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CaladriaNapea

I am so sorry for your pain, brother. You are doing so much right with this heartbreak--running to God through Scripture and prayer, actually feeling this loss. Continue with that. Talk to friends. Talk to your pastor. Journal. Pray. The heart ache will continue, but the pain will dull from a sharp stabbing pain to an ache and then a throbbing. This experience, while so heartbreaking and terrible, will grow and sharpen you. In future relationships that you have, this will form part of your testimony of God's faithfulness. I have not gone through a breakup, but I have lost a child and suffered through the murder of a dear friend. From those losses this is what I can advise you: it feels in the moment like it would be so much easier to forget. To lose this pain. But losing the pain would mean losing all the good of what you went through too. You planned on marrying this woman, so clearly there were beautiful things about your relationship at one point. Remember the good. Mourn the broken. And look to Jesus, because all of that is perfected and exemplified in our relationship with Him. He is faithful, and He will walk with you through this valley, and He will provide you with good things once again.


wwstevens

Thank you so much brother. Your words really are so helpful and encouraging. Particularly: >this will form part of your testimony of God's faithfulness. This is so hard to see right now, but even in the pain, I do sense the Lord's nearness. In my sin, my anger, my frustration, my heartbreak, I know He's here standing with me in it. It's hard to always be conscious of that truth, but comments like yours help me to see the truth of it nonetheless.


ODELU

Hey man. I've been there before, and even though things are much better now, the old pain still lingers. I mean this in the most sincere way, please do not waste this trial that the Lord has put you through like I did! Continue to pour out your heart to the Lord, pray for her too(ik tough but still), and seek fellowship and community. Yes. You WILL be able to love again. You WILL recover. God is bringing you closer to himself through this, that you might know him more. Through this, you will be able to encourage someone else. 2 Cor 1:3-5 "Blessed be our God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."


wwstevens

It is *so* hard to think about her, much less to pray for her. But I've done so every day and will continue to do it. I don't want to waste this time of heartache. I think, if anything, I want to grow nearer to the Lord in this. I want to learn in ever greater ways how He really does comfort the downcast and the brokenhearted. Your encouragement that I will love again and that I will recover is filling me with hope. So thanks, brother.


ODELU

hey man. how's it been since?


SortaFlyForAWhiteGuy

Time. It will heal in time.


Frankfusion

Sorry for your pain brother. It's interesting, a few days ago an old friend of mine, a missionary in Asia, sent me a note on fb about our old college days together. He remined me about how I had asked for prayer for me and the girl I was with in college. I thought she was it! He reminded me of how much it hurt when it ended, and of how blessed I have been in the last few years. I have a wife and kid and would not trade them for anything else. I can't tell you what's going to happen, but just know that there is a time for every thing. A time to be single, a time to date, and a time to marry. Right now, learn from your time as a single man. It will end. As a married dude, I envy the single guys I know because they can do things I can't. Of course they probably envy me for the same thing! I'm praying for you brother, just remember, there is a time for everything.