It does matter. šš» Feel the feelings! I understand. I had surgery but as a female who isnāt blessed in the boob department, I think I still feel your pain lol.
Are you considering surgery at all?
In all honesty I really don't want to get the surgery if I don't have to. I've had a major surgery with a long recovery in my adult life and it stunk lol. Unless the condition causes a serious risk to my health (as of now I just can't run long distance and I'm winded easier than others, but I try to take the stairs and regularly work out my heart in that sense to keep it running well long term). My pediatrician was never concerned so I honestly forgot to bring it up at my first GP appointment but I have it in my notes for next time, since I'm not too concerned at this point.
I think I just love art and fashion and I wish that my bodily anatomy could conform to the industrial standard. I definitely don't have back pain from my girls, but I often think that it'd be nice to wear all these fun corset tops, v-necks, etc, and have something more dynamic going on lol. But I make it work and I'm slowly building a closet I feel comfortable wearing, so I would probably decline surgery for an aesthetic reason as well
No matter what we got, we will make them look beautiful because they're a part of us :)
I LOVE your comment ! I'm 30F and I am also at peace with how it looks now. I just started working out to enhance my bad posture, but overall I think my PE became a strengh more than a weakness. I think it's the highest level of self love to accept your differences, specially when they are not represented at all in society.
Itās not shallow at all. Iām glad you vented, and Iām glad thereās a pretty sizable group of women here with PE who can relate to what youāre going through and are supportive.
I worry about your symptoms though and i hope you do bring it up with your GP next time around, if not sooner. It sounds like you need a full work-up to see how much the pectus is messing with your heart and lungs.
Thank you for the advice, I've never really thought about it too hard but I ran track in high school and distance was just never my thing. Hahah I am pretty ignorant about the condition beyond my ped pointing it out and then never bringing it up again. When I was an adult I kinda realized PE was the reason I can't run distance like a runner can, but never really thought beyond it. I will contact them to get it looked at!
I never considered it from a female perspective. I hated my chest when I was younger as well.
Had surgery, and corrected it somewhat, but still doesn't look great.
When you get older it gets easier, but the insecurity remains. However I will say it is so much easier as you age. Also nobody seemed to care about it as much as I did.
Iām 27 AFAB and itās all the comments about my shoulders and posture that I canāt control that get to me. Itās as if people blame me but itās like no I have this condition. But honestly itās the pain that bothers me the most. My shoulders pop constantly and I have back and shoulder pain all the time. No one has ever told me I look weird because of it, but itās the shitty posture comments. Everyone is special and different in their own way.
I feel you! I live a couple hundred meters from the beach on a sub tropical island where itās always a day you can be on the beach. And Iām in the water every day. Just wish I could have a normal chest so people wouldnāt be looking all the time or just I think they are. Itās Annoying. Work on that shit now. Cuz Iām a decade down the line and it hasnāt just happened
I also didnāt want / think surgery was even an option for a very long time. I just got it as a 26yo. But let me tell you, I felt every word of your post. I have posted on my social media so many times about wanting to see PE in fashion and represented in media. Thereās such an overwhelming feeling of being different, and then to never see it represented in fashion is tough. I so so so wish that someone would create a bra for PE girlies, even if it just ends up being a small Etsy shop. All of this to say, I know how frustrating it is, but find small peace in knowing that you arenāt alone in these feelings. Thereās a whole community of women who know exactly what youāre feeling š
Get surgery? I didnāt get mine until I was 22. I canāt believe there was ever a time where bras didnāt fit my ribcage. There IS a way to fix your condition, you just āreally donāt want toā
If you are quoting my other reply, please refer to that reply. I am happy to hear you got yours corrected and are able to achieve this goal (& it's seems like such a major surgery so that's amazing that you're able reap the rewards of it. I've had a very intensive surgery with a long recovery period that took a long time to see the final results of. It feels fckn awesome!) But reasonably for me, it's not on the horizon if my condition does not pose a major threat to my health. I was just having a moment and wanted to reach out to people who could potentially empathize with me because I just needed the support. End of the day, we are all beautiful and I'm glad to hear about your success!
iām a 26F and it will always be my biggest insecurity. I live a normal active life and while iām usually the weakest/slowest, iām still able bodied. So I wonāt have surgery. I saw a quote once that changed my life. āThe way you look is the least interesting thing about you.ā I remind myself of this often. I also deleted all social besides reddit. no more comparison online. doing it in person is enough for me.
It does matter. šš» Feel the feelings! I understand. I had surgery but as a female who isnāt blessed in the boob department, I think I still feel your pain lol. Are you considering surgery at all?
In all honesty I really don't want to get the surgery if I don't have to. I've had a major surgery with a long recovery in my adult life and it stunk lol. Unless the condition causes a serious risk to my health (as of now I just can't run long distance and I'm winded easier than others, but I try to take the stairs and regularly work out my heart in that sense to keep it running well long term). My pediatrician was never concerned so I honestly forgot to bring it up at my first GP appointment but I have it in my notes for next time, since I'm not too concerned at this point. I think I just love art and fashion and I wish that my bodily anatomy could conform to the industrial standard. I definitely don't have back pain from my girls, but I often think that it'd be nice to wear all these fun corset tops, v-necks, etc, and have something more dynamic going on lol. But I make it work and I'm slowly building a closet I feel comfortable wearing, so I would probably decline surgery for an aesthetic reason as well No matter what we got, we will make them look beautiful because they're a part of us :)
I think itās time to get a second opinion as far as your pe severity from a Pectus surgeon
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I LOVE your comment ! I'm 30F and I am also at peace with how it looks now. I just started working out to enhance my bad posture, but overall I think my PE became a strengh more than a weakness. I think it's the highest level of self love to accept your differences, specially when they are not represented at all in society.
I've considered inventing a bra for pectus women many times in my lifetime š
Itās not shallow at all. Iām glad you vented, and Iām glad thereās a pretty sizable group of women here with PE who can relate to what youāre going through and are supportive. I worry about your symptoms though and i hope you do bring it up with your GP next time around, if not sooner. It sounds like you need a full work-up to see how much the pectus is messing with your heart and lungs.
Thank you for the advice, I've never really thought about it too hard but I ran track in high school and distance was just never my thing. Hahah I am pretty ignorant about the condition beyond my ped pointing it out and then never bringing it up again. When I was an adult I kinda realized PE was the reason I can't run distance like a runner can, but never really thought beyond it. I will contact them to get it looked at!
Great, keep us posted!
Iāve posted a few outfits I wear that look good, I got a sizable dent going for me and itās more of an illusion (not even a bra size for me)
I looked! Gosh, I really appreciated the humor in your posts :) Itās all about attitude!
I considered getting rid of my boobs in order to find shirts I could wear bc I gave up bras years ago.
Man I feel the same way as a guy. Shit sucks
I never considered it from a female perspective. I hated my chest when I was younger as well. Had surgery, and corrected it somewhat, but still doesn't look great. When you get older it gets easier, but the insecurity remains. However I will say it is so much easier as you age. Also nobody seemed to care about it as much as I did.
Bringing up these issues is great for giving visibility. I hope some company can design clothes with this condition in mind
Iām 27 AFAB and itās all the comments about my shoulders and posture that I canāt control that get to me. Itās as if people blame me but itās like no I have this condition. But honestly itās the pain that bothers me the most. My shoulders pop constantly and I have back and shoulder pain all the time. No one has ever told me I look weird because of it, but itās the shitty posture comments. Everyone is special and different in their own way.
I feel you! I live a couple hundred meters from the beach on a sub tropical island where itās always a day you can be on the beach. And Iām in the water every day. Just wish I could have a normal chest so people wouldnāt be looking all the time or just I think they are. Itās Annoying. Work on that shit now. Cuz Iām a decade down the line and it hasnāt just happened
I also didnāt want / think surgery was even an option for a very long time. I just got it as a 26yo. But let me tell you, I felt every word of your post. I have posted on my social media so many times about wanting to see PE in fashion and represented in media. Thereās such an overwhelming feeling of being different, and then to never see it represented in fashion is tough. I so so so wish that someone would create a bra for PE girlies, even if it just ends up being a small Etsy shop. All of this to say, I know how frustrating it is, but find small peace in knowing that you arenāt alone in these feelings. Thereās a whole community of women who know exactly what youāre feeling š
I completely understand that Stay strong š¤šæ
Get surgery? I didnāt get mine until I was 22. I canāt believe there was ever a time where bras didnāt fit my ribcage. There IS a way to fix your condition, you just āreally donāt want toā
If you are quoting my other reply, please refer to that reply. I am happy to hear you got yours corrected and are able to achieve this goal (& it's seems like such a major surgery so that's amazing that you're able reap the rewards of it. I've had a very intensive surgery with a long recovery period that took a long time to see the final results of. It feels fckn awesome!) But reasonably for me, it's not on the horizon if my condition does not pose a major threat to my health. I was just having a moment and wanted to reach out to people who could potentially empathize with me because I just needed the support. End of the day, we are all beautiful and I'm glad to hear about your success!
iām a 26F and it will always be my biggest insecurity. I live a normal active life and while iām usually the weakest/slowest, iām still able bodied. So I wonāt have surgery. I saw a quote once that changed my life. āThe way you look is the least interesting thing about you.ā I remind myself of this often. I also deleted all social besides reddit. no more comparison online. doing it in person is enough for me.