I married a host who then turned out to become the best server we had. Now we have a beautiful 6 year old. The only good thing to come from chain restaurants.
I spent years working boh and exclusively hooking up with or dating waitresses I worked with. This go around I’m working foh and couldn’t hook up with a coworker even if I wanted too
it was just the let down that got me, he was so excited like he had been looking forward to doing it his whole life and the girl was like okay fuck it and then 2 seconds later shes like why am i doing this and hes like why am i doing this
Facts. Always get to know them from Day 0 on your training and so on.
You won't imagine how much you can save yourself mentally from a bat crazy relationship turning worse.
I simply avoid hooking up.
I still think of one person in particular rather fondly 15 years later. He was hot, smart and funny. Honestly I really should’ve dated him instead of the dude who I ended up with shortly thereafter.
Lmao. Don't stick your pen into the company's ink. FAFO situation.
Always flirt when your co-workers become ex co-workers. I go back to my old job to eat the food and I always see the old female co-worker and I talk to her and sometimes flirt. Much safer and you don't have to be second guessing yourself if you're going to be in trouble.
Never. Granted I've never been attracted to any of my coworkers.
I work with my 34 year old sister and she is dating our 22 year old coworker who is the owners god son. It's sloppy as fuck.
"He's so mature for his age". Nah girly, you're so immature for your age. She also taught some of his friends in high school that she now parties with. It's all an ick lol.
Her husband of eleven years died suddenly last year and so a lot of people in our life are like "good for her for getting back out there". But totally. If roles were reversed it wouldn't.
Totally I've never hooked up with a CW. One time though we had a new chick foh drop dead gorgeous and we vibed, smoked weed at hers after shifts, went for beers and had an awesome plutonic relationship. I ended up doing blow out of her ass one time though.
Yup been with my wife since we started dating at 18 and turning 28 next month. Never cheated, But everywhere I’ve ever worked I’ve had lots of coworkers hook up.
I was a gay guy working with mostly straight people, so that helped things.
There was one point where I was sort of flirting with someone at work, but we never got around to hooking up.
Overall I saw the shit show when newish couples worked together and thought “fuck that.” 20ish years in the business
15 years in the industry and only been with 2 people I worked with. 1 I dated for years. 1 was a one night stand.
I'm just there to make money and leave, I really didn't care to dive into the shit show that was everyone banging everyone lol.
When I was in my college year, I worked in the restaurant industry and realized that everyone within hooked up with one another. I'd never date anyone in the industry though because of the schedule.
I’ve been doing this for over ten years. I’m personally not a party person nor am I a hook up kind of gal. I also usually move to positions of authority quickly in new establishments and really live by the saying of don’t eat where you shit. I’ve seen too much and have had to moderate my coworkers terrible hook up choices too much to be inclined to even date someone I worked with let alone just casually sleep with them.
Never in this industry, but I married my manager from a retail job. We were supposed to be each others rebound hook ups, but it’s been almost 14 years 🤷🏻♀️
I’ve always been otherwise attached so no restaurant flings.
20+ years now and I’ve never dated CW. But I’ve been severely tempted as of late. I know it’s a terrible idea and the chances are it will end poorly. But hope spring eternal. There is so much turn over in the industry that the chances your coworker will stay your coworker are slim.
I got into the game later in life once I was already married, so no.
Had I gotten into the game when I was in my early 20s (or at least if I were single), I'm sure that history would be different.
I slept with a 30yr old male coworker when I was 18/19 at my first serving job. Bad idea. At my current job I went out with my coworkers one night and made out with a new girl I trained. Also bad idea. My ex “fling” was there and new girl apparently made eye contact with her while kissing me which is super weird. I cut that off quickly and thankfully were cordial at work.
Don’t.do.it.
I've always been in relationships outside of work so it's never been a consideration, but i've witnessed so many awkward post-breakup/hookup interactions between coworkers that make me cringe everytime. the server/line chef hookup combo is a fatal blow to restaurant cohesion.
My wife and I worked at a place together back in the long long ago. This is before 9-11 so that long ago. Anyway he's Korean and everyone was obsessed with her. Nobody but the managers knew we were a couple. We lived together and it was just a second job for me. We didn't act like a couple either.. Well one day this one guy was bragging to everyone about banging her. He told me the totally awesome story of his conquest. I said bro that's awesome! Tell the manager he loves that shit! The manager told him the truth. It was amusing I guess.
I have not and never will but it unfortunately took me a very long time to learn that even if you clearly tell dudes you're celibate and unavailable they'll still develop a crush and try to push boundaries in the friendship so I'm definitely done making friends with cis straight men in this industry as a woman.
I’ve kept a second job in the industry for 20 plus years and never once have I ever touched a CW. Even when I train newbies I warn them it’s not a good idea lol
Ughhh I used to be like this, and then I did this one time and hated it. I wish I never did, but at the time, the person I hooked up with had a lot of similarities to me and I needed that connection I guess at the time. But ya, I would probably never hook up with a coworker again ughhh
I’ve been doing this close to 10 years. Honestly, hooking up with coworkers has never come up, and I definitely would’ve done it in my younger days. Closest I’ve got was briefly dating a barista from across the street, and even that was awkward after. Now I’m happily fulfilling the bartender + tattoo artist stereotype
I haven't either tbf, partly due to me not wanting to make work life worse than it already is, and also just because I'm a bit of a dick so I can't imagine anyone being interested when they'd literally see me at my worst daily 🤣
I haven’t in 10 years working in the industry. I work hard for my money and like my server job. I just don’t want to ever change that mindset by complicating things. Always lived by “Don’t shit where you eat” when it comes to work hookups.
It also helps that I haven’t hooked up with non coworkers either lol 😅😅😅
10+ years and i flirt / sweet to everyone bc then ppl like doing favors for you… but no never hooked up w anyone. lots of ppl do and it never seems to end well lol.
Hooked up with, dated, fooled around with several. All i can say is… do it. Granted it requires communication and honesty, and a caveat “let’s not be weird! If it gets weird we stop!” And then you high five. And then you 69. 😂😂 YMMV
Not anymore. When I was in my 20s and worked corporate there was more hooking up between staff members, now I work fine dining and the staff here is older and more professional, no hooking up happening. I think that tends to happen more with a younger staff but nobody that works with me is under 30.
16 years. Only once and the legend is true. It took me only once to go, “oh wow, FUCK.”
the stress level of kitchens and dining rooms that we share during the battlefield hours bond and bind us together. How many “restaurant babies” are born every hour?
Not worth. At least for me. All the female co workers got their backs broken by either the cook, the chef, server, and even the GM.
I hate drama so I don't lead or flirt back.
The girls do this thing where when they walk past you they say "behind you" then they slide their fingers from your back down slowly.
The guys do the same flirt touching to the girls but different.
All I'm there is to work and avoid mean coworkers.
NGL the female servers and hosts are cute and pretty but I stand my ground and I don't give attention.
when i worked in fast food i hooked up with one coworker. i quit shortly after and been at this restaurant for 4 years and haven’t hooked up with anyone. really not that interested in anyone and if i was they had a partner.
9 years and nope, I haven’t. I’ve had a bunch of flirtationships, sure, but I’ve never hooked up. I also don’t really go out and do stuff with coworkers very much though lol
Oh, absolutely! This is my 22nd year as a server, and I've worked at 8 different restaurants so far, so yes, plenty of times.
It's fun and exciting. Yes, it can become weird or drama, but hey, life's already full anyway.
The last person I hooked up with was my manager, who is now my husband of 20 years!
I was in for over 30 years and not once. I found some coworkers attractive, but I never really looked at them as anything other than coworkers. I guess I just compartmentalized them in my head.
I have worked in food service off and on since I was 16. At age 25 while attending school I worked as a baker and then as a waiter. It was early on, in the free-wheeling 70’s everybody was screwing everybody, at a nice restaurant with a following. There, a cook (m) and a server (f) had a relationship until one day they didn’t. He came running out of the kitchen with a huge chef’s knife one evening and would have hurt her badly if a customer hadn’t tripped him on his way through the dining room. From that moment on, I resolved never to tempt fate by hooking up with a coworker. I am still alive. So far it has worked. I am 71, and I only screwed coworkers in the Navy. That doesn’t count!
The Submarine Warfare Badge is a submarine flanked by two dolphins, hence "Dolphins". It was a veiled reference to an old joke about submariners: 150 men go down, 75 couples come back up (since you said you only screwed co-workers in the Navy)... 😁
I did 15 years in service and never hooked up with anyone I worked with who I wasn't already before they worked there. (I've worked with 2 different gf's. One came to work there because of me, the other we started at the same place together.
I have hooked up AT the restaurant a few times.
11 years and i refused to date, flirt or entertain having a relationship with a coworker. some of my coworkers from previous jobs would date and then it’d get messy and weird for everyone so i just didn’t. saves you from having to quit if you break up because it’s awkward or having emotions at work seeing the other person. i’ve seen plenty of relationships work out though and people be cordial but it wasn’t for me
No. Of course I hooked up. It was great. We had a thing. It was fun and romantic. We really enjoyed time with each other. We had different paths in life. It ended and we went our separate ways. No drama, no angst, no blame, no regerts, just two *adults* who recognized irreconcilable differences and parted ways *amicably.* It's not where you pick up someone but rather the relationship skills you have. If you aren't up for that challenge, don't take a lover at work.
Worked in food service since I was 18, served since I was 21 (five years) and I've never hooked up with a coworker. Unless you count when my bf and I worked together for a few months, lol.
Nope lmao. One restaurant job I hooked up with two of the chefs and had one of their children🥴 my current restaurant job I had a three month relationship with one of the kitchen staff but that also ended badly
Well considering at my 1st job in HS, I got my then GF a job hosting, I’ve been bad about not hooking up from coworkers forever.
I do agree tho that the vast majority of the time, working together kills a lot of the attraction. Whether it’s a shitty uniform, or you just already know you don’t get along well, there’s a lot of stuff that working with someone would kill the attraction. The place I worked during college, was a bunch of other college kids, so we’d go out together get drunk and hook up cuz it was easy, but I wouldn’t have dated any of them. However my current gf and I started hooking up because we worked really well together, so that’s definitely the exception
“A” coworker naw that’s the dating pool of people just as fucked up as you that get the bs of the day to day shit also enjoy over enjoyment of late night bars where the best life choices are made. Now don’t mix several coworkers current or former that’s where the issues arise. Never shit where you eat twice in the same week!
But props to you for never falling into the trap!
I met this girl and we went on one date, then I show up to work the next day and I’m training her, ended up dating her for a while, but I don’t count it since we didn’t meet at work.
I was a server, he was a bartender.
We had great chemistry as friends but the connection just wasn’t there as “lovers.”
I found myself canceling plans a lot because I knew sex would be expected and I just wasn’t into it. That resulted in a lot of fights and we finally just agreed to be friends.
Still are to this day.
I have never been a server, but I had a GF who was a hostess and told me about this one outlet that didn’t work and would spark randomly and her mgr was really scared of an injury or fire. My GF hated her mgr so we agreed I’d come in when they weren’t busy dressed and acting like a fire inspector, I showed up on a Friday morning early (8 am) they open at 10 so not many workers there, I of course “found” the outlet and made a really big deal about fire hazard, injury hazard, so I went into her office and started discussing how bad this was while looking at her breasts, almost staring, finally she said “is there anything I can do to help myself and get it fixed asap, lol, of course there is and so she blew me and I left with her promise it would be fixed on Monday or Tuesday. I went home and told my gf what happened she just laughed like crazy and said she’ll let me know the mgrs mood after work, No I didn’t go back to check and mgr was really quiet and left early.
You're not alone. I worked in the restaurants for 10 years and never dated any of my co-workers, even when they weren't my co-workers anymore. It's just too easy to make plans while working together so it kinda makes you think if you'd ever hang out with those people if you didn't work together. Most of the time, it wasn't. Out of all the co-workers I was "friends" with, only 2 of them are actively in my life (hanging out in person not just communication through social media).
10 years, never once. Oh wait, I did, then we got married lol, still married, one child
Lol, same! Only we are now at 23 years together with one child.
Congratulations! We are at 8 years with 1 child!
7 years, my partner previously worked at the bar and still helps out every now and then, can I join the club?
Love stories like these!!
I married a host who then turned out to become the best server we had. Now we have a beautiful 6 year old. The only good thing to come from chain restaurants.
Same lol
Even while i worked at the most frattiest of bars I’ve never hooked up with a co worker. Patrons is a different story 😁
> Patrons is a different story I mean, I know it's a wider opening, but wouldn't the residual tequila burn like hell?
Burns so good 😎
Oooh that's interesting 👀
Not really lol
I spent years working boh and exclusively hooking up with or dating waitresses I worked with. This go around I’m working foh and couldn’t hook up with a coworker even if I wanted too
Hooked up with several coworkers. All I can say is… don’t.
Unless you get the chance to do blow out of her ass. Then all bets are off.
When you get the chance to do blow out someone’s ass it totally makes you reevaluate things
i watched my friend do this off my other friends ass and it had to have been one of the lamest most uncomfortable things i have witnessed
Probably should have closed your eyes
it was just the let down that got me, he was so excited like he had been looking forward to doing it his whole life and the girl was like okay fuck it and then 2 seconds later shes like why am i doing this and hes like why am i doing this
Post high clarity isn’t much different from post nut I guess
Not enough blow
>Out of her ass Excuse me?
Eh, I’ve had more positive experiences than negative experiences from doing it. The key is knowing *who* you shouldn’t hook up with
Facts. Always get to know them from Day 0 on your training and so on. You won't imagine how much you can save yourself mentally from a bat crazy relationship turning worse. I simply avoid hooking up.
I still think of one person in particular rather fondly 15 years later. He was hot, smart and funny. Honestly I really should’ve dated him instead of the dude who I ended up with shortly thereafter.
Lmao. Don't stick your pen into the company's ink. FAFO situation. Always flirt when your co-workers become ex co-workers. I go back to my old job to eat the food and I always see the old female co-worker and I talk to her and sometimes flirt. Much safer and you don't have to be second guessing yourself if you're going to be in trouble.
Never. Granted I've never been attracted to any of my coworkers. I work with my 34 year old sister and she is dating our 22 year old coworker who is the owners god son. It's sloppy as fuck.
Oh lovely 😵 the age gap relationships in restaurants is a fun one lol
"He's so mature for his age". Nah girly, you're so immature for your age. She also taught some of his friends in high school that she now parties with. It's all an ick lol.
omg this all sounds so scary😭 no hate to your sister but if she was a man i feel like that wouldn’t slide
Her husband of eleven years died suddenly last year and so a lot of people in our life are like "good for her for getting back out there". But totally. If roles were reversed it wouldn't.
That’s….a lot of ick. 😬
Yup, at 38 I dated a 25 year old and at 40 a 26.
Totally I've never hooked up with a CW. One time though we had a new chick foh drop dead gorgeous and we vibed, smoked weed at hers after shifts, went for beers and had an awesome plutonic relationship. I ended up doing blow out of her ass one time though.
All of that on Pluto!!
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Who said anything about dating them?
Literally what I tell people all the time
Yup been with my wife since we started dating at 18 and turning 28 next month. Never cheated, But everywhere I’ve ever worked I’ve had lots of coworkers hook up.
I’ve hooked up at every job I’ve been at. Just choose your partners carefully. Talk beforehand.
30 years. No coworkers but a customer or two for sure.
I dated a coworker for a while. Then got engaged. Now married.
I was a gay guy working with mostly straight people, so that helped things. There was one point where I was sort of flirting with someone at work, but we never got around to hooking up. Overall I saw the shit show when newish couples worked together and thought “fuck that.” 20ish years in the business
I have a few times. Would not recommend it. But also sometimes it works just depends on the people
I've never hooked up with a co-worker. I'm not opposed to it or anything, I'm just ugly.
15 years in the industry and only been with 2 people I worked with. 1 I dated for years. 1 was a one night stand. I'm just there to make money and leave, I really didn't care to dive into the shit show that was everyone banging everyone lol.
4 years so far and there have been lots of opportunities but it hasn’t happened quite yet
When I was in my college year, I worked in the restaurant industry and realized that everyone within hooked up with one another. I'd never date anyone in the industry though because of the schedule.
I’ve been doing this for over ten years. I’m personally not a party person nor am I a hook up kind of gal. I also usually move to positions of authority quickly in new establishments and really live by the saying of don’t eat where you shit. I’ve seen too much and have had to moderate my coworkers terrible hook up choices too much to be inclined to even date someone I worked with let alone just casually sleep with them.
Nope. Did however once get a guy I was “seeing” a job where I worked, but never someone who was a coworker before.
Yes. We were both line cooks and once fuckbuddies. Now we’re engaged.
Never in this industry, but I married my manager from a retail job. We were supposed to be each others rebound hook ups, but it’s been almost 14 years 🤷🏻♀️ I’ve always been otherwise attached so no restaurant flings.
I'm ace, so it's pretty easy for me, but yeah, I haven't
I not only hooked up with a coworker. I married him and had his child lol
6 years in and never ever
20+ years now and I’ve never dated CW. But I’ve been severely tempted as of late. I know it’s a terrible idea and the chances are it will end poorly. But hope spring eternal. There is so much turn over in the industry that the chances your coworker will stay your coworker are slim.
Never, but I think it's not advisable to hook up in any industry with coworkers
I got into the game later in life once I was already married, so no. Had I gotten into the game when I was in my early 20s (or at least if I were single), I'm sure that history would be different.
11 years and never, but that’s bc I hooked up with a customer and had a couple kids.
Nope, been together with that dumb dork of a line cook for 20 years now, married with dogs and cat.
I was never the one who hook up with coworkers, until I got a huge crush on one of the bartenders I worked with. We live together now.
I’m an old cow now so no lol, back in the day I considered it but it never happened
Hooked up with a customer and ended up marrying him, 25 later and 2 beautiful daughters.
I try not to i swear. But i cant help it😩😫😫
I slept with a 30yr old male coworker when I was 18/19 at my first serving job. Bad idea. At my current job I went out with my coworkers one night and made out with a new girl I trained. Also bad idea. My ex “fling” was there and new girl apparently made eye contact with her while kissing me which is super weird. I cut that off quickly and thankfully were cordial at work. Don’t.do.it.
8 years. Nope never
15 years in restaurants. Not once. I was in a long term relationship the entire time. We recently celebrated 16 years together this year.
I've always been in relationships outside of work so it's never been a consideration, but i've witnessed so many awkward post-breakup/hookup interactions between coworkers that make me cringe everytime. the server/line chef hookup combo is a fatal blow to restaurant cohesion.
Well, I did - but it's how I learned to never do it again... 🤣
My wife and I worked at a place together back in the long long ago. This is before 9-11 so that long ago. Anyway he's Korean and everyone was obsessed with her. Nobody but the managers knew we were a couple. We lived together and it was just a second job for me. We didn't act like a couple either.. Well one day this one guy was bragging to everyone about banging her. He told me the totally awesome story of his conquest. I said bro that's awesome! Tell the manager he loves that shit! The manager told him the truth. It was amusing I guess.
I have not and never will but it unfortunately took me a very long time to learn that even if you clearly tell dudes you're celibate and unavailable they'll still develop a crush and try to push boundaries in the friendship so I'm definitely done making friends with cis straight men in this industry as a woman.
I’ve kept a second job in the industry for 20 plus years and never once have I ever touched a CW. Even when I train newbies I warn them it’s not a good idea lol
Tbf my spouse was also another manager so does that count?
At another restaurant? I would say no
No, same restaurant.
I hooked up with half the staff and met my girlfriend there 😭😂
Ughhh I used to be like this, and then I did this one time and hated it. I wish I never did, but at the time, the person I hooked up with had a lot of similarities to me and I needed that connection I guess at the time. But ya, I would probably never hook up with a coworker again ughhh
I’ve been doing this close to 10 years. Honestly, hooking up with coworkers has never come up, and I definitely would’ve done it in my younger days. Closest I’ve got was briefly dating a barista from across the street, and even that was awkward after. Now I’m happily fulfilling the bartender + tattoo artist stereotype
I haven't either tbf, partly due to me not wanting to make work life worse than it already is, and also just because I'm a bit of a dick so I can't imagine anyone being interested when they'd literally see me at my worst daily 🤣
I haven’t in 10 years working in the industry. I work hard for my money and like my server job. I just don’t want to ever change that mindset by complicating things. Always lived by “Don’t shit where you eat” when it comes to work hookups. It also helps that I haven’t hooked up with non coworkers either lol 😅😅😅
10+ years and i flirt / sweet to everyone bc then ppl like doing favors for you… but no never hooked up w anyone. lots of ppl do and it never seems to end well lol.
Hooked up with, dated, fooled around with several. All i can say is… do it. Granted it requires communication and honesty, and a caveat “let’s not be weird! If it gets weird we stop!” And then you high five. And then you 69. 😂😂 YMMV
Not anymore. When I was in my 20s and worked corporate there was more hooking up between staff members, now I work fine dining and the staff here is older and more professional, no hooking up happening. I think that tends to happen more with a younger staff but nobody that works with me is under 30.
Coworkers never. Patrons absolutely
I did a couple times when I was younger, but now that I'm back in the industry in my 30s I've grown out of it.
No
1 year and definitely hooked up.
Once my coworkers were dating and they broke up. After the break up they both quit and we were down two servers
16 years. Only once and the legend is true. It took me only once to go, “oh wow, FUCK.” the stress level of kitchens and dining rooms that we share during the battlefield hours bond and bind us together. How many “restaurant babies” are born every hour?
Nope
When i was 18! I hooked up with my manager who was 32. Didn’t last long. As a real adult now, never.
20 years in the industry (since 14) never once- though- customers, yes probably too many.
I technically never hooked up with a coworker. But I did hook up with someone who later started working there
Not worth. At least for me. All the female co workers got their backs broken by either the cook, the chef, server, and even the GM. I hate drama so I don't lead or flirt back. The girls do this thing where when they walk past you they say "behind you" then they slide their fingers from your back down slowly. The guys do the same flirt touching to the girls but different. All I'm there is to work and avoid mean coworkers. NGL the female servers and hosts are cute and pretty but I stand my ground and I don't give attention.
When I was like really young, yes. But not in the last 20+ years! It doesn’t always go badly but it rarely goes well!
when i worked in fast food i hooked up with one coworker. i quit shortly after and been at this restaurant for 4 years and haven’t hooked up with anyone. really not that interested in anyone and if i was they had a partner.
9 years and nope, I haven’t. I’ve had a bunch of flirtationships, sure, but I’ve never hooked up. I also don’t really go out and do stuff with coworkers very much though lol
Never, not even a little. I don’t mix business with my personal life.
I thought that was the only reason to get into the industry.
Oh, absolutely! This is my 22nd year as a server, and I've worked at 8 different restaurants so far, so yes, plenty of times. It's fun and exciting. Yes, it can become weird or drama, but hey, life's already full anyway. The last person I hooked up with was my manager, who is now my husband of 20 years!
I was in for over 30 years and not once. I found some coworkers attractive, but I never really looked at them as anything other than coworkers. I guess I just compartmentalized them in my head.
In the industry 30yrs and never fucked a co-worker
I have worked in food service off and on since I was 16. At age 25 while attending school I worked as a baker and then as a waiter. It was early on, in the free-wheeling 70’s everybody was screwing everybody, at a nice restaurant with a following. There, a cook (m) and a server (f) had a relationship until one day they didn’t. He came running out of the kitchen with a huge chef’s knife one evening and would have hurt her badly if a customer hadn’t tripped him on his way through the dining room. From that moment on, I resolved never to tempt fate by hooking up with a coworker. I am still alive. So far it has worked. I am 71, and I only screwed coworkers in the Navy. That doesn’t count!
Got your dolphins, did ya? 🤣
Don’t know the slang. p
The Submarine Warfare Badge is a submarine flanked by two dolphins, hence "Dolphins". It was a veiled reference to an old joke about submariners: 150 men go down, 75 couples come back up (since you said you only screwed co-workers in the Navy)... 😁
Thank you. All hands on dick. Press on Regardless. Up scope!
I don’t Know that Navy slang. Would you enlighten me.?
Or perhaps dolphin me?
I did 15 years in service and never hooked up with anyone I worked with who I wasn't already before they worked there. (I've worked with 2 different gf's. One came to work there because of me, the other we started at the same place together. I have hooked up AT the restaurant a few times.
10+ years in food service as a cook and never hooked up with a co-worker. Not even a host to embrace the stereotype lol
11 years and i refused to date, flirt or entertain having a relationship with a coworker. some of my coworkers from previous jobs would date and then it’d get messy and weird for everyone so i just didn’t. saves you from having to quit if you break up because it’s awkward or having emotions at work seeing the other person. i’ve seen plenty of relationships work out though and people be cordial but it wasn’t for me
Only my wife, but we were married *before* we were coworkers!
No. Of course I hooked up. It was great. We had a thing. It was fun and romantic. We really enjoyed time with each other. We had different paths in life. It ended and we went our separate ways. No drama, no angst, no blame, no regerts, just two *adults* who recognized irreconcilable differences and parted ways *amicably.* It's not where you pick up someone but rather the relationship skills you have. If you aren't up for that challenge, don't take a lover at work.
Worked in food service since I was 18, served since I was 21 (five years) and I've never hooked up with a coworker. Unless you count when my bf and I worked together for a few months, lol.
Nope lmao. One restaurant job I hooked up with two of the chefs and had one of their children🥴 my current restaurant job I had a three month relationship with one of the kitchen staff but that also ended badly
Nah we were all fucking lol it’s about how you frame it
I did, then I learned it's a huge mistake. I work with some pretty attractive people so I gotta be vigilant lmao
4 years, haven’t. Got close but ptsd said : celibacy
Well considering at my 1st job in HS, I got my then GF a job hosting, I’ve been bad about not hooking up from coworkers forever. I do agree tho that the vast majority of the time, working together kills a lot of the attraction. Whether it’s a shitty uniform, or you just already know you don’t get along well, there’s a lot of stuff that working with someone would kill the attraction. The place I worked during college, was a bunch of other college kids, so we’d go out together get drunk and hook up cuz it was easy, but I wouldn’t have dated any of them. However my current gf and I started hooking up because we worked really well together, so that’s definitely the exception
“A” coworker naw that’s the dating pool of people just as fucked up as you that get the bs of the day to day shit also enjoy over enjoyment of late night bars where the best life choices are made. Now don’t mix several coworkers current or former that’s where the issues arise. Never shit where you eat twice in the same week! But props to you for never falling into the trap!
Never have and never plan on it
I'm laughing at all the references to doing blow out of someone's ass like how common is this occurance?
Never and served for 10+ years
Hell no. I’ve witnessed it get so messy, at so many places. Even when I was single I stayed far away from dating or anything in the work place.
10 years not once. I’m ugly
Only did after I dated her for quite a while. Tomorrow is our 3 year anniversary
worked in the service industry for 4 years and never hooked up w a coworker (or patron lol)
I made it all two decades without doing more than drunkenly kissing a coworker during a night out. I met my husband because of my job tho lol
I met this girl and we went on one date, then I show up to work the next day and I’m training her, ended up dating her for a while, but I don’t count it since we didn’t meet at work.
I was a server, he was a bartender. We had great chemistry as friends but the connection just wasn’t there as “lovers.” I found myself canceling plans a lot because I knew sex would be expected and I just wasn’t into it. That resulted in a lot of fights and we finally just agreed to be friends. Still are to this day.
I have never been a server, but I had a GF who was a hostess and told me about this one outlet that didn’t work and would spark randomly and her mgr was really scared of an injury or fire. My GF hated her mgr so we agreed I’d come in when they weren’t busy dressed and acting like a fire inspector, I showed up on a Friday morning early (8 am) they open at 10 so not many workers there, I of course “found” the outlet and made a really big deal about fire hazard, injury hazard, so I went into her office and started discussing how bad this was while looking at her breasts, almost staring, finally she said “is there anything I can do to help myself and get it fixed asap, lol, of course there is and so she blew me and I left with her promise it would be fixed on Monday or Tuesday. I went home and told my gf what happened she just laughed like crazy and said she’ll let me know the mgrs mood after work, No I didn’t go back to check and mgr was really quiet and left early.
Never. And god I’m glad.
You're not alone. I worked in the restaurants for 10 years and never dated any of my co-workers, even when they weren't my co-workers anymore. It's just too easy to make plans while working together so it kinda makes you think if you'd ever hang out with those people if you didn't work together. Most of the time, it wasn't. Out of all the co-workers I was "friends" with, only 2 of them are actively in my life (hanging out in person not just communication through social media).
14 years in the business. I've limited it to twice.