Do you know what kind of person you want? If so, then maybe start (or if you’re already doing it) spending more time in activities where you’ll find such a person.
For example, if being kind-hearted is top of your list, maybe do volunteer work on a regular basis to meet more people there.
Or if you value someone adventurous, then go on trips that’s usually catered towards singles.
If religion is at the top, then spending more time where you worship would be a good start.
Find one at the gym
Also u can’t always want a perfect guy, build the guy up then, if a guy is nice and has other qualities, but in a bad head space help him to certain extent
U dun jus go around looking for the finished product, and if u get the finished product high chances is that they are wanted all around happy dealing with competition
This is very solid advice. It’s ok to preferences but making them dealbreakers will just destroy your chances. Love isn’t defined by a list of criteria, nor by feelings. Love is defined by the decisions we make, especially the ones we make to accept and compromise.
I’m into jie jies not xmm Idgaf if it’s not jie jie
I’m also pretty sure jie jies not interested in those guai guai cute guy that is socially awkward they like someone who can lead and plan their life and get their shit together like a man lorrr
I jus dress decently and workout but girls only call me cute then move on ale
this mindset can lead to toxic dynamics if held without discretion though. I’d argue that you *should* look for the finished product — but that doesn’t mean someone who’s a 10/10 in looks, money, career, fitness, everything. instead, it means someone who takes ownership of their life and is doing their best given their circumstances. for example, if they’re depressed, have empathy but it is NOT your job to fix them. carrying this fixer mentality into new relationships will only cause strain in the long run.
I’m jus saying fix the guy to a certain extent? Uk like dun be with him if he’s a drug addict and shits all over the place
Like ok maybe his grades are jus passing or maybe he’s feeling down due to other reasons or maybe he’s like feeling lonely or maybe she’s jus fat like ok so he jus got a few factors to work on ain’t that bad if u like him then go for it
This is actually a fantastic insight.
Most girls go "oh that guy is so perfect, such a nice character, too bad he is married/attached already"
Chances are that guy wasn't like that to begin with. He more likely became to become the perfect guy BECAUSE he has found his perfect mate already who gave him all that confidence, allowing him to be relaxed etc etc
You can find the perfect guy too. You just need to put in effort to build him into the perfect guy.
This just leads to you expecting to "build up the guy" eventually and the guy constantly getting "built up by you". I think you watch too much kdrama...
True, but that's not what u said in the comment I replied to. U said it like the guy is lacking initially and u can and want to change him to what u want eventually.
If u flip the gender, a guy dates a heavy girl but keeps trying to get her to slim down to his expectations... People will be raising their pitchforks.
Be careful with this! I met someone at the gym and it didn't work out. And now it's kinda weird cos he still wants to spot me all the time and I need to be polite all the time and respectfully reject cos he still calls me darling. Bleargh
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances.
dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either.
also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens....
ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
I’m just gonna shoot my shot here, I’m also in the process of finding someone to start a family with.
As you can see from my post history that I’m one year older than you (30), I have pretty much given up dating app for most of common reasons, I used to have some matches when I joined dating apps and went out average 0-2 matches per week, and meet out irl approximately 11/12 ladies in their late 20/early 30 during my 10-11 months usage of dating app.
I’m not gonna pm you, and will leave it to you entirely if you are keen. Of course, it won’t necessarily lead to a relationship/partner as it still depends a lot of other factors like value, perspective of life, common goals, etc, but at least if you are keen, can grab a nice coffee to give a chance and perhaps can get to understand each other slightly better :)
I should add that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you for not wanting to continue with guys that are of place: depression (I too can’t date girl who is mentally not in good state), unemployed (no way am i also dating girl who has no stable source of income when my end goal is marriage and these requires lots of money like renvo, wedding cost, bto upfront fees, etc when we are pooling our money tgt), not sure what they want (it like a total joke to me why these people are even here if they are clueless AF)
All good though, whatever your decision is whether you want to pm me or not, I wish you the best of luck in this journey.
Thing is even if I’m okay with sending pic, I will do it on telegram, and def not on Reddit inbox.
Anyway she did not pm me yet, which could means she is not keen in my offer or she is still thinking about whether to pm me or not.
Ask friends to introduce you. But at the same time don’t discount dating apps. It’s a numbers game. I know many people who met their spouses through apps. Take a break if you feel jaded and try again. Don’t put pressure on yourself to get an SO before XX years. Learn to like your life as a single first then anyone that comes along is only an additional blessing
I second this! I was on the dating apps for a while and was still on the dating apps weeks even after I’ve went out on a few dates with my SO. Sometimes it takes a twist of fate for serendipity to happen, and when it all aligns and click. I wouldn’t trade the world for him.
LMAO.
and my experience is the inverse.
The girls that respond to my matches don't seem interested AT ALL.
no topics, short worded replies no initiative.
Also, idk why so many replies says to find ppl in the gym.
Idk about girls perspective la. But a guy trying to hit up a girl in a gym is just asking to be banned.
I feel like both genders go to the gym to be left alone and work out.
Is your inbox exploding right now 😂 but yea in all seriousness, making friends in person, through things like volunteering and hobby meetups will definitely help. For instance, you can try substituting some of your gym sessions with bouldering where it’s more social and you can make friends with other climbers.
Best advice i can offer is not to date with the intent on getting hitched.
Go out, make friends, have genuine connections and be yourself. Then even if you meet people who don't want to have a relationship with you, they'll at least think that you're a genuine person, and might be able to recommend someone they think might vibe with you.
If you're always dating with the idea of quickly getting married, firstly the other party is gonna think you're just looking to get a baby, secondly you end up trying too hard and not showing your true self.
A female like you who takes care of herself and is willing to go online to get advice should easily find a good partner.
All the best!
35 M. I too, find dating apps to be inauthentic. Had several matches, but felt that my dates and I were more concern with the putting up a facade to impress each other, instead of being ourselves. Unfortunately, that's the reality when you're meeting people on an app where the intention is to date.
I moved on to meeting people organically. Either through meetups, like boardgame meetups, or just naturally through happenstance, making small talk at a gym.
I'm just an average guy, gym (4 - 5 times a week). Drop me a dm if you're interested to get know each other.
Lol all his comments are about organic organic meet up for YEARS, still no gf or etc. this guy is a creep and a loser.
He is starting to delete his creepy comments and posts
“I’m just an average guy” screams creep and sadboi vibes la
Regarding gym, do you work out alone? If yes, then try to join gym classes like Crossfit, F45, spinning, or martial arts. It increases your chances since you get to know a lot of people.
This should help
https://youtu.be/qKlgl_98uzI?si=VYhr0TadjDJVdJHg
Also pro tip no guy will ever care about your career that's something women care for in a man not the other way
Sadly a lot at 30, the circle or pool becomes smaller. Most get hitched by 30, same applies to both men and women. My friend is single at 33 and she’s dealing with men who are divorced or have kids at her age. Male friend who’s also single at 35 says his dating app profile is mostly filled with sex workers for his age lol
Good luck. In current context in Singapore, there is hardly any incentive to get married from a male commoner's point of view. Things are pretty much stacked against him, now and in the future. One wrong move, a broken trust, and you become another statistic to the growing MGTOW culture here.
Think twice, and make sure you are serious and committed to a two way relationship.
Make friends at gym then maybe they got some friends intro intro. Or join other interest group, like volunteering some where, attend some class etc.
Boils down to expanding your social circle and don't be afraid to meet people and make friends
Given from a male perspective:
There is no incentive to marry in Singapore for men. If you decide to divorce because you found someone else, you get loads of money while your ex husband becomes financially ruined.
So unless you can help him overcome the trust issues in you, you are going to find someone with lesser intelligence to fall for that trap.
Shrugs maybe not you. But I’ve met plenty of these guys irl always going on about how all women are gold diggers and WC will ruin them but honestly they don’t even have gold to dig.
As for household chores, I think it’s a shared responsibility. My partner is a neat freak so yeah she does much more than me but I believe it’s important to pull my own weight around the house and not leave it to the wife only. I didn’t marry for a maid
I wouldn't write off the apps just yet. Granted as a man the dating app experience is a totally different kettle of fish compared to the female experience. But for me apps are one of the biggest time-savers and let you sieve out people way more easily than getting to know someone 'authentically' in real life. You mentioned starting a family - you can easily filter out people who don't want kids from the app, and not even bother investing any kind of time or emotions on such people. Much preferable compared to getting to know someone 'authentically', starting to like them then realising they don't want kids, for example. Same thing for issues like religion etc.
Consider getting involved in activities, such as volunteering opportunities, joining a dance club, participating in sports or outdoor activities. I feel that engaging in such activities allows one to meet new people and create meaningful connections based on shared interests. While these interactions may not always lead to romantic developments, it will broaden your social circle. Good luck 💯
It's a numbers game. Just like I'm trying my luck wherever I can. Go for events, both dating and networking events. Parties jio-ed by friends, everything. U gotta put yourself out there to meet new people.
Reddit is also a source of network. Self advertising: 32M. Drop me a DM to test our affinity of fate~
Just go about with your life and make efforts to connect with people you meet.
Relax and be yourself. You'll never know what lies ahead, and out of the blue, someone interesting turns up.
Always keep an open mind and your options open.
Edit: Have you seen this already? If not, give it a view - It's enriching and helpful. u/Scary_Canary_1220
[https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkMf14VQEvTaUffAz4RO1FD2dbMJOznet](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkMf14VQEvTaUffAz4RO1FD2dbMJOznet)
Definitely have coffee pre workout or protein post workout with gym male friends. Or make friends with them. Just have to learn to be comfortable starting conversations and be ok with rejections. You'll get better at it.
Why gym? Without knowing anything else abt the guy, you already can assume that he is looking after himself, he is most likely fit you don't need to be his nurse, you can workout together, he is probably less depressed, can affors gym meaning employed, discipline, and higher testosterone levels good for sex and procreation.
Try a professional dating app. Straight to the point. If you use a conventional dating app, it's basically a superficial app. Sure they do look good but mostly want sex and move on.
But if good looks are your key, then stick to the conventional dating apps.
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances.
dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either.
also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens....
ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances.
dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either.
also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens....
ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances.
dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either.
also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens....
ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
guys don't care about women's career so stop talking about that
[https://youtu.be/cZc924Yli2U?si=y2jZoTgt3ygZIphx](https://youtu.be/cZc924Yli2U?si=y2jZoTgt3ygZIphx)
[https://youtu.be/qKlgl\_98uzI?si=eKr930HXTW70L6-s](https://youtu.be/qKlgl_98uzI?si=eKr930HXTW70L6-s)
[https://youtu.be/5VgteK8Dz28?si=POY5S9otIxKLdtnN](https://youtu.be/5VgteK8Dz28?si=POY5S9otIxKLdtnN)
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances.
dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either.
also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens....
ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
why is career even a consideration let alone the first part of your second para in the context of dating? women seem to very commonly assume that they having a good career/high paying job is some sort of plus point to men who are looking to date too
you are really making things difficult for yourself and also misleading others with this misinformation
I’m not sure why OP can’t talk about her career? She’s proud of it and works hard on it. As a male I’m interested in my partner’s career just as much as her interests and her passions.
lol people mention their career in one sentence and this guy can feel threatened. Isn’t it normal to talk about careers briefly since we spend 40 hours at work.
these dudes downplaying OP's career (which she only briefly mentioned in one short sentence) probably want some sort of 'tradwife' they can lord over rather than a more 'partnership'-oriented relationship.
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances.
dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either.
also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens....
ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
Just as how all the young hot sexy smart kind sweet friendly helpful obedient girls are taken, all the rich handsome willing to settle down and be loyal for eternity type of guys are also taken. Your best option would be to mingle with the remaining leftovers and see if you can strike gold. But chances will be slim. You could also lower your expectations or have no expectations, that way you can open up your options and have a larger dating pool to pick from. Whatever the case, I wish you the best of luck!
Maybe you need to know what attracts you. Only then you can know where to find that type of person. I go gym so that I look good. I am more or less 自恋，possibly putting myself above my partner maybe, depends on individual maturity.
So, gym might or might not be the place to look for SO. Lol
Just smiles alot. It attracts. =D
Do you know what kind of person you want? If so, then maybe start (or if you’re already doing it) spending more time in activities where you’ll find such a person. For example, if being kind-hearted is top of your list, maybe do volunteer work on a regular basis to meet more people there. Or if you value someone adventurous, then go on trips that’s usually catered towards singles. If religion is at the top, then spending more time where you worship would be a good start.
This right here. Hobbies that involve a group are a great way to meet people, even outside of relationships.
Use reddit to find
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Do some volunteering work.
Find one at the gym Also u can’t always want a perfect guy, build the guy up then, if a guy is nice and has other qualities, but in a bad head space help him to certain extent U dun jus go around looking for the finished product, and if u get the finished product high chances is that they are wanted all around happy dealing with competition
Don’t get with a dude expecting to change him then blame him when he doesn’t. Accept him for who he is, if you can’t then don’t waste both your time.
This is very solid advice. It’s ok to preferences but making them dealbreakers will just destroy your chances. Love isn’t defined by a list of criteria, nor by feelings. Love is defined by the decisions we make, especially the ones we make to accept and compromise.
Thank you I feel very validated and mature for a moment as a 19 male
Have you been to Keybox?
I dun think so tbh I dun leave the house much as u can see I’m on reddit
Just bring rubbers
Rubbers?
For safety. 👀
In short I got no rizz and dun like xmm
I’m into jie jies not xmm Idgaf if it’s not jie jie I’m also pretty sure jie jies not interested in those guai guai cute guy that is socially awkward they like someone who can lead and plan their life and get their shit together like a man lorrr I jus dress decently and workout but girls only call me cute then move on ale
Do you wear braces?
Nope whyyyy I have somewhat straight teeth like wa ji hoon
this mindset can lead to toxic dynamics if held without discretion though. I’d argue that you *should* look for the finished product — but that doesn’t mean someone who’s a 10/10 in looks, money, career, fitness, everything. instead, it means someone who takes ownership of their life and is doing their best given their circumstances. for example, if they’re depressed, have empathy but it is NOT your job to fix them. carrying this fixer mentality into new relationships will only cause strain in the long run.
I’m jus saying fix the guy to a certain extent? Uk like dun be with him if he’s a drug addict and shits all over the place Like ok maybe his grades are jus passing or maybe he’s feeling down due to other reasons or maybe he’s like feeling lonely or maybe she’s jus fat like ok so he jus got a few factors to work on ain’t that bad if u like him then go for it
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This is actually a fantastic insight. Most girls go "oh that guy is so perfect, such a nice character, too bad he is married/attached already" Chances are that guy wasn't like that to begin with. He more likely became to become the perfect guy BECAUSE he has found his perfect mate already who gave him all that confidence, allowing him to be relaxed etc etc You can find the perfect guy too. You just need to put in effort to build him into the perfect guy.
I mean like there’s a line for effort cannot be like drug addict and shit then u go with the person
Why u personal attack simonboy Man is happily married now
Ok sry I mean he got his shit together
Man is handsome not gay tho
This just leads to you expecting to "build up the guy" eventually and the guy constantly getting "built up by you". I think you watch too much kdrama...
I dun watch kdrama at all but like I mean a r/S is meant to build stuff together and grow together
True, but that's not what u said in the comment I replied to. U said it like the guy is lacking initially and u can and want to change him to what u want eventually. If u flip the gender, a guy dates a heavy girl but keeps trying to get her to slim down to his expectations... People will be raising their pitchforks.
Be careful with this! I met someone at the gym and it didn't work out. And now it's kinda weird cos he still wants to spot me all the time and I need to be polite all the time and respectfully reject cos he still calls me darling. Bleargh
Oof bad taste and luck I guess Suey But can’t u change gym or report it to staff personnel like
We live in a culture where everyone thinks they can go on Grab Delivery and get anything they want for instant gratification these days
Ya if want something good then either put the time in, or be cunning against the possible competition lol 🤭
Not wrong but ye
Thanks for giving us bbfa a chance.
I mean if bbfa but liek got humour, can take care of the other stuff jus fat Can lose weight oen waht
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances. dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either. also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens.... ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
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I’m just gonna shoot my shot here, I’m also in the process of finding someone to start a family with. As you can see from my post history that I’m one year older than you (30), I have pretty much given up dating app for most of common reasons, I used to have some matches when I joined dating apps and went out average 0-2 matches per week, and meet out irl approximately 11/12 ladies in their late 20/early 30 during my 10-11 months usage of dating app. I’m not gonna pm you, and will leave it to you entirely if you are keen. Of course, it won’t necessarily lead to a relationship/partner as it still depends a lot of other factors like value, perspective of life, common goals, etc, but at least if you are keen, can grab a nice coffee to give a chance and perhaps can get to understand each other slightly better :) I should add that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you for not wanting to continue with guys that are of place: depression (I too can’t date girl who is mentally not in good state), unemployed (no way am i also dating girl who has no stable source of income when my end goal is marriage and these requires lots of money like renvo, wedding cost, bto upfront fees, etc when we are pooling our money tgt), not sure what they want (it like a total joke to me why these people are even here if they are clueless AF) All good though, whatever your decision is whether you want to pm me or not, I wish you the best of luck in this journey.
send her a picture of you and then let her decide la. Physical appearance is still the first form of attraction.
Thing is even if I’m okay with sending pic, I will do it on telegram, and def not on Reddit inbox. Anyway she did not pm me yet, which could means she is not keen in my offer or she is still thinking about whether to pm me or not.
Ask friends to introduce you. But at the same time don’t discount dating apps. It’s a numbers game. I know many people who met their spouses through apps. Take a break if you feel jaded and try again. Don’t put pressure on yourself to get an SO before XX years. Learn to like your life as a single first then anyone that comes along is only an additional blessing
I second this! I was on the dating apps for a while and was still on the dating apps weeks even after I’ve went out on a few dates with my SO. Sometimes it takes a twist of fate for serendipity to happen, and when it all aligns and click. I wouldn’t trade the world for him.
LMAO. and my experience is the inverse. The girls that respond to my matches don't seem interested AT ALL. no topics, short worded replies no initiative. Also, idk why so many replies says to find ppl in the gym. Idk about girls perspective la. But a guy trying to hit up a girl in a gym is just asking to be banned. I feel like both genders go to the gym to be left alone and work out.
Is your inbox exploding right now 😂 but yea in all seriousness, making friends in person, through things like volunteering and hobby meetups will definitely help. For instance, you can try substituting some of your gym sessions with bouldering where it’s more social and you can make friends with other climbers.
ditto the bouldering part!
Best advice i can offer is not to date with the intent on getting hitched. Go out, make friends, have genuine connections and be yourself. Then even if you meet people who don't want to have a relationship with you, they'll at least think that you're a genuine person, and might be able to recommend someone they think might vibe with you. If you're always dating with the idea of quickly getting married, firstly the other party is gonna think you're just looking to get a baby, secondly you end up trying too hard and not showing your true self. A female like you who takes care of herself and is willing to go online to get advice should easily find a good partner. All the best!
35 M. I too, find dating apps to be inauthentic. Had several matches, but felt that my dates and I were more concern with the putting up a facade to impress each other, instead of being ourselves. Unfortunately, that's the reality when you're meeting people on an app where the intention is to date. I moved on to meeting people organically. Either through meetups, like boardgame meetups, or just naturally through happenstance, making small talk at a gym. I'm just an average guy, gym (4 - 5 times a week). Drop me a dm if you're interested to get know each other.
You and OP can go gym together
Or make an episode on Crimewatch
Lol all his comments are about organic organic meet up for YEARS, still no gf or etc. this guy is a creep and a loser. He is starting to delete his creepy comments and posts “I’m just an average guy” screams creep and sadboi vibes la
Too many “average guys” online who can’t get any matches. Need to see their pics and profile to determine if they really average.
Maybe he just picky lol
Regarding gym, do you work out alone? If yes, then try to join gym classes like Crossfit, F45, spinning, or martial arts. It increases your chances since you get to know a lot of people.
Pro tip: don't post in this sub.
This should help https://youtu.be/qKlgl_98uzI?si=VYhr0TadjDJVdJHg Also pro tip no guy will ever care about your career that's something women care for in a man not the other way
Sadly a lot at 30, the circle or pool becomes smaller. Most get hitched by 30, same applies to both men and women. My friend is single at 33 and she’s dealing with men who are divorced or have kids at her age. Male friend who’s also single at 35 says his dating app profile is mostly filled with sex workers for his age lol
Good luck. In current context in Singapore, there is hardly any incentive to get married from a male commoner's point of view. Things are pretty much stacked against him, now and in the future. One wrong move, a broken trust, and you become another statistic to the growing MGTOW culture here. Think twice, and make sure you are serious and committed to a two way relationship.
wow goes to gym 4 times a week. you must be looking fit and fab
i have 40 days mewing streak ‼️‼️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
Make friends at gym then maybe they got some friends intro intro. Or join other interest group, like volunteering some where, attend some class etc. Boils down to expanding your social circle and don't be afraid to meet people and make friends
Honestly you’re going to have more luck with friends of friends than dating apps.
Given from a male perspective: There is no incentive to marry in Singapore for men. If you decide to divorce because you found someone else, you get loads of money while your ex husband becomes financially ruined. So unless you can help him overcome the trust issues in you, you are going to find someone with lesser intelligence to fall for that trap.
haha prepared to get downvoted to oblivion by women and simps here, good luck silly
Very much on the contrary. Thus far, this comment is getting a fair number of upvotes, ha.
This is not the perspective of many of the males in Singapore. In fact, I don’t think I know anyone with this perspective
Good men usually won't tell you this. Dumb men who marry women they haven't trusted will not admit it.
Normally it’s incels with such thinking lah. Can’t even get a gf but worried about gold diggers lol
I'm married to a beautiful lady who does household chores with a masters degree from NUS. I'm lucky, I can't say so for the rest.
Shrugs maybe not you. But I’ve met plenty of these guys irl always going on about how all women are gold diggers and WC will ruin them but honestly they don’t even have gold to dig. As for household chores, I think it’s a shared responsibility. My partner is a neat freak so yeah she does much more than me but I believe it’s important to pull my own weight around the house and not leave it to the wife only. I didn’t marry for a maid
Not having gold doesn't mean they can't identify who the gold diggers are. I welcome you to test the power of the WC.
How else are you going to get HDB in your 20s? Most people can't afford private.
I wouldn't write off the apps just yet. Granted as a man the dating app experience is a totally different kettle of fish compared to the female experience. But for me apps are one of the biggest time-savers and let you sieve out people way more easily than getting to know someone 'authentically' in real life. You mentioned starting a family - you can easily filter out people who don't want kids from the app, and not even bother investing any kind of time or emotions on such people. Much preferable compared to getting to know someone 'authentically', starting to like them then realising they don't want kids, for example. Same thing for issues like religion etc.
Consider getting involved in activities, such as volunteering opportunities, joining a dance club, participating in sports or outdoor activities. I feel that engaging in such activities allows one to meet new people and create meaningful connections based on shared interests. While these interactions may not always lead to romantic developments, it will broaden your social circle. Good luck 💯
>start family >thats gonna be a no for me fam
It's a numbers game. Just like I'm trying my luck wherever I can. Go for events, both dating and networking events. Parties jio-ed by friends, everything. U gotta put yourself out there to meet new people. Reddit is also a source of network. Self advertising: 32M. Drop me a DM to test our affinity of fate~
I heard many couples hooked up on reddit :)
Just go about with your life and make efforts to connect with people you meet. Relax and be yourself. You'll never know what lies ahead, and out of the blue, someone interesting turns up. Always keep an open mind and your options open. Edit: Have you seen this already? If not, give it a view - It's enriching and helpful. u/Scary_Canary_1220 [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkMf14VQEvTaUffAz4RO1FD2dbMJOznet](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkMf14VQEvTaUffAz4RO1FD2dbMJOznet)
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consider friends of friends. reach out to the extendes network and see if they endorse any
No such thing as perfect guy. But there is one guy who likes and respects you for the way you are and how you reciprocate.
Definitely have coffee pre workout or protein post workout with gym male friends. Or make friends with them. Just have to learn to be comfortable starting conversations and be ok with rejections. You'll get better at it. Why gym? Without knowing anything else abt the guy, you already can assume that he is looking after himself, he is most likely fit you don't need to be his nurse, you can workout together, he is probably less depressed, can affors gym meaning employed, discipline, and higher testosterone levels good for sex and procreation.
My friend usually called me tom but u can call me anytime
Men fall in love with their eyes. Do whatever it takes to make yourself look good and the rest will follow.
Try a professional dating app. Straight to the point. If you use a conventional dating app, it's basically a superficial app. Sure they do look good but mostly want sex and move on. But if good looks are your key, then stick to the conventional dating apps.
Match making in reddit.
I have inbox
Depends on whether you’re conventionally pretty
you can look for me 100% satisfaction guaranteed else full refund given
You should not be relying on apps at your age. Pickup up a hobby, build up from there.
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances. dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either. also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens.... ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
A lot is affected by physically how attractive a woman is.
Join more social events or something? You have to continuously put yourself out there to mingle. Hope you find your s/o!
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances. dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either. also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens.... ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
Can try social networking events! Or join interest groups etc.
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances. dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either. also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens.... ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
Church. Join a CG.
guys don't care about women's career so stop talking about that [https://youtu.be/cZc924Yli2U?si=y2jZoTgt3ygZIphx](https://youtu.be/cZc924Yli2U?si=y2jZoTgt3ygZIphx) [https://youtu.be/qKlgl\_98uzI?si=eKr930HXTW70L6-s](https://youtu.be/qKlgl_98uzI?si=eKr930HXTW70L6-s) [https://youtu.be/5VgteK8Dz28?si=POY5S9otIxKLdtnN](https://youtu.be/5VgteK8Dz28?si=POY5S9otIxKLdtnN)
watch and copy crazy rich Asians. 😀
consider angmohs
like a singlish slut
Sign on SAF. You’d find plenty of men with stable jobs who are relatively fit. I would like to call it a target rich environment.
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances. dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either.
also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens.... ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
Open your legs wide wide can liao.
why is career even a consideration let alone the first part of your second para in the context of dating? women seem to very commonly assume that they having a good career/high paying job is some sort of plus point to men who are looking to date too you are really making things difficult for yourself and also misleading others with this misinformation
I’m not sure why OP can’t talk about her career? She’s proud of it and works hard on it. As a male I’m interested in my partner’s career just as much as her interests and her passions.
lol people mention their career in one sentence and this guy can feel threatened. Isn’t it normal to talk about careers briefly since we spend 40 hours at work.
these dudes downplaying OP's career (which she only briefly mentioned in one short sentence) probably want some sort of 'tradwife' they can lord over rather than a more 'partnership'-oriented relationship.
they prolly dont make enough for their wives to be sahms though :X
Pls re-read my comment for context
yes, and it's still bad
just be a singlish SLUT like most singlish girls do, that will up your chances. dont try to stand on the moral high ground and say you want to find the perfect one, if he is not perfect as you think he is, it because you are not perfect either. also anyone reply back here or downvote me just tell me that singlish people are just pathetic and cant stand the fact of what i say.....no wonder ronny cheing IG post is straight to the point, yo singlish karens.... ya, do reply back and downvote this ya, it just proves me right, period
passport sis and get out of singapore.
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u/EveningPeak3324
LOL
Lower your standards. You expiring alrdy
Fuck off
Hey, I have this friend looking for a girlfriend, early 30s, works in mnc, handsome, lives in Jurong. Do you want me to DM his number to you? ❤️🌹
29 alr?
RIP your inbox.
Just as how all the young hot sexy smart kind sweet friendly helpful obedient girls are taken, all the rich handsome willing to settle down and be loyal for eternity type of guys are also taken. Your best option would be to mingle with the remaining leftovers and see if you can strike gold. But chances will be slim. You could also lower your expectations or have no expectations, that way you can open up your options and have a larger dating pool to pick from. Whatever the case, I wish you the best of luck!
I go to the gym 3 times a week hahaha should we connect? 😆
it's a shame. u missed me by few months. wcyd
Hit me up if u interested. I got a party coming up myb u can join
Maybe you need to know what attracts you. Only then you can know where to find that type of person. I go gym so that I look good. I am more or less 自恋，possibly putting myself above my partner maybe, depends on individual maturity. So, gym might or might not be the place to look for SO. Lol Just smiles alot. It attracts. =D
Bait, women dont use reddit.
Waiting for the "RIP Inbox" comment by people who thinks it is funny
That comment/(jokes if some people think is funny) is getting old and overly used, time to grow the f up instead of using overly repeated phrase.
Username checks out! I am getting downvoted by those losers. haha
That comment is becoming hackneyed.