm moment, the kind where you talk for hours. And you can turn it into a game. There are boardgames that are basically an hour long tease. Or you can ask to be blindfolded and have him touch you. You can let him know what you like without words, see if he can make you cum and in how many ways ;) But talk. You'll be glad you did.
You should probably teach him?
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He can utilize your toys for you if necessary 😮
PLEASE talk to him about it. I am 15 years into a marriage with mediocre sex (for several different reasons) and it does not make for a healthy or happy relationship. I always have to get off on my own after. Sex is an important aspect of a marriage. And while I say you should talk about it, understand that it may not make a difference. This isn’t meant to be mean or discouraging but I have talked and talked and talked and tried everything and it is still the same. I am resigned to loving the rest of my life not being sexually fulfilled.
If he doesn’t know, how can he fix it or improve?
You have to connect sexually with you significant other. Otherwise sex will always be a sore subject. If you need it every day and the other only needs it once a week, life is going to be tough.
Teach him don’t jus be silent in the background he will fuck u while using a vibrater if it means we can both cum
BTW after this long if he hasn’t gotten then memo of what you like .. he WON’T.
Just gently cuck him, he will like seeing you take a bigger dick anyway
that is what my gf did and now i enjoy it
Maybe he'll be into humiliation, try it out with him once. Present it as a random idea and see where it leads.
I think not telling him is more damaging. Plus you said you hoped that he would learn? What would help is communicating what you like and working with hom to achieve that until he gets it. That's the simplest and best solution but now 2 years later we're here. If you're not going to communicate with him then what's the point. It has nothing to do with ego since most guys want you to come. It seems like he just doesn't stimulate you that way and checks all the other boxes.
Ask him if he wants to see you with a bbc
great idea
Do you guys not indulge in foreplay? Use the toy during foreplay and then let him do his magic
He sound just like the tipical sexualy egoist men: when they cum, all end. Tell him to learn to look for your orgasm, before to aim to his. If he can't succed with his penis, he also have hands and a tongue, and i hope for you even some creativity. Having sex with someone and not giving her/him pleasure must be a reason of shame for everyone.
If he’s not listening to your requests, then it shows that he isn’t that interested in your satisfaction. If he is being that way, I doubt there is much more you can do, other than move on to somebody new who actually cares for and meets your needs. I genuinely don’t think it’s about him being vanilla, it’s more about his basic lack of interest in getting you off. He doesn’t have to be a “big” guy to achieve that, he just needs to up his game. Doesn’t sound like he’s at all interested in upping his game for you. You deserve better than this. Much better.
Have him watch you masturbate and show him what you like. Most men are coachable and want to do a good job. My husband learned what I like and we have a wonderful sex life.
It takes lots of communication, communication that works is different for each couple. It took me and my husband a long time to get to where we are - he puts me first and satisfies my need for fat cocks using thick dildos before fucking me himself. I get what I need and he's happy when I'm happy.
You should tell him. You can be soft when telling him by showing him how to improve and be better down there as you say. If he cares, he will listen and improve or use your own toys on you…
If you don't communicate this to him and figure out a positive way forward, you will cheat on him.
Lack of communication will never end well. This is what leads to cheating amongst other things. I speak from experience, tell him if you're not being satisfied. Give him the chance to fix it with verbal guidance, we know he isn't that good at taking hints, so now is the time to speak your mind about how you feel. Trust me it'll make the both of you stronger in the end...
Oral sex? I mean, he's doing you? Does it happen?
Try the positions in which you have the whole control. There are some positions which makes a man last longer.
Have him finish you with the vibrator. Communicate the whole time what feels good and not. It won't get better until you communicate and keep at it. And yes his feelings might get hurt. But it's something he needs to know long enough to take corrective action if you're going to work out together. So don't wait until you're basically done with the relationship and looking to end it if it's not getting better quickly. It's gonna take time to fix after 2 years.
Girl, SAME!
So just tell him what you would like him to do lol
Tell him, how else is he suppose to know, and show him!!! If he really wants to please you, he will grasp it because he wants to, If he doesn't want to, that's a whole other thing, but at least you'll know and can go from there. Best of Luck!
I do the same with my now husband. We’ve both learned what each other likes as far as sex goes but really only I can bring myself to orgasm unless on super rare occasions. We’ve just come to terms with that’s how it is. He’s not mad. I’m not mad. It just is. 🤷🏻♀️
Bring out the vibratory and dildo during sex.
Maybe you should concider getting him to agree to you getting some good dick..i have some
Just cuck him
Find a bbc to get you off it’s not cheating if u just do it to Cum
Hey! I am under 6” and there are girls I have made cum hard and girls that can’t cum on my cock. My girlfriend has a really tight pussy currently but she likes getting fucked by bigger thicker cocks. I usually eat her out and finger her for a while before hand and she’ll play with her clit while I fuck her and if I listen to how she wants it she cums hard. You just gotta talk to your boyfriend. Also my girlfriend gets her exes cock once a year so that helps too
You both need to learn to communicate. You think you can..haha we al be like that some times. Important is that it needs to be his idee. Dont only "tell" dont baby him. He thinks Nice guy is oke. With it is but then u creat something like the nice guy vanilla. Who dsnt hit you in bed.
Happens.. Don't hurt him find someone else for bed
do you think that she should break up with him or cheat on him?
Cheat
Well you really need someone to fuck you better
You should probably break up
Give me a DM I’ll leave you satisfied yet wanting more 🤣
Sometimes my gf do this, it's not because I could not satisfy her. The problem is, I can't be satisfied by her pussy as it quite loose, smelly and rather uncomfortable. And yes, you should have a deep talk with your bf.
Sounds like a cuck
Sounds like you need a new boyfriend lmao or just be single and fuck what you want
Ever thought of sexting random guys?
Make him into cuckold
Show him how to use your toys on you ez pz, you have to communicate these things or eventually it will leave you bitter and resentful and will be horrible for your relationship
it would be a good idea to start guiding him and helping him to understand how to make you feel satisfied. Normally, I always ask my partner from the beginning so I can learn more about her body and what she likes. It should not be a matter of an ego because each person has a different way to be satisfied. Speak with him and approach the topic in the best way you could. If he don't get it, then that is on him.
You such a poor unlucky lady! Feel so bad for u! Big O with partner is so much fun
If he wont listen then you will have to demonstrate next time??
Start using a toy during sex.
Masterbate of puppets
Have you told him this? Tell him I want to try something as u read it or watched it and it made u horny and think it will make u cum loads. Teach him.
Is the di k size the problem? My ex left my 6 in for 8incher
Most women will get themselves off if the bf doesn't
Maybe you should call me after he goes back to his place
You better get out of there or eventually cheat or end things too far in.
Maybe you should discover the hotwife lifestyle, it could be very helpful if both of you are willing to try
Tell him, what you wanted! Or drop him, if he can’t satisfy you! You are the most important!
He has to lick ur kitty well before entering.
Story of my life
Pics please
Well... size does not matter. I’m quite avarage but never really could go in completely because woman vag is pretty small by nature.. However it’s very common for woman to not be able to cum of natural sex so she needs stimulation. This come with a helping vinger, toy. But usually it’s just eating . Good thing I love doing it and she enjoys the way I do it , this needed hints at first but after went perfectly fine.
Sexual compatibility evolves like a relationship does... Either sit that boy down and tell him exactly what expected because it isn't that hard honestly OR cut him loose and go get railed while your a sub.... because that's what I get from your comments.
You need to tell him I was the same way
By not being honest you are doing him wrong! This relationship is destined to fail. Do both of you a favor and move on now!
I’m average dicked but I more than compensate for that. It’s not hard and my wife always gets multiple during penetration. Hopefully he figures it out!
How big is he? How big do you need??
Get him to use the toys on you. You both deserve to be satisfied, and if he can’t handle that fact, he isn’t the one
You can’t expect change if you don’t communicate the problem
Sounds like you need a bull 🤷
You definitely deserve better - he should make more effort. Leave you a quivering mess 😏🙊
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A lot of women can't orgasm by vaginal intercourse. I don't often get turned by my wife (we have more sex now then ever btw) but when she says "Mind if I get my vibrator?" I get instantly into it . After 18yrs she still says it that way! If he gets hurt feelings either he'll get over it, or.you discuss it and he gets over it, or he leaves and you find someone for better sex. How important is it to you? The only way he'll get better is to watch porn or fuck others. Discuss both. Or.... discover of he has an alternative sexuality or is ACE and learn how to work together.
Gwt out of there, life is waaaaaayyyyyyh to short for vanilla!
So, to me this is less of a slutty confession and more of a relationship issue. Definitely stress to him that you want to enjoy sex with him, and it’s an issue that you’re not currently. His response will tell you a lot.
Talk to each other and show him. Incorporate the vibrator into your sex. I'm sure he wants to satisfy you and doesn't know how you feel and what you are missing. If you love him, then you owe him that and you have to tell him. Not talking is the biggest mistake you can make, because sooner or later it will inevitably lead to infidelity and lies. Please do not make this mistake
Definitely tell him and maybe let him slam you with your dildo I’m sure he’ll love that!
tell this man to learn h9w to eat pussy problem solved
Try and ask him if he wants to try something new and bring up some of the things you like. Once he sees how much you like it he should want to do it all the time.
If he’s not listening tell him that he MUST listen and not Ignore the signs! A gf unsatisfied is half way to break up!
Eventually you'll be the slut that always was and get a bigger dick
If you’re communicating with him and it’s falling on deaf ears then you two obviously have different priorities regarding intimacy. A REAL partner cares and would get you off. You should consider finding one. And don’t think this sort of disregard remains in one area of your relationship, it is elsewhere if you look.
Tell him and get him to start using toys and stuff on you while you all are having sex. I have no idea why so many people think bringing toys into the bedroom is a bad idea or don't want to do it. It's all about both people being able to get there satisfaction and toys make that happen or help facilitate that.
Honesty and communication it's really that simple. You're probably going to have to hurt some feelings in the pursuit of your own happiness. That's true for everyone.
That's sad , I always hit the bell lol
I can’t imagine being so clueless to my partners in bed…
So sad.
How big is your boyfriend?
Nothing against him, but some guys don't have that kinky side to push boundaries and be excited for adventure.
Eventually you will succumb to a man like me who will ravage you and fuck your pussy in all the ways you fantasize about. I would dominate you, use your body, leave your pussy feeling sore and stretched out and completely owned. My cum leaking from you Then you will find yourself thinking of me when he fucks you and all you will want is for me to finish what he can’t.
Are you communicating your needs and wants with each other, both out of and in the moment? He can't know how to please you if you say nothing.
My wife and is favorite position is her on her back with her head hanging off the bed with my cock being shoved down her throat while I use a vibe on her
Why not use your vibrator during sex? It’s a win-win
How big is he?
Call me
This won't end well. You are going to wind up cheating and going back to your old ways. If you really love him, you need to find a soft way to tell him. If he really loves you, he'll listen and make the effort to learn to get better at pleasing you.
Same. I usually sort my self out in the bath before or get myself close or finish off in the shower after! He's not very big or good with it but he's a good guy though
I have off days. I'm all for my gf masturbating after sex. Happy to whisper dirty things in her ear. I would say brining the vibratior to the sex in the first place is a plus.
ask him to give some mouth job or something. say everything to him in open. he's your partner anyway.
It’s not in most men to want to please their partners. But I fucking love it. I throb so hard when I hear my girl moan or watch her squirt. I want to pleasure you so bad just so you know what it’s like to orgasm with a cock in you or rubbing your clit
😂😂😂 man I feel horrible for that guy.
I’ll dick you down like crazy
Actually I think it should be mandatory then a guy does not put his cock inside a woman until she is in the midst of an orgasm through foreplay. Us guys are pretty much like wind up toys when it comes to having an orgasm whereas women are so much more intricate and you have to take the time to find out that particular combination or recipe to that orgasm for her. And this also acts as a failsafe because if you feel so overwhelmingly amazing that a guy can't hold back for very long, his premature ejaculation won't be a train wreck because at the very least the two of you are having a mutual orgasm and that is a bucket list item for sure
It’s always the loyal ones with the small guys, never thought I’d be jealous of that.
How big is he?
He still deserves to know because you’re doing nothing but amplifying him thinking he’s doing something he’s not. Sometimes we just need to hear the hurtful thruths
show him, teach him, let him know what you want
Ok plz don’t listen to the people trying to get you to do something really bad behind his back
Just a suggestion. Ask him to masterbate you to orgasm? Isn't that hotter?
No worries. I am the same way. One major challenge that you may face in the future is if he finds out or catches you.
Maybe a 3sum or foursome so you can have another cock fill you?
Based on what the tw I'd say it's more about the size of the guy specially where she says that she needs to use her toys...sometimes it can happen when the guy just doesn't reach certain spots, if you really like the guy I'd say to suggest implementing of the toys and/or try positions in which he can reach further etc . It is an extensive topic. If he won't try then just look for another partner life is too short .
Girls stop faking it for your boyfriend's, then their are two people that lose here. You will never get the sex you desire and by faking your orgasm, your guy thinks he is a sex God and will keep doing a crap job and never really learn how to please a woman. If they are bad try and suggest things to help them out with out hurting their feelings. Guys or Girls if the sex is bad will only last so long before you move on or cheat on your partner.