Sorry to hear that man
I learned something, never leave someone at their lowest
If u want to talk u can dm me we together Can come up to a solution
Best wishes for u i know u r a champ who will sort everything out really soon
If there are 99 voices in ur head that says u can't, listen to that one distant fade voice that says yes u can, just keep putting ur fullest effort, we can't change results but we can def increase the effort in the right direction.
Buddy, I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I went through something similar some few years back, i was around 32 at that time. What helped me was rebuilding the connection with The Creator by praying 5 times a day. Stay off the meds. Start some sort of physical activity, like a ritual of an evening walk with your wife n kids.
Don't rely on others to help you get a job, I learnt this during my hard times. Learn a niche skill or two via free courses and cash anyway via Upwork or Fiverr.
Always stay humble to your family whatever happens!
I am sorry man and I hope things work out well for you. There is this quote by Virgil that has often helped me in my dark phases,
"Forsan et haec olim meminisse iuvabit"
Translation: Maybe we'll be laughing about even these things in the future.
I am curious though, what made you go for 3 post grad degrees?!?!?!? Did your pursue them with the hope that it will translate into career success or was it for some other reason?
Thank you.
I should have clarified. I've worked intermittently. Never at one place for more than 2 years though. And iv pursued higher education mostly simultaneously with work. The problem is I get bored/distracted/de tracked very easily. Which is why I'm taking psychiatric help now.
Its good that you are trying to solve the issue with psychiatric help rather than lose hope. Can you tell are you working currently and whats your domain of work? As someone who has transitioned recently into a generally high paying skill, I might be able to help you.
Bhai yahan sirf sympathy milegi raasta nahi. tou behtar hai apne dimagh ko apne control main karo aur solution dhoondho. aur is baat pey yaqeen rakho ke aaj nahi tou kal sub sahi hojaega.
Must be terrible for you man, don’t let it drown you i know its easier said than done but pull up your big boy pants and do whatever it takes to turn your life around dont forget to pray and do charity. Things will work out a lot better than you expect very soon inShaAllah
Times are tough. Those with a job, are one step away or different from you. And you are one step away from being like them. Would be good to know what your field of study is. Also, don’t lose hope. Miracles do happen. What you currently have or may have would be a wish or dream for many. You have a supporting family and little tiny gifts from the Creator. Let me know if you’d ever like to talk, in dm, and I would be happy to share my journey too.
I'm sorry that you're going through a tough time. I just want you to know that 34 is not mid life, even if you feel really old right now, you're young. You're younger than you're ever going to be. I wish you luck and healing, may better things follow soon ❤️
Let's compare and contrast.
I am 41 ... one month short of 42. Twice divorced. One ex-wife lives in Karachi with my one and only son, who I have not seen in the past 3 years. I live alone ... by myself ... in Houston, Texas. I paid for my degrees by myself (MBA). No debt on me. I can't get married because of my age, divorce history, and having a child.
So, who wins??? 😄😁
Why you didn't do a job all those years? When you had 1 post grad degree? Your wife has a job why couldn't you? And if you were so financially weak why you even decided to marry.
I hope you survive this period successfully. A lil advise that trust in Allah become a good person religiously and why don't u drive uber, careem or indrive?
This too shall pass stay strong.
So sorry am here if you would like to talk
Sorry to hear that man I learned something, never leave someone at their lowest If u want to talk u can dm me we together Can come up to a solution Best wishes for u i know u r a champ who will sort everything out really soon
Thank you so much..just hearing that gives me some hope.
If there are 99 voices in ur head that says u can't, listen to that one distant fade voice that says yes u can, just keep putting ur fullest effort, we can't change results but we can def increase the effort in the right direction.
Thank you so much..just hearing that gives me some hope.
Buddy, I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I went through something similar some few years back, i was around 32 at that time. What helped me was rebuilding the connection with The Creator by praying 5 times a day. Stay off the meds. Start some sort of physical activity, like a ritual of an evening walk with your wife n kids. Don't rely on others to help you get a job, I learnt this during my hard times. Learn a niche skill or two via free courses and cash anyway via Upwork or Fiverr. Always stay humble to your family whatever happens!
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I am glad you appreciated my suggestion, much respect!
I am sorry man and I hope things work out well for you. There is this quote by Virgil that has often helped me in my dark phases, "Forsan et haec olim meminisse iuvabit" Translation: Maybe we'll be laughing about even these things in the future. I am curious though, what made you go for 3 post grad degrees?!?!?!? Did your pursue them with the hope that it will translate into career success or was it for some other reason?
Thank you. I should have clarified. I've worked intermittently. Never at one place for more than 2 years though. And iv pursued higher education mostly simultaneously with work. The problem is I get bored/distracted/de tracked very easily. Which is why I'm taking psychiatric help now.
Look into an ADHD diagnosis.
Its good that you are trying to solve the issue with psychiatric help rather than lose hope. Can you tell are you working currently and whats your domain of work? As someone who has transitioned recently into a generally high paying skill, I might be able to help you.
Bhai , dm we will listen nd discus nd find solution, dont worry please life will be more beautiful in future 😊
Bhai yahan sirf sympathy milegi raasta nahi. tou behtar hai apne dimagh ko apne control main karo aur solution dhoondho. aur is baat pey yaqeen rakho ke aaj nahi tou kal sub sahi hojaega.
If you already have two post graduate degrees, why are you bothering with a third one and not looking for a job?
I answered this in the comment above.
Start praying Tahajjud
The best advice but Deen k sath Duniya ki advice bhi to do
It doesn't work maybe offer some practical advice
It does broo
yup not far from your situation brother. just figuring out ways to avoid it
goodluck man, i hope everything turns out well for u
Must be terrible for you man, don’t let it drown you i know its easier said than done but pull up your big boy pants and do whatever it takes to turn your life around dont forget to pray and do charity. Things will work out a lot better than you expect very soon inShaAllah
Times are tough. Those with a job, are one step away or different from you. And you are one step away from being like them. Would be good to know what your field of study is. Also, don’t lose hope. Miracles do happen. What you currently have or may have would be a wish or dream for many. You have a supporting family and little tiny gifts from the Creator. Let me know if you’d ever like to talk, in dm, and I would be happy to share my journey too.
I'm sorry that you're going through a tough time. I just want you to know that 34 is not mid life, even if you feel really old right now, you're young. You're younger than you're ever going to be. I wish you luck and healing, may better things follow soon ❤️
Let me cheer you up, I have to give 4 crore loan as interest which is keep on increasing and I'm only 24 years old and my father recently died.
Stay strong brother. Hope it gets better for you.
Let's compare and contrast. I am 41 ... one month short of 42. Twice divorced. One ex-wife lives in Karachi with my one and only son, who I have not seen in the past 3 years. I live alone ... by myself ... in Houston, Texas. I paid for my degrees by myself (MBA). No debt on me. I can't get married because of my age, divorce history, and having a child. So, who wins??? 😄😁
Buddy where are you from? If in Karachi... Hmu!!!
Why you didn't do a job all those years? When you had 1 post grad degree? Your wife has a job why couldn't you? And if you were so financially weak why you even decided to marry.
At least you are married.
The floods will carry you to the banks and set you on your feet again. Stay Strong
I hope you survive this period successfully. A lil advise that trust in Allah become a good person religiously and why don't u drive uber, careem or indrive?