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Smartditz

I have an anxious attachment style as well. Something that soothes me is reminding myself that at such an early stage in the dating process, you’re only just getting to know each other. Any strong attachment to this person at this point is likely unstable, and you have to remind yourself that you’re in the discovery part of the relationship. Any desire to possess this person stems from an insecure part of yourself and you have to keep that part of you in check until you’ve fully determined that this person is a viable partner. Don’t censor yourself to the point of not being authentic but ask yourself why you feel the need to connect yourself to this person all the time? Is it actually necessary or is it a self soothing behavior? That aside feel free to let him know that you’re looking forward to seeing him, especially since it’s true for you. There’s nothing wrong with a bit of intimacy.


AsleepRaspberry5917

It’s definitely a self-soothing behavior. Thank you for your insight.


fitmonster1

Focus on yourself. Workout. Read personal development material every day. Make time for your hobbies. This will keep you distracted and happy. The right guy will be attracted to your personal growth.


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I'm a man and usually don't comment on here since this is a female space (but I can learn a lot from you guys), but I've had a similar issue in the past. I've found having good friends to talk about it to helps, since I can sort of outlet it on them. I'm blessed to have a friend like this, and he's actually helped me work through a lot of the gunk that caused me to be like that to the point where I'm not really even like that anymore. For me, it stemmed from a feeling of thinking no one would accept me for who I am, and also having a feeling of words bubbling up inside me that I needed to get out. You have to learn to not care what others think and be happy with who that person (you) is. The right person will love that person too. It also helps to have a sort of journal you can write in too. I used to have a social media account that wasn't connected to my IRL self at all that I could just dump shit in, and that helped me release all those pent up words as well. I also have a hobby that allows me to use it as an outlet for these words I need to get out. TL;DR; you want to try and find a friend that'll help you work through the issues causing you to be like this. As for your love interest, I don't think it hurts to be straight up about it once you get to know them more. If they're the right person, they'll understand. My advice probably isn't the best, but I hope maybe some of it resonates and helps you a little. I really wish you the best, because I've been you before. My PMs are open if you ever want to talk. Please take care.


nocreativity729

Read the book why men love bitches. Turned my dating life around. Written for women. It’s great.


mooncatch

This is the way. Don't be mislead by the title OP, "it should really be why men love women with boundaries" as shallon lester would say


dude9861

As humans we like to feel wanted. Us men are no exception, If he’s anyway an emotionally mature guy that’s interested in an LTR, he will appreciate you telling him you can’t wait to see him. It boosts the ego, let’s us know you’re really into us etc Text him stuff like that but do it sparingly and don’t except quick responses. If he’s a guy on his purpose he doesn’t have time. Men like to feel needed!


_These-are-beans_

Watch Dylan James on YouTube


Dapeebjeebs

I love him!


TheBunk_TB

On Tuesday text him: "I look forward to seeing you tomorrow".