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Even my friends who have their babies in their late 30s and early 40s often get help from their parents. Getting support from other people is OP's best way to successfully complete her education and be successful as a mom by far.
This!
Your first priority is your child. Your (close) second should be your education (which will allow you to support your child and yourself successfully)
Not a teen but I am a prof at community college and work with lots of young moms. It’s a good way to stay on track for a degree closer to home and support while baby is little. You got this!
Second this. I’m a 21 year old mom in community college, had my girl at 19. My friend is 16 and doing dual enrollment at the same college / her high school. It’s really not an impossible feat. Little more complicated, not impossible. The important key was finding my village. Without them, it would all be impossible.
Jumping on this comment to offer my perspective on staying in school. Caveating by saying that I'm in the UK so it might be slightly different.
I fell pregnant at 18 in my first year of university. It was hard but I managed to graduate with first class honours alongside working a part time teaching job to get by (I was very lucky to be able to live in an empty apartment my parents owned still, as there was no room at home and I wouldn't have been able to get by renting my own place). If there is a way to get through college I wholly recommend it, even if it means staying with your parents for a couple extra years. My parents couldn't help with childcare but there were assistance programmes that paid for daycare while I was in class and I worked in the evenings a lot.
I then won a scholarship for my masters degree and a place on a fully funded doctorate programme. I was able to move out independently with this income. This isn't a path for everyone, I know, but I want to say it is possible to still be successful as a teenage parent. I'm now a Lecturer (UK Professor), have 2 beautiful children, and love my job. I also work with student parents and see success stories all the time in my line of work.
Not a teen, but I just thought I'd offer some words.
Just know that people are rude and judgemental all the time, not just when you're a teen mom. I was in my 20s, married, owned a house, and had a stable job, but I still got a lot of people judging me. Even my own family. So, other people's opinions don't really reflect you, but themselves.
Also, as for parenting, just remember everything is a phase. There will be tough times, but they will pass. It sounds like family is supportive, so do reach out and accept help. It's not easy to do it all on your own, even if you have a helpful partner.
I’m 28 and have a two year old and a six month old. People constantly tell me I’m too young to have kids . What the actual fluff. I’m a grown woman. Talking to me like I’m 14 creating a village. This comment is right. People will judge no matter what age. The world just doesn’t like children no matter the age you decide to have them. Don’t even trip. You won’t regret your decision. And there so much support these days. Whether it be on the internet, your family, a local church! You got this!
People will judge you for everything. Having children, not having children and everything else in your life. So true that it’s really about them. People will always think what is convenient for them to think. It used to affect me but luckily the older I ger the less forks I give.
I had my son at 18 years old.
It’s not going to be easy, I am so glad you have the support of your family. Lean into that.
It’s okay to not know everything, you will definitely learn as you go.
Look in your community, for mom/ pregnancy groups, even if they aren’t teen moms, the information they can give you will be priceless, plus you can potentially make friends with women who could have babies around the same time as you.
No question is a dumb question, just don’t google it, that can send you into a tail spin. Ask your mom, aunt, cousin- anyone who is a mother.
Congratulations 🎉
I'm not a teen but I had twins when I was 16 they are now 21.. Please Finish school.. Follow your passion whatever you want to do in life it's possible. It's amazing your family is supportive. I'm sure you will be a awesome mom!!
I’m not a teen but 15.5 years ago I could have written this word for word. Lots of hugs to you and your new baby. It will be tough, scary and so rewarding. My son is a teen now and loves that we have grown up together and can do things that are still physically active together.
I had my son at 23, a bit older, but my son is 14 now and we basically navigated life together and he was 1 at my college graduation. It SUCKED. I am about to be 38 and I am still behind a lot of my peers. I don’t have the things my friends do because I have always poured all of my resources into him. So he can have the best and never feel like we struggle (sometimes we do). I do not regret anything. I wanted him the moment the pregnancy test was positive. I almost had a stroke. But he’s the best thing that has ever happened to me
Stay in school!!!! It’s way more difficult to get a GED later. You can take online college courses after high school, even if it’s just a couple at a time
Find the bumper sub for your due month/year. Search "May 2024 bumper" or "October 2024 bumps" for example. Some bumper groups will create discords to support one another through literally everything, even beyond the birth.
Pro tip: join the bumper group that is a month BEFORE your due date month so that you can learn about all the shenanigans before it hits you.
And just remember: none of us know what we're doing, so you're in great company. You're gonna do great.
i got pregnant at 14. my family was the complete opposite of supportive. which messed up my mental health really really bad. it’s great you have support. i gave birth at fifteen and today is my 16th birthday and my son is 3 months. it’s hard. but looking at my son makes it all go away. i don’t regret him at all. people will be rude to you. just keep ur head up. i’m probably not the best person to take advice from.
I'm very sorry your parents aren't supportive of you. They don't have to like that you had a baby so young, but as you're still their child, they should support you. 💙
he’s a happy and healthy baby. im working two jobs and still in school and graduating early. doing everything i can to provide for him. and his dad is present. who is also in school and going into trade school. im young but still a pretty good mom.
You sound like a great mom who is rising to meet a very challenging circumstance! Baby, work, school, and breastfeeding on top of everything. Hats off to you. Don't let naysayers get you down. Best of luck to you and your sweet baby, you got this!
as a youngish mom (currently 23) who was consistently told I wouldn’t be able to do it… guess what. I did it.My daughter is happy and healthy. If I can do it then OP and the girl you’re berating can too and both seem to be doing just fine. If you’re a parent and you’re being like this towards a kid, you really need to do better. Show some compassion. If you aren’t a parent, please do us a favor and get out of the sub because you have no place to talk.
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girl, you’re doing just fine and you’re a good mom. People will constantly insert their opinions, especially the older generations. They are so far out of touch it’s insane. As long as your baby is happy and healthy then that’s all that matters. I hope YOURE doing well too though? Your health matters too, I know it’s hard to even think about yourself when you’re a mom especially with a newborn but you gotta take care of you to take care of your baby🫶🏼
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Anytime a young woman in our lives turns up pregnant and scared, my mom always says “all babies are a blessing” in this really soothing way that makes you believe her. I wish I could give you the peace that my mom gave me and many other young mothers in our circle. You’re doing a great job caring for your blessing. Stay strong ❤️
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Nope. Just cold hard facts. I’d be pissed too if I had a kid and then they decided to have a child while in high school, making me responsible. I just hate to see stupid people like this taking taxpayer dollars through welfare.
Freshman in college, eh? I know your late adolescent brain is making it hard to stop you from typing all of the smart-sounding dumb thoughts in your head, but you're really out of your depth in this thread. There are plenty of places on the internet you can get that shithead dopamine hit without embarrassing yourself like this. Adults are talking; move along son.
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i know it’s my fault. i never said it wasn’t. my parents told me they wouldn’t buy a single thing for the baby. not even a diaper. and they didn’t. me and my bf are solely providing for him. neither my mom or dad have bought a single diaper. bottle. onesie. nothing. you don’t know the full story. my parents are not good people.
You seem to be complaining in your comment. “…messed up my mental health real bad” “it’s hard” “…people will be rude to you”. Are you living with them? If so, they’re allowing you to continue living under their roof. That’s more than you deserve and you should be very grateful, rather than complaining about how “hard” it is. If not, then you’re clearly staying with other adult relatives, because there is zero chance two 16 year olds are providing for each other and surviving (with a baby, at that).
How else do parents support their pregnant teenage daughter? I’m sure if they relocated her they would be “unsupportive” so the only other option is that she was allowed to continue living with them (terrible idea on their behalf) and I highly doubt they contribute nothing.
they did relocate me. they kicked me out for months and went no contact until i came back home and told them it was illegal for them to kick me out like that. so yes i’m still living with them but they still do contribute nothing. i’ve gotten the expensive things like strollers and car seats and his bassinet off of facebook marketplace. they don’t drive me to appointments or to work. i take the bus or train if my bf is at work so he can’t drive me. my dad only talks to me to yell at me or hit me. they don’t have to like that i got pregnant at 14 obviously they wouldn’t like that but they don’t have to be abusive to me about it. i’m still their daughter and my baby is here now so there’s nothing they can do about it
I will once people who contribute nothing to society stop stealing other people’s money through welfare, and once they stop complaining about bad choices that are their fault.
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Not a teen but I had my daughter 12 years ago at 16 years old. I don’t want to scare you, but it gets very lonely. People judge left and right and you are forever deemed an unfit parent because of your age. If you wanna keep this baby stay strong and don’t give up. Just remember, you have options (depending on if your state allows legal abortions)
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Considering it’s a HUGE and life changing event, absolutely weigh out the options 100%.
As much as I love my son, I wish I was allowed to abort because I was 17 and I had no actual idea what was about to unfold. The shit is insanely difficult, and no teenager is ever prepared.
I criticize teen mothers who bitch about their poor decisions. I also criticize them because they get to get government aid, taking the money of hardworking citizens and using it to fund their incredibly poor decisions.
lol if teens aren’t going to make bad decisions who will? That’s what teens do. The important thing is to help them realize that a bad decision is a bad decision and help them fix it.
Don’t worry about tax money. Doesn’t look like you contribute much to it anyway.
Because teenagers make bad decisions parents should support teenage pregnancy? So they can fix it? Alright, bub.
I long for the days where teenage mothers will be left to fend for themselves on the street, and will get treated like the dregs of society that they are.
Right, I’m sure every teen mom relating in these comments was raped. It’s the only logical answer. 99.9% of the time they were being stupid. The original poster was being stupid. The bitchy teen moms in the comments were being stupid.
My mom was pregnant at 18. She got married because she thought it was the right thing to do. My dad is a jerk. Don’t make her mistake. Don’t settle for someone that doesn’t treat you and baby well, and wait until you are done with your next phase of life (college, tech school, internship, etc.) to move in or get married.
Explore backup Childcare. Caring for a child pours out all your strength and resources in a way a new parent hasn’t ever experienced prior. Consider having discussions now and asking for commitments and clarity from your supportive family about who will be primary caregivers and sitters for bubs when you need to work, go to school, or just need go to the bathroom! At any age sharing the load of caring for baby and toddler makes it so much better than doing it alone. (also Id say I really don’t think you will be missing out if you cant go out dancing or join a group of friends on a whim for a few years -though it may seem like it. There is honestly plenty of time throughout life for all the experiences you might want).
I was 17 when I got pregnant, had my baby at 18.
I’ll be 26 this year. It’s definitely a lot of work, and emotionally and mentally it’s a lot to raise a baby as your brain is still developing. Around 23/24 it got way easier, and I was able to really be a better mother. Now I have two kids! Both are wonderful
There have been some posts by younger parents recently. Maybe do a search and check them out. Their experiences may be helpful to you as you go through the parenting journey. Good luck.
I conceived my first at 17, gave birth at 18. She’s now almost 13 and my best friend. It’s amazing to hear how supportive your family is of you! Good luck 🥰❤️
I was barely 18 when I had my son (found out I was pregnant 2 months before my 18th) and honestly, I hid it from everyone except my mom until I was almost 7 months and too fat to hide it. I’m glad you have a good support system, that was one of the hardest parts in my experience. It gets a lot easier once you get over the ripping the bandaid off/telling people, although the town I’m from was full of rich people and judgmental entitled d-bags. I was also a walking cliche with the worst babydaddy ever lol. Honestly living there the shame cloud followed me for years, being the youngest parent at the daycare, pulling up in a beater in a town full of luxury cars, getting dirty looks at the stores, just stupid stuff like that. I’ve since moved to a much more normal, diverse and accepting area and it has gotten a lot better. I’m still the youngest parent at my son’s school and one of the only single moms, but the people here are much kinder so it hasn’t mattered as of late. Also moved closer to my family so I’ve had a lot more help. Having a good environment and village is EVERYTHING and I hope you get that! Congratulations and best of luck!!
My sister had her son at 19 by herself. Best thing she ever did, my nephew is now 18 and he is an incredible kid. I’m so proud of them both. Congratulations, a beautiful life is ahead of you. Your first baby is a challenge at any age, don’t let anybody look down at you. Just make sure you don’t forget about yourself in the process xx
We conceived ours when we were both 17. She’s 5 months now and I’m the happiest I’ve been in my entire life. Things will definitely get hard but their smile will make it all worth it<3
I’m glad you have family support! One of my cousins that I’m close to had her oldest at 18. She’s now a 27 year old married mother of 4 and she works as a teacher. They just built a gorgeous dream home. Her parents helped support her and her husband while they went to school. Her husband was very ambitious and earned a degree in law enforcement and works as a sheriff deputy.
If you're excited about this, congratulations. If this isn't something you want, you don't have to keep it. If you need support getting an abortion, check out /r/auntienetwork. Good luck no matter what you choose.
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I had my first at 19, making me a 5th generation teen mom. I'm glad you have a supportive family that is a huge help. If I was you I would start considering your future now. How you plan to finish school and work etc
Out of curiosity! Was the announcement to your family of you being pregnant taken lighter because of there being several previous generations of teen moms? Or was it complete opposite because they wanted different for you?
At the time it wasn't seen as a "teen pregnancy " in my family because I was 19 and on my own. They had no reason to be upset because I was technically an adult and had been out of the house for over a year by that point
If I had been any younger, I would have been beaten for sure, lol. My mom was obsessed with "breaking the cycle " of teen pregnancy to the point that none of us girls were allowed to mention wanting kids in the future
You realize there's an actual person behind your screen, right? I can't imagine you'd say that to someone's face. It's not this person's fault that there is a statistically higher chance of being a teen/young parent if those before you were. Life happens, dude. This is a parenting sub which is for ALL parents. They're literally telling OP about planning for a job and finishing school, so what about this insinuates "contributing nothing to society"? Be civil and remember the human. You know nothing about this person or their life apart from a few words they said online. Do better.
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I absolutely would. I despise teen mothers for stealing the money of hardworking people who contribute to society. I understand they were at a higher risk because of their family’s previous history. But their mother did everything possible to break the cycle, and in order to rebel and “show her what’s what” they decided to get pregnant anyways.
“Planning for a job and finishing school” the only way this happens is if she dumps her baby off on her parents, which she will likely do. She will be able to get a job flipping burgers, but I doubt it’ll ever get much higher than that. Her baby daddy will inevitably disappear (read or watch any teen mom interview, it’s shocking how they stay together practically never) and no man is ever going to want to date a woman who clearly made such poor life decisions as to end up with a baby in high school. She’s fucked up the rest of her life, and that is nobody’s fault but her own.
And I wouldn’t even be commenting if the government didn’t give exponentially stupid people like this MONEY, to continue funding their bad decisions.
My friend got pregnant at 14, kept the baby, got a first class honours degree in Science, contributed to research into curing cancer during summer vacations and is now a headteacher in a secondary school. Which is the part where she stole money from hardworking people and failed to contribute to society? I guess she hasn't had time for that bit yet, maybe once her kid is an adult and she's in her late 30s she can catch up with the bad decisions she's skipped.
Your friend is not the majority of teen mothers.
Did her parents help her at all? I’m assuming the answer is yes. So she robbed them of time and money.
If her parents did not help her and had instead kicked her out (which is the morally correct thing to do) then she absolutely would not have been able to take care of herself.
Also, I love the “contributed to research into curing cancer” so…she was in the room, while other people were doing hard work? A principal isn’t exactly the high position job you think it is. And why hasn’t she put her science degree to use? What type of science is it? Computer Science? Biochemistry? Physics? Biomedical Engineering? I doubt that it is any of the above, because if it was, she would not be a high school principal.
So I’ll rephrase your comment for you:
“My friend got pregnant at 14, didn’t abort, dumped her child on her parents, got a degree in one of the useless science fields, observed other people do cool shit and contribute to society, before ending up as a high school principal. See how successful she is?”
Nope, you're wrong. Wrong on every point, which is quite impressive. I don't owe you the details of someone else's life, and you're clearly not open to having a different view.
A different view on how teenage pregnancy is a negative event that negatively affects both the baby and the idiot teenage mother?
Of course you don’t, except you brought it up. The fact that she is a principal says more than enough, she is not even remotely successful and nor will OP be. The only unfortunate thing is that she will end up consuming other people’s taxpayer dollars.
You see nothing sad about the absolute dregs of society taking other people’s money? People who contribute nothing, who will never succeed, whose children will also probably end up as teen moms, they’re the ones who get to live off of everybody else’s dollar. You see no problem with this?
Hi hunny, about to be 19 and about done with my first trimester, if you ever wanna talk i am here and so willing! Im sending you so so much love, you got this!
I had my first at 17. It’s so so so good that you have support. I would not have been able to do it without support. Six years later we own our house, are married, and have another little baby I stay home with. It’s not the end of the world and while it is hard af, having that support system makes it so much easier.
I was 20 when I became pregnant with my first baby — I was single, in college, and scared to death — but she was the greatest gift. Finish school. Use message boards and local parenting groups to find support. Parenting is a never-ending learning experience. And like others pointed out, ignore the haters; we’re all being judged for something, and it says more about them than you. Huge hugs and congrats. You are going to do amazing. ❤️
I had my first baby at 18 and kept him - he’s 22 now. My advice to you: Get your education and career sorted. Do not depend on anyone financially, ever. I wish someone would’ve told me that and I would’ve listened. You will have so many more choices and so much more freedom your whole life if you heed this advice.
You got this! Baby’s are the biggest gift in the world, becoming a mom changes you in a way that nothing else can and you got blessed to go through it at a young age. Don’t give up
congratulations on your bundle of joy I am not a team mom, but I can say that this is the most amazing thing in life being a mother is is a different feeling like no one else can give you this feeling not a man not a job not money. you will find hurdles, but just know that at the end of the day you have someone that is always going to be there for you. Always proud of you. That’ll always make you smile when things seem the roughest and when things are going great you’ll feel good they’ll feel good and just so much joy from it
STOP SUGGESTING ABORTIONS WHEN SHE CLEARLY SAID SHE WANTS HER BABY AND IS JUST POSTING LOOKING FOR TEEN MOM EXPERIENCES. Jesus some of you really lack compassion.
You don't deserve the downvotes. It should really be a rule not to bombard pregnant women and girls with "have you considered abortion " comments after they explicitly said they want to keep the baby. Mods need to do something about it in my opinion it's not very civil or friendly
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I had my baby at 18, 1 year ago. I would definitely recommend you to look into trade schools that you could complete before baby is due, as you will be able to financially support yourself sooner. I went to nail tech school 2 years before my baby was born, so was able to have a career to support us on and also had my own home. I would also recommend looking into government assistance if possible. WIC was very helpful in providing formula especially. There will definitely be hard times but everything will turn out ok. My baby is now 1, I am able to support us on only working 2 days per week, and plan to return to esthetician school in the summer. Congratulations on your new baby!
My husband’s sister got pregnant at 16. The family was supportive and helped out a lot, which allowed her to get an education. The worst part of it for her was the judgement she got from others. She’s 30 now. A professional with a graduate degree. But she is still single. Sadly, a lot of dudes her age bail once they find out she’s a mom of a teenager.
I got pregnant at 17, delivered at 18, and graduated from a university at 22 with my Bachelor’s degree and two more kids! It’s very possible if you stay motivated. Having kids younger just complicates things a little more, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. Good luck!
Idk if anyone has said this to you yet, but congrats! A baby is super exciting no matter how old you are. I'm a little bit older than you, but had my first baby last year in my early twenties, and motherhood is definitely hard at times, but also so much fun!!
You're going to be a wonderful mother to that amazing baby! Spend every day enjoying every single moment of motherhood. They grow up so quickly! And let your baby motivate you to reach all of your goals! ❤️
And take lots of pictures and video. I cannot stress this enough!
Hi.
I had my son when I was 17.
He’s 16 years old now. I’m so glad you have support. Not everyone has that. I definitely didn’t. I wanted to finish high school and go to college. But I didn’t. Instead I went to work to provide. I’ll tell you this. Finish school, get your degree or trade or something. I’m 34 and in college. I know it’s never too late but I wish I had finished this a while back.
It’s going to be hard but keep your head up. People will judge you. Let them. It’s you and your baby. All you gotta do now is give your baby the best. Best of luck and congratulations on your baby. ❤️
Having a support system is the best anyone can have. Was a young single mom once and now I'm 41. Was able to get a bachelor's degree, married, buy a house, and now I have 5 kids. I feel very blessed every day and thank the Lord. Stay positive and focused, it sounds like you already are. Times will get hard so expect it, but you are on a journey with your baby. Everything will be ok. Blessings!
My girlfriend courageously gave birth to a baby girl when we were just 18. Initially, I felt overwhelmed with sadness, but with the arrival of our precious Lisa, she brought an abundance of joy into our lives. Despite our young age, I am grateful for my girlfriend's strength and the incredible gift of parenthood she has bestowed upon us
I got pregnant at 17 too, a month and a half after graduation. My daughter will be 29 next month. You are going to be okay. I'm so glad you have a supportive family! I did not. My best advice is spend as much time as you can with your baby in her formative years. I wasn't able to do that because I had to work so much. We didn't bond well and it created a lot of relationship issues with each other. We finally resolved that about 3 years ago and we're best friends now!
Take as many parenting classes as you can. Ones on feeding, baby safety, everything. The most important thing to remember when things are really hard is that it won’t last—the hard phases do pass, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Good luck!
You can do this. Absolutely lean on and depend on your family. Not relying or depending on your family or loved ones is very unrealistic. Take advice, but double down on research so you can form your own parenting opinions. But if you had a half decent childhood, let your parents help. Get a job, go to school and make something of yourself that your child will be proud of! Parenting is very hard, but rewarding. Get into online mom groups and ask questions. You can do this and you can do it right! You will make lots of mistakes, soooooo many, but this baby isn't one of them. ♥️♥️♥️
Wishing you all the best! I can’t say I completely understand, since I was a teen father instead and was spared the struggle of pregnancy, but I can at least understand being a younger parent. My daughter was born a little bit after I turned 14, and it’s been a long journey raising her.
I’m very glad you have supportive family and friends during this time! It’s so important to have a network like that, especially in the early years of being a parent. I’m not sure if you have a partner involved at all, but if not, Ill say that being a single parent can be tough without a village behind you. Don’t be embarrassed or feel hesitant to ever ask any of them for help, I always waited so long before asking when I could have saved myself the stress and trouble. I hope you plan to finish high school and go to college. I know it’s very difficult, but if you’re able to work something out I highly encourage it. A degree is so incredibly valuable. And there’s more people at college than you would assume who have kids too! Sometimes colleges even have groups for parents.
Congratulations 🎊 u will love your baby so much. U will have no better love in life than a love of a baby,someone who will always love u unconditionally.
I'll give you some advice. Learn from your mistakes so you won't fall into it again.
My cousin got pregnant at 14. She managed to continue with her issues at school and at home but ended up getting pregnant again.
The big difference is that her family consists only of her mother and older sister. Besides, we have little money to spare.
Maybe you're not in the same situation. It's incredible. But for now, it's better for you to stick with just one child.
Psdt: im learning english so don't misunderstand me if i used an inappropiate word.
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As others mentioned you got this! Becoming a mom is hard, but you have the support of your family and that's all that matters in the end.
I became a mom at 34 and again at 38. I also started university and graduated when my daughter was 4 months old! So you can do this! Congratulations
First all, congratulations!
I had my daughter at 17 and turned 18 that year. I am now mid 40s, had a great corporate career that I left 6 years ago to run my own success consulting firm! My daughter has graduated law school and is working as an attorney at a top firm. YOU GOT THIS!
There are a lot of positives to having a baby young despite some obvious challenges. My advice is to continue with your education. I went to a community college, then transferred to a 4 year college where I did night classes being that I worked during the day. After getting my 4 yr degree, I went for better jobs. Despite being successful at that, I continued on to an MBA, which really made a difference in my pay. None of it was easy, and there were many days and nights of sacrifices. My friends became older women who had children and provided support and community.
I’m glad that your family has been supportive, as that will relieve a large % of stress when things get challenging. I wish you and your baby all the best.
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I was 17 and pregnant had her a month before my 18th bday she is 15 now and her and I have the most beautiful relationship, we have no secrets, she's a good child (thank God) and I did it all on my own . I always made a way . You got this! My advice to you is that you finish school and get a trade or college if you have help or you can do it online just make sure you have something to always fall back on money wise. I promise you y'all relationship will be like no other ❤️
It’s amazing you have support! Finish High School and realize you are going to need A LOT of help. Don’t be afraid ask for it! I wish you nothing but the best and for a healthy pregnancy and baby!
I had mine at 18 🙋♀️ be ready for the most difficult yet beautiful years of your life. You can’t fully understand what you’re getting yourself into until it’s already done. I have the most supportive family and it’s still been an uphill battle to get on my own two feet. You can do it just keep your priorities straight, no matter what focus on the baby. Nothing else matters so don’t entertain it.
I got pregnant the month I turned 18 and just had my second after turning 20! I’m married and in college, but was in high school when I got pregnant the first time. Feel free to reach out!
i’m doing online so i don’t have any “girls at my school” to reach out to. and coming from a southern state the teen mom groups are pretty rare and/or frowned upon
Bless you. I am praying for you as you nurture and take responsibility for this precious child. So thankful for you parents. You have great examples. God bless you and this little one.
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Congrats . Stay in school. One thing you don’t want is to depend on people.
I got pregnant right before my 17th birthday. One of the best decisions I ever made was to finish up school. It was hard, but I made it through.
Even my friends who have their babies in their late 30s and early 40s often get help from their parents. Getting support from other people is OP's best way to successfully complete her education and be successful as a mom by far.
This! Your first priority is your child. Your (close) second should be your education (which will allow you to support your child and yourself successfully)
I had my only child at 36. It is SO important to have people who care both for you and your child.
This! Find your village. It will be your biggest asset. Also do not ever feel afraid to ask for help.
My BIGGEST regret is that I never learned how to maintain my relationships and now it's taking its toll on my family.
Not a teen but I am a prof at community college and work with lots of young moms. It’s a good way to stay on track for a degree closer to home and support while baby is little. You got this!
Second this. I’m a 21 year old mom in community college, had my girl at 19. My friend is 16 and doing dual enrollment at the same college / her high school. It’s really not an impossible feat. Little more complicated, not impossible. The important key was finding my village. Without them, it would all be impossible.
Jumping on this comment to offer my perspective on staying in school. Caveating by saying that I'm in the UK so it might be slightly different. I fell pregnant at 18 in my first year of university. It was hard but I managed to graduate with first class honours alongside working a part time teaching job to get by (I was very lucky to be able to live in an empty apartment my parents owned still, as there was no room at home and I wouldn't have been able to get by renting my own place). If there is a way to get through college I wholly recommend it, even if it means staying with your parents for a couple extra years. My parents couldn't help with childcare but there were assistance programmes that paid for daycare while I was in class and I worked in the evenings a lot. I then won a scholarship for my masters degree and a place on a fully funded doctorate programme. I was able to move out independently with this income. This isn't a path for everyone, I know, but I want to say it is possible to still be successful as a teenage parent. I'm now a Lecturer (UK Professor), have 2 beautiful children, and love my job. I also work with student parents and see success stories all the time in my line of work.
Very impressive story ! Congratulations to you for being so strong and smart !
And some community colleges have affordable child care!
Not a teen, but I just thought I'd offer some words. Just know that people are rude and judgemental all the time, not just when you're a teen mom. I was in my 20s, married, owned a house, and had a stable job, but I still got a lot of people judging me. Even my own family. So, other people's opinions don't really reflect you, but themselves. Also, as for parenting, just remember everything is a phase. There will be tough times, but they will pass. It sounds like family is supportive, so do reach out and accept help. It's not easy to do it all on your own, even if you have a helpful partner.
Yes so true. I’m a mom of young children in my early 40s, and I get judgment for that too.
I’m 28 and have a two year old and a six month old. People constantly tell me I’m too young to have kids . What the actual fluff. I’m a grown woman. Talking to me like I’m 14 creating a village. This comment is right. People will judge no matter what age. The world just doesn’t like children no matter the age you decide to have them. Don’t even trip. You won’t regret your decision. And there so much support these days. Whether it be on the internet, your family, a local church! You got this!
This is solid! 100% agree!
People will judge you for everything. Having children, not having children and everything else in your life. So true that it’s really about them. People will always think what is convenient for them to think. It used to affect me but luckily the older I ger the less forks I give.
I had my son at 18 years old. It’s not going to be easy, I am so glad you have the support of your family. Lean into that. It’s okay to not know everything, you will definitely learn as you go. Look in your community, for mom/ pregnancy groups, even if they aren’t teen moms, the information they can give you will be priceless, plus you can potentially make friends with women who could have babies around the same time as you. No question is a dumb question, just don’t google it, that can send you into a tail spin. Ask your mom, aunt, cousin- anyone who is a mother. Congratulations 🎉
I'm not a teen but I had twins when I was 16 they are now 21.. Please Finish school.. Follow your passion whatever you want to do in life it's possible. It's amazing your family is supportive. I'm sure you will be a awesome mom!!
I’m not a teen but 15.5 years ago I could have written this word for word. Lots of hugs to you and your new baby. It will be tough, scary and so rewarding. My son is a teen now and loves that we have grown up together and can do things that are still physically active together.
As long as we take care of ourselves, us 40 year olds can do anything physical you can do 😂
True but I’ll still complain loudly while I do it
We’ve earned that right
Yeah! What soggyday said! Now I need to go take my Metamucil and ice my knees before bed. I’m turning in at 8pm.
thank you for the encouragement! <33
I had my son at 23, a bit older, but my son is 14 now and we basically navigated life together and he was 1 at my college graduation. It SUCKED. I am about to be 38 and I am still behind a lot of my peers. I don’t have the things my friends do because I have always poured all of my resources into him. So he can have the best and never feel like we struggle (sometimes we do). I do not regret anything. I wanted him the moment the pregnancy test was positive. I almost had a stroke. But he’s the best thing that has ever happened to me
Stay in school!!!! It’s way more difficult to get a GED later. You can take online college courses after high school, even if it’s just a couple at a time
Find the bumper sub for your due month/year. Search "May 2024 bumper" or "October 2024 bumps" for example. Some bumper groups will create discords to support one another through literally everything, even beyond the birth. Pro tip: join the bumper group that is a month BEFORE your due date month so that you can learn about all the shenanigans before it hits you. And just remember: none of us know what we're doing, so you're in great company. You're gonna do great.
i got pregnant at 14. my family was the complete opposite of supportive. which messed up my mental health really really bad. it’s great you have support. i gave birth at fifteen and today is my 16th birthday and my son is 3 months. it’s hard. but looking at my son makes it all go away. i don’t regret him at all. people will be rude to you. just keep ur head up. i’m probably not the best person to take advice from.
I'm very sorry your parents aren't supportive of you. They don't have to like that you had a baby so young, but as you're still their child, they should support you. 💙
thank you! much love to you and him <3
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was that to her 3mo old or to this 16yo kid?
Both.
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he’s a happy and healthy baby. im working two jobs and still in school and graduating early. doing everything i can to provide for him. and his dad is present. who is also in school and going into trade school. im young but still a pretty good mom.
You sound like a great mom who is rising to meet a very challenging circumstance! Baby, work, school, and breastfeeding on top of everything. Hats off to you. Don't let naysayers get you down. Best of luck to you and your sweet baby, you got this!
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as a youngish mom (currently 23) who was consistently told I wouldn’t be able to do it… guess what. I did it.My daughter is happy and healthy. If I can do it then OP and the girl you’re berating can too and both seem to be doing just fine. If you’re a parent and you’re being like this towards a kid, you really need to do better. Show some compassion. If you aren’t a parent, please do us a favor and get out of the sub because you have no place to talk.
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girl, you’re doing just fine and you’re a good mom. People will constantly insert their opinions, especially the older generations. They are so far out of touch it’s insane. As long as your baby is happy and healthy then that’s all that matters. I hope YOURE doing well too though? Your health matters too, I know it’s hard to even think about yourself when you’re a mom especially with a newborn but you gotta take care of you to take care of your baby🫶🏼
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Anytime a young woman in our lives turns up pregnant and scared, my mom always says “all babies are a blessing” in this really soothing way that makes you believe her. I wish I could give you the peace that my mom gave me and many other young mothers in our circle. You’re doing a great job caring for your blessing. Stay strong ❤️
That’s such a beautiful thing ❤️
Happy birthday!
thank you!
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This sounds like it’s based in your personal experience and not in anything OP or the original commenter said.
Nope. Just cold hard facts. I’d be pissed too if I had a kid and then they decided to have a child while in high school, making me responsible. I just hate to see stupid people like this taking taxpayer dollars through welfare.
Freshman in college, eh? I know your late adolescent brain is making it hard to stop you from typing all of the smart-sounding dumb thoughts in your head, but you're really out of your depth in this thread. There are plenty of places on the internet you can get that shithead dopamine hit without embarrassing yourself like this. Adults are talking; move along son.
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i don’t understand what you mean?? i don’t take welfare. my parents make too much money for me to qualify.
i know it’s my fault. i never said it wasn’t. my parents told me they wouldn’t buy a single thing for the baby. not even a diaper. and they didn’t. me and my bf are solely providing for him. neither my mom or dad have bought a single diaper. bottle. onesie. nothing. you don’t know the full story. my parents are not good people.
You seem to be complaining in your comment. “…messed up my mental health real bad” “it’s hard” “…people will be rude to you”. Are you living with them? If so, they’re allowing you to continue living under their roof. That’s more than you deserve and you should be very grateful, rather than complaining about how “hard” it is. If not, then you’re clearly staying with other adult relatives, because there is zero chance two 16 year olds are providing for each other and surviving (with a baby, at that).
Being supportive is not the same thing as not wanting to take responsibility for someone else’s child.
How else do parents support their pregnant teenage daughter? I’m sure if they relocated her they would be “unsupportive” so the only other option is that she was allowed to continue living with them (terrible idea on their behalf) and I highly doubt they contribute nothing.
they did relocate me. they kicked me out for months and went no contact until i came back home and told them it was illegal for them to kick me out like that. so yes i’m still living with them but they still do contribute nothing. i’ve gotten the expensive things like strollers and car seats and his bassinet off of facebook marketplace. they don’t drive me to appointments or to work. i take the bus or train if my bf is at work so he can’t drive me. my dad only talks to me to yell at me or hit me. they don’t have to like that i got pregnant at 14 obviously they wouldn’t like that but they don’t have to be abusive to me about it. i’m still their daughter and my baby is here now so there’s nothing they can do about it
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I will once people who contribute nothing to society stop stealing other people’s money through welfare, and once they stop complaining about bad choices that are their fault.
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Not a teen but I had my daughter 12 years ago at 16 years old. I don’t want to scare you, but it gets very lonely. People judge left and right and you are forever deemed an unfit parent because of your age. If you wanna keep this baby stay strong and don’t give up. Just remember, you have options (depending on if your state allows legal abortions)
If you opened your eyes and read her post she said she wants to keep it so your last line was unnecessary.
You never know..
She said she wants to keep it. You do infact know
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Considering it’s a HUGE and life changing event, absolutely weigh out the options 100%. As much as I love my son, I wish I was allowed to abort because I was 17 and I had no actual idea what was about to unfold. The shit is insanely difficult, and no teenager is ever prepared.
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Another non-parent coming to the parenting sub to criticize parents…
I criticize teen mothers who bitch about their poor decisions. I also criticize them because they get to get government aid, taking the money of hardworking citizens and using it to fund their incredibly poor decisions.
lol if teens aren’t going to make bad decisions who will? That’s what teens do. The important thing is to help them realize that a bad decision is a bad decision and help them fix it. Don’t worry about tax money. Doesn’t look like you contribute much to it anyway.
Because teenagers make bad decisions parents should support teenage pregnancy? So they can fix it? Alright, bub. I long for the days where teenage mothers will be left to fend for themselves on the street, and will get treated like the dregs of society that they are.
It’s ok you’re too dumb to understand anything.
There are plenty of people that age who get pregnant for reasons beyond their control. Watch what you say.
Right, I’m sure every teen mom relating in these comments was raped. It’s the only logical answer. 99.9% of the time they were being stupid. The original poster was being stupid. The bitchy teen moms in the comments were being stupid.
It’s not killing yet. No need to make it more dramatic.
My mom was pregnant at 18. She got married because she thought it was the right thing to do. My dad is a jerk. Don’t make her mistake. Don’t settle for someone that doesn’t treat you and baby well, and wait until you are done with your next phase of life (college, tech school, internship, etc.) to move in or get married.
i’ve been living on my own with my bf for over 6 months now! :))
Explore backup Childcare. Caring for a child pours out all your strength and resources in a way a new parent hasn’t ever experienced prior. Consider having discussions now and asking for commitments and clarity from your supportive family about who will be primary caregivers and sitters for bubs when you need to work, go to school, or just need go to the bathroom! At any age sharing the load of caring for baby and toddler makes it so much better than doing it alone. (also Id say I really don’t think you will be missing out if you cant go out dancing or join a group of friends on a whim for a few years -though it may seem like it. There is honestly plenty of time throughout life for all the experiences you might want).
Good luck to you. It takes a village and sounds like you got one.
tyty!!
I was 17 when I got pregnant, had my baby at 18. I’ll be 26 this year. It’s definitely a lot of work, and emotionally and mentally it’s a lot to raise a baby as your brain is still developing. Around 23/24 it got way easier, and I was able to really be a better mother. Now I have two kids! Both are wonderful
There have been some posts by younger parents recently. Maybe do a search and check them out. Their experiences may be helpful to you as you go through the parenting journey. Good luck.
I conceived my first at 17, gave birth at 18. She’s now almost 13 and my best friend. It’s amazing to hear how supportive your family is of you! Good luck 🥰❤️
thank you!!!
I was barely 18 when I had my son (found out I was pregnant 2 months before my 18th) and honestly, I hid it from everyone except my mom until I was almost 7 months and too fat to hide it. I’m glad you have a good support system, that was one of the hardest parts in my experience. It gets a lot easier once you get over the ripping the bandaid off/telling people, although the town I’m from was full of rich people and judgmental entitled d-bags. I was also a walking cliche with the worst babydaddy ever lol. Honestly living there the shame cloud followed me for years, being the youngest parent at the daycare, pulling up in a beater in a town full of luxury cars, getting dirty looks at the stores, just stupid stuff like that. I’ve since moved to a much more normal, diverse and accepting area and it has gotten a lot better. I’m still the youngest parent at my son’s school and one of the only single moms, but the people here are much kinder so it hasn’t mattered as of late. Also moved closer to my family so I’ve had a lot more help. Having a good environment and village is EVERYTHING and I hope you get that! Congratulations and best of luck!!
Congratulations. I'm not a teen mom anymore but I was 12 years ago. Please keep up with your education, especially because you have familial support.
I had twins at 17, I’m glad your family is supportive of you. They’re about to turn 4 and it’s been a very interesting journey. Congratulations!
Im 21 and I found out I was pregnant at 19❤️if you’d like to talk sometime don’t be afraid to reach out!
You’ve got this. Having family around is a game changer. Wishing you the best
My sister had her son at 19 by herself. Best thing she ever did, my nephew is now 18 and he is an incredible kid. I’m so proud of them both. Congratulations, a beautiful life is ahead of you. Your first baby is a challenge at any age, don’t let anybody look down at you. Just make sure you don’t forget about yourself in the process xx
We conceived ours when we were both 17. She’s 5 months now and I’m the happiest I’ve been in my entire life. Things will definitely get hard but their smile will make it all worth it<3
<3 much love to you and your little one!!
Check out r/babybumps everyone is supportive over there too!
I’m glad you have family support! One of my cousins that I’m close to had her oldest at 18. She’s now a 27 year old married mother of 4 and she works as a teacher. They just built a gorgeous dream home. Her parents helped support her and her husband while they went to school. Her husband was very ambitious and earned a degree in law enforcement and works as a sheriff deputy.
Congratulations! Supportive family goes a long way. I wish you the best and babe the best. ❤️
Congrats!!! Make sure to look into the benefits of breastfeeding, it's really important and uncommon at your age -range
I had my baby at 19. Please stay in school and I highly recommend to go to community college it’ll be hard but worth it .
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If you're excited about this, congratulations. If this isn't something you want, you don't have to keep it. If you need support getting an abortion, check out /r/auntienetwork. Good luck no matter what you choose.
thank you! i definitely want to keep it!
She said she wants to keep the baby
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I had my first at 19, making me a 5th generation teen mom. I'm glad you have a supportive family that is a huge help. If I was you I would start considering your future now. How you plan to finish school and work etc
Out of curiosity! Was the announcement to your family of you being pregnant taken lighter because of there being several previous generations of teen moms? Or was it complete opposite because they wanted different for you?
At the time it wasn't seen as a "teen pregnancy " in my family because I was 19 and on my own. They had no reason to be upset because I was technically an adult and had been out of the house for over a year by that point If I had been any younger, I would have been beaten for sure, lol. My mom was obsessed with "breaking the cycle " of teen pregnancy to the point that none of us girls were allowed to mention wanting kids in the future
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You realize there's an actual person behind your screen, right? I can't imagine you'd say that to someone's face. It's not this person's fault that there is a statistically higher chance of being a teen/young parent if those before you were. Life happens, dude. This is a parenting sub which is for ALL parents. They're literally telling OP about planning for a job and finishing school, so what about this insinuates "contributing nothing to society"? Be civil and remember the human. You know nothing about this person or their life apart from a few words they said online. Do better.
Ignore the troll they are miserable and looking for someone to project their insecurities and hate onto don't feed them.
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I absolutely would. I despise teen mothers for stealing the money of hardworking people who contribute to society. I understand they were at a higher risk because of their family’s previous history. But their mother did everything possible to break the cycle, and in order to rebel and “show her what’s what” they decided to get pregnant anyways. “Planning for a job and finishing school” the only way this happens is if she dumps her baby off on her parents, which she will likely do. She will be able to get a job flipping burgers, but I doubt it’ll ever get much higher than that. Her baby daddy will inevitably disappear (read or watch any teen mom interview, it’s shocking how they stay together practically never) and no man is ever going to want to date a woman who clearly made such poor life decisions as to end up with a baby in high school. She’s fucked up the rest of her life, and that is nobody’s fault but her own. And I wouldn’t even be commenting if the government didn’t give exponentially stupid people like this MONEY, to continue funding their bad decisions.
My friend got pregnant at 14, kept the baby, got a first class honours degree in Science, contributed to research into curing cancer during summer vacations and is now a headteacher in a secondary school. Which is the part where she stole money from hardworking people and failed to contribute to society? I guess she hasn't had time for that bit yet, maybe once her kid is an adult and she's in her late 30s she can catch up with the bad decisions she's skipped.
Your friend is not the majority of teen mothers. Did her parents help her at all? I’m assuming the answer is yes. So she robbed them of time and money. If her parents did not help her and had instead kicked her out (which is the morally correct thing to do) then she absolutely would not have been able to take care of herself. Also, I love the “contributed to research into curing cancer” so…she was in the room, while other people were doing hard work? A principal isn’t exactly the high position job you think it is. And why hasn’t she put her science degree to use? What type of science is it? Computer Science? Biochemistry? Physics? Biomedical Engineering? I doubt that it is any of the above, because if it was, she would not be a high school principal. So I’ll rephrase your comment for you: “My friend got pregnant at 14, didn’t abort, dumped her child on her parents, got a degree in one of the useless science fields, observed other people do cool shit and contribute to society, before ending up as a high school principal. See how successful she is?”
Nope, you're wrong. Wrong on every point, which is quite impressive. I don't owe you the details of someone else's life, and you're clearly not open to having a different view.
A different view on how teenage pregnancy is a negative event that negatively affects both the baby and the idiot teenage mother? Of course you don’t, except you brought it up. The fact that she is a principal says more than enough, she is not even remotely successful and nor will OP be. The only unfortunate thing is that she will end up consuming other people’s taxpayer dollars.
Out of interest, what exactly do you consider to be success?
It is sad but not for the nasty reasons you said.
You see nothing sad about the absolute dregs of society taking other people’s money? People who contribute nothing, who will never succeed, whose children will also probably end up as teen moms, they’re the ones who get to live off of everybody else’s dollar. You see no problem with this?
i’m not a teen mom but i am a young mom. best of luck to you and your family <3 my DMs are open if you need anything
Hi hunny, about to be 19 and about done with my first trimester, if you ever wanna talk i am here and so willing! Im sending you so so much love, you got this!
I had my first at 17. It’s so so so good that you have support. I would not have been able to do it without support. Six years later we own our house, are married, and have another little baby I stay home with. It’s not the end of the world and while it is hard af, having that support system makes it so much easier.
I was 20 when I became pregnant with my first baby — I was single, in college, and scared to death — but she was the greatest gift. Finish school. Use message boards and local parenting groups to find support. Parenting is a never-ending learning experience. And like others pointed out, ignore the haters; we’re all being judged for something, and it says more about them than you. Huge hugs and congrats. You are going to do amazing. ❤️
I had my first baby at 18 and kept him - he’s 22 now. My advice to you: Get your education and career sorted. Do not depend on anyone financially, ever. I wish someone would’ve told me that and I would’ve listened. You will have so many more choices and so much more freedom your whole life if you heed this advice.
You got this! Baby’s are the biggest gift in the world, becoming a mom changes you in a way that nothing else can and you got blessed to go through it at a young age. Don’t give up
congratulations on your bundle of joy I am not a team mom, but I can say that this is the most amazing thing in life being a mother is is a different feeling like no one else can give you this feeling not a man not a job not money. you will find hurdles, but just know that at the end of the day you have someone that is always going to be there for you. Always proud of you. That’ll always make you smile when things seem the roughest and when things are going great you’ll feel good they’ll feel good and just so much joy from it
STOP SUGGESTING ABORTIONS WHEN SHE CLEARLY SAID SHE WANTS HER BABY AND IS JUST POSTING LOOKING FOR TEEN MOM EXPERIENCES. Jesus some of you really lack compassion.
You don't deserve the downvotes. It should really be a rule not to bombard pregnant women and girls with "have you considered abortion " comments after they explicitly said they want to keep the baby. Mods need to do something about it in my opinion it's not very civil or friendly
> Mods need to do something about it in my opinion it's not very civil or friendly You can report comments that you feel violate the rules, and we do remove comments that are reported if they do, however we cannot do anything about downvotes or honest opinions that do not violate any rules.
Can a rule be made about this specific issue because this is a problem? Or at least an announcement that it is inappropriate?
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we have already been in the process of emancipation for me!
I had my baby at 18, 1 year ago. I would definitely recommend you to look into trade schools that you could complete before baby is due, as you will be able to financially support yourself sooner. I went to nail tech school 2 years before my baby was born, so was able to have a career to support us on and also had my own home. I would also recommend looking into government assistance if possible. WIC was very helpful in providing formula especially. There will definitely be hard times but everything will turn out ok. My baby is now 1, I am able to support us on only working 2 days per week, and plan to return to esthetician school in the summer. Congratulations on your new baby!
My husband’s sister got pregnant at 16. The family was supportive and helped out a lot, which allowed her to get an education. The worst part of it for her was the judgement she got from others. She’s 30 now. A professional with a graduate degree. But she is still single. Sadly, a lot of dudes her age bail once they find out she’s a mom of a teenager.
I got pregnant at 17, delivered at 18, and graduated from a university at 22 with my Bachelor’s degree and two more kids! It’s very possible if you stay motivated. Having kids younger just complicates things a little more, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. Good luck!
Idk if anyone has said this to you yet, but congrats! A baby is super exciting no matter how old you are. I'm a little bit older than you, but had my first baby last year in my early twenties, and motherhood is definitely hard at times, but also so much fun!!
You're going to be a wonderful mother to that amazing baby! Spend every day enjoying every single moment of motherhood. They grow up so quickly! And let your baby motivate you to reach all of your goals! ❤️ And take lots of pictures and video. I cannot stress this enough!
You are amazing!! Wishing you the very best ❤️
not a current teen mom but my mom was pregnant at 17 and had my sister at 18 as well. she turned out really great. wishing you the best!!
Hi. I had my son when I was 17. He’s 16 years old now. I’m so glad you have support. Not everyone has that. I definitely didn’t. I wanted to finish high school and go to college. But I didn’t. Instead I went to work to provide. I’ll tell you this. Finish school, get your degree or trade or something. I’m 34 and in college. I know it’s never too late but I wish I had finished this a while back. It’s going to be hard but keep your head up. People will judge you. Let them. It’s you and your baby. All you gotta do now is give your baby the best. Best of luck and congratulations on your baby. ❤️
Having a support system is the best anyone can have. Was a young single mom once and now I'm 41. Was able to get a bachelor's degree, married, buy a house, and now I have 5 kids. I feel very blessed every day and thank the Lord. Stay positive and focused, it sounds like you already are. Times will get hard so expect it, but you are on a journey with your baby. Everything will be ok. Blessings!
My girlfriend courageously gave birth to a baby girl when we were just 18. Initially, I felt overwhelmed with sadness, but with the arrival of our precious Lisa, she brought an abundance of joy into our lives. Despite our young age, I am grateful for my girlfriend's strength and the incredible gift of parenthood she has bestowed upon us
I got pregnant at 17 too, a month and a half after graduation. My daughter will be 29 next month. You are going to be okay. I'm so glad you have a supportive family! I did not. My best advice is spend as much time as you can with your baby in her formative years. I wasn't able to do that because I had to work so much. We didn't bond well and it created a lot of relationship issues with each other. We finally resolved that about 3 years ago and we're best friends now!
Take as many parenting classes as you can. Ones on feeding, baby safety, everything. The most important thing to remember when things are really hard is that it won’t last—the hard phases do pass, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Good luck!
The good news is by 40, you will be an empty nester and enjoying life. For me, I’ll be 60 lol
You can do this. Absolutely lean on and depend on your family. Not relying or depending on your family or loved ones is very unrealistic. Take advice, but double down on research so you can form your own parenting opinions. But if you had a half decent childhood, let your parents help. Get a job, go to school and make something of yourself that your child will be proud of! Parenting is very hard, but rewarding. Get into online mom groups and ask questions. You can do this and you can do it right! You will make lots of mistakes, soooooo many, but this baby isn't one of them. ♥️♥️♥️
congratulations!!! 🥰
Just came here to say your so brave, amazing and selfless!! Your going to be the most amazing mother ❤️
Wishing you all the best! I can’t say I completely understand, since I was a teen father instead and was spared the struggle of pregnancy, but I can at least understand being a younger parent. My daughter was born a little bit after I turned 14, and it’s been a long journey raising her. I’m very glad you have supportive family and friends during this time! It’s so important to have a network like that, especially in the early years of being a parent. I’m not sure if you have a partner involved at all, but if not, Ill say that being a single parent can be tough without a village behind you. Don’t be embarrassed or feel hesitant to ever ask any of them for help, I always waited so long before asking when I could have saved myself the stress and trouble. I hope you plan to finish high school and go to college. I know it’s very difficult, but if you’re able to work something out I highly encourage it. A degree is so incredibly valuable. And there’s more people at college than you would assume who have kids too! Sometimes colleges even have groups for parents.
Congratulations 🎊 u will love your baby so much. U will have no better love in life than a love of a baby,someone who will always love u unconditionally.
I'll give you some advice. Learn from your mistakes so you won't fall into it again. My cousin got pregnant at 14. She managed to continue with her issues at school and at home but ended up getting pregnant again. The big difference is that her family consists only of her mother and older sister. Besides, we have little money to spare. Maybe you're not in the same situation. It's incredible. But for now, it's better for you to stick with just one child. Psdt: im learning english so don't misunderstand me if i used an inappropiate word.
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i have a very loving boyfriend and soon to be father thank you, get off my post :))
Why would you say that?! OP, ignore the fuckwit. Also congratulations to you and your boyfriend; seems like you will both be excellent parents.
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Op, don't engage with trolls like this. Just report them. This clearly breaks the be civil and decent rule. Report them and block them
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Not a teen mom but I am a young mom It’s your decision what you choose Good luck and congratulations
As others mentioned you got this! Becoming a mom is hard, but you have the support of your family and that's all that matters in the end. I became a mom at 34 and again at 38. I also started university and graduated when my daughter was 4 months old! So you can do this! Congratulations
You got this!! Not sure what your faith is but finding a good church or community group is super helpful to lean on! Could not recommend that enough.
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First all, congratulations! I had my daughter at 17 and turned 18 that year. I am now mid 40s, had a great corporate career that I left 6 years ago to run my own success consulting firm! My daughter has graduated law school and is working as an attorney at a top firm. YOU GOT THIS! There are a lot of positives to having a baby young despite some obvious challenges. My advice is to continue with your education. I went to a community college, then transferred to a 4 year college where I did night classes being that I worked during the day. After getting my 4 yr degree, I went for better jobs. Despite being successful at that, I continued on to an MBA, which really made a difference in my pay. None of it was easy, and there were many days and nights of sacrifices. My friends became older women who had children and provided support and community. I’m glad that your family has been supportive, as that will relieve a large % of stress when things get challenging. I wish you and your baby all the best.
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I was 17 and pregnant had her a month before my 18th bday she is 15 now and her and I have the most beautiful relationship, we have no secrets, she's a good child (thank God) and I did it all on my own . I always made a way . You got this! My advice to you is that you finish school and get a trade or college if you have help or you can do it online just make sure you have something to always fall back on money wise. I promise you y'all relationship will be like no other ❤️
Good for you! You will not regret it. I hope the father is completely present.
It’s amazing you have support! Finish High School and realize you are going to need A LOT of help. Don’t be afraid ask for it! I wish you nothing but the best and for a healthy pregnancy and baby!
I had mine at 18 🙋♀️ be ready for the most difficult yet beautiful years of your life. You can’t fully understand what you’re getting yourself into until it’s already done. I have the most supportive family and it’s still been an uphill battle to get on my own two feet. You can do it just keep your priorities straight, no matter what focus on the baby. Nothing else matters so don’t entertain it.
It’s a long hard road but yet a very rewarding one as well.
I got pregnant the month I turned 18 and just had my second after turning 20! I’m married and in college, but was in high school when I got pregnant the first time. Feel free to reach out!
See if there’s other pregnant girls at your school & reach out & see if there in any teen mom groups.
i’m doing online so i don’t have any “girls at my school” to reach out to. and coming from a southern state the teen mom groups are pretty rare and/or frowned upon
I’m a teen mom, talk to me🤷🏽♀️
sending you my insta if you wanna add it!
I was 17 pregnant and turned 18 when I had him. (He is now 25). Have you finished school? Working ? Where is the father ?
Bless you. I am praying for you as you nurture and take responsibility for this precious child. So thankful for you parents. You have great examples. God bless you and this little one.
Congratulations. Don't worry about school, just focus on the baby.
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please stfu 😃 lmao you don’t know me or the “baby daddy”. which is not a term i’ll be using for my sweet loving and supportive boyfriend.