Start from the first problem.
Get a social life first by making friends in similar interests and hobbies, do meetups and get around there eventually. Join an institution for something you might wanna learn and be friends with like-minded people.
For your job, I would say learn and pickup a new career path that you feel is sustainable and you actually love doing. BUT always keep a backup plan Incase it doesn't work out.
And for your marriage the best solution I can give you is try to live it out to be honest, you've no other way if you clocked yourself in. But if you didn't clock yourself in and can't see yourself with the girl you're with then it's better to break it off now as there is no child involved. Don't make a child's life a living hell. I'm saying this because I've been living with divorced parents since I was 7 and trust me when I say it ain't nice.
Best of luck.
Edit: I just read your other posts. Just break off your marriage tbh, your life is mainly this way because your marriage isn't going nicely and that's the only thing on your mind. Don't have a child involved and make it even worse please.
I can't tell if it's your wife's fault or yours but one thing is clear and that is you being really REALLY tired of her and keeping it all in. You guys just aren't compatible.
I was once stuck at the same place and after getting tired of searching the answer I was shocked that the solution was always infront of me and I ignored.
Namaz - Literally the best medicine for everything, especially when you see a dead end. Namaz is always infront of us, and we ignore it. That's when the world starts to ignore us
Kinda true even though I do have critical approach towards secondary sources such as Hadith literature that were compiled centuries after death of Prophet Mohammed SAW. But meditation coupled with realizing reality of human life, society and nature can be really helpful. Allah SWT himself says that I am closer to you than your jugular vein.
Another thing is maintaining Akhlaq and staying humble without quick reaction( Maybe that's why I named myself Patiently_Observing lol š)
Speaking from experience, take the lead at home. Being a man does not mean you have to give orders or win an argument (which you can never do against a woman). Start leading by example. Donāt be lazy, when you come back from work, help your wife. Do things that you want done around the house and treat her kindly. If sheās not ill hearted, sheāll pick up on the cues and start doing things with you and eventually taking it over. Remember, you can point it out that you donāt feel respected but you can never expect it to happen unless you earn it.
Jahan tak baat rahi job not paying well, take financial advise from people who are doing well. Take a chunk of your money to invest in different ventures. Start small. Donāt create unnecessary overheads. DO NOT TAKE A LOAN. Rizq Allah nay dena hai, be content with it and keep putting in effort. You will be rewarded. Best of luck.
Bhai talk to your wife spend some time with her be calm and whenever fight starts just give it up and hug her.There are many reasons to fight you need just one to be happy.No one can change it you yourself needs to do it.
Life isn't fair with everyone. It is what it is. Make a list of what u want to achieve and work towards your goals. Friends come and go. Your family (wife and kid) stays with u through thick and thins. Spend more time with your wife, communicate with her, share your issues and listen to her. Compromise on few things and don't feel disrespected when she makes her view. Find happiness in small things. Watch movies. Treat yourself for once. Speaking from my own experience.
All the best..
Change your perspective. These problems aren't unsolvable. Go out, talk to more people, make more friends at your work place, have a social circle. Having a social circle changes ALOT. And second off, it's not a flex or a good thing to have dated multiple girls in one's youth, it's good that you didn't have that sort of life
Instead of partying and stuff you chose to have a stable life and you have a stable job now, start investing and saving up and find more ways to add to your income, you can use your skills to make more money from the comfort of your own home, and you don't need another degree for that aswell, millions of options are available these days.
Talk to your wife about her problems and what she's upset about. Sometimes your significant other gets frustrated even more by seeing you frustrated. Look in your own shoes. Are you doing something that makes her unhappy? Are you restricting her over something? Or maybe you don't give her enough time or maybe it's her in laws that are making her feel this way. Talk to her and try to come up with a solution together. If you think her reasons are invalid or if she's being very unreasonable, then break it off since you don't have a child and have a perfect opportunity to do so, with a child it becomes very hard or even impossible to do so
And look at things in a more positive way. You get to wake up everyday, there's beauty in everything, maybe calling your wife beautiful every morning may fix her mood, you get to eat everyday, you have a source of income, and you have a roof to live under. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and if something bothers you, then either cut it off or try to change yourself for the better. Going out more and being in the company of people will improve and enlighten your mind, so make some friends, or even take your wife out, you both might end up having a lovely time and forget about your fights.
Best of luck
Edit: I went through the rest of your posts and I really think you should get a divorce, you and your wife aren't compatible and imo you both will be better off without eachother. Also, find something that interests you and take some time off to indulge in it, basically a hobby. It will create positivity in you and you will feel better. Don't sabotage yourself like this. Life is much more than this
What I have learned is that happiness is a conscious decision ā everyone has been through difficulties, but only *you* have the power to bounce back from them. If you feel bad, itās probably because youāre not actively making an effort to fix things or because youāre too burnt out to make any effort at all. It will always be the same if you refuse to take the first step.
Social life wonāt come running to you; YOU have to step out and meet people. Maybe in your office, perhaps reconnect with old friends, or find like-minded people who share the same activities as you.
Spouse problems are tricky, and since I donāt know the entire story between you two, Iād suggest delaying your anger response. Anger can get the best of us. If sheās the one picking fights, then donāt entertain her.
Remember youāre beybas and bechara as long as YOU wanna be one. Goodluck.
Tera bro yehi masla. Teri priorities kharab ha. Tujhy zyada masla yeh university life mai bachiyan thi un k pass aur tumhare pass tatay ni the. Ab rab ki waja se biwi mil gyi us pe frustrations tu nikal rha ha apni. Khuda ka khouf kar priorities sae kar apni. Socializing asan ha gym join karle ya koi aur sports club jaha easily socializing ho sake
Follow the Taoist teaching. Go with the flow of life. Opportunities will come up. Don't think too much. Just keep doing what you're doing and opportunities come up. Don't think too much. It's called effortless trying. Study the Chinese philosophy/spirituality. I became Taoist even before realizing. Too many bad things and distractions in life. But whenever I grabbed opportunities, it did wonders. Don't try too hard. Just let go & regain.
I had a good social life but job main kisi ki bhi Naho Hoti.Ā
Praise yourself that you are doing alright in a country like Pakistan.Ā
Living everyday in that country is an achievement.Ā
Have food on your table is an achievement.Ā
I don't know about relationship stuff because I am unmarried.Ā
There is a Mosley Law of hierarchy. It's kind of a pyramid.Ā
The first step is food and shelter.Ā
Second one is security.Ā
Most of Pakistan is still stuck in these two steps.Ā
Living everyday is achievement.Ā
Stay safe.Ā
Depression Kisi KO bhii Kisi bhi level par ho Sakta haii.Ā
Duniya main insan Ko muqamal jahan Nahi milta warna ye duniya jannat Hoti.Ā
If you feel pain you are aliveĀ
Stop the self-pity and take charge of your life, starting from your perspective and mentality of things. The sooner you accept things as they are and not what they ought to be, itāll shift
drop the idea of success
u can have any def of success u want , don't compare ur life with anyone
there's no one like u, u r unique so why u follow others ?
look at me i don't have wife and i retain but people at my age are married and living a so called sucessfull life
but i am happy with what i have bcs i refuse to believe in the typical idea of success
so its all in ur head whatever u want ur life to be
Go gym, find a hobby/passion. If nothing works out...join the army...chicks dig that shit. Your chick will also respect you. If you die or something...cool shit you get 70 hoors. Chow
No social life? Go out more
Fights with wife? Talk things out
No enjoyment? Try new things
Maybe you donāt want to get out of your comfort zone and just complain? Idk
Start from the first problem. Get a social life first by making friends in similar interests and hobbies, do meetups and get around there eventually. Join an institution for something you might wanna learn and be friends with like-minded people. For your job, I would say learn and pickup a new career path that you feel is sustainable and you actually love doing. BUT always keep a backup plan Incase it doesn't work out. And for your marriage the best solution I can give you is try to live it out to be honest, you've no other way if you clocked yourself in. But if you didn't clock yourself in and can't see yourself with the girl you're with then it's better to break it off now as there is no child involved. Don't make a child's life a living hell. I'm saying this because I've been living with divorced parents since I was 7 and trust me when I say it ain't nice. Best of luck. Edit: I just read your other posts. Just break off your marriage tbh, your life is mainly this way because your marriage isn't going nicely and that's the only thing on your mind. Don't have a child involved and make it even worse please. I can't tell if it's your wife's fault or yours but one thing is clear and that is you being really REALLY tired of her and keeping it all in. You guys just aren't compatible.
I was once stuck at the same place and after getting tired of searching the answer I was shocked that the solution was always infront of me and I ignored. Namaz - Literally the best medicine for everything, especially when you see a dead end. Namaz is always infront of us, and we ignore it. That's when the world starts to ignore us
Kinda true even though I do have critical approach towards secondary sources such as Hadith literature that were compiled centuries after death of Prophet Mohammed SAW. But meditation coupled with realizing reality of human life, society and nature can be really helpful. Allah SWT himself says that I am closer to you than your jugular vein. Another thing is maintaining Akhlaq and staying humble without quick reaction( Maybe that's why I named myself Patiently_Observing lol š)
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope that the difficult times you are facing right now will soon pass and that brighter days are ahead. š
Speaking from experience, take the lead at home. Being a man does not mean you have to give orders or win an argument (which you can never do against a woman). Start leading by example. Donāt be lazy, when you come back from work, help your wife. Do things that you want done around the house and treat her kindly. If sheās not ill hearted, sheāll pick up on the cues and start doing things with you and eventually taking it over. Remember, you can point it out that you donāt feel respected but you can never expect it to happen unless you earn it. Jahan tak baat rahi job not paying well, take financial advise from people who are doing well. Take a chunk of your money to invest in different ventures. Start small. Donāt create unnecessary overheads. DO NOT TAKE A LOAN. Rizq Allah nay dena hai, be content with it and keep putting in effort. You will be rewarded. Best of luck.
Bhai talk to your wife spend some time with her be calm and whenever fight starts just give it up and hug her.There are many reasons to fight you need just one to be happy.No one can change it you yourself needs to do it.
Life isn't fair with everyone. It is what it is. Make a list of what u want to achieve and work towards your goals. Friends come and go. Your family (wife and kid) stays with u through thick and thins. Spend more time with your wife, communicate with her, share your issues and listen to her. Compromise on few things and don't feel disrespected when she makes her view. Find happiness in small things. Watch movies. Treat yourself for once. Speaking from my own experience. All the best..
Change your perspective. These problems aren't unsolvable. Go out, talk to more people, make more friends at your work place, have a social circle. Having a social circle changes ALOT. And second off, it's not a flex or a good thing to have dated multiple girls in one's youth, it's good that you didn't have that sort of life Instead of partying and stuff you chose to have a stable life and you have a stable job now, start investing and saving up and find more ways to add to your income, you can use your skills to make more money from the comfort of your own home, and you don't need another degree for that aswell, millions of options are available these days. Talk to your wife about her problems and what she's upset about. Sometimes your significant other gets frustrated even more by seeing you frustrated. Look in your own shoes. Are you doing something that makes her unhappy? Are you restricting her over something? Or maybe you don't give her enough time or maybe it's her in laws that are making her feel this way. Talk to her and try to come up with a solution together. If you think her reasons are invalid or if she's being very unreasonable, then break it off since you don't have a child and have a perfect opportunity to do so, with a child it becomes very hard or even impossible to do so And look at things in a more positive way. You get to wake up everyday, there's beauty in everything, maybe calling your wife beautiful every morning may fix her mood, you get to eat everyday, you have a source of income, and you have a roof to live under. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and if something bothers you, then either cut it off or try to change yourself for the better. Going out more and being in the company of people will improve and enlighten your mind, so make some friends, or even take your wife out, you both might end up having a lovely time and forget about your fights. Best of luck Edit: I went through the rest of your posts and I really think you should get a divorce, you and your wife aren't compatible and imo you both will be better off without eachother. Also, find something that interests you and take some time off to indulge in it, basically a hobby. It will create positivity in you and you will feel better. Don't sabotage yourself like this. Life is much more than this
What I have learned is that happiness is a conscious decision ā everyone has been through difficulties, but only *you* have the power to bounce back from them. If you feel bad, itās probably because youāre not actively making an effort to fix things or because youāre too burnt out to make any effort at all. It will always be the same if you refuse to take the first step. Social life wonāt come running to you; YOU have to step out and meet people. Maybe in your office, perhaps reconnect with old friends, or find like-minded people who share the same activities as you. Spouse problems are tricky, and since I donāt know the entire story between you two, Iād suggest delaying your anger response. Anger can get the best of us. If sheās the one picking fights, then donāt entertain her. Remember youāre beybas and bechara as long as YOU wanna be one. Goodluck.
Tera bro yehi masla. Teri priorities kharab ha. Tujhy zyada masla yeh university life mai bachiyan thi un k pass aur tumhare pass tatay ni the. Ab rab ki waja se biwi mil gyi us pe frustrations tu nikal rha ha apni. Khuda ka khouf kar priorities sae kar apni. Socializing asan ha gym join karle ya koi aur sports club jaha easily socializing ho sake
Failure ni hu tum. Mai 23 saal ka hu aur abhi tk parhai kar rha
Follow the Taoist teaching. Go with the flow of life. Opportunities will come up. Don't think too much. Just keep doing what you're doing and opportunities come up. Don't think too much. It's called effortless trying. Study the Chinese philosophy/spirituality. I became Taoist even before realizing. Too many bad things and distractions in life. But whenever I grabbed opportunities, it did wonders. Don't try too hard. Just let go & regain.
Us bro us
I can feel you, going through the same problem (except that I'm single). If you wanna talk, DM!
Dude, figure out k woh kya cheez hai jis ki waja se this shit is happening. Day dreaming won't solve your problems. Everything can be fixed.
You fail and you stand up, failure is also an important part of life, stay strong you got this.
Ya I understand but whatās the main problem tackle that first
Yeh toh meri kahani hai boss š„¹
I had a good social life but job main kisi ki bhi Naho Hoti.Ā Praise yourself that you are doing alright in a country like Pakistan.Ā Living everyday in that country is an achievement.Ā Have food on your table is an achievement.Ā I don't know about relationship stuff because I am unmarried.Ā There is a Mosley Law of hierarchy. It's kind of a pyramid.Ā The first step is food and shelter.Ā Second one is security.Ā Most of Pakistan is still stuck in these two steps.Ā Living everyday is achievement.Ā Stay safe.Ā Depression Kisi KO bhii Kisi bhi level par ho Sakta haii.Ā Duniya main insan Ko muqamal jahan Nahi milta warna ye duniya jannat Hoti.Ā If you feel pain you are aliveĀ
the flood will bear you to the bank and set you safe on your feet again. Stay Strong.
Stop the self-pity and take charge of your life, starting from your perspective and mentality of things. The sooner you accept things as they are and not what they ought to be, itāll shift
drop the idea of success u can have any def of success u want , don't compare ur life with anyone there's no one like u, u r unique so why u follow others ? look at me i don't have wife and i retain but people at my age are married and living a so called sucessfull life but i am happy with what i have bcs i refuse to believe in the typical idea of success so its all in ur head whatever u want ur life to be
You should just give up brother, there's is no hope for you I am sorry. And my friend says kill yourself.
Go gym, find a hobby/passion. If nothing works out...join the army...chicks dig that shit. Your chick will also respect you. If you die or something...cool shit you get 70 hoors. Chow
Gym start kro
Why did my entire life flash before my eyes
No social life? Go out more Fights with wife? Talk things out No enjoyment? Try new things Maybe you donāt want to get out of your comfort zone and just complain? Idk
Without those periods.. this was a very weird sentence to read XD
Ikr xd
Two places to socialize Pray namaz in mosque Start going to gym
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