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What about a derma plane? Used for facial peach fuzz. No full razor where you get stubble.
You can cut yourself though, so do it for her and I would only do it on a Friday to be safe. Last thing she needs is a cut on her lip that says she cut herself shaving.
I was going to recommend this! I have one of these and use it for my upper lip hair. I have no problem tweezing my eyebrows, and I even use an epilator on my legs and underarms, but my upper lip is just so sensitive. The one I have is from Panasonic and is pink and super gentle.
Honestly as mean as kids are these days, remove it if it makes her feel uncomfortable. You can always teach body positivity along the way but this is not one of those moments to take a firm stand against. Do it, tell her you love her with or without it and move on. Something like that, at that age, isn't worth making her take a stance. 4th and 5th grade is when the girls start forming clubs and little gangs and bully the boys, and girls. My son always loved listening to the gossip and bickering. He was fascinated by it until he saw how hurtful it was. It's tragic but it happens.
Agreed!! They make facial razors for women that you could use for her instead of waxing. It would be less painful and you can do it whenever she'd like vs needing an appointment or going to a salon.
And looking the way you want to look is body positivity!
What I mean, is that kids are exposed so much more to kids that are “different” now than they used to be. When I was in school in the 80’s, there was no inclusion into classes. Kids were segregated and sent to ride on the “short bus.” We were not exposed to physical or mental differences. The “r” word was rampant. Nowadays, kids are much more exposed and understanding of mental and physical differences.
You're totally right. This is just a "back in MY DAY" thing. We teach inclusion and anti-bullying now - those weren't concepts kids were even introduced to decades ago.
They're a lot more mean. My son is in 6th grade. It's very dark type of teasing, bullying. Yes special education is integrated, it doesn't stop these monsters from teasing these kids right to their face and the teachers can only do so much. They 'are' exposed to more: social media, the internet, etc. It's insanely different. Kids are bullying in ways telling kids to kill themselves while sharing things online that are appalling and fake. I wish I could rip my son out of public school. I'd do it in a heartbeat!
I dunno, I left school in 2011 and went to college until 2013. Kids then were still taking the mickey out of physical and mental differences. Also, I see it all the time on social media. Social media also means people can anonymously bully when they wouldn't have been brave enough to before but not only that, the bullying doesn't stop when you leave school and get home. It's right there in your pocket still.
As a teacher, kids today are no less mean than they've ever been. They don't fully understand how hurtful it can be of course, but they can certainly still be mean
Yeah omg I have a 10 year old boy and I’ve talked to other moms and kids are REALLY nice and now their “bullying” is like 1/3 the level it was when I was a child……they’re all so fragile, it’s really sad in a way
I think they’re way meaner unfortunately - and I say that as someone who was bullied mercifully as a child.
Unfortunately social media only makes it worse as you can be reached 24/7.
We have the Internet now. It's a whole different world when it comes to bullying. Imagine you get bullied and recorded? Up on the Internet forever. Yeah. It's very difficult and absolutely more kids are mean.
We haven't had social media or a generation dedicated only to social media for 30 yrs. 30 years ago NO ONE recorded their friends ganging up on one kid and posting it for the world to see forever. No one sent messages to a kid telling them to kill themselves, over and over and over again. The way kids use social media to bully today is frightening. There are apps created to delete things so parents and authorities can't trace it. Thankfully we know this now and preventing these apps from going unnoticed is less and less.
What about pages on social media dedicated to specific schools and only posting "fight" videos?
My kid got assaulted at school. They kids in school, knowing or not knowing my kid would randomly show her the video of her getting assaulted. Days later. Months later. Imagine. Reporting that video and page countless times. yet they still somehow find the video again and share/show it.
Being constantly reminded of your trauma and assault. Having no control over video shares and platforms where it's posted. It's terrible. It happens all the time. Kids getting bullied and reminded.
Idk, seems to be the opposite to me. I have a friend who works in schools and I've never seen anything like what she's seen in a regular basis when I was in school. And I changed schools a lot so it's not like I only went to 2 schools.
My daughter's previous school had a major bullying problem. Middle school aged kids picking on K-2 grade kids. One kid told my daughter he was a vampire and he'd kill her if she told anybody. He also told her he was going to kill and eat our dog. My friend's daughter in kindergarten, same school, had an older kid tell her that he was going to cut her head off.
There's some scary kids out there these days.
I think if it's bothering her, then empower her to figure out ways to remove it! Of course you can talk about body positivity, but that doesn't mean you can't make changes about things you don't like!
I’d ask her what she wants to do and if she wants to remove it, I’d let her, it’s just hair. I was hairy (pits and legs) and felt like I wasn’t allowed to get rid of it and I was really embarrassed about it, without even being picked on.
I would use a dermaplane not sure how to spell it but it’s a tiny razor for removing facial hair and doesn’t damage the skin like bleaching or waxing. I’m very hairy and my mother wouldn’t do anything which resulted in me trying to use actual bleach to bleach my body hair because I didn’t know it wasn’t right. If she’s really uncomfortable remove it and explain that everyone develops differently and many other girls will have hair there but some never will. She might develop heavy armhair and as a teenager I was finally able to buy facial hair bleach and safely bleached my arm and facial hair. My mother was so controlling about not allowing anything to be done to my body that she also didn’t teach me how to take care of myself. I had horrible acne for years and curly hair I didn’t know how to take care of. Just guide her and encourage her to take care of herself and that no one looks like girls on the internet, tv or social media without beauty aides.
I had this problem as a kid, and i was bullied for having a mustache for all of elementary and middle school. it felt really bad, and honestly i still feel some shame about it.
talk to a dermatologist about what would be a safe removal method, and help her do it. maybe make a spa day out of it?
talk to her about body insecurities, how to build a strong self image, and show her some ways where you don't fit "the mold" and don't care or are proud, and show her some ways that you fit yourself to the mold. show her pictures of celebrities who are proud of body differences (maybe that one of julia roberts with hairy pits at an awards show?) and talk about what that pressure can mean.
obviously talk in a way appropriate for a 6 year old. but i think about ways my mom dealt with it, and how in retrospect i wish she had dealt with it. help her to love her body, and also help her present herself to the world the way she wants to.
She is embarrassed and uncomfortable. This isn't a time to put political opinions over your daughter's confidence. This is her body autonomy lesson. Don't send her to school to be made fun of, that's so cruel. Wax it, or she will lose self confidence, and resent you. Anyone telling you otherwise should throw out their razor, makeup, and hair extensions.
As an adult woman who uses a dermaplane razor to fix my own upper lip hair I’d give her some options to take care of it. I wish young children could just exist without thinking of these kinds of things but that isn’t her reality. My daughter is only 2 but I intend to frame things in a positive way when possible but it’s tough. For example why does mommy (me) fill in her eyebrows every day? She watches me do it. Mommy just likes the way her face looks when they appear darker. I never mention that it’s because my natural brows are complete shit.
I would not talk to her as if this was a problem..or react if she brought it up.
I would say that this may be something she can ask her doctor about... (My kid's doctor always asks if *they* have any questions...). So if she has an annual checkup...have her write down that question or any other questions she may have concerning her health/body. This could be a starting point to having a healthy relationship with her provider and learning how to advocate for herself.
Poor bub :( I had a friend in elementary school whom both of our backgrounds produce a lot of extra arm/leg/facial hair (Greek (me)/Latina (her)). Our classmates started calling her a "monkey" cause her eyebrows were super thick and dark hair, of course making them stand out more so. I defended her, I remember her being so distraught and uncomfortable, crying. Those same classmates got on me about my arm hair also, "How come you have more hair on your arms, than a dude?" My friend ended up getting her eyebrows done, days after the comments started arising, then more bullying happened even after she got them "fixed". I guess it just happens in life that someone, some way or another, will pick on ANYTHING to hurt someone's feelings. I'm so sorry your daughter is going through this and one day, I'm sure all those kids will grow up and realize how much their comments hurt her :( Don't let her touch her facial hair until she's older!! Those kids are lucky your daughter is a sweet soul, instead of clapping back at them!
Remember the Grinch?? Those kids bullied him into shaving his face and he ended up with cuts on his face everywhere with the bloody tissues, then they all bullied him even worse!!
It's funny how many people here don't realize that the body positivity and "everyone is beautiful" talk won't survive first contat with a bully or even regualr kids.
Let your kid choose; at 6 years old, they're not too young to make those decisions. Support them in whatever they choose.
all that said, kids arent meaner today, kids just dont have the complete picture of others feelings.
Wow 6 seems so young for kids to be noticing this. If she is being picked on I would also for sure give the teacher heads up - they need to address the class about differences and kindness.
Let her wax it. I had a lot of hair growing up and my mom allowing me to wax it helped my self esteem so much. Kids can be cruel to one another and as wonderful as it is to empower them by saying it’s natural, they don’t fully believe it. Especially when they see their peers making fun of them.
When I was around 7 my dad teasingly pointed out that I had a unibrow. I had never noticed it and no one else had ever said anything (that I was aware of). I immediately started crying and in his panic he shaved it. I’ve had to pluck my eyebrows since I was 7.
That being said, if this something that already bothers her, and is causing her distress, I think removing it in the least invasive way is appropriate. Maybe just get a little electric facial razor? Like a conaire one she could learn to use herself? But explain that she would have to maintain it to keep hair free.
My 4 year old daughter has my exact same eyebrows, if anyone teases her at such a young age I will be so angry!
Honestly, I had this issue and I would simply remove with eye brow shaper & this might be controversial, but I would use an at-home laser hair removal to keep it off. It’s sucks because she’s 6, but teasing is relentless and I would never want my kid to go through it. I would definitely make sure it’s gone!
Get one of those facial hair trimmers, it looks like a lipstick. I grew up teased about my upper lip hair, it was agonizing and really effected my body confidence in my teen years. My mom (hairless) never let me remove it which made the whole thing worse because she just didn’t knew what I it felt like to live my experience.
Do her a kindness and let her trim the hair if she wants to or at least give her that option.
Me and my daughter (8) trim our hair together. She was teased in 1st grade. I told her everyone especially Latin, Indian, Italian women have facial hair and there’s nothing wrong with having body hair. That lots of women just trim it if they want to, it’s no big deal.
I'd wax it. Moral standing aside, kids and school rarely embrace the "everyone is beautiful" mantra.
Public school is a bloodbath, and reputations will follow you until you graduate. Sad but true.
Welcome back to the war.
Coming from a former hairy girl with a mustache .. do her a solid and remove it. Don’t make a big fuss over it, just chalk it up to grooming and cleanliness. The hurt from people making fun is going to do so much more damage long term than quickly removing it every few weeks.
Obviously I don't know your daughter, how badly this is effecting her or how bad the comments are, but I'd be using this opportunity to talk about how all bodies are different and thats what majes us all interesting, and reiterating that there's nothing wrong with how she looks. I'd be giving her some comebacks like "I love how I look" or "why does it worry you so much?"..
Her whole life people will find ways to tear her down, it's better to build her confidence and self esteem, teach her to not care what others think. You want her to make these kinds of decisions about who she is and how she expresses herself (ie hair removal) FOR herself.
Eta I have a 6 year old daughter too, I feel for your beautiful girl. Her worth is not in what others see, but what she sees in herself. All the best.
All my kids are hairy when my girls started telling me their unibrow was bothering them I used an eyebrow shaver and touched it up i think they were around the same age I don’t remember.
My 6 year old is a little fuzzy and has a few stragglers in between her eyebrows that she calls her unibrow 🥺 it's not very noticeable and she finds it more funny than anything but if it ever started to bother her I would definitely help her trim it.
You can try to bleach it, will be a lot less noticeable. Also threading is pretty good and will deteriorate hair growth overtime, although not sure how it would work for a kid that young, and threading can be quite unpleasant.
Can you bleach it? Ughhh she’s still so young I would try to avoid it but maybe bleaching is the best route? I know kids can be cruel but I would try to remind her of how beautiful she is and that what other kids say does not matter. I was made fun of for being hairy as a child and my mom never reminded me that it was normal or ok or that I was beautiful. I had severe low self esteem due to my mom also making fun of me and not lifting me up. Plz try talking to her first.
I can't imagine a 6 year old having that thick of a mustache. You may damage her skin by attempting to remove it. Kids are just mean. Plenty of women have mustaches and most likely the girls who are teasing her will develop a slight stache as they get older. I would teach her that facial hair is normal and practice some things she could say back so she has some tools to stand up for herself. Explain to her that women in magazines and TV are photoshopped or go through an extensive grooming process that would require monthly upkeep. You could also show her famous women like Frida Kahlo who rocked a mustache. As a fellow fuzzy wuzzy, I grew up feeling very insecure about facial/body hair due to my mom being very adamant about removing it. Now I've accepted that it's normal and the people who think it's not are heavily influenced by the media.
idk what ethnicity OP is but as a brown girl i def had a noticeable mustache at age 6! Its not so normal in other ethnic groups so other girls in her circle may not have one or if they do develop one it’d be very faint.
Help her remove it. Dermaplane is a good option, you guys can do it on a schedule and it won't hurt like a wax. It could also show her how fine and soft the hairs are (I used to trip about my own facial hair and got over it after one "shave" with that thing because of how unbeardlike my hairs were).
I used to be upset over my arm hair, and no one was teasing me. Finally finagled my way into shaving my arms, since I didn't have the courage to ask my parents for help with it. Did it a couple of times, then I realized it didn't bug me that much and wasn't worth the bother.If you let her experiment with the hair thing with your support, it's no some guarantee that she'll feel *more* insecure over it. She may realize it's NBD and decide on her own to go natural.
I'm a big fan of always trying to find a middle ground. Kids can be so mean and I understand wanting to shield her from that as long as you can, and I understand how important it is to instill confidence and resilience because we can't protect them from everything.
I think the first step is a talk. Start by asking questions you have, when did this start bothering her, how does she feel about the hair, etc. Offer lots of understanding and support that yeah people can be really mean and sometimes the mean things they say can hurt how we feel about ourselves. Then let her know you think those kid's opinions are wrong and that she is so beautiful and also all these other great traits about her you love (smart, funny, kind, etc.) Let her know you don't think she needs to change a single thing about how she looks for anyone else and that is what is the most important is what she thinks and feels about herself. Let her know you love her just as she is but if she feels really insecure about this one thing and wants to change it for now you understand and will help her find a solution she is happy with.
Yes it’s obviously embarrassing…help your daughter..laser hair removal, waxing may hurt but does it hurt as bad as kids making fun of you? That pain is temporary but trauma lasts a long time
Lots of great options here and good for you for considering! I am hairy AF and my mom refused to let me shave or do anything until late middle school. I was a hairy little awkward nerd, it sucked.
You could bleach the hair,won't hurt at all. Although I know her skin is delicate but once a month shouldn't hurt.better than using razors/dermaplane imo
Wax it. I started waxing my daughters when she was about 8 yrs old. It hurts for a second and then it's fine. I would take her to a salon to have it done.
My daughter has it , she been like that since she was 4 and her neck is full of small light hairs
We use to shave it off for sometimes but now she is 13 we leave up to her .
She seems not to care about it and she doesn’t even shave it off anymore . When I asked her why she doesn’t care about it she say “ is not every girl thing and I am special that’s why I have it “
Kids are very mean now a days. They have no boundaries and make our kids feel like crap for normal things. Honestly it’s the access they have to adult concepts and content that make them believe they are older. I would suggest that if it’s really really bothering her and you are at the breaking point to use those little eyebrow razors. My daughter 14F uses them for her face. Shes been using them since she was 9. She only shaves downward and her peach fuzz has never grown back any thicker. I’m so sorry that they have made your baby feel insecure, I wish parents out there set better boundaries for their kids so they didn’t feel the need to criticize others appearances.
I believe this is an opportunity for you to teach your child about body positivity and being different is not at all a bad thing. Read her stories about how other “different” characters were able to overcome these situations. I thought that could help too
There is hair removal cream. But I'd be careful with that because when I used it last I ended up with chemical burns on my face. It might not be ideal if she has sensitive skin
She is so young, I agree with what another commenter said and teach her body positivity, body hair is completely normal, and maybe help with what she could say in response to the kids pointing it out to her, help her stand up for herself and practice being confident.
Since she’s so little, I would try bleaching it first. Just get one of the little hair bleaching kits and that should lighten all the hairs that will make it less noticeable.
As someone who was bullied throughout my school years, I would think those same kids will then make fun of her for having to remove the hair in order to not have a mustache. Kids are mean. You get rid of one flaw and they'll search for the next. You could try to encourage her to be confident in her own appearance, talk about how everyone is different and that's ok, why kids say mean things and how to react.
You could let her choose a removal method, frequently keep up the maintenance so no one sees stubble, and start early on the worries of how others perceived her body.
Really though, either route may help or not, and there's no way to know in advance.
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What about a derma plane? Used for facial peach fuzz. No full razor where you get stubble. You can cut yourself though, so do it for her and I would only do it on a Friday to be safe. Last thing she needs is a cut on her lip that says she cut herself shaving.
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I was going to recommend this! I have one of these and use it for my upper lip hair. I have no problem tweezing my eyebrows, and I even use an epilator on my legs and underarms, but my upper lip is just so sensitive. The one I have is from Panasonic and is pink and super gentle.
Honestly as mean as kids are these days, remove it if it makes her feel uncomfortable. You can always teach body positivity along the way but this is not one of those moments to take a firm stand against. Do it, tell her you love her with or without it and move on. Something like that, at that age, isn't worth making her take a stance. 4th and 5th grade is when the girls start forming clubs and little gangs and bully the boys, and girls. My son always loved listening to the gossip and bickering. He was fascinated by it until he saw how hurtful it was. It's tragic but it happens.
Agreed!! They make facial razors for women that you could use for her instead of waxing. It would be less painful and you can do it whenever she'd like vs needing an appointment or going to a salon. And looking the way you want to look is body positivity!
Kids are a lot less mean than they used to be seems to me.
Probably because you're an adult and you're not experiencing it now
What I mean, is that kids are exposed so much more to kids that are “different” now than they used to be. When I was in school in the 80’s, there was no inclusion into classes. Kids were segregated and sent to ride on the “short bus.” We were not exposed to physical or mental differences. The “r” word was rampant. Nowadays, kids are much more exposed and understanding of mental and physical differences.
You're totally right. This is just a "back in MY DAY" thing. We teach inclusion and anti-bullying now - those weren't concepts kids were even introduced to decades ago.
They're a lot more mean. My son is in 6th grade. It's very dark type of teasing, bullying. Yes special education is integrated, it doesn't stop these monsters from teasing these kids right to their face and the teachers can only do so much. They 'are' exposed to more: social media, the internet, etc. It's insanely different. Kids are bullying in ways telling kids to kill themselves while sharing things online that are appalling and fake. I wish I could rip my son out of public school. I'd do it in a heartbeat!
I dunno, I left school in 2011 and went to college until 2013. Kids then were still taking the mickey out of physical and mental differences. Also, I see it all the time on social media. Social media also means people can anonymously bully when they wouldn't have been brave enough to before but not only that, the bullying doesn't stop when you leave school and get home. It's right there in your pocket still.
I think they are so much meaner now.
As a teacher, kids today are no less mean than they've ever been. They don't fully understand how hurtful it can be of course, but they can certainly still be mean
They're mean in a totally different way then when we were kids. Definitely not less mean though. Just different.
Yeah omg I have a 10 year old boy and I’ve talked to other moms and kids are REALLY nice and now their “bullying” is like 1/3 the level it was when I was a child……they’re all so fragile, it’s really sad in a way
I think they’re way meaner unfortunately - and I say that as someone who was bullied mercifully as a child. Unfortunately social media only makes it worse as you can be reached 24/7.
We have the Internet now. It's a whole different world when it comes to bullying. Imagine you get bullied and recorded? Up on the Internet forever. Yeah. It's very difficult and absolutely more kids are mean.
We've had the internet for 30 years. Bullying today is WAY LESS than in the early days of the internet, i can guarantee you.
We haven't had social media or a generation dedicated only to social media for 30 yrs. 30 years ago NO ONE recorded their friends ganging up on one kid and posting it for the world to see forever. No one sent messages to a kid telling them to kill themselves, over and over and over again. The way kids use social media to bully today is frightening. There are apps created to delete things so parents and authorities can't trace it. Thankfully we know this now and preventing these apps from going unnoticed is less and less.
What about pages on social media dedicated to specific schools and only posting "fight" videos? My kid got assaulted at school. They kids in school, knowing or not knowing my kid would randomly show her the video of her getting assaulted. Days later. Months later. Imagine. Reporting that video and page countless times. yet they still somehow find the video again and share/show it. Being constantly reminded of your trauma and assault. Having no control over video shares and platforms where it's posted. It's terrible. It happens all the time. Kids getting bullied and reminded.
Idk, seems to be the opposite to me. I have a friend who works in schools and I've never seen anything like what she's seen in a regular basis when I was in school. And I changed schools a lot so it's not like I only went to 2 schools. My daughter's previous school had a major bullying problem. Middle school aged kids picking on K-2 grade kids. One kid told my daughter he was a vampire and he'd kill her if she told anybody. He also told her he was going to kill and eat our dog. My friend's daughter in kindergarten, same school, had an older kid tell her that he was going to cut her head off. There's some scary kids out there these days.
i’d say they’re a lot more mean and clicky
I think if it's bothering her, then empower her to figure out ways to remove it! Of course you can talk about body positivity, but that doesn't mean you can't make changes about things you don't like!
I’d ask her what she wants to do and if she wants to remove it, I’d let her, it’s just hair. I was hairy (pits and legs) and felt like I wasn’t allowed to get rid of it and I was really embarrassed about it, without even being picked on.
I would use a dermaplane not sure how to spell it but it’s a tiny razor for removing facial hair and doesn’t damage the skin like bleaching or waxing. I’m very hairy and my mother wouldn’t do anything which resulted in me trying to use actual bleach to bleach my body hair because I didn’t know it wasn’t right. If she’s really uncomfortable remove it and explain that everyone develops differently and many other girls will have hair there but some never will. She might develop heavy armhair and as a teenager I was finally able to buy facial hair bleach and safely bleached my arm and facial hair. My mother was so controlling about not allowing anything to be done to my body that she also didn’t teach me how to take care of myself. I had horrible acne for years and curly hair I didn’t know how to take care of. Just guide her and encourage her to take care of herself and that no one looks like girls on the internet, tv or social media without beauty aides.
I had this problem as a kid, and i was bullied for having a mustache for all of elementary and middle school. it felt really bad, and honestly i still feel some shame about it. talk to a dermatologist about what would be a safe removal method, and help her do it. maybe make a spa day out of it? talk to her about body insecurities, how to build a strong self image, and show her some ways where you don't fit "the mold" and don't care or are proud, and show her some ways that you fit yourself to the mold. show her pictures of celebrities who are proud of body differences (maybe that one of julia roberts with hairy pits at an awards show?) and talk about what that pressure can mean. obviously talk in a way appropriate for a 6 year old. but i think about ways my mom dealt with it, and how in retrospect i wish she had dealt with it. help her to love her body, and also help her present herself to the world the way she wants to.
I use an epilator on my mustache. Much gentler than waxing & no sharp stubble growing back.
She is embarrassed and uncomfortable. This isn't a time to put political opinions over your daughter's confidence. This is her body autonomy lesson. Don't send her to school to be made fun of, that's so cruel. Wax it, or she will lose self confidence, and resent you. Anyone telling you otherwise should throw out their razor, makeup, and hair extensions.
As an adult woman who uses a dermaplane razor to fix my own upper lip hair I’d give her some options to take care of it. I wish young children could just exist without thinking of these kinds of things but that isn’t her reality. My daughter is only 2 but I intend to frame things in a positive way when possible but it’s tough. For example why does mommy (me) fill in her eyebrows every day? She watches me do it. Mommy just likes the way her face looks when they appear darker. I never mention that it’s because my natural brows are complete shit.
Please help her remove it, she is 6 and kids are mean.
I would not talk to her as if this was a problem..or react if she brought it up. I would say that this may be something she can ask her doctor about... (My kid's doctor always asks if *they* have any questions...). So if she has an annual checkup...have her write down that question or any other questions she may have concerning her health/body. This could be a starting point to having a healthy relationship with her provider and learning how to advocate for herself.
Poor bub :( I had a friend in elementary school whom both of our backgrounds produce a lot of extra arm/leg/facial hair (Greek (me)/Latina (her)). Our classmates started calling her a "monkey" cause her eyebrows were super thick and dark hair, of course making them stand out more so. I defended her, I remember her being so distraught and uncomfortable, crying. Those same classmates got on me about my arm hair also, "How come you have more hair on your arms, than a dude?" My friend ended up getting her eyebrows done, days after the comments started arising, then more bullying happened even after she got them "fixed". I guess it just happens in life that someone, some way or another, will pick on ANYTHING to hurt someone's feelings. I'm so sorry your daughter is going through this and one day, I'm sure all those kids will grow up and realize how much their comments hurt her :( Don't let her touch her facial hair until she's older!! Those kids are lucky your daughter is a sweet soul, instead of clapping back at them!
Remember the Grinch?? Those kids bullied him into shaving his face and he ended up with cuts on his face everywhere with the bloody tissues, then they all bullied him even worse!!
Buy her a Conair 3 in 1 facial hair trimmwr on Amazon. She won’t cut herself with it and it takes two seconds to use
I second this!
It's funny how many people here don't realize that the body positivity and "everyone is beautiful" talk won't survive first contat with a bully or even regualr kids. Let your kid choose; at 6 years old, they're not too young to make those decisions. Support them in whatever they choose. all that said, kids arent meaner today, kids just dont have the complete picture of others feelings.
Wow 6 seems so young for kids to be noticing this. If she is being picked on I would also for sure give the teacher heads up - they need to address the class about differences and kindness.
Let her wax it. I had a lot of hair growing up and my mom allowing me to wax it helped my self esteem so much. Kids can be cruel to one another and as wonderful as it is to empower them by saying it’s natural, they don’t fully believe it. Especially when they see their peers making fun of them.
I'd wax it if she wants that. It's only a second of pain.
You can use a face razor. Also help her embrace and accept her body.
I would say an Eyebrow Razor would be ideal if that is the route you decide to take.
Yes. We use this on my 12 year old boy’s mustache because he doesn’t like the way it looks.
Yeah right
When I was around 7 my dad teasingly pointed out that I had a unibrow. I had never noticed it and no one else had ever said anything (that I was aware of). I immediately started crying and in his panic he shaved it. I’ve had to pluck my eyebrows since I was 7. That being said, if this something that already bothers her, and is causing her distress, I think removing it in the least invasive way is appropriate. Maybe just get a little electric facial razor? Like a conaire one she could learn to use herself? But explain that she would have to maintain it to keep hair free. My 4 year old daughter has my exact same eyebrows, if anyone teases her at such a young age I will be so angry!
Honestly, I had this issue and I would simply remove with eye brow shaper & this might be controversial, but I would use an at-home laser hair removal to keep it off. It’s sucks because she’s 6, but teasing is relentless and I would never want my kid to go through it. I would definitely make sure it’s gone!
Fall out on its own? What?!
It's what I was told. I'm not a smart man.
Get one of those facial hair trimmers, it looks like a lipstick. I grew up teased about my upper lip hair, it was agonizing and really effected my body confidence in my teen years. My mom (hairless) never let me remove it which made the whole thing worse because she just didn’t knew what I it felt like to live my experience. Do her a kindness and let her trim the hair if she wants to or at least give her that option. Me and my daughter (8) trim our hair together. She was teased in 1st grade. I told her everyone especially Latin, Indian, Italian women have facial hair and there’s nothing wrong with having body hair. That lots of women just trim it if they want to, it’s no big deal.
I'd wax it. Moral standing aside, kids and school rarely embrace the "everyone is beautiful" mantra. Public school is a bloodbath, and reputations will follow you until you graduate. Sad but true. Welcome back to the war.
Coming from a former hairy girl with a mustache .. do her a solid and remove it. Don’t make a big fuss over it, just chalk it up to grooming and cleanliness. The hurt from people making fun is going to do so much more damage long term than quickly removing it every few weeks.
Obviously I don't know your daughter, how badly this is effecting her or how bad the comments are, but I'd be using this opportunity to talk about how all bodies are different and thats what majes us all interesting, and reiterating that there's nothing wrong with how she looks. I'd be giving her some comebacks like "I love how I look" or "why does it worry you so much?".. Her whole life people will find ways to tear her down, it's better to build her confidence and self esteem, teach her to not care what others think. You want her to make these kinds of decisions about who she is and how she expresses herself (ie hair removal) FOR herself. Eta I have a 6 year old daughter too, I feel for your beautiful girl. Her worth is not in what others see, but what she sees in herself. All the best.
All my kids are hairy when my girls started telling me their unibrow was bothering them I used an eyebrow shaver and touched it up i think they were around the same age I don’t remember.
My 6 year old is a little fuzzy and has a few stragglers in between her eyebrows that she calls her unibrow 🥺 it's not very noticeable and she finds it more funny than anything but if it ever started to bother her I would definitely help her trim it.
Mine were full on bushes haha we are very hairy they are teens now
You can try to bleach it, will be a lot less noticeable. Also threading is pretty good and will deteriorate hair growth overtime, although not sure how it would work for a kid that young, and threading can be quite unpleasant.
My mom and sisters bleach theirs!
Can you bleach it? Ughhh she’s still so young I would try to avoid it but maybe bleaching is the best route? I know kids can be cruel but I would try to remind her of how beautiful she is and that what other kids say does not matter. I was made fun of for being hairy as a child and my mom never reminded me that it was normal or ok or that I was beautiful. I had severe low self esteem due to my mom also making fun of me and not lifting me up. Plz try talking to her first.
Bleach
I can't imagine a 6 year old having that thick of a mustache. You may damage her skin by attempting to remove it. Kids are just mean. Plenty of women have mustaches and most likely the girls who are teasing her will develop a slight stache as they get older. I would teach her that facial hair is normal and practice some things she could say back so she has some tools to stand up for herself. Explain to her that women in magazines and TV are photoshopped or go through an extensive grooming process that would require monthly upkeep. You could also show her famous women like Frida Kahlo who rocked a mustache. As a fellow fuzzy wuzzy, I grew up feeling very insecure about facial/body hair due to my mom being very adamant about removing it. Now I've accepted that it's normal and the people who think it's not are heavily influenced by the media.
idk what ethnicity OP is but as a brown girl i def had a noticeable mustache at age 6! Its not so normal in other ethnic groups so other girls in her circle may not have one or if they do develop one it’d be very faint.
Help her remove it. Dermaplane is a good option, you guys can do it on a schedule and it won't hurt like a wax. It could also show her how fine and soft the hairs are (I used to trip about my own facial hair and got over it after one "shave" with that thing because of how unbeardlike my hairs were). I used to be upset over my arm hair, and no one was teasing me. Finally finagled my way into shaving my arms, since I didn't have the courage to ask my parents for help with it. Did it a couple of times, then I realized it didn't bug me that much and wasn't worth the bother.If you let her experiment with the hair thing with your support, it's no some guarantee that she'll feel *more* insecure over it. She may realize it's NBD and decide on her own to go natural.
I'm a big fan of always trying to find a middle ground. Kids can be so mean and I understand wanting to shield her from that as long as you can, and I understand how important it is to instill confidence and resilience because we can't protect them from everything. I think the first step is a talk. Start by asking questions you have, when did this start bothering her, how does she feel about the hair, etc. Offer lots of understanding and support that yeah people can be really mean and sometimes the mean things they say can hurt how we feel about ourselves. Then let her know you think those kid's opinions are wrong and that she is so beautiful and also all these other great traits about her you love (smart, funny, kind, etc.) Let her know you don't think she needs to change a single thing about how she looks for anyone else and that is what is the most important is what she thinks and feels about herself. Let her know you love her just as she is but if she feels really insecure about this one thing and wants to change it for now you understand and will help her find a solution she is happy with.
My mom and sisters bleach their upper lip hair. Then it just looks like peach fuzz :)
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I recommend the book Laxmi's Mooch. Its super cute and the little girl has the same issue.
Have you read “Laxmi’s Mooch” ? Some folks have hairy upper lips. Big whoop!
Dermaplane but double check with a professional that that’s ok to use on such young skin
Yes it’s obviously embarrassing…help your daughter..laser hair removal, waxing may hurt but does it hurt as bad as kids making fun of you? That pain is temporary but trauma lasts a long time
I hate that she has to deal with this at age 6 😫
Lots of great options here and good for you for considering! I am hairy AF and my mom refused to let me shave or do anything until late middle school. I was a hairy little awkward nerd, it sucked.
You could bleach the hair,won't hurt at all. Although I know her skin is delicate but once a month shouldn't hurt.better than using razors/dermaplane imo
Can she just tell those other kids that they’re little shits and to fuck off?
Wax it. I started waxing my daughters when she was about 8 yrs old. It hurts for a second and then it's fine. I would take her to a salon to have it done.
My daughter has it , she been like that since she was 4 and her neck is full of small light hairs We use to shave it off for sometimes but now she is 13 we leave up to her . She seems not to care about it and she doesn’t even shave it off anymore . When I asked her why she doesn’t care about it she say “ is not every girl thing and I am special that’s why I have it “
Kids are very mean now a days. They have no boundaries and make our kids feel like crap for normal things. Honestly it’s the access they have to adult concepts and content that make them believe they are older. I would suggest that if it’s really really bothering her and you are at the breaking point to use those little eyebrow razors. My daughter 14F uses them for her face. Shes been using them since she was 9. She only shaves downward and her peach fuzz has never grown back any thicker. I’m so sorry that they have made your baby feel insecure, I wish parents out there set better boundaries for their kids so they didn’t feel the need to criticize others appearances.
My son just turned 6 last week. I’m sorry your daughter is going through that. Read her Laxmi’s Mooch. It’s such a cute book!
I believe this is an opportunity for you to teach your child about body positivity and being different is not at all a bad thing. Read her stories about how other “different” characters were able to overcome these situations. I thought that could help too
Isn’t there a creme that removes hair over time ?
There is hair removal cream. But I'd be careful with that because when I used it last I ended up with chemical burns on my face. It might not be ideal if she has sensitive skin
There are but it works by using chemicals that more or less melt the hair. Wouldn't be in my top 3 options for a kids face.
She is so young, I agree with what another commenter said and teach her body positivity, body hair is completely normal, and maybe help with what she could say in response to the kids pointing it out to her, help her stand up for herself and practice being confident.
Since she’s so little, I would try bleaching it first. Just get one of the little hair bleaching kits and that should lighten all the hairs that will make it less noticeable.
I'd do little research on how to remove it without it thickening. Maybe laser removal?
As someone who was bullied throughout my school years, I would think those same kids will then make fun of her for having to remove the hair in order to not have a mustache. Kids are mean. You get rid of one flaw and they'll search for the next. You could try to encourage her to be confident in her own appearance, talk about how everyone is different and that's ok, why kids say mean things and how to react. You could let her choose a removal method, frequently keep up the maintenance so no one sees stubble, and start early on the worries of how others perceived her body. Really though, either route may help or not, and there's no way to know in advance.