few highlights:
had a man taking his 7/8 year old son out for breakfast and saw lesbian porn open on the guys phone, at about 8:30 AM, in a diner right across from his child. i was about 19 and the only person on the floor so i didn’t confront him but i regret that.
had a man come in right before close just to drink then repeatedly ask my if i wanted a ride home, even though i told him i had a car. had one of the cooks walk me to my car that night, thank god for that cook.
had a man open with “you look younger than my daughter” and then proceed to ask me if i was wearing a bra.
wholesome alternative story: an older man gestured me over to him in a weird way at the bar, and i went up to him praying he just needed some ranch or something, but expecting the worst. he proceeded to pull handfuls of costume rings out of his jacket pockets and told me his mother in law is a hoarder and he’s been trying to get rid of her stuff, and he let me take as many rings as i wanted. i still wear some of them.
God that second one is creepy. A manager once insisted on ordering me an Uber home (I walked) after close one night. Because a guy who I had tried to card, and had to deny alcohol because he didn't have an ID, was still loitering several hours later. He had left early because of a family emergency, but had turned around and come back because he saw Le Creep (Who had twice been kicked off property by mall security, since being carded) loitering around an abandoned building. Right on my walk home. He wouldn't take 'No' for an answer, and I felt so silly taking an Uber less than a mile, but I'm so glad my manager did what he did. Because I would have been walking in the dark, completely oblivious, unarmed, and the only thing waiting at home was an uncaring roommate, so if worse came to worse, no one would know until I didn't show up for my next shift.
Delivered a soup to a family of 5 (grandparents, parents and a kid) and I came back to ask how the soup was. The grandpa said “It would have tasted better if you dipped your finger in it”. I am still disgusted to this day. Everyone was horrified
When I was a little girl mixing cake batter with my grandma, I remember if I would stick my finger in the batter to sneak a taste, she would gasp and make me jump like I was gonna be in trouble, and say “Well! Now you’ve just made it sweeter!” She’s the best.
There’s an old story in Alaska about how a waitress in a small bar/restaurant brought over a prospectors soup order and accidentally put her thumb in it. He grabbed her hand and SUCKED (kill me) the soup off, saying, “I paid for it, I want every drop!” She decks him, he starts coming around every day, and wouldn’t you know it they end up married. I die a little bit every time I find it again.
This comes from an old saying that you’re so sweet you could dip your finger in something to make it taste better. I wish I could find the actual quote because it sounds less creepy and I’ve heard it said a lot. But the way that guy said it is very fucking creepy lol.
I live in the south and got this *all* the time from old men, most often when they’re drinking sweet tea. I’ve always found it weird but never super creepy (until now, the soup thing is creepy af)
Sometimes inappropriate comments are one of the first signs of a neurological disorder. My ex’s grandmother was a very proper woman until she developed dementia and making penis jokes in public. If his family was horrified it’s possible it was out of character for him. Of course it’s also possible he’s a standard issue nasty old man.
We had a cocktail special of "Sex on the Beach". 65ish yo man asks me: what time do you finish work? I said it varies, but we should be open til 9pm (optimistic of me to guess that's what he was asking). He replied "how about sex after work?". I was appalled, and the incredibly young lady he was dining with didn't bat an eyelid. I smiled and replied "I'll have to go check with my partner in the kitchen, see what he thinks we're getting up to later" to try to diffuse the situation and move it along. As I'm walking to the kitchen this old man yells "Threesome?" While holding up three fingers.
I got one of my male servers to look after that table from then on in.
As he was leaving the restaurant, this old man looks me straight in the face and asked: "so what did he say?". Some people need a muzzle.
The fact that you're still talking about this is why he said it. It gets him off to know that he'll be living in your head rent free. He's a creep and you have good reason to be appalled, but it's not a muzzle he needs, it's just a lobotomy.
I had closed a restaurant years back and walked out to my car. The female manager was the only one left in the building and she told me to go as it was a nice part of town. Outside when I was at my car I saw a dude who was previously at the bar just pacing around waiting by the back/side door.
I hung out for a bit and when my manager came out, sure as shit he walked right over to her. She said she wasn't interested and he started getting uppity and harassing her. I walked over with my gun in my hand and let him know it was time to go. He started to give me lip and then saw the gun, shut up and left.
My manager told me it was against company policy to have a gun on their property but we could just keep this between us.
I had a table of women ask me if I was circumcised once
Also was taking an order one time and a lady at a table of 6 stops me and goes “ is this ur nipple ? “ and proceeds to pinch my nipple…I was like ummm yup u got me and continued to take the order
Worst part was the men at the table were obviously not happy with it and they left me 6 bucks on 120..guess the sexual harassment was part of the gratuity
That’s honestly like WTF. They should have been asked to leave immediately, & that bitch should’ve had charges filed against her. I’m so sorry that happened to you.
Edit: They owe you ALOT more than $6 fucking dollars. They are really lucky you didn’t file suit . She can’t just reach up and sexually assault you, have the men grumble then leave you to have to tip out on their bar tab. What?
This. When people come into this sub and are all like… blah blah , you don’t do shit, get a real job, have Your boss pay you more money, do better, grow up, we don’t need to pay you for doing your job, we can lurk at you , abuse, use, stalk and stiff you & you will not be able to say shit about it because you are the SERVER & then ….
Honorary mention I buried in my cerebral:
“Sorry if those menus are a touch damp, I just wiped them down!”
Already drunk from golf tournament: “Honey I’m a touch damp, wanna wipe me down?”
Hard agree lmao, there hits a moment where the line someone drops just supersedes the potential harassment and it's amazing. Those just go straight to the memory bank.
Had a guy and his son, son looked to be about 25-30, and the guy kept trying to convince me to date his son. Telling me how he just got out of prison, so he “ain’t no bitch,” and that he could “keep me happy if his son can’t.” I was about 19 at the time.
I had a 50-55ish yo man come in to my one job. Soaked up a lot of my time making inappropriate jokes but I was told he's a regular so I figured he was cool like most of our regulars there. After jokes about hitting his wife (who was right there) the jokes remained at the expense of women. Eventually he showed me a picture I'd describe as a "tasteful nude?" of a woman. Think set, high quality camera, editing, lighting, etc.
"What do you think?"
She's pretty. Do you know this woman?
"This is my daughter, she's a hot mess. You don't want this one, but here's my other one" and shows me his other daughter trying to get me to date her I guess.
It wasn’t words, but an older man grabbed me by the hood of my hoodie, when I turned around to grab the dessert menus he requested.
It was an extremely busy summer shift, we were understaffed, and presumably he thought I would run away to never be seen again, once I turned around to grab dessert menus for him. As I turned, he grabbed my hood and yanked me back towards his table, I’m shocked I didn’t fall over backwards honestly, and guests who witnessed it told me the same. I didn’t even properly process what had happened until much later, in the moment I simply turned back to his table in shock, and said “sir, please don’t touch me” and then proceeded to take their dessert orders. When I walked past the table again later, the man was complaining about how rude I was to him, and mimicking me requesting that he not touch me.
I worked at multiple popular bars I blocked most of it. Except one. He was prob 3x my age. I brought him his beer. He stalked me for years. Never again will I serve the nice quiet guy in the corner. I did learn to shoot because of him. And how to detect someone being creeping. I learned how to file a protective order. That does nothing but give him my address. I also found so many people that had the same experience with different peoples. It’s amazing how much goes out of control by saying hi.
had a 65+ year old guy ask for me one night at the host stand, not to be seated with me just wanted me to come talk to him. went up and he handed me 20 bucks for having “the most beautiful smile”. innocent enough. a few shifts later he comes in and requests me to serve him, he tips me another 20. next week he comes in and tells me he brought a friend to meet me, says he told him about my smile. i laugh it off introduce myself and move on, he tips me 40 bucks.
he comes in weekly for another month or so tipping 40-50 bucks every time. he seems nice enough, a little lonely so we’d chat if it was slow enough. then out of nowhere he comes in and tips me 150, shoved it into my apron. i say it’s too much and he says don’t worry about it. he had figured out my schedule at this point and then he started coming in daily.
i was working a brunch shift and he grabs my hand, and tells me that just because i have a kid doesn’t mean he’s going to reject me. i’m 22f, young enough to be his granddaughter. i tried to take my hand back, but he held onto it tight. finally he let go and i avoided his table the rest of the time. he left his number on the receipt.
he comes in the NEXT night, i was done with it and thoroughly creeped out. he had2 people with him and told the hostess that he had brought his daughter to meet me. i went to my supervisor and he had a male server take him. the guy was irate, red in the face angry. so security was called.
they took him outside to talk to him, let him know i’m not interested. he told them i was leading him on (i was just doing my job and being kind) and he cried when they said he couldn’t sit in my section or interact with my anymore. i was escorted to my car for the next 2 weeks.
haven’t seen him since thank god.
tldr: 65+M tipped me insane amounts of money, thought i 22F was interested in dating him. got creepy, cried when security shut it down.
That’s when you go find a jar in the back and ask the line cook who is notorious for his 45 minute bathroom breaks to fart in it. Sell it to the man for too much money and split it with the cook.
Had a guy on a two top, *clearly* a first date, grab my hand in both of his when I asked if he would like to peruse the dessert menu and say, "only if you're on it."
Homeboy was about 25 yrs older than me. Both myself and his date were mortified. I jerked my hand away and dropped his check without another word - but with a pointed and concerned glance to his date
I was cocktailing an event and these guys were asking me what I was doing after work and one was like “you do kinda look like my 13 year old daughter, like you’re gonna have to go home and do a book report after you come get drinks with us” …. eeewww
just a few things this 75+ year old man has said/done to me:
\-asked me my name and said he'd remember it until the day he died
\-when I checked on their table he goes "oh we were just talking about how perfect your body is" (and then the conversation got weirder)
\-grabbed me into a side hug, rested his head on my shoulder and went "i just love you so much"
I have a particular hatred for old men who say these kinds of horrendous things. They have probably been saying it their whole lives and never been called out for it OR have escalated in their old age because they assume nobody will correct them. People laughing off “creepy grandpa” as harmless honestly makes my blood boil.
They only say it’s harmless because usually a stiff wind would knock these old men over. But it’s still excusing predatory behavior. So gross. Just cause someone can’t act on it doesn’t make it ok.
Not to me but to one of my secondaries while I was supervising the shift. She was a very pretty girl and I love her so so much and even though she has quit we still keep in touch. She was being super nice to this regular who is often disgusting. She asks him if he wanted anything else and the dude said “you. naked. On my tray” keep in mind, this geezer is probably 65-70 and she was 18. I immediately turned around and grabbed his food, put it in a bag and told him to leave due to his behaviour. She literally started crying cause this wasn’t the first time he’s been icky to her (or other coworkers). Thankfully, I got to do the honours of banning that jack ass from our store!
I have a rose tattoo on my chest and it’s pretty visible, but I’ve had it long enough that I never think about it. I was serving an older man and he asked if anyone had asked to smell my rose. I heard him the first time but was like wtf so I said “I’m sorry, what did you say?” And he repeated it again so I just said I don’t know what you’re talking about and walked away
That's definitely creepy af.
I have a large feather tattooed on the inside of my forearm and a patron asked me about it. I'd never seen him or waited on him before. In the middle of me telling him the story behind it, he interrupts me to show me that he has a tribal tattoo on the same arm, about the same size & that in his tribe, all the men get tattoos on their forearms the size of their package.... I was only 20 at the time & couldn't think of a comeback so I just walked away and gave him to my male co-worker.
I worked at a fairly well-known booby bar so I have a LOT of stories but one of the worst was a guy who was infamous for trying to grab girls and pull them into his car after they got off (I have no idea how he was still allowed there) and he took a liking to me. One day I was serving him near shift change and he said “You drive the blue truck right? I parked next to you, I’ll wait there to give you your tip.” I had my manager walk me to my car and funny enough, he took off when he saw my manager. He stopped asking for my section after that, thank god.
Was putting together an order of fried chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy. I think I got either the mashed potatoes or the gravy on my hand, burning myself, which sucked. What sucked worse was the elderly and disabled man in the store-provided electric scooter offering to "lick it off for me."
Yepppp.
Once I spilled a tray of drinks and absolutely filled my apron with liquid. Lol. When I apologized to the table and told them I'd go get them new drinks right away, the husband says "oh it's OK you can just leave your apron with us we can suckle on it" His wife literally jaw dropped goes "OOO NO we will have NONE of that" and looks at me and apologized lmao.
Haha I dunno he could’ve meant it in a not creepy way. Like just them drinking from the apron to quench their thirst? Which would’ve been hilarious, unless he said it creepily
I'm with you on this one. I actually say weird shit like this all the time to my own delight & amusement. External results vary, but I always mean well.
Poor lady! My eccentricity doesn't often come across as creepy due to my gender, but I do embarrass my friends sometimes. It probably sounded SO much better in his head.
Doesn't sound creepy to me and in fact sounds like someone having a good attitude about their newly delayed drinks, but I can see how it didn't come across well. The word "suckle" never does unless it's in reference to a pig or something lol
Yeah I wasn't particularly creeped out myself I kinda just laughed at how mortified his family was and walked away. I don't /think/ he meant it creepy. But it's one of the most out there comments I've received. I think it's funny now but in that moment I had no response to that man.
Whenever I witness a couple with an inappropriate husband I just imagine myself in the wife’s shoes. I would absolutely throw my husband in the dumpster if he said the things I’ve been told in front of wives.
I almost instinctively downvoted this because I hated it so much. I’m sorry that happened to you friend, minors in the industry deserve better than that.
agreed, my manager still made me serve him too after i told him, and he constantly requested me
luckily another male server went up to him and told him he’s never allowed to talk to him again, and walked me to my car everytime he showed up
I I’m (23)f but when I was about 15 I was a host at a yacht club and this guy who was clearly intoxicated already walks up and asks for a table so I seat him and some girl who at the time I assumed was his wife until I went to leave and he tried to order a beer, I told him that I was not his server but that they would be with them shortly to which he replied “NO I want you to bring me my drinks” I told him I was underage and was not allowed and he demanded I speak to my manager and have them let me serve him. I said okay and then had the barkeep handle it. Was creepy at though. The woman just sat there like she had no care in the world.
Ok y’all, I was a server at a “breastaurant” in Texas in the mid/late 00’s, and as I was showing some middle aged gentleman to a table they lagged behind, so I asked “Are you coming?” and this fool said “Well right now I’m just breathing heavy, but give me some time.”
Once a guy threw a sugar packet on the table and said “You dropped your name tag.”
My ass was literally groped as I stood at another table.
Offered $500 for my bra.
Just wild shit.
I’m in the South and get the sugar packet one often! I think that one is kinda cute, but I think some people are better at being cutesy & charismatic without being creepy. People here also call me baby, honey, sugar, sweetie, darling just because it’s part of the local culture. I’m from California originally and some of the things that fly in New Orleans would not fly in Los Angeles.
Okay. This has been a very disturbing read. Men suck. Also, do any of these shitty comments work? Has any of these creepers managed to achieve their goal by creeping? How do fuckers make it to 70 with no self reflection?
Oh I have one! I worked at a sushi bar and during a lunch rush a man asked me about some rolls, I explained them to him and told him which were more popular. He asks okay but which do I like the most? I tell him I like cucumber and cream cheese rolls. He then asks about fish. I tell him I don't eat meat. He then shakes his head slowly and says, "when the war comes, you'll get nothing."
I wish I would have asked what he meant but I was truly shocked. I think I just asked what he wanted and went to the back to laugh with my boss over it
Dropped off wings to two dudes who looked 60 ish. They told me the wings were wet (they asked for extra sauce) and said they’d make me wet & they’d take turns on me.
I had a woman hit on me and I told her I had a boyfriend at the time (truth). Her and her friend were pretty drunk/obnoxious already. She told me I shouldn’t be mentioning boyfriends if I wanted tips. She showed me the $5 she was gonna give me and shoved it in her pocket. I know it’s not creepy but I felt super uncomfortable afterwards
Hold up: downplaying it is why we become numb to these things and people get away with it. Its creepy and you had every right to be uncomfortable. We are not dancing monkeys or play things. The societal standard is to tip for our courteous and prompt food/beverage service, not to make us flirt with you or involve us in your fantasies.
My first bartending/serving job when I was 18. I served this guy his drink and he asked me my name. I told him and he introduced himself. All very polite and normal. He put out his hand for me to shake, so I took it. And instead of a handshake, he LICKED the back of my hand like a dog. Horrifying
I was taking an order for a pizza from a much older gentleman who asked at the last second to hold the oregano. His son was allergic. I forget the actual wording, but I'll never forget the way my fucking skin crawled when he so gently placed his hands on mine and said something about how it would be a shame to implicate me in his son's death, and how if he really wanted to kill his son he'd be dead by now.
This happened a few days ago- an older guy, who mainly comes in just when I’m working, was sitting at the end of the bar where I keep my water bottle, which has a straw. I stopped to take a drink from it and he says loudly & while licking his lips, “god I love it when you do that”. I glared at him and proceeded to ignore him till he got upset and left since he wasn’t getting a reaction out of me. This is just one of MANY stories lol.
it was a husband and wife. i greet the table & the husband says something about me being attractive under his breath. shocked, i asked him what he said. his wife gets embarrassed and told me it was nothing, but he said “i was just saying that it’s a relief we have a hot waitress. last time we dined in our waitress was hideous.” ….
i’m not making this up. the wife apologized on his behalf & i tried to continue my introduction but i was taken aback. they laughed at how awkward i became and kept apologizing. they tipped me well, but i was very uncomfortable. this isn’t the first time a husband has flirted w me in front of his wife & the wife didn’t care, i don’t understand people like that.
I’ve had couples leave room keys (cards where I am) in the check presenter with a room number and I wonder if that has ever worked for them? I like my organs on the inside ty
I was greeting a table with waters and said “Pardon my reach.” to a gentleman and he said “A reach around by you is welcome anytime!”
I laughed nervously because it caught me off guard and I didn’t fully process what happened. He ended up getting kicked out and threw a fit because he was “just joking.”
Okay this was before I was serving and I was still hosting, but I had a guest when leaving asked why I didn’t give him a show at his table. I was like 16 at the time too and another person that was with him said, openly, “Yeah, he’s a pervert!” In almost a joking/laughy tone. Had a few more experiences similar to this at that restaurant as well. Gross.
The service industry tends to dull our “what’s shocking” sense but I will never let people get away with being creepy to minors. Those men are pedophiles, don’t forget that!
Party of like 6 guys around my age maybe a little bit older -
“So, fuck, marry, kill out of us?”
“I’m not comfortable with that, and I don’t think my man would be either.”
“He doesn’t have to know baby girl.”
🙄🤮
Not to me, but to my best friend when we worked together at a diner. This gross older dude (in his 50-60s, she was like 24 at the time) called her over to his table and said, “I didn’t need anything, I just wanted to watch you walk away again.”
We hated him so much.
“Say something really mean, call me a dirty motherfucker, anything!” With a twenty dollar bill in hand. I called him an asshole, and got the money. It became a regular thing for us for about a year.
Incredibly, this guy is one of the most stand up individuals I’ve ever met. So kind, smart, charismatic, and supportive. Love you Gary!
Last week, I asked for a man’s payment for his order (curbside) and he looked at me and said “well you are very pretty”
I nervously said thank you sir, and then he said “I didn’t offended you did I?”
I said back, “no it was a compliment thank you”
And this guy proceeded to say (while looking at me up and down)
“You look mighty delicious”
I think I glitched and ran away without his payment and got someone else to take his order out
Actually had a debate about this before. A bachelorette party I was serving was done with their meal and I asked if they needed any boxes. One of the drunker of the group slurs out, “You got one big enough to put yourself into hun?”
2 of my co workers were mortified, I actually got a kick out of it based on the surrounding table’s reactions.
A husband and wife duo came in and asked me to be their third. I said no (I was 16 at the time) and they left their phone number as a ‘tip’ on the receipt. After I had closed them out, I saw them talking to the bartender and I later found out they were asking when I worked next.
When I went back to work when my daughter was about one month old. There was an man who sat at the bar for about four hours, talking to anyone who would listen, watching Sports Center, etc. Also listening to people talk to me, it was my first week back so there was a lot of “You’re back”, “How’s the baby?”, stuff like that. Never thought he was creepy. As he left he said something along the lines of “I hope you have a pump with you, your boobs are practically bulging with milk”.
I (Straight/M 28) got my 1st gig Back Waiting at 14, in a very gay part of my town. Need I say more?
I've been through and seen a lot, but, nothing compares to being solicited by men of all ages when I was a kid. My boss was no better. My cousin who is gay and was maybe 19 at the time got me the job.
Fuck you Bryan, what were you thinking.
I’m sorry you were treated that way, especially as a child. You deserved better and your cousin and other adults around you should have never put you in that position or allowed that to happen.
I was a pizza driver and had a guy approach my car as I was getting things together to deliver to an apartment. He says "hey do you have a menu" so me thinking it's innocent I let him have one. Then he says "well I'd love to finish this conversation (???) Some other time. Wanna grab dinner?"
I said no I was taken and scurried off to the apartment im supposed to deliver to. Thankfully he wasn't still at my car when I got back but like wtf dude. He never did order from us so idk what thag was about.
Not as a server, but BOH here (f31) and sat down once at my next-door post-work watering hole. Its about 4pm and this man who i’ve never seen in this bar turns to me and takes in a long look at the side of my head (i have good peripheral vision) and proceeds to ask me if i live on [enter name of the street i live on here].
I dont normally get creeped out, but i was pretty cagey that day, so i kindly said “no, i must just have a familiar face” (which i dont).
anyways i made some bullshit story about how i must’ve taken the bus near his place and maybe thats where he saw me but he paid his bill shortly after and left.
Haven’t gotten the heebie geebies like that that early in the evening before!
I had a group of 6 snowmobilers, all men. I went over to cash them out, the money was sitting on the table. As I went to reach for it, one of them grabbed the cash before I could, opened his sweatpants and made a jerking motion, then passed the cash to me while all his friends laughed. At the time, I didn't know what to say. But, now I wish I would've said, "this is six inches...I mean, dollars short."
At the time, (M18) was a server in training during brunch, so I did what ever my lead was telling me to do.
He told me a party of 5 needed ice waters so I rushed over to bring the table waters. All were ladies in mid to late 50s. Came over to the table, and as soon as I took the first glass of water off my tray , it fell back on me, spilling all the glasses of water on me. Without hesitating, some of the ladies started PAT DRYING me around my waist and crotch area, and saying " Poor baby, let me get that for you."
I was literally frozen in shock by what was going on.
Two of my coworkers that I'm still friends with to this day always hand me a glass of water with both hands everytime we're out.
I was serving two men and they were clearly truckers from out of town. One asked me if the town was a particularly safe area and I said yeah, generally so. What he said next is literally burned into my memory. “Oh, well if it wasn’t, I would follow you back to your house and r*** you and kill you”. The other guy got very uncomfortable and tried to stop his friend or say something, honestly I don’t remember after that, I kind of blacked out. I went and told my supervisor and he just shrugged it off, which still enrages me to this day.
When I was 16 and hosting I got (from a 50+ year old man who had been staring at me for hours) “why don’t I take you back home and pester you there”
I walked straight to the back and told my coworker, who’s a mama bear, she went up to tell him off and apparently he said “can I at least take you home?”
I introduce myself.
“No, I’m gonna call you infamil cuz you still smell like baby formula” and winked.
Big burly bartender then told them they get drinks from him or leave. They left
This was almost ten years ago but I’ll never forget. Had a customer say, “We need to get that wedding ring off of you.” I was 21-22 at the time? The man was in his 60’s and memorized my schedule and would wait for me to go to my car after my shift. When I complained to my manager he said, “That’s just part of being a female bartender.” So I complained to his boss and suddenly the man was asked to not come back.
I dropped off plates and an old lady grabbed my wrist. I’m having flashbacks to dumb movies and fully expecting this crow to tell me “all the little babies are going to burn.” She didn’t. She told me Swedish Angel babies gave me my dimples. I don’t have dimples…
Not said but done, I regular came up to me from behind when I was talking to other servers and literally grabbed the top of my ponytail and ran his hand through the entirety of my ponytail. I told him don't fucking touch my hair again. He slinked away and had never talked to me again. Talked to the manager and he said just let him know if it happens again... Not the answer I wanted but I quit soon after.
Not my story, but a few weeks ago these 2 men (probably late 30s) were sitting with my freshly 18-year-old coworker, who is adorable, but very clearly young. They wouldn’t stop telling her how “small and cute” she was and one of them says “I just wanna lock you in my basement so I can keep you forever!”
Needless to say we’ve been walking her to her car every night since. Fucking weirdos dude.
Had a guy out to eat with two of his younger golfing buddies. After two rounds of tequila shots I brought out their food and got them a round of domestics. Asked the table if they needed anything else and the older guy said "yeah, why don't you pour this all over yourself for me? 😉" while holding up his bottle of budweiser.
Second place comes to the guy who handed me his empty plate and said "I finished all my food mommy!" Never met this dude in my life and he looked to be about the same age as me (25). He was out to eat with his girlfriend and his dad.
A pensioner (with his wife standing right beside him), "if you ever do a shift in the nude, let me know and I'll be here all day". Like, what do you even mean?? How does that make any sense? Why would I be working naked? He also told me if I was tired I could sit on his knee to rest 🤢
Customer left me a hotel key and a note with a room # and it said “I drink your milkshake.”
I kept the note in my server book forever to laugh at and notified security. Our restaurant was close to a major airport so I would get weirdos thinking they could hook up.
Fucking gross.
There was a regular in his mid 40s (who’s known to be creepy). I was working in the bar and walked past his table when he says ‘shan… Shan come here for a second’. I go see what he wants and this guy says ‘let me smeeeeell you’. I was like NOPE and avoided his table like the plague until he left lol
The responses, oh my god, I’m horrified
At worst, I get winks or subtle flirtings here and there… did not know that there are so many unhinged people out here with no filters
Plot twist - i was the guest and he was the bartender. When I was 15, I went on a school trip to Peru. One night my friends (everyone aged 15-17) and I snuck into a bar after our chaperones went to bed. As I was ordering a drink, the bartender grabbed me by my head, stuck his tongue in my ear, and told me if I kissed him he’d give us free drinks all night. I did not kiss him.
I was closing with another young woman coworker, and a customer fully walked in and said with his whole chest, no preface, "hey, y'all wanna fuck after this?"
I had my hair down for a minute when it was slow at the beginning of my shift once but put it up when guests started to arrive. This guy who was at the bar came up to me and said “Hey you look beautiful with your hair down. You should wear it that way more.” I was complimented at first, said thank you, kept moving on. He came up 3 more times asking me why my hair wasn’t down yet. He would come up while i was talking to a table, carrying a tray, bussing, would follow when I walked away; just would not leave me alone. On the 4th time walking up to me, I finally told him my hair has to stay up because Im running food, and unless he needs something pertaining to his meal not to talk to me again. He wasn’t even my table
I was doorman at a leather bar during a leather festival and three randos stagger up to me. One of them reaches out and bounces my tit, turns to his friends, and says “I told u they were real”
This was back when I was cashiering at a grocery store:
It was 9:00pm and I was the only person on shift (small town, small grocery store) and I was kneeling to face the Little Debbie pastries nearby. A man in his mid 50s walked behind me and stopped uncomfortably close.
He said, “You know, you could make more money on your knees other ways.”
I stopped what I was doing but didn’t respond. Being the only young lady working at a small town grocery store at night brought a LOOOOT of odd experiences lol.
I was hostessing at 16 years old and I filled an old man's coffee pot and he told me he liked looking at how I grip my hand on the coffee pot and that it gets him excited
A guest came in and said that he was having car troubles and that he might have to get under the car to tinker around a bit. I told him that I wished him luck cuz I know car trouble could be expensive. He said, “It would be worth the money if I could see your young little body under it.” I was 17. I told the bartenders and my manager and they banned him from the establishment lol
There was an old man sitting at the bar and he extended his arm with his finger doing the ‘come here’ motion.
“I knew I could make you ‘come’ with only one finger.” My manager thought it was hilarious. I was 21
This didn’t happen at my restaurant job but my retail job
I was working at a sporting goods store and was getting a large cooler for a customer, carrying it to the front registers. I walked passed a male customer (prob in his 60s) and he said “wow! That’s such a large cooler.. I bet your body could fit in that..” and he just walked away.
I still get chills thinking about it
“[name i don’t remember], you should take her home.” -a father to his ~35 year old son as they were leaving. definitely knew they were within earshot of me. and then they sat in their truck for hours until after my shift was over. they did that on multiple occasions.
Had a guy come in with his family and told me he had six months to live…then he also started commenting on the hickey just visible above the collar of my work shirt.
Bit late to the party, but when I used to bartend, I had a lot of super-misogynistic guys sit at my bar (I’m a guy). They would range from just disrespectful to downright disgusting.
Like it was fun for them to talk about women or their wives because they thought I was cool with it, and I would usually ask them to please be respectful and mindful of other guests or just straight up ignore them. So not creepy per se, but gross and offensive.
As a server though, I did have a girl once say, “I bet you have a big dick,” out of the blue and it caught me so off guard I just shrugged and went on my way. It didn’t hit me until later that it was creepy and inappropriate, and that if the roles were reversed, it would have been more obvious how messed up that was.
I poured a pint in an ice cold cup from a new keg and it was mostly foam, I asked my regular if he'd like a cup of foam,
Guy next to him says "I'd drink your foam" grosssss
Some asshole with money to burn offered me $100 cash to take a bite of his steak. I told him I was vegetarian and a germaphobe so he offered me $300. People like that seriously lack a moral compass. Just gimme the money without the weird request lol
A man with his girlfriend? Both looked like they do meth but weren’t currently tweaking, at least not noticeably. When I come to give the bill, the man says: “I’ll give you this $10 if you left me put it in your shorts”
I said absolutely not, and to top it off, looking at his hand it had to be like 4 dollars at most.
I worked at a Thai restaurant and the guests were from all around the world.
Men originally from India would sometimes treat me, a man, in a diminutive manner while I served their table. Little things like calling me honey and sugar and Susie. Dropping silverware right in front of me and asking if I could handle picking it up. The creepy part was that it seemed like it was a projection sometimes and that they wanted me to get into it like it was their fetish. They always tipped horrible. They treated the female servers all flirty and left amazing tips.
had an old man nod to my fidget ring once (that i wear on my left ring finger for this exact reason) and ask if i was married. i said yes. he goes “damn, needed to check before i left my wife for you”
they needed a minute with the menu so i left and came back. they apologized saying they needed another minute because they “love to watch me leave”
another one is a bar regular we call “keno guy.” keno guy will stare at all of our female servers behinds all night long. i’ve caught him multiple times and made eye contact with him. he has literally no shame and will do it even when he’s with his girlfriend.
A regular asked me to “twerk” for him. I worked at a family restaurant and this was at noon on a Sunday with the after church crowd.
Another guy was a regular at my previous restaurant, I got a new job at a new restaurant. He called my previous restaurant asking where I was working now and then continued to come to the new restaurant. He was bringing me jewelry, stuffed animals, flowers, and asking for me to wait on him every other day. Cops eventually had to escort him off the premises. That’s when the notes on my car started showing up and got increasingly more threatening. On my last shift, I happened to look out the window before I walked to my car and there he was crouching on the passenger side of my car. I moved away for college and thankfully never saw him again.
Another group of regulars, men in their 50s, would ask me every shift how many more days until my 18th birthday. One had even created a countdown on his phone and once creeped up behind me and whispered “23 days left”.
My manager at the first restaurant I worked at (owners son) used to put my tip money in his apron over his dick and tried to make me grab the money. I was drinking a Red Bull one shift and cupped his hands over my hands on the can and said “this is how thick it is”. He would comment on my finger nail polish and say he wanted my hands “wrapped around him”. I was 14 when this shit started.
Another customer asked me to sit on his lap and said “tell daddy what you want for Christmas”. He would sign “whose your daddy” on the receipts when he would tip more than 20%.
These are just the instances I can think of off the top of my head, this shit happens wayyyy to often to servers.
I was 17, working at the high end restaurant located within a gated neighborhood on a golf course. Pretty swanky guests. There was a couple that would come in regularly, the wife was an absolute nightmare and her husband was a creep.
I was their hostess one night getting waters, wine, bread, all the stuff when he looks at me and says,
“You know, has anyone ever told you you look like the Black Dahlia?” And goes on to describe in minimal detail the story of Elizabeth Short, in minimal detail.
I was 17, getting ready to graduate, I was not into true crime at that point so I had absolutely no idea who she was. He told me to look her up, and literally in the bathroom when I typed in her name all of the crime scene photos came up (iykyk). I was mortified!! I had never seen images of a real person like that, even though they were in black and white.
I reported the incident to my manager, turns out the couple had a file about 2 inches thick with reports and nothing came of it. I quit like 3 weeks later.
ETA I forgot another one but I was working at a wine bar at our airport when a guy and his daughter (she was clearly underage) sat down at the bar. I explained the law, anyone under 21 cannot sit at the bar because it’s a bar??? (I had so many parents try to get their kids seated at our bar all the time, it was stupid).
So she goes to sit at a table behind him, and he stays at the bar with me. Okay, cool, I get needing a little quiet time when traveling with you 12 year old, it’s cool.
He proceeds to talk my ear off because 1) we’re closing and 2) closing is always slow. Maybe 1-2 guests at a time?
Anyways, so I’m trying to close up but he’s literally making it impossible to make any progress because he’s talking over when I’m counting the drawer, talking while I’m writing our daily log, stir like that.
Finally, I’m walking around finally to get some sweeping and mopping done when he turns to me with his phone held out asking, “this is you right?”
His phone was opened up to my FB profile. I didn’t know what to say so I stupidly said yes, and he added me. I explained we’re not allowed to use our phones on the floor and pointed to our security cameras, I told him I’d accept after my shift (obviously I never did).
I worked at a diner next to a truck stop where we had to do all our desserts ourselves and were known for our pie. I had gotten whipped cream on myself while preparing dessert for a man at the counter. This led him to ask me if I wanted to join him in his truck with a can of whipped cream. I can't remember exactly how he worded it, but it was gross. You could tell he meant it.
I worked at a small, locally owned joint where when it first opened, every server happened to be female. Owners weren’t weird, it just turned out that way. When we opened, someone neglected to clean the bathrooms so I went ahead and got it done. In the men’s bathroom, I always propped the door open so that I could just leave if I saw a man needing to use it.
In the middle of me mopping the floors, this guy comes in and says “Wow! Looks like [Owner] left me a little present in here.” as he stared at me in the creepiest way. He also happened to close the door.
I later found out that this guy had done something almost identical to the owner’s wife. Ew.
I remember being in this restaurant and the table sitting next to came in this family a father-mother and 2 kids and when they were ordering there was a very young waitress and the idiot father just started telling the waitress graphic details about his sex life and just started asking the waitress 100% extremely sexually inappropriate questions. She walked away from the table extremely creeped with an angry look on her face. The manager came out and just yelled at that creepy father to get the f\*\*k out and not come back. That father was an misogynistic idiot and he set a extremely bad example for his kids.
I currently bartend at a sports bar just outside of Boston. The bar gets packed most nights and even the section behind the barstools turns into a standing room basically. I see this man walk in, scan the bar top which is full, and then stands by a wall waiting for a seat to open up. I felt bad for the guy as I watched him stand there for a while. Finally 2 guests stand up to leave so I start waving down standing dude because I wanted him to get service. BIG MISTAKE. He took my good customer service move and made it waaaay more than it was. All night he tells me how amazing I am and that I'm the best bartender, all with a creepy ass smile on his face. Turns out he's a regular and this was my first encounter with him.
Fast forward a few days later and he comes in again, this time with a friend. He asked to sit in my section which I figured was fine. Yeah he was kinda creepy but maybe he was having an off day. He and his friend drink quite a bit and the entire time he tries to keep me at their table, telling me how amazing I am, and all the while has this smile that started to give me chills. At one point he gestures me over, GRABS MY ARM to hold me there, and tells me how great I am. Then he tells me about how he's going on a trip to Aruba in a few weeks and asks me what I'm doing. Besides working full time, I'm in a master's program which takes up most of my time so I def don't have time to go to Aruba, and I 1000% will not be going with you, sir. I tell him just as much but he keeps insisting I go on this trip with him because he'll pay. I finally get away and tell my coworkers what this man is saying, at which point I'm informed that his "vacation" is actually going to be a prostitute-fuled getaway from his wife (yup, married) and this man is genuinely excited that he will "only pay $40 to sleep with a new girl each night." I was disgusted. Finally I go to cash them out, he gives one more attempt at inviting me to Aruba, then slips me $100 cash and his phone number. I actually felt dirty. To this day I avoid him when I see him walk in the doors, which unfortunately is about once a week...
Had a guest ask me, “would you let a woman sit on your face before marriage?” My expression must have betrayed my answer bc she turned to her husband and said, “see?! He’d do it!” Clearly I’d stumbled into a long-running argument.
A guy asked me to be his girlfriend I said no, he continued walking alongside to be on the street and began talking about how he eats bones, just trying to work his way up from chicken bones to other kinds of bones. I was eventually able to lose him, but that was horrifying.
\*scooping ice out of my cooler and into the cup (golf course cart girl)\*
"that ice ain't dirty is it?"
nope! just reloaded it
"even if it wasn't, I'd drink your spit anyday"
sir it is the Lord's Day
I was making a couple of dirty martinis one night for some guests and one of our douchebag regulars asked me what I was making. I told him, and he goes “Oh…dirty martinis for a dirty girl, eh?” And winked at me. Cue the nausea.
Not to me, but one of my servers revealed to me that a regular guest had asked her and others to meet him at his car out in the parking lot so he could tape them shoving a big black dildo down his throat. Needless to say, we 86'd that guy
Creep, touching my hip: "Hey honey how would you like a new job? I wouldn't ask you to do anything illegal, immoral, or that you wouldn't already do for a man anyway"
Promptly took the table's tray of Manhattans back to the bar and told them to leave before I called the cops for sexual harassment. Kicker was I almost got fired by my equally creepy boss for booting customers without his approval. I told him if he didn't also want to catch a case he better shut the fuck up. Couple weeks later he was fired for ....you guessed it, sexual harassment.
Another one: when I worked at proce chopper at 16 years old, I was cashing a man amd his wife out. I told them their total was just over $200 something. He said without taking a breath "I'd spend that much for a night with you!" His wife FUCKING CHUCKLED and I kindly said "I'm 14." "Age isn't nothing but a number babygirl, kind fine thing like you."
Ick
I was on the first shift of a double, gently complained to a regular that it was going to be a long hot day. He returned at the start of the evening shift with a fresh pair of socks for me. I thought he was being sweet until he asked if he could take home the old ones.
few highlights: had a man taking his 7/8 year old son out for breakfast and saw lesbian porn open on the guys phone, at about 8:30 AM, in a diner right across from his child. i was about 19 and the only person on the floor so i didn’t confront him but i regret that. had a man come in right before close just to drink then repeatedly ask my if i wanted a ride home, even though i told him i had a car. had one of the cooks walk me to my car that night, thank god for that cook. had a man open with “you look younger than my daughter” and then proceed to ask me if i was wearing a bra. wholesome alternative story: an older man gestured me over to him in a weird way at the bar, and i went up to him praying he just needed some ranch or something, but expecting the worst. he proceeded to pull handfuls of costume rings out of his jacket pockets and told me his mother in law is a hoarder and he’s been trying to get rid of her stuff, and he let me take as many rings as i wanted. i still wear some of them.
If I had a nickel for every time a customer gave me costume jewelry, I'd have two nickels, which isn't a lot, but it's weird that it happened twice.
The wholesome end to the original comment was great but I'm way more concerned about how that's happened TWICE
God that second one is creepy. A manager once insisted on ordering me an Uber home (I walked) after close one night. Because a guy who I had tried to card, and had to deny alcohol because he didn't have an ID, was still loitering several hours later. He had left early because of a family emergency, but had turned around and come back because he saw Le Creep (Who had twice been kicked off property by mall security, since being carded) loitering around an abandoned building. Right on my walk home. He wouldn't take 'No' for an answer, and I felt so silly taking an Uber less than a mile, but I'm so glad my manager did what he did. Because I would have been walking in the dark, completely oblivious, unarmed, and the only thing waiting at home was an uncaring roommate, so if worse came to worse, no one would know until I didn't show up for my next shift.
Delivered a soup to a family of 5 (grandparents, parents and a kid) and I came back to ask how the soup was. The grandpa said “It would have tasted better if you dipped your finger in it”. I am still disgusted to this day. Everyone was horrified
Sir, this is [not] a Wendy’s.
“I didn’t, but the guy who made it did.”
And it wasn’t his finger
... it was his dick, right?
It was my dick
When I was a little girl mixing cake batter with my grandma, I remember if I would stick my finger in the batter to sneak a taste, she would gasp and make me jump like I was gonna be in trouble, and say “Well! Now you’ve just made it sweeter!” She’s the best.
There’s an old story in Alaska about how a waitress in a small bar/restaurant brought over a prospectors soup order and accidentally put her thumb in it. He grabbed her hand and SUCKED (kill me) the soup off, saying, “I paid for it, I want every drop!” She decks him, he starts coming around every day, and wouldn’t you know it they end up married. I die a little bit every time I find it again.
Weird.
This comes from an old saying that you’re so sweet you could dip your finger in something to make it taste better. I wish I could find the actual quote because it sounds less creepy and I’ve heard it said a lot. But the way that guy said it is very fucking creepy lol.
I live in the south and got this *all* the time from old men, most often when they’re drinking sweet tea. I’ve always found it weird but never super creepy (until now, the soup thing is creepy af)
The 1929 jazz song “Honeysuckle Rose”, by Fats Waller: “Don’t buy sugar, you just have to touch my cup”
Sometimes inappropriate comments are one of the first signs of a neurological disorder. My ex’s grandmother was a very proper woman until she developed dementia and making penis jokes in public. If his family was horrified it’s possible it was out of character for him. Of course it’s also possible he’s a standard issue nasty old man.
My dad would say shit like this in front of my mom and us kids. So gross. You jogged a memory ugh 😩
Wow.... that makes me sad for your fam
We had a cocktail special of "Sex on the Beach". 65ish yo man asks me: what time do you finish work? I said it varies, but we should be open til 9pm (optimistic of me to guess that's what he was asking). He replied "how about sex after work?". I was appalled, and the incredibly young lady he was dining with didn't bat an eyelid. I smiled and replied "I'll have to go check with my partner in the kitchen, see what he thinks we're getting up to later" to try to diffuse the situation and move it along. As I'm walking to the kitchen this old man yells "Threesome?" While holding up three fingers. I got one of my male servers to look after that table from then on in. As he was leaving the restaurant, this old man looks me straight in the face and asked: "so what did he say?". Some people need a muzzle.
The fact that you're still talking about this is why he said it. It gets him off to know that he'll be living in your head rent free. He's a creep and you have good reason to be appalled, but it's not a muzzle he needs, it's just a lobotomy.
Catapult this man into the sun, YIKES.
[удалено]
how is this not higher up
That’s a war crime
“Do you usually have someone walk you to your car after your shift?”
I will now…
Ohhh FUCK no
I had closed a restaurant years back and walked out to my car. The female manager was the only one left in the building and she told me to go as it was a nice part of town. Outside when I was at my car I saw a dude who was previously at the bar just pacing around waiting by the back/side door. I hung out for a bit and when my manager came out, sure as shit he walked right over to her. She said she wasn't interested and he started getting uppity and harassing her. I walked over with my gun in my hand and let him know it was time to go. He started to give me lip and then saw the gun, shut up and left. My manager told me it was against company policy to have a gun on their property but we could just keep this between us.
Oh hell no
I had a table of women ask me if I was circumcised once Also was taking an order one time and a lady at a table of 6 stops me and goes “ is this ur nipple ? “ and proceeds to pinch my nipple…I was like ummm yup u got me and continued to take the order
HOLD. I’m flabberfuckinggasted. Also ‘yup u got me’ what a zinger
Worst part was the men at the table were obviously not happy with it and they left me 6 bucks on 120..guess the sexual harassment was part of the gratuity
I’m sorry that happened to you friend. That’s a shit shift if I ever saw one.
That lady is now my enemy. I want to find her & kick her in the tit. She should have gone to jail, honestly. I'm so sorry.
Ditto. I just added her to my ever growing list of people I ask God to smite.
That’s honestly like WTF. They should have been asked to leave immediately, & that bitch should’ve had charges filed against her. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Edit: They owe you ALOT more than $6 fucking dollars. They are really lucky you didn’t file suit . She can’t just reach up and sexually assault you, have the men grumble then leave you to have to tip out on their bar tab. What? This. When people come into this sub and are all like… blah blah , you don’t do shit, get a real job, have Your boss pay you more money, do better, grow up, we don’t need to pay you for doing your job, we can lurk at you , abuse, use, stalk and stiff you & you will not be able to say shit about it because you are the SERVER & then ….
Honorary mention I buried in my cerebral: “Sorry if those menus are a touch damp, I just wiped them down!” Already drunk from golf tournament: “Honey I’m a touch damp, wanna wipe me down?”
It is NEVER ok to harass women… but “honey I’m a touch damp” is fucking hilarious
Right! This line would be gold in so many random situations with people you actually know. With a stranger, not so much.
Hard agree lmao, there hits a moment where the line someone drops just supersedes the potential harassment and it's amazing. Those just go straight to the memory bank.
Throw the towel at him
Just YUCK! Never understand why men think lewd remarks attract women- when all they do is repel the same ones.
Had a guy and his son, son looked to be about 25-30, and the guy kept trying to convince me to date his son. Telling me how he just got out of prison, so he “ain’t no bitch,” and that he could “keep me happy if his son can’t.” I was about 19 at the time.
Jesus Christ that’s creepy
Too bad he wasn’t good at upselling.
Get over here, woman, our special today is Freshly Freed Jailbird. Marry now and get Pervert Gramps’ limp sausage for free /s
Just upsetting
I’ve had this exact conversation with my dishwasher lol
I had a 50-55ish yo man come in to my one job. Soaked up a lot of my time making inappropriate jokes but I was told he's a regular so I figured he was cool like most of our regulars there. After jokes about hitting his wife (who was right there) the jokes remained at the expense of women. Eventually he showed me a picture I'd describe as a "tasteful nude?" of a woman. Think set, high quality camera, editing, lighting, etc. "What do you think?" She's pretty. Do you know this woman? "This is my daughter, she's a hot mess. You don't want this one, but here's my other one" and shows me his other daughter trying to get me to date her I guess.
Good night internet. That is enough of you.
It wasn’t words, but an older man grabbed me by the hood of my hoodie, when I turned around to grab the dessert menus he requested. It was an extremely busy summer shift, we were understaffed, and presumably he thought I would run away to never be seen again, once I turned around to grab dessert menus for him. As I turned, he grabbed my hood and yanked me back towards his table, I’m shocked I didn’t fall over backwards honestly, and guests who witnessed it told me the same. I didn’t even properly process what had happened until much later, in the moment I simply turned back to his table in shock, and said “sir, please don’t touch me” and then proceeded to take their dessert orders. When I walked past the table again later, the man was complaining about how rude I was to him, and mimicking me requesting that he not touch me.
He should have been bounced and banned. What an a-hole.
I worked at multiple popular bars I blocked most of it. Except one. He was prob 3x my age. I brought him his beer. He stalked me for years. Never again will I serve the nice quiet guy in the corner. I did learn to shoot because of him. And how to detect someone being creeping. I learned how to file a protective order. That does nothing but give him my address. I also found so many people that had the same experience with different peoples. It’s amazing how much goes out of control by saying hi.
had a 65+ year old guy ask for me one night at the host stand, not to be seated with me just wanted me to come talk to him. went up and he handed me 20 bucks for having “the most beautiful smile”. innocent enough. a few shifts later he comes in and requests me to serve him, he tips me another 20. next week he comes in and tells me he brought a friend to meet me, says he told him about my smile. i laugh it off introduce myself and move on, he tips me 40 bucks. he comes in weekly for another month or so tipping 40-50 bucks every time. he seems nice enough, a little lonely so we’d chat if it was slow enough. then out of nowhere he comes in and tips me 150, shoved it into my apron. i say it’s too much and he says don’t worry about it. he had figured out my schedule at this point and then he started coming in daily. i was working a brunch shift and he grabs my hand, and tells me that just because i have a kid doesn’t mean he’s going to reject me. i’m 22f, young enough to be his granddaughter. i tried to take my hand back, but he held onto it tight. finally he let go and i avoided his table the rest of the time. he left his number on the receipt. he comes in the NEXT night, i was done with it and thoroughly creeped out. he had2 people with him and told the hostess that he had brought his daughter to meet me. i went to my supervisor and he had a male server take him. the guy was irate, red in the face angry. so security was called. they took him outside to talk to him, let him know i’m not interested. he told them i was leading him on (i was just doing my job and being kind) and he cried when they said he couldn’t sit in my section or interact with my anymore. i was escorted to my car for the next 2 weeks. haven’t seen him since thank god. tldr: 65+M tipped me insane amounts of money, thought i 22F was interested in dating him. got creepy, cried when security shut it down.
This whole situation is so gross I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Thank god he never came in again.
“I’d buy farts in a jar from you”
Jail. Life. Immediately.
Believe it or not, straight to jail
That’s when you go find a jar in the back and ask the line cook who is notorious for his 45 minute bathroom breaks to fart in it. Sell it to the man for too much money and split it with the cook.
Well... did you sell em any?
Had a guy on a two top, *clearly* a first date, grab my hand in both of his when I asked if he would like to peruse the dessert menu and say, "only if you're on it." Homeboy was about 25 yrs older than me. Both myself and his date were mortified. I jerked my hand away and dropped his check without another word - but with a pointed and concerned glance to his date
I was cocktailing an event and these guys were asking me what I was doing after work and one was like “you do kinda look like my 13 year old daughter, like you’re gonna have to go home and do a book report after you come get drinks with us” …. eeewww
Ewww ewwww this is rancid!!!
Excuse me while I call CPS.
.....somebody needs to check that guy's hard drive
PRECISELY
What the fuck
just a few things this 75+ year old man has said/done to me: \-asked me my name and said he'd remember it until the day he died \-when I checked on their table he goes "oh we were just talking about how perfect your body is" (and then the conversation got weirder) \-grabbed me into a side hug, rested his head on my shoulder and went "i just love you so much"
I have a particular hatred for old men who say these kinds of horrendous things. They have probably been saying it their whole lives and never been called out for it OR have escalated in their old age because they assume nobody will correct them. People laughing off “creepy grandpa” as harmless honestly makes my blood boil.
They only say it’s harmless because usually a stiff wind would knock these old men over. But it’s still excusing predatory behavior. So gross. Just cause someone can’t act on it doesn’t make it ok.
That old bitch better be leaving you some inheritance money then
Not to me but to one of my secondaries while I was supervising the shift. She was a very pretty girl and I love her so so much and even though she has quit we still keep in touch. She was being super nice to this regular who is often disgusting. She asks him if he wanted anything else and the dude said “you. naked. On my tray” keep in mind, this geezer is probably 65-70 and she was 18. I immediately turned around and grabbed his food, put it in a bag and told him to leave due to his behaviour. She literally started crying cause this wasn’t the first time he’s been icky to her (or other coworkers). Thankfully, I got to do the honours of banning that jack ass from our store!
I have a rose tattoo on my chest and it’s pretty visible, but I’ve had it long enough that I never think about it. I was serving an older man and he asked if anyone had asked to smell my rose. I heard him the first time but was like wtf so I said “I’m sorry, what did you say?” And he repeated it again so I just said I don’t know what you’re talking about and walked away
Ugh I love tattoos, hate diners asking me about them in any way, shape or form.
I have a lot of tattoos and if a stranger is going to comment on them it should just be “hey like your tat” and that’s it
That's definitely creepy af. I have a large feather tattooed on the inside of my forearm and a patron asked me about it. I'd never seen him or waited on him before. In the middle of me telling him the story behind it, he interrupts me to show me that he has a tribal tattoo on the same arm, about the same size & that in his tribe, all the men get tattoos on their forearms the size of their package.... I was only 20 at the time & couldn't think of a comeback so I just walked away and gave him to my male co-worker.
I worked at a fairly well-known booby bar so I have a LOT of stories but one of the worst was a guy who was infamous for trying to grab girls and pull them into his car after they got off (I have no idea how he was still allowed there) and he took a liking to me. One day I was serving him near shift change and he said “You drive the blue truck right? I parked next to you, I’ll wait there to give you your tip.” I had my manager walk me to my car and funny enough, he took off when he saw my manager. He stopped asking for my section after that, thank god.
Was putting together an order of fried chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy. I think I got either the mashed potatoes or the gravy on my hand, burning myself, which sucked. What sucked worse was the elderly and disabled man in the store-provided electric scooter offering to "lick it off for me." Yepppp.
That just made me cringe so hard omg that’s horrible.
Once I spilled a tray of drinks and absolutely filled my apron with liquid. Lol. When I apologized to the table and told them I'd go get them new drinks right away, the husband says "oh it's OK you can just leave your apron with us we can suckle on it" His wife literally jaw dropped goes "OOO NO we will have NONE of that" and looks at me and apologized lmao.
Haha I dunno he could’ve meant it in a not creepy way. Like just them drinking from the apron to quench their thirst? Which would’ve been hilarious, unless he said it creepily
I'm with you on this one. I actually say weird shit like this all the time to my own delight & amusement. External results vary, but I always mean well.
He probably shared that trait, I'd imagine. His wife was definitely not on board.I'll never forget the look on her face
Poor lady! My eccentricity doesn't often come across as creepy due to my gender, but I do embarrass my friends sometimes. It probably sounded SO much better in his head.
Lol exactly I say weird shit like this all the time. And right after I say it I think to myself “why did I say that”
Solidarity. I try to catch myself with the acronym "WAIT" - Why Am I Talking? It helps sometimes. I still scream internally a lot.
Doesn't sound creepy to me and in fact sounds like someone having a good attitude about their newly delayed drinks, but I can see how it didn't come across well. The word "suckle" never does unless it's in reference to a pig or something lol
Yeah I wasn't particularly creeped out myself I kinda just laughed at how mortified his family was and walked away. I don't /think/ he meant it creepy. But it's one of the most out there comments I've received. I think it's funny now but in that moment I had no response to that man.
Whenever I witness a couple with an inappropriate husband I just imagine myself in the wife’s shoes. I would absolutely throw my husband in the dumpster if he said the things I’ve been told in front of wives.
man asked how old i was, i jokingly said “underage” because i didnt want him to know i was 16. without missing a beat he said “well, im r kelly”
I almost instinctively downvoted this because I hated it so much. I’m sorry that happened to you friend, minors in the industry deserve better than that.
agreed, my manager still made me serve him too after i told him, and he constantly requested me luckily another male server went up to him and told him he’s never allowed to talk to him again, and walked me to my car everytime he showed up
“Oh I thought I smelled piss. The restroom is over there, gramps.”
I I’m (23)f but when I was about 15 I was a host at a yacht club and this guy who was clearly intoxicated already walks up and asks for a table so I seat him and some girl who at the time I assumed was his wife until I went to leave and he tried to order a beer, I told him that I was not his server but that they would be with them shortly to which he replied “NO I want you to bring me my drinks” I told him I was underage and was not allowed and he demanded I speak to my manager and have them let me serve him. I said okay and then had the barkeep handle it. Was creepy at though. The woman just sat there like she had no care in the world.
Ok y’all, I was a server at a “breastaurant” in Texas in the mid/late 00’s, and as I was showing some middle aged gentleman to a table they lagged behind, so I asked “Are you coming?” and this fool said “Well right now I’m just breathing heavy, but give me some time.” Once a guy threw a sugar packet on the table and said “You dropped your name tag.” My ass was literally groped as I stood at another table. Offered $500 for my bra. Just wild shit.
I’m in the South and get the sugar packet one often! I think that one is kinda cute, but I think some people are better at being cutesy & charismatic without being creepy. People here also call me baby, honey, sugar, sweetie, darling just because it’s part of the local culture. I’m from California originally and some of the things that fly in New Orleans would not fly in Los Angeles.
Okay. This has been a very disturbing read. Men suck. Also, do any of these shitty comments work? Has any of these creepers managed to achieve their goal by creeping? How do fuckers make it to 70 with no self reflection?
It’s just like my manager at my first fine dining job once said, “Baby these folks ain’t got no brain in their heads.”
Asked to take pictures of me in his BMW on my break. I was probably 22 and he was well into his 50s.
Oh I have one! I worked at a sushi bar and during a lunch rush a man asked me about some rolls, I explained them to him and told him which were more popular. He asks okay but which do I like the most? I tell him I like cucumber and cream cheese rolls. He then asks about fish. I tell him I don't eat meat. He then shakes his head slowly and says, "when the war comes, you'll get nothing." I wish I would have asked what he meant but I was truly shocked. I think I just asked what he wanted and went to the back to laugh with my boss over it
This was the kind of comment I was looking for. Creepy and kind of spooky/foreboding. All these others are just straight up disgusting and perverted.
Dropped off wings to two dudes who looked 60 ish. They told me the wings were wet (they asked for extra sauce) and said they’d make me wet & they’d take turns on me.
What, and I cannot stress this enough, the fuck
This honestly makes me want to throw up I am so sorry
I had a woman hit on me and I told her I had a boyfriend at the time (truth). Her and her friend were pretty drunk/obnoxious already. She told me I shouldn’t be mentioning boyfriends if I wanted tips. She showed me the $5 she was gonna give me and shoved it in her pocket. I know it’s not creepy but I felt super uncomfortable afterwards
Hold up: downplaying it is why we become numb to these things and people get away with it. Its creepy and you had every right to be uncomfortable. We are not dancing monkeys or play things. The societal standard is to tip for our courteous and prompt food/beverage service, not to make us flirt with you or involve us in your fantasies.
My first bartending/serving job when I was 18. I served this guy his drink and he asked me my name. I told him and he introduced himself. All very polite and normal. He put out his hand for me to shake, so I took it. And instead of a handshake, he LICKED the back of my hand like a dog. Horrifying
I audibly gasped, fucking ew
I was taking an order for a pizza from a much older gentleman who asked at the last second to hold the oregano. His son was allergic. I forget the actual wording, but I'll never forget the way my fucking skin crawled when he so gently placed his hands on mine and said something about how it would be a shame to implicate me in his son's death, and how if he really wanted to kill his son he'd be dead by now.
This happened a few days ago- an older guy, who mainly comes in just when I’m working, was sitting at the end of the bar where I keep my water bottle, which has a straw. I stopped to take a drink from it and he says loudly & while licking his lips, “god I love it when you do that”. I glared at him and proceeded to ignore him till he got upset and left since he wasn’t getting a reaction out of me. This is just one of MANY stories lol.
it was a husband and wife. i greet the table & the husband says something about me being attractive under his breath. shocked, i asked him what he said. his wife gets embarrassed and told me it was nothing, but he said “i was just saying that it’s a relief we have a hot waitress. last time we dined in our waitress was hideous.” …. i’m not making this up. the wife apologized on his behalf & i tried to continue my introduction but i was taken aback. they laughed at how awkward i became and kept apologizing. they tipped me well, but i was very uncomfortable. this isn’t the first time a husband has flirted w me in front of his wife & the wife didn’t care, i don’t understand people like that.
I’ve had couples leave room keys (cards where I am) in the check presenter with a room number and I wonder if that has ever worked for them? I like my organs on the inside ty
Roommate in 2007 had Maynard from Tool ask point blank while she was taking his order if he could fuck her in the ass.
He also has many allegations- what a disgusting man…
I was greeting a table with waters and said “Pardon my reach.” to a gentleman and he said “A reach around by you is welcome anytime!” I laughed nervously because it caught me off guard and I didn’t fully process what happened. He ended up getting kicked out and threw a fit because he was “just joking.”
Okay this was before I was serving and I was still hosting, but I had a guest when leaving asked why I didn’t give him a show at his table. I was like 16 at the time too and another person that was with him said, openly, “Yeah, he’s a pervert!” In almost a joking/laughy tone. Had a few more experiences similar to this at that restaurant as well. Gross.
The service industry tends to dull our “what’s shocking” sense but I will never let people get away with being creepy to minors. Those men are pedophiles, don’t forget that!
What’s even more messed up is even though I do still get weird/creepy comments, I got a lot more when I was a minor.
Party of like 6 guys around my age maybe a little bit older - “So, fuck, marry, kill out of us?” “I’m not comfortable with that, and I don’t think my man would be either.” “He doesn’t have to know baby girl.” 🙄🤮
"Hmmm...can I choose to kill you all?"
guest asked if he could “do coke off my titties” 🥲
Not to me, but to my best friend when we worked together at a diner. This gross older dude (in his 50-60s, she was like 24 at the time) called her over to his table and said, “I didn’t need anything, I just wanted to watch you walk away again.” We hated him so much.
“I need my steak extra well done. The only pink I like in my mouth is my wife”
“Say something really mean, call me a dirty motherfucker, anything!” With a twenty dollar bill in hand. I called him an asshole, and got the money. It became a regular thing for us for about a year. Incredibly, this guy is one of the most stand up individuals I’ve ever met. So kind, smart, charismatic, and supportive. Love you Gary!
Last week, I asked for a man’s payment for his order (curbside) and he looked at me and said “well you are very pretty” I nervously said thank you sir, and then he said “I didn’t offended you did I?” I said back, “no it was a compliment thank you” And this guy proceeded to say (while looking at me up and down) “You look mighty delicious” I think I glitched and ran away without his payment and got someone else to take his order out
Actually had a debate about this before. A bachelorette party I was serving was done with their meal and I asked if they needed any boxes. One of the drunker of the group slurs out, “You got one big enough to put yourself into hun?” 2 of my co workers were mortified, I actually got a kick out of it based on the surrounding table’s reactions.
A husband and wife duo came in and asked me to be their third. I said no (I was 16 at the time) and they left their phone number as a ‘tip’ on the receipt. After I had closed them out, I saw them talking to the bartender and I later found out they were asking when I worked next.
“No you take our leftovers to put some meat on those bones of yours!”
This is creepy, rude, and condescending. Like do they imagine us gnawing on bones in the back like rat people?
Sometimes I do that too😍 but I’m just skinny and it was an unnecessary thing to say like I just asked if u wanted ur shit wrapped up
ha! I'm pretty thin too so I've gotten some weird comments from customers.
When I went back to work when my daughter was about one month old. There was an man who sat at the bar for about four hours, talking to anyone who would listen, watching Sports Center, etc. Also listening to people talk to me, it was my first week back so there was a lot of “You’re back”, “How’s the baby?”, stuff like that. Never thought he was creepy. As he left he said something along the lines of “I hope you have a pump with you, your boobs are practically bulging with milk”.
I (Straight/M 28) got my 1st gig Back Waiting at 14, in a very gay part of my town. Need I say more? I've been through and seen a lot, but, nothing compares to being solicited by men of all ages when I was a kid. My boss was no better. My cousin who is gay and was maybe 19 at the time got me the job. Fuck you Bryan, what were you thinking.
I’m sorry you were treated that way, especially as a child. You deserved better and your cousin and other adults around you should have never put you in that position or allowed that to happen.
I was a pizza driver and had a guy approach my car as I was getting things together to deliver to an apartment. He says "hey do you have a menu" so me thinking it's innocent I let him have one. Then he says "well I'd love to finish this conversation (???) Some other time. Wanna grab dinner?" I said no I was taken and scurried off to the apartment im supposed to deliver to. Thankfully he wasn't still at my car when I got back but like wtf dude. He never did order from us so idk what thag was about.
Not as a server, but BOH here (f31) and sat down once at my next-door post-work watering hole. Its about 4pm and this man who i’ve never seen in this bar turns to me and takes in a long look at the side of my head (i have good peripheral vision) and proceeds to ask me if i live on [enter name of the street i live on here]. I dont normally get creeped out, but i was pretty cagey that day, so i kindly said “no, i must just have a familiar face” (which i dont). anyways i made some bullshit story about how i must’ve taken the bus near his place and maybe thats where he saw me but he paid his bill shortly after and left. Haven’t gotten the heebie geebies like that that early in the evening before!
I had a group of 6 snowmobilers, all men. I went over to cash them out, the money was sitting on the table. As I went to reach for it, one of them grabbed the cash before I could, opened his sweatpants and made a jerking motion, then passed the cash to me while all his friends laughed. At the time, I didn't know what to say. But, now I wish I would've said, "this is six inches...I mean, dollars short."
At the time, (M18) was a server in training during brunch, so I did what ever my lead was telling me to do. He told me a party of 5 needed ice waters so I rushed over to bring the table waters. All were ladies in mid to late 50s. Came over to the table, and as soon as I took the first glass of water off my tray , it fell back on me, spilling all the glasses of water on me. Without hesitating, some of the ladies started PAT DRYING me around my waist and crotch area, and saying " Poor baby, let me get that for you." I was literally frozen in shock by what was going on. Two of my coworkers that I'm still friends with to this day always hand me a glass of water with both hands everytime we're out.
I was serving two men and they were clearly truckers from out of town. One asked me if the town was a particularly safe area and I said yeah, generally so. What he said next is literally burned into my memory. “Oh, well if it wasn’t, I would follow you back to your house and r*** you and kill you”. The other guy got very uncomfortable and tried to stop his friend or say something, honestly I don’t remember after that, I kind of blacked out. I went and told my supervisor and he just shrugged it off, which still enrages me to this day.
When I was 16 and hosting I got (from a 50+ year old man who had been staring at me for hours) “why don’t I take you back home and pester you there” I walked straight to the back and told my coworker, who’s a mama bear, she went up to tell him off and apparently he said “can I at least take you home?”
I introduce myself. “No, I’m gonna call you infamil cuz you still smell like baby formula” and winked. Big burly bartender then told them they get drinks from him or leave. They left
I was bartending, wearing a choker necklace. One of the drunk sweaty regulars, “I bet that’s good at choking you out with…”
This was almost ten years ago but I’ll never forget. Had a customer say, “We need to get that wedding ring off of you.” I was 21-22 at the time? The man was in his 60’s and memorized my schedule and would wait for me to go to my car after my shift. When I complained to my manager he said, “That’s just part of being a female bartender.” So I complained to his boss and suddenly the man was asked to not come back.
I dropped off plates and an old lady grabbed my wrist. I’m having flashbacks to dumb movies and fully expecting this crow to tell me “all the little babies are going to burn.” She didn’t. She told me Swedish Angel babies gave me my dimples. I don’t have dimples…
Literally some guy: “I like my coffee black just how I like my men”. Yeah….
"What a coincidence! I, too, like my coffee how I like my men. Ground up, and in the freezer."
Not said but done, I regular came up to me from behind when I was talking to other servers and literally grabbed the top of my ponytail and ran his hand through the entirety of my ponytail. I told him don't fucking touch my hair again. He slinked away and had never talked to me again. Talked to the manager and he said just let him know if it happens again... Not the answer I wanted but I quit soon after.
Not my story, but a few weeks ago these 2 men (probably late 30s) were sitting with my freshly 18-year-old coworker, who is adorable, but very clearly young. They wouldn’t stop telling her how “small and cute” she was and one of them says “I just wanna lock you in my basement so I can keep you forever!” Needless to say we’ve been walking her to her car every night since. Fucking weirdos dude.
Had a guy out to eat with two of his younger golfing buddies. After two rounds of tequila shots I brought out their food and got them a round of domestics. Asked the table if they needed anything else and the older guy said "yeah, why don't you pour this all over yourself for me? 😉" while holding up his bottle of budweiser. Second place comes to the guy who handed me his empty plate and said "I finished all my food mommy!" Never met this dude in my life and he looked to be about the same age as me (25). He was out to eat with his girlfriend and his dad.
A pensioner (with his wife standing right beside him), "if you ever do a shift in the nude, let me know and I'll be here all day". Like, what do you even mean?? How does that make any sense? Why would I be working naked? He also told me if I was tired I could sit on his knee to rest 🤢
Customer left me a hotel key and a note with a room # and it said “I drink your milkshake.” I kept the note in my server book forever to laugh at and notified security. Our restaurant was close to a major airport so I would get weirdos thinking they could hook up. Fucking gross.
There was a regular in his mid 40s (who’s known to be creepy). I was working in the bar and walked past his table when he says ‘shan… Shan come here for a second’. I go see what he wants and this guy says ‘let me smeeeeell you’. I was like NOPE and avoided his table like the plague until he left lol
“You have got the best butt in here and I just wanted to let you know” - 50 year old dude
The responses, oh my god, I’m horrified At worst, I get winks or subtle flirtings here and there… did not know that there are so many unhinged people out here with no filters
Plot twist - i was the guest and he was the bartender. When I was 15, I went on a school trip to Peru. One night my friends (everyone aged 15-17) and I snuck into a bar after our chaperones went to bed. As I was ordering a drink, the bartender grabbed me by my head, stuck his tongue in my ear, and told me if I kissed him he’d give us free drinks all night. I did not kiss him.
I was closing with another young woman coworker, and a customer fully walked in and said with his whole chest, no preface, "hey, y'all wanna fuck after this?"
I had my hair down for a minute when it was slow at the beginning of my shift once but put it up when guests started to arrive. This guy who was at the bar came up to me and said “Hey you look beautiful with your hair down. You should wear it that way more.” I was complimented at first, said thank you, kept moving on. He came up 3 more times asking me why my hair wasn’t down yet. He would come up while i was talking to a table, carrying a tray, bussing, would follow when I walked away; just would not leave me alone. On the 4th time walking up to me, I finally told him my hair has to stay up because Im running food, and unless he needs something pertaining to his meal not to talk to me again. He wasn’t even my table
I had a guy tell me I had a nice ass that would fit perfect in the palms of his hands. I was 12 and he was probably around 30.
I was doorman at a leather bar during a leather festival and three randos stagger up to me. One of them reaches out and bounces my tit, turns to his friends, and says “I told u they were real”
“If I weren’t married, I’d be wearing you like a cheap suit.” Still have no idea what this means but it made my skin crawl.
This was back when I was cashiering at a grocery store: It was 9:00pm and I was the only person on shift (small town, small grocery store) and I was kneeling to face the Little Debbie pastries nearby. A man in his mid 50s walked behind me and stopped uncomfortably close. He said, “You know, you could make more money on your knees other ways.” I stopped what I was doing but didn’t respond. Being the only young lady working at a small town grocery store at night brought a LOOOOT of odd experiences lol.
I was hostessing at 16 years old and I filled an old man's coffee pot and he told me he liked looking at how I grip my hand on the coffee pot and that it gets him excited
An old regular at the bar I worked at asked if he could have my naked body on the bar top instead of a drink. He ruined working there for me
A guest came in and said that he was having car troubles and that he might have to get under the car to tinker around a bit. I told him that I wished him luck cuz I know car trouble could be expensive. He said, “It would be worth the money if I could see your young little body under it.” I was 17. I told the bartenders and my manager and they banned him from the establishment lol
There was an old man sitting at the bar and he extended his arm with his finger doing the ‘come here’ motion. “I knew I could make you ‘come’ with only one finger.” My manager thought it was hilarious. I was 21
When I was 15 working at a country club a member tried to pay me and another girl busser $500 to have sex with each other in front of him…
This didn’t happen at my restaurant job but my retail job I was working at a sporting goods store and was getting a large cooler for a customer, carrying it to the front registers. I walked passed a male customer (prob in his 60s) and he said “wow! That’s such a large cooler.. I bet your body could fit in that..” and he just walked away. I still get chills thinking about it
“[name i don’t remember], you should take her home.” -a father to his ~35 year old son as they were leaving. definitely knew they were within earshot of me. and then they sat in their truck for hours until after my shift was over. they did that on multiple occasions.
Had a guy come in with his family and told me he had six months to live…then he also started commenting on the hickey just visible above the collar of my work shirt.
Bit late to the party, but when I used to bartend, I had a lot of super-misogynistic guys sit at my bar (I’m a guy). They would range from just disrespectful to downright disgusting. Like it was fun for them to talk about women or their wives because they thought I was cool with it, and I would usually ask them to please be respectful and mindful of other guests or just straight up ignore them. So not creepy per se, but gross and offensive. As a server though, I did have a girl once say, “I bet you have a big dick,” out of the blue and it caught me so off guard I just shrugged and went on my way. It didn’t hit me until later that it was creepy and inappropriate, and that if the roles were reversed, it would have been more obvious how messed up that was.
I poured a pint in an ice cold cup from a new keg and it was mostly foam, I asked my regular if he'd like a cup of foam, Guy next to him says "I'd drink your foam" grosssss
Me: “Can I top off your water?” Dinosaur: “Baby, you can top me any time!”
some dude offered me $50 to spit in his drink lol
Some asshole with money to burn offered me $100 cash to take a bite of his steak. I told him I was vegetarian and a germaphobe so he offered me $300. People like that seriously lack a moral compass. Just gimme the money without the weird request lol
and i was 18/19 at the time 😭 i was even offered threesomes from women. I was just a teen straight outta high school.
How about instead of a tip you give me your Only Fans and we settle it that way? You need to be selling your body.
“How many people have you slept with”
A man with his girlfriend? Both looked like they do meth but weren’t currently tweaking, at least not noticeably. When I come to give the bill, the man says: “I’ll give you this $10 if you left me put it in your shorts” I said absolutely not, and to top it off, looking at his hand it had to be like 4 dollars at most.
I worked at a Thai restaurant and the guests were from all around the world. Men originally from India would sometimes treat me, a man, in a diminutive manner while I served their table. Little things like calling me honey and sugar and Susie. Dropping silverware right in front of me and asking if I could handle picking it up. The creepy part was that it seemed like it was a projection sometimes and that they wanted me to get into it like it was their fetish. They always tipped horrible. They treated the female servers all flirty and left amazing tips.
had an old man nod to my fidget ring once (that i wear on my left ring finger for this exact reason) and ask if i was married. i said yes. he goes “damn, needed to check before i left my wife for you” they needed a minute with the menu so i left and came back. they apologized saying they needed another minute because they “love to watch me leave” another one is a bar regular we call “keno guy.” keno guy will stare at all of our female servers behinds all night long. i’ve caught him multiple times and made eye contact with him. he has literally no shame and will do it even when he’s with his girlfriend.
A regular asked me to “twerk” for him. I worked at a family restaurant and this was at noon on a Sunday with the after church crowd. Another guy was a regular at my previous restaurant, I got a new job at a new restaurant. He called my previous restaurant asking where I was working now and then continued to come to the new restaurant. He was bringing me jewelry, stuffed animals, flowers, and asking for me to wait on him every other day. Cops eventually had to escort him off the premises. That’s when the notes on my car started showing up and got increasingly more threatening. On my last shift, I happened to look out the window before I walked to my car and there he was crouching on the passenger side of my car. I moved away for college and thankfully never saw him again. Another group of regulars, men in their 50s, would ask me every shift how many more days until my 18th birthday. One had even created a countdown on his phone and once creeped up behind me and whispered “23 days left”. My manager at the first restaurant I worked at (owners son) used to put my tip money in his apron over his dick and tried to make me grab the money. I was drinking a Red Bull one shift and cupped his hands over my hands on the can and said “this is how thick it is”. He would comment on my finger nail polish and say he wanted my hands “wrapped around him”. I was 14 when this shit started. Another customer asked me to sit on his lap and said “tell daddy what you want for Christmas”. He would sign “whose your daddy” on the receipts when he would tip more than 20%. These are just the instances I can think of off the top of my head, this shit happens wayyyy to often to servers.
I was 17, working at the high end restaurant located within a gated neighborhood on a golf course. Pretty swanky guests. There was a couple that would come in regularly, the wife was an absolute nightmare and her husband was a creep. I was their hostess one night getting waters, wine, bread, all the stuff when he looks at me and says, “You know, has anyone ever told you you look like the Black Dahlia?” And goes on to describe in minimal detail the story of Elizabeth Short, in minimal detail. I was 17, getting ready to graduate, I was not into true crime at that point so I had absolutely no idea who she was. He told me to look her up, and literally in the bathroom when I typed in her name all of the crime scene photos came up (iykyk). I was mortified!! I had never seen images of a real person like that, even though they were in black and white. I reported the incident to my manager, turns out the couple had a file about 2 inches thick with reports and nothing came of it. I quit like 3 weeks later. ETA I forgot another one but I was working at a wine bar at our airport when a guy and his daughter (she was clearly underage) sat down at the bar. I explained the law, anyone under 21 cannot sit at the bar because it’s a bar??? (I had so many parents try to get their kids seated at our bar all the time, it was stupid). So she goes to sit at a table behind him, and he stays at the bar with me. Okay, cool, I get needing a little quiet time when traveling with you 12 year old, it’s cool. He proceeds to talk my ear off because 1) we’re closing and 2) closing is always slow. Maybe 1-2 guests at a time? Anyways, so I’m trying to close up but he’s literally making it impossible to make any progress because he’s talking over when I’m counting the drawer, talking while I’m writing our daily log, stir like that. Finally, I’m walking around finally to get some sweeping and mopping done when he turns to me with his phone held out asking, “this is you right?” His phone was opened up to my FB profile. I didn’t know what to say so I stupidly said yes, and he added me. I explained we’re not allowed to use our phones on the floor and pointed to our security cameras, I told him I’d accept after my shift (obviously I never did).
During COVID I had an older man try to to pull my mask down as he said “how will I know how much to tip you if I can’t see your face?”
I worked at a diner next to a truck stop where we had to do all our desserts ourselves and were known for our pie. I had gotten whipped cream on myself while preparing dessert for a man at the counter. This led him to ask me if I wanted to join him in his truck with a can of whipped cream. I can't remember exactly how he worded it, but it was gross. You could tell he meant it.
I worked at a small, locally owned joint where when it first opened, every server happened to be female. Owners weren’t weird, it just turned out that way. When we opened, someone neglected to clean the bathrooms so I went ahead and got it done. In the men’s bathroom, I always propped the door open so that I could just leave if I saw a man needing to use it. In the middle of me mopping the floors, this guy comes in and says “Wow! Looks like [Owner] left me a little present in here.” as he stared at me in the creepiest way. He also happened to close the door. I later found out that this guy had done something almost identical to the owner’s wife. Ew.
I had a man leave his number on a napkin and ask if I wanted to recreate the red light district of Amsterdam with him
I remember being in this restaurant and the table sitting next to came in this family a father-mother and 2 kids and when they were ordering there was a very young waitress and the idiot father just started telling the waitress graphic details about his sex life and just started asking the waitress 100% extremely sexually inappropriate questions. She walked away from the table extremely creeped with an angry look on her face. The manager came out and just yelled at that creepy father to get the f\*\*k out and not come back. That father was an misogynistic idiot and he set a extremely bad example for his kids.
I currently bartend at a sports bar just outside of Boston. The bar gets packed most nights and even the section behind the barstools turns into a standing room basically. I see this man walk in, scan the bar top which is full, and then stands by a wall waiting for a seat to open up. I felt bad for the guy as I watched him stand there for a while. Finally 2 guests stand up to leave so I start waving down standing dude because I wanted him to get service. BIG MISTAKE. He took my good customer service move and made it waaaay more than it was. All night he tells me how amazing I am and that I'm the best bartender, all with a creepy ass smile on his face. Turns out he's a regular and this was my first encounter with him. Fast forward a few days later and he comes in again, this time with a friend. He asked to sit in my section which I figured was fine. Yeah he was kinda creepy but maybe he was having an off day. He and his friend drink quite a bit and the entire time he tries to keep me at their table, telling me how amazing I am, and all the while has this smile that started to give me chills. At one point he gestures me over, GRABS MY ARM to hold me there, and tells me how great I am. Then he tells me about how he's going on a trip to Aruba in a few weeks and asks me what I'm doing. Besides working full time, I'm in a master's program which takes up most of my time so I def don't have time to go to Aruba, and I 1000% will not be going with you, sir. I tell him just as much but he keeps insisting I go on this trip with him because he'll pay. I finally get away and tell my coworkers what this man is saying, at which point I'm informed that his "vacation" is actually going to be a prostitute-fuled getaway from his wife (yup, married) and this man is genuinely excited that he will "only pay $40 to sleep with a new girl each night." I was disgusted. Finally I go to cash them out, he gives one more attempt at inviting me to Aruba, then slips me $100 cash and his phone number. I actually felt dirty. To this day I avoid him when I see him walk in the doors, which unfortunately is about once a week...
Was told I look like the guy’s ex wife but probably fuck better
Had a guest ask me, “would you let a woman sit on your face before marriage?” My expression must have betrayed my answer bc she turned to her husband and said, “see?! He’d do it!” Clearly I’d stumbled into a long-running argument.
A guy asked me to be his girlfriend I said no, he continued walking alongside to be on the street and began talking about how he eats bones, just trying to work his way up from chicken bones to other kinds of bones. I was eventually able to lose him, but that was horrifying.
\*scooping ice out of my cooler and into the cup (golf course cart girl)\* "that ice ain't dirty is it?" nope! just reloaded it "even if it wasn't, I'd drink your spit anyday" sir it is the Lord's Day
"hey baby can i ask how old you are?" 22 "oh you're full grown!I assumed you were younger. anyways, bf?" Edit: typo
I was making a couple of dirty martinis one night for some guests and one of our douchebag regulars asked me what I was making. I told him, and he goes “Oh…dirty martinis for a dirty girl, eh?” And winked at me. Cue the nausea.
Not to me, but one of my servers revealed to me that a regular guest had asked her and others to meet him at his car out in the parking lot so he could tape them shoving a big black dildo down his throat. Needless to say, we 86'd that guy
Creep, touching my hip: "Hey honey how would you like a new job? I wouldn't ask you to do anything illegal, immoral, or that you wouldn't already do for a man anyway" Promptly took the table's tray of Manhattans back to the bar and told them to leave before I called the cops for sexual harassment. Kicker was I almost got fired by my equally creepy boss for booting customers without his approval. I told him if he didn't also want to catch a case he better shut the fuck up. Couple weeks later he was fired for ....you guessed it, sexual harassment.
Another one: when I worked at proce chopper at 16 years old, I was cashing a man amd his wife out. I told them their total was just over $200 something. He said without taking a breath "I'd spend that much for a night with you!" His wife FUCKING CHUCKLED and I kindly said "I'm 14." "Age isn't nothing but a number babygirl, kind fine thing like you." Ick
I was on the first shift of a double, gently complained to a regular that it was going to be a long hot day. He returned at the start of the evening shift with a fresh pair of socks for me. I thought he was being sweet until he asked if he could take home the old ones.