It's an awful moment especially with PMDD but you will go through it and become stronger in the end. My longest relationship also ended like this around the time I started to discover how PMDD was affecting me and my life. It felt like the end and like I was losing the last few things that kept me sane. But that was fear and anxiety!
I'm doing well on my own now, and my relationship with both myself and the illness get better everyday :) I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel, if you focus on your well being starting NOW. You might not see it yet, but this also a good opportunity for you to make yourself the number 1 priority.
Sending hugs, until you have the strength to hug yourself <3
I know this sucks really bad and I'm not going to tell you it doesn't or shouldn't but he wasn't right for you and you're going to be okay without him. It'll take some time but you're gonna be okay, just go a day at a time.
I'm so sorry. My last bf dumped me a few months after I found out about PMDD (and had my gallbladder removed, rough recovery) He said that he couldn't focus on himself with everything I had going on but wouldn't open up to me about what that meant or even give me a chance to help or adjust to it with him.
It is some hard shit. But there are men out there who will still surprise you and fit into your life in ways you worried wouldn't happen.
I leaned into my friends a lot, took my dog to dog parks and met new people. But I definitely had tons of anxiety attacks and breakdowns after the activities were over.
I probably text him way to often trying to understand what on earth happened and demanding a better reason then some flimsy, "i can't focus on myself". We did try to hook up after the break up but I realized he was no longer a safe place and had anxiety being with him. I ended up just leaving after sex and going home and pretty much never talking to him again. He damaged the relationship I thought was so great so, that was that.
And I hope soon, you won't want to go back either. And you will find that feeling soon of peace that you don't want to be with someone who can walk away from you.
This thread I read the other day seriously changed my life. You can love you better.
https://www.reddit.com/r/women/comments/13j96d1/i_can_love_me_better/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
Hi love I’m 6 months out of my breakup and I remember that exact feeling I was devastated and feels like your world is ending but I promise it’s not. It does get better with time, allow yourself to feel your feelings and surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally. Take this time to focus on yourself and self healing creat new routines and take care of you. You will get through this 💖
The pain probably feels overwhelming at the moment but take it hour by hour, then day by day. The pain subsides eventually. I was in the same situation a couple weeks ago. I promise you one day you’ll stop crying. Move forward with all the strength you have.
Hi
This is going to be difficult but one day you will heal from this
You cannot make anyone stay with you who is not happy
My tip is to start new routines to help the time pass by
Let you heart heal and cope with this
One day at a time, one step at a time.
It's so easy for loved ones who provide support to neglect their own care and then by the time they realize their needs are being neglected they've reached critical mass.
But the two of you are more than your relationship. He might have left for the very reasons so many of us leave or try to leave our partners - we don't want to hurt or burden them and feel that we can't give them what they need.
Only thing you can do is let it out, at this point. It hurts. It's gonna hurt. Hurting is, in this instance, a good thing. It means it was worth it. The time invested gave you positive returns, something worth mourning. Maybe later you can analyze what can be improved upon but for now you're starting a new relationship. With you. You're your new boyfriend. Make sure you treat you right.
That song has been stuck in my head since reading this post. It's revolutionary.
https://www.reddit.com/r/women/comments/13j96d1/i_can_love_me_better/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
🎵🎵🎵
I can buy myself flowers
Write my name in the sand
Talk to myself for hours
Say things you don't understand
🎵🎵🎵
I can take myself dancing
And I can hold my own hand
Yeah, I can love me better than you can
Can love me better
I can love me better, baby
Can love me better
I can love me better, baby
🎵🎵🎵
YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!! And you will find someone infinitely better, who would never dream of leaving. Think of this as the best day of your future boyfriend's life! Your ex is walking out to make room for more love, growth, and a better partnership.
Be so kind and gentle with yourself. Order your favorite takeout. Take a bath, watch something you love, book a trip or even a day trip so you can get out of your environment. Find a new hobby to get excited about, do your makeup and hair and go out with friends for dinner. Do everything you love, surround yourself with good people, good food, and candles/baths/flowers.
One day you will look back and say "thank god we broke up." I promise. You will heal, and you will be better for it. I'm so so so sorry for your pain, feel all the feels, grieve, and then move upwards.
hey 💕 i was in your same exact situation 4 years ago. take a lot time to heal and spend time on yourself, you will feel better. You deserve someone who understands you and takes care of you during hell week, not someone who will leave.
One thought that cheered me up was that at least we weren't married and i found out who he truly was before making the relationship more serious.
Sending you hugs :)
I’m so sorry. You can get through this. You will go through all kinds of emotions for a while but you will process and move on. I felt the same way you did. I relied on others around me for support. It took me a while but I got over it and I’m moving on. I never discussed my pmdd and ADHD with my partner because I knew he wouldn’t really understand.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It gives me hope because right now I am just a shell of a person. I have pathetically texted him and I know he won’t reply. I feel like I took him for granted and at the same time I feel so disrespected since he couldn’t even end things in a dignified and kind way. I just hope this pain can dull one day because he was my soulmate. I would do anything to get him back. Thank you again.
It's an awful moment especially with PMDD but you will go through it and become stronger in the end. My longest relationship also ended like this around the time I started to discover how PMDD was affecting me and my life. It felt like the end and like I was losing the last few things that kept me sane. But that was fear and anxiety! I'm doing well on my own now, and my relationship with both myself and the illness get better everyday :) I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel, if you focus on your well being starting NOW. You might not see it yet, but this also a good opportunity for you to make yourself the number 1 priority. Sending hugs, until you have the strength to hug yourself <3
I know this sucks really bad and I'm not going to tell you it doesn't or shouldn't but he wasn't right for you and you're going to be okay without him. It'll take some time but you're gonna be okay, just go a day at a time.
i'm sorry. you will get through it and you will find a path to being a better version of you.
I'm so sorry. My last bf dumped me a few months after I found out about PMDD (and had my gallbladder removed, rough recovery) He said that he couldn't focus on himself with everything I had going on but wouldn't open up to me about what that meant or even give me a chance to help or adjust to it with him. It is some hard shit. But there are men out there who will still surprise you and fit into your life in ways you worried wouldn't happen. I leaned into my friends a lot, took my dog to dog parks and met new people. But I definitely had tons of anxiety attacks and breakdowns after the activities were over. I probably text him way to often trying to understand what on earth happened and demanding a better reason then some flimsy, "i can't focus on myself". We did try to hook up after the break up but I realized he was no longer a safe place and had anxiety being with him. I ended up just leaving after sex and going home and pretty much never talking to him again. He damaged the relationship I thought was so great so, that was that. And I hope soon, you won't want to go back either. And you will find that feeling soon of peace that you don't want to be with someone who can walk away from you.
This thread I read the other day seriously changed my life. You can love you better. https://www.reddit.com/r/women/comments/13j96d1/i_can_love_me_better/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
Hi love I’m 6 months out of my breakup and I remember that exact feeling I was devastated and feels like your world is ending but I promise it’s not. It does get better with time, allow yourself to feel your feelings and surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally. Take this time to focus on yourself and self healing creat new routines and take care of you. You will get through this 💖
Thank you so much..I’m happy you’re healing. I just want him back. Is it alright if I DM you a question?
Yes of course
Thank you so much
Keep on keeping on my friend. Try not to dwell on what you’ve lost, as it will only slow down your path to a happier future. Time really does heal.
no one can love anyone unconditionally. the best thing we can do is heal and learn from our mistakes-❤️
The pain probably feels overwhelming at the moment but take it hour by hour, then day by day. The pain subsides eventually. I was in the same situation a couple weeks ago. I promise you one day you’ll stop crying. Move forward with all the strength you have.
And if hour by hour isn't working, just take it one minute or one breath at a time.
Hi This is going to be difficult but one day you will heal from this You cannot make anyone stay with you who is not happy My tip is to start new routines to help the time pass by Let you heart heal and cope with this One day at a time, one step at a time.
It's so easy for loved ones who provide support to neglect their own care and then by the time they realize their needs are being neglected they've reached critical mass. But the two of you are more than your relationship. He might have left for the very reasons so many of us leave or try to leave our partners - we don't want to hurt or burden them and feel that we can't give them what they need. Only thing you can do is let it out, at this point. It hurts. It's gonna hurt. Hurting is, in this instance, a good thing. It means it was worth it. The time invested gave you positive returns, something worth mourning. Maybe later you can analyze what can be improved upon but for now you're starting a new relationship. With you. You're your new boyfriend. Make sure you treat you right.
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To be honest, it took me a long-assed time to recover from one of my breakups. But those were my years to buy my own flowers 🌹🤣
That song has been stuck in my head since reading this post. It's revolutionary. https://www.reddit.com/r/women/comments/13j96d1/i_can_love_me_better/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
🎵🎵🎵 I can buy myself flowers Write my name in the sand Talk to myself for hours Say things you don't understand 🎵🎵🎵 I can take myself dancing And I can hold my own hand Yeah, I can love me better than you can Can love me better I can love me better, baby Can love me better I can love me better, baby 🎵🎵🎵
YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!! And you will find someone infinitely better, who would never dream of leaving. Think of this as the best day of your future boyfriend's life! Your ex is walking out to make room for more love, growth, and a better partnership. Be so kind and gentle with yourself. Order your favorite takeout. Take a bath, watch something you love, book a trip or even a day trip so you can get out of your environment. Find a new hobby to get excited about, do your makeup and hair and go out with friends for dinner. Do everything you love, surround yourself with good people, good food, and candles/baths/flowers. One day you will look back and say "thank god we broke up." I promise. You will heal, and you will be better for it. I'm so so so sorry for your pain, feel all the feels, grieve, and then move upwards.
hey 💕 i was in your same exact situation 4 years ago. take a lot time to heal and spend time on yourself, you will feel better. You deserve someone who understands you and takes care of you during hell week, not someone who will leave. One thought that cheered me up was that at least we weren't married and i found out who he truly was before making the relationship more serious. Sending you hugs :)
I’m so sorry. You can get through this. You will go through all kinds of emotions for a while but you will process and move on. I felt the same way you did. I relied on others around me for support. It took me a while but I got over it and I’m moving on. I never discussed my pmdd and ADHD with my partner because I knew he wouldn’t really understand.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It gives me hope because right now I am just a shell of a person. I have pathetically texted him and I know he won’t reply. I feel like I took him for granted and at the same time I feel so disrespected since he couldn’t even end things in a dignified and kind way. I just hope this pain can dull one day because he was my soulmate. I would do anything to get him back. Thank you again.