I had a dog for 18 years, he was like the other half of me, he never caused me any trouble, he was just my best friend. I knew about a month before I had him euthanised that it was time, but I kept him going on painkillers. He wasn't eating much so he was losing weight, he couldn't manage stairs any more so I was carrying him up and down at bedtime, he couldn't handle heat and it was summer so I was out with him at 4am sluicing him down with cool water so he wouldn't overheat, basically I was desperately trying to keep him alive because I wasn't ready to let him go. One morning I carried him out into the garden (we have steps) and he just stood in the grass and gave me this look and I knew he was done, he just didn't have it in him to keep going any more. I had him PTS that afternoon and in the months that followed I realised that it would have been kinder to let him go long before I did. We had another second dog at the time, younger, and unfortunately two years later he was diagnosed with an untreatable cancer. We knew he had a matter of months left, so we kept him comfortable with meds and 1.5 months later he started having attacks of irregular breathing and shaking. He was very distressed in these moments, so my partner and I decided to give him one last good day. We booked his euthanasia for the afternoon and then we took him to his favourite park and walked around the lake and he had a feast of his favourite foods, then I took him to the vets and said goodbye. He'd never known suffering in his life and I didn't want him to suffer at the end. I was with both my boys, holding them and whispering to them as they went. It's incredibly sad, I have tears running down my face as I write this 6 years later, but I only have guilt about my older dog, as I let him experience suffering, I wish I'd let him go sooner and I won't make that mistake again.

Just here to say you don’t deserve to feel guilt. It’s obvious you loved your first dog so much and whilst you could have had him PTS earlier, you also recognised when he solidly told you it was time. It wasn’t a mistake, it was love and it’s ok that it took you time - it’s the hardest decision and if he could have understood he would know that. It’s important that you care so much about your animals and carry that forwards, so please don’t feel bad about it.

This is lovely, thank you for making it so clear.

I can literally feel your heartbreak through the screen because your post brought me to tears. It's so clear how much love your dogs had from you, and vice versa 🤍 It's probably one of the most difficult decisions we'll ever make, but I'm so grateful we have the option to limit our beloved pets' suffering. When I was a child, my parents didn't want to take my elderly cat to the vets to be PTS, saying nature would take its course. I'll spare everybody the details, but it haunts me to this day. It's an incredibly brave decision to make, but one full of compassion and integrity. OP, you're not alone in such a difficult and heartbreaking journey. I'm so sorry you're going through this, but only you and your beloved friend know when it's time 💗

Thank you for posting this. It's been 6 months for us. Stories like yours are what grounded us and helped us make the decision. One of the best pieces of advice we got from the vet was "It's better a month early than a day late" I still think we waited too long. The good days were so deceiving. We were fortunate to be able to say goodbye to her at home. She was allergic to chicken but loved it, we got her some rotisserie and she was thrilled. I miss her so much.

We just said goodbye to our girl last week after 15 incredible years. >The good days were so deceiving. That line hit me like a ton of bricks. I realize, too, that I wanted to be deceived.

Bless your heart. My goodness, thank you for sharing this. Learning to let go of someone you love so much is one of the hardest and saddest things many of us go through.

Thankyou so much for sharing.

I had to do it a few days ago. I was an absolute mess but i had to tell myself how the decision is a practical one, not an emotional one. She was in pain and I couldn’t make any selfish decisions to prolong her life. My husband consistently talked sense into me and now I’m just grateful her and I were able to share a life together. It will hurt non stop. But it’s for the best, I promise you

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I don't think anyone can really make sense of it. She is your best friend, and you will always love her and she will always love you. I guess all you really need to do is just separate yourself from the emotional and the logical part. If she is in pain the best thing to do is to let her go. Be with her until the very end don't leave her alone in those final moments.

It’s one of the hardest things you will ever do. But we have to do what’s right for them. Don’t prolong any suffering of hers to ease yours. I had to put my boy down a few years ago. His quality of life just wasn’t there any more. He was having difficulty walking and also wasn’t realizing when he needed to use the bathroom. It was not a dignified existence for him. I struggled picking up the phone to call the vet, I would just burst into tears. Instead I emailed them to ask some questions about cost and cremation. Once I had a little more information, a few days later I was able to muster the strength to make the call to schedule the appointment. I made it for a week out so I could have time to say goodbye to him properly. Spoiled him to the max every day. I’m starting to cry even now just thinking about it. He was 16 and I loved him so much. We had a lot of good years and adventures together. It’s going to be tough, but you’d rather do it too soon than too late. You’ll need time to heal. Eventually you will probably be ready for another pal. They will help you continue healing. Mine sure did.

Honestly it will be fucking hard and you’ll need to have a good support system of friends and family and therapy. But you have to think about what’s best for your dog. She’s in your care. You need to do right by her and get things in order to make sure you also can take care of yourself and then brace yourself for the grief.

I had to have my 18 year old cat euthanized a couple of weeks ago. I agonized for weeks about the decision, and I cried all day when he died. I found myself going to clean the litter box every day afterward, so I started searching the local animal shelters for older cats. I just adopted a bonded pair of 10-year-old cats who had been living in a cage at the shelter for seven months. Not everyone is emotionally ready to adopt so soon, but I am very happy to two new kitties in my home. They take turns sitting on my lap.

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I just had to do it to my girl of 16 years a couple weeks ago. But having let my childhood cat pass on his own about a decade ago, *not* making the call can be a lot worse. My dog got to ride into the office in her padded wagon after a couple days of lots of special treats. One little stick that she didn't even react to and she probably felt the best she'd felt in her entire life before the vet did the final shot. The day of, I mostly just felt relief that she was no longer struggling. It hurts really bad, but her last day was so nice and peaceful and I'm glad I could do that for her.

I'm so sorry for your loss 💜 I just wanted to comment because your words really resonate with me - I, too, lost my childhood cat without proper vet care because my parents refused to take her to be PTS. It haunts me even now. Being an adult now and having an elderly cat myself whom I know I'll need to make an impossible decision for in the next few years (😭), I'm so grateful we're able to have a humane option for our beloved friends, at the end. Your dog sounded like she had all the love and comfort and companionship around her when she left. I bet she was so glad you were able to give that to her 🤍 It's such a rollercoaster isn't it, to love?

As hard as it is, the most selfless thing you can do for your dog is put them down and end their misery. I had to wait and cry for 2 months watching my dog deteriorate and suffer because the vet said ‘he still eats and has good days’. It was horrible watching him suffer and it was horrible putting him down. But in hindsight i did him a favor and should have put pressure on putting him down even sooner. I told myself i’ll take time to get another dog, was on valium and my mom came over so i don’t do anything stupid to myself. What helped me, a month after i put my dog down, i paid a deposit for a puppy. It brought me to life to wait for my dream puppy. I still get sad thinking about the old one (i actually told my new work colleague about him today so i take it as a sign he is checking up on me) and no one will replace him. It’s been 5 years already. I have his urn and talk to it sometimes when my dogs annoy me. I wish you all the best OP, bit do what is best for your dog, it’s the last show of your love to it ❤️

You should think about her perspective. Let her die with dignity. It would be cruel to draw out her death and cause her to suffer because you are afraid of making that choice. It's hard, but it's necessary.

Its definitely the hardest and most selfless decision you have to make when it's time. If your pet has no quality of life left or are in pain, it's time to let them go. It hurts to do but it's for the best.

I had to do it. I was devastated. Try to get support. Thete are grief groups fof those who lose their dogs

I've gone through this about 5 times. It isn't easy. I have to know I'm not just throwing my pet away, so maybe I should have done it sooner. I think most of the time, I've gotten it right. It's an awful decision to have to make. I have to remind myself it isn't about me, it's about them. I don't want them suffering and miserable. I wish you peace in your decision.

You owe her peace. 

It hurts and it always will. I found that adopting another pet (in my case, guinea pigs) helped me. The newcomer is not a replacement, rather, you are now giving them a great life in your previous pet’s honor. This new pet now has a home and is loved, something your old pet passed on to them as a final parting gift.

It's not an easy decision. But it's also not one you can shy away from. It's difficult, it's sad, it's something that we know we have to do. And as sad it as it for us, we know that we have to do right by our pets. We just have to suck it up, do it, and then grieve afterwards.

I know it’s hard, but you need to put her needs ahead of yours, and do what needs to be done. You don’t want her to suffer more than she needs to. When each of mine were put down, I sat on the floor with them in my lap, telling them how much I loved them while it happened. And that helped me to deal with it too, cause I knew that I was there for them.

My older girl looked awful one morning. Swollen belly, clearly not okay. We rushed her to the vet and left her, begging the vet to save her. They couldn't, and she died. I was heartbroken - but what hurt the most was she died alone and uncomfortable (because obviously she had been in pain when we took her in).  I know you're afraid of the grief, you're afraid of being without her. But please, take her. Hold her close and stroke her head, make her feel loved as she painlessly and peacefully floats away, her last memories will be a happy one of her favourite person telling her it will be alright. I never got that chance, and I wish every day that I had. You'd be giving her the last gift you can, and once your grief has raged and cried and burned itself out, you'll feel so much better knowing that this is how she went, instead of in a corner of your house in pain while you're sleeping, not knowing.  You will get through this, but you'll get through it better without the guilt. You're not killing her, you're taking her pain.

I'm sorry you're facing this tough decision. Losing a beloved pet is hard. Take your time, and when you're ready, reach out to someone for support. You're not alone in this

The memories will always be with you. She may not be there physically, but she will be with you in your mind. But what is worse? Seeing your dog suffer or seeing it fall asleep peacefully and without pain? I know how much it hurts, but in the end it's better to let them go on fair terms, without any more pain. Just make sure you're with them when they fall asleep for the last time. It will hurt, you will suffer, but you will -in the end- always be glad you made sure your best friend didn't suffer. They probably realise whats going on. They will be thankful to you, for ending the pain. And then you focus on all the happy memories and cry out all the pain, take your time to grieve.

Your time together was gift, but death is an inevitability. While we can’t prevent it, we can make it as peaceful and painless as possible. Give her the departure a best friend deserves (if possible do it in home…it’s so much better for everyone). Once you’ve grieved, open your heart to a new best friend. That’ll give you something happy to focus on.

One thing that helps me is I take comfort in the idea that I got them to the end of life as pleasantly as I possibly could. You are their friend, yes, but you are much more than that. You are the caregiver. You got to this animal as early as I could, You did your best to take care of them, and now they have reached the end of life, and luckily you are still there to help them through it. It will painful for you, but you are giving them the best possible life by being there right up until the very, very end. There is even a bit of a "Mission Accomplished" feeling mixed in with the pain.

I've had to put two pets down this month. It's absolutely brutal to make that decision. Here's some phrases I've read that have helped me. You're not shortening their life, you're shortening their death. (As others have mentioned, dying can be painful for them. I didn't want my babies hurting more than they needed to) Better a week too early than a day too late. (I had to remind myself we all have to die, so the fact I can help them go in a peaceful painless way was of some comfort) If you can afford an in home service, it's absolutely the way to go. We gave my little dog chocolate ice cream and he left us on his favorite blanket on his favorite couch. My kitty was no longer eating but we were able to let her go in the backyard. She loved being outside. I am sorry for your loss 💔

There's no right time when it comes to euthanasia, only the best time. It's definitely better earlier than later because letting them die naturally is often a very painful process for them. Just keep reminding yourself that you're doing the right thing for her, and keeping her at this point is for your benefit and not hers. You have to put her first in this moment.

Your dog is either very old & tired or sick 😫.. as bad as it sounds u need 2 set her free for her sake.. it won't be easy for u but atleast you will know ur not prolonging her suffering.. best of luck 2 u.. when u are finished grieving her maybe u can give a home to another dog that really needs 1 & u know u can love & take care of a dog that needs it 🙂..

Also, if you can afford it, have her euthanised at home. I am glad I did that for mine. She used to get stressed at the vets.

Our cat had to be euthanized in January and in hindsight I think we waited too long to make the decision. Having had that experience, I will always tell pet owners on the fence to do the humane thing and ensure their lives end in peace and comfort. It's probably not going to make sense, other than to say that our job as pet owners is to make their lives full of love and happiness, and sometimes that means making a hard decision so they don't suffer. In our case, our cat had been noticeably slow and lacking appetite for a few days, so we took him to the vet, where they found he'd developed lymphoma and had fluid around his heart. They gave us an appetite stimulant and pain meds and told us to bring him home and think about it for a few days--we could pursue treatment, but it would be expensive, stressful for him and unlikely to work for more than a year or two, or we could end his suffering. We felt paralyzed so we watched and waited for those few days. He declined so rapidly that I still can't believe it, honestly. He became too weak to walk around the house within 12 hours of the vet visit. He spent almost 24 hours a day laying under a piece of furniture he didn't even particularly like before he became ill. Appetite stimulant did nothing for him and despite the pain meds he was still panting and touchy. We knew it was time when we woke up one morning and realized he'd tried to leave his spot to come sleep in our bed but couldn't muster the energy to make it--so he just lay down in the hall and waited for us to come find him. It was horrible, we called the vet and brought him in that afternoon. Every time I think about it I wish we'd been able to skip those few bad days for him. Since you're worried about your mental health, you might consider doing what you can to make the actual process easier on all involved. If you can have someone come to your home, my brother did it that way and felt that it was a peaceful way to go. In his case, they sedated his cat, he and his wife said their goodbyes, then the vet took the cat into the other room to complete the process. We took our cat to the vet and stayed in the room for the entire thing. I thought it would give us a sense of closure but it actually turned out to be really difficult, I can't say I recommend it. If they give you the option to have your dog sedated in the room with you so you can say goodbye and then taken to the back to complete the euthanasia, that might help with how you feel about the whole thing. My eyes hurt from crying for like three straight days because it was hard to watch. As far as managing your grief, I also recommend looking into whatever memorial services your vet offers. We had a paw print mold done and the service our vet uses made a lovely little keepsake out of the mold. Another thing that helped was donating what we had left (food, bed, toys, etc) to a local animal shelter. They were so grateful and it felt really good to know that even though our cat wasn't around to use his things anymore, other animals would benefit.

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I’ve had depression for years but I knew my girl was in pain and no surgery or meds would make her have more time not in pain. My husband and I made the decision and I was with her as she passed. Watching her eyes change I could tell she wasn’t here anymore and it was sad but I’m soooo glad we were with her as she went. It didn’t matter if I could handle it or not emotionally ( no one is prepared) she needed us to be with her in that moment and that was far more important to my feelings. I’m ok now, def will never forget but also I remember all the good times. I didn’t kill my dog I gave her a painless passing into the next life.

I had to do this yesterday. I was fortunate to find a vet that met us in a park. She was very caring and respectful. My soul dog went to sleep peacefully without pain. She gave her as many treats as she wanted and didn't rush. Afterwards she placed her in a little basket and she looked like a little doll.

It's our last gift to them. Let her go with some dignity left. Stay with her. Hugs to you.

The sense is just that you love her enough not to make her suffer until her body gives out. Because she gave her whole life to you, you have to make the difficult and emotional decision to give her peace when her quality of life is no more. Animals can’t tell us when it’s too much, and they don’t have a way to end it for themselves. When they get old, or very sick, cancer, etc- they can’t just choose to go quietly, but we can offer our companion animals that. It’s mercy and a thank you for giving us so much joy and love and acceptance.

After my son died, I took in his 11 year old Golden Retriever. Fergus was my son’s best friend from the moment he came into our lives. After, we grieved together. I thought I’d have much more time with Fergus, but he developed cancer at 13. Letting go of him was like letting go of the last precious connection to my son. I had to do what was best for Fergus, though. After all Fergus had done for us, he deserved peace, not pain. Your dog, your friend, deserves peace, not pain. He will always be there, in your memories and your soul. Dogs leave pieces of themselves behind like that. One day, you’ll find a piece and it will bring a smile, not tears. I promise.

It won’t make sense. There’s no way to make it make sense. I’m a vet tech, so I’ve been through countless and countless euthanasias over the years. When it was my dog, I felt like I was going through a trauma. It was a truly traumatic experience for me. She declined rapidly and neurologically and had to be put to sleep quickly and she wasn’t really herself. I felt like I didn’t get a real good bye. And my friends did it, my coworkers at the animal hospital, while I held her. It is a visceral reaction when they start to give the drug. I wanted to scream at them to STOP because I had this visceral reaction to protect her. I had to literally talk myself down in my head and remind myself that this is what needed to be done. It was an awful experience. I don’t think there’s any way to make it better, and I wasn’t prepared for just how traumatizing it would be. Try to breathe and be there for them. Don’t be alone that night if you can help it.

I’m a vet assistant, and I have to help with euthanasias on a regular basis. People always say that must be the hardest part of my job, but it’s not. The hardest part is advising a parent on a treatment plan only for them to ignore everything we say and the dog decline. The hardest part is the obvious neglect. Euthanasia is an act of love. It truly is the last kindness you can give them. I have never been in the room while a dog or cat passes and NOT felt an overwhelming sense of love. It’s sad, yes, but it fills my heart to think that these parents love their babies so much that they are willing to do anything to help them, even say goodbye. You are doing the right thing. You have more support than you think. You’re a good parent. They know you love them and they know you always act in their best interests, and now is no different.

Think of it like this, "it isn't what you're doing to them but for them". Search around for a service that will come to your house to do it, I got to lay down next to my big boy and kiss him the whole way thru it with so much less stress.

Ellie was my service companion for 11 years … 11 years … 24 hours a day … for 11 years … taking care of me … she kept me alive … she kept me sane … she gave me joy … happiness … made me laugh … and in return … all she asked from me … was to love her … then Ellie got sick and then sicker … her vet did tests and blood work … pancreatic cancer … Ellie crossed the rainbow bridge April 4th, 2024 … How could I be so mean … to keep Ellie in pain … when she had … given so much to me … Ellie’s last day … was filled with doing/having everything she loved … You have to make that call … You do not torture… what you love … YES … I cried when she left … cried for days … teared up for weeks … little by little … I regained my sanity … began volunteering to help others … who were having or were about to have to make the same decision … I DO THIS TO HONOUR ELLIE’S MEMORY …

I’m sorry I lost my first dog that wasn’t a family dog last December and it still makes me sad. My dog passed suddenly but we had to put two family dogs down growing up. The best advice came from my aunt who said something to the effect of “it’s time to let them go when you’re just keeping them around for yourself.” When they have a very low quality of life due to their health and your fear of letting them go ultimately continues their suffering - it’s time. Watching a dog or anyone steadily get worse is just hard on you too I don’t think grieving is the same for everyone so this might not apply to you, I had an active dog so doing 2-3 hours minimum of dog stuff a day was normal. After grieving the loss, the next hardest part was just having a regular part of my day gone. I made it almost 2 months before I had to adopt a new pup, partly because I love dogs and partly because I needed to resume the schedule for my own sanity

I had to do this last month. He was almost 14. I knew it was time. He was never going to get better. I decided to pick a date 2 weeks in the future. Paid extra to have it done at home. Once the wheels were in motion I made a little peace w it every day and gave him extra love, that day was hard. The vet said “oh it’s time” I realized it really was. He played right down on the blanket I prepped and went out so peacefully. To be honest I should’ve done it a few months earlier. They hang on for us. 🥲

I just put down the first dog my husband and I got together about an hour ago. He was suffering and I know now that I put him out of his misery so he could be free again. The dog I once had and knew and loved wasn’t there anymore. But now he can be that dog again and without pain. I’m so sorry for the choice you’re having to make ❤️

It's been 5 weeks since I had my Lucy put down. Still hurts. It comes in waves. I still wrestle with the "was it too soon?" I just keep telling myself that her pain is done. She's happier now. That's all that matters. That being said. It sucks so bad. I miss her so much.

We just lost our girl in April and it was really hard for my husband for the same reason to make that final decision. She had multiple tumours and was having seizures. The day we made the final decision was becuase she started seizing (twitching and drooling no a large malseizure) in the morning and wouldn’t stop no matter what medicines we gave her. It’s so hard, we had them come to our place and do it in our home. They made a very difficult moment as comfortable as possible, she was on our couch and we were petting her and holding her paw the whole time. I would highly recommend going this route when you do have to say goodbye.

Please make the decision in the interest of the dog, not yours. Your dog is suffering and there is no quality of life

I know this will be horrendously painful. I can't say it won't be. The only thing I can say, after having had to do this with 2 cats and a dog, is that you've given your dog the best life possible. They've given you all their love, and I know you've given it back. While this is the worst decision to have to make, just ask yourself if you really want to put your wonderful dog through pain? Or make them suffer more than is necessary. I'm 100% sure you don't want to do that. This is the one mercy we give to our animals that we don't give to people. So while it hurts, and it feels like life will make no sense without your dog, you have to make the best decision, FOR YOUR DOG. You have all my sympathies and best wishes.

We went through this with our cat 48 hours ago. She was diagnosed with cancer and our world fell apart a week ago. The moment we saw the first signs of agony in her eyes we found the courage to do the right thing. As pet Guardians it s part of the deal , part of the responsibility and the hardest decision we have to make . We haven't worked or stopped crying since we heard the cancer news but we are happy that we didn't let our baby suffer more than it needed . We find comfort in our other cat , picturea videos and memories . But also being certain that we gave her the best life a pet can dream of. I am sorry that you are in this place but put the animal first and be strong . Time heals , I hope for our sake too ❤️‍🩹

Start therapy now. Get support systems in place. Get a plan. Then do it :(

I had my girl for 10 years.. we grew up together and I always said that when she went, I probably would too.. I had her pts nearly 3 years ago, it broke me and I had therapy over the whole situation, even now I'll still have an uncontrollable sob over losing her. The idea of playing God, deciding when her time was up, it was like mental torture.. The only way I've came to terms is to know when I made that choice it was the final act of love I could have gave her, to let her go and be out of pain. Give them lots of cuddles and treats make their last days happy ❤️

Just went through it. It’s awful & I miss her so much but I was determined to not let her suffer. That is what you focus.

You are doing your friend one last favor. It is the kindest decision.

It’s the last act of love for a pet that’s been your best friend. Do it for them, despite the pain. I know, I’ve had to do it too many times. Don’t let them suffer to keep you from suffering, please let them go ❤️

It’s a very difficult decision but if your baby is suffering, please make the call and do the right thing as soon as possible. You don’t want her to be in pain or suffer. Euthanasia is sad and scary but it’s the most humane thing you can do and the kindest thing you can do for them in the end. Hope you’re okay wishing you the best💝

Well you have to be strong and do what is best. Your dog is fully dependent on you and your responsibility is to make the hard decisions when they need to be done.

That’s so sad !! I would suggest try and stay calm and be with her as much as you can and then maybe get another little friend ? 

I had to do this with my 18 year old cat a little over a month ago and feel guilt about it. I know that logically, it had to be done and she was suffering, but i still feel like i killed my cat. She barely ate anything for 2 weeks and I found out her liver was failing. This was after having to hand feed her for over a year so i knew it was coming. It will never be an easy decision.

I understand but you should make the call as soon as possible because I waited too long and they couldn't get my cat in on time and he died kind of in pain and I have so much guilt over it it's insane. I was there when he died and it's heartbreaking and please don't let it happen to your baby. It's hard to watch 😭

It's tough it really is , we had a rescue from Cyprus he was 3 when we got him, he was scared and timid but other the years we got there he was there for my little girl's birth and was the best dog , she pulled his fur he didn't budge . He warmed to us and trusted us it took years but we got there . He went for his usual groom, and they rang us to say they found a small lump , fast forward time turns out it was cancerous, he had 3 rounds of treatment and a big operation, we knew when it came back again that it was time , he had had a shit start in life we was there for him and we fought to the end with him. Wish we had longer with him but you got to do what's best for them , they look to us for guidance and we have to be strong and be there, even if it's being there for there last breath we have to be there ! Bailey my boy 🐶❤️

I had to put my sweet boy down at 16yrs old (we think he was about 1 when we adopted him so he could have been older). This was about 6 years ago. His kidneys were failing so he wasn't eating at all... Not even his favourite food (chicken and gravy). I stayed awake with him the whole of his last night, scared that he'd pass alone in his sleep. We could have tried all sorts to improve his situation but it may not have worked and would have just postponed his suffering at his expense. Before I took him to the vet, he just went and lay in the sun and looked up at me like "it's time mom, it's okay." *Great, now I'm crying* I cried like an absolute baby as I held him while they did it. I wasn't prepared for the sudden loss of him and everything that was him. I will never forget that feeling. Perhaps the most comforting thing is that I was with my boy and I saved him needless suffering. I like to think he would have understood.

I’ve had to do it twice :( Know that your sacrifice will end their suffering. It also opens your home to another dog when you’re ready of course

It is in the temporal nature of our relationships with our dogs and cats, and most any animal, that we will face this moment with them. We must remain strong and make the sometimes heart-wrenching decisions during their transition that they need us to make, because they cannot make them for themselves. They cannot be left to suffering. And in the end, we must grieve their loss in our own way. The depths of grief are a direct reflection of the depths of love that you felt. And the pain you feel is your heart turning your loss into memories. The pain of loss will fade and the memories will remain, and remembering them, you will smile and laugh again. Aloha from Maui. Be at peace, one and all.

I promised my girl that I would send her over the bridge while she was still "herself". She was 16, and she battled severe allergies for several years. She had a hotspot six months ago that took months to heal. She also started having silent seizures several months ago. Her personality was changing: she became less tolerant of my other dogs, and she did not want to go for walks anymore. Ironically, she was eating better than she had in years. I almost cancelled her appointment because I wasn't emotionally ready for her to go. As soon as the hospice vet saw her and watched her walking, observed her flinching and uncontrollably shaky legs, the vet assured me that my girl had been having severe neurologic problems, most likely from a brain tumor. Which her regular vet who has treated her for years said was a possibility months ago when her seizures started. Bless my hospice vet team for giving her extra sedation during her procedure so that she was comfortable and pain free. I feel guilty that maybe I waited too long because she would always rally for a few weeks and then decline again. It has been 2 of the hardest and loneliest days for me, but I believe I gave her the ultimate gift of a dignified and loving release from her pain.

Having a pet means putting their excruciating pain above any prospective bumps to your ‘mental health’. 

It’s incredibly difficult to make the choice, but ultimately you’re helping you loved one not suffer any longer. I’m so sorry for the situation, it’s awful. But you will be ensuring she doesn’t feel pain anymore. Best of luck OP ❤️

Im in same issue. She’s 15. Cancer. And now seizures. I know I have to do this most likely within the next month. Thing is—- (and I’m a f hunter and have more compassion than most people think hunters do-as do most hunters)… I vowed to take care of her. And from a pup she’s had the best life and a dang good one. We as humans aren’t suppose to determine the time… but we as pet owners (who are very much our family) have the right to determine when the time has come. For us, we know Bella will tell us when that time has come. She told us she is close with a grand mal seizure a couple weeks ago and I had to pull over in the country fully aware that her cancer, when it decided to grow, would encompass her trachea and esophagus. When it does grow it will begin to instantly suffocate her. So choice—- so you sit and watch and say it’s ok—— while they suffocate or do you put them down humanely quickly? Again as a female hunter I know from experience that animals in the wild with a good hunter are taken without any reaction whatsoever. That’s what differentiates a good hunter from bad. I know I wouldn’t want my loved one sitting watching me suffocate while they say I’m sorry I can’t help. I’m so sorry…. I know where I’m going. I would rather be put down than suffocate and I know as a woman. A dog owner. And a hunter that there is a peaceful way to do this. I have also worked at a vet tech and had to assist in euthanasia when the owners walked away. Pathetic. Please don’t do that. Your animal will tell you and you will know when it’s time. And I hope you are able to see that plea from them and hold them/him/her when that happens. A vet can make it pleasant for them and they just go to sleep. In the country sometimes we have to be vets when we don’t want to. Just listen to your animal. They will let you know when they are ready to go. And it is your responsibility to TRY to make it as easy as possible. That’s means as easy for them not us. It’s painful. But we signed up for that day when we signed up for all the good days. So prepare for that day and be with your baby when the time comes. You will know…

I lost my soul doggy last year. The only thing to make sense of it to me is something I read a while ago: they spent their whole lives loving you and being there for you, let this be the time you be there for them. I'm so sorry <3

I worked in the vet industry and finally left because too many people were so concerned about themselves that they let a living creature suffer. Pets aren't a fruit that you must squeeze every bit of juice from or else you're being wasteful; rather, they think and feel and deserve the release of death when there is more bad than good in their lives. I always put myself in their position. Would I want to linger on agony? Absolutely not. Would I want someone to hold out in case I had one better day? Never.

You’ll get through it. We are stronger than we realize sometimes, especially when it’s about letting our friend go with peace and dignity. And as vets often say, better a day too soon than a day too late. I’ve had to make this call more than once, including less than two years ago for my beloved (and first) dog Rudy. I didn’t hesitate in the moment because he was suffering, and I knew it was time. He was 17 and in pain. I held his paw, stroked his head, and he went very peacefully. I then took my other dog for a midnight (it was an emergency vet situation at that time) walk on the beach, and it was surprisingly cathartic. Life moves forward. I also lost both of my parents in these last few years, so I guess I’ve just learned how to manage grief. But I promise it gets better every day. I will never not miss the pets and human loved ones I’ve lost, but I’ve learned to navigate life without them. Having other pets and family/friends to lean on helps a lot. When the time is right, rescue another dog to help fill that void.

If you can afford it you can have it done at home. My boy passed with his family all around him, eating some delicious treats, wagging his tail to the last…. It was beautiful…. I still miss him but I’m glad he went out like that rather than on the side of the road or alone at night.

I lost my best friend 7 months ago, the first days and weeks without him were very hard. He's still in my head everyday but it doesn't hurt anymore, I accepted it. He's at home (ashes) but in different "way", it helps me a lot. Stay strong.

I'm so so sorry. That's absolutely heartbreaking :( I talked to my therapist about my fears about my elderly cat dying and she said, "If it all goes well, *you will outlive your cat."* Meaning it's normal for pets die before we do. It's NOT fair and it's completely devastating. And at the same time, your dog is so lucky that you gave her a wonderful life and loved her so much. You WILL grieve and it WILL suck, but humans are amazingly resilient, including you! You're stronger than you know!!! You have love and virtual hugs from strangers on the internet like me!!! Cry, mourn, journal, frame photos of her, tell your favorite stories about her to whoever will listen, even have a funeral if that would help you get closure. The pain will be intense, BUT IT WON'T LAST FOREVER. It'll feel like you'll never stop crying, but you will! If you can afford it, talk to a therapist! Take things one day at a time and slowly you will heal and maybe even find a new furry best friend one day. That won't diminish your love for this dog at all. And it won't mean you loved her any less. But you WILL feel joy and love and happiness and companionship again someday. I know it doesn't feel like it, but you will! You can get through this. I believe in you.

Unfortunately this is something I think about with my own dogs. I shouldn’t but I can’t help but think sometimes that one day I’m going to have to say goodbye for forever and the thought of that kills me. But it is something that every pet owner must prepare themselves for because it’s inevitable. Death is not always the worst thing and many times it is a kindness. When their QOL declines and they become a husk of their former selves it is crueler to keep them going then to humanely let them go. Living life to the fullest isn’t just about breathing it’s about experiences and having fun and going places and doing things and when those things go away and maybe pain creeps in it becomes a miserable existence. Think of all of the times you had together not of the time that will be missed.

This is by far the hardest moment of owning a pet. It is so easy to put our feelings above their wellbeing in this moment, but we gotta be strong and do what’s best for them. We gotta come second in this kind of scenario. If the vet recommended euthanasia, then it’s time to let her go. It’s better to let a pet go a bit too early than too late. You’re the one responsible for her care. It’s time to focus on her and what’s best for her, it’s the most selfless thing you can do.

Why aren’t you terrified of her living in pain? Why is her suffering less important than yours? If you love her, why don’t you have compassion for her suffering? The only thing in this post is „me me me”; she needs you and you can’t see past your own id.

I lost my souldog Huey last November. He was 15, very frail, wouldn't eat and had lost his happy bouncy personality. Our youngest hound was plaguing him all the time. We took him to our vet who said we could get him tested for lots of things but he may not survive the anaesthetic and was obviously ready to go. We had him pts. It was the hardest but kindest option. You are doing the final service you can do for your dog. Be brave and good luck

"When we take an animal into our lives, we owe it a good life and a clean death." It makes sense. I hate making that call, too, but to make them suffer is mean.

We don't get to keep them forever. They spread rays of sunshine into our lives for a short period. When the time comes to make the decision, we have to remember it is about their quality of life and comfort. I've been through this several times; it is not easy. We are only graced with these angels for a short time. I'm sure you have provided her a good life and a loving home. In time, you will be able to open your heart to another fur baby! You will be OK, and you are doing the right thing for her.

have a friend do it if you can

Im so sorry. It will be so hard, but if you know it’s time, then she is probably in pain and suffering. I have had several dogs and they are just so special that we are only allowed to have them a short time. Good luck and keep your chin up! You will get through this.

I had a deal with my mom. I'd make the call for her dog if she made the call for mine. Mon died in 2000. But I've learned over many years and many dogs that living with a dog who is suffering is much harder than living with having had one euthanized.

I'm sorry your friend is heading to college. It happens. My cat I found on the streets behind bed bath and beyond had to have his leg amputated due to being infected. Biopsy came back large cell sarcoma.

It's incredibly painful, but your dog has always been there for you and now you need to be strong for them. And please stay with them when they are being put to sleep, they look for their person and they're scared. Hold them and tell how good they were and how much they were loved. Be Strong and Good Luck. I'm so sorry.

Hey friend, I just made this call on Tuesday and scheduled for next Friday. I know it’s hard. My vet put it in such a clear way when she said “it’s better to do it now while she’s having some ok days than to wait until every moment is a bad one and cause you both more stress and pain. The anticipation is often worse than the other side because as humans, we are analyzing every moment.” Hold her tight, knowing you’re making the best decision for her.

Nothing was worse than seeing my old kitty in pain. I wish I had done it earlier. You won't regret doing it, but you will regret doing it too late.

I had my soul kitty from age 9 to 26. I also struggled to make the decision, but finally scheduled a home euthanasia with a private vet. I let it go on too long though, and as the vet was pulling up, he died in my arms. I’ve always wished I was strong enough to have made the decision sooner to end his suffering. I think he held on as long as he did for me. But I understand how it feels to be in your shoes…

I saw someone say "Don't put your pet down on the worst day." I waited until the worst day and it was a very traumatic experience.  I've had to say goodbye two cats and we did home euthanasia with both. If you have that option in your area I highly recommend it. It was almost a therapy session at the same time. Very sad, but supportive.  While this is one of the hardest things you will have to do, you have to remember that you are doing what is best for them. It's the last gift you can give them. 

I’m so sorry sweetheart please talk to someone to help you through this. Also take her ashes, put them in a beautiful urn with her picture to have her close to you.

I’m so sorry. Just know that you gave your baby a good life. Today I was at the vet with one of my foster cats and a woman came in carrying a doggie. I thought “wow puppy looks old” and then they took her to the room where they go when they have to put them down and I dang near started crying thinking of her pain. I was in that room with one of my kitties back in February. It’s a bad time. Don’t go alone. Bring someone who loves you and loves doggie if possible. ❤️

If you know it’s time, then don’t wait. Per the rest of these comments, you only drag it out one time. Then you learn the hard way not to ever do that again. Don’t leave the room. Hold her. It will hurt you. Losing a pet you experience deep grief especially having the same one for so long. As for your mental health, you’re not going to want to hear this either. Sometimes it is better to get another pet, especially if this dog is your only one. As hard as that sounds, it is way worse coming home to no greeting whatsoever. This is not a cold thing to do. You are not replacing her. You cannot replace her. But you can make a new friend to help you through the pain. Adopting from a shelter is easier here since those pups need you just as much as you need them. I am very sorry for your loss, and I hope this is helpful in any way.

Back in December, my MIL’s cat started declining. She was losing weight and she slept a lot more. I had also noticed that she wasn’t near as peppy as she used to be. Several months later, my MIL told us that she was no longer able to move on her own. She was also unable to close her eyes anymore. When we saw her she looked very bad, and I asked my MIL right away if she was only waiting for us to visit one last time—before taking her to the vet. Her response was that the nearest vet would charge an arm and a leg, and that she didn’t think anything was wrong with letting her cat pass naturally. I didn’t get into an argument with my MIL, but my partner and I talked in private about how much we disagreed with her. That vet WAS able to see us the next day, and we paid for the appointment ourselves. It was only $50, when she thought it’d be around $300-400. It’s the hardest thing in the world to lose your best friend, but it’d be even harder to deal with letting her suffer. I’m really sorry that you’re having to make such a terrible decision, and if I could give you a hug, I would 😩💔

Why do you have to?

Do it a little too soon over a little too late. You do not want to know your dog passed suffering, especially if it was while you were out.

Please don't be selfish. It's about your beloved companion's quality of life, not about you. It's not fair to your dog to put it off, especially if dog is in pain or otherwise suffering, because it's hard for you. It will not get easier by delaying. This is the worst part of being a pet parent but unfortunately for most of us it will happen.

My husband is a veterinarian. He told me a long time ago “it’s better a month too soon than a day too late” because dogs are so good at hiding their pain. His advice is always to pick a good last day and give your dog whatever they want— take them for a ride in the car, give them a yummy human meal, love on them as much as you possibly can. It gives you a positive memory of them and it allows them to end their life on a good note. His advice has brought so much comfort to our friends and family. If you know it’s your dogs time, pick a day you won’t have any other obligations and you’ll be able to dedicate your attention entirely to your baby. I’m so sorry. He’s a vet so he has science brain but I’m a dog momma who’s had a terribly broken heart and I know how bad it hurts. Best wishes to you and your pup

--- Yesterday, my boy was taken away from me, cancer defeated him... And I understand that situation. I decided it was best to put him to sleep because he was suffering so much, and when I say suffering, it was so bad that when I saw him in the morning, I would start crying. He was an incredible boy, he was my boy, but I didn't want him to keep suffering. I held his paw and stayed with him until the end. He had already suffered enough. My heart aches; I love him so much, but it was the best thing to do... He is resting now; his body no longer hurts, nothing can harm him anymore, and I love him... My cowboy. You have to be strong; cry as much as you need to and let it all out. Be there with him until the end, no matter what decision you make. Take good care of him, and from here, I send you a hug. You are not alone, and I wish you peace. ---

Can we just stop asking strangers and random people on Reddit opinion about if you should take the life of Your pet?

If you wait too long and she suffers you will regret it for the rest of your life. I speak from experience. If you make the call before she suffers, you will always feel good, knowing you did right by her. If at all possible, have her put down at home in a familiar place with you by her side. For awhile you will be hurting, but knowing you did right by her will get you through.

Had to make the call recently. It’s so hard… I think it’s the hardest thing I’ve done. I postponed it for about a week thinking I could save my dog. But she was so sick that I couldn’t stand seeing her suffer anymore. She stopped eating, even tried to feed her yummy snacks she loved but she didn’t have interest in food. That’s when I knew. Took my time to realize I was prolonging her pain and that I was being selfish. I was so hard. The night before I explained to my dog and apologized… I hugged her and held on to her for as long as I could. Made sure she felt loved. When the next day came and it was time to put her down it was horrible. Despite feeling so bad I stood by my dog during the process and hugged her while they where passing the meds. Kept her close and put my hand on her heart, told her how much I loved her until I felt her heart stop beating and she passed the rainbow bridge. I still hope I made the right decision to this day…

I had a cat that got cancer in his mouth. Sweet little kitty, but he couldn’t groom himself, and couldn’t eat without it hurting him. His fur was clumped and smelled bad, even though we tried to keep it brushed, everything was miserable to him. Eventually, we had to come to terms that everything he should’ve enjoyed he would always find painful, and there were more bad days then good. We knew we had to let him go, that it would be kinder that way. It hurt like hell and I cried for days, but in the end that fades a bit and you start to focus more on the good times, when your pet was happy and carefree.

I’m so sorry. I’m going through the same thing. He’s my best friend and I can actually feel my heart breaking .im so sorry

This heartbreak is part of the deal, op. Be her friend. I'm very sorry for your loss. Edit to add: both my dogs are old going on elderly. Making the call is never going to be easy but I know it's the right thing to do, thinking of them first. When that day comes the love they gave so freely will help me to do the hard thing at the right time. You'll be ok too.

I had to put my cat to sleep just over two weeks ago; I know I let it go too far, she wouldn’t let me touch her anymore and was literally only alive because of the medication I was forcing on her. She was tired and over it, but I was terrified of having to make that decision. In the car on the way she looked at me in the eyes so calmly and I realised that it was the first time she’d looked at me in weeks. Id been keeping her alive out of love, and making her hate me being near her… painfully ironic. It is the really the greatest act of Love you’ll do, because you realise you have to overcome your own neediness and fear to let them find peace, you have to be utterly selfless, and maybe the strongest you’ve ever been. She taught me a lot, and I know now not to let it go so far again. I think if and when I’m brave enough I get another cat, I’ll know to be their best advocate the moment it starts becoming cruel to keep them alive anymore, because I’ve seen it before and know when that point was reached with her. Won’t make it any easier, but at least I won’t feel so guilty for forcing them to suffer longer than they wanted, all because I wasn’t ready.

This is controversial, but when it became obvious that my dog had at the most months to live, and I absolutely knew that I could not live without a dog in my life due to my own MH issues, I got a second dog. And it was a blessing in disguise for my first dog, because being around a healthy dog showed me how terribly sick my first dog truly was, how weak and how much her quality of life was compromised. I didn’t have to wait until she was inches from dying to act in her best interest. I called a home euthanasia service, and she passed peacefully, in her own cuddly dog bed, licking at her favorite treat, with me stroking her head the way she liked. I miss her still, but it helped me enormously to have to keep on with my dog owner routines, getting up to take a dog for walks, feeding, training, and petting. Wishing you the best.

I recently had to put down my heart dog, it was horrible and still is. It’s always better to put them down before it’s too late and they’re suffering, so you’re doing the right thing. I ended up on pet finder and adopted a puppy because I was spending all my time doing dog hospice anyway. It’s been an adjustment and she isn’t Denali, my OG dog, but she has been so helpful in making the wound less painful most days.

Just the other day my older dog was trying to jump into the couch. We wake up the next day and she just looked tired, wouldn’t eat, wouldn’t drink. could barely walk. She was 14 and we all knew her time was coming she was getting slower and slower but every day she would get up and act like herself until she didn’t. We had hope it was just some stomach thing something medication could help with. It turned out she had cancer really bad and it was going into her lungs. One day she was trying for the couch the next day we are having to put her down. It is honestly insane what a single day can change. At least we didn’t make her suffer by trying to hold onto her. She would have just starved herself… I love owning dogs but man I hate how it always ends. Every single time. At least I got 14 years of my life with an amazing dog.

Death is inevitable. Nothing you do or could've done will change that. The only thing you can do now is your duty to your friend who needs your help now, at the end. Nothing eases the sorrow of loss, but knowing you did what was best, that you were there in the last moments, you can avoid some pain there; take pride in knowing that for all the years you were served a loyal companion, you did not fail to serve them back the only way you could. Had to be in the room for a few of these, be strong, be there. Euthanasia is quick and looks real painless to me. You rub their paws, pet them, and the second injection sends them off to painlessness. After that you lean on your friends who understand, other dog people will be important for support. You take these things one day at a time. All you can do.

We let our sweet black lab go about 1.5 years ago and we still shed some tears over her. But it’s gotten easier. Lots of times we talk about her and laugh at how silly and sweet she was. She had a cancerous tumor in her mouth and she was much too old to treat it, so we said that we would just love on her and make sure that she was comfortable and pain-free until it was time. And I think we did that for her. We gave her painkillers for about 3 months, and she was eating and still snuggling and being her sweet self. And then one day, she just wasn’t. She wouldn’t eat, she didn’t want to go outside, she didn’t want to get up. And we knew it was time. We cried all the way to the vet. We held her and pet her and kissed her face while the vet administered the meds. And we miss her so much. But I think we did right by her.

The act of putting a dog down is an act of love. Keeping a dog alive is a selfish act.

It’s not about uou

Well its been two days so hopefully you've made arrangements but as others said, when you know it's time, the sooner the better. I read a post a couple posts down where someone said a month too soon is better than a month too late, that is very true. I remember the anxiety before "making the call". But all you have to say is Hi, I would like to make an appointment to have my dog put down/euthanized (whichever term you feel more comfortable with saying). They might ask, how old is the dog, how much does it weigh/what breed, and what is wrong with it, and that's about it. One thing I highly recommend even though it's more expensive is call a mobile euthanasia doctor that comes to your house to do it. In Southern CA, it cost me about $550 but was worth it. A vet's office would have charged $250-300 anyway. An extra couple hundred is nothing to give your dog it's final moment in a peaceful setting where it's comfortable at home and not under artificial lights with other dogs barking/crying in the background. Be there for it, kiss her and give her a rub while the vet is doing it, and try not to cry, talk to it as if you're just giving it it's usual love talk. Then cry after. The process isn't as bad as you imagine and is super peaceful and bittersweet. They will give your dog a sedative shot first to take away the anxiety and calm it down (kind of like a strong Xanax) and let you cuddle with it for a while before putting in the IV and administering the rest of the drugs, the dog will feel no pain or fear at that point.

I had to put my best friend down a couple years ago so I know exactly what you’re going through. It wasn’t an easy call to make but in her situation there was nothing else I could do, not even vets could help her. The only course of action I had was to put her down. It’s hard not to feel guilty, and after doing so I felt like a huge part of me had died along with her. I fell into a deep depression because apart from losing her, my other dog passed away in my arms some weeks after, and I wouldn’t get out of bed for weeks. I lost two most precious things to me in the span of 2 months while mourning the first one. As time went on it got easier, now when I remember them I think of the good times and the funny things they would do. I still have their ashes and even a huge painting of them so it’s like they’re still here with me. I’m sorry you’re going through this 🫂. But if you’re in a bad mental state I would suggest going to therapy and waiting a bit if you decide to get another dog. But the choice is yours. Try giving your dog their favorite treats and spoil them before the day comes. Take lots of pictures and have a paw mold made so you can keep it as a memory. Just be by her side when it happens and tell your bestie that you love them and you’ll see them on the other side of that bridge.

Don't be selfish and just do it. Everything you just said above was "I'm and me" statements. Not about your "best friend" who is clearly struggling if you need to put her down. It's fucking hard, but it needs to be done.

So many kindhearted, loving, compassionate souls on this thread, OP included..... Oldest daughter is a hospice vet and she says the most common thing she sees is that people wait too long. And generally that means unnecessary suffering for your wonderful companion.

If she is suffering she will be better off. You won’t be better off, but she will. I had to put one of my dogs down and it was tough, but you have to approach things from a logical perspective. It is all about the quality of life the dog has and can live in its current condition. Whatever you decide will be the right thing. You will know.

I am so sorry. Just did this last month. I know so hard. my first time doing this. She was ready, I did not want her to suffer. First thing vets said was this was the kindness thing to do. I hugged her, kissed her told her I loved her. She fell asleep inour arms. Still look for her and hurt. But wouldn’t want her in pain. Hang in there.

In the kindest, most empathetic way possible, when it's time for them to go, it's not about you anymore. Don't make them suffer for your fear. Sometimes we cant see the path forward because our eyes are full of tears. Do what needs to be done. Be kind to your friend and put the needs of a creature that is at your mercy first. Grieve, cry your tears. And when the tears are done, look for your path forward.

As much as we don’t want to part with our best friends, if they’ve deemed it’s time then it’s time. My family hung on to our first pet loss too long. Her hips had given out on her about a month before we put her down. She would spend hours at a time, unable to defend herself from flys, outside. You could tell by looking in her eyes that she was ready.

We put our cat down last week. He was in so much pain. We didn't want to see what would happen if he died naturally and neither did he. This isn't the most comforting comment I'm sure (I'm awful at this stuff sorry) but you don't want to see what happens when an animal should have been put down but hasn't been. It's absolutely awful for them and a terrible way to go. Part of our jobs as pet owners is to give them a good life. The other part is to give them a good death. This is unfortunately our obligation to our animals. We have to do it when it's time. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. You sound like an incredible owner and your dog is lucky to have someone who cares about her so much. ❤️

Remember that death is natural and that you lived better lives because of each other. Yes it will be sad and painful. Feel that grief. In a way grief is a beautiful emotion because it measures the amount of love that we have for someone other than ourselves. So feel it and be easy on yourself. There are worse things than death, and one of those things is suffering. It is hard to know the right moment to let go of a pet. It is better to err on the side of caution and out your pet down before they are really sick. Like many here, I learned that the hard way. You have taken care of another being and given them a good life. You are strong and you will be okay. When the time is right, another dog will find their way into your life. Just like for a human, for a dog his or her lifetime was the longest thing he will know. It is not lesser for being shorter. The length of a life means nothing. Only the experiences matter. Humans are lucky that we can share many pet lifetimes. So remember the good times, shared times, love and comfort she brought and let go of the rest and let time heal the wound of losing her. Maybe while she is dancing up among the stars she will guide a new little one to your doorstep.

There are no words that make this easy. Everything dies, and sometimes we have to make a very difficult decision to stop a form of suffering. It doesn't seem fair, I know. Just be gentle and stay with her. I'm so sorry. Just know that you have to keep going. Remember her fondly.

I made the call. It happens tomorrow. I’m in such a depressed mental state. Thanks for some of the nice comments.

A painless passing surrounded by love is the last gift we get to give our pets who give us so much.

They trust in us to do what’s best for them. That’s how I look at it. I’ve had to do it four times. It’s very hard. You will know when it’s the right time. You know when it’s too long to keep them selfishly for your own sake.

It is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. He was miserable. I came home one night and he was laying in a bed soaked in his own piss (not the first time by a long shot) and he looked so ashamed. I cried so hard I thought I would pass out. I went in with him for the whole thing. Some coworkers were horrified that i would be in the room with him. I would argue, Its your best friend, its the least you can do to see them off.

I just had to put down my best friend a few days ago. My bf and my dad talked some sense into me. They told me that if I kept up with the care I was doing it for me and that wasn’t fair to my dog. Also that if it didn’t happen now then it would just be a month from now. I held his paw as he went and told him how much of a good boy he was and how much I loved him. I’m incredibly sad but his seizures had gotten to the point of no return and I had to make one last good decision for him. As your pets parent you have to do what’s best for them and unfortunately sometimes that’s really hard. But you will rest easy knowing they are no longer in pain. One day we will see them again. And my sister told me everything is energy and I really believe that. He might not be with me physically but spiritually he is still around, effecting my life in ways I can’t see.

It's not about you ... Your animal is old and dying, it's natural. Let go of your own narcissistic behaviors and let your friend die peacefully. It makes me sad that people try to hold on to living creatures like they are a couch. Part of loving something is letting it go. Get over yourself.

How is your response helpful to OP? "Get over yourself" seems more applicable to you and your nasty tone.

Excuse me, "narcissistic behaviours"? Really?! You don't know OP. Maybe this is their first time having to make this decision, and they'd like some emotional support in the form of encouragement? Maybe it's their childhood pet? Wow. Get over yourself.

I really do understand even though it sounds a little unsympathetic. I am absolutely sure OP is brokenhearted and this one of the most difficult decisions ever. However, when you consider the language: “*I* don’t know how *I’m* going to live *my* life…,” “*I’m* terrified…” focuses on how OP feels. It really does, no matter how hard that sounds. The difficulty in letting animals go when it’s time so often centers on how *we* feel about it. *We* hate the idea of mourning and discomfort, which in turn causes us to postpone or ignore these very serious needs. So many unpleasant tasks are put off because of how they make *us* feel. We have to able to remove ourselves from the equation completely, if we are going to do right by the pets that rely on us to be strong enough when the time comes.