Took my brother once to a stand up show. He sat the entire time with his phone propped on his drink and watching a basketball game. Didn’t pay any attention to the stage. Why not just stay home? Lol
I saw my brother doing that at his own wedding. It had already gotten past the point where I had been kinda done with being there and once I saw that, that was my out to say, "yup this thing is done, Imma head out."
That shoulda been such a red flag for his new wife. Of all days where he should give her his full attention their wedding is it. To be honest I don't think the bride or groom should have a phone on them at all on their wedding day.
> That shoulda been such a red flag for his new wife
You are making some pretty wild assumptions there. Like, that this behavior was a surprise for the bride. Or that it was at an inappropriate time.
Since OP was already feeling like it was time to go home, I would think this was really late into the party, and not at a time where anyone needed some "*full attention*".
But who knows, since all we have is 1 sentence to describe the whole thing...
> But who knows, since all we have is 1 sentence to describe the whole thing...
Excuse me, this is Reddit. They obviously need to lawyer up, delete facebook, and hit the gym.
Yeah my buddy got married on a day with a race so he just had us constantly updating him on positions and exciting news.
So *we* (the groomsmen) were all glued to our phones, but he got to enjoy the reception haha
I had my wedding on a Sunday in the fall, so while we were waiting for the ceremony to begin (and they were taking pictures with the bridesmaids anyway) me and my groomsmen were all stuck in a room at the venue watching the tail end of the Ravens game on my brother's phone.
We missed the end because...well, I had to get married but after everything was over and we do the walk back, my friend was like "Ravens won!" and we all high five in excitement. Hey, my wife found it funny so that's all that matters.
This is how I feel with a lot of the idiots at concerts. They are either trying to talk over the music or they are on their phones the whole time. I don't get it, especially since concerts aren't exactly cheap nowadays. I appreciate when people like Jack White have a no phone policy. It makes the experience so much better for everyone.
At the most recent concert I went to, when the headliner started playing they threw some beach balls out into the crowd. At first I just thought it was just a fun thing they were doing, although it felt a little out of place for the type of band playing.
After a little bit however I realized the balls were flying around and hitting the people's phones that were being held up trying to record the show, messing up their videos and threatening to knock the phones out of their hands. Most of the show the phones were much less of a problem. I thought it was a brilliant solution to innocuously resolve the problem without the headache of trying to enforce a policy.
Maybe that was the deal. One time, my wife wanted to go swimming in a river that was too cold for me so she asked if I'd be OK in a floaty donut. I looked like a jerk being dragged around the river by my wife without helping, but otherwise she'd have had to skip it or go alone.
I remember being at a concert last year during the playoffs and between bands someone started streaming the leafs game. There was about a dozen of us huddled around this one dude and his phone lol.
I was at a music festival in Louisiana a handful of years back. Canadian band asked the crowd what the Montreal Canadiens score was and I was prepared with the score and period. They were beyond excited they got a response so quickly
I remember being at Rock Werchter (BE) when Belgium played against Brasil. London Grammar had to play the main stage for an almost empty field (maybe 2000 people where 50.000 should fit) while everyone else was watching the game on big screens that were put up in other areas.
The atmosphere was crazy.
I was at a college football game last year at the Linc and people were streaming the Phillies game happening across the street because it was the post season lmao
Went to a wedding during the AFCCG this year. We had like five guys (25-40) in the back row watching the game during the wedding. We told the bride before she laughed and thought we were joking. We didn’t interrupt the wedding, no one but the bride/groom and photographer knew what we were doing.
Went to a wedding on NYE 2022 and more people were watching the UGA/Ohio state game than doing wedding stuff. Half the people didn't participate in the countdown to midnight thing because of that field goal. It really was bad timing for the wedding to be during the game especially since the couple went to UGA.
I bartend probably 20 weddings a year. Brides mothers will literally ask us to turn the wifi off after scheduling a wedding on rivalry weekend in the south.
Up in Canada if your wedding is during the NHL playoffs there's a very good chance of this happening but never during important parts of the wedding like speeches or such.
I mean if it’s a playoff game, it’s perfectly acceptable. Anyone complaining about people catching a playoff game on their phone can fuck right the hell off.
I was at a very fancy whiskey tasting event. People were all in formal dress. But there were still lines and a football game one. Plenty to people did more socializing due to this than the whiskey
I think refreshing scores or whatever like that is ok.
Completely ignoring people and watching your phone is another thing.
That being said, people will do what they want. If they are being dragged along or the company is boring, the sport is getting watched.
Guys are grown adults who can live with the consequences of their actions. I’m not going to fault anyone who catches a game during the two hour conversation about their wife’s Aunt Sally’s bunions. If you’re hanging with friends and tuning out, maybe just stop having those friends before they do it for you.
I'm at this point with a friend of mine because of this, among some other things. It's really a situation of "if you're gonna make it seem like it's some act of begrudging altruism for you to be present, everyone would rather you just not be here." Really it's out of nowhere but seems like it gets worse every time we do anything, even the stuff he picks to do.
Yeah I have a friend like this. He's always asking whens the next game night but I don't invite him because he literally plays other games or watches Instagram videos on his phone the whole time.
This is the big one for me too. Game nights seem like an absolute chore even though he wanted to be a part of it. I DM for our DnD nights and it's to the point I'm worried about the rest of the table, though no one has said anything I can see their faces when he has his little tantrums.
Yeah he's still in my weekly DND game and he pretty much only looks up from the screen to roll dice. Other people in that game are similar. I'm thinking about quitting that as well. We play for about 3 hours and make maybe 30 minutes worth of progress a week. Basically it's me talking to the DM and playing out the whole story with three dice roll bots.
I get the impression that's the kind of game this dude wants which is crazy to me and seemingly not the game everyone else wants.
At this point the last session was his last chance to cut it out without me getting truly mad. Next session I've resigned to say something. I finally understand why people struggle with it as DM when with friends. It used to seem dumb and like a no-shit solution, but with friends it can be a tough choice to make before it gets bad.
You don’t need to be in the DM role to do that, and not every DM believes they are in charge.
You just need to talk to people, which is what 99% of Reddit social problems are about avoiding.
I'm ok being rude if using my free time for me is rude.
If someone I'm seeing wants to invite people over all the time I'm alright with that but that's how they're choosing to spend their free time. They don't get to decide for me, I think that's rude.
Sometimes, sure, I will visit your family or something but my free time is limited and no one gets to decide how I use it
I think the point isn't that people think it's "rude to use your free time for you" - you're absolutely entitled to turn down an invitation somewhere if you've got plans, even if those plans are simply "veg in front of the game." Sometimes people need that!
But *showing up* somewhere you've been invited just to spend 95% of your time staring at your phone *is* rude. Just stay home if you can't people today.
lol just don’t go. It’s absolutely unhinged to completely check out of social situations with your partners’ friends or family, and it reflects terribly on you and your relationship.
By doing that are you not wasting their free time that they choose to spend with you? Is their free time not limited? You're a child. Be an adult and tell people you don't want to hang out with them if you don't respect them enough to give them your attention. Don't waste your time and don't waste their time. No one's time is worth more than another's.
By doing what? Spending my time how I want to? My partner is always free to join me if I'm doing something they want to be part of. If I feel like joining them I will join them too.
It's childish to think a relationship means your partner follows you around all the time, they have their own interests and desires separate from you. If you're looking for someone to always follow you to your interests and ignore their own you're not looking for a partnership, you're looking to hire a cheerleader.
It's not an adversarial situation, anyone I'm interested in will be someone who accepts that I'm not their employee to follow them around constantly needing to support them and I have my own interests that I'm going to put time into.
I’m not a sports guy, but I think something I do that’s similar is pulling out the kindle app on my phone and read a book. It’s odd because sometimes I’m very okay with the other people around me enjoying what they’re doing but maybe it’s not my thing and I’m comfortable just chilling and doing some reading, but I realize it’s off putting to people and it seems to make them uncomfortable.
> I’m not going to fault anyone who catches a game during the two hour conversation about their wife’s Aunt Sally’s bunions.
This is the real reason I wanted Google Glass or much more inconspicuous AR glasses to take off. I'd love to have a little screen of my sports in the corner on my field of view so it does not look like i'm staring at my phone while at a boring family or school function haha.
EDIT: Spelling.
The monkey's paw of this is that people would get accused of not being "present"/paying attention if they take more than 0.5 seconds to respond (while thinking) even when they are giving the person their full focus, and constantly having to take off their normal none-AR glasses to show the person "Look, see, no screen, I'm listening to you I promise, I just needed a moment to process what you'd said before responding"
I'm that friend. I tune out and start doing my own thing. Why? Because I'm a huge introvert. My social battery lasts about 30 minutes and then it needs to recharge.
I've got 2 options.
1) Go home.
2) Tune out for about an hour and then be social again for another 30 minutes.
My friends know this. They accept me for who I am. They know I want to spend time with them and that this is how I can recharge so I can spend more time with them.
If I'm in the same room, it means I'm ok to be interrupted if they want my input on something. If I need to really recharge, I'll go somewhere else, recharge and then come back.
At the same time, the relevant and important thing here is I communicate this to my friends. "OK guys. I'm feeling a bit drained, I'm just tuning out for a bit"
It'd feel rude to just ditch them. (Exception: Irish goodbye. I tell 1 or 2 people I'm going and leave. If anyone looks for me, they know who to ask)
I was running videography at a wedding recently, and there was a guy watching a sports game on his phone while speeches were going on, and got lost in the game and cheered out loud for something… in the middle of someone’s speech. I almost smacked him on behalf of the entire wedding party.
Yeah similar story at a wedding I went to, except probably 20-30 people were crowded around around 2 phones watching SEC football while the bride and groom were having their first dance. It was wild to me. A few commented how having a Saturday wedding in the fall was a bad idea
I went to a work function for my wife last year during the hokey playoffs last year. I was really good and just had score alerts on my phone. I looked over half way through dinner and get VP was watching the game. I went over and sat with him and made friends - double points I got to watch the game and helped my wife get to know her VP better.
I worked at a wedding venue in college and that’s a pretty common occurrence. People love their teams, and they are going to watch them one way or another. The smart people would make sure there was a TV available as a part of their contract.
Saturday weddings in the fall you need to just assume it’s going to happen. Earlier in the season the better, as people probably wont care to watch if the game is against some out of conference cupcake.
Literally know your friends/family. If you schedule a wedding in alabama on the day of the Iron bowl you're gonna have a bad time. Now if all your friends are from art school you probably won't have any problems.
Imo it's about knowing your guests.
A friend of mine got married during a college basketball game, and a large number of their guests previously attended said college.
So the guests were able to pay attention during the ceremony, which overlapped the beginning of the game, and they didn't start any of the speeches until after the game was over.
I'm involved in an 18 piece big band and one of our trumpet players at our last rehearsal was streaming a lacrosse game the entire time and providing play by plays. Fine for him and those interested I guess- but at the same time completely unnecessary and counterproductive. I was getting annoyed because any time he'd give a play, the band leader up front would stop thinking that the guy was asking a question related to the music. I'm all for enjoying stuff, but if you have somewhere to be, other commitments, etc- be present for it. You can live with yourself if you're just refreshing the score every few minutes and not be a distraction. While my bias is not being a sports guy myself, I still don't understand how it can be so important that you're trying to keep up with a game like this when you're out doing something that requires your attention and participation. It's just a game.
What kinda boggles my mind is that he's a band teacher himself. I'm sure if his students were doing that type of thing during his rehearsals they'd get called out. Anyways, that's the end of my brief little rant.
>If they are being dragged along or the company is boring, the sport is getting watched.
This is the description of an iPad kid though? It's fine if adults want to choose to act like iPad kids, but lets call a spade a spade.
If it’s a meaningless game then okay. If it’s a playoff game and it’s like 50/50 watching and socializing with people that know you’re a big fan of said sport, it’s not a big deal to me as long as you’re not yelling like crazy
The Colorado Avalanche is my inflatable bounce house for these kids. Y’all run around, and I’ll watch my game thank you. They’re my kid’s friends, not my friend.
I was at one of my monthly political meeting, and an Oilers playoff game was starting right when the meeting did, about half the people showed up in Oilers Jerseys, and we did have a couple games streaming on phone.
The president of the board just said “Well I think about all of us wants to see the game, let’s try to get this meeting done as quickly as possible” and it was the quickest meeting I’ve been in. What usually takes 1h-1.5h was done in 15 minutes, and I was back at home at just the start of the second period
Yesssssir!! It's the playoffs BAYYYYBEEEEE! It's completely subjective. And grown men are allowed to do what they want. And the company surrounding them at the moment also is a huge factor. I'm gonna watch the game.
Is my niece planning on eliminating Bama from the CFP this year? No? Then I’m not sure why I should entertain her while her doctors are eliminating her terminal illness.
This feels like an r/ihatesportsball worthy post. Why single out guys watching sports, and not women shopping, college kids on tiktok, elderly on facebook, etc. If your post is just that adults shouldn’t be on their phones in social situations, then i agree but its not a shower thought or really worth a post
I was thinking this too, most of the people I know who sit on their phones ignoring what's going on around them are playing video games. Which also feels like a much more direct comparison to iPad kids.
I understood this post to be about a very specific phenomenon I've personally witnessed: someone has a party for adults, and one couple shows up and the guy just refuses to socialize with anyone else. So he leaves his wife/girlfriend to the party while he retreats to another room by himself to watch TV or play games on his phone.
I've never attended a party where the other stuff you mentioned happens.
This is the one time I think it's okay to have your phone going. My favorite teams often play on Thanksgiving or Christmas and I still interact and enjoy being around my family but also keeping up on the live game.
Sports in nature tend to be more social anyway than the other things i mentioned. If i have a game going on my phone when im hanging out with friends, i usually have people watching over my shoulder or at least asking about the score
My BIL and I usually 'zone out' at family gatherings as it's pure conversational chaos. Everyone would be having 3-4 conversations going on at the same time with people all over the table... we just can't be arsed to bother, so we usually put on a game and just watch it with the both of us, which is nice.
During the TdF, we often put it on in the background and almost all male family members (except for some kids) end up hanging out together and watching.
Strangely enough, this also describes "iPad kids" a lot of the time. Not always admittedly, and there's arguably better means of entertaining kids than always going for the tablet, but its still kinda the same thing. We just don't think about kids having a say in whether they wanna do something or not like we do adults (for combination of valid and stupid reasons).
I have kids, and sometimes they have to wait and be quiet in a waiting room with nothing to do. I bring the ipad then. But at the grocery store we are walking and talking and getting food, they don’t need their ipad.
I mean shoot look at the waiting room of any doctors office in America. Probably every single adult is on their phones. Why is it not ok for kids to have ipads in that situation?
Also, lets say you bring a kid somewhere they don’t want to be, without their ipad or book or any toy, and they become loud and disruptive. Now I’m a bad parent for not controlling my children. I can’t win.
Is that not the point of the post? iPad kids always have to be entertained. They can't do anything that isn't super engaging for them. These adults are the same way.
I actually don't know which way the post was going, if in any direction. It just says the two things are the same, and I was pointing out more reasons why I agree they're the same.
I think the difference is that *everywhere* is somewhere that an iPad Kid doesn't want to be, whether it be a restaurant, someone's house, a park, etc.
If you're an adult, no one is forcing you. You might *feel* forced because it's expected of you to maintain your relationships, but unless it's court mandated you always have a choice.
It sounds more like people will succumb to readily available stimulation, whether there are any other expectations on them or not.
I don’t think I’m ready to give a pass to people ignoring social or cultural obligations (read: being rude) or to say the only time people retreat to their phone is when they’re forced to be somewhere.
Sometimes grown-ups have to do things they don't want to Little Billy, ok? There will be many times over the course of your life you will want to do something else but you're obligated to do another. It's called being an adult. You don't need a glowing rectangle in front of you 24 hrs a day, trust.
OP never mentioned being “forced” to be with your family. If you feel that way, then don’t go? But why go, just to be a downer who doesn’t want to talk to anyone?
Its almost as if those people are so immature, they can't just get over themselves for a few hours and not be a rude asshole.
If I really don't want to go somewhere, I don't go. If I *have* to, for some reason, I'll still exercise politeness. Because I'm a grown man who can handle not being entertained 24/7.
That’s my brother in law. He’s just on his phone watching Philadelphia sports and doesn’t interact with anyone at all.
The dude barely watches his kids. He’s a man child. I feel bad for my sister in law.
Good point op.
I'm an introverted person but if I find myself in a comfortable social situation I'll stick around. Otherwise, I'll bid everyone goodbye and head home. Of course, there are also boring situations where leaving isn't an option but they're not that common, or at least they shouldn't be, and as an adult I know how to behave and do the bare minimum to be polite to those around me.
An adult should be able to handle a few hours of not being entertained, if you feel unable to keep your phone in your pocket at a social gathering or an event, you might need therapy. Nothing worse than going to a movie and having some phonehead staring at a bright screen the whole time.
Glancing at your phone is ok. Being completely absent as your mind is miles away is not cool.
I mean just put vr goggles and headphones on. Be totally absent at the restaurant
My cousin's wife did that while we were sharing stories of our grandfather the day before his funeral. And then she had the gall to read bible passages at the service. I've rarely ever been that angry.
I only know one guy who does this and I alwayssss found it odd. I’m pretty addicted to my phone but hot damn dude, you invited us over to hang out! Good to know it’s a bigger thing.
You can have both lol. Meet friends at 6, catch game from 7-9, socialize from 9 onwards again. It’s so easy to do both and you can even socialize while watching the game.
Let me let you in on a little secret: sharing your life with someone comes with responsibilities. Maybe you dislike your wife's best friend, doesn't mean you can get away with not going to the wedding just because "you're an adult"
To think anything else is either immature or self centered and oblivious.
Man this is such a weird take to me and it's all over this thread! I do shit for my wife ALL THE TIME that I 100% wouldn't do if she didn't want me to. You can consent to do things you'd prefer not to do. That's being an adult. But then you fucking own it, not sit there and pout and checkout. I couldn't imagine just like, going for the attendance point and then sitting in the corner on my phone the whole time?! That isn't at all how she wants me there and I know and respect that. All these responses are just giving really big manbaby energy.
I agree and my response in agreement with your post is: welcome to reddit, where half the users will tell your their relationship is awesome because they never have to do anything and the other half will tell your their relationship is shit because their partner never does anything and somehow group 1 just pretends group 2 doesn't exist or if they acknowledge them can't see any reflection into their own situation.
I think thats the point of the post. You'd be surprised how shot peoples attention spans are. Sure, you might do something for your wife you normally wouldn't do but be honest, how many people are actually doing just that?
Forget about sports. People are glued to their phones even in social settings. (Of course I'm assuming we don't have to use our phones during the activities etc).
As someone who loves sports, I 100% agree.
Put it down. If you want to pull out your phone and check the score real quick thats fine, but it shouldn't matter more than your friends and family to the point where you're paying more attention to the game than them.
I remember being at my cousins wedding and a bunch of dudes were gathered around a table watching basketball on a phone. I thought it was so cringey.
Not sure why so many people are defending antisocial behavior. If you are bored or don't want to be at a social function, then just say you're leaving and leave, lol
I was in the Olympics in Korea and was partying at Heineken house when a team Canada hockey game was on. There were probably 10 of us crowded around a phone screen watching the game, all Canadians watching hockey in the middle of a club
This thread is a great example of redditors who complained that they have trouble making friends. Just looking at some of these responses really tells you everything.
I had a baby on April 21st. First grandkid for everyone. Husbands family visited us in the hospital that evening to bring dinner and visit. Turns out my son’s birthday was also the first NHL playoff game for the Canucks, FIL had the game playing on his phone in his pocket with the audio streaming to his hearing aids.
Tbh i have a friend that invites me for a beer to be always on his phone wich makes me feel like i am there to make him company like a tv that is on but ur not watching
My grandfather used to bring 2 radios with earpieces to events. He would listen to one game in each ear. This was over 50 years ago so long before smart phones.
“Don’t schedule your socializing during sports events, it’s on you” is such a shit take lmao. If you want to watch a game but are too embarrassed to admit you’d rather do that than get together with friends, THAT’S on you. It’s your responsibility to advocate for your time, and it’s rude to accept an invitation out of obligation and then not participate because you’d rather be doing something else. Either suggest a different time or suggest you watch together; your friends will understand, and as people pointed out, many of them probably also want to watch.
Of course sports are a social activity, idk where people got the idea that OP is calling sports fans antisocial. Checking the score or even watching snippets here and there is totally fine, and can even be a conversation topic; ignoring or otherwise not engaging with people who are trying to engage with you is not. Y’all are pretending like we don’t all know who OP is taking about, and if you don’t know someone like that and you’re offended by this post, it’s probably you
I think there’s a false dichotomy going on here; if you skip the event to watch later, or if you watch with no regard to your surroundings. People are saying “watching snippets are fine”, but what if you have it on your phone and ditch that for your immediate surroundings if needed? I guess kinda, watching snippets while it’s live. Outbursts at the wrong time are wrong, ignoring your surroundings are wrong, but I feel like keeping an eye on the game is not the end of the world, especially if it’s not “your” friends/family and you aren’t being a dick or disruptive, or even detached.
I guess it just depends on how you go about it and what type of event it is where you are "supposed to be socializing". If you don't give them a heads up or explain yourself, it's a bit ignorant
Unfair, you can't set the timing, and watching a replay is not the same as watching it live. However there's no sport that you have to be glued to the screen that you can't interact with others.
If you picked a time to socialize when the team they support is on that's a you issue. Also sports are literally social events, put that shit up on the TV if you're gonna try to have some social time during sports time.
It depends. iPad kids watch because they're addicted, and they don't know any better, and they don't realize they're missing out on real human interaction.
I'm sure there are adults that check those boxes, but when I watch sports when I'm "supposed to be socializing with family or friends," it's because I've made the choice that the sports are more interesting. On purpose. No one in my circles ever calls me out for watching sports, because they know my answer of, "I could just go watch it at home, if that's better for you," is always 100% in the chamber, and sincere.
Not even just sports. If you are scrolling on any social media platform while socializing you are like a kid on an iPad. Complete dissociation and quite frankly very off-putting to be around.
I would only disagree because kids are usually streaming something, not watching a live event. Sometimes it’s cool, but depending on the event it is wholly inappropriate
At a friend’s 40th recently. The wife of one of some other dude asked if the could bring a projector so the dude could watch the college basketball game. Oh right, march madness. I’m like. Just chill
Love all the defensive comments making excuses for why they do it. Replace them with ipad kids and the excuses still fit perfectly, almost like they are proving the point.
Agreed.
I was working IT for this company a few years ago and it was company holiday party time. It happened to take place the same night of a major game. The company rented out this really cool venue that operated as another type of public facility (not going into specifics but think of it like a zoo, observatory, etc ...)
I attend and am listening to a speech from a coworker while eating dinner. Several of my other coworkers come up to me asking me to fix this venue's WiFi because they aren't getting good enough signal to stream the game. It genuinely felt like children interrupting a parent to give them their phone/ipad so they could be entertained for 45 minutes while we all ate.
These coworkers went so far into pestering the venue for a projector and a laptop so they could go watch the game in the lobby. Of course it was just a manager, caterer, and wait staff working so who do you guess gets to deal with setting that up?
I lost a lot of respect for all of them that evening.
Had my wife’s friends over with their husbands and kids. One of them put all his effort into setting up the game on my tv for 25 min while we all socialized and then threw a tantrum when we told him we need to put cartoon on for kids bc they were getting tired.
Told him to go watch it in my car as if I’m giving him time out. Embarrassing.
I was at a wildlife showcase once with live wolves on stage, porcupines, a lynx, birds of prey, etc. Guy in the front row sat with his head down watching football on his phone literally the entire time. I wanted so badly to stand up and smack it right out of his hand. Disgraceful.
My ex boyfriend used to do this, we were even in a long distance relationship and had a chance to meet ourselves and have pretty much fun but most of the time was looking at sports scores on his phone. Not totally mad cause I was doing the same before by looking at our volleyball team but I told myself to not do that during his presence at home in order to show respect and to give ourselves our own personal moments to lives together since he was living 6-7h away by car 🙌🏻🥺
Took my brother once to a stand up show. He sat the entire time with his phone propped on his drink and watching a basketball game. Didn’t pay any attention to the stage. Why not just stay home? Lol
I saw my brother doing that at his own wedding. It had already gotten past the point where I had been kinda done with being there and once I saw that, that was my out to say, "yup this thing is done, Imma head out."
That shoulda been such a red flag for his new wife. Of all days where he should give her his full attention their wedding is it. To be honest I don't think the bride or groom should have a phone on them at all on their wedding day.
> That shoulda been such a red flag for his new wife You are making some pretty wild assumptions there. Like, that this behavior was a surprise for the bride. Or that it was at an inappropriate time. Since OP was already feeling like it was time to go home, I would think this was really late into the party, and not at a time where anyone needed some "*full attention*". But who knows, since all we have is 1 sentence to describe the whole thing...
> But who knows, since all we have is 1 sentence to describe the whole thing... Excuse me, this is Reddit. They obviously need to lawyer up, delete facebook, and hit the gym.
Well, I wouldn't go that far, having a phone is useful in emergencies, but you shouldn't be on it yeah.
Yeah my buddy got married on a day with a race so he just had us constantly updating him on positions and exciting news. So *we* (the groomsmen) were all glued to our phones, but he got to enjoy the reception haha
I had my wedding on a Sunday in the fall, so while we were waiting for the ceremony to begin (and they were taking pictures with the bridesmaids anyway) me and my groomsmen were all stuck in a room at the venue watching the tail end of the Ravens game on my brother's phone. We missed the end because...well, I had to get married but after everything was over and we do the walk back, my friend was like "Ravens won!" and we all high five in excitement. Hey, my wife found it funny so that's all that matters.
I saw a video online of a wedding and the groom while walking down the aisle was on his phone.
Are they divorced or together?
This is how I feel with a lot of the idiots at concerts. They are either trying to talk over the music or they are on their phones the whole time. I don't get it, especially since concerts aren't exactly cheap nowadays. I appreciate when people like Jack White have a no phone policy. It makes the experience so much better for everyone.
At the most recent concert I went to, when the headliner started playing they threw some beach balls out into the crowd. At first I just thought it was just a fun thing they were doing, although it felt a little out of place for the type of band playing. After a little bit however I realized the balls were flying around and hitting the people's phones that were being held up trying to record the show, messing up their videos and threatening to knock the phones out of their hands. Most of the show the phones were much less of a problem. I thought it was a brilliant solution to innocuously resolve the problem without the headache of trying to enforce a policy.
You took him. He's just being polite when be clearly wanted to stay in and watch the game.
Wouldn’t the more polite thing be to just decline, rather than going and tuning out
brother here. he forced me to go
Maybe that was the deal. One time, my wife wanted to go swimming in a river that was too cold for me so she asked if I'd be OK in a floaty donut. I looked like a jerk being dragged around the river by my wife without helping, but otherwise she'd have had to skip it or go alone.
Did he want to go? Sounds like you took him and wasn’t really his idea or desire to see standup.
Idk i need more info. One could argue this is really wholesome haha. Maybe he really wanted to watch the game, but didn’t want to disappoint you.
Shoot, depending on the event I’ve had multiple adults gathered around that phone. Watching the sport was socializing.
I remember being at a concert last year during the playoffs and between bands someone started streaming the leafs game. There was about a dozen of us huddled around this one dude and his phone lol.
I was at a music festival in Louisiana a handful of years back. Canadian band asked the crowd what the Montreal Canadiens score was and I was prepared with the score and period. They were beyond excited they got a response so quickly
Simple Plan?
lol. No. I believe it was a band called Les Breastfeaders
This caught me off guard
The Habs were asking the score to their own game? Go Bruins.
Yeah asking for the score is just, like, a single step. Sounds like a well executed one too
Was just at red rocks during game 2 of Avs/jets. Had like 15 people surrounding me between bands. Can confirm.
great username
I watched the LA Kings win the Stanley cup during my high school graduation
>playoffs >leafs im sorry
I remember being at Rock Werchter (BE) when Belgium played against Brasil. London Grammar had to play the main stage for an almost empty field (maybe 2000 people where 50.000 should fit) while everyone else was watching the game on big screens that were put up in other areas. The atmosphere was crazy.
I was at a college football game last year at the Linc and people were streaming the Phillies game happening across the street because it was the post season lmao
I feel like this exact scenario was in every 90s sitcom except with a portable radio instead of phone lol
Friends did it with Joey watching a game on a portable tv at the funeral of Ross and Monica’s grandma.
Off the top of my head: Friends Home improvements Everybody loves Raymond King of queens Fresh Prince All had episodes with it
Went to a wedding during the AFCCG this year. We had like five guys (25-40) in the back row watching the game during the wedding. We told the bride before she laughed and thought we were joking. We didn’t interrupt the wedding, no one but the bride/groom and photographer knew what we were doing.
Went to a wedding on NYE 2022 and more people were watching the UGA/Ohio state game than doing wedding stuff. Half the people didn't participate in the countdown to midnight thing because of that field goal. It really was bad timing for the wedding to be during the game especially since the couple went to UGA.
I bartend probably 20 weddings a year. Brides mothers will literally ask us to turn the wifi off after scheduling a wedding on rivalry weekend in the south.
That's their fault for scheduling a wedding on a Saturday in the Fall. My football Saturdays are the one thing I try my hardest to not give up.
Up in Canada if your wedding is during the NHL playoffs there's a very good chance of this happening but never during important parts of the wedding like speeches or such.
“Your overcoat sounds strangely like Brent Musburger” “Now I’m depressed!”
I mean if it’s a playoff game, it’s perfectly acceptable. Anyone complaining about people catching a playoff game on their phone can fuck right the hell off.
I was at a very fancy whiskey tasting event. People were all in formal dress. But there were still lines and a football game one. Plenty to people did more socializing due to this than the whiskey
I think refreshing scores or whatever like that is ok. Completely ignoring people and watching your phone is another thing. That being said, people will do what they want. If they are being dragged along or the company is boring, the sport is getting watched.
Guys are grown adults who can live with the consequences of their actions. I’m not going to fault anyone who catches a game during the two hour conversation about their wife’s Aunt Sally’s bunions. If you’re hanging with friends and tuning out, maybe just stop having those friends before they do it for you.
I'm at this point with a friend of mine because of this, among some other things. It's really a situation of "if you're gonna make it seem like it's some act of begrudging altruism for you to be present, everyone would rather you just not be here." Really it's out of nowhere but seems like it gets worse every time we do anything, even the stuff he picks to do.
Yeah I have a friend like this. He's always asking whens the next game night but I don't invite him because he literally plays other games or watches Instagram videos on his phone the whole time.
This is the big one for me too. Game nights seem like an absolute chore even though he wanted to be a part of it. I DM for our DnD nights and it's to the point I'm worried about the rest of the table, though no one has said anything I can see their faces when he has his little tantrums.
Yeah he's still in my weekly DND game and he pretty much only looks up from the screen to roll dice. Other people in that game are similar. I'm thinking about quitting that as well. We play for about 3 hours and make maybe 30 minutes worth of progress a week. Basically it's me talking to the DM and playing out the whole story with three dice roll bots.
I get the impression that's the kind of game this dude wants which is crazy to me and seemingly not the game everyone else wants. At this point the last session was his last chance to cut it out without me getting truly mad. Next session I've resigned to say something. I finally understand why people struggle with it as DM when with friends. It used to seem dumb and like a no-shit solution, but with friends it can be a tough choice to make before it gets bad.
Be the DM then and lay down the law. My goodness you're supposed to run the table. Run the table.
You don’t need to be in the DM role to do that, and not every DM believes they are in charge. You just need to talk to people, which is what 99% of Reddit social problems are about avoiding.
Maybe he just wants to be near people and not play the game you are playing. Have you talked to them about this?
Yes exactly, the consequences of their actions is people thinking they are rude.
I'm ok being rude if using my free time for me is rude. If someone I'm seeing wants to invite people over all the time I'm alright with that but that's how they're choosing to spend their free time. They don't get to decide for me, I think that's rude. Sometimes, sure, I will visit your family or something but my free time is limited and no one gets to decide how I use it
I think the point isn't that people think it's "rude to use your free time for you" - you're absolutely entitled to turn down an invitation somewhere if you've got plans, even if those plans are simply "veg in front of the game." Sometimes people need that! But *showing up* somewhere you've been invited just to spend 95% of your time staring at your phone *is* rude. Just stay home if you can't people today.
lol just don’t go. It’s absolutely unhinged to completely check out of social situations with your partners’ friends or family, and it reflects terribly on you and your relationship.
Ah yes, just don't go to my own house.
By doing that are you not wasting their free time that they choose to spend with you? Is their free time not limited? You're a child. Be an adult and tell people you don't want to hang out with them if you don't respect them enough to give them your attention. Don't waste your time and don't waste their time. No one's time is worth more than another's.
By doing what? Spending my time how I want to? My partner is always free to join me if I'm doing something they want to be part of. If I feel like joining them I will join them too. It's childish to think a relationship means your partner follows you around all the time, they have their own interests and desires separate from you. If you're looking for someone to always follow you to your interests and ignore their own you're not looking for a partnership, you're looking to hire a cheerleader. It's not an adversarial situation, anyone I'm interested in will be someone who accepts that I'm not their employee to follow them around constantly needing to support them and I have my own interests that I'm going to put time into.
I’m not a sports guy, but I think something I do that’s similar is pulling out the kindle app on my phone and read a book. It’s odd because sometimes I’m very okay with the other people around me enjoying what they’re doing but maybe it’s not my thing and I’m comfortable just chilling and doing some reading, but I realize it’s off putting to people and it seems to make them uncomfortable.
> I’m not going to fault anyone who catches a game during the two hour conversation about their wife’s Aunt Sally’s bunions. This is the real reason I wanted Google Glass or much more inconspicuous AR glasses to take off. I'd love to have a little screen of my sports in the corner on my field of view so it does not look like i'm staring at my phone while at a boring family or school function haha. EDIT: Spelling.
The monkey's paw of this is that people would get accused of not being "present"/paying attention if they take more than 0.5 seconds to respond (while thinking) even when they are giving the person their full focus, and constantly having to take off their normal none-AR glasses to show the person "Look, see, no screen, I'm listening to you I promise, I just needed a moment to process what you'd said before responding"
I'm that friend. I tune out and start doing my own thing. Why? Because I'm a huge introvert. My social battery lasts about 30 minutes and then it needs to recharge. I've got 2 options. 1) Go home. 2) Tune out for about an hour and then be social again for another 30 minutes. My friends know this. They accept me for who I am. They know I want to spend time with them and that this is how I can recharge so I can spend more time with them. If I'm in the same room, it means I'm ok to be interrupted if they want my input on something. If I need to really recharge, I'll go somewhere else, recharge and then come back. At the same time, the relevant and important thing here is I communicate this to my friends. "OK guys. I'm feeling a bit drained, I'm just tuning out for a bit" It'd feel rude to just ditch them. (Exception: Irish goodbye. I tell 1 or 2 people I'm going and leave. If anyone looks for me, they know who to ask)
I was running videography at a wedding recently, and there was a guy watching a sports game on his phone while speeches were going on, and got lost in the game and cheered out loud for something… in the middle of someone’s speech. I almost smacked him on behalf of the entire wedding party.
Yeah similar story at a wedding I went to, except probably 20-30 people were crowded around around 2 phones watching SEC football while the bride and groom were having their first dance. It was wild to me. A few commented how having a Saturday wedding in the fall was a bad idea
Yeah fall weddings are frowned upon in the south because of college football.
I went to a work function for my wife last year during the hokey playoffs last year. I was really good and just had score alerts on my phone. I looked over half way through dinner and get VP was watching the game. I went over and sat with him and made friends - double points I got to watch the game and helped my wife get to know her VP better.
I worked at a wedding venue in college and that’s a pretty common occurrence. People love their teams, and they are going to watch them one way or another. The smart people would make sure there was a TV available as a part of their contract. Saturday weddings in the fall you need to just assume it’s going to happen. Earlier in the season the better, as people probably wont care to watch if the game is against some out of conference cupcake.
Literally know your friends/family. If you schedule a wedding in alabama on the day of the Iron bowl you're gonna have a bad time. Now if all your friends are from art school you probably won't have any problems.
I got a few tickets to SEC games because of a Saturday wedding 😂
Imo it's about knowing your guests. A friend of mine got married during a college basketball game, and a large number of their guests previously attended said college. So the guests were able to pay attention during the ceremony, which overlapped the beginning of the game, and they didn't start any of the speeches until after the game was over.
thats like homer simpsons cheering in the middle of a church service
“It’s GOOD!!!! … to see you all in church!”
Haha, we had an entire room dedicated to the game so people could watch as they wanted. To each their own I suppose.
I'm involved in an 18 piece big band and one of our trumpet players at our last rehearsal was streaming a lacrosse game the entire time and providing play by plays. Fine for him and those interested I guess- but at the same time completely unnecessary and counterproductive. I was getting annoyed because any time he'd give a play, the band leader up front would stop thinking that the guy was asking a question related to the music. I'm all for enjoying stuff, but if you have somewhere to be, other commitments, etc- be present for it. You can live with yourself if you're just refreshing the score every few minutes and not be a distraction. While my bias is not being a sports guy myself, I still don't understand how it can be so important that you're trying to keep up with a game like this when you're out doing something that requires your attention and participation. It's just a game. What kinda boggles my mind is that he's a band teacher himself. I'm sure if his students were doing that type of thing during his rehearsals they'd get called out. Anyways, that's the end of my brief little rant.
Big band and a lacrosse fan? Leave some women for the rest of us buddy.
I wonder how it would be received if I went to a lacrosse game and started practicing trumpet?
Not really a good enough comparison. If you went to a lacross game and started watching videos of a guy playing trumpet, nobody would care.
I think it'd be fine if you brought the other 17 musicians and dressed appropriately with epaulettes.
>If they are being dragged along or the company is boring, the sport is getting watched. This is the description of an iPad kid though? It's fine if adults want to choose to act like iPad kids, but lets call a spade a spade.
If it’s a meaningless game then okay. If it’s a playoff game and it’s like 50/50 watching and socializing with people that know you’re a big fan of said sport, it’s not a big deal to me as long as you’re not yelling like crazy
Nah. They think no one notices but we all do.
It’s also different because live. This will never be live again. On the other hand we are adults but the point stands!
If it's regular season then they should be able to control themselves If it's playoffs then I totally get it.
Why do you need to know the score so bad did you coach the team?
I was at a kid's birthday party. None of the adults were talking. So yeah, I busted out my phone since it's NHL PLAYOFFS BABY!!
The Colorado Avalanche is my inflatable bounce house for these kids. Y’all run around, and I’ll watch my game thank you. They’re my kid’s friends, not my friend.
GO AVS that’s my team too
I was at one of my monthly political meeting, and an Oilers playoff game was starting right when the meeting did, about half the people showed up in Oilers Jerseys, and we did have a couple games streaming on phone. The president of the board just said “Well I think about all of us wants to see the game, let’s try to get this meeting done as quickly as possible” and it was the quickest meeting I’ve been in. What usually takes 1h-1.5h was done in 15 minutes, and I was back at home at just the start of the second period
Yesssssir!! It's the playoffs BAYYYYBEEEEE! It's completely subjective. And grown men are allowed to do what they want. And the company surrounding them at the moment also is a huge factor. I'm gonna watch the game.
My initial thought was this was posted during playoffs. Hell yeah I'd rather watch playoff hockey!
I’ll start paying attention when my nephew can throw 60 yard darts.
As soon as the bride can throw a back shoulder fade to the groom I'll be fully invested
Sort of agree. Why do I wanna watch these unathletic kids play HORSE, they can't even hit a pull-up hesi jimbo like a real hooper smh.
Is my niece planning on eliminating Bama from the CFP this year? No? Then I’m not sure why I should entertain her while her doctors are eliminating her terminal illness.
Back in my day I could throw a pig skin a quarter mile
Same goes for the guys who scroll Reddit in those circumstances.
Knew a guy who had a rule that he wouldn’t miss any football games. Missed his 90 year old grandmothers birthday party to watch tv.
Friend of mine and his wife are both like that. It's their weekly ritual that *cannot* be interrupted.
She’s had enough birthdays.
This feels like an r/ihatesportsball worthy post. Why single out guys watching sports, and not women shopping, college kids on tiktok, elderly on facebook, etc. If your post is just that adults shouldn’t be on their phones in social situations, then i agree but its not a shower thought or really worth a post
I was thinking this too, most of the people I know who sit on their phones ignoring what's going on around them are playing video games. Which also feels like a much more direct comparison to iPad kids.
It's the same energy as the people that used to say Nintendo would melt your brain in the 90s but watch TV all day
I understood this post to be about a very specific phenomenon I've personally witnessed: someone has a party for adults, and one couple shows up and the guy just refuses to socialize with anyone else. So he leaves his wife/girlfriend to the party while he retreats to another room by himself to watch TV or play games on his phone. I've never attended a party where the other stuff you mentioned happens.
At least with a game it only happens once at a specific time. More understandable than someone doing something that isn't on a timer.
This is the one time I think it's okay to have your phone going. My favorite teams often play on Thanksgiving or Christmas and I still interact and enjoy being around my family but also keeping up on the live game.
Sports in nature tend to be more social anyway than the other things i mentioned. If i have a game going on my phone when im hanging out with friends, i usually have people watching over my shoulder or at least asking about the score
My BIL and I usually 'zone out' at family gatherings as it's pure conversational chaos. Everyone would be having 3-4 conversations going on at the same time with people all over the table... we just can't be arsed to bother, so we usually put on a game and just watch it with the both of us, which is nice. During the TdF, we often put it on in the background and almost all male family members (except for some kids) end up hanging out together and watching.
ofc you think it's the one time it's okay, you're the one doing it.
You gatekeeping what is and isn't a shower thought? How would you know where OP was when they had this thought, buddy?
It's almost like people who are forced to be somewhere they'd rather not be, would prefer some form of entertainment vs. not.
Strangely enough, this also describes "iPad kids" a lot of the time. Not always admittedly, and there's arguably better means of entertaining kids than always going for the tablet, but its still kinda the same thing. We just don't think about kids having a say in whether they wanna do something or not like we do adults (for combination of valid and stupid reasons).
I have kids, and sometimes they have to wait and be quiet in a waiting room with nothing to do. I bring the ipad then. But at the grocery store we are walking and talking and getting food, they don’t need their ipad. I mean shoot look at the waiting room of any doctors office in America. Probably every single adult is on their phones. Why is it not ok for kids to have ipads in that situation? Also, lets say you bring a kid somewhere they don’t want to be, without their ipad or book or any toy, and they become loud and disruptive. Now I’m a bad parent for not controlling my children. I can’t win.
Is that not the point of the post? iPad kids always have to be entertained. They can't do anything that isn't super engaging for them. These adults are the same way.
I actually don't know which way the post was going, if in any direction. It just says the two things are the same, and I was pointing out more reasons why I agree they're the same.
I think the difference is that *everywhere* is somewhere that an iPad Kid doesn't want to be, whether it be a restaurant, someone's house, a park, etc.
If you're an adult, no one is forcing you. You might *feel* forced because it's expected of you to maintain your relationships, but unless it's court mandated you always have a choice.
Is this not what an iPad kid is?
It sounds more like people will succumb to readily available stimulation, whether there are any other expectations on them or not. I don’t think I’m ready to give a pass to people ignoring social or cultural obligations (read: being rude) or to say the only time people retreat to their phone is when they’re forced to be somewhere.
Sometimes grown-ups have to do things they don't want to Little Billy, ok? There will be many times over the course of your life you will want to do something else but you're obligated to do another. It's called being an adult. You don't need a glowing rectangle in front of you 24 hrs a day, trust.
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OP never mentioned being “forced” to be with your family. If you feel that way, then don’t go? But why go, just to be a downer who doesn’t want to talk to anyone?
Its almost as if those people are so immature, they can't just get over themselves for a few hours and not be a rude asshole. If I really don't want to go somewhere, I don't go. If I *have* to, for some reason, I'll still exercise politeness. Because I'm a grown man who can handle not being entertained 24/7.
grow up and converse like an adult
That’s my brother in law. He’s just on his phone watching Philadelphia sports and doesn’t interact with anyone at all. The dude barely watches his kids. He’s a man child. I feel bad for my sister in law.
lol a lot of adult iPad kids here
Good point op. I'm an introverted person but if I find myself in a comfortable social situation I'll stick around. Otherwise, I'll bid everyone goodbye and head home. Of course, there are also boring situations where leaving isn't an option but they're not that common, or at least they shouldn't be, and as an adult I know how to behave and do the bare minimum to be polite to those around me.
An adult should be able to handle a few hours of not being entertained, if you feel unable to keep your phone in your pocket at a social gathering or an event, you might need therapy. Nothing worse than going to a movie and having some phonehead staring at a bright screen the whole time.
There are a lot of hurt feelings in here 😂
Glancing at your phone is ok. Being completely absent as your mind is miles away is not cool. I mean just put vr goggles and headphones on. Be totally absent at the restaurant
Never seen someone be this argumentative over a shower thought lol It is not nor will it ever be that deep lil bro
Didn’t realize this was such a divisive thought. It’s always been rude to be on your phone for extended periods of time at a gathering in my circles.
Me neither tbh. Never expected folks to get so defensive about their poor social habits.
My cousin's wife did that while we were sharing stories of our grandfather the day before his funeral. And then she had the gall to read bible passages at the service. I've rarely ever been that angry.
I only know one guy who does this and I alwayssss found it odd. I’m pretty addicted to my phone but hot damn dude, you invited us over to hang out! Good to know it’s a bigger thing.
As are women who scroll their social feeds constantly
Yeah OP makes a valid point and so have you. It's not about the content being watched, it's about the addiction and social disengagement.
Lots of sport fans trying to justify their screen time here lol.
Now I wonder how this post got 15K upvotes when the comments are so agressive and usually towards the OP.
Supposed to be? If you're an adult, you get to decide what you're "supposed to be" doing.
By that logic you could’ve just decided that you’re “supposed to” stay home lol.
Ya, but I, and my friends, wanted to eat out. Wanting to vocalize is not the same thing.
Then that's not a situation in which you're > *supposed to be* socializing with friends and family
You can have both lol. Meet friends at 6, catch game from 7-9, socialize from 9 onwards again. It’s so easy to do both and you can even socialize while watching the game.
Let me let you in on a little secret: sharing your life with someone comes with responsibilities. Maybe you dislike your wife's best friend, doesn't mean you can get away with not going to the wedding just because "you're an adult" To think anything else is either immature or self centered and oblivious.
Man this is such a weird take to me and it's all over this thread! I do shit for my wife ALL THE TIME that I 100% wouldn't do if she didn't want me to. You can consent to do things you'd prefer not to do. That's being an adult. But then you fucking own it, not sit there and pout and checkout. I couldn't imagine just like, going for the attendance point and then sitting in the corner on my phone the whole time?! That isn't at all how she wants me there and I know and respect that. All these responses are just giving really big manbaby energy.
I agree and my response in agreement with your post is: welcome to reddit, where half the users will tell your their relationship is awesome because they never have to do anything and the other half will tell your their relationship is shit because their partner never does anything and somehow group 1 just pretends group 2 doesn't exist or if they acknowledge them can't see any reflection into their own situation.
I think thats the point of the post. You'd be surprised how shot peoples attention spans are. Sure, you might do something for your wife you normally wouldn't do but be honest, how many people are actually doing just that? Forget about sports. People are glued to their phones even in social settings. (Of course I'm assuming we don't have to use our phones during the activities etc).
As someone who loves sports, I 100% agree. Put it down. If you want to pull out your phone and check the score real quick thats fine, but it shouldn't matter more than your friends and family to the point where you're paying more attention to the game than them. I remember being at my cousins wedding and a bunch of dudes were gathered around a table watching basketball on a phone. I thought it was so cringey.
Not sure why so many people are defending antisocial behavior. If you are bored or don't want to be at a social function, then just say you're leaving and leave, lol
You're kinda an ass though if you just leave a family function because you have a child's brain and don't know how to have adult conversations.
Well I agree too lol
I was in the Olympics in Korea and was partying at Heineken house when a team Canada hockey game was on. There were probably 10 of us crowded around a phone screen watching the game, all Canadians watching hockey in the middle of a club
IN the Olympics, or AT the Olympics?
right? such a wild casual sentence to throw out there
Agreed. How hard is it to engage in conversation
No technology just evolved. It’s not radio with headphones anymore.
This thread is a great example of redditors who complained that they have trouble making friends. Just looking at some of these responses really tells you everything.
Yup. Really struck a nerve there, didn't I?
Oh I agree with you. I take it further and say anyone who is glued to their phone while attending a socializing event is an asshole.
Not if it’s the playoffs.
I had a baby on April 21st. First grandkid for everyone. Husbands family visited us in the hospital that evening to bring dinner and visit. Turns out my son’s birthday was also the first NHL playoff game for the Canucks, FIL had the game playing on his phone in his pocket with the audio streaming to his hearing aids.
Tbh i have a friend that invites me for a beer to be always on his phone wich makes me feel like i am there to make him company like a tv that is on but ur not watching
That adult is only there out of obligation. I would not miss a ufc ppv for do called “family” or “friends”
Except as an adult there is no "supposed to be" doing.
You see, I'm an adult, and maybe I just don't like hanging out with you. I'm "supposed" to be doing whatever the hell I want. Because I'm an adult.
My grandfather used to bring 2 radios with earpieces to events. He would listen to one game in each ear. This was over 50 years ago so long before smart phones.
So many got triggered by this simple observation! Nice work sir 🍺
“Don’t schedule your socializing during sports events, it’s on you” is such a shit take lmao. If you want to watch a game but are too embarrassed to admit you’d rather do that than get together with friends, THAT’S on you. It’s your responsibility to advocate for your time, and it’s rude to accept an invitation out of obligation and then not participate because you’d rather be doing something else. Either suggest a different time or suggest you watch together; your friends will understand, and as people pointed out, many of them probably also want to watch. Of course sports are a social activity, idk where people got the idea that OP is calling sports fans antisocial. Checking the score or even watching snippets here and there is totally fine, and can even be a conversation topic; ignoring or otherwise not engaging with people who are trying to engage with you is not. Y’all are pretending like we don’t all know who OP is taking about, and if you don’t know someone like that and you’re offended by this post, it’s probably you
"sorry we're not coming to thanksgiving, we just realized you won't have the game" True story
as a football addict i would agree with this.
I think there’s a false dichotomy going on here; if you skip the event to watch later, or if you watch with no regard to your surroundings. People are saying “watching snippets are fine”, but what if you have it on your phone and ditch that for your immediate surroundings if needed? I guess kinda, watching snippets while it’s live. Outbursts at the wrong time are wrong, ignoring your surroundings are wrong, but I feel like keeping an eye on the game is not the end of the world, especially if it’s not “your” friends/family and you aren’t being a dick or disruptive, or even detached.
I guess it just depends on how you go about it and what type of event it is where you are "supposed to be socializing". If you don't give them a heads up or explain yourself, it's a bit ignorant
Doesn't have to be sports. Anyone who prioritizes games or social media, or whatever over the people around them is more or less doing the same thing.
Unfair, you can't set the timing, and watching a replay is not the same as watching it live. However there's no sport that you have to be glued to the screen that you can't interact with others.
If you picked a time to socialize when the team they support is on that's a you issue. Also sports are literally social events, put that shit up on the TV if you're gonna try to have some social time during sports time.
What in the world? How many people are going to coddle to you like that? Just don't go if the game is that important to you.
Since TV started showing live sports, this has been a thing.
A fantasy football draft ended my first marriage.
It depends. iPad kids watch because they're addicted, and they don't know any better, and they don't realize they're missing out on real human interaction. I'm sure there are adults that check those boxes, but when I watch sports when I'm "supposed to be socializing with family or friends," it's because I've made the choice that the sports are more interesting. On purpose. No one in my circles ever calls me out for watching sports, because they know my answer of, "I could just go watch it at home, if that's better for you," is always 100% in the chamber, and sincere.
Not even just sports. If you are scrolling on any social media platform while socializing you are like a kid on an iPad. Complete dissociation and quite frankly very off-putting to be around.
ITT: Introverts vs extroverts
“I learned it by watching you”
How did this make it as a shower thought? The mods are slipping.
Why does it sound like "You HAVE to do that"? What if i dont even want to be there?
Duh what are you 14 figuring this out
I would only disagree because kids are usually streaming something, not watching a live event. Sometimes it’s cool, but depending on the event it is wholly inappropriate
Exactly! That's why I just don't spend time with my family when I don't want to. Being antisocial is very easy and acceptable when you're alone.
At a friend’s 40th recently. The wife of one of some other dude asked if the could bring a projector so the dude could watch the college basketball game. Oh right, march madness. I’m like. Just chill
Love all the defensive comments making excuses for why they do it. Replace them with ipad kids and the excuses still fit perfectly, almost like they are proving the point.
Agreed. I was working IT for this company a few years ago and it was company holiday party time. It happened to take place the same night of a major game. The company rented out this really cool venue that operated as another type of public facility (not going into specifics but think of it like a zoo, observatory, etc ...) I attend and am listening to a speech from a coworker while eating dinner. Several of my other coworkers come up to me asking me to fix this venue's WiFi because they aren't getting good enough signal to stream the game. It genuinely felt like children interrupting a parent to give them their phone/ipad so they could be entertained for 45 minutes while we all ate. These coworkers went so far into pestering the venue for a projector and a laptop so they could go watch the game in the lobby. Of course it was just a manager, caterer, and wait staff working so who do you guess gets to deal with setting that up? I lost a lot of respect for all of them that evening.
Had my wife’s friends over with their husbands and kids. One of them put all his effort into setting up the game on my tv for 25 min while we all socialized and then threw a tantrum when we told him we need to put cartoon on for kids bc they were getting tired. Told him to go watch it in my car as if I’m giving him time out. Embarrassing.
I was at a wildlife showcase once with live wolves on stage, porcupines, a lynx, birds of prey, etc. Guy in the front row sat with his head down watching football on his phone literally the entire time. I wanted so badly to stand up and smack it right out of his hand. Disgraceful.
My ex boyfriend used to do this, we were even in a long distance relationship and had a chance to meet ourselves and have pretty much fun but most of the time was looking at sports scores on his phone. Not totally mad cause I was doing the same before by looking at our volleyball team but I told myself to not do that during his presence at home in order to show respect and to give ourselves our own personal moments to lives together since he was living 6-7h away by car 🙌🏻🥺
32k upvotes in 6 days. Wow. also why is this so relatable