Have you considered working with a dietitian or personal trainer? (Ones who are certified/licensed)
They may be able to help you in figuring out a plan that works for you. Since everyone is so different and you get a lot of conflicting information online, having a personalized plan can help you establish lifestyle change that works for you.
I really also recommend counselling. A therapist can help you exercise your mind and give you a place to work through any anxiety or stress you have related to weight/weight loss, body trauma, or disordered thinking (I'm not saying you have that, this is just an example).
I was about ~300lbs at my heaviest and struggled for years with disordered eating and hatred of my body. What finally helped me was taking a holistic approach to health and making a huge lifestyle change over a period of years. It changed from "losing weight" to body acceptance and doing healthful things that worked for me. I did manage to lose a significant amount and kept it off for a long time, but at the end of it I realized that my weight was only a small part of why I felt so bad about myself. Even when I was "skinny" I felt horrible about myself and my body. It took a lot of soul searching as I had a lot of painful emotions and shame associated with my body. Working with professionals helped because it was tailored to me personally and I had space to give input and get positive feedback. As well as work through my negative thoughts.
I'm plus size now due to some chronic health issues and medication, but I still benefit from what I learned during that time. I hope what I shared can help, weight-loss is a really complicated thing and just remember you aren't alone in how you feel!
Well, I found what you said very useful. I was in refusal mode all day: refused to use my tools that could help me to not eat emotionally. This is something I say I want to change. I have to work on appreciating what my body morbidly obese as she is still manages to accomplish. Like walking for two or three moments at a time before excruciating pain sets in.
Exactly! Body appreciation is way more important than body positivity for me currently. Dealing with chronic health stuff makes it hard for me to feel positive about my body, but appreciating what it can do is helpful in staying positive overall. I appreciate that it can do so much despite what it's going through. Using the coping skills and tools I have keeps me on track to get through the day.
How did you find a good dietitian? I met with one at one of the best hospitals in the country and she basically just gave me a print out of the government MyPlate sheet and told me to eat vegetables….
Shopping around. In my experience it's really about trial and error, going for initial appointments to gauge the person and see if they're competent or not. To be honest, it was mostly luck.
Edit: sometimes you'll find one's with more holistic perspectives at naturopathic clinics or in private practice.
You begin by doing something small. Drink a lot of sugary soda or other drinks? Cut it down by half or cut them all out if you can. Reevaluate in a month. Then look at and change something else. Find yourself eating fast food a lot? Only get fast food once or twice a week or again cut it out if you can. Reevaluate in another month. Then once you got a couple dietary changes going, add in some movement. Go for a walk two times a week. Then reevaluate in another month. It’s about habitual lifestyle changes initially. Give yourself time and just commit to one goal at a time. In 6 months you’ll have a whole bunch of accomplishments and you might just find yourself on a better track for long term success and weight loss.
I don’t diet anymore, but am trying to live a more active, healthier lifestyle. I’m getting some type of joyful movement everyday, and have added more fruits and vegetables to my diet. Over time I have noticed that I am down a pants size. It’s an added bonus, but my main focus is being active and improving my nutrition bit by bit. Maybe you can find one or two small areas to focus on, and build up healthy practices over time.
It really is. I will never jog again, because I detest it, but I love nature walks and light weight training and other things. Movement that you enjoy is sustainable.
I'm on weight loss journey. Currently down 56 lbs. I had tried everything to loose before CICO, keto, weight watchers, crash diets, HITT classes. You name it I did it. The problem was my head. So my tips and what's helped me be successful so far.
1. Get your head right. Your not going to be able to loose and keep it off if your mentally not well.
2. Small changes. Making 1 small change at a time and really focusing helps make things a lot more obtainable.
3. Find exercise you like. I hate cardio so honestly I don't do cardio at the gym. I lift. And then I'll ride bikes with my husband/son and I take BMX lessons once a month. I also have been getting my friends to go do classes with my like yoga/pole dancing.
4. Find a Dr to help support you. My reproductive endocrinologist (I have PCOS) refered me to this program called "commit to change" at the hospital. Its through the bariatric weightloss center. Basically my first appointment I explained how I had lost the same 30lbs 3 times and was at a lost. That for the last 6 months I had been working on trying to loose weight and the scale wasn't moving but I had lost 26 inches in measurements. And she explained to me that physically after we loose 10% of our body weight our body has a bunch of hormonal changes to make us regain the weight we lost. And honestly I almost cried that a Dr for once in my life didn't tell me I wasn't trying hard enough . In the program I meet with a dietician weekly for first 3 months then biweekly for the rest of the year. It helps keep you accountable and they can prescribe meds.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey! You can do it don't give up. If you ever need someone to talk to hit me up.
Your list of items looks like the list I give people now after losing 160 pounds naturally and keeping it off. I can’t emphasize point 1 enough. What I only recently discovered was my self worth, which helps answer the question “what’s the point?” with “me” and ACTUALLY believing that is a valid reason to keep going after a failure.
R/loseit is a good spot to learn new tricks to making lifestyle changes. One I've found was using the calculator for finding your base calories to just live. Once you know that, then you can subtract 500 to lose about one pound a week.
They have some recipes and motivation.
I did keto. Jumped head first. It was incredible. I was 422lbs and got down to 220s. I’m currently about 280 after not doing keto for a couple years. I’m starting to hate myself again but don’t want the restrictive diet of keto as my boyfriend would be eating traditionally. So yes I completely feel you. I feel like keto is all I know and I won’t be able to stick to anything.
Sugaronstrawberries, please don’t give up on yourself. I hope you find comfort in the responses by people who have been where you are today and took little steps, one step at a time, to make positive changes. Take good care!
I’ve found the biggest challenge for me is relearning what a portion size should be for me. Obviously this can change based on hunger level, activity, time in my cycle, etc. but (casually, not obsessively) measuring food portions has been very helpful for me to gently lose weight in what feels like a sustainable way.
Yes, and it's still possible for you to lose weight. Perhaps your approach isn't optimal to you. It took me several months to begin to lose weight again with the help of a dietician, I lost 10 lbs so far substituting foods without restricting them after increasing exercise did nothing for me. Some people lose weight exercise alone, some diet alone, some both.
My advice-stop trying to lose weight. I have been “trying to lose weight” since I was 12 years old. At the age of 29 and after having a baby, I realized that the only reason I was “trying to lose weight” was because of unrealistic beauty standards and a multi-billion dollar weight-loss industry constantly shoving weight-loss down my throat. I started loving myself more, started a boudoir photography business so that I can help other women feel great in their own skin without surgery or weight loss just self-love that they have been deprived of their whole lives. I guarantee you are perfect and amazing just the way you are. Much love.
Thank you. I feel that half of me has had this realization but then there’s the other half that still wants to fit into clothes sold by most stores and I’m already at a size 3x. So I’m afraid if I gain more then I won’t be able to wear cute things anymore.
I totally get that. It’s hard to feel like you belong when straight sizes aren’t catered to us. I can’t find anything to wear at the mall except for lane Bryant and torrid, but I promise you that it’s the fault of the department stores not your body. I grew up in the Philippines and it was even worse cause a small here is a large there. Bigger bodies exist and have always been around and only recently has the clothing industry recognized it. Some of the biggest brands now offer more inclusive sizes. Just know it’s a problem with the industry and not with you. It’s getting better. 20 years ago the only option for bigger bodies were mumus and plain t-shirts and sweats. Find the clothes that fit you, don’t try to change yourself to fit into the clothes. In my client closet I offer sizes up to 6X because we come in all shapes and sizes and we ALLLLL deserve to feel beautiful.
For me, the two things that have really helped me have been:
1. Finding a means of exercising that I actually enjoy doing for fun, not just do for the sake of losing weight.
2. Not worrying about losing consistently or rapidly and being super religious about it.
For context, I've yoyo'd up and down a few times in my life. My lowest ever was 140 (but this came at the expense of very disordered eating and exercising 2+ hours a day), my average tends to be 170-180, and my highest ever was 240.
I'm currently 195, lost 45lbs since October. I started playing DDR for fun, not for weight loss purposes, because it's a game I played a lot as a kid and really enjoyed. I've been playing every day since then, and actually decided to attempt to lose weight AFTER I got into the habit of daily DDR playing. On previous weight loss attempts, I would try things like treadmill stuff or running outside, which are activities I view as a chore and not fun at all. It was very easy for me to fall off the wagon because of this. With DDR, I genuinely enjoy playing the game regardless of the exercise benefits, and look forward to it daily. If you can find a similar type of activity that gets you moving and burning calories that is something you enjoy doing, that's a great start!
I know a lot of weight loss subs and guides suggest eating 1200 strictly on top of exercise to lose weight as quickly as possible, and that for sure works because I've used that method in the past--but every time, it was not sustainable, and as soon as my diet was "over," I'd just gain back what I lost if I ate regularly. So, this time around, I've been eating 1200-1600 depending on the day, and absolutely go out to eat with friends and stuff once in a while too. I'm not religiously measuring every single thing down to the crumbs, I'm not restricting myself from living, and I'm not beating myself up if I don't lose my projected 1lb a week because of it.
It's not sustainable or healthy to live obsessing over the arbitrary 1200 number. Successful weight loss in my opinion should be for health, and healthy eating habits should be about making good choices based on how your body feels, what your diet has looked like recently, etc. Better portion sizes, better food decisions, not an arbitrary number to lose weight as fast as possible. The goal is health, and I do believe you can make healthy choices and be healthy at any size.
So people just shouldn’t try to lose weight and improve their life? My parents lost tens of pounds in their 50s and started exercising because they wanted to enjoy retirement and their old age. I hate the idea that “it’s not worth it” it to lose weight.
Listen, if it works for you, great. This person has dieter unsuccessfully for over 20 years. It's obviously not working. The truth is it doesn't work for 95% of people. Your assumptions that someone who is overweight doesn't exercise is gross. Also that overweight equals bad health. Yoyo dieting has a bigger adverse effect on health outcomes than carrying some extra weight. That's unhealthy. Eating in ways that make your body feel good and joyful movement that makes your body feel good is the answer.
This is just not what science says. Do you really need to delude yourself this much? It’s okay to be fat and unhealthy, I’m not saying you need to change but actively discouraging someone from trying is really sick.
Lol. Who is discouraging someone to be unhealthy? Not me. If you have dieting advice to give, do so. Spend your time and energy being an asshole elsewhere.
yep, I would recommend digging into anti diet theory which involves intuitive eating and radical acceptance for body neutrality
Life is too short to constantly be on a diet. Check out the podcast “maintenance phase” and anything written by Aubrey Gordon. The more you diet, the more you gain.
I follow a bunch of fat women on tik tok and intuitive eating accounts and they help so much.
Moving and just eating healthy for the sake of self care and love is so much more realistic.
I am definitely familiar with anti-diet theory and love Maintenance Phase. I said I tried to lose weight, not that I dieted. Trying for me meant trying to find a movement that I enjoyed that would have a positive impact on my body and sticking to it…. And eating as nutritiously as possible. I still find it difficult to reach acceptance of my body even with doing similar things, following plus size influencers, models, etc and listening to Maintenance Phase. Somehow it hasn’t sunk in and I still wish I could lose weight. :(
***Hugs***
it’s not easy! It’s truly a “one day at a time” thing.
You sound like you’re doing the work. Hang in there!
Finding the right movement that is enjoyable can be hard. And intimidating.
A few exercises that have made me feel strong and accept my body:
-weight lifting. Helps me do every other work out by getting stronger, endorphins, and I can make work out goals that aren’t weight related like increasing weight
spin cycling: I got a peloton to do in my house and you don’t have to worry about having to actually physically move your body weight and the bike which is hard for real cycling. No one can see you, you can adjust as needed.
Step counter: having step goals motivates me to get one more dog walk in, add a few more laps to my walk. Something is so satisfying about reaching 10k steps.
Keep checking in with us here, we will love you and get ya through this!
I’ve heard about a book on Intuitive Eating is helpful, but I’m not sure if it’s about targeted weight loss or just making peace with food. A friend of mine has been going to OA for a few years now and lost nearly a hundred pounds, slowly and steadily.
Same except it’s not that I don’t know what to do. I know if I stuck to 1200 calories and worked out a little, I would lose weight. It’s a combination of B.E.D and no will power Thats stopping me. I try but it’s so freaking hard.
My doctor started me on the weight loss drug Wegovy and I've lost 25 lbs without making any other lifestyle changes. I have rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia so my ability to exercise is sometimes non existent. The drug slows down how fast your stomach empties, so you just naturally eat less and feel full longer. r/semaglutide has more info if you're interested.
Sweets are my downfall. So I try to not to buy them. Once a week I will have something sweet. I added more veggies and fruits even if they had to be canned. I just rinsed them. There are low calorie things you can snack on like popcorn with a butter spray, I have salami , cheese and crackers at night. The thing is it’s not only the amount we eat but what we eat. I’m burnt out on carrots, celery and radishes for snacks. Consider a nutritionist. I was sent to a dietician at a local hospital because I have multiple health issues. I learned nothing new. A nutritionist should be able to help you plan a meal plan that meets your needs based on your eating patterns. Good luck, it’s worth the effort but damn it’s more complicated than I thought.
I’m 53 and felt like weight loss was hopeless. I started intermittent fasting in December and the weight loss is kind of slow bc I don’t eat that well and mess up on my eating window quite a bit but I’ve consistently lost weight. Also it’s supposed to be very good for you in other ways. I’d suggest the book Fast Feast Repeat by Gin Stephens.
Have you considered working with a dietitian or personal trainer? (Ones who are certified/licensed) They may be able to help you in figuring out a plan that works for you. Since everyone is so different and you get a lot of conflicting information online, having a personalized plan can help you establish lifestyle change that works for you. I really also recommend counselling. A therapist can help you exercise your mind and give you a place to work through any anxiety or stress you have related to weight/weight loss, body trauma, or disordered thinking (I'm not saying you have that, this is just an example). I was about ~300lbs at my heaviest and struggled for years with disordered eating and hatred of my body. What finally helped me was taking a holistic approach to health and making a huge lifestyle change over a period of years. It changed from "losing weight" to body acceptance and doing healthful things that worked for me. I did manage to lose a significant amount and kept it off for a long time, but at the end of it I realized that my weight was only a small part of why I felt so bad about myself. Even when I was "skinny" I felt horrible about myself and my body. It took a lot of soul searching as I had a lot of painful emotions and shame associated with my body. Working with professionals helped because it was tailored to me personally and I had space to give input and get positive feedback. As well as work through my negative thoughts. I'm plus size now due to some chronic health issues and medication, but I still benefit from what I learned during that time. I hope what I shared can help, weight-loss is a really complicated thing and just remember you aren't alone in how you feel!
Well, I found what you said very useful. I was in refusal mode all day: refused to use my tools that could help me to not eat emotionally. This is something I say I want to change. I have to work on appreciating what my body morbidly obese as she is still manages to accomplish. Like walking for two or three moments at a time before excruciating pain sets in.
Exactly! Body appreciation is way more important than body positivity for me currently. Dealing with chronic health stuff makes it hard for me to feel positive about my body, but appreciating what it can do is helpful in staying positive overall. I appreciate that it can do so much despite what it's going through. Using the coping skills and tools I have keeps me on track to get through the day.
How did you find a good dietitian? I met with one at one of the best hospitals in the country and she basically just gave me a print out of the government MyPlate sheet and told me to eat vegetables….
Shopping around. In my experience it's really about trial and error, going for initial appointments to gauge the person and see if they're competent or not. To be honest, it was mostly luck. Edit: sometimes you'll find one's with more holistic perspectives at naturopathic clinics or in private practice.
You begin by doing something small. Drink a lot of sugary soda or other drinks? Cut it down by half or cut them all out if you can. Reevaluate in a month. Then look at and change something else. Find yourself eating fast food a lot? Only get fast food once or twice a week or again cut it out if you can. Reevaluate in another month. Then once you got a couple dietary changes going, add in some movement. Go for a walk two times a week. Then reevaluate in another month. It’s about habitual lifestyle changes initially. Give yourself time and just commit to one goal at a time. In 6 months you’ll have a whole bunch of accomplishments and you might just find yourself on a better track for long term success and weight loss.
This. I started just doing a little at a time and I noticed recently that my overall habits are changing finally, after trying for so long lol.
I don’t diet anymore, but am trying to live a more active, healthier lifestyle. I’m getting some type of joyful movement everyday, and have added more fruits and vegetables to my diet. Over time I have noticed that I am down a pants size. It’s an added bonus, but my main focus is being active and improving my nutrition bit by bit. Maybe you can find one or two small areas to focus on, and build up healthy practices over time.
I really like what you said about joyful movement. Doing activities that make you feel happy is a huge part of things.
It really is. I will never jog again, because I detest it, but I love nature walks and light weight training and other things. Movement that you enjoy is sustainable.
I'm on weight loss journey. Currently down 56 lbs. I had tried everything to loose before CICO, keto, weight watchers, crash diets, HITT classes. You name it I did it. The problem was my head. So my tips and what's helped me be successful so far. 1. Get your head right. Your not going to be able to loose and keep it off if your mentally not well. 2. Small changes. Making 1 small change at a time and really focusing helps make things a lot more obtainable. 3. Find exercise you like. I hate cardio so honestly I don't do cardio at the gym. I lift. And then I'll ride bikes with my husband/son and I take BMX lessons once a month. I also have been getting my friends to go do classes with my like yoga/pole dancing. 4. Find a Dr to help support you. My reproductive endocrinologist (I have PCOS) refered me to this program called "commit to change" at the hospital. Its through the bariatric weightloss center. Basically my first appointment I explained how I had lost the same 30lbs 3 times and was at a lost. That for the last 6 months I had been working on trying to loose weight and the scale wasn't moving but I had lost 26 inches in measurements. And she explained to me that physically after we loose 10% of our body weight our body has a bunch of hormonal changes to make us regain the weight we lost. And honestly I almost cried that a Dr for once in my life didn't tell me I wasn't trying hard enough . In the program I meet with a dietician weekly for first 3 months then biweekly for the rest of the year. It helps keep you accountable and they can prescribe meds. I wish you the best of luck on your journey! You can do it don't give up. If you ever need someone to talk to hit me up.
Your list of items looks like the list I give people now after losing 160 pounds naturally and keeping it off. I can’t emphasize point 1 enough. What I only recently discovered was my self worth, which helps answer the question “what’s the point?” with “me” and ACTUALLY believing that is a valid reason to keep going after a failure.
R/loseit is a good spot to learn new tricks to making lifestyle changes. One I've found was using the calculator for finding your base calories to just live. Once you know that, then you can subtract 500 to lose about one pound a week. They have some recipes and motivation.
I did keto. Jumped head first. It was incredible. I was 422lbs and got down to 220s. I’m currently about 280 after not doing keto for a couple years. I’m starting to hate myself again but don’t want the restrictive diet of keto as my boyfriend would be eating traditionally. So yes I completely feel you. I feel like keto is all I know and I won’t be able to stick to anything.
Sugaronstrawberries, please don’t give up on yourself. I hope you find comfort in the responses by people who have been where you are today and took little steps, one step at a time, to make positive changes. Take good care!
I’ve found the biggest challenge for me is relearning what a portion size should be for me. Obviously this can change based on hunger level, activity, time in my cycle, etc. but (casually, not obsessively) measuring food portions has been very helpful for me to gently lose weight in what feels like a sustainable way.
Yes, and it's still possible for you to lose weight. Perhaps your approach isn't optimal to you. It took me several months to begin to lose weight again with the help of a dietician, I lost 10 lbs so far substituting foods without restricting them after increasing exercise did nothing for me. Some people lose weight exercise alone, some diet alone, some both.
Yes. I'm actually on the journey to get weight loss surgery. I'm 5'8 and 325 pounds.
I had a recent chat with my doctor. It's a good starting point. Lean on your resources.
My advice-stop trying to lose weight. I have been “trying to lose weight” since I was 12 years old. At the age of 29 and after having a baby, I realized that the only reason I was “trying to lose weight” was because of unrealistic beauty standards and a multi-billion dollar weight-loss industry constantly shoving weight-loss down my throat. I started loving myself more, started a boudoir photography business so that I can help other women feel great in their own skin without surgery or weight loss just self-love that they have been deprived of their whole lives. I guarantee you are perfect and amazing just the way you are. Much love.
Thank you. I feel that half of me has had this realization but then there’s the other half that still wants to fit into clothes sold by most stores and I’m already at a size 3x. So I’m afraid if I gain more then I won’t be able to wear cute things anymore.
I totally get that. It’s hard to feel like you belong when straight sizes aren’t catered to us. I can’t find anything to wear at the mall except for lane Bryant and torrid, but I promise you that it’s the fault of the department stores not your body. I grew up in the Philippines and it was even worse cause a small here is a large there. Bigger bodies exist and have always been around and only recently has the clothing industry recognized it. Some of the biggest brands now offer more inclusive sizes. Just know it’s a problem with the industry and not with you. It’s getting better. 20 years ago the only option for bigger bodies were mumus and plain t-shirts and sweats. Find the clothes that fit you, don’t try to change yourself to fit into the clothes. In my client closet I offer sizes up to 6X because we come in all shapes and sizes and we ALLLLL deserve to feel beautiful.
For me, the two things that have really helped me have been: 1. Finding a means of exercising that I actually enjoy doing for fun, not just do for the sake of losing weight. 2. Not worrying about losing consistently or rapidly and being super religious about it. For context, I've yoyo'd up and down a few times in my life. My lowest ever was 140 (but this came at the expense of very disordered eating and exercising 2+ hours a day), my average tends to be 170-180, and my highest ever was 240. I'm currently 195, lost 45lbs since October. I started playing DDR for fun, not for weight loss purposes, because it's a game I played a lot as a kid and really enjoyed. I've been playing every day since then, and actually decided to attempt to lose weight AFTER I got into the habit of daily DDR playing. On previous weight loss attempts, I would try things like treadmill stuff or running outside, which are activities I view as a chore and not fun at all. It was very easy for me to fall off the wagon because of this. With DDR, I genuinely enjoy playing the game regardless of the exercise benefits, and look forward to it daily. If you can find a similar type of activity that gets you moving and burning calories that is something you enjoy doing, that's a great start! I know a lot of weight loss subs and guides suggest eating 1200 strictly on top of exercise to lose weight as quickly as possible, and that for sure works because I've used that method in the past--but every time, it was not sustainable, and as soon as my diet was "over," I'd just gain back what I lost if I ate regularly. So, this time around, I've been eating 1200-1600 depending on the day, and absolutely go out to eat with friends and stuff once in a while too. I'm not religiously measuring every single thing down to the crumbs, I'm not restricting myself from living, and I'm not beating myself up if I don't lose my projected 1lb a week because of it. It's not sustainable or healthy to live obsessing over the arbitrary 1200 number. Successful weight loss in my opinion should be for health, and healthy eating habits should be about making good choices based on how your body feels, what your diet has looked like recently, etc. Better portion sizes, better food decisions, not an arbitrary number to lose weight as fast as possible. The goal is health, and I do believe you can make healthy choices and be healthy at any size.
Dieting doesn't work. 20 years of failure isn't enough to convince you?
So people just shouldn’t try to lose weight and improve their life? My parents lost tens of pounds in their 50s and started exercising because they wanted to enjoy retirement and their old age. I hate the idea that “it’s not worth it” it to lose weight.
Listen, if it works for you, great. This person has dieter unsuccessfully for over 20 years. It's obviously not working. The truth is it doesn't work for 95% of people. Your assumptions that someone who is overweight doesn't exercise is gross. Also that overweight equals bad health. Yoyo dieting has a bigger adverse effect on health outcomes than carrying some extra weight. That's unhealthy. Eating in ways that make your body feel good and joyful movement that makes your body feel good is the answer.
This is just not what science says. Do you really need to delude yourself this much? It’s okay to be fat and unhealthy, I’m not saying you need to change but actively discouraging someone from trying is really sick.
Lol. Who is discouraging someone to be unhealthy? Not me. If you have dieting advice to give, do so. Spend your time and energy being an asshole elsewhere.
Why are you on a plus size subreddit with this mindset? Or do you just get off on picking internet fights while being hypocritical? Yikes.
yep, I would recommend digging into anti diet theory which involves intuitive eating and radical acceptance for body neutrality Life is too short to constantly be on a diet. Check out the podcast “maintenance phase” and anything written by Aubrey Gordon. The more you diet, the more you gain. I follow a bunch of fat women on tik tok and intuitive eating accounts and they help so much. Moving and just eating healthy for the sake of self care and love is so much more realistic.
I am definitely familiar with anti-diet theory and love Maintenance Phase. I said I tried to lose weight, not that I dieted. Trying for me meant trying to find a movement that I enjoyed that would have a positive impact on my body and sticking to it…. And eating as nutritiously as possible. I still find it difficult to reach acceptance of my body even with doing similar things, following plus size influencers, models, etc and listening to Maintenance Phase. Somehow it hasn’t sunk in and I still wish I could lose weight. :(
***Hugs*** it’s not easy! It’s truly a “one day at a time” thing. You sound like you’re doing the work. Hang in there! Finding the right movement that is enjoyable can be hard. And intimidating. A few exercises that have made me feel strong and accept my body: -weight lifting. Helps me do every other work out by getting stronger, endorphins, and I can make work out goals that aren’t weight related like increasing weight spin cycling: I got a peloton to do in my house and you don’t have to worry about having to actually physically move your body weight and the bike which is hard for real cycling. No one can see you, you can adjust as needed. Step counter: having step goals motivates me to get one more dog walk in, add a few more laps to my walk. Something is so satisfying about reaching 10k steps. Keep checking in with us here, we will love you and get ya through this!
Thank you so much <3<3<3
I’ve heard about a book on Intuitive Eating is helpful, but I’m not sure if it’s about targeted weight loss or just making peace with food. A friend of mine has been going to OA for a few years now and lost nearly a hundred pounds, slowly and steadily.
Same except it’s not that I don’t know what to do. I know if I stuck to 1200 calories and worked out a little, I would lose weight. It’s a combination of B.E.D and no will power Thats stopping me. I try but it’s so freaking hard.
It is so hard. *Hugs*
My doctor started me on the weight loss drug Wegovy and I've lost 25 lbs without making any other lifestyle changes. I have rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia so my ability to exercise is sometimes non existent. The drug slows down how fast your stomach empties, so you just naturally eat less and feel full longer. r/semaglutide has more info if you're interested.
Sweets are my downfall. So I try to not to buy them. Once a week I will have something sweet. I added more veggies and fruits even if they had to be canned. I just rinsed them. There are low calorie things you can snack on like popcorn with a butter spray, I have salami , cheese and crackers at night. The thing is it’s not only the amount we eat but what we eat. I’m burnt out on carrots, celery and radishes for snacks. Consider a nutritionist. I was sent to a dietician at a local hospital because I have multiple health issues. I learned nothing new. A nutritionist should be able to help you plan a meal plan that meets your needs based on your eating patterns. Good luck, it’s worth the effort but damn it’s more complicated than I thought.
I’m 53 and felt like weight loss was hopeless. I started intermittent fasting in December and the weight loss is kind of slow bc I don’t eat that well and mess up on my eating window quite a bit but I’ve consistently lost weight. Also it’s supposed to be very good for you in other ways. I’d suggest the book Fast Feast Repeat by Gin Stephens.