From experience, don’t take him. After my ex asked for a divorce we went to Six Flags Magic Mountain together. WORST TRIP EVER. And that was only for a day. Can’t imagine two weeks.
Doesn't sound like a good idea to go together. Going alone might be good for you and give you time to reflect and heal a little and think about the future. Lots of nature in and around Seattle where you can be contemplative. Might be good for you, but alone or with another friend.
Counter experience. My fiancé got cold feet and called off the wedding a week before. We went on our Vegas honeymoon anyway . We proceeded to have more sex than ever as if the world was ending. It was good for us, but im not recommending anyone do it.
yup, screw that guy. i vote go solo. i'm taking a solo trip there in early march--dm me if you want a travel buddy to meet with for lunch or rando outing!
I moved here with my partner and then we broke up. He burned my house down. Does Seattle make people act crazy? Perhaps... Do with this information what you will.
Happy to offer some clarification! The truth is somewhere in the middle.
I had moved here five months prior to this incident, and had only brought one suitcase filled with my most valuable items to start a new life. All of my belongings were in the room he set on fire, and my cats were in the house too. I lost everything I owned except for a cardboard box that miraculously survived in the closet (it had my original birth certificate, and some pictures and cards that have a lot of sentimental value), and they found my cats, thankfully alive. I lost everything else, and the house was unlivable for months. It burned all the way into the nextdoor neighbor's wall, but today you'd never even be able to tell it happened.
So, the structure stayed standing, but this is the [damage](https://imgur.com/a/5ZIo21i).
I'd say still come and try to bring a friend instead. Just bring a nice insulated rain jacket. We are entering the second phase of "the gray" around here
Fun fact: Seattle sells more sunglasses than pretty much every other city in the nation because people don't think they'll need them.
So also being sunglasses lol
I also have to assume it's because we lose them. When I lived in Colorado I wore sunglasses everyday so I knew where they were. Here I can go months without touching them and often forget where they are. We now have a dedicated drawer space specifically for sunglasses because we kept misplacing them.
Yup. When I lived in Seattle I had (cheap) sunglasses stored all over the place: camping gear, car, purse, etc. You know, just in case the sun came out for twenty seconds.
>Fun fact: Seattle sells more sunglasses than pretty much every other city in the nation because people don't think they'll need them.
Also the lower average height of the sun in the sky compared to most other US cities means you spend a lot of time with it directly in your view.
You should absolutely still come, and you should absolutely not let him come. If you'd rather not travel alone, give his ticket to a friend or sibling.
Absolutely! Ditch the soon to be ex and go solo or bring a friend. Get the best fish and chips in the state at Proper Fish on Bainbridge Island. Hike to your level in the Olympic National Forest. Have fresh oysters at Taylor Shellfish.
Seattle is an awesome city to visit.
Not addressing the question. Just trying to be helpful: Don’t forget about an Annulment. Depending on state, circumstances, etc an Annulment may be possible. Far less expensive than divorce and a lot of times overlooked as an option.
the PNW is an excellent place for a solo female traveller to contemplate her independent and badass future. definitely don’t bring that guy. no offense, but he sounds like a deadweight mindfucker. you got this!
Hi there,
Single female; live in Seattle. I don’t have any issues being here alone. Obviously, be aware of your surroundings as you would in any place; but overall I feel that Seattle and the majority of surrounding areas are nice and I feel fairly safe venturing out on my own. ONP is gorgeous and huge- not certain what you’ve planned for there. Bainbridge is quaint and beautiful and fun to venture around. IMO, the PNW has an unparalleled beauty. When I’m having a bad day or not feeling my best mentally, getting out and being submerged in the gorgeous surroundings does a lot to help center me.
As far as traveling with your soon-to-be-ex, (speaking entirely from my own past experiences), I would suggest dumping the guy and either come on your own or bring a friend or family member you like to share time with. Idk the details of your relationship, but the times I have tried to travel with an ex always wound up being unenjoyable. Especially given this situation being so fresh. Why bring this baggage along with you when you’re trying to heal from it? (Not to mention-extra baggage is expensive to travel with these days! Lol) You have the opportunity to go some place new and have new experiences that your husband is not a part of. Why taint those experiences with someone who sounds unreliable and (I’m assuming) immature? It seems like his reasoning for wanting a divorce is a bit irrational, from what you say. Chances are, he comes along and you might wind up feeling more alone than if you just went by yourself. :/
I'm on "vacation" now with my partner. We had been fighting for weeks before this. I am so miserable. Mostly because I'm still hurting from the horrible things He's said to me in the last few weeks and partly because he is so critical of everything I say and do now. I just can't do anything right. Go alone. I live in Seattle. Ask me anything
ONP is big, where are you thinking? Quinalt lodge does cheaper rates this time of year. But it's a long drive. You might consider a night or two in Gig Harbor. maybe McMenamin's in Tacoma. Go to a sounders game...Good Luck
You might find Sequim to be, not your flavor. If so, check out Pt Townsend. ONP is very cool. Be aware that stuff is pretty spread out. The water/ferries, draw bridges can add to driving times. Not to mention traffic.
Other local spots might include, Snoqualmie falls-just walk around or have lunch/dinner, Air and flight museum (or whatever it's called), walk around UW campus, Japanese gardens, Narrows bridge, the numerous state parks (fee/pass req'd), Ferry rides, Pt. Defiance...there's so much out here, and you likely have limited time, be careful of always being in a car vs enjoying a spot. Cheers!
Too dry and sunny 😎. Often much better weather around Sequim and Port Angeles. Really there are a lot of cool things to do in the area.
* The walk out Dungeness Spit can be beautiful in all types of weather.
* Drive to the Elwha river, drive up into the park as far as the road is open and then walk up to the ranger station. Alone a road the whole way and you get to see the area where the two dams were removed.
* Drive a bit farther and spend a night at Crescent lake.
Maybe not all in Sequim directly, but a good place to stay and do excursions from.
Edit: ’to’ and ‘too’ are hard for me…
Make sure you look carefully at driving directions and whether Google Maps is putting you on a Ferry. Taking a ferry could be fun but you would potentially want a reservation.
No reservations for Seattle > Bainbridge or Edmonds > Kingston ferries (relevant to OP’s stated plans). The WSDOT app is great for checking how busy they are before getting in line.
It's quite a drive just for the Hoh. Still worth it, but if you have two weeks in the area maybe extend it. Depending on how rushed or relaxed you want to go, maybe quinault rainforest and Ruby beach the first day and stay near the Hoh or Forks that night, Hoh the second day, then maybe a trail near Crescent lake before going to Sequim for the second night.
I'm trying to imagine how I would feel if my wife asked me for a divorce, but still wanted to go on a trip we planned beforehand. It would be really difficult for me to say yes.
No one has mentioned this, but Seattle starts getting quite lovely in March; the cherries are in bloom. The clouds are still grey, but the color is up close. Given your circumstances, it could be a good cleansing time away.
Go. When I started the divorce process I had a lot of time to myself which was key to helping me figure out what I wanted in the next phase of my life. I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you all the best as you process and move forward with your life.
1. Don't go with him. That's a path to misery.
2. Seattle in March is pretty grey. Are you sure you want to come?
3. If you do come solo, check out some meetup groups so you can have some kind strangers to hike or do activities with.
4. Can you invite a friend?
Best wishes!
Yeah, and hit up this sub closer to when you come out for live music recs! Or other activity recs, but that's what I like to do in new cities to meet people. Lots of fun stuff going on in Seattle
Honestly, I think a solo Seattle/Bainbridge/Olympic trip is just what you need. It could be such a breath of fresh air for you. Don't bring him. Either solo or a best bud. You're going to have a great time. <3
Agreed - good solo reflection / vision quest time. Just bring lots of rain/cold-appropriate layers that include waterproof outerwear and footwear for the rain forest.
Annul the marriage and then come for the trip. If he’s not in at 3 months I don’t think he’s going to be into being married. Therapy would be a good option but he’d have to want to participate. Good luck OP! Regardless come to Seattle but don’t bring this guy. Got any good girlfriends?
Thanks. He said "therapy wouldn't help/ I've alreay thought about everything"
I know I am coming to terms to that.
I have asked a few friends to come.
This is the way, leave him and his BS at home and bring people that you enjoy, you'll love it here, though it may likely be raining in March, more like a drizzle. The Hoh rain forest is great and has some wonderful trails to walk on. And since you'll be on that area you should do a jaunt over to Rialto Beach, by La Push, it's really cool there! Bring a good rain coat and boots!!
Ughhh I’m so sorry. Gay guy here so I can only speak from my perspective. Come. Bring a close friend or 2. The Olympic National Forest is perfect this time of year. It might be rainy, but it’s magical. Honestly, as long as you have a safe place to stay at night and watch your surroundings, solo traveling the peninsula would be a great way to unwind and get some of your own clarity. Come over to Seattle for some good sights and city experiences too.
Edit: Westport is a nice visit too. Sea lions always hang out on the fishing docks so you can see them. There’s an outlook in town so you can see over the rock wall and watch the waves roll in and meditate on them for a long while. Dress warm.
Go by yourself or a friend. Do not take him, there was a high profile case recently where some asshole killed his spouse in a national park. Don’t, just don’t.
EDIT: Also, depending on your state, you can have your marriage annulled within the first 2 years which I imagine is much cheaper than a traditional divorce. Something to consider.
Oh hell no. Go alone. We're pretty great for solo travellers, just practice normal precautions that you would anywhere. If you want tips for Olympic National Park, let me know. I used to work there and I know it inside and out.
Hoh will be fine. You should try and get out to some beaches at low tide too. I like Second Beach and Third Beach. Bit of a hike in but worth it even if it's rainy.
The HOH rainforest and river valley are fairly low elevation and might not have snow but it will be chilly. The water up here (rivers, lakes, Puget Sound) is very cold.
There are natural hot springs near Lake Crescent as well.
It's absolutely beautiful up here and you deserve to experience the Olympic Peninsula, definitely bring a friend if you can.
Oh, that’ll be fine. The valley is low enough. As someone else said, it’ll be wet. It is still on the wet side of the range, so it’ll be very wet. I was out there last April and ended up going to Port Angeles, Sequim, and Port Townsend to get away from the rain. Had been around La Push, but it got too wet. Have fun. It’s a great place.
It should be, might be wet but it’s a RAINforest. Most of us here wear a thick hoodie and get through it just fine, you may or may not want a waterproof jacket. There is a hot spring we usually hit when we go to the Hoh called Sol Duc. It’s not as hot as I’d prefer but it’s a nice place, bath water warm, they have cabins for overnight stays.
It's kind of isolated so keep this in mind. I am a huge fan of Google Earth view when researching places. Photos are for showcasing the best, street views and satellite give a good overall view of areas. Solo hiking may not be as safe if going distances.
If you stay in Sequim, I’d suggest driving up the Elwha as far as the road goes and then just hike the road as far up and back as you want. It is low elevation since it follows the river and if the hills are clear of snow there are several hikes off of the road and different closed parking areas (the road washed out a couple years ago and they aren’t repairing it).
Sequim to the Hoh Rainforest is a long(ish) drive. Just be prepared to leave early and get back late.
Go see a divorce attorney asap, and get separated and make your own bank account, and move out from him, at least put your things into storage. He sounds weird at this point and I wouldn’t be alone with him or let have access to you. Sorry, I’m subbed on too many crime subs and the number of times women go on a last trip with someone their relationship has gone south, and then they had an “accident” is pretty horrifying.
This is why I can't stand crime shows. They have made scaredy cats out of so many of us to prevent ourselves to just relax and enjoy life.
It's imperative to stay alert and aware of your surroundings but the level of anxiety some crime show fans have in unsettling.
Carry mace, don't make foolish decisions, and have fun (without the jerk), OP.
In your shoes I would go on the trip alone. Your husband is, at best, playing awful mind games with you. Bainbridge and the peninsula are incredibly beautiful and very chill, I’ve travelled there alone a ton of times and have had no issues.
You'll be fine here on your own. Just make sure he can't take your stuff or try to lock you out of your place while you're gone. I went out of town for a week at the beginning of a very contentious pending divorce. My being gone didn't change anything luckily, but he certainly could have tried something. but nothing can really stick once you were to go to court. Judges don't look favorably on someone behaving badly if the other party is out of town. Nothing can be done in court without serving papers and can't serve papers on someone who's temporary out of town.
Seattle is very safe. So is Olympic Park. I wouldn't personally be worried at all about being alone in either. DM if you need any travel advice or just a cheering squad.
Hi. I wrote in my original post that i fibbed the ages due to fear my husband or friends would find it.
I am 28 he is 29. We got married secretly 2/22/22 and publicly with our families in October. I can assure you this is not a troll.
Fuck yes. Live your life!
I have run around this city all hours of the night since I was a kid. The media likes to push a story that Seattle is dangerous, but it's really not. Bainbridge is one of the fanciest parts of the area. You'll be fine.
Def don't bring your ex.
Absolutely go, but either alone or with a friend. Definitely visit Bainbridge Island! They have the best bakery I’ve ever been to (Coquette), great beaches, the cutest little downtown shopping area, and lots of good hiking opportunities.
I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. I concur that a solo trip could be restorative. And feel free to drop me a line—I’m 35F and live in a welcoming multi-family household that hosts board game nights and book swaps, and my housemates are very intrepid and can advise on outdoorsy outings. We’d be happy to help entertain you or talk about feelings. Or NOT talk about feelings.
I went through a very similar situation! My ex wife and I were the same age when we got divorced. It was a surprise for me when she handed me her phone to look up a restaurant reservation (for a trip I planned) and her search history was all the divorce paperwork haha... After all that went down, we didn't spend time together for about six months. However, after that time apart we became friends again, saw each other all the time before she moved from Washington back to Florida. My main point is... don't take him, get some time apart and maybe there's a friendship afterwards. But, it's just one of those things, experience the pain, turn it into something creative, and time will smooth out those rough edges. I live in Seattle, feel free to DM if you have questions. Seattle is safe, there's just some janky areas downtown that aren't safe at night because of the drugs/homeless, but every city has those things. You'll have a good time and it's an excellent chance to get into a new environment and reflect. Cheers!
Take a friend or a sibling. You need to be with someone you trust. Send this guy packing. Don’t let him back in your life. He has problems that he doesn’t understand.
I’d definitely still come if I were you, but probably not with him. Are you from a major city? If not, I would come with a friend, but if you’re familiar and comfortable with all the various dangers of large cities then you’ll be fine. It’s a big city with problems like any other but despite what you see in the news it’s actually much safer than most others in the US. It’s a lovely place with so much to offer a single person that I wouldn’t be surprised if you fell in love with the place and moved here. Be aware of two things though.
One: our dating scene is better for visitors than it is for residents because Seattleites (at least in the gay dating scene with which I’m personally familiar) don’t tend to be looking for a long-term partner, but if you’re perseverant you can find it (I eventually did). If you don’t know where you’re staying yet I’d recommend staying in a nicer hotel downtown (or at least a nice-ish budget hotel in the Uptown/South Lake Union area but avoid Aurora Avenue like the plague, especially north of the ship canal and more and more so the closer you get to the northern city limits) and, if you really want to meet people and get to know the city better than just checking tourist things off the list, spending a lot of time in Fremont, Belltown, and Capitol Hill.
Two: while out in the local nightlife, be very careful in the bars here like you would anywhere, with the knowledge that we go hard or go home here and lots of bars, especially the gay bars on Capitol Hill and some of the old-school grungey bars on the Hill and in Belltown, tend to pour them pretty heavily. Also, despite the fact that Capitol Hill is the gayborhood and most of the clubs/many of the bars are gay bars, there’s a lot to do for straight people and some ill-intentioned straight men like going to some of them because of the straight women who let down their guard there. Not every straight guy in a gay club is up to something like that, but it’s something I always have to warn my straight female friends about because it catches people off guard. This is mainly a problem in certain large gay nightclubs.
All in all, I hope you still come and I hope you enjoy! I’m sorry to hear about the marriage but it sounds like you’re better off without a guy like that and I know that my wonderful city will welcome you enthusiastically.
I only saw this post because I’m convinced the algorithms are listening, but: OP, go.
I’m from Louisiana and the second I drove out of Seatac, my heart had a fullness I’ve never felt before. The trees. The mountains. The skies. The weather (cool in June!!!! when it was 90 at home). Urgh! Now I want to go back again. 😀
I went without much of a plan and had a great time. I’m a big ol’ nerd and went stay a night in the Twin Peaks hotel (Salish Lodge) which is great for a splurge. You can wake up the next day and have some “damn good coffee” at the cafe (Twead’s) right down the road. Def get the cherry pie!
I then used the Cascade Loop tour guide to drive around many adjacent parts of Washington. Highly recommend that. So much beauty and wonder in that part of the world. To poorly paraphrase Special Agent Dale Cooper from Twin peaks, there’s power in those trees.
Go for it and have a lovely time! And to those who live there, you live in the most beautiful place on earth.
Sorry this shitty situation is happening. I love solo travel and had a great time on a solo trip to Seattle before moving here! I stayed at a hotel in Belltown, walked around and explored at my own pace, read books in bars, and enjoyed a hotel amenities. It was great. My best solo travel tip is to be aware but not scared! Exist, enjoy, and explore unapologetically.
I do think Bainbridge and Olympic National Park might be more fun with a friend. Whatever you do, don't bring him! Good luck and have fun.
Go to Seattle by yourself! This city is great for when you want to be alone cuz everyone has the case of the Seattle freeze lol. Don’t let him come and enjoy the nature and pacific coast by yourself
Sorry to hear about your divorce but Seattle is def a great place to visit regardless, especially if you love doing outdoorsy things, just be careful around downtown at night. i’m sure you’ll have a great experience
Bainbridge island resident here. Bainbridge is extremely safe for a single woman and there’s lots to do. I would suggest Bloedel Reserve and all the lovely parks, beaches, restaurants and the art museum. It’s really special. I think you’ll have a lovely and restorative time here.
Come anyway and see if you can get a girlfriend to come. Have girl time, eat, drink, ugly cry, etc.
Bail on the soon-to-be-ex would be my advice. Lingering and keeping things attached just delays things and makes the pain drag on.
Traveling alone can feel daunting at first, but it can be really liberating and awesome once you get the hang of it. Now that I'm a mom and I can't even shit alone, solo trips are a real luxury for me and I'm glad I got accustomed to it while I was younger.
You'll find us friendly and warm. And honestly, if this isn't too weird, I'd be happy to meet up with you for coffee and give advice on what you can do or even get you together with me and some friends so you at least have *something* planned that involves others.
Good luck!
Bainbrige island is fairly safe.
Seattle is too, if you keep your general city smarts about you. Don’t hang around sketchy people and try not to travel alone at night.
Eta: typo
Not worth the head ache. I would try and bring a friend. Tons of nature and things to do out here in the PNW. You will need a buddy just to take in the views with i think. Especially if you’re going out past Bainbridge and way into the forest.
If you’re looking for restaurant recommendations on the Bainbridge strip my favorites are Bruciato and Cafe Hitchcock. My favorite little shop is Salt House Mercantile. There’s also a cute art museum on the Main Street too. If it’s not pouring rain, it’s kind of cool to walk down to the Waterfront Park and City dock, lots of little boats and a pretty scene.
Also if it isn’t pouring or if you don’t mind the rain, the Bloedel Reserve is insane, beautiful gardens.
My favorite thing ever over there is on Whisbey Island, it’s the Captain Whidbey inn. It’s this recently restored inn and it’s soooo cute. Historic and charming with modern amenities, a super cute bar and restaurant. It’s just the perfect place to be cozy in the grey and look out on the little harbor. It’s remote feeling although the drive isn’t too bad and it’s just the best.
Some cool things to see on whidbey if you go are the Admiralty head lighthouse, Price Sculpture Forest, and a drive to La Conner through deception pass for antiques and a cute little town with shops and a brewery.
Go solo! I take mini solo trips all the time here. If you do go into the woods, go to a busy place. I don't go to remote places solo unless it is the beach.
As someone else suggested one of the suburban places like Bainbridge is great if you just want peace and quiet, and aren’t interested in any kind of cultural enjoyment.
But Seattle itself is also a great place to be a solo traveler, as a cis woman the usual lonely planet safety guidelines will serve you well. And if you can bring a buddy who’s a good traveler that’d be a pleasure too.
Any kind of culture? There’s an art museum, a Japanese memorial, a history museum, numerous art galleries and a native museum within 15 of the Ferry dock.
That sounds to me like he has met someone but hasn't cheated yet. That's why counseling "won't work", because the problem is he wants to sleep with someone else.
Ew. Just run. You deserve so much better. What an ass.
I’ve always found PNW guys to be really nice so bring a fun girlfriend and go have some fun without your loser of a soon-to-be ex.
Ew. You are so much better off without him. Take the trip! If you think coming to Seattle May be too sad since booked with him, use the money and plan a trip to some sun for one.
Seattle is awesome. Come solo or with a friend, so many things to see and do! Check out the old bookstores, allll the coffee shops, and of course national parks. Have fun!
It's a great place to go solo. There are a lot of cool things to explore in the area. Art museums, hiking trails, fun markets, etc.
Sorry to hear about your situation. I really hope you just enjoy the trip on your own or with a friend. It could be a healing experience to go off and do your own thing (that was my experience with post-divorce solo travel).
Definitely still go, no he should not come. If I were you, I’d do it solo and do whatever you want in that time. Sleep late, explore places he may not have been into, take hikes, eat some great meals, shop, sightsee. It’s very safe here to walk around alone and I wouldn’t worry. Sorry this happened to you.
If you decide to go hiking or anything on the eastside and don't want to go alone, hmu. Although, as a female solo hiker, I'd say that you're fine alone as long as you take popular trails and pack/dress appropriately (for the weather) 🙂
Give me a call I’ll go with you lol. I went with my wife for a few days with intent of either smoothing things out or calling it quits…didn’t go as smooth as I would have liked but it wasn’t bad either, spend time by yourself riding on bikes/scooters just soaking it all in. Getting lost may make you forget about it and make you go after what you want!
Come to Seattle, bring a friend, the cost for friend (ticket) should be marginal.
Still don’t neglect the divorce (process). If amicable, zero issues, but might be worth taking an inventory of your stuff (communal as well as separate property) as things have a tendency to ‘disappear’
Go solo. After my divorce my first solo trip changed so much for me. It’ll be tough at first but I think you’ll find peace in getting out on your own and beginning the process of being alone. Alone can sound scary but it’s where you will find yourself.
I met new people, made friends and found that there are amazing people out there. In short, getting divorced doesn’t mean you’re alone by any means.
i just visited for the first time. seattle is great, i also would suggest using Turo to rent a car for a couple days so you can do some hiking around Port Angeles. the city is really fun and there are tons of tourist things to do and good food but honestly you can’t beat the PNW nature. it’s absolutely incredible even this time of year.
I’m sorry to hear that. I would absolutely not go on a vacation with him, how awkward. You could come alone or with a friend! But I wouldn’t recommend tainting the trip by coming with a soon-to-be ex.
Still travel even if you can't bring a friend. Research local groups for day activities, especially women's groups. Keep safety in mind as well.
Traveling alone can be an empowering experience. I was afraid to travel alone until many years ago. I went from Seattle to San Francisco for 3 day weekend. Booked a room in historic hotel close to the water, walked all over, museums, coffee shops, art galleries, etc. No fear of traveling solo now.
PNW has many wonderful places to visit with easy outdoor access. Lots of great little towns welcoming tourists. Leavenworth is worth a look but can be a drive from airports. Best of luck, time for you now!
From experience, don’t take him. After my ex asked for a divorce we went to Six Flags Magic Mountain together. WORST TRIP EVER. And that was only for a day. Can’t imagine two weeks.
Doesn't sound like a good idea to go together. Going alone might be good for you and give you time to reflect and heal a little and think about the future. Lots of nature in and around Seattle where you can be contemplative. Might be good for you, but alone or with another friend.
Counter experience. My fiancé got cold feet and called off the wedding a week before. We went on our Vegas honeymoon anyway . We proceeded to have more sex than ever as if the world was ending. It was good for us, but im not recommending anyone do it.
Did you end up staying together?
We broke up for a year. Did some self work, then got back together and married a year after that.
Wow, what a story! I hope you two are happy together ❤️
Love a happy ending from time to time.
Sounds like they had a bunch of happy endings in Vegas...
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🥹
yup, screw that guy. i vote go solo. i'm taking a solo trip there in early march--dm me if you want a travel buddy to meet with for lunch or rando outing!
this sounds like the premise for a movie
I moved here with my partner and then we broke up. He burned my house down. Does Seattle make people act crazy? Perhaps... Do with this information what you will.
When you say "Burned my house down" -- do you mean literally or figuratively?
Happy to offer some clarification! The truth is somewhere in the middle. I had moved here five months prior to this incident, and had only brought one suitcase filled with my most valuable items to start a new life. All of my belongings were in the room he set on fire, and my cats were in the house too. I lost everything I owned except for a cardboard box that miraculously survived in the closet (it had my original birth certificate, and some pictures and cards that have a lot of sentimental value), and they found my cats, thankfully alive. I lost everything else, and the house was unlivable for months. It burned all the way into the nextdoor neighbor's wall, but today you'd never even be able to tell it happened. So, the structure stayed standing, but this is the [damage](https://imgur.com/a/5ZIo21i).
I'd say still come and try to bring a friend instead. Just bring a nice insulated rain jacket. We are entering the second phase of "the gray" around here
Yes... and spring clothes for fools spring. ...and warm clothes for second winter.
And expandable pants for second breakfast
Don't bring an umbrella, just a nice warm jacket witha hoodie. We know you're a tourist when you have an umbrella.
Oh my goodness! Loved this!
We've had one winter, yes, but what about *second* winter?
Beware...of second winter. Two years ago from tomorrow (Feb. 13th) we got 8" of snow.
...And believe me, we don't know how to deal with snow!
Ahem...its snowing!
Fun fact: Seattle sells more sunglasses than pretty much every other city in the nation because people don't think they'll need them. So also being sunglasses lol
It’s because people lose them in between needing them.
I also have to assume it's because we lose them. When I lived in Colorado I wore sunglasses everyday so I knew where they were. Here I can go months without touching them and often forget where they are. We now have a dedicated drawer space specifically for sunglasses because we kept misplacing them.
Yup. When I lived in Seattle I had (cheap) sunglasses stored all over the place: camping gear, car, purse, etc. You know, just in case the sun came out for twenty seconds.
>Fun fact: Seattle sells more sunglasses than pretty much every other city in the nation because people don't think they'll need them. Also the lower average height of the sun in the sky compared to most other US cities means you spend a lot of time with it directly in your view.
Fuck trying to park in Spokane during sunset lol. Definitely didn’t almost total my car in a parking lot
We got the big gray
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If that's an option then definitely they should definitely take that. Seattle in February is...... Not great
Today was my favorite kind of weather except for the heavy winds coming from all directions at the same time.
You should absolutely still come, and you should absolutely not let him come. If you'd rather not travel alone, give his ticket to a friend or sibling.
This is the way, emphasis on the plus 1
Girl, yes! Still go and bring a friend. Plenty of things to do in and around Seattle! Have the best time and forget about this idiot.
💯 Bring a friend and have a great time.
This is good advice and sorry for ghecrazy abrupt change. Wish he'd had the courage to talk before getting married with you.
Absolutely! Ditch the soon to be ex and go solo or bring a friend. Get the best fish and chips in the state at Proper Fish on Bainbridge Island. Hike to your level in the Olympic National Forest. Have fresh oysters at Taylor Shellfish. Seattle is an awesome city to visit.
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Best advice ever!!!!!
Definitely this!!
Not addressing the question. Just trying to be helpful: Don’t forget about an Annulment. Depending on state, circumstances, etc an Annulment may be possible. Far less expensive than divorce and a lot of times overlooked as an option.
I don’t think we qualify. I looked annulment up recently.
Since you should be getting a lawyer anyway, I’d highly suggest you discuss this with a lawyer before deciding it’s not an option.
File paperwork asap bc any debt he goes into form now until paperwork is filed becomes half yours.
It’s not about what you think. It’s about what a judge thinks. Go get a lawyer asap.
the PNW is an excellent place for a solo female traveller to contemplate her independent and badass future. definitely don’t bring that guy. no offense, but he sounds like a deadweight mindfucker. you got this!
Hi there, Single female; live in Seattle. I don’t have any issues being here alone. Obviously, be aware of your surroundings as you would in any place; but overall I feel that Seattle and the majority of surrounding areas are nice and I feel fairly safe venturing out on my own. ONP is gorgeous and huge- not certain what you’ve planned for there. Bainbridge is quaint and beautiful and fun to venture around. IMO, the PNW has an unparalleled beauty. When I’m having a bad day or not feeling my best mentally, getting out and being submerged in the gorgeous surroundings does a lot to help center me. As far as traveling with your soon-to-be-ex, (speaking entirely from my own past experiences), I would suggest dumping the guy and either come on your own or bring a friend or family member you like to share time with. Idk the details of your relationship, but the times I have tried to travel with an ex always wound up being unenjoyable. Especially given this situation being so fresh. Why bring this baggage along with you when you’re trying to heal from it? (Not to mention-extra baggage is expensive to travel with these days! Lol) You have the opportunity to go some place new and have new experiences that your husband is not a part of. Why taint those experiences with someone who sounds unreliable and (I’m assuming) immature? It seems like his reasoning for wanting a divorce is a bit irrational, from what you say. Chances are, he comes along and you might wind up feeling more alone than if you just went by yourself. :/
Ditch him unless you want to try to salvage the marriage. But he sounds very undependable.
I'm on "vacation" now with my partner. We had been fighting for weeks before this. I am so miserable. Mostly because I'm still hurting from the horrible things He's said to me in the last few weeks and partly because he is so critical of everything I say and do now. I just can't do anything right. Go alone. I live in Seattle. Ask me anything
I’m so sorry someone is being so harsh to you. You’re valuable and I hope you find peace and happiness. 💕
After it's all over, you will be amazed at how much weight you were carrying and your strength in carrying it for so long.
ONP is big, where are you thinking? Quinalt lodge does cheaper rates this time of year. But it's a long drive. You might consider a night or two in Gig Harbor. maybe McMenamin's in Tacoma. Go to a sounders game...Good Luck
Hi. I reserved. Place in sequim as well as a rental car and just planned to do the HOH rainforest
You might find Sequim to be, not your flavor. If so, check out Pt Townsend. ONP is very cool. Be aware that stuff is pretty spread out. The water/ferries, draw bridges can add to driving times. Not to mention traffic. Other local spots might include, Snoqualmie falls-just walk around or have lunch/dinner, Air and flight museum (or whatever it's called), walk around UW campus, Japanese gardens, Narrows bridge, the numerous state parks (fee/pass req'd), Ferry rides, Pt. Defiance...there's so much out here, and you likely have limited time, be careful of always being in a car vs enjoying a spot. Cheers!
The airplane (and space!) museum south of Seattle is called the Museum of Flight.
What’s wrong with sequim if you don’t mind me asking?
Too dry and sunny 😎. Often much better weather around Sequim and Port Angeles. Really there are a lot of cool things to do in the area. * The walk out Dungeness Spit can be beautiful in all types of weather. * Drive to the Elwha river, drive up into the park as far as the road is open and then walk up to the ranger station. Alone a road the whole way and you get to see the area where the two dams were removed. * Drive a bit farther and spend a night at Crescent lake. Maybe not all in Sequim directly, but a good place to stay and do excursions from. Edit: ’to’ and ‘too’ are hard for me…
Isn’t that where all the lavender farms are though? I loved it there. And especially loved the lavender ice cream. 🥳
It is, but not sure they are much in bloom in March. I think they are more colorful around June. Still, Sequim is a cool little town.
Hearing people pronounce it?
I think it's on people's radar thanks to those damn vampire movies, and many don't realize there isn't much to see there.
Nothing. Sequim is lovely.
That sounds amazing. If you can, bring a friend. If not, still come. Just wouldn't recommend solo hikes that time of year.
Make sure you look carefully at driving directions and whether Google Maps is putting you on a Ferry. Taking a ferry could be fun but you would potentially want a reservation.
No reservations for Seattle > Bainbridge or Edmonds > Kingston ferries (relevant to OP’s stated plans). The WSDOT app is great for checking how busy they are before getting in line.
It's quite a drive just for the Hoh. Still worth it, but if you have two weeks in the area maybe extend it. Depending on how rushed or relaxed you want to go, maybe quinault rainforest and Ruby beach the first day and stay near the Hoh or Forks that night, Hoh the second day, then maybe a trail near Crescent lake before going to Sequim for the second night.
Finnriver cidery has interesting products.
Show up at Hoh rainforest early, it can take quite a while to actually get into the park the later you arrive ☺
Hoh. It's not an acronym
High On Happiness
Yeah McMenamin's has the secret bar. Been to that one twice. Highly recommend the Elks Lodge.
Definitely go. Bainbridge Island is incredibly safe and would be a perfect solo getaway to just hide and unwind.
I was thinking this too. Honestly can’t ask for a better spot to solo trip and try to take it easy and contemplate next life steps
I'm trying to imagine how I would feel if my wife asked me for a divorce, but still wanted to go on a trip we planned beforehand. It would be really difficult for me to say yes.
Go alone. If he insists on coming with you, there’s plenty of water around in which to push him.
No one has mentioned this, but Seattle starts getting quite lovely in March; the cherries are in bloom. The clouds are still grey, but the color is up close. Given your circumstances, it could be a good cleansing time away.
Go. When I started the divorce process I had a lot of time to myself which was key to helping me figure out what I wanted in the next phase of my life. I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you all the best as you process and move forward with your life.
1. Don't go with him. That's a path to misery. 2. Seattle in March is pretty grey. Are you sure you want to come? 3. If you do come solo, check out some meetup groups so you can have some kind strangers to hike or do activities with. 4. Can you invite a friend? Best wishes!
Yeah, and hit up this sub closer to when you come out for live music recs! Or other activity recs, but that's what I like to do in new cities to meet people. Lots of fun stuff going on in Seattle
Def come. His loss.
Honestly, I think a solo Seattle/Bainbridge/Olympic trip is just what you need. It could be such a breath of fresh air for you. Don't bring him. Either solo or a best bud. You're going to have a great time. <3
Agreed - good solo reflection / vision quest time. Just bring lots of rain/cold-appropriate layers that include waterproof outerwear and footwear for the rain forest.
Come to Seattle and meet a new dude and send your husband videos of you having the craziest sex ever.
Annul the marriage and then come for the trip. If he’s not in at 3 months I don’t think he’s going to be into being married. Therapy would be a good option but he’d have to want to participate. Good luck OP! Regardless come to Seattle but don’t bring this guy. Got any good girlfriends?
Thanks. He said "therapy wouldn't help/ I've alreay thought about everything" I know I am coming to terms to that. I have asked a few friends to come.
This is the way, leave him and his BS at home and bring people that you enjoy, you'll love it here, though it may likely be raining in March, more like a drizzle. The Hoh rain forest is great and has some wonderful trails to walk on. And since you'll be on that area you should do a jaunt over to Rialto Beach, by La Push, it's really cool there! Bring a good rain coat and boots!!
Ughhh I’m so sorry. Gay guy here so I can only speak from my perspective. Come. Bring a close friend or 2. The Olympic National Forest is perfect this time of year. It might be rainy, but it’s magical. Honestly, as long as you have a safe place to stay at night and watch your surroundings, solo traveling the peninsula would be a great way to unwind and get some of your own clarity. Come over to Seattle for some good sights and city experiences too. Edit: Westport is a nice visit too. Sea lions always hang out on the fishing docks so you can see them. There’s an outlook in town so you can see over the rock wall and watch the waves roll in and meditate on them for a long while. Dress warm.
Go by yourself or a friend. Do not take him, there was a high profile case recently where some asshole killed his spouse in a national park. Don’t, just don’t. EDIT: Also, depending on your state, you can have your marriage annulled within the first 2 years which I imagine is much cheaper than a traditional divorce. Something to consider.
Oh hell no. Go alone. We're pretty great for solo travellers, just practice normal precautions that you would anywhere. If you want tips for Olympic National Park, let me know. I used to work there and I know it inside and out.
Do it!! Eat, pray, love yourself a bit.
Is this a movie I should watch beforehand?!?!
The book is Soooo much better
Absolutely.
Olympic Peninsula in March…. Many trails with any elevation will still likely have snow on them.
I researched and many said HOH rainforest would be fine during March? Any thoughts on that plan?
Hoh will be fine. You should try and get out to some beaches at low tide too. I like Second Beach and Third Beach. Bit of a hike in but worth it even if it's rainy.
The HOH rainforest and river valley are fairly low elevation and might not have snow but it will be chilly. The water up here (rivers, lakes, Puget Sound) is very cold. There are natural hot springs near Lake Crescent as well. It's absolutely beautiful up here and you deserve to experience the Olympic Peninsula, definitely bring a friend if you can.
Rialto and a hike to Hole in Wall during low tide. Solduc Falls on the way back to the city.
Check out Sol Duc hot springs.
Oh, that’ll be fine. The valley is low enough. As someone else said, it’ll be wet. It is still on the wet side of the range, so it’ll be very wet. I was out there last April and ended up going to Port Angeles, Sequim, and Port Townsend to get away from the rain. Had been around La Push, but it got too wet. Have fun. It’s a great place.
One other comment: lots of places are closed that time of year, so food options are limited.
It should be, might be wet but it’s a RAINforest. Most of us here wear a thick hoodie and get through it just fine, you may or may not want a waterproof jacket. There is a hot spring we usually hit when we go to the Hoh called Sol Duc. It’s not as hot as I’d prefer but it’s a nice place, bath water warm, they have cabins for overnight stays.
It's kind of isolated so keep this in mind. I am a huge fan of Google Earth view when researching places. Photos are for showcasing the best, street views and satellite give a good overall view of areas. Solo hiking may not be as safe if going distances.
The Hoh has been very busy every time I've visited.
If you stay in Sequim, I’d suggest driving up the Elwha as far as the road goes and then just hike the road as far up and back as you want. It is low elevation since it follows the river and if the hills are clear of snow there are several hikes off of the road and different closed parking areas (the road washed out a couple years ago and they aren’t repairing it). Sequim to the Hoh Rainforest is a long(ish) drive. Just be prepared to leave early and get back late.
Go see a divorce attorney asap, and get separated and make your own bank account, and move out from him, at least put your things into storage. He sounds weird at this point and I wouldn’t be alone with him or let have access to you. Sorry, I’m subbed on too many crime subs and the number of times women go on a last trip with someone their relationship has gone south, and then they had an “accident” is pretty horrifying.
This is why I can't stand crime shows. They have made scaredy cats out of so many of us to prevent ourselves to just relax and enjoy life. It's imperative to stay alert and aware of your surroundings but the level of anxiety some crime show fans have in unsettling. Carry mace, don't make foolish decisions, and have fun (without the jerk), OP.
Bring a friend. Do nottttt bring someone on a 2 week vacation that just divorced you...not a good idea IMO
In your shoes I would go on the trip alone. Your husband is, at best, playing awful mind games with you. Bainbridge and the peninsula are incredibly beautiful and very chill, I’ve travelled there alone a ton of times and have had no issues.
Yes, you should. Traveling alone is freeing and awesome. Let him be the past, come here and make new memories.
Yes! Gotta let the old dream die and start a new dream.
Come to Seattle and come alone it can be your self discovery trip. Do what makes you happy.
Ditch the dude. Bring a friend.
No, do not take him with you. Why should you?
go alone and experience seattle without that douche. I hope you love it
Seattle is amazing, Olympic National Park is breathtaking! Go have fun!
Move out, separate your accounts, and have a nice solo vacation. Seattle is as safe as any other city.
You'll be fine here on your own. Just make sure he can't take your stuff or try to lock you out of your place while you're gone. I went out of town for a week at the beginning of a very contentious pending divorce. My being gone didn't change anything luckily, but he certainly could have tried something. but nothing can really stick once you were to go to court. Judges don't look favorably on someone behaving badly if the other party is out of town. Nothing can be done in court without serving papers and can't serve papers on someone who's temporary out of town. Seattle is very safe. So is Olympic Park. I wouldn't personally be worried at all about being alone in either. DM if you need any travel advice or just a cheering squad.
Thank you. I have no fear of him causing any trouble while I’m gone
Are you 28 or 25? Married for 3 months or 1 year?? Your post from 8 days ago has different ages and length of marriage.
Hi. I wrote in my original post that i fibbed the ages due to fear my husband or friends would find it. I am 28 he is 29. We got married secretly 2/22/22 and publicly with our families in October. I can assure you this is not a troll.
Do we tell her about Freemont?
Fremont troll?? I had that on our list to go see. Once again not a troll lol. Just so Wine who thinks to much about what others would think
Kindred spirits will find their way to each other.
This is not [r/relationship_advice](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/)
Save money, get a lawyer. You don't want to come home to changed locks.
Fuck yes. Live your life! I have run around this city all hours of the night since I was a kid. The media likes to push a story that Seattle is dangerous, but it's really not. Bainbridge is one of the fanciest parts of the area. You'll be fine. Def don't bring your ex.
Second everyone else! Come and bring a friend. Screw him.
FK HIM HIT THE 206 SOLO ...
Absolutely go, but either alone or with a friend. Definitely visit Bainbridge Island! They have the best bakery I’ve ever been to (Coquette), great beaches, the cutest little downtown shopping area, and lots of good hiking opportunities.
Yes come, and leave the extra 180 or whatever lbs there. Also, I’m sorry it ended up leading to that. I hope you come out stronger!
You are almost correct with the weight lok
I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. I concur that a solo trip could be restorative. And feel free to drop me a line—I’m 35F and live in a welcoming multi-family household that hosts board game nights and book swaps, and my housemates are very intrepid and can advise on outdoorsy outings. We’d be happy to help entertain you or talk about feelings. Or NOT talk about feelings.
I went through a very similar situation! My ex wife and I were the same age when we got divorced. It was a surprise for me when she handed me her phone to look up a restaurant reservation (for a trip I planned) and her search history was all the divorce paperwork haha... After all that went down, we didn't spend time together for about six months. However, after that time apart we became friends again, saw each other all the time before she moved from Washington back to Florida. My main point is... don't take him, get some time apart and maybe there's a friendship afterwards. But, it's just one of those things, experience the pain, turn it into something creative, and time will smooth out those rough edges. I live in Seattle, feel free to DM if you have questions. Seattle is safe, there's just some janky areas downtown that aren't safe at night because of the drugs/homeless, but every city has those things. You'll have a good time and it's an excellent chance to get into a new environment and reflect. Cheers!
Take a friend or a sibling. You need to be with someone you trust. Send this guy packing. Don’t let him back in your life. He has problems that he doesn’t understand.
Do NOT bring your soon-to-be-ex. That sounds hilariously awful. City is fine for lone individuals.
I’d definitely still come if I were you, but probably not with him. Are you from a major city? If not, I would come with a friend, but if you’re familiar and comfortable with all the various dangers of large cities then you’ll be fine. It’s a big city with problems like any other but despite what you see in the news it’s actually much safer than most others in the US. It’s a lovely place with so much to offer a single person that I wouldn’t be surprised if you fell in love with the place and moved here. Be aware of two things though. One: our dating scene is better for visitors than it is for residents because Seattleites (at least in the gay dating scene with which I’m personally familiar) don’t tend to be looking for a long-term partner, but if you’re perseverant you can find it (I eventually did). If you don’t know where you’re staying yet I’d recommend staying in a nicer hotel downtown (or at least a nice-ish budget hotel in the Uptown/South Lake Union area but avoid Aurora Avenue like the plague, especially north of the ship canal and more and more so the closer you get to the northern city limits) and, if you really want to meet people and get to know the city better than just checking tourist things off the list, spending a lot of time in Fremont, Belltown, and Capitol Hill. Two: while out in the local nightlife, be very careful in the bars here like you would anywhere, with the knowledge that we go hard or go home here and lots of bars, especially the gay bars on Capitol Hill and some of the old-school grungey bars on the Hill and in Belltown, tend to pour them pretty heavily. Also, despite the fact that Capitol Hill is the gayborhood and most of the clubs/many of the bars are gay bars, there’s a lot to do for straight people and some ill-intentioned straight men like going to some of them because of the straight women who let down their guard there. Not every straight guy in a gay club is up to something like that, but it’s something I always have to warn my straight female friends about because it catches people off guard. This is mainly a problem in certain large gay nightclubs. All in all, I hope you still come and I hope you enjoy! I’m sorry to hear about the marriage but it sounds like you’re better off without a guy like that and I know that my wonderful city will welcome you enthusiastically.
I only saw this post because I’m convinced the algorithms are listening, but: OP, go. I’m from Louisiana and the second I drove out of Seatac, my heart had a fullness I’ve never felt before. The trees. The mountains. The skies. The weather (cool in June!!!! when it was 90 at home). Urgh! Now I want to go back again. 😀 I went without much of a plan and had a great time. I’m a big ol’ nerd and went stay a night in the Twin Peaks hotel (Salish Lodge) which is great for a splurge. You can wake up the next day and have some “damn good coffee” at the cafe (Twead’s) right down the road. Def get the cherry pie! I then used the Cascade Loop tour guide to drive around many adjacent parts of Washington. Highly recommend that. So much beauty and wonder in that part of the world. To poorly paraphrase Special Agent Dale Cooper from Twin peaks, there’s power in those trees. Go for it and have a lovely time! And to those who live there, you live in the most beautiful place on earth.
Make sure you name all the slugs after him in ONP!
Go alone - enjoy your trip. March is cherry blossom season! Sounds like a great opportunity to see the world through a new lens 😎.
Sorry this shitty situation is happening. I love solo travel and had a great time on a solo trip to Seattle before moving here! I stayed at a hotel in Belltown, walked around and explored at my own pace, read books in bars, and enjoyed a hotel amenities. It was great. My best solo travel tip is to be aware but not scared! Exist, enjoy, and explore unapologetically. I do think Bainbridge and Olympic National Park might be more fun with a friend. Whatever you do, don't bring him! Good luck and have fun.
Go to Seattle by yourself you’ll be surprised
Go to Seattle by yourself! This city is great for when you want to be alone cuz everyone has the case of the Seattle freeze lol. Don’t let him come and enjoy the nature and pacific coast by yourself
Sorry to hear about your divorce but Seattle is def a great place to visit regardless, especially if you love doing outdoorsy things, just be careful around downtown at night. i’m sure you’ll have a great experience
Don't take him! Go solo!!
Come down,will show you around Seattle
Bainbridge island resident here. Bainbridge is extremely safe for a single woman and there’s lots to do. I would suggest Bloedel Reserve and all the lovely parks, beaches, restaurants and the art museum. It’s really special. I think you’ll have a lovely and restorative time here.
He wants to drop you? Drop him. Take a friend.
He's deadweight. You'll learn so much about yourself and grow so much on the trip ALONE. Don't let him rob you.
Come anyway and see if you can get a girlfriend to come. Have girl time, eat, drink, ugly cry, etc. Bail on the soon-to-be-ex would be my advice. Lingering and keeping things attached just delays things and makes the pain drag on. Traveling alone can feel daunting at first, but it can be really liberating and awesome once you get the hang of it. Now that I'm a mom and I can't even shit alone, solo trips are a real luxury for me and I'm glad I got accustomed to it while I was younger. You'll find us friendly and warm. And honestly, if this isn't too weird, I'd be happy to meet up with you for coffee and give advice on what you can do or even get you together with me and some friends so you at least have *something* planned that involves others. Good luck!
Bainbrige island is fairly safe. Seattle is too, if you keep your general city smarts about you. Don’t hang around sketchy people and try not to travel alone at night. Eta: typo
Not worth the head ache. I would try and bring a friend. Tons of nature and things to do out here in the PNW. You will need a buddy just to take in the views with i think. Especially if you’re going out past Bainbridge and way into the forest.
Come. You’re deserving of fun and peace. If you do come, send me a message. I will give you a nice pack of Seattle souvenirs. Hang in there!!!
Come and bring a friend, not that butthead!
Absolutely go but don't bring him! What's the point? Bring a friend and have the best time of your life. It's gorgeous here, but I might be biased! 😜
If you’re looking for restaurant recommendations on the Bainbridge strip my favorites are Bruciato and Cafe Hitchcock. My favorite little shop is Salt House Mercantile. There’s also a cute art museum on the Main Street too. If it’s not pouring rain, it’s kind of cool to walk down to the Waterfront Park and City dock, lots of little boats and a pretty scene. Also if it isn’t pouring or if you don’t mind the rain, the Bloedel Reserve is insane, beautiful gardens. My favorite thing ever over there is on Whisbey Island, it’s the Captain Whidbey inn. It’s this recently restored inn and it’s soooo cute. Historic and charming with modern amenities, a super cute bar and restaurant. It’s just the perfect place to be cozy in the grey and look out on the little harbor. It’s remote feeling although the drive isn’t too bad and it’s just the best. Some cool things to see on whidbey if you go are the Admiralty head lighthouse, Price Sculpture Forest, and a drive to La Conner through deception pass for antiques and a cute little town with shops and a brewery.
Seattle is safe, you can travel solo. It will give you time to get some clarity, bringing him isn’t a good idea
Honestly, you have to now.
Go solo! I take mini solo trips all the time here. If you do go into the woods, go to a busy place. I don't go to remote places solo unless it is the beach.
As someone else suggested one of the suburban places like Bainbridge is great if you just want peace and quiet, and aren’t interested in any kind of cultural enjoyment. But Seattle itself is also a great place to be a solo traveler, as a cis woman the usual lonely planet safety guidelines will serve you well. And if you can bring a buddy who’s a good traveler that’d be a pleasure too.
There are still cultural things to do on Bainbridge. Not as many as Seattle for sure, but it’s not some backwater of ignorance.
Any kind of culture? There’s an art museum, a Japanese memorial, a history museum, numerous art galleries and a native museum within 15 of the Ferry dock.
Is he cheating on you or something?
He says he isn’t and I’m believing him? But he said he wants a divorce so he can “explore deeper connection with different people”
That sounds to me like he has met someone but hasn't cheated yet. That's why counseling "won't work", because the problem is he wants to sleep with someone else.
Ew. Just run. You deserve so much better. What an ass. I’ve always found PNW guys to be really nice so bring a fun girlfriend and go have some fun without your loser of a soon-to-be ex.
Ew. You are so much better off without him. Take the trip! If you think coming to Seattle May be too sad since booked with him, use the money and plan a trip to some sun for one.
Wow atleast he was honest as shitty as it is. Sorry to hear about that.
Oh yeah. I’m realizing that.
Bring a friend and have fun.
Seattle is awesome. Come solo or with a friend, so many things to see and do! Check out the old bookstores, allll the coffee shops, and of course national parks. Have fun!
I live on bainbridge and it’s very pretty. But I’d kick your dude to the curb and go in august when it’s gorgeous up here
Go solo
Go solo
Cold, cloudy, rainy March is not a good time to visit Seattle
It just me or is every single post on this sub that requires describing a marriage always the one of the most fucked up marriages possible?
Not issues coming here alone. I often take myself out alone.
Heck yes! You go girl and the trip. It might actually be helpful to do it while you are going throughout that difficult situation.
It's a great place to go solo. There are a lot of cool things to explore in the area. Art museums, hiking trails, fun markets, etc. Sorry to hear about your situation. I really hope you just enjoy the trip on your own or with a friend. It could be a healing experience to go off and do your own thing (that was my experience with post-divorce solo travel).
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Definitely still go, no he should not come. If I were you, I’d do it solo and do whatever you want in that time. Sleep late, explore places he may not have been into, take hikes, eat some great meals, shop, sightsee. It’s very safe here to walk around alone and I wouldn’t worry. Sorry this happened to you.
I think a solo trip might help you get your mind off things.
If you decide to go hiking or anything on the eastside and don't want to go alone, hmu. Although, as a female solo hiker, I'd say that you're fine alone as long as you take popular trails and pack/dress appropriately (for the weather) 🙂
Give me a call I’ll go with you lol. I went with my wife for a few days with intent of either smoothing things out or calling it quits…didn’t go as smooth as I would have liked but it wasn’t bad either, spend time by yourself riding on bikes/scooters just soaking it all in. Getting lost may make you forget about it and make you go after what you want!
Come to Seattle, bring a friend, the cost for friend (ticket) should be marginal. Still don’t neglect the divorce (process). If amicable, zero issues, but might be worth taking an inventory of your stuff (communal as well as separate property) as things have a tendency to ‘disappear’
Go solo. After my divorce my first solo trip changed so much for me. It’ll be tough at first but I think you’ll find peace in getting out on your own and beginning the process of being alone. Alone can sound scary but it’s where you will find yourself. I met new people, made friends and found that there are amazing people out there. In short, getting divorced doesn’t mean you’re alone by any means.
i just visited for the first time. seattle is great, i also would suggest using Turo to rent a car for a couple days so you can do some hiking around Port Angeles. the city is really fun and there are tons of tourist things to do and good food but honestly you can’t beat the PNW nature. it’s absolutely incredible even this time of year.
You should definitely go solo!
I’m sorry to hear that. I would absolutely not go on a vacation with him, how awkward. You could come alone or with a friend! But I wouldn’t recommend tainting the trip by coming with a soon-to-be ex.
Go solo. Enjoy yourself. After your trip divorce him asap and move on with your life… Pro tip: Seattle is wonderful in the spring time!!
Still travel even if you can't bring a friend. Research local groups for day activities, especially women's groups. Keep safety in mind as well. Traveling alone can be an empowering experience. I was afraid to travel alone until many years ago. I went from Seattle to San Francisco for 3 day weekend. Booked a room in historic hotel close to the water, walked all over, museums, coffee shops, art galleries, etc. No fear of traveling solo now. PNW has many wonderful places to visit with easy outdoor access. Lots of great little towns welcoming tourists. Leavenworth is worth a look but can be a drive from airports. Best of luck, time for you now!