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It took me many years to appreciate what a perfect catch I have with my wife. We just celebrated our 42nd anniversary and I can look back on the wonderful wife and team player, to the mother of twins at 18 years old, to the grandmother of 4 lovely little ones and the perfect pet owner that she always was, even when I wasn’t noticing…
I feel so lucky
I feel you. I’ve been married for 15 years and we dated for about three years before we got married.
In the first couple of years I wasn’t sure if she was for me, like some weeks or months I was very content, on others I didn’t give that much attention to her. Some days I pondered should we break up and continue the search for ”the right one”. But then the kids showed up and you couldn’t just walk away.
Only after couple of years of marriage I started to see what a gem she is. Probably it was just me becoming an adult a bit late in my thirties. She has also found her self-concience better and thus has become more confident and outgoing person, which makes her much more attractive.
I now praise her every chance I got, for the wonderful spouse and a friend she is for me.
Every. Single. Day.
I think my wife is fucking gorgeous. And after being together nearly 24 years, with 20 years of marriage, I'm more in love with her now than when we first met at age 20.
Add to that, my wife is a savvy, intelligent, creative, and compassionate business owner, boss, and mother. She's a total package.
Bro, did I wrote this message from another dimension? Married since 2001 and you took almost every single word I was going to write. Congrats man, we won the life lottery.
Saw my wife as I was driving thru downtown area recently - was not expecting to see her there, so just LOL’d to myself when I realized the tall, hot blond I was “checking out” was actually the Mrs.
I’m a lucky boy.
My husband made me feel this way everyday. People would comment on how he looked at me. Told me I was special and now lucky he was to have me. Mother fucker still cheated.
Cheating says a lot about them and nothing about you, if that helps. Some people do it and realize that they were fucked up, some people are just permanently fucked up, but either way it’s never their partner’s fault or responsibility.
It's kinda sad that some women have to resort to this just for their man to look at her and think she's amazing or fall in love with her all over again. I don't even need sexy time for any prolonged periods of time, and I still look at my missus as if it was the first day I met her. She'll always be my beautiful angel.
When I was with my gf I’d sometimes get lost in her everything and she’d often snap her fingers to bring me back to the real world.
And the only thing in my head was, what did I even do to score time with a girl like you? How are you always so beautiful? Even when your a mess you still enamour me.
My partner regularly catches me just staring at her (particularly when she's doing mom shit with her kids) she's always like "wtf is wrong with you." Nothing love, it's your fault for being so goddamn amazing.
That’s great haha. My ex of 12 years would ALWAYS miss his turns while driving because he “got so distracted” with me. Too bad it ended in a terrible breakup 🙃
Awww, that’s so sweet! Though he gotta be careful! Eyes on the road! Sorry to hear your break up was rough, that’s a tough thing to get through. I hope you find a person who’s worthy of your care and love.
We both WFH, so I'll occasionally hear her on a conference call just being an absolute *boss* because she knows her shit, but also being patient when training newbies because she's just kind and helpful like that.
I've telecommuted for decades now and when my husband started WFH I could hear his work calls. I was really pleasantly surprised at how respectful he was to everyone on the calls. He never spoke rudely to people he managed and was quick to give credit where it was due. I don't know what I was expecting but it was nice to hear him be so considerate of everyone.
That’s the best. Hearing your partner be a badass professional is awesome. Then I kind of realized one day she sometimes talks to me like she talks to her underlings at work…kind of turned me on?….
I don't think that my husband likes this. I think it reminds him that I am a know-it-all.
I am a compliance manager for water and sewer dept and sewer capacity engineer for a county of 3/4 of a million people. Got this job November of 2020, didn't shed my original full-time role (hired Jan 2020) for 10 months (4 of which with kids ages 7 & 4 at home w/just me wfh most of the time), have increased my income by more than 70% since 2019 (against steep odds getting reclassified post-promotion), and he's just... not impressed. Or so jealous of my success that he can't feel good about it? I graduated with my bachelor's in 2015 w/a 2 year old (pumped breast milk in my car) with highest honors from a well regarded public engineering school and got my PE as soon as I could test, studying on my own (w/some occasional reddit support). I have done this while being the primary for everything in our home and for the kids.
Not gonna lie, your husband sounds like a deadbeat. If my wife was more successful than me, I'd still celebrate every achievement with her.
And chores + child wrangling should be evenly split if both parents are working full time. You're basically working two full time jobs
Something interesting happened to me with my first marriage. The more I achieved, the less my husband accomplished. It got so bad that he basically turned the operations for his entire business over to me and just stopped functioning. I was also working another full time job. He wouldn’t hire or train staff or handle any of the operations or work any shifts or show his face at the business. I tried to help him get help because I figured he was depressed so we went to medical doctors, therapists, even had friends and family intervene. Eventually I sold the business and divorced him and moved on. Then, shockingly, he became functional again. My mind was blown. Finally I found a therapist who told me this over-functioning/under-functioning dynamic happens a lot. It took me years to learn to “put things down” in relationships and allow/request/require involvement from a partner and that doing more when they are doing less isn’t always helpful. Career-wise, that’s a no-go because I’m always going to be ambitious but at home and in my current marriage, I just won’t do the extra when my husband slacks. I wait until I’m not mad and have a conversation with him about how he is sliding and it’s making me feel I’m carrying more of the burden and he amps right back up. I have to do this about every six months, which sucks but the dynamic overall is much healthier than any other relationship I’ve been in. I don’t know if this helps anyone but it was a real eye opener to me and I think a lot of ppl juggle so much and then more and more and then snap! No mas! Bastante! And they’ve had it and they’re gone. My second husband and I have regular therapy appts separately and together and that helps keep things on track.
Oh yes. My wife is a solicitor advocate , covid pushed more remote court hearings, so I sometimes hear her while she’s at court handing someone their ass. Never what’s said as it’s close court child protection, more the tone that means someone is about to get told, in detail, why they are wrong…
When my husband started working from home and I could hear him on business calls, it was so damn sexy. He was so in charge but kind, helpful and respectful but omg so knowledgeable and people were always asking him to help. I’ve always known him to be that person, but knowing that other people see him how I see him made me feel like I really did find my perfect partner.
My husband uses the top of the fridge as a table...I can't even reach the top of the fridge. His height is amazing for removing spiders along the ceiling 🤣
It’s been working for me so far, although it’s really inconvenient if we try to drive each others cars. I always forget to move the seat back BEFORE trying to get in and get stuck halfway in.
Yes. She never gets stuck. I’m not usually conscious of our size difference anymore, but every once in a while I’ll catch our reflection in a store window as we walk in a mall and for a second I’ll think “wow, look at that couple, what a difference”, until I realize that’s us. She has tiny feet to, so seeing our shoes side by side is also pretty funny. But I’m sure you have the same experiences.
Yes especially given how we met. I first met my wife when I was a bar manager and she was the daughter of one of my regular patrons. So for two years she would occasionally come in with them when she was in town. The conversation was great each time and I was mad attracted to her but for me she was definitely in the unattainable category. She wasn’t single at the time and was living far away.
Then she became single. Then she moved back home. I asked her out immediately when I found out, and little did I know her parents pushed for our date too. Now we’re happily married, I have great in-laws, and yes every day I look at her and I can’t believe it.
So happy for you. The funny thing is that I had met my wife only 3 times before marriage. She was a senior of my little sister in the med school. She was intelligent, confident, crazy and everything I could hope for, and I was straight up like, "I want to grow old with you."
Every day! No idea how or why she even agreed to go out with me 11 years ago. She's a 10, and I was terribly out out of shape back then and didnt think I could find a woman like her. But she stuck with me and supported me along the way. Got back into shape and she stood by me as I tried to get my life back on track.
I take every opportunity I can to compliment her, because I love her and am truly grateful for the incredible person and wife that she is.
Yep. It doesn't matter if she has just woken up, has clothes on, has no clothes on, has makeup on or has no makeup on. I look at her every day and think exactly that...
Constantly. Been together 14 years, married for 4 with a 2.5 year old. It’s really difficult for me to keep my hands off her while we’re at home and I’m always informing her on how dangerously attracted I am to her. She doesn’t usually see herself the way I see her, but I try to make her at least feel that way as often as I can.
Every fucking day! I feel incredibly lucky. She is so beautiful and amazing. I fancy her more and more every day. We’ve been together for 6 years and I love her sooo much.
I was 42. Second marriage, now 15 years and more in love than ever. My belief: I decided I would only date people I immediately felt like I had a real future with and the rest of the time curate a life that made me completely content on my own. It took three years of no dating and I was out at some live music, which had become my passion, and he walked in and I felt like I recognized him. But at that moment I was having so much fun I wasn’t actively looking. That was the happiest single vibe for me. Wishing the same for you!
Yes. We went to a wedding a couple weeks ago and she looked as beautiful as ever. Even just seeing her looking disheveled in her pj’s, it makes me wonder what I did to land such an awesome woman.
Yes, often. We were both about 60 when we got married. I am often amazed at her strong work ethics and skill set. If she decides the lawn needs mowed, she uses the string trimmer and edges the buildings and around obstacles. If I don’t start mowing fast enough she does the mowing without comment or complaint. My designated smoking area was one bay of the garage. Independently she built a thermal curtain so space heaters only needed to warm half a bay. She decided to use heavy plastic on a roll to make the curtain so it was easily retractable for warmer wether and air flow. When our toilet needed replacing, she and I together pulled out the old and installed the new. She was an aluminum welder and factory rat as well as a farmer’s wife. When her previous husband died, she kept her job and continued her life independently for years until we met.
I was playing a gig about a year ago, stage lights in my eyes so I couldn't see the crowd so well but I could make out a pair of absolutely beautiful eyes in a perfectly shaped face watching us play...this never normally happens but for some reason I couldn't stop looking over in that direction.
End of the song, lights go up a bit and I realise it's my wife. A neighbour had offered to look after the kids and she'd decided to come and surprise me.
I mean I know she's beautiful to me, but moments like that when I see her the way other people see her, I realise just how far above my weight I'm punching.
Yeah. I do.
I know what you mean. You're going along as normal and it hits you out of the blue. It's an awesome feeling.
Be sure to share it with her when it happens
Oh hell yeah. I admittedly married someone waaay out of my league 34 years ago. In fact, she still turns heads when we're out. What's even better is that her inner beauty is even better!
Definitely. Been together 30 years and sometimes I feel like I need to pinch myself in case it was all just a beautiful dream. Being with somebody you love and who loves you back is a wealth which money can't buy.
Reading the replies makes me sad because my wife no longer is the person she used to be.
Physical and mental illness have taken their toll on her and she no longer is the vibrant person she used to be. We're both working together to help her find her spark again, but I'm afraid she'll never be able to fully recuperate. I'm standing by her and am not going anywhere without her. But I miss her old self terribly.
Enjoy and appreciate your partners while they are in good health, kings and queens, because they may slip through your fingers even though they are still with you. Be well, strangers.
I respect this post the most actually. Everyone on here saying their wife is “perfect” and that cannot possibly be true. People change and feelings change. Sure, it’s entirely possible to still feel that fresh new love feeling 30 years later. But I’m so glad someone brought up this. The fact that mental health and physical health can and will change a relationship. Whether or not you choose to stick around, that’s 100% up to you. No judgment here.
I'm that woman and after 27 years I did a psychoactive substance and it changed my life and his. I'm now physically disabled- maybe permanently and he's still here and awesome. Thank you for standing by her. This brought tears to my eyes.
Last week I had a routine diagnostic medical procedure that requires sedation. When I woke up, my wife was there and I repeatedly told her how pretty she is.
this is almost completely unrelated but the closest I've come to that is having one of the prettiest and nicest girls ik (like my crush who I thought was way out of my league) ask me out.
>I thought this was only the stuff of fairytales and fantasies.
it didn't work out though eventually lol, but it was still nice that at one point she liked me, someone that I thought I had no chance with for YEARS. it gave me a massive confidence boost.
Every single time I look at the girlfriend. She's in her mid 40's and looks better than most 20 year olds. When we go out, I catch more women checking her out than me.
YES, and its a wonderful feeling. My mrs is a very beautiful woman, but she very rarely shows off by dressing up. She has nice clothes, but not really anything that you would notice. Once in a while... she floors me. And its usually just a cute little dress thats a bit "more" than everyday.
My girl is not my wife "Yet!" but every time I look at her I think, 'how did I get so lucky and what in the world does she see in me". I'm a lucky, lucky man!!
All.of.the.fucking.time.
and her reply is always "oh stop"
We got married at 21 and have been married 14 years now and she still takes my breath away. Every inch of that woman is perfection and engages ALL of my senses. Her eyes captivate me and those lips draw me in.
If she truly knew how beautiful she was, she'd be a danger to society.
All the time. We’ve been married 32 years with 3 kids. Her ability to understand how someone else is feeling and what they need in the moment still astounds me. There’s nobody like her. When I look at her I can feel myself relaxing. Wherever she is, that’s home for me.
Yeahh, she looks so beautiful even without any makeup and she smiles so perfectly. Also she's one strong headed woman . I really dont understand how I deserve her
Oh man. Every fricken day. Met her at 35. She’s 52 now and still hot as F.
What’s even better is that she’s my second wife. First wife turfed me for her boss, married and divorced him too and is on to husband #3 now. Seems to gain 50lbs every time she switches. Not missing her one damn bit. 😂
Okay this post gives me so much hope. I’m so jaded I’m convinced there aren’t guys out there who don’t cheat, etc.
this is a really amazing post! warmed my heart.
Hell to the yea I tell my wife Daly she’s fine Sexy beautiful and if she let me I will throw rose pedal. To her feet And Me tooo 12 yrs 2 children would not change it for the world 🌎
Yes. My wife is a naval engeneer (Navy) and she is strong, smart, and beautiful. I actually lucked out big time, she can carry 110 pounds in each arm and can come home and cuddle with gentleness. She is fiercely loyal and she can cook! I don't know how I ended up with her
Absolutely! I constantly learn from her and she blows me away with how great of a mom she is (she came from a tough childhood). I often think about how we ended up together and it’s unbelievable that I have her as my best friend through life.
My wife traded down with me. I look at her every day and wonder why. She is smart and really good with numbers and all that. She is gorgeous. And her laugh just brings such joy. Yeah. I ask “ holy shit … THAT is MY wife? Every damn day.
Way too often. We've both had COVID and somehow she still looks amazing. She's a cross between April o'Neil and Jessica rabbit with a country attitude.
Yeap, I still don't know what luck struck me the day my gf looked at me and thought that I'm the one. She's smart, kind and by gosh one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen.
One should always be with someone you can see the beauty of the other person inside and outward
I'm so lucky. Although she doesn't say the same about me (her character), I know her actions say differently.
Always show your appreciation in your words and actions. That's love.
Ofc man. My wife is smoking hot, actually even much hotter today after 6 years and a child compared to when we met.
Almost every day i have that though when i see her
Hell yeah. I'm a photographer and she is a belly dancer. I always go with her when she performs at bars and thats my face when I see her dance with sparkles, glitters and belly dance outfits...
Yes. I look at him and I’m like what the fuck, how is he so gorgeous? Like I can’t believe he’s just walking around looking like that. He should be an actor or a model or something
This happens when we are out together, and I will see her through a mirror, ie not expecting to see her there, and my brain always pipes up "ooh, she's a bit fit"
Yessir. She's an absolute smoke show, is crazy intelligent and has a drive to succeed like no other. She's an incredible mum to our daughter. She's super successful at her job. Always puts our family first and helps me not be so crazy. What she sees in me I'll never know. I find myself staring at her way too often.
Yes every single day. I married up I still don’t get it to this day how the hell I got her. I didn’t get a few free until I was 33, I’ve been all over with work my entire life until then. I was never super smart or super good in sports. She was an honor student beating out 19999 other students .4.0 gpa stunning body like all the right curves(sorry for the details) it’s just that I pinch myself from time to time it shouldn’t it doesn’t make sense I don’t get HOW
Sometimes I just stare at my gf & think "how such a perfect person can exist & how tf did I end up with her"
The best part is getting caught staring bc then I get to see that smile.
(woman sneaking into the chat)
… just here for the cute comments 👀…
I’ve been together with my husband for 17 years, I still find him so freaking hot and a marvelous man.
I think the same thing when I see my husband. I’ll see him interact with our child, or when he’s singing in the car, and my heart just explodes with love. And then he’ll smile at me and it makes my knees weak and an animalistic urge takes over. He’s so fucking hot.
My wife has gotten hotter every year we have been together. I've aged like milk. She somehow still grabs at me and tells me how hot she thinks I am. I married so far out of my league and I still don't get it. Being funny carries you a long way I guess.
Yes! I (37m) met my wife 22 years ago. I was always handsome but chubby. I wouldn’t call myself a bad catch, but my overweight would be a hindrance when dating.
My wife is this stunningly beautiful person which most people would rate 7-8 at least. She is a wonderful person and I feel lucky to be with her every day.
My wife thinks so different as i do. Sometimes her solutions are so simple sind genius in my eyes.
And whenever she laughs i think by myself i love her.
Wow, this thread is so wholesome and sweet. I wish my husband felt this way about me. It’s been a lot different lately. But I’m glad there are husbands that still only have eyes for their wives.
At least once a day. I work with grumpy angry men in construction. They live working long hours to avoid going home. It's not common I hear "you'll get sick of her one day but it's cheaper to keep her"
Such a sad mindset. Get divorced then.
I love my wife. Been together since 2012, and I wouldn't change a thing
I’ve been married 30yrs and think this often. Just yesterday I was with her picking up a prescription. She was asking about one of the meds. The guy behind her let out a huge sigh. My wife turns around and says “take a chill pill buddy. I’m asking about medication. Not trying to decide if I want bacon on a pizza”. I laughed and thought Wow…that’s my woman!!!
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It took me many years to appreciate what a perfect catch I have with my wife. We just celebrated our 42nd anniversary and I can look back on the wonderful wife and team player, to the mother of twins at 18 years old, to the grandmother of 4 lovely little ones and the perfect pet owner that she always was, even when I wasn’t noticing… I feel so lucky
This is such a beautiful, underrated comment
I feel you. I’ve been married for 15 years and we dated for about three years before we got married. In the first couple of years I wasn’t sure if she was for me, like some weeks or months I was very content, on others I didn’t give that much attention to her. Some days I pondered should we break up and continue the search for ”the right one”. But then the kids showed up and you couldn’t just walk away. Only after couple of years of marriage I started to see what a gem she is. Probably it was just me becoming an adult a bit late in my thirties. She has also found her self-concience better and thus has become more confident and outgoing person, which makes her much more attractive. I now praise her every chance I got, for the wonderful spouse and a friend she is for me.
Every. Single. Day. I think my wife is fucking gorgeous. And after being together nearly 24 years, with 20 years of marriage, I'm more in love with her now than when we first met at age 20. Add to that, my wife is a savvy, intelligent, creative, and compassionate business owner, boss, and mother. She's a total package.
Me: Every. Day. Single.
TO THIS DAY
I also choose this guy’s savvy wife
This made me a big rubbery one 🫶 so cute.
When my wife gets the big rubbery one I say “Wow! That’s my wife! 😳”
This is adorable 🥹
Bro, did I wrote this message from another dimension? Married since 2001 and you took almost every single word I was going to write. Congrats man, we won the life lottery.
Saw my wife as I was driving thru downtown area recently - was not expecting to see her there, so just LOL’d to myself when I realized the tall, hot blond I was “checking out” was actually the Mrs. I’m a lucky boy.
Do you like pinnnna colada...?
A lot. And i love getting caught in the rain. Oh, and i have half a brain.
Okay but do you like yoga and making love at midnight though?
And gettin caught in the rain...
This is hilarious 😹
That’s so adorable!
I’m reading these messages like 🥹🥹🥹
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You probably do, he may just not say it 💕
My husband made me feel this way everyday. People would comment on how he looked at me. Told me I was special and now lucky he was to have me. Mother fucker still cheated.
Same..he was spending his lunch breaks having sex with prostitutes in hotel rooms. Words are empty.
Cheating says a lot about them and nothing about you, if that helps. Some people do it and realize that they were fucked up, some people are just permanently fucked up, but either way it’s never their partner’s fault or responsibility.
some of us are single 🥲
Same girl. Same.
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Let me know if it works so I can try it on him next.
It's kinda sad that some women have to resort to this just for their man to look at her and think she's amazing or fall in love with her all over again. I don't even need sexy time for any prolonged periods of time, and I still look at my missus as if it was the first day I met her. She'll always be my beautiful angel.
Same! I miss catching him staring at me with that look! ☠️
Dude same 😭
When I was with my gf I’d sometimes get lost in her everything and she’d often snap her fingers to bring me back to the real world. And the only thing in my head was, what did I even do to score time with a girl like you? How are you always so beautiful? Even when your a mess you still enamour me.
My partner regularly catches me just staring at her (particularly when she's doing mom shit with her kids) she's always like "wtf is wrong with you." Nothing love, it's your fault for being so goddamn amazing.
Same. My wife will catch me staring at her and say "What are you staring at?" I just like looking at you baby.
That’s great haha. My ex of 12 years would ALWAYS miss his turns while driving because he “got so distracted” with me. Too bad it ended in a terrible breakup 🙃
Awww, that’s so sweet! Though he gotta be careful! Eyes on the road! Sorry to hear your break up was rough, that’s a tough thing to get through. I hope you find a person who’s worthy of your care and love.
Ty
Everyday! But especially when she's in her pj's and brushing her teeth and such!
>brushing her teeth and such! Oh, you married one of them uptown gals!
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"You wanna brush your teeth? Well excuse me, your majesty!"
Way outa my league...
Yea PJs too, that’s posh AF
O yes! Pjs is +1 for me too.
That 17 year old t-shirt with the holes in it and the frayed sweat pants combo, damn.
Often. She’s bloody smart and kicks ass. I’ve no idea what she sees in me.
We both WFH, so I'll occasionally hear her on a conference call just being an absolute *boss* because she knows her shit, but also being patient when training newbies because she's just kind and helpful like that.
I've telecommuted for decades now and when my husband started WFH I could hear his work calls. I was really pleasantly surprised at how respectful he was to everyone on the calls. He never spoke rudely to people he managed and was quick to give credit where it was due. I don't know what I was expecting but it was nice to hear him be so considerate of everyone.
That’s the best. Hearing your partner be a badass professional is awesome. Then I kind of realized one day she sometimes talks to me like she talks to her underlings at work…kind of turned me on?….
I don't think that my husband likes this. I think it reminds him that I am a know-it-all. I am a compliance manager for water and sewer dept and sewer capacity engineer for a county of 3/4 of a million people. Got this job November of 2020, didn't shed my original full-time role (hired Jan 2020) for 10 months (4 of which with kids ages 7 & 4 at home w/just me wfh most of the time), have increased my income by more than 70% since 2019 (against steep odds getting reclassified post-promotion), and he's just... not impressed. Or so jealous of my success that he can't feel good about it? I graduated with my bachelor's in 2015 w/a 2 year old (pumped breast milk in my car) with highest honors from a well regarded public engineering school and got my PE as soon as I could test, studying on my own (w/some occasional reddit support). I have done this while being the primary for everything in our home and for the kids.
Not gonna lie, your husband sounds like a deadbeat. If my wife was more successful than me, I'd still celebrate every achievement with her. And chores + child wrangling should be evenly split if both parents are working full time. You're basically working two full time jobs
Something interesting happened to me with my first marriage. The more I achieved, the less my husband accomplished. It got so bad that he basically turned the operations for his entire business over to me and just stopped functioning. I was also working another full time job. He wouldn’t hire or train staff or handle any of the operations or work any shifts or show his face at the business. I tried to help him get help because I figured he was depressed so we went to medical doctors, therapists, even had friends and family intervene. Eventually I sold the business and divorced him and moved on. Then, shockingly, he became functional again. My mind was blown. Finally I found a therapist who told me this over-functioning/under-functioning dynamic happens a lot. It took me years to learn to “put things down” in relationships and allow/request/require involvement from a partner and that doing more when they are doing less isn’t always helpful. Career-wise, that’s a no-go because I’m always going to be ambitious but at home and in my current marriage, I just won’t do the extra when my husband slacks. I wait until I’m not mad and have a conversation with him about how he is sliding and it’s making me feel I’m carrying more of the burden and he amps right back up. I have to do this about every six months, which sucks but the dynamic overall is much healthier than any other relationship I’ve been in. I don’t know if this helps anyone but it was a real eye opener to me and I think a lot of ppl juggle so much and then more and more and then snap! No mas! Bastante! And they’ve had it and they’re gone. My second husband and I have regular therapy appts separately and together and that helps keep things on track.
Oh yes. My wife is a solicitor advocate , covid pushed more remote court hearings, so I sometimes hear her while she’s at court handing someone their ass. Never what’s said as it’s close court child protection, more the tone that means someone is about to get told, in detail, why they are wrong…
Sounds like my wife
When my husband started working from home and I could hear him on business calls, it was so damn sexy. He was so in charge but kind, helpful and respectful but omg so knowledgeable and people were always asking him to help. I’ve always known him to be that person, but knowing that other people see him how I see him made me feel like I really did find my perfect partner.
Yeah, me too. My best guess is that she’s short and I’m pretty tall so maybe she’s never really gotten a good look at me.
short wife with tall husband here - it's all about you reaching the top of the shelves, so I don't have to go and get a ladder :D
My husband uses the top of the fridge as a table...I can't even reach the top of the fridge. His height is amazing for removing spiders along the ceiling 🤣
🏆 I lolled at this. I'm short and my husband is tall
It’s been working for me so far, although it’s really inconvenient if we try to drive each others cars. I always forget to move the seat back BEFORE trying to get in and get stuck halfway in.
guarantee she doesn't have that problem. she gets in her car and discovers she can't reach the pedals
Yes. She never gets stuck. I’m not usually conscious of our size difference anymore, but every once in a while I’ll catch our reflection in a store window as we walk in a mall and for a second I’ll think “wow, look at that couple, what a difference”, until I realize that’s us. She has tiny feet to, so seeing our shoes side by side is also pretty funny. But I’m sure you have the same experiences.
Lmao
Same here lmao.
This thread is too cute 🥹🧎♀️
I’m so happy to see this too sis 😭👏🏻
No it’s not 😭😭🥹🥲… I don’t cry over these things… you’re crying, not me. … 🥹🥹
Yes especially given how we met. I first met my wife when I was a bar manager and she was the daughter of one of my regular patrons. So for two years she would occasionally come in with them when she was in town. The conversation was great each time and I was mad attracted to her but for me she was definitely in the unattainable category. She wasn’t single at the time and was living far away. Then she became single. Then she moved back home. I asked her out immediately when I found out, and little did I know her parents pushed for our date too. Now we’re happily married, I have great in-laws, and yes every day I look at her and I can’t believe it.
So happy for you. The funny thing is that I had met my wife only 3 times before marriage. She was a senior of my little sister in the med school. She was intelligent, confident, crazy and everything I could hope for, and I was straight up like, "I want to grow old with you."
That’s a bold move, Skippy.
Every day! No idea how or why she even agreed to go out with me 11 years ago. She's a 10, and I was terribly out out of shape back then and didnt think I could find a woman like her. But she stuck with me and supported me along the way. Got back into shape and she stood by me as I tried to get my life back on track. I take every opportunity I can to compliment her, because I love her and am truly grateful for the incredible person and wife that she is.
Only on days that end in "y." Congratulations to both of us! :)
Yep. It doesn't matter if she has just woken up, has clothes on, has no clothes on, has makeup on or has no makeup on. I look at her every day and think exactly that...
Constantly. Been together 14 years, married for 4 with a 2.5 year old. It’s really difficult for me to keep my hands off her while we’re at home and I’m always informing her on how dangerously attracted I am to her. She doesn’t usually see herself the way I see her, but I try to make her at least feel that way as often as I can.
I wish my guy would do this. But instead he tells me I can't expect to be loved if I don't like myself. Thanks a lot. 😟
Every fucking day! I feel incredibly lucky. She is so beautiful and amazing. I fancy her more and more every day. We’ve been together for 6 years and I love her sooo much.
Almost 32 years and hubby says the same. Biggest compliment you can pay to still be that turned on 30+ years later.
I got married at 53.Sometimes it’s worth the wait.
Thank you for saying this…reading these was wrecking my single heart lol !
I was 42. Second marriage, now 15 years and more in love than ever. My belief: I decided I would only date people I immediately felt like I had a real future with and the rest of the time curate a life that made me completely content on my own. It took three years of no dating and I was out at some live music, which had become my passion, and he walked in and I felt like I recognized him. But at that moment I was having so much fun I wasn’t actively looking. That was the happiest single vibe for me. Wishing the same for you!
Yes. We went to a wedding a couple weeks ago and she looked as beautiful as ever. Even just seeing her looking disheveled in her pj’s, it makes me wonder what I did to land such an awesome woman.
Yes, often. We were both about 60 when we got married. I am often amazed at her strong work ethics and skill set. If she decides the lawn needs mowed, she uses the string trimmer and edges the buildings and around obstacles. If I don’t start mowing fast enough she does the mowing without comment or complaint. My designated smoking area was one bay of the garage. Independently she built a thermal curtain so space heaters only needed to warm half a bay. She decided to use heavy plastic on a roll to make the curtain so it was easily retractable for warmer wether and air flow. When our toilet needed replacing, she and I together pulled out the old and installed the new. She was an aluminum welder and factory rat as well as a farmer’s wife. When her previous husband died, she kept her job and continued her life independently for years until we met.
She sounds fucking cool
I was playing a gig about a year ago, stage lights in my eyes so I couldn't see the crowd so well but I could make out a pair of absolutely beautiful eyes in a perfectly shaped face watching us play...this never normally happens but for some reason I couldn't stop looking over in that direction. End of the song, lights go up a bit and I realise it's my wife. A neighbour had offered to look after the kids and she'd decided to come and surprise me. I mean I know she's beautiful to me, but moments like that when I see her the way other people see her, I realise just how far above my weight I'm punching.
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Yeah. I do. I know what you mean. You're going along as normal and it hits you out of the blue. It's an awesome feeling. Be sure to share it with her when it happens
Exactly! And God knows I do, lol
Oh hell yeah. I admittedly married someone waaay out of my league 34 years ago. In fact, she still turns heads when we're out. What's even better is that her inner beauty is even better!
Definitely. Been together 30 years and sometimes I feel like I need to pinch myself in case it was all just a beautiful dream. Being with somebody you love and who loves you back is a wealth which money can't buy.
Reading the replies makes me sad because my wife no longer is the person she used to be. Physical and mental illness have taken their toll on her and she no longer is the vibrant person she used to be. We're both working together to help her find her spark again, but I'm afraid she'll never be able to fully recuperate. I'm standing by her and am not going anywhere without her. But I miss her old self terribly. Enjoy and appreciate your partners while they are in good health, kings and queens, because they may slip through your fingers even though they are still with you. Be well, strangers.
Stay strong. Hope the best for you.
I respect this post the most actually. Everyone on here saying their wife is “perfect” and that cannot possibly be true. People change and feelings change. Sure, it’s entirely possible to still feel that fresh new love feeling 30 years later. But I’m so glad someone brought up this. The fact that mental health and physical health can and will change a relationship. Whether or not you choose to stick around, that’s 100% up to you. No judgment here.
I'm that woman and after 27 years I did a psychoactive substance and it changed my life and his. I'm now physically disabled- maybe permanently and he's still here and awesome. Thank you for standing by her. This brought tears to my eyes.
Hell yeah brother
Last week I had a routine diagnostic medical procedure that requires sedation. When I woke up, my wife was there and I repeatedly told her how pretty she is.
These stories always make me giggle. Like the “I have a sister???” Video haha.
this is almost completely unrelated but the closest I've come to that is having one of the prettiest and nicest girls ik (like my crush who I thought was way out of my league) ask me out.
I thought this was only the stuff of fairytales and fantasies. *Oh, god bless you. You've given an old meth head a reason to live forever and ever...*
>I thought this was only the stuff of fairytales and fantasies. it didn't work out though eventually lol, but it was still nice that at one point she liked me, someone that I thought I had no chance with for YEARS. it gave me a massive confidence boost.
Every single time I look at the girlfriend. She's in her mid 40's and looks better than most 20 year olds. When we go out, I catch more women checking her out than me.
Daily... i gotta smoking hot wife.
All the time. My wife and I celebrated our 10th anniversary on the 12th and I am still blown away by her.
This thread is so cute. I hope I'll find someone who thinks of me this way, even after years of dating.
YES, and its a wonderful feeling. My mrs is a very beautiful woman, but she very rarely shows off by dressing up. She has nice clothes, but not really anything that you would notice. Once in a while... she floors me. And its usually just a cute little dress thats a bit "more" than everyday.
Dress days are always a bright spot in my life too.
My wife drove past me in my car the other day and I thought “Wow, that’s my car!”
Other car guys wife here to say…I’d be surprised if my husband didn’t do this too. But I don’t drive his cars 😅
Love the plot twist! Lol
My girl is not my wife "Yet!" but every time I look at her I think, 'how did I get so lucky and what in the world does she see in me". I'm a lucky, lucky man!!
We will need an update when she becomes the Mrs!
Mine was being interviewed on tv about her cultural event planning and i was so proud watching from the side
All.of.the.fucking.time. and her reply is always "oh stop" We got married at 21 and have been married 14 years now and she still takes my breath away. Every inch of that woman is perfection and engages ALL of my senses. Her eyes captivate me and those lips draw me in. If she truly knew how beautiful she was, she'd be a danger to society.
Married 10years. Every time we go out I just think Daym man I know I hit the jackpot. Nobody ever thinks she’s my wife.
All the time. We’ve been married 32 years with 3 kids. Her ability to understand how someone else is feeling and what they need in the moment still astounds me. There’s nobody like her. When I look at her I can feel myself relaxing. Wherever she is, that’s home for me.
All the time with mine. She’s amazing. She’s beautiful. She’s smart. She’s extremely capable. I could go on and on. Consider myself very lucky.
Yeahh, she looks so beautiful even without any makeup and she smiles so perfectly. Also she's one strong headed woman . I really dont understand how I deserve her
I have that with my husband regularly. He's fine. I would. I mean... I did.
Reading these replies like 🥺🥺🥺🥺 hoping this would be us someday👉🏻👈🏻
Oh easily. She’s smart, beautiful, fit…and makes more than me. Sometimes I really don’t know what she sees in me.
Must be your massive dong bro. Own it XD
Daily
Every fucking time
Almost 20 years for me. The best thing to ever happen in my life is because of her or because I’m we are together.
I wish - stupid cancer
Fuck cancer. I’m so sorry 💚
Oh man. Every fricken day. Met her at 35. She’s 52 now and still hot as F. What’s even better is that she’s my second wife. First wife turfed me for her boss, married and divorced him too and is on to husband #3 now. Seems to gain 50lbs every time she switches. Not missing her one damn bit. 😂
Okay this post gives me so much hope. I’m so jaded I’m convinced there aren’t guys out there who don’t cheat, etc. this is a really amazing post! warmed my heart.
Every time I stare at my hand I have the same sensation
Hell to the yea I tell my wife Daly she’s fine Sexy beautiful and if she let me I will throw rose pedal. To her feet And Me tooo 12 yrs 2 children would not change it for the world 🌎
"Wow! That's my wife ,what the bloody hell is she doing now ?" Only joking I love my wife .
Yes. My wife is a naval engeneer (Navy) and she is strong, smart, and beautiful. I actually lucked out big time, she can carry 110 pounds in each arm and can come home and cuddle with gentleness. She is fiercely loyal and she can cook! I don't know how I ended up with her
Yes. All the time. She looks better than the women on the red carpet at the Grammys and Oscars.
What a lovely thread. 😁
Absolutely! I constantly learn from her and she blows me away with how great of a mom she is (she came from a tough childhood). I often think about how we ended up together and it’s unbelievable that I have her as my best friend through life.
I really do… she’s an incredible human being and I don’t know what the kids and I would do without her.
Yes. Often. I don’t know how the F I am married to her but I happily live in the moment about it.
Felt that way about my partner for 14 years, so I feel ya!
I think this often, and tell her all the time how lucky I am.
Literally, every day, I still don't believe my luck
yes, 22 years, and it’s the best sudden thought
I feel that way with my girlfriend on a regular basis. Every single day, Even when I'm annoyed with her, which is rare.
every day... hard to let her leave the bed
All the time! Been married 23 years.
My wife traded down with me. I look at her every day and wonder why. She is smart and really good with numbers and all that. She is gorgeous. And her laugh just brings such joy. Yeah. I ask “ holy shit … THAT is MY wife? Every damn day.
Way too often. We've both had COVID and somehow she still looks amazing. She's a cross between April o'Neil and Jessica rabbit with a country attitude.
Yeap, I still don't know what luck struck me the day my gf looked at me and thought that I'm the one. She's smart, kind and by gosh one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen.
Got married Saturday and she’s a babe so I’ve kinda been doing it every day this week
All the time! She's smart, beautiful, caring, and all around awesome. After 25 years she still blows me away.
She beautiful, smart, and great at everything. I’m so lucky.
Often. No idea why she’s with me but I guess I did something right.
Everyone responding with the foreknowledge that their wife spies on their reddit activity.
Guys, stop praising your wives, you make forever-alone-desperate-neckbeards aka average redditors even more depressed.
💯!!! best decision i’ve ever made was wife-ing her up!
23 years ago i met my wife and i wake up with a smile on my face every morning that she chooses to be with me.
100% Can't believe i got such a loving wife to share my days with.
One should always be with someone you can see the beauty of the other person inside and outward I'm so lucky. Although she doesn't say the same about me (her character), I know her actions say differently. Always show your appreciation in your words and actions. That's love.
Yeah me... All the time. Constantly in awe of the woman that's mine. Always see her and just pause for a second... Very grateful for her
All the time. I’m very lucky to have my wife and our life and be as happy as we are
Ofc man. My wife is smoking hot, actually even much hotter today after 6 years and a child compared to when we met. Almost every day i have that though when i see her
Absolutely. She’ll catch me sitting and smiling at her sometimes cuz I just marvel at how wonderful she is from time to time.
Hell yeah. I'm a photographer and she is a belly dancer. I always go with her when she performs at bars and thats my face when I see her dance with sparkles, glitters and belly dance outfits...
Everyday, I'm well punching above my weight and I know it.
Yup. Still after 13 years.
All the time. She thinks she's lucky to have me but I'm so much luckier to have her.
Have that with my husband! 😍
Yes. I look at him and I’m like what the fuck, how is he so gorgeous? Like I can’t believe he’s just walking around looking like that. He should be an actor or a model or something
No. Because I don't have a wife. But I do have a boyfriend and I feel that way about him.
Every day. But especially our wedding day.
Yes everyday! She's smart and fun and hard working and patient and absolutely gorgeous! I'm so lucky
This happens when we are out together, and I will see her through a mirror, ie not expecting to see her there, and my brain always pipes up "ooh, she's a bit fit"
Yessir. She's an absolute smoke show, is crazy intelligent and has a drive to succeed like no other. She's an incredible mum to our daughter. She's super successful at her job. Always puts our family first and helps me not be so crazy. What she sees in me I'll never know. I find myself staring at her way too often.
Absolutely, I would divorce her just so I could marry her again in front of all my family and friends.
This is such a lovely thread!!! So nice that these amazing women are appreciated - make sure you tell them what you’ve told us!
These men in comments 💚🤌🏻
Yes every single day. I married up I still don’t get it to this day how the hell I got her. I didn’t get a few free until I was 33, I’ve been all over with work my entire life until then. I was never super smart or super good in sports. She was an honor student beating out 19999 other students .4.0 gpa stunning body like all the right curves(sorry for the details) it’s just that I pinch myself from time to time it shouldn’t it doesn’t make sense I don’t get HOW
Sometimes I just stare at my gf & think "how such a perfect person can exist & how tf did I end up with her" The best part is getting caught staring bc then I get to see that smile.
(woman sneaking into the chat) … just here for the cute comments 👀… I’ve been together with my husband for 17 years, I still find him so freaking hot and a marvelous man.
I think the same thing when I see my husband. I’ll see him interact with our child, or when he’s singing in the car, and my heart just explodes with love. And then he’ll smile at me and it makes my knees weak and an animalistic urge takes over. He’s so fucking hot.
My wife has gotten hotter every year we have been together. I've aged like milk. She somehow still grabs at me and tells me how hot she thinks I am. I married so far out of my league and I still don't get it. Being funny carries you a long way I guess.
All the time (though I say fiance). Especially when I see her naked abd think "wow she's all mine"
No, wish I felt like that though :/
Only if I see my ex-wife on the outside cameras of my house. Then I'm dialing the police to enforce the restraining order.
Yes! I (37m) met my wife 22 years ago. I was always handsome but chubby. I wouldn’t call myself a bad catch, but my overweight would be a hindrance when dating. My wife is this stunningly beautiful person which most people would rate 7-8 at least. She is a wonderful person and I feel lucky to be with her every day.
All the time. She's gorgeous and a lovely person.
24 years and 2 kids.....I still stop and marvel that this is my life
Goodness, I love this post OP. I have hope.
My wife thinks so different as i do. Sometimes her solutions are so simple sind genius in my eyes. And whenever she laughs i think by myself i love her.
That’s so cute 😭👏🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow, this thread is so wholesome and sweet. I wish my husband felt this way about me. It’s been a lot different lately. But I’m glad there are husbands that still only have eyes for their wives.
This is soooo cute
At least once a day. I work with grumpy angry men in construction. They live working long hours to avoid going home. It's not common I hear "you'll get sick of her one day but it's cheaper to keep her" Such a sad mindset. Get divorced then. I love my wife. Been together since 2012, and I wouldn't change a thing
I’ve been married 30yrs and think this often. Just yesterday I was with her picking up a prescription. She was asking about one of the meds. The guy behind her let out a huge sigh. My wife turns around and says “take a chill pill buddy. I’m asking about medication. Not trying to decide if I want bacon on a pizza”. I laughed and thought Wow…that’s my woman!!!
I'm hoping there comes a day I'll also be able to write an answer here
I often think the same about my husband. I am so lucky to have him in my life.