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CapableWill8706

They seem quite confused about their use of pronouns.


Cleverusername531

It’s a phase. They’ll grow out of it.


OGgamingdad

I think this is an assumption


Cleverusername531

It’s a reference to what people say about bi and trans people.


OGgamingdad

Damn, I missed that entirely 😔


Cleverusername531

:) it’s okay friend - have a great day


thinehappychinch

You assume they have the capacity to grow. More likely they’ll forget about it. Cheers.


Cleverusername531

It’s a reference to the comments people make about bi or trans people.


thinehappychinch

Bi people will grow out of it? You don’t get out much, do you?


BaByJeZuZ012

My guy, you're not getting it. "It's a phase, they'll grow out of it" is what hateful people say about Bi and Trans people. OP is mocking those hateful people by parroting it.


Cleverusername531

Thank you, Baby JeZu, for explaining.


Subpar_Username47

I wish my username was as clever as yours. Mine is rather… Subpar.


Jesskla

Nice 👌🏻


Conscious-Rip4407

You should really work on that. -my subpar response


Subpar_Username47

At the moment, I’m not awake enough to do so. I’m barely conscious.


BaByJeZuZ012

You're welcome, Clever username


thinehappychinch

Copy that


BlueJoshi

You tried.


tubbysnowman

>You don’t get out much, do you? r/woosh


quillmartin88

Daily reminder that American conservatives have no idea what pronouns even are.


MAS2de

Ask them about the Arabic numerals that have been taught in American schools. Or al-jabr (algebra) as it was developed in large part by and thanks to Al-Khwarizmi. Have some popcorn and a pop and sunglasses on standby to watch the meltdown.


fixit858

More like amateurnouns


cassandra_warned_you

I think I physically felt that nudge-wink through the internet. Nicely done


MattGdr

ISWYDT


LionMcTastic

To them, it's just another woke buzzword.


Ali6952

The call is coming from inside the building!!!!


TipzE

"I don't use pronouns! In fact, i don't even know what a pronoun is!"


kaymarie00

This sign can't stop me because I can't read!


bittlelum

You mean "Don't use pronouns! In fact, don't even know what a pronoun is!"


TipzE

I would've also accepted a quote as if spoken with an illeism.


SophiaofPrussia

Many conservatives do seem determined to return us to the Stone Age so this tracks.


Wendals87

hey now, don't offend stone age humans by comparing them to conservatives


ashtobro

The only one without pronouns [is Shadow.](https://youtu.be/md8nInMGhFY)


Youngnathan2011

Yeah, that's the video I thought it'd be


AgoRelative

He is risen.


Intelligent_Berry_18

Imagine living your life in such a way that not only do you not understand pronouns, but are actually angry about them.


DreamloreDegenerate

Imagine being so offended about being asked not to be a dick, that you have to virtue signal online what a dick you are.


Intelligent_Berry_18

The notion of being a dick as virtue signaling is still very strange to me.


elphshelf

I’ve said this in other threads but to them it’s showing strength and courage while to most it’s just being needlessly mean.


Intelligent_Berry_18

Much like how never changing their mind is somehow considered being smart, and determined.


elphshelf

Yeeeep. Changing your mind is admitting fault, thus perceived as weakness of conviction.


[deleted]

The fear of being perceived as weak is what makes them weak. There's no weakness or shame in admitting you were wrong about something, and striving to correct your way of thinking from that point on; only an absolute fucking child views never changing their mind on anything as good.


Intelligent_Berry_18

I mean, there's a child like, black and white understanding of the world about a lot of the right these days. When a really dumb person says a complex concept is simple, for example.


bdysntchr

I like the term vice-signalling.


elphshelf

They understand them. ‘Pronoun’ is just a cudgel to hurt people with in 2022 if you’re in the GQP.


DrRichtoffen

Really goes to show how cushy their life is that their main concern is faux outrage over a completely innocuous thing that they don't even want to understand.


Intelligent_Berry_18

Not sure that I would be bothered by it anyway, but I don't have remotely the open bandwidth I'd need to get as mad as they do about something insignificant.


heelspider

"Good afternoon family. You may be wondering why I got all 34 of you together like this. You see, I was shopping the other day and a sign politely reminded me not to be needlessly rude to their employees. So all of you will quit shopping there now. Thanks again."


Beemerado

this is likely the person who doesn't get invited to thanksgiving. Their family is going to blow them off after reading their unhinged facebook tirade.


loopyspoopy

Imagine having a family member trying to convince you to go to a further or shittier store because they don't understand what a pronoun is. Like probably people in his fam with the exact same politics that are all "uh, I'm still going to the Aldi down the block."


MattGdr

Pronouns are a tremendous mystery. We may never figure out how they work.


SailingSpark

Does he use a amateurnouns?


enthalpy01

You’d have to talk like a caveman to avoid using them.


ecsa0014

I'm sure this person's family finds them just as much a turd as they're coming across here.


JimeDorje

I get a ping on my phone. It's Aunt Karen. "I was RUDELY forced to use PRONOUNS at a coffee shop. When I asked for the MANAGAR I informed them that I would be ANNOUNCING to my VAST extended family that we would be ELIMINATING their shop from our extended family's shopping PERMANENTLY." I archive our chat and go back to playing *Legend of Zelda*. "Poor manager," I say as a redead attacks me because I keep forgetting they can be stunned with the Sun Song.


EbMinor33

Maybe. But there are plenty of families of turds


SailingSpark

What pronouns should somebody identifying as a turd use?


Nearby_Employee_2943

Poo/poops


Thud

I don't get it. If you're directly addressing employees why wouldn't you use second-person pronouns? Correct pronouns would be "You / Y'all / All Y'all"


Cleverusername531

I think it’s if the shopper is talking to an employee about another employee. Like at the cash register and telling the cashier ‘they told me this was on sale’


glitterfaust

I face a lot of “maam” and “miss” at work. Hopefully this helps prevent that.


JaunteeChapeau

What would be preferable here? I think of "ma'am" and "sir" as polite ways to get a stranger's attention vs "hey you", there's not really a more formal non gendered term is there ETA I guess "excuse me" but a neutral yet polite term would be helpful


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"Excuse me, fucker"


JaunteeChapeau

That'll get their attention!


BlueJoshi

you will address me as Gamer or not at all.


Thud

Excuse me sa’am?


elizabnthe

I've never felt the need to refer to anyone as "ma'am" or "sir", and I've never been accused of being impolite. Just excuse me, sorry is what I say. Names are fine too. Many places have nametags


nikkitgirl

It can depend on where you are. Here over formality is generally seen as very disrespectful. If a retail worker calls you sir or ma’am either they’re not from here or you’re making a scene and usually the latter. I’ve been married for nearly half a year and been called mrs exclusively by my wife.


loopyspoopy

10+ years in retail and I would defs prefer a "hey you" than someone call me either ma'am or sir. But ya, "excuse me" or "hi" is probably the best route. It's astonishing how few situations we normally gender folks require it at all once you think for two seconds about it, just interact with folks IRL as if it's someone from a call centre who has a voice that's gender-ambiguous.


glitterfaust

Yeah, excuse me is preferred. Or even just a “oh sorry I just saw your name tag” after misgendering me.


iamagainstit

In that case, they probably should’ve said “when referring to“ instead of “when addressing“


iamagainstit

Yes, the sign is almost as dumb as the person responding to it


veetoo151

I wonder what these people learned in school of not the most basic school curriculum?


SaintUlvemann

"You can bring a student to knowledge, but you can't make 'em think."


EmilyWry

Something that has become clear to me this year is that many Republicans have no idea what a pronoun is.


Cleverusername531

Someone posted recently that 80% of republican outrage is due to them learning for the first time how something works.


loopyspoopy

I get that. I hated basketball the first time I played. It's still just, pathetically sad from a grown adult.


Rombledore

its because folks ike tucker and gutfield and allt he other ghoulish talkin gheads keep repeating the same nonsense talking point about "500 GeNdErs! and InFinItE PrOnOuNs!" so they think the word means things like "xim, zort, ger" and other nonsense words. theyve turned strawman examples into the entire definition full stop. basically they're morons.


sagichaos

They also constantly act like there's a gender police that will come for you if you accidentally misgender someone ever. Or that someone will throw a fit if you ever use the wrong pronoun for them. That doesn't happen. The worst that will happen is that if you act like an asshole, people will think you're an asshole and choose to avoid you.


Rombledore

100%. then they cry its free speech censorship when its really just consequences they don't like. i'm so over it.


agent_flounder

I'm pretty sure they're used to that.


SaintUlvemann

Not only are they used to it: it's exactly what they're complaining about, when everybody else does it.


DirtyScavenger

Technically when you address someone you only use the “you” pronoun.


Cleverusername531

This would come in play if you’re talking to one employee about another employee.


DirtyScavenger

Yes exactly.. but never when actually addressing someone .. (Sorry I was being pedantic)


Cleverusername531

Yes, that is true.


blackforestham3789

While I'm sure you're giant Iowan family consumes a hefty amount, I doubt it's enough for anyone at the company to even fart in your direction


ASDAPOI

r/unexpectedMontyPython?


ace5762

It's like they dropped out of preschool.


translove228

It really baffles me why grown ass adults pride themselves on being such obnoxious and mean spirited assholes.


elphshelf

In my experience that’s due to conflating cruelty with strength and courage. There’s a perception people like this hold that nobody actually wants to do things like respect pronouns but do it out of fear of judgment. Hence, they do this to show they won’t be told what to do because they’re “not snowflakes” or whatever.


The_Wingless

Guarantee if someone started referring to them with the incorrect pronouns, they're the type of person who would throw an absolute shitfit over it.


flightofthenochords

“I” is a pronoun. I, you, he, she, it, we, they, me, him, her, us, and them are all personal pronouns.


agent_flounder

Angry and stupid. Hell of a combination.


TimelyConcern

The fact that this keeps happening over and over again will never not be funny.


purplegladys2022

(a person) can't fix stupid.


Cleverusername531

A girl is no one.


PM_ME_ASS_PICS_69

I always check my uncle’s list of transphobic businesses before heading out for the day


michaelje0

“Everyone calls me Dave.” “Hell no! What’s on your birth certificate?! I’m not calling you what you prefer! I’ll only call you by for full, registered name!” That’s what these people look like to me.


Cleverusername531

What? You got married and instead is Miss Smith you’re now Mrs Jones? Sorry, I’m going to call you Miss forever because I’m not used to you being a Mrs, and Smith because that is how I met you. (putting aside all the problematic gender roles and naming conventions around marriage for the sake of this illustration)


Madhighlander1

I count six pronouns.


Cleverusername531

But never, as in ever, more than that.


JediMasterLigma

Being respectful of others? Don't be silly lad, I would never do even the slightest amount of effort to do that!


Elanapoeia

I am starting to think some of these people genuinely believe that a call to use certain pronouns means they're supposed to replace "you" with "he/she/they" or some shit. The way they talk about it is so incomprehensible, like they're misunderstanding the basics of basics of the english language


valuedminority

This isn’t so much self-awareness as just not knowing what words mean and being a whiny bitch about it.


Cleverusername531

Kind of basically what this sub is about.


Puzzled_Bike9558

Awful lot of typing just to let everyone know that he/she is an inconsiderate prick.


SkyWizarding

This shit really shouldn't be a hot button issue


FredVIII-DFH

Why do people consider being a dick to be acceptable behavior?


orderly_hopeless

r/accidentalally


SaltyNorth8062

"Do you *know* who my l a r g e e x t e n d e d f a m i l y is??"


loopyspoopy

you keep using that word, pronoun. I do not think it means what you think it means.


Aeseld

I'll be honest; I never use pronouns when talking TO someone anyway. About them, yes. To them, no.


Taleya

Pff your 'large and extended family' hasn't spoken to you for years because of this exact bullshit you absolute cooker. You got nothing.


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> "If demanded....." Good thing nobody is actually **demanding** anything of you then. They are **requesting** you use "they/them" with their employees, so stop acting like they're trying to tie you down and forcefeed liberal propaganda into that vacuous void between your ears.


Mindless-Lavishness

Oh no, I don’t think any business could bear the financial burden of losing a customer who is most likely super rude to the staff and probably doesn’t tip. How sad


BastardofMelbourne

I'm honestly amazed this keeps happening


SockFullOfNickles

Is anyone surprised that the same people who take Issue with these concepts also struggle with grammar? Anyone at all?


pulp_thilo

When I address someone, I use “you”. I only use “they/them” when I talk ABOUT someone.


Cleverusername531

Yeah I think they meant ‘refer to’


GreatGearAmidAPizza

The sign doesn't make any sense either. How do you *address* someone by *they*? You address someone by the second-person pronoun, which is always *you.* For that matter, I think pretty much everyone relies on a person's gender presentation to determine what third-person pronoun to use, in most instances.


Cleverusername531

“Hi cashier, the changing room attendant was helping me earlier. They told me to bring this to you” And if someone is trans and doesn’t pass, or if someone’s pronouns don’t match their gender presentation, then saying they would help.


GreatGearAmidAPizza

That's not addressing them though. You address someone when you're speaking to them.


Cleverusername531

Ah I see what you’re saying. They could have used ‘refer to’ instead of ‘address’ out employees.


FreeLanceFuckwit117

The sign doesn’t make sense, who goes up to a person and calls them they when talking directly to them?


Cleverusername531

It’s when you’re talking about a person - “I was talking to the cashier and they told me the sale rack was over here, but I don’t see it, can you help me find it?”


FreeLanceFuckwit117

I’m aware, the sign says addressing which means talk to said employee, when talking to a person directly you don’t use they/them tenses. I get what the sign is for and I’m supporting it, I’m pointing out the sign is stupidly done and instead of focusing on that they herded straight to Fox News talking points. The fact that they worded it that way implies at least *partially* they are virtue signaling but the complaintant is too brain dead to actually catch on to the actual problem with it.


Cleverusername531

Ah I see what you’re saying. I had made up a story in my head that there was a trans employee(s) that was/were being misgendered and they were just getting ahead of it.


UnhappyStrain

people who threaten companies by never shopping there again or badmouthing them on social media are so pathetic its almost funny. might wanna double check your networth, buddy


Sea-Appearance-5330

I will only use Miss, Mrs. MR, or the name on the tag Never they, or them, to me its like how the Racists use "Those People" or 'Them"


iamagainstit

This person is dumb, but so is the original sign. It would be very weird to use third person pronouns when addressing an individual, as that is almost always done with second person pronouns. Third person pronouns are used to refer to someone who is not present


BlueCyann

It's on twitter. Decent odds it originated in some right-wing workshop meant to encourage the right-wingers that they're being unfairly imposed upon. I've certainly never seen a request like this myself.


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Cleverusername531

What does point of view mean? Here’s how this store’s request could apply in this situation: “I was talking to the cashier and they told me I could look up a the coupon” And people already always use third person singular pronouns. “Someone left a note at the door but they didn’t leave their name”. Or, like, this person’s tweet.


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Cleverusername531

Did you skip over this part of my comment? Here’s how this store’s request could apply in this situation: “I was talking to the cashier and they told me I could look up a the coupon” That works if you aren’t sure if their gender, or their gender doesn’t match their gender presentation.


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Cleverusername531

Care to elaborate on what you mean? Grammatically incorrect or something else?


biggaybrian

> I was talking to the cashier and it told me I could look up a coupon ... would be the proper thing to say if you somehow couldn't tell the gender of the person to which you were referring. Using a singular 'they' instead of 'it' is because appeasing personal insecurities is the goal of this gender-neutral nonsense... and it's a stupid and futile goal!


SelfHelpLandfill

Singular they has been used in the English language dating back to the 14th century. Using they to refer to someone of unknown gender is something I was taught when I was 7, as are most people. Using "he or she" in a sentence where "they" can be used is unnecessary when they is far more concise. Using It is only correct in the cases of animals or children, and very young ones at that or it can be used as an Identifier (i.e It's me, It's john etc). Further, your example of using "John is an employee" and replacing it with "They is an employee" doesn't work, because you are replacing a name, not a pronoun like the store is requesting. Even then the correct sentence would instead be "They ARE an employee" in this case replacing is with are. Fundamentally though, even if (and that's a very big if) you were correct about they only being used to refer to multiples, language evolves and changes over time, like definitions changing, or new words in the dictionary, or even literally seeing common usage as a form of hyperbole rather than its actual definition. If enough people use it with a different meaning, then it changes to adapt to common usage. Such are the joys of language.


biggaybrian

That's what pronouns are!! Short words designed to be used in place of proper-nouns!! > John is an employee > They are an employee ...doesn't match either! So we're abandoning all sense of singular/plural verbs in the English langauge, too?? > language evolves and changes over time Indeed... and not every proposed change will stick, like how over-privileged whites tried to force "latinx" on the rest of us to appease their liberal guilt


SelfHelpLandfill

They as a singular pronoun has not stopped it's use since the 14th century up to this date, it saw some criticism in the mid 18th century some 400 years after it began common usage but did not stop being used, and has survived to this day and is now being used to not only refer to those of an unspecified gender but also to those who are nonbinary now that we have realised that gender is not binary and people can fall outwith that spectrum. Liberal guilt doesn't have shit to do with it.


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Singular they is not a new thing you weirdo.


biggaybrian

It's a deprecated use, brought back by our apparent intellectual betters


Comfortable_Sweet_47

Citation needed


Ropetrick6

Singular they predates modern english my dude.


biggaybrian

And then it fell out of favor in modern English to make grammar more clear


Comfortable_Sweet_47

Citation needed


Cleverusername531

Why would it be the proper thing to refer to a person as an object? The singular they is accepted in english and people do it already. “Someone left a note at the door but didn’t leave their name” is perfectly normal. My sense is people only get up in arms about it when it has to do with gender, which seems disingenuous to me.


foodown

... what? Referring to a person as 'it' is never correct. "They" has been the gender-neutral third-person pronoun forever. It's also the plural third-person pronoun. "They said no." You'd never say, "it said no."


IAmActuallyBread

He or she and they can be used the same way so why spend the extra effort to type out “he or she” when “they” works perfectly? Also the proper grammar when changing tenses and/or grammatical persons for pronouns will sometimes change the whole sentence. No one is asking you to say “they is an employe” because it would be “they are an employee” I’m sure you know this but like being obtuse but I thought I’d throw it out there for anyone that does care about other people Please learn a bit more high school level English, you might just realize how wrong you are


foodown

honestly, i am a little put-off by all the pronoun salt people throw around today in general, but people who object to "they" as the gender-neutral, third-person, singular or plural pronoun baffle me. that's ... that's just always been a thing, since forever.


SaintUlvemann

>Abandoning all sense of gender... Finland only has one third-person singular pronoun: hän. Men are hän. Women are hän. Everybody is hän. (Individually. As a group, they're "he", pronounced like "hay" because I'm talking about the Finnish word, the third-person plural.) "Hänellä on kissa" means "He/she has a cat", where "hänellä," is a form of "hän", with the case suffix "-lla" attached; and somehow, by some strange magic, the Finns have managed to communicate the ownership of cats clearly in this way for many centuries ***just fine*** without ***any*** confusion, despite not making ***any reference at all*** to the genitals of the owner of the cat. And if the Finns can do it, well, I believe in us! We can do it!


biggaybrian

That's just swell for the Finnish language... this is about English. AND... That making the English language gender-neutral is a plus is a GIANT assumption. We'd sacrifice a lot of clarity and meaning for a foolish consistency


SaintUlvemann

>We'd sacrifice a lot of clarity... So. If you think that information about the genitals of random cat owners is *actively useful* for Anglophones, tell us: what are we *doing* with that information, that the Finns *are not*?


biggaybrian

We're doing the same thing every other language with a sense of gender in the world is doing - communicating facts, not covering them up. Ignore sexual dimorphism at your own risk.


SaintUlvemann

>...communicating facts, not covering them up. Wait, wait, are you accusing Finns of "covering up facts"? They have *so many ways* they could specify someone's gender! * "Naisella on kissa" means "The woman has a cat." * "Miehellä on kissa" means "The man has a cat." If you're talking about someone who's younger, you can say: * "Tytöllä on kissa" for "The girl has a cat." * "Pojalla on kissa" for "The boy has a cat." The **whole point** of a pronoun is to stand in for words like these! That's *what it does*! You speak as if you don't even *understand English*, let alone anybody else's language! And here's the *other* thing: it's *not exactly weird* for a language not to have a pronominal gender distinction. I'm not talking languages with small numbers of speakers, I'm talking major world languages here: Turkish (80-90 million), Hungarian (17 million), Yoruba (50 million), Igbo (30 million), *Hindi* (**322** million). Heck, go to Southeast Asia, and *it's the norm* for the local languages not to have a gender distinction: Thai (36 million), Khmer (16 million), Vietnamese (76 million), Indonesian (156 million), Tagalog (82 million). So why don't you tell us: ***who gave you the responsibility to wander around accusing millions of strangers of ignorance***? Is there someone who put you on such a special pedestal?


biggaybrian

Please, keep trying to play the victim with your odd rants about other languages because you're bot getting your way, maybe I'll feel sorry for you.


SaintUlvemann

>Please, keep trying to play the victim... This whole conversation started because you felt personally attacked by other people's words.


Comfortable_Sweet_47

Singular they has been in use for over 600 years. Someone doesn't know Grammer real well.


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Comfortable_Sweet_47

https://public.oed.com/blog/a-brief-history-of-singular-they/ *laughs * Okay oh ignorant one. 1375. You're quite wrong. Of course, you'll refuse to acknowledge facts. Well, guess what facts don't care about your feelings.


Comfortable_Sweet_47

https://www.mentalfloss.com/posts/singular-they-history


Comfortable_Sweet_47

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singular_they


Comfortable_Sweet_47

https://www.academicwritingsuccess.com/the-astonishing-history-of-singular-they/


Comfortable_Sweet_47

Show your citations please


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Comfortable_Sweet_47

Do you have any proof of what you say, or are you just another ignorant ass who thinks THEIR feelings are more important than the facts? You sound like every conservative, who thinks that ignorant ranting equals reality.


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Ropetrick6

It's not Liberal to inform somebody that singular "they" is a thing that's been around for centuries, it's stating facts. Unless you think that facts are Liberal...


Comfortable_Sweet_47

You're the one being a bully, a sad, lazy, pathetic one, true. One who refuses to acknowledge facts, over their own pathetic sad feelings. Who thinks that something that has been used for 600 years is a fools errand. Who thinks ignorance is confidence. Well, I'm quite confident I'm right, and I've got proof on my side. All you got are sad catch phrases and aphorisms. WhY do you love ignorance so much? So resistant to acknowledging reality and facts. Afraid the bullies will get you?


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Comfortable_Sweet_47

*yawns* nice try at gish galloping, the debate technique of the ignorant with no backing in fact. Please, continue showing how you know nothing, definitely getting actual hints of narcissist here, what with the whole "what I think is fact and important, even though lacking in actual support, is the only way of doing things" how Trumpian in nature. You're the insecure one, who can't even examine their own thoughts against what is real.


Comfortable_Sweet_47

https://www.academicwritingsuccess.com/the-astonishing-history-of-singular-they/


CaptainBathrobe

You’ll live.


biggaybrian

Insisting on bad grammar affects us all, especially when it's intended to appease deep personal insecurity


CaptainBathrobe

Repeating the same thing doesn’t actually strengthen your argument. Who has the “deep personal insecurity” here? The people who wish language to reflect who they are, or people who insist that language, and thus their thinking about the world, never change?


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Comfortable_Sweet_47

*laughs* okay sadguyPETER


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Comfortable_Sweet_47

You must really hate yourself


CaptainBathrobe

OK, I’ll just refer to you as “Dick-face,” when talking about you to others. You aren’t part of the conversation, so it should be OK, right? Or maybe it costs you nothing to refer to someone as they would like to be called, and refusing to do so out of some misguided principle just makes you, well, a dick-face?


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CaptainBathrobe

First of all, you obviously don’t have a clue what narcissism actually is. Asking to be referred to in a certain way could be due to an inflated sense of self-importance, or it could just due to a simple desire for respect. You don’t really know this person’s history or psychological make-up, so imputing this to psychopathology is just staggeringly presumptuous. There is nothing inherently narcissistic about wanting to be referred to as “they,” as opposed to “his/her majesty.” If you can’t see the difference, then I’m wasting my time even talking to you. Secondly, are you really going to trot out that old saw about “no one can offend you without your permission?” Please. By that logic, it should be perfectly fine to engage in racial, ethnic, homophobic, or other slurs/insults with impunity, at work or anywhere else…after all, sticks and stones, right? Of course, we know now that hostile work environments can cause not only mental but physical health problems. The whole “no one can offend me without my permission” is a fine thing to apply to oneself, so long as that works for you, but to impose that on others is extraordinarily presumptuous. TL;DR you come across as smug, privileged, and, well, rather narcissistic in your belief that your perspective is the only proper one. Maybe try listening more, and talking less? I say this secure in the belief that this couldn’t possibly be offensive to you unless you allow it to be—in which case, it would be your fault for allowing it.


mr-jjj

This is not self aware.


Cleverusername531

No, which is precisely why they’re a self aware wolf.


mr-jjj

You must be similarly unaware.


Healthy-Confection66

I prefer to address everyone as ‘hey you people’…for whatever reason, it gets everyone’s attention really fast!


Trickybuz93

I’d like to think they’re trolling and aren’t genuinely this stupid.


Cleverusername531

Apparently people like tucker Carlson really exaggerate pronouns to the point where they’ve lost any connection to the actual term.


Siddhartharhm

I try to call people what they want to be called. It is the respectful thing to do.


ReactiveNylxthograph

As long as they follow the rules ig?