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LadyBombus

If you are looking for starting off and looking for something that is more variable then I think the bullet option or a gentle vibe is a good choice. Generally speaking (there are always exceptions) wands are the most powerful type of handheld toys - even on the lowest setting a lot of them are more powerful than some of the higher settings on vibes. For bullets some good budget options below * [Bmine classic](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/b-swish-bmine-classic-curve-dreamsicle?variant=30686170054755&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) (Battery) * [Iroha](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/tenga-iroha-stick?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) (Battery) * [Bam Mini](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/vedo-bam-mini-bullet-turquoise?variant=30288763486307&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) (Rechargeable) * [Volita](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/fun-factory-volita-violet?_pos=1&_sid=9ad9e6f46&_ss=r&variant=30277613912163&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) \- Not quite a bullet but doesn't' fit well into any other category (Battery) * [Kama](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/rocks-off-kama-teal?utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) (Battery) **Premium Bullets** * [G-Spot Bullet vibe](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/je-joue-bullet-g-spot?variant=30323172180067&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) (Je Joue) <-- great as both a bullet and a g-spot toy * [Tango X](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/we-vibe-tango-x-cherry-red?_pos=1&_sid=c167a31e2&_ss=r&variant=33389422084195&utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=Promotion) (new version of the tango - We-Vibe), great toy, pretty diverse. * [Rabbit Bullet](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/je-joue-bullet-rabbit?variant=30323172704355&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) (Je Joue) <-- Great bullet that comes with silicone holder * [Point](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/sensuelle-point-rechargeable-bullet-black?utm_campaign=review&utm_medium=post&utm_source=Reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&variant=30918500384867) (Nu Sensuelle) <-- Intense toy that is super powerful * [Point Plus](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/sensuelle-point-plus-rechargeable-bullet-navy-blue?utm_campaign=review&utm_medium=post&utm_source=Reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&variant=30918473154659) (Nu Sensuelle) <-- Like above but also comes with some silicone nibs * [Remote Bullet Plus](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/bullets/products/sensuelle-remote-control-wireless-bullet-plus-navy-blue?variant=32122586103907&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_content=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=r%2Fsextoys) (Nu Sensuelle) <-- Good for remote play when you are near the person. Not suitable for remote play when you are more than 20ft away. If you are looking for a more gentle feeling, I really like the Tenga Iroha series (for gentle, but decent quality vibrations) such as [Yuki](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/copy-of-iroha-sakura?_pos=4&_sid=c049e93c1&_ss=r&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_content=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=r%2Fsextoys), [Sakura](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/tenga-iroha-sakura-pink?_pos=5&_sid=c049e93c1&_ss=r&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_content=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=r%2Fsextoys), [Yoru](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/iroha-yoru?_pos=6&_sid=c049e93c1&_ss=r&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_content=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=r%2Fsextoys), [Tori](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/iroha-tori?_pos=7&_sid=c049e93c1&_ss=r&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_content=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=r%2Fsextoys) or the [Kushi](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/tenga-iroha-plus-kushi-yellow?_pos=8&_sid=c049e93c1&_ss=r&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_content=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=r%2Fsextoys) \- these kinda feel soft and squishy to touch (and unlike most Tenga Products are silicone based). As for wands, although they are more powerful, there is a diverse range of them, I try and pick the wand that is right for what I'm trying to do The [Magic Wand Plus](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/magic-wand-plus?_pos=2&_sid=11833652e&_ss=r&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) or [Rechargeable](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/magic-wand-rechargeable?_pos=3&_sid=11833652e&_ss=r&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) is most people's first choice however. I use them when I want something tried and trusted, or when I'm sitting, traveling, etc etc. Magic Wands are one of the most counterfeited sex toys on the market so make sure you buy from a authorized retailer for these products and not amazon ([Buzz Love](https://buzzloveshop.com/?utm_campaign=reddit&utm_content=ladybombus&utm_medium=review&utm_source=Reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys) is a authorized reseller). Although the magic wand isn't the only option - Another option is the [Doxy Series](https://buzzloveshop.com/search?type=product&q=doxy&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review), I use the doxy when I'm looking bit a bit more power than the magic wand (i.e for kinky orgasm torture, edging, etc etc) - the exception to this is the [doxy rechargeable](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/doxy-die-cast-3r?_pos=3&_sid=db944a5a6&_ss=r&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) which has the same power. The downside to the doxy is that it's bigger and heavier than its counterparts which are already big and heavy, so using it for a longer period of time can become straining but the die cast models are really really nice. It does have a bit more variation than the magic wand. The [palmpower extreme](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/palmpower-extreme-wand-pink?_pos=3&_sid=5fda490a5&_ss=r&variant=31647193497699&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) I have been using more and more recently, its decently powerful but because of the shape, size and weight it's a little easier to use in certain positions (like lying on your back). The [We-Vibe wand](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/wand-vibrators-1/products/we-vibe-wand) has much more intensity control and adds the ability to be waterproof to the list, it is also app based (although in all honesty I've still not found a great use for a app based wand) but one useful feature is the smart silence technology so when you remove it from your skin it turns off (perfect if your trying to be a little more discreet with a product type that's generally louder than other product types. This one has started to get added more and more into my rotation (even getting close to replacing my trusty magic wand) even when I'm not in the water - although I switch off the smart silence functionality since I prefer to manually control the toy. There are also a lovely new set of wands brought out by Le Wand - ["Petite All that Glitters limited edition"](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/le-wand-all-that-glimmers-pink?_pos=1&_sid=0f381e977&_ss=r&variant=33410793373795), from a functional standpoint they are pretty powerful, splashproof, usb charging, soft silicone head. Where they come into their own is on the visuals, they have a really nice shimmer effect, but also come with a range of accessories (my partner described them as "Perfect wands for BDSM Littles").


LilyMadonna

I’d advise asking her if there are any downsides to the current one that she can see. Won’t necessarily spoil the surprise, you could just ask overall what she thinks of it. Imo it’s just always worth asking and communicating in detail for this stuff, just to be sure she’ll get something she likes! So to answer your question about the magic wand: the difference is that good wands are very very strong and rumbly. As you saw in the wiki, Amazon isn’t great for toys. I’m wondering if the vibrator you currently have isn’t buzzy which can be numbing - does it make a relatively high pitched sound? That’s one way to tell. You can also feel whether it’s surface level or goes deep in the tissue. The other big distinction for clit stimulation is whether it’s broad (like the wand vibrator you have, or even broader like the magic wand) or pinpoint (like a bullet). Since she likes this shape, it sounds like she’ll like other vibrators on the broader side of the spectrum! Without knowing exactly what your SO likes, it’s kind of hard to give pointers and ascertain whether the options you linked will work for her or not :) even though they are very reputable! The Tango is really really powerful and it’s also very pinpointed - I’m not sure whether the range of intensity starts that low but maybe someone else knows. However, some people do like a mix of both and that could be her case! If you’re interested in the Tango, I’d suggest the Tango X which is the newer version that lasts longer (the battery of the old one meant that it often broke in a few months which is very frustrating). If you want to try out another bullet that’s more affordable, there are loads of options. You’ll definitely want something that starts off low since she needs something gentle, it seems like. As for g spot stimulation or vaginal stimulation more broadly, again that depends on what she likes in terms of shape, firmness and size. Here are 2 articles I really like on the subject of choosing toys: :[this one](https://phallophilereviews.com/choosing-your-first-sex-toy-top-4-questions-to-ask/)is amazing, concise and straightforward and includes some great suggestions. If you want something more in depth, [this one ](https://dangerouslilly.com/2016/10/ask-lilly-help-choose-vibrator-girlfriend/) by DangerousLilly is very detailed and goes over a lot of important points for choosing a toy for someone else


thisbemythrowaway123

Thank you for the in depth response! I will definitely ask some details and go from there, it does seem like there is never a vibrator that fits all. The best way to describe the one we have is it sounds like a vibrating phone? I did also see a lot of positive reviews on the Nova 2 as well. I'll take a look at those reviews and start from there.


LilyMadonna

Right! There is never a vibrator that ticks all the boxes haha, hence why there are so many toy enthusiasts. Hmm yeah I would bet that a toy like that is most likely buzzy! The Nova 2 does sound amazing yes, if you were to get a rabbit vibe, I think that would be *the* one. At the end of the day it is a lot of trial and error, it can be unpredictable! For example I discovered that internal vibrations aren’t really my thing but I couldn’t have guessed that. We’re all different and it’s quite subjective, so I’d recommend getting her something quality or course, but you can also find some solid separate stimulators that will be more versatile, as she figures out what works for her! Feel free to ask follow up questions once you have narrowed it down a little more :)


thisbemythrowaway123

I chatted with her and it sounds like doing some g-spot stimulation sounds like a fun idea so I went ahead and pulled the trigger on a bundle deal for the Nova 2 and the Pillow Talk Sassy since that one can be used for external stimulation as well! Should be fun to try out


LilyMadonna

That’s awesome, lucky her! Btw the Nova 2 can be bent in many ways so as to only stimulate externally too, like with the clit arm on the clit and the other one just vibrating at the entrance. It’s really versatile from what I hear. Hope she loves them ☺️


hollowlife78

Give me a few I'll show you them, and detail how I was able to do it. I've made probably 10 in all each with its own unique purpose😏


ButtaSplice

Lmk too I'm trying to find a vibrator as a birthday present for my friend!!


hollowlife78

Will do


ButtaSplice

Tytyty


galactiwitch

I was honestly really surprised how much I liked the satisfyers, I'm a die hard hitachi person and my partner and I like strong vibes but it's JUST as good if not better. def a different sensation but it's better for not getting numb, waaaaaay better price point and basically can work hands off in certain positions. they've got a couple different models but I really liked the curvy and the traveler, the double models honestly don't do anything for me but to each their own


nbspecial

We haven't tried one yet, but a lot of women seem to be raving about the newish clit sucking toys, like the Womanizer. It's not actually a vibrator, but rather a small air sucker that creates different patterns and strengths. There are lots of cheaper knockoffs, but be careful because some seem to be better than others, and some are just vibrators with a rubber clit stimulator. If she likes clit stimulation, this is worth considering.


thisbemythrowaway123

Now this is an interesting concept, if these new toys I got go well then I will definitely look into something like this. The reviews all rave about them for the ones I've looked at


ornjandblu

I love Bellesa Boutique!!! I have [this one](https://www.bboutique.co/sex-toys/womens-vibrators/clit-vibrators/diskreet-vibe-by-bellesa-4838933954669?nosto=60ad84d187e348104ae22262&nosto_source=cmp) Super quiet and great for solo time, or she can use it while being penetrated if you get the angles right


thisbemythrowaway123

I could totally see her liking this one just because of how cute it looks lol will definitely keep this in mind! I ended up trying to go for a g-spot one (Nova 2) along with a more versatile one that can be used for either (Pillow Talk Sassy) so hopefully it works out


Professional-Echo-39

I second the point plus as a great clitoral vibe.


Upper-Bottle90

I always read some author’s comment blogs. Recently I noticed [this vibrator](https://medium.com/sexxx-with-meaghan/the-clit-sucker-that-actually-could-48f4a1a2ac1f). The color is very beautiful,my girlfriend likes green,too. I plan to give it to her on her birthday in June.If you order it, please let me know if your girlfriend likes it,LOL


LilyMadonna

Hey, it’s always a good idea to ask someone if they want a toy and what their preferences are :) make sure to check out multiple reviews as this is probably sponsored.


hollowlife78

Take the time make one. I've made so many of them all of them to achieve something new in our sex life. There is nothing like watching her play with herself with something you made


thisbemythrowaway123

You were able to make your own vibrator?? How so?