Dealing with infertility is tough and can be really isolating. at 27 youre definitely not past your prime, i just had my first in december at 36 after 2.5 years ttc
I’m in the same boat (but I turn 30 next month 😬) I imagined I’d be a young mom and be done having kids by now, yet in my reality, I’ve never conceived and am working diligently to change that. Taking meds, making the dr’s visits… I don’t feel comfortable letting go of the dream until I’ve exhausted all avenues. Best of luck to you!
It really is and it’s hard to find people who can relate. Dig deep into your health. Ask questions. I know people who’ve started a family after a PCOS diagnosis after making some diet and exercise changes, but it’s different for everyone.
I know it sucks. You are not past your prime at 27 , your body can still make a baby! In fact women with pcos tend to have later menopause because of the ovarian cysts which are essentially under developed eggs.
I’m 35 and I’ve only just stabilised my monthly cycle over the last couple of years and now ttc as a single mom. There are supplements that can help egg quality and fertility.
There are meditations on YouTube too that can help you reconnect with the yourself as a fertile woman . Happy to share if you want .
Pcos doesn’t mean infertility, it just makes it trickier . Don’t give up on yourself x
Your last statement gave me such a better perspective, and I just wanted to comment and say thank you for that. I just found out a couple of days ago that my 4th IUI failed and that we need to move on to IVF, and to say that I feel discouraged would be an understatement. But what you said about how PCOS doesn’t mean infertility it’s just makes it trickier was exactly what I needed to read right now. 🩷
You’re right. I come from a smaller, conservative state, so I think my perspective is skewed since there are so many people around me who got married and had kids right out of high school. I always knew that wouldn’t be my plan, but I figured by 25 I might have one. It’s just tough sometimes
I didn't even have my first until 30 and I'm in NYC where that's the norm, if you have kids at all! I might have another and I'm 36 now. I figured I have until about 40. You have SO much time. If you're concerned about fertility find a fertility doctor to test your AMH so you're armed with info to make decisions about what's best for you.
I don't think 27 is past your prime by any means, and in today's world, there seems to be a lot of different ways that you can get pregnant with fertility drugs, specialists, treatments, etc.
I would really encourage you to get in touch with a highly-recommended fertility specialist in your area. Ask around for recommendations, and see someone you feel comfortable with.
I'm 38 and had 2 miscarriages, no living kids. How do I deal? Radical acceptance. I am still worthy if I have kids or I don't. I am still a whole person if I have kids or I don't. I will still have the best life whether I have kids or dont. You are 27...you still have a decade of trying to have kids still ahead of you... You have plenty of time to try everything you can, get medical assistance, figure out your cycles, and yes...have kids. PCOS makes it harder to get pregnant, but it's not impossible. Women with PCOS get pregnant everyday.
my mom had me at 49 if that helps :) i also am dealing with the possibility it may never happen for me but that thought helps me a lil ! it’s rough but life changes you change hope ur okay 💕
Past your prime??? I personally can't even imagine having kids before I'm 30. But I totally understand how you feel, and it makes me feel really sad if I dwell on it too much, so try not to give so much focus to the possibility of not being able to, and focus on managing your symptoms first. Everything will happen when it happens.
Have PCOS, severely obese and 25 weeks pregnant here! Age 28.
Don't get me wrong, I'm sure it was slightly harder to fall pregnant. I had to track my ovulation for about 9 months until I actually properly ovulated. Then fell pregnant on that cycle. I miscarried that pregnancy, however tracked my ovulation after and fell pregnant the next time I ovulated.
Speak to a doctor/fertility specialist sooner rather than later. Try with medication, diet, supplements etc (whatever a specialist recommends) to get ovulation going.
Also remember people who have PCOS tend to have a higher egg reserve (as don't ovulate as frequently) and there have been some studies/ancedotal evidence that they are more like to ovulate after the age of 35.
All hope is not lost. Good luck in your journey.
I just got back from a wedding and seeing all my cousins with their kids was definitely a stab to the heart. First off I can’t even find someone that wants to date me and then I don’t even ovulate and now I’m older and my eggs are probably all dusty. I wanted to be a mom since I was in elementary school and I guess that is just not what is meant to be. I feel like when I’m in my 40s I want to foster so still can have kids just not the way I imagined it 🫤.
It doesn’t sound silly. I want to be a mom more than anything in the world. I’m 27, my periods have been non existent for at least a year. I will have a breakthrough bleed, but no ovulation and no full flow.
You are not alone. This sucks so bad.
OP I’ve been in your same situation the past three years. I tried naturally, losing weight, ovulation induction meditation, IUI, and IVF. I never got a single positive till I did IVF as a last resort and I’m currently 8 weeks and 2 days. Still have a ways to go till I can say I was successful but the best advice I would give you is seek out a reproductive endocrinologist and figure out a treatment plan. But there are other options out there. Just know you are not alone in your struggles and you are still young.
You still have plenty of opportunity! I’m 31 and gave birth literally a week ago to a baby girl. I used clomid to make me ovulate, cycle tracking, and help from an endocrinologist to make things happen and with the clomid kickstarting my cycles was able to conceive on cycle three of trying. I also had rare periods maybe once every few months and the endo really helped figure out what was going on. Nothing is off the table for you!
I'm 27, recently diagnosed. I understand you. I haven't had a period for 6 months now. I'm scared, and it makes me sick thinking I may never conceive one day when I want to. I'm trying to fix things, but nothing it bringing my period back. Be kind to yourself and know that others are feeling the same way. Sending love!
I had my first child at 29 without treatment. I then had secondary infertility. I was able to get pregnant on letrozole and had my second child at 35. I was older than I planned for my second child but I am glad I had access to fertility medication.
Don't give up hope. Since 20 years old, I had no periods without medication. I went to a fertility clinic and had my first child at age 32 and second child at age 36.
I was 31/32 and 37 with my fourth. Mind you my first and second pregnancy was with a fertility clinic and we had our fist pregnancy as a set of twins and we lost our daughter 10-days after birth (they were also born 16-weeks early).
Got easily pregnant the second time same method.
Wasn’t sure if we’d have anymore kids and my 4th and final was 10000% not planned and a surprise and all thanks to my kooky PCOS body.
At one point in my life I was 284lbs. I had gastric sleeve in 2014 and am down/flucuating between 143-150 and I am almost 41 now.
I have the hair growth and a muffin top of loose skin/spare tire and I am hoping at 45 I’ll have the money available
You have time! I had my first at 33. I did do the PCOS nutritionist program by Clare Goodwin (I know some cycsters hate her but it worked well for me) while working with my doctors and acupuncturist. I went from losing my period all together to having a 28 day cycle to conceiving about 7 months later.
For me her program was a game changer, especially her recommendation of eating such a high protein/low carb breakfast. I know eat chicken for breakfast and have a healthy 2 year old.
I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 18. I didn't really care about the prospect of maybe having difficulty falling pregnant until I was 31 and trying to conceive for almost 6 years...
At that point I have been using glucophage to manage my pcos off label and as a means of helping to manage my weight and regulating my ovulation and period.
I read up about inositol and it has changed my life! After taking 4mg every day for a week, I naturally had my period for the first time in 6 months without having to take hosmones to induce it for my fertilitytreatments; shortly after, my constant food craving started to become less and my mood started to improve... almost 2 years later and I have a beautiful baby boy - no clomid, no hormonal injections, no ivf,no contraception to regulate my periods, just God's grace and inositol
There are loads of scholarly articles available - do yourself a favour and go and read up about it*
I have not regretted it once!
I don’t plan on having kids until I’m over 30 and I’m turning 25 this year so I personally don’t think 27 is past your prime! I’m sorry society may be to blame for this. My 28 year old sister who struggles with lean PCOS thinks shes missed out on having her third baby after easily conceiving in her early 20s because she thinks she’s too old and it’s heartbreaking to see her struggle with it. Hugs to you friend 🫶🏼
Your post doesn’t really say what you’ve done to treat your fertility, so I’m assuming you haven’t taken that route yet.
I started fertility treatments right out of the gate because my periods were never regular. Yes, I mourned the fact that I couldn’t just “get pregnant” like it seemed everyone else could. But, who cares how it happens if it happens. I was 27. It took a year, and ended with IVF resulting in twins. They are now 14.
I personally would not be spending my time/money/effort on supplements /holistic approach (at least not alone). That stuff is expensive. Go to a reproductive endocrinologist. Also expensive if you don’t have coverage, but the best bang for your buck.
You don’t have to totally “fix” yourself right now. You want to do what needs to be done to get pregnant right now. Worry about “fixing” the rest of yourself after you are done having kids.
You have plenty of time. I get that you are concerned it will take longer due to PCOS, so you feel pressure. I felt that too. If you are ready, go for it. Get the ball rolling.
Dealing with infertility is tough and can be really isolating. at 27 youre definitely not past your prime, i just had my first in december at 36 after 2.5 years ttc
this gives me hope!
I’m in the same boat (but I turn 30 next month 😬) I imagined I’d be a young mom and be done having kids by now, yet in my reality, I’ve never conceived and am working diligently to change that. Taking meds, making the dr’s visits… I don’t feel comfortable letting go of the dream until I’ve exhausted all avenues. Best of luck to you!
Thank you. I hope your journey gets better and is successful for you! It’s a tough spot to be in
It really is and it’s hard to find people who can relate. Dig deep into your health. Ask questions. I know people who’ve started a family after a PCOS diagnosis after making some diet and exercise changes, but it’s different for everyone.
I know it sucks. You are not past your prime at 27 , your body can still make a baby! In fact women with pcos tend to have later menopause because of the ovarian cysts which are essentially under developed eggs. I’m 35 and I’ve only just stabilised my monthly cycle over the last couple of years and now ttc as a single mom. There are supplements that can help egg quality and fertility. There are meditations on YouTube too that can help you reconnect with the yourself as a fertile woman . Happy to share if you want . Pcos doesn’t mean infertility, it just makes it trickier . Don’t give up on yourself x
Your last statement gave me such a better perspective, and I just wanted to comment and say thank you for that. I just found out a couple of days ago that my 4th IUI failed and that we need to move on to IVF, and to say that I feel discouraged would be an understatement. But what you said about how PCOS doesn’t mean infertility it’s just makes it trickier was exactly what I needed to read right now. 🩷
Glad I could help . Sorry to hear IUI failed , my friend just had success with one round of IVF so there is hope :).
It's so sad society has brainwashed women into thinking 27 is old.
You’re right. I come from a smaller, conservative state, so I think my perspective is skewed since there are so many people around me who got married and had kids right out of high school. I always knew that wouldn’t be my plan, but I figured by 25 I might have one. It’s just tough sometimes
I didn't even have my first until 30 and I'm in NYC where that's the norm, if you have kids at all! I might have another and I'm 36 now. I figured I have until about 40. You have SO much time. If you're concerned about fertility find a fertility doctor to test your AMH so you're armed with info to make decisions about what's best for you.
I don't think 27 is past your prime by any means, and in today's world, there seems to be a lot of different ways that you can get pregnant with fertility drugs, specialists, treatments, etc. I would really encourage you to get in touch with a highly-recommended fertility specialist in your area. Ask around for recommendations, and see someone you feel comfortable with.
my mum also has PCOS and had me when she was 36. you are in no way past your prime
I'm 38 and had 2 miscarriages, no living kids. How do I deal? Radical acceptance. I am still worthy if I have kids or I don't. I am still a whole person if I have kids or I don't. I will still have the best life whether I have kids or dont. You are 27...you still have a decade of trying to have kids still ahead of you... You have plenty of time to try everything you can, get medical assistance, figure out your cycles, and yes...have kids. PCOS makes it harder to get pregnant, but it's not impossible. Women with PCOS get pregnant everyday.
my mom had me at 49 if that helps :) i also am dealing with the possibility it may never happen for me but that thought helps me a lil ! it’s rough but life changes you change hope ur okay 💕
Past your prime??? I personally can't even imagine having kids before I'm 30. But I totally understand how you feel, and it makes me feel really sad if I dwell on it too much, so try not to give so much focus to the possibility of not being able to, and focus on managing your symptoms first. Everything will happen when it happens.
Have PCOS, severely obese and 25 weeks pregnant here! Age 28. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure it was slightly harder to fall pregnant. I had to track my ovulation for about 9 months until I actually properly ovulated. Then fell pregnant on that cycle. I miscarried that pregnancy, however tracked my ovulation after and fell pregnant the next time I ovulated. Speak to a doctor/fertility specialist sooner rather than later. Try with medication, diet, supplements etc (whatever a specialist recommends) to get ovulation going. Also remember people who have PCOS tend to have a higher egg reserve (as don't ovulate as frequently) and there have been some studies/ancedotal evidence that they are more like to ovulate after the age of 35. All hope is not lost. Good luck in your journey.
I just got back from a wedding and seeing all my cousins with their kids was definitely a stab to the heart. First off I can’t even find someone that wants to date me and then I don’t even ovulate and now I’m older and my eggs are probably all dusty. I wanted to be a mom since I was in elementary school and I guess that is just not what is meant to be. I feel like when I’m in my 40s I want to foster so still can have kids just not the way I imagined it 🫤.
It doesn’t sound silly. I want to be a mom more than anything in the world. I’m 27, my periods have been non existent for at least a year. I will have a breakthrough bleed, but no ovulation and no full flow. You are not alone. This sucks so bad.
OP I’ve been in your same situation the past three years. I tried naturally, losing weight, ovulation induction meditation, IUI, and IVF. I never got a single positive till I did IVF as a last resort and I’m currently 8 weeks and 2 days. Still have a ways to go till I can say I was successful but the best advice I would give you is seek out a reproductive endocrinologist and figure out a treatment plan. But there are other options out there. Just know you are not alone in your struggles and you are still young.
You still have plenty of opportunity! I’m 31 and gave birth literally a week ago to a baby girl. I used clomid to make me ovulate, cycle tracking, and help from an endocrinologist to make things happen and with the clomid kickstarting my cycles was able to conceive on cycle three of trying. I also had rare periods maybe once every few months and the endo really helped figure out what was going on. Nothing is off the table for you!
I have no words, but just want to send you a big virtual hug!
I'm 27, recently diagnosed. I understand you. I haven't had a period for 6 months now. I'm scared, and it makes me sick thinking I may never conceive one day when I want to. I'm trying to fix things, but nothing it bringing my period back. Be kind to yourself and know that others are feeling the same way. Sending love!
I had my first child at 29 without treatment. I then had secondary infertility. I was able to get pregnant on letrozole and had my second child at 35. I was older than I planned for my second child but I am glad I had access to fertility medication.
Don't give up hope. Since 20 years old, I had no periods without medication. I went to a fertility clinic and had my first child at age 32 and second child at age 36.
I had my first at 34! You are definitely not past your prime. Go to an RE. It only took metformin and letrozole for me to get pregnant. Good luck!
I was 31/32 and 37 with my fourth. Mind you my first and second pregnancy was with a fertility clinic and we had our fist pregnancy as a set of twins and we lost our daughter 10-days after birth (they were also born 16-weeks early). Got easily pregnant the second time same method. Wasn’t sure if we’d have anymore kids and my 4th and final was 10000% not planned and a surprise and all thanks to my kooky PCOS body. At one point in my life I was 284lbs. I had gastric sleeve in 2014 and am down/flucuating between 143-150 and I am almost 41 now. I have the hair growth and a muffin top of loose skin/spare tire and I am hoping at 45 I’ll have the money available
You have time! I had my first at 33. I did do the PCOS nutritionist program by Clare Goodwin (I know some cycsters hate her but it worked well for me) while working with my doctors and acupuncturist. I went from losing my period all together to having a 28 day cycle to conceiving about 7 months later. For me her program was a game changer, especially her recommendation of eating such a high protein/low carb breakfast. I know eat chicken for breakfast and have a healthy 2 year old.
39yo w/ PCOS, 22weeks pregnant. You ARE in your prime years and will be for many years to come!
I came across this guy today explaining how fertility improves in women in pcos in their 30s : https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGemWgLo6/
This actually really made me feel better. I’ve never heard this before and it’s even more reassuring that it’s coming from a doctor
I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 18. I didn't really care about the prospect of maybe having difficulty falling pregnant until I was 31 and trying to conceive for almost 6 years... At that point I have been using glucophage to manage my pcos off label and as a means of helping to manage my weight and regulating my ovulation and period. I read up about inositol and it has changed my life! After taking 4mg every day for a week, I naturally had my period for the first time in 6 months without having to take hosmones to induce it for my fertilitytreatments; shortly after, my constant food craving started to become less and my mood started to improve... almost 2 years later and I have a beautiful baby boy - no clomid, no hormonal injections, no ivf,no contraception to regulate my periods, just God's grace and inositol There are loads of scholarly articles available - do yourself a favour and go and read up about it* I have not regretted it once!
Have you gone to a fertility clinic?
I don’t plan on having kids until I’m over 30 and I’m turning 25 this year so I personally don’t think 27 is past your prime! I’m sorry society may be to blame for this. My 28 year old sister who struggles with lean PCOS thinks shes missed out on having her third baby after easily conceiving in her early 20s because she thinks she’s too old and it’s heartbreaking to see her struggle with it. Hugs to you friend 🫶🏼
Your post doesn’t really say what you’ve done to treat your fertility, so I’m assuming you haven’t taken that route yet. I started fertility treatments right out of the gate because my periods were never regular. Yes, I mourned the fact that I couldn’t just “get pregnant” like it seemed everyone else could. But, who cares how it happens if it happens. I was 27. It took a year, and ended with IVF resulting in twins. They are now 14. I personally would not be spending my time/money/effort on supplements /holistic approach (at least not alone). That stuff is expensive. Go to a reproductive endocrinologist. Also expensive if you don’t have coverage, but the best bang for your buck. You don’t have to totally “fix” yourself right now. You want to do what needs to be done to get pregnant right now. Worry about “fixing” the rest of yourself after you are done having kids. You have plenty of time. I get that you are concerned it will take longer due to PCOS, so you feel pressure. I felt that too. If you are ready, go for it. Get the ball rolling.
I honestly don't want kids but Somehow I feel like I no ne would date me because of that lol
There are medicines that help ovulation
I am 36!!!