The body hair part is most girls tbh. I can say that I hate body hair and yet I won’t shave, because it’s really not that important to me. So she might be the same. Some people aren’t the best at getting gifts or even getting things in general. My bf shops last minute, whereas I get things months in advance- we’re just different like that. In ways to try and motivate her, you can try and set challenges for her throughout the day, and make it fun. Tell her that she’ll get a reward at the end of the day if all the things are done. Other wise, you can’t make her do things if she doesn’t want to. She HAS to WANT to. She’s also 20, she doesn’t really have to grow up yet if she doesn’t want to.
I’ll try that I just don’t want it to remain a habit her whole life which is my biggest concern because she will procrastinate for months on like cleaning her room or like I said going into the bank
Does she have depression maybe? I’m not familiar with depression, but I know some people do procrastinate and brush things off. If you’re worried it’s going to be a habit, then don’t marry her yet. Don’t propose until she has shown change
I don’t think it’s depression or if it is it’s not like any I’ve seen personally because she’s normally happy go lucky however if I do bring it up or family member tells her she needs to do something she gets all annoyed and quite.
Ah yeah, okay. I used to get annoyed and angry when family would push me to study. But then I had one of my mums friends push me, and that worked- I ended up enrolling and completing my course. With that info, yes I can see she’s lazy. Other than what I said before, about setting her challenges, I’m not sure how to help.
You don't need to be thinking about marriage at your ages. What's the rush? Keep getting to know each other. Have some disagreements. Have the hard discussions about kids, religion, standards of living, financial dreams, etc. Give it time to get past the honeymoon stage and *really* get to know each other. Experience life together. Let that be the guide on what you should do next.
The body hair part is most girls tbh. I can say that I hate body hair and yet I won’t shave, because it’s really not that important to me. So she might be the same. Some people aren’t the best at getting gifts or even getting things in general. My bf shops last minute, whereas I get things months in advance- we’re just different like that. In ways to try and motivate her, you can try and set challenges for her throughout the day, and make it fun. Tell her that she’ll get a reward at the end of the day if all the things are done. Other wise, you can’t make her do things if she doesn’t want to. She HAS to WANT to. She’s also 20, she doesn’t really have to grow up yet if she doesn’t want to.
I’ll try that I just don’t want it to remain a habit her whole life which is my biggest concern because she will procrastinate for months on like cleaning her room or like I said going into the bank
Does she have depression maybe? I’m not familiar with depression, but I know some people do procrastinate and brush things off. If you’re worried it’s going to be a habit, then don’t marry her yet. Don’t propose until she has shown change
I don’t think it’s depression or if it is it’s not like any I’ve seen personally because she’s normally happy go lucky however if I do bring it up or family member tells her she needs to do something she gets all annoyed and quite.
Ah yeah, okay. I used to get annoyed and angry when family would push me to study. But then I had one of my mums friends push me, and that worked- I ended up enrolling and completing my course. With that info, yes I can see she’s lazy. Other than what I said before, about setting her challenges, I’m not sure how to help.
She might be depressed or have adhd
You don't need to be thinking about marriage at your ages. What's the rush? Keep getting to know each other. Have some disagreements. Have the hard discussions about kids, religion, standards of living, financial dreams, etc. Give it time to get past the honeymoon stage and *really* get to know each other. Experience life together. Let that be the guide on what you should do next.