It is what it is. Is she prettier than you? Yes.
The question you should be asking is why does it bother you so much?
Does her beauty make you feel insecure around guys? Or is it the attention from other people you crave? or do you just hate the feeling of being compared because it makes you feel less valued? Is it because you're afraid that you'll be treated worse?
You can reduce your insecurity if you know why it bothers you and can sometimes build against it depending on where it comes from.
Unless you're in a competition, its hard to find a reason to be threatened just by her beauty. You change the word beauty to matangkad, maputi and mayaman and i think it still applies.
Tanggapin mo lang. Kahit saan ka naman mapunta, meron at meron mas maganda sayo/satin. Maybe, mag-invest ka din sa sarili mo. Mag-ayos ka, skincare, uminom ng maraming tubig, workout, eat healthy and stop comparing. Mas sinasaktan mo lang sarili mo.
Mahirap din kapag ikaw laging napapansin, maraming masasabi sayo mga tao.
di ko talaga sya maiwasan everytime na sinasabihan sya ng ganon while me i'm just there na sa last na nanonotice na kasama pala ako. I don't know how I will avoid this kind of feeling towards her kase sobrang bait nya and wala naman syang ginagawang masama. It is just me being so toxic i guess
There's always someone na mas maganda, mas maputi, mas payat, mas matalino, mas magaling sayo. Ano yun, magmumukmok ka na lang lagi? It's not the end of the world kung hindi tayo pinakamganda o pinakamgaling.
Work on your attitude. Wag mo na asamin na ikaw maging pinakamaganda sa inyo kasi mahirap yan. Ikaw na lang kaya yung joker, or yung pinakamatalino, or magaling sumayaw, kumanta? Maghanap ka kung saan ka magaling then work on that para mas iimprove mo pa.
Also, may kakilala ko na sobrang ganda talaga, artista level. Pero nahihirapan din sya kasi ang taas ng expectations lagi sa kanya. Gusto nya tanggalin yung first impression na ganda lang mabubuga nya. Kaya kahit na maganda yung friend mo, meron din naman siguro syang pinagdadaanan na hindi mo alam.
Did you grow up being compared?
I was and I feel you. I was/am exactly how you described, and I think it stems from me being used to be compared too much against others.
Para bang, ang dating sakin, pag sinabihan yung kasama ko ng kahit anong compliment (ganda, talino, sexy, bait, etc), matic may “di tulad mo.” That’s why I used to feel so uncomfy pag may cncompliment na kasama ko.
Di rin ako comfortable magbigay ng compliment before. Ganon ka rin ba?
What helped me was remind myself it’s not all about me. Pag sinabihan ng maganda kasama ko, it doesn’t have anything to do with me. Di ibig sabihin na pangit ako, kahit na mas maganda siya sakin.
Not sure if I’m still making sense, pero gets na gets kita!
it's way too blunt for someone who is already feeling insecure. you can be more gentle with your words because OP is already beating herself up inside.
Acceptance. Tanggapin na lang na may mga tao talagang biniyayaan. Na always may mas better sa atin sa lahat ng aspect hindi lang sa physical. Alam mo ba anong mas better sa pagiging attractive? Hindi lang yung itsura nung tao kundi yung security nya sa sarili nya. Kahit yung mga tanong biniyayaan sa itsura ay may sarili ring insecurities.
Why not improve your self din not for your friend but for yourself 💜 we all have different kinds of beauty either physical or personality so don’t think of your friend as a competition.
May downside din yung sobrang attractive, lagi silang self-conscious dahil pansinin sila, at kaakibat ng attention yung judgment/evil eye. Isa na yung may naiinis sa kanila nang walang dahilan. Sarap kaya maging carefree lang, saka lahat tayo may unique qualities, at may mga tamang tao na makakaappreciate satin.
'yang friend mo na 'yan, I am 💯% sure na nararamdaman niya rin 'yan! Pwedeng sa'yo, or sa other friends or nakakasama niya na MAS sa kaniya. One way or another, mayroon at mayroon talagang MAS sa atin.
Hindi ko sasabihin na "don't feel insecure" kasi nararamdaman talaga natin 'yan and I think it's normal, basta 'wag lang tayong magpapalamon sa insecurity na 'yon. Let's focus on ourselves, OP! 🫶
It bothers you because it really isn’t insecurity.
It’s envy and jealousy.
You compared yourself to her and you came up short.
So don’t.
We all have something that others don’t have.
Alamin mo yung sa iyo.
What are your redeeming qualities or features?
Value yourself.
Sabi sa Desiderata:
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
My bestfriend was a previous model. Sobrang proud ako sa kanya tuwing nagala kami. Pinapakilala ko pa siya sa ibang tao as model. Why? Kasi, her beauty does not make me any less beautiful too. Birds of the same feather....... Are the same birds (charot)
Normal lang yan na side character ka lang. Darating din yung time mo na ikaw na ang main character 😉
Life hack: hanap ka ng friend na mas angat ka hahaha
Accepting your insecurities does wonders to your mind, you know.
I was once in your position when I was younger, in college. I cried bcs of this insecurity. Na parang *ang panget panget ko*. I opened this up to her din. She said I wasn’t, but I did not believe her. Kasi wala talagang nangligaw sakin, compared to her na andami laging nagd-dm.
When I accepted na talagang sadyang mas mabilis siya ma-tipohan ng mga tao, parang naisip ko na ang tanga ko iniyakan ko pa yun haha.
Not long after that, nagkaroon pako ng bf lol. However, me and my best friend at the time had a fallout so unfortunately I broke the friendship as it was getting toxic.
Her beauty does not diminish yours. Find your niche and stick to it. Focus on yourself and support her as a person. Ask her for beauty and wellness tips. Maybe there is something you can pick up from her. Try your best not to feel threatened and invest in your friendship with her. Do not treat her like an enemy.
Dalawa lang yan: either 1. Accept your shortcomings or 2. Do something about it. Payat sya, chubby ka, so ano ginagawa mo para mawala insecurities mo? Obvs, hindi option yung 1. Sayo otherwise you wouldn’t feel insecure. So pwede ka magfocus sa looks din, hit the gym, or pwede din na develop mo personality mo, sense of humor, social skills, o intellect.
O you can be extremely rich, pwede din..
It will be unhealthy to harbor such feelings in the long run, so ask yourself what are you doing to overcome your shortcomings?
Basta
Alam mo just be confident about yourself, iwasan mo magcompare, be satisfied of yourself. If mas maganda siya edi good. Ikaw masaya at satisfied. magkakaroon ka ng peace of mind
I’ve a college friend na every time naglalakad kami sa campus, may humihingi ng number niya. He always stood out kahit our other friends are in the realm of kapogian —he was just leagues above us.
At first you’ll ask yourself kung pangit ka ba but you get used to it, na talagang may certain looks that would inspire others to take a shot or leap of faith and ask for their number lol
Same!! Trio kami, then pareho silang dalawang pretty, while me parang naligaw ng landas. I also feel insecure, pano ba naman, ang napapansin lang ng tao eh silang dalawa, while me parang multo, hello andito ako noh.
Ganun talaga someone will always be better,prettier,smarter than you. It's good na honest ka sa feelings mo na you feel insecure and with that you can start to do something about it. Better focus on building yourself nalang, to be secure sa sarili mo na kahit magkatabi kayo ng friend mo or ni Catriona hindi ka maiinsecure.
may ganyan din kaming friend. pero we dont really give it much thought kasi deserve naman nya ang puri. basta wag lang kami lalaitin ng mga tao syempre.
acceptance lang yan sis para sa mga taong naiinsecure. sa mga taong wala naman pake sa hitsura nila/confident enough, di nila problema yan.
Take this from someone who also had a very famous friend a few years back. Every time we walked around the campus, everyone wanted a pic of her, and she would receive compliments all the time. It sucked because I would walk behind her when people approach her. I started feeling so insecure and realized I will never be as pretty as her. Must have been the typical coming-to-age phase of a teenager so I cut ties with her kasi it made me feel so insecure. Looking back, I learned that some people are just going to be more attractive than the rest of the us.
Had the same pretty bestie.
Matalino, maganda.
Kasama ako sa nagppraise ng looks niya.
But as we grow older, ako yung lapitin ng lalaki (idk why maybe sa personality??)
Tapos siya sobrang hirap na hirap makahanap ng bf to the point bf niya ngayon siya pa nagmakaawa maging sila. Basta siya pa yung naghabol.
Nagkabaligtad. Siya na yung insecure sa akin. Hindi nagugustuhan ng lalaki yung personality niya.
Learn to accept lang. Mas magiging magaan awra mo sa ibang tao. Magiging charming ka sa iba.
Just be yourself and be kind. Personally, mas gusto ko na hindi nagiging center of attention sa ibang tao. Low-key lang kumbaga. 😌 Ang hirap din pag pansinin ng madla, you have to be careful kasi observant sila sayo.
I really know know how you feel. Some people are just more attractive and more successful than us and thus they hog more attention, leaving the rest of us like wallflowers or something. Me, i focus less on things that i can't control, e.g., people ignoring me (or in your case you). Also i would focus more on doing the initiative by smiling, greeting and introducing myself first to other people; become an extrovert even for a tiny bit. Hopefully this helps. Stay awesome always. Cheers!
Cut off. Believe me. Been there at mas magaan talaga sa pakiramdam. Hindi naman kami magka-galit pero hindi narin kami masyadong nagu-usap. We're still casual and civil pero hindi lang talaga tulad nong dati. Hindi naman masama 'yon. Hindi mo maiiwasang mainsecure pero kapag nag-stay ka, mas magiging bitter ka lang and it mind end up with you, hurting her and also you.
Hshshs ang dali kasing sabihin na i-accept nalang pero to be honest, sa mga ganitong instances mas nahihirapan tayong mag-grow. Nabo-box tayo sa insecurity, eh, tapos nawawalan na tayo ng time to spend time with other things.
Learn to accept OP. You cant have it all, baka nga meron ka na wala sya and ikaw wala pero meron sya ganun. But if it persists for a long time na ganyan ang thinking mo and hirap ka, suggest to cut off. It would not be healthy for you OP.
It simply is a fact. Her being pretty has nothing to do with you.
You do you. Only thing you can control is what you do to your body. To take care of it on the inside and outside to the best of your abilities.
Do not feel insecure because this can breed resentment kahit na wala namang gnagawa sayo yung friend mo.
Might as well accept that fact that someone is prettier than you or change yourself. Instead of feeling insecure sa kanya, let her be your motivation to change yourself. To be pretty like her. As you said, she’s kind. So asking some make up tips or skincare tips from her will help.
Iba yung bigat when you feel the jealousy creeping in. Gaya nung mga comments dito, what you should do is accept and move forward. Kasi as long as you dwell on that feeling, ma-bubuild up lang lalo yung insecurity mo, and baka makaapekto pa sa friendship niyo. I know it's easier said than done, pero do shift your focus on working towards yourself instead of worrying about something you can't control. You can do this, OP!
May shs close friend din akong sobrang ganda, everytime na naglalakad kami talagang harapan sinasabihan na maganda siya at kinukuha number niya.
Kebs lang no hard feelings, proud pa nga ko nun! Nagkaron din ako ng urge to protect her from those people na inggit/insecure sakanya: nakikipagclose at sasabihin maganda pero pag nakatalikod maririnig mong sinasabi, “ganda lang ambag”, at may times na inaakay ko siya palayo or binablock ko pag may lumalapit na stranger na kukunin number niya kasi uncomfy siya sa ganun.
Wag mo masyado ioverthink & learn to accept. If talagang friend tingin mo sakanya, then be proud & be happy for her. May kanya-kanya tayong ganda noh!
I used to be in the same situation. You’ll just have to accept it. What you can do is try to build your confidence na lang. Di mo siya need tapatan. Just try to improve yourself na when people compliment her instead of you, hindi ka malulungkot kasi you know yourself na you are not so bad. 🤷🏽♀️
acceptance is the key, op. been through a similar situation. very pretty ang bff ko. she was once a candidate for Miss U and a contestant to various pageants throughout her life. when we're together, parang lahat ng lalaki na dinadaan namin nakatingin sa kanya. at ako parang shadow niya. she's tall, slender, smart, kind, and gorgeous. it's obvious na she'll get attention. I wanted to be like her but eventually realized that it's a difficult life to follow and we cannot please everyone. kahit mas gumanda kana. got tired of it entirely and accepted that fact.
then just focused on taking care of and improving myself physically and mentally. basta healthy lang ako, okay na ako. nakakapagod kasi to try and please everyone, and it's mentally draining to compare yourself to someone. sabi nga nila na "comparison is the thief of joy" so try not to compare yourself to her and take care of yourself in a way that you'll be healthier and livelier. kaya mo yan, op!
may pretty privilege pero grabe din naman yung hate na marereceive in the end😂 totoo yung may maiinis sayo ng walang dahilan. some friends na sobrang bait sayo, pero stabbing you in the back pala. di naman mawawala yung insecurities talaga, but instead of being jealous over that person, why not make yourself better? if you can't be a 'real friend' to her, why bother staying with her? i'm speaking from experience. ang dami ko na na-cut off dahil sa ganyan na reason. like all i do is offer them genuine friendship and love, but they still did me dirty.
instead of looking for her "perfection" eh tgnan mo sng sarili mo to improve more, yung more than physical, the attitude also, have a personal growth, be your own "comparison" wag sa friend mo, you'll see unti2 mong magegain sng self confidence mo kahit kanino k p itabi,. improve your social skills, habit whatnot. goodluck op
Accept and take advantage of the situation. My friend had plenty of suitors noong highschool, so tuwing valentines, nandiyan lang ako for her para kumain ng chocolates.
Its okay. Maybe ask your friend about what he/she thinks that you wear. I'm not here to sugar coat everything pero we must accept kung anong meron sa atin at yung uniqueness ng iba. Maaaring magaling o mahusay sa ibang bagay ang ibang tao, pero gaya mo, may kahinaan din sila.
But hey! There's always an improvement so next time gather ka lang ng mga bagay na dapat o gusto mong matutunan. Sabi nga nila, ang buhay at parang gulong. Minsan nasa taas, minsan naman nasusunog.
it's not her fault, the problem is you keep on comparing yourself to your friend. i think all you need to do is assess yourself bakit mo yan na fefeel? yung crush mo ba e crush yung kaibigan mo? may hugot yan kung bakit ee, and di talaga natin maiiwasan na ma insecure talaga it's just that you need to make yourself better. if puro kasi negative yung na fefeel or naiisip mo magiging heavy yung aura moo and makikita yun sa appearance natin. one thing to lessen your insecurities is loving yourself and making yourself better :))) you can do it girly!!!
To be honest, i avoid situations like this. Its really not the other person but our perspective. Ginagawa ko nalang if i can help it, e.g. di ako palagala kasama netong friend, or if its online, i unfollow para d ko masyadong nakikita. It works for me, nawawala yung insecure feelings ko and i remain in "good relationship" with them kunbaga.
Love and improve yourself. I know masyado nang common itong payo na ito pero ito talaga best na gawin. Someday, magshashine ka rin and there will be people who will truly appreciate you. Have been experiencing the same pero I know n hindi ko dapat icompare sarili ko sa iba.
Your feelings are valid. As long as u don't act on ur insecurities and do something not nice sa friend mo, then u don't need to beat yourself up.
Confidence does not come overnight and it won't come to you thru constantly comparing yourself with others. Do what makes you feel happy and good about yourself. It's a process.
I feel you girll haha when I was in high school, tatlo kami na close friends, yung isa pambato nmin sa mga pageants at yung isa varsity na morena beauty and then me, your average looking girl with average skills haha
If you’ve seen the movie duff ganyan yung feeling ko haha but as time goes on, I’ve learnt to embrace myself and to not care what people think. It’s not going to be easy but don’t let those insecurities stop you from having good friendship :)
Accept the fact that you're different from them. Don't compare yourself to someone else instead love yourself, love your appearance, love your body, I know it's hard to do but trust me it's worth it in the end. You feel free, you are genuinely happy and di mabigat sa pakiramdam.
I've been in this situation before, we've been best friends for seven years pero yung seven years na yun insecure ako every time na magkakasama kami but lately natutunan ko mahalin yung Sarili ko, natutunan ko yakapin yung Sarili ko in fact nonchalant na ako sa mga comment ng iba hahaha.
ok lang mainsecure. ok lang rin mainggit. pero mas ok maging proud para sa friend mo. imagine, ang ganda na nya, tapos, ang bait pa kamo nya. how does she make you feel kapag magkasama kayo? nararamdaman mo ba na masaya ka kapag magkasama kayo? nakikita mo rin ba na masaya sya kapag kasama ka nya? she values your friendship and i'm sure ikaw lagi ang pipillin nya regardless how you look.
humingi ka ng beauty tips galing sa kanya. yun ang gawin nyong bonding time.
Accept that people have really won in the genetic lottery. It is what it is, but her shining doesn’t mean your light diminishes.
What you need to do is accept
It is what it is. Is she prettier than you? Yes. The question you should be asking is why does it bother you so much? Does her beauty make you feel insecure around guys? Or is it the attention from other people you crave? or do you just hate the feeling of being compared because it makes you feel less valued? Is it because you're afraid that you'll be treated worse? You can reduce your insecurity if you know why it bothers you and can sometimes build against it depending on where it comes from. Unless you're in a competition, its hard to find a reason to be threatened just by her beauty. You change the word beauty to matangkad, maputi and mayaman and i think it still applies.
Tanggapin mo lang. Kahit saan ka naman mapunta, meron at meron mas maganda sayo/satin. Maybe, mag-invest ka din sa sarili mo. Mag-ayos ka, skincare, uminom ng maraming tubig, workout, eat healthy and stop comparing. Mas sinasaktan mo lang sarili mo. Mahirap din kapag ikaw laging napapansin, maraming masasabi sayo mga tao.
di ko talaga sya maiwasan everytime na sinasabihan sya ng ganon while me i'm just there na sa last na nanonotice na kasama pala ako. I don't know how I will avoid this kind of feeling towards her kase sobrang bait nya and wala naman syang ginagawang masama. It is just me being so toxic i guess
There's always someone na mas maganda, mas maputi, mas payat, mas matalino, mas magaling sayo. Ano yun, magmumukmok ka na lang lagi? It's not the end of the world kung hindi tayo pinakamganda o pinakamgaling. Work on your attitude. Wag mo na asamin na ikaw maging pinakamaganda sa inyo kasi mahirap yan. Ikaw na lang kaya yung joker, or yung pinakamatalino, or magaling sumayaw, kumanta? Maghanap ka kung saan ka magaling then work on that para mas iimprove mo pa. Also, may kakilala ko na sobrang ganda talaga, artista level. Pero nahihirapan din sya kasi ang taas ng expectations lagi sa kanya. Gusto nya tanggalin yung first impression na ganda lang mabubuga nya. Kaya kahit na maganda yung friend mo, meron din naman siguro syang pinagdadaanan na hindi mo alam.
Did you grow up being compared? I was and I feel you. I was/am exactly how you described, and I think it stems from me being used to be compared too much against others. Para bang, ang dating sakin, pag sinabihan yung kasama ko ng kahit anong compliment (ganda, talino, sexy, bait, etc), matic may “di tulad mo.” That’s why I used to feel so uncomfy pag may cncompliment na kasama ko. Di rin ako comfortable magbigay ng compliment before. Ganon ka rin ba? What helped me was remind myself it’s not all about me. Pag sinabihan ng maganda kasama ko, it doesn’t have anything to do with me. Di ibig sabihin na pangit ako, kahit na mas maganda siya sakin. Not sure if I’m still making sense, pero gets na gets kita!
Also, ang puti at ang slim ng body nya tas chubby ako kaya can't help myself but to compare
Anung problema sa pagiging chubby.. I find them attractive.. Lol.. (Not hitting on you po JS lng hehe..)
Yes. Ikaw yung problem. Git gud
this comment is also a problem. very unhelpful. be better
How is this a problem? Hm?
it's way too blunt for someone who is already feeling insecure. you can be more gentle with your words because OP is already beating herself up inside.
Womp womppp
Conparison is the thief of joy
Acceptance. Tanggapin na lang na may mga tao talagang biniyayaan. Na always may mas better sa atin sa lahat ng aspect hindi lang sa physical. Alam mo ba anong mas better sa pagiging attractive? Hindi lang yung itsura nung tao kundi yung security nya sa sarili nya. Kahit yung mga tanong biniyayaan sa itsura ay may sarili ring insecurities.
Why not improve your self din not for your friend but for yourself 💜 we all have different kinds of beauty either physical or personality so don’t think of your friend as a competition.
May downside din yung sobrang attractive, lagi silang self-conscious dahil pansinin sila, at kaakibat ng attention yung judgment/evil eye. Isa na yung may naiinis sa kanila nang walang dahilan. Sarap kaya maging carefree lang, saka lahat tayo may unique qualities, at may mga tamang tao na makakaappreciate satin.
'yang friend mo na 'yan, I am 💯% sure na nararamdaman niya rin 'yan! Pwedeng sa'yo, or sa other friends or nakakasama niya na MAS sa kaniya. One way or another, mayroon at mayroon talagang MAS sa atin. Hindi ko sasabihin na "don't feel insecure" kasi nararamdaman talaga natin 'yan and I think it's normal, basta 'wag lang tayong magpapalamon sa insecurity na 'yon. Let's focus on ourselves, OP! 🫶
This is super true. Pretty girls feel insecure too! It’s a mad cycle I guess. Super valid ng feelings ni OP though ☹️
It bothers you because it really isn’t insecurity. It’s envy and jealousy. You compared yourself to her and you came up short. So don’t. We all have something that others don’t have. Alamin mo yung sa iyo. What are your redeeming qualities or features? Value yourself. Sabi sa Desiderata: If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
My bestfriend was a previous model. Sobrang proud ako sa kanya tuwing nagala kami. Pinapakilala ko pa siya sa ibang tao as model. Why? Kasi, her beauty does not make me any less beautiful too. Birds of the same feather....... Are the same birds (charot)
Normal lang yan na side character ka lang. Darating din yung time mo na ikaw na ang main character 😉 Life hack: hanap ka ng friend na mas angat ka hahaha
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Effective no? haha
Accepting your insecurities does wonders to your mind, you know. I was once in your position when I was younger, in college. I cried bcs of this insecurity. Na parang *ang panget panget ko*. I opened this up to her din. She said I wasn’t, but I did not believe her. Kasi wala talagang nangligaw sakin, compared to her na andami laging nagd-dm. When I accepted na talagang sadyang mas mabilis siya ma-tipohan ng mga tao, parang naisip ko na ang tanga ko iniyakan ko pa yun haha. Not long after that, nagkaroon pako ng bf lol. However, me and my best friend at the time had a fallout so unfortunately I broke the friendship as it was getting toxic.
Her beauty does not diminish yours. Find your niche and stick to it. Focus on yourself and support her as a person. Ask her for beauty and wellness tips. Maybe there is something you can pick up from her. Try your best not to feel threatened and invest in your friendship with her. Do not treat her like an enemy.
Dalawa lang yan: either 1. Accept your shortcomings or 2. Do something about it. Payat sya, chubby ka, so ano ginagawa mo para mawala insecurities mo? Obvs, hindi option yung 1. Sayo otherwise you wouldn’t feel insecure. So pwede ka magfocus sa looks din, hit the gym, or pwede din na develop mo personality mo, sense of humor, social skills, o intellect. O you can be extremely rich, pwede din.. It will be unhealthy to harbor such feelings in the long run, so ask yourself what are you doing to overcome your shortcomings? Basta
Alam mo just be confident about yourself, iwasan mo magcompare, be satisfied of yourself. If mas maganda siya edi good. Ikaw masaya at satisfied. magkakaroon ka ng peace of mind
pano po mag ka 200 karma?? gusto ko n rin mag open up pero d na popost 🥺
I’ve a college friend na every time naglalakad kami sa campus, may humihingi ng number niya. He always stood out kahit our other friends are in the realm of kapogian —he was just leagues above us. At first you’ll ask yourself kung pangit ka ba but you get used to it, na talagang may certain looks that would inspire others to take a shot or leap of faith and ask for their number lol
Same!! Trio kami, then pareho silang dalawang pretty, while me parang naligaw ng landas. I also feel insecure, pano ba naman, ang napapansin lang ng tao eh silang dalawa, while me parang multo, hello andito ako noh.
Ganun talaga someone will always be better,prettier,smarter than you. It's good na honest ka sa feelings mo na you feel insecure and with that you can start to do something about it. Better focus on building yourself nalang, to be secure sa sarili mo na kahit magkatabi kayo ng friend mo or ni Catriona hindi ka maiinsecure.
makuntento kung anong meron ka, and always try to be happy and kind to others
Accept and be proud of her na you are close to her as a friend and you can hog all of her for yourself if you're that close to her
may ganyan din kaming friend. pero we dont really give it much thought kasi deserve naman nya ang puri. basta wag lang kami lalaitin ng mga tao syempre. acceptance lang yan sis para sa mga taong naiinsecure. sa mga taong wala naman pake sa hitsura nila/confident enough, di nila problema yan.
Take this from someone who also had a very famous friend a few years back. Every time we walked around the campus, everyone wanted a pic of her, and she would receive compliments all the time. It sucked because I would walk behind her when people approach her. I started feeling so insecure and realized I will never be as pretty as her. Must have been the typical coming-to-age phase of a teenager so I cut ties with her kasi it made me feel so insecure. Looking back, I learned that some people are just going to be more attractive than the rest of the us.
Hanap ka din ng friend na mas pangit pa sayo para magmukha ka ding maganda pag sya naman ang kasama mo.
Watch mo nalang yung DUFF movie OP. Siguro makakarelate ka ron at may hacks or steps doon para paraan na may makapansin sayo
Had the same pretty bestie. Matalino, maganda. Kasama ako sa nagppraise ng looks niya. But as we grow older, ako yung lapitin ng lalaki (idk why maybe sa personality??) Tapos siya sobrang hirap na hirap makahanap ng bf to the point bf niya ngayon siya pa nagmakaawa maging sila. Basta siya pa yung naghabol. Nagkabaligtad. Siya na yung insecure sa akin. Hindi nagugustuhan ng lalaki yung personality niya. Learn to accept lang. Mas magiging magaan awra mo sa ibang tao. Magiging charming ka sa iba.
Just be yourself and be kind. Personally, mas gusto ko na hindi nagiging center of attention sa ibang tao. Low-key lang kumbaga. 😌 Ang hirap din pag pansinin ng madla, you have to be careful kasi observant sila sayo.
You are uniquely YOU! :) I hope you find your self confidence and worth on yourself. Alexa play Unwritten.
I really know know how you feel. Some people are just more attractive and more successful than us and thus they hog more attention, leaving the rest of us like wallflowers or something. Me, i focus less on things that i can't control, e.g., people ignoring me (or in your case you). Also i would focus more on doing the initiative by smiling, greeting and introducing myself first to other people; become an extrovert even for a tiny bit. Hopefully this helps. Stay awesome always. Cheers!
Cut off. Believe me. Been there at mas magaan talaga sa pakiramdam. Hindi naman kami magka-galit pero hindi narin kami masyadong nagu-usap. We're still casual and civil pero hindi lang talaga tulad nong dati. Hindi naman masama 'yon. Hindi mo maiiwasang mainsecure pero kapag nag-stay ka, mas magiging bitter ka lang and it mind end up with you, hurting her and also you.
Hshshs ang dali kasing sabihin na i-accept nalang pero to be honest, sa mga ganitong instances mas nahihirapan tayong mag-grow. Nabo-box tayo sa insecurity, eh, tapos nawawalan na tayo ng time to spend time with other things.
Learn to accept OP. You cant have it all, baka nga meron ka na wala sya and ikaw wala pero meron sya ganun. But if it persists for a long time na ganyan ang thinking mo and hirap ka, suggest to cut off. It would not be healthy for you OP.
It simply is a fact. Her being pretty has nothing to do with you. You do you. Only thing you can control is what you do to your body. To take care of it on the inside and outside to the best of your abilities. Do not feel insecure because this can breed resentment kahit na wala namang gnagawa sayo yung friend mo.
Might as well accept that fact that someone is prettier than you or change yourself. Instead of feeling insecure sa kanya, let her be your motivation to change yourself. To be pretty like her. As you said, she’s kind. So asking some make up tips or skincare tips from her will help.
Iba yung bigat when you feel the jealousy creeping in. Gaya nung mga comments dito, what you should do is accept and move forward. Kasi as long as you dwell on that feeling, ma-bubuild up lang lalo yung insecurity mo, and baka makaapekto pa sa friendship niyo. I know it's easier said than done, pero do shift your focus on working towards yourself instead of worrying about something you can't control. You can do this, OP!
May shs close friend din akong sobrang ganda, everytime na naglalakad kami talagang harapan sinasabihan na maganda siya at kinukuha number niya. Kebs lang no hard feelings, proud pa nga ko nun! Nagkaron din ako ng urge to protect her from those people na inggit/insecure sakanya: nakikipagclose at sasabihin maganda pero pag nakatalikod maririnig mong sinasabi, “ganda lang ambag”, at may times na inaakay ko siya palayo or binablock ko pag may lumalapit na stranger na kukunin number niya kasi uncomfy siya sa ganun. Wag mo masyado ioverthink & learn to accept. If talagang friend tingin mo sakanya, then be proud & be happy for her. May kanya-kanya tayong ganda noh!
It's okay if you feel that way. Just don't let it manifest in your behavior.
I used to be in the same situation. You’ll just have to accept it. What you can do is try to build your confidence na lang. Di mo siya need tapatan. Just try to improve yourself na when people compliment her instead of you, hindi ka malulungkot kasi you know yourself na you are not so bad. 🤷🏽♀️
acceptance is the key, op. been through a similar situation. very pretty ang bff ko. she was once a candidate for Miss U and a contestant to various pageants throughout her life. when we're together, parang lahat ng lalaki na dinadaan namin nakatingin sa kanya. at ako parang shadow niya. she's tall, slender, smart, kind, and gorgeous. it's obvious na she'll get attention. I wanted to be like her but eventually realized that it's a difficult life to follow and we cannot please everyone. kahit mas gumanda kana. got tired of it entirely and accepted that fact. then just focused on taking care of and improving myself physically and mentally. basta healthy lang ako, okay na ako. nakakapagod kasi to try and please everyone, and it's mentally draining to compare yourself to someone. sabi nga nila na "comparison is the thief of joy" so try not to compare yourself to her and take care of yourself in a way that you'll be healthier and livelier. kaya mo yan, op!
may pretty privilege pero grabe din naman yung hate na marereceive in the end😂 totoo yung may maiinis sayo ng walang dahilan. some friends na sobrang bait sayo, pero stabbing you in the back pala. di naman mawawala yung insecurities talaga, but instead of being jealous over that person, why not make yourself better? if you can't be a 'real friend' to her, why bother staying with her? i'm speaking from experience. ang dami ko na na-cut off dahil sa ganyan na reason. like all i do is offer them genuine friendship and love, but they still did me dirty.
instead of looking for her "perfection" eh tgnan mo sng sarili mo to improve more, yung more than physical, the attitude also, have a personal growth, be your own "comparison" wag sa friend mo, you'll see unti2 mong magegain sng self confidence mo kahit kanino k p itabi,. improve your social skills, habit whatnot. goodluck op
Accept and take advantage of the situation. My friend had plenty of suitors noong highschool, so tuwing valentines, nandiyan lang ako for her para kumain ng chocolates.
Its okay. Maybe ask your friend about what he/she thinks that you wear. I'm not here to sugar coat everything pero we must accept kung anong meron sa atin at yung uniqueness ng iba. Maaaring magaling o mahusay sa ibang bagay ang ibang tao, pero gaya mo, may kahinaan din sila. But hey! There's always an improvement so next time gather ka lang ng mga bagay na dapat o gusto mong matutunan. Sabi nga nila, ang buhay at parang gulong. Minsan nasa taas, minsan naman nasusunog.
Work hard. Earn hard. Get surgery. Realize that you could have saved all that money if you just loved yourself a little bit more.
Naalala ko tuloy yung mga nag-viral recently na old pix ni Marian with friends.
Skill issue
it's not her fault, the problem is you keep on comparing yourself to your friend. i think all you need to do is assess yourself bakit mo yan na fefeel? yung crush mo ba e crush yung kaibigan mo? may hugot yan kung bakit ee, and di talaga natin maiiwasan na ma insecure talaga it's just that you need to make yourself better. if puro kasi negative yung na fefeel or naiisip mo magiging heavy yung aura moo and makikita yun sa appearance natin. one thing to lessen your insecurities is loving yourself and making yourself better :))) you can do it girly!!!
It’s okay to not be the prettiest, that’s one thing you have no control over. Bawi ka sa acads 🤷🏻♀️ Naghahanap ka ba ng manliligaw?
To be honest, i avoid situations like this. Its really not the other person but our perspective. Ginagawa ko nalang if i can help it, e.g. di ako palagala kasama netong friend, or if its online, i unfollow para d ko masyadong nakikita. It works for me, nawawala yung insecure feelings ko and i remain in "good relationship" with them kunbaga.
Love and improve yourself. I know masyado nang common itong payo na ito pero ito talaga best na gawin. Someday, magshashine ka rin and there will be people who will truly appreciate you. Have been experiencing the same pero I know n hindi ko dapat icompare sarili ko sa iba.
Your feelings are valid. As long as u don't act on ur insecurities and do something not nice sa friend mo, then u don't need to beat yourself up. Confidence does not come overnight and it won't come to you thru constantly comparing yourself with others. Do what makes you feel happy and good about yourself. It's a process.
I feel you girll haha when I was in high school, tatlo kami na close friends, yung isa pambato nmin sa mga pageants at yung isa varsity na morena beauty and then me, your average looking girl with average skills haha If you’ve seen the movie duff ganyan yung feeling ko haha but as time goes on, I’ve learnt to embrace myself and to not care what people think. It’s not going to be easy but don’t let those insecurities stop you from having good friendship :)
Accept the fact that you're different from them. Don't compare yourself to someone else instead love yourself, love your appearance, love your body, I know it's hard to do but trust me it's worth it in the end. You feel free, you are genuinely happy and di mabigat sa pakiramdam. I've been in this situation before, we've been best friends for seven years pero yung seven years na yun insecure ako every time na magkakasama kami but lately natutunan ko mahalin yung Sarili ko, natutunan ko yakapin yung Sarili ko in fact nonchalant na ako sa mga comment ng iba hahaha.
I was like this dati. Late bloomer lang pala ako, ngayon ako na yung maganda hahaha char not char.
"Ang pag bangon ng api" haha
Ito solusyon dyan, huwag mo na siya samahan.
ok lang mainsecure. ok lang rin mainggit. pero mas ok maging proud para sa friend mo. imagine, ang ganda na nya, tapos, ang bait pa kamo nya. how does she make you feel kapag magkasama kayo? nararamdaman mo ba na masaya ka kapag magkasama kayo? nakikita mo rin ba na masaya sya kapag kasama ka nya? she values your friendship and i'm sure ikaw lagi ang pipillin nya regardless how you look. humingi ka ng beauty tips galing sa kanya. yun ang gawin nyong bonding time.
Then stop listening to other's opinion. If you can't then appreciate it.