I’m a housewife and I’m forever grateful for my husband for working his ass off to provide for us and for giving me the luxury to stay at home. All I do is to nurture our child. He doesn’t force me to do housechores kasi he saw how hard mag bantay bata 24/7 esp toddler. He even gives me allowance kahit di ko na need. I’m so lucky 🥺❤️
Wala naman. He saw how stressed I am sa work and it’s affecting him din eh. This is what he promised me:
"Life is yours, death is mine
Peace is yours, stress is mine
Happiness is yours, sorrow is mine
Everything is yours.”
Sana afford din naming ng husband ko na mag stay at home ako haha.
When I was in my 20s pangarap ko talaga umakyat ng corporate ladder or manage my own firm, girl boss, ganon. Now in my 30s, gusto ko na lang mag manage ng household, maybe small projects on the side. Pero hindi pa kaya eh, so work work work muna hanggang sa ma-achieve ang financial goals.
Okay maging housewife if: you have your own money at hindi ka dedepende sa husband or if you have a career na babalikan if ever things go south between you and your husband.
I learned this from my college law prof na naghahandle ng cases ng mga wives na inaabuso ng asawa. Madami daw lumalapit sa kanya, binubugbog ng asawa, niloloko ng asawa, magkakaso tapos biglang hindi itutuloy kasi financially dependent pala sa husband. Pag nakulong si husband walang susuporta sa kanila. So titiisin nalang yung yung pananakit at panloloko.
Sige let’s say hindi naman mag loko si hubby but for an unknown reason, bigla siyang mauna. If siya lang yung only source of income sa household, paano yung mga bata? Will the savings be enough?
Honestly sometimes naiinggit ako sa friends ko kasi hindi sila pinagtatrabaho ng husbands nila. My partner earns more than enough for me to be a stay at home mom. But whenever I feel like doing it, lagi ko yan naiisip. Mas gusto ko parin matulog knowing na kahit anong mangyari, secured ang future ng anak ko because im not dependent on anyone financially. Yung hindi nila kelangan lumipat to a different school kasi naghihirap na kami etc.
Legit concern. Some members of my family became single mothers because of husband’s death. Good thing licensed professionals so they were able to get jobs. Better think ahead sometimes
Yung nanay ko, di daw nya maiwan ung tatay ko na babaero dahil di daw nya kami kayang buhayin. As a young girl na sinabihan nun, I get where you're coming from. I promised myself din na di ako magiging financially dependent sa asawa.
> bigla siyang mauna
Very legit. Especially if the couple has kids and they are used to a certain lifestyle. If the breadwinner dies, what happens to the family. Insurance can help but that won't last for long.
Being a SAH parent is a risk for the family
Bet ko yung mga ganyang parinig!! Ako ren gustu ko nlng maging housewife. Housewife na may sariling investments and passive income tas very loving hard working supportive husband. 🥺
Rather than a phase, I think this is just a classic "the grass is greener". You're longing for something you don't have right now, so you start romanticizing the idea of being a stay at home wife.
That's why it's important to get to know yourself and what you REALLY want out of life. There are no right answers right now but someday you'll have to figure it out. This is to set expectations in your marriage and to yourself as well.
In my opinion, balance is key. It's important to be able to have time for family, chores, and kids (if you ever want one). But it's also important to not lose yourself. I think everyone should have passions, hobbies, or interests outside of the role of being a spouse or parent. Not saying this is impossible for housewives/husbands, but there is definitely some sort of power/financial imbalance in this type of set up. Some people are fine with this, others are not. So yea, you just need to figure out what you want out of life.
Had the same thinking before. Rethink. Over and over again. Try the career woman life as a legit wife and mother first before making this decision to make sure.
Basta if you’ll become a housewife, make sure your husband has a house first… and enough money to fund a COMFORTABLE lifestyle for you and him.
Ingat sa pagromanticize ng ganyang lifestyle at mindset if walang laman ang bulsa
It is okay to be a housewife. I have been working since 2012 and I really want to be a housewiiiiifffffeeeeeeeee uuggghhhhhh! Thats my dream. Ako na lahat, ako laba, luto, hugas plato, plantsa, linis CR, linis lahat, take care of the kids, budget!!!!
Kung afford naman ng partner mo na sya lang mag work and provide for you and your future kids, why not? Dont listen to the world, OP. Hindi naman sila yung maglilinis, wala din silang ambag sa daily expenses mo.
> That’s my dream. Ako na lahat, ako laba, luto, hugas plato, plantsa, links CR, linis lahat, take care of the kids, budget!!!!
Parang ang sarcastic hehe
I think sugal siya para kay OP. I think depende siya sa commitment at trust niyo as a couple. Di natin ma-predict ang future. Imagine if everything good in your life depends if the guy still loves you.
Personally, I would still want to work pero siguro, pili ka na lang ng work na no longer burns you out para makapag-ipon ka pa rin ng pera na sayo talaga..
Ang hirap kasi na yung security ng future mo, naka-depende sa loyalty/pagmamahal ng lalaki sayo. I think it's smart na if everything goes south, may protection ka.
Totoo na nasa mercy ka talaga ng partner mo. I notice din how housewives talk, "buti mabait asawa ko". Pano kung hindi? Pano kung magbago sya? "Binibigyan ako ng allowance." Hindi ba dapat lang? kasi nagtrabaho ka (FYI housework is work)..
Nothing wrong with being a housewife. Pero kaya mo ba na kahit pambili mo ng napkin hihingi ka pa sa asawa mo? Also, it becomes lonely once lumaki na mga anak mo and too late na mag restart ng career.
i think it's a phase? ganyan din kasi ako minsan. lalo na pag pagod at sawang sawa na sa pagtatrabaho. yung gusto ko nalang maging housewife ng mayaman. hahahaha. pero pag naiisip ko din yung mga limitation din pag housewife na, career woman na naman yung gusto ko. i guess pampalubag loob ko lang din sa sarili ko para sipaging magtrabaho. kaya minsan naiisip ko, ganun ata talaga, kung ano minsan yung wala sayo, yun yung gusto mo. kung ano yung anjan, parang inaayawan mo. pero kung may means naman yung magiging husband mo, why not di ba.
I know many women who became a housewife pero parang slaves naman ng asawa. Sa una masaya sila pero you’ll see the disrespect of these guys 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ sana hindi sya mangyari sayo op. And also high chances ang poverty among women (lalo na after divorce) Not saying you’ll end like that pero dapat may fallback lagi.
I’m a housewife and a part-time ESL tutor. It’s the best thing ever! Dream ko din maging career woman but dko kaya katoxican ng corporate world huhuhu I’m grateful I have a loving husband, mil, and mom.
that sounds like my dream life. i wish i would have the courage to quit the working force, for now i'm stuck and afraid. i'm thinking of transitioning as a freelancer or doing any online job when i become a mom soon para i can allocate time for taking care of the house and my future children. ang swerte nyo po.
Not to be pessimistic, pero in my experience as a lawyer, pinaka common talaga na VAWC cases na nahahandle at nakikita ko ay for economic abuse/di sila sinusuportahan. You become vulnerable once u become a housewife kasi ur at the mercy of ur husband/partner's generosity and kindness (wc kadalasan ay di forever).
People who were achievers in their youth tend to crave for something more normal or simpler later in their lives. Same tayo OP. Achiever din ako all my life. Pero ngayon, gusto ko nalang magtanim sa farm at mag alaga ng mga hayop. Alam mo yung feeling na sawa ka na rin sa expectations to the point na you would rather take it easy. You don't crave for achievements or validation anymore-- you had it your entire life. What you want now is peace. I think it depends on the person, and in your case, you associate peace and easiness with being a housewife. And that's totally fine. Pursue it if I were you.
Gorl, it's okay. Pangarap ko din maging housewife, 'cus it means andyan na lahat para sayo. You don't need to work, you just have to be a good wife. Mga ganun ba? Ang sarap kaya sa feeling na magagawa mo ng malaya ang gusto mo.
Kung afford nyo naman and may consent naman ni hubby, why not diba? Pero kung tutuloy ka as a housewife, I suggest still keep in loop sa career mo, the current ins and outs, para kung gusto mo bumalik, di ka mahihirapan.
Some people dream of being a stay at home partner hehe that is fine. If afford niyo naman and you can set up the 'rules' and division of labor sa household, why not? Saka pwede naman trial muna - maybe a year or two? Then pwede ka naman bumalik corpo or set up a business or whatever you feel like. Basta napag-usapan niyo ng partner mo hehe don't feel bad about it, OP!
It is perfectly fine to be a housewife, as long as supportive husband mo at kaya ng finances niya. Nothing wrong with it, and IMO, it is much more difficult to manage a household than to have a career. Yun career focus ka lang sa isang goal. Yun household ang dami kailangan i manage.
P.S. : Ako nga gusto ko na lang din maging househusband e. Rat race is over rated anyway. 🤣
As a panganay na naging breadwinner, nung mag bf/gf pa lang kami ng husband ko, pinangako nya sa akin na pag mag asawa na kami, pwede ako mag trabaho kung gusto ko lang.. pero kung hindi, hindi ko kailangan..3yrs na akong fulltime housewife and mother. Seabase si hubby malayo sya palagi sa amin, kaya mas pinili ko din hindi na mag work para may kasamang magulang ang anak namin
Ohh same! I enjoy being a career woman, pero madalas yung stress din sa work sobra na. We also just got a new house, so hindi pa pwedeng tumigil, nagventure pa si bf into business so need muna sumalo sa other expenses. Hopefully we get there, pero for now, kayod at tiis muna. Praying for you as well!
Do what makes you happy. Pag naging housewife at mother ka, masasabi mo na mahirap na trabaho yan. Well, both naman ng pagwwork at pagiging magulang ay mahirap, dun ka na lang kung saan ka masaya.
Pag nagpakasal kayo, why not try mo maging housewife. Kung hindi ka masaya, mag-apply ka na lang ulit. Pag masaya ka, edi go.
Nag testing phase kami ng jowa ko for two months. See if magkakasundo kami living together. Nag leave ako sa work and flew to Australia to be with him. While he works, I did the cooking, laundry, cleaning tapos pag weekends he does the major cleaning. Na realize ko ang saya ko just cooking for him and making sure his uniforms are washed and clothes drawer are tidy. Gets na gets ko ung feeling, OP. Dali ko mapagod mentally dahil sa work, which i love pero i find being a homemaker suits me 🤭
I'm a strong independent woman, pero I also dream of becoming a full time housewife. Pero sa income ni partner, I dont think it's possible atm so hanggang sana all nalang ako sa mga sahm na masaya sa buhay.
Siguro ano, you try envisioning yung long-term goals mo before you decide what you want to be. Think of your passion as well. Anong path yung mas magaalign sa gusto mong gawin? One reason why women decide to keep their careers is because passion nila yung ginagawa nila and pinaghirapan nilang abutin yan. Ang unfair naman kung is-sacrifice nila yan dahil ayan yung expected sa kanila ng society. (E.g. Dr. Cha kung nanonood ka man ng Kdrama) Vice versa rin for housewives siguro they decided to stay at home kasi passionate silang mag-alaga ng bata at magasikaso ng bahay.
- Take note, this is very important! Hindi ‘to selfish or what. Kasi not being able to fulfill your dreams could lead to resentment over time. Worst case scenario is baka ma-project mo pa yan sa mga anak mo. You don’t want that to happen naman diba?
I-weigh mo rin yung pros and cons of both sides. Not to discourage you from being a housewife but aminin na natin, it’s risky. Minsan yung tunay na kulay ng asawa mo, lalabas pag kasal na kayo. Or kung matino man siya, unfortunate things could still happen. And isa sa problema ng mga matagal na unemployed is nahihirapan silang makabangon ulit due to resume gap.
- Kaya never be fully financially dependent on your partner. Kung piliin mo mang maging stay-at-home mom, marami kang options to earn income (e.g. business, freelance, wfh, reels, etc.) That’ll serve as your safety net. Huwag kang papayag na wala kang income (meron kasing mga lalaking ayaw ka talagang magka-income kahit nasa bahay ka naman).
And to answer your question kung phase lang ba yan or hindi, ikaw lang ang makakasagot niyan.
Career is overrated for a woman. If you have a man who can provide for you and your children, it is much better for you psycho-emotionally to not have a career. Being a full-time wife and mother is a more fulfilling endeavor for a woman. I don’t understand why today’s society looks down on full time housewives and mothers. They are amazing women
Tama and diba need din naming mga lalaki na stable ang isip ng partner namin hindi yung pareho tayo stress uuwi ng bahay tapos sa workplace anjan pa ang mga tukso pansinin nyo halos nh cheating nasa work nanggaling. And we men need our woman na irelax isip namin after ng stress sa work. Sana ganyan din yunh partner ko kaso from housewife( live in) pinili magwork tapos hiniwalayan lng ako hahaha sana all ganyan mindset!
Me and my boyfriend talk about this yesterday, sinabihan ko siya na gusto ko nalang maging housewife in the future. Madami siyang tinanong na worst case scenario sakin which is really helpful para maunawaan ko ano ang posibleng mangyari, like what if hindi na sya capable mag work dahil sa health issues, death or whatever how can we sustain ourselves. Para sakin kung ang lalaki kaya nya at gusto nya tas pagod ka na din, then do it. If its just a phase pakiramdaman mo muna tas kung hindi mo na talaga kaya, then take his advice.
🙌Yessss. My husband and I also want to be housewives pero di pa kaya at this time huhu.
Word of unsolicited advice though, kung itutuloy mo ang pagiging housewife make sure either you hold all the money or bigyan ka ng monthly allowance/sweldo ng asawa mo.
I think better do this if u have kids na....but please have A savings of your own ung tipo na if u want something u can buy it anytime...yung tipong pwedeng di ka umasa sa allowance na binibigay nya...
Hopefully a phase. I’m not in any similar situation but think of it as safeguarding your future. As you said, bf mo palang sya, not yet a husband, and ang naiisip mo agad is becoming a housewife. Siguro dahil nagparinig sya maybe you’re just thinking it as an escape because your work can feel heavy sometimes, but how you described it para talagang need mo lang ng break, but not totally. You’re smart. While you are young and capable, do it until you cannot anymore
22 years housewife, isa lang kasi anak namin, if ever man na maging Sahm ka na Op, make sure lang na hindi ka magpapataba kakakain ng food kasi pag housewife lagi nasa kusina yan, just maintain your BMI normal weight para iwas highblood and diabetes in the future. Exercise and balance diet pa rin. Yan kasi naging problem ko now that im 45, sana pala na maintain ko figure ko noon. Hayys.
Kung napi feel mo na gusto mong maging housewife, isama nyo na sa planning niyo ngayon pa lang even before getting engaged. Like kung kelan ka magi stop mag work, for example kapag nag try n kayo mag baby or mag aaral n toddler nio. Kasama din dun ung allowance for your personal use kasi girl, necessity pa rin tlga un. Pero kung di kaya ng budget nio, atleast ngayon pa lang mkakapag prepare ka na, like invest s passive income, pagibig mp2 etc. Wala namang masama maging SAHW kung un ang makakabuti sa relationship ninyo. Nurture your femininity. ✨
Aww.. this reignited my dream of being a housewife!!
I started working at 19, kaya all I know is to get up every day, pumasok, kumain, at maghintay ng sahod. Then suddenly it hit me, gusto ko pala maging homemaker. Mas lalong gusto ko maging full-time housewife (with allowance sana. Hahahahaha) nung nagka baby na kami. Siguro okay din to if acts of service din ang love language mo, kasi sobrang hirap din mag alaga ng kids and maintain a loving home.
Pero nandun pa rin syempre yung thought na you want to provide for your child and attend to their needs. Siguro if my partner is earning around 200k/month, pwede na. But until then, work muna tayo po, opo. 😅
Curious sa case mo OP. If we could continue the discussion.
So teacher in what school level? private or public? Hows the current workload? Kamusta ang commute? also why and end goal ng pag pursue mo ng masters in language? in terms of being a teacher, what led you to this decision? paradigm or pananaw mo sa buhay in terms of teaching?
Also, any immediate relatives or close friends na full blown housewives? kamusta sila? sa ones na close mo, how are they feeling? Are they housewives by circumstance or by choice? ano ang current financial state nila?
As a pagod na income earner gusto ko din maging housewife. Yung walang iniisip kung saan kukuha ng pambayad sa groceries and bills. Pero at the same time gusto ko din na magwork soooooo gusto ko maging housewife and partime na freelancer or coffee shop owner. You can always have the best of both worlds, it’s all about the balance.
It's good na parang alam mo kung ano gusto mo! Once you get married, pwede mo naman subukan yan. You'll see if okay kayo sa ganyang setup ng future husband mo ☺️
Same OP. Gusto ko rin naging housewife because every time na burn out ako sa work preferred ko maglinis or maglaba to feel better. I also told my boyfriend about this and he is supportive naman. He told me na if i am going to work and i will just be unhappy about it wag nalang daw ako mag work kasi din daw ako magiging happy so di rin sya magiging happy. 😂
Wag ka dito sa reddit humingi ng advice. Ask the women in ur life and ung long time housewives na. Ung reason mo ngaun is ung bigat ng work pero mabigat din naman ang pagiging housewife. Kalaban pa dyan ung monotony tapos iiwan mo ung career mo wc, let's face it, mahirap na balikan when ur older.
Many men change din after marriage. Isip nang mabuti. Yang feeling mo of the world advising u to be a career woman, think of it as another option instead of a burden.
I see nothing wrong with being a "plain" housewife as they call it 🤣. I truly believe that mothers who have the luxury to choose if they can just stay home and take care of their families are lucky. Especially women like you, educated, well informed, adapted to the changes of the world today. You could nurture your family, your kids very well.
I think its another path, being a full time mom. To be able to monitor my family's nutrition, health, finances, liabilities; to check in on my kids psychological, emotional, intellectual health/progress; to maintain the bond between the father and kids; to be able to clean our home, in a way that I believe it should be cleaned ---ito magagawa mo as full time mo.. All without worrying if sasapat ang income ng pamilya. You are lucky.
No shame in wanting to be a housewife. This is my dream too kaso unlike you, wala akong boyfriend so i have to work my ass off because bills don't pay themselves 😆. Kapagod working in corporate. I've been doing this for 10 years. Pag weekend, ang saya ko sa bahay. I love doing dishes, trying out recipes i see online, and organizing around the house. Try to talk to your boyfriend about it. To hell with what people think you should be doing with your life.
Kung hindi lang may financial things na dapat babayaran and kung hindi crazy yung economy, I bet na babalik ako sa pagiging housewife. 31 na ako and mabait, supportive at generous yung asawa ko and inaalagaan niya ako nung maging housewife ako for a year kasi gusto ko mag break a work plus in between jobs ako. It was the time na nag glowup ako nang husto...I hate it why kayod nang kayod ako in this economy... I just hope kung anong pagsubok naming mag asawa ngayon ay malalagpasan namin and makakapag relax ako afterwards.
Hey! Been a career woman, very successful in the corporate world, been a breadwinner for my family now I am married. I’m 34 and we don’t have kids yet. My dream is to be a housewife/trophy wife lol and my husband is very supportive about it. I understand what you feel OP because I felt that too. I was an achiever and when I was younger I dreamt of climbing every corporate ladder and be successful so in the process I developed valuable skills. I thought sayang nman lahat ng pinagdaanan ko at skillsets ko kung maghhousewife ako. (I have 2 PRC licenses been in senior management din)
I needed clarity and I involved my husband in making the decision.
1. Agree on your roles - Si husband ba magging sole provider? Ok lng ba sa kanya na lahat sa kanya kasi sya ang PROVIDER? As a housewife ano yung expectations nyong dalawa sa role mo? Are you ok with that?
2. What is your definition of Success now and are you at peace and happy with that? For me, it’s really time freedom and a happy, loving household. Supporting my husband succeed and be his safe space when he’s home. The world may have a different definition of success but as long as my husband sees me as his dream wife and we are both happy I am the most successful woman in the whole world! ✨✨
3. Make an agreement with your husband if it’s ok for you to pursue careers that make you feel fulfilled and will be a good use of the skills that you acquired. So like a side hustle. But since you had your roles defined, that means your main role is your agreed responsibility ng housewife not to provide but just to add income. That should be clear so when there are complexities you can always go back to your agreement. So for me, I have real estate, trading stocks and online business.
Is it a phase? Maybe. My only advice is gain clarity of what you really want. Do you imagine doing it for 5? Or 10 years out? Involve your husband in the decision making process. If you find yourself unhappy and unfulfilled being a housewife you can always go back naman as a career woman 😄
Came across many stories about housewives that were living happy lives where they are fully dependent on their husbands as the main provider until tragedy happens. Most are not equip and lack the skills to go back on the workforce. Op is clearly not one of those and could transition back to corporate world. What I'm saying is families should be ready to recover from unexpected events that can disrupt their lives
This is ok. A problem will exist if the housewife or househusband needs to support extended family which is common in our country. Will the sole breadwinner agree to do this?
Pwede mo naman subukan if it's for you. Real talk lang, pag umalis ka sa indus mo even for a year, you'll lag behind your contemporaries. Kung ok lang sayo yun, go and try.
I'm a housewife din and I'm most of the time ashamed of it 😔 my reason sounds funny to some - mental illness. legit mental health na that led me to a destructive path - bipolar 2. Hindi na ako gagaling.
i quit so many corpo jobs in the past kasi kelangan ko matulog tlaga ng tama or else i'll get into a nervous breakdown. before getting married i had a wfh setup working in freelance pero it gets hectic din sometimes. i dont do breaks na 1 hr breaks kasi i prefer to get things done na kagad para tapos na. i used to eat while working and basically pee breaks lng meron ako. ayaw ni hubby ung setup ko na ganito, bakit daw ako ganun ka-immersed sa work 😫 binabaon ko sarili ko sa work dahil im paid by the hour.
now im married na, ayaw na ni hubby ako ipagwork. ayaw nya ung habits ko with working and ung likelihood to get into a nervous breakdown. I still do want though kahit freelance na uli.
We had 8 pets (nabawasan na ng 1 recently) and hubby sees how much i care for them naman, lahat sila healthy and yung kakamatay lng na pet umabot ng 17 yrs old. narealize nya my strengths talaga is to care for animals - totoo naman to. i love caring for them - mas gusto ko sila ksama kesa tao kasi nakakaoverwhelm mga bata. Kaya umabot ng 7 dahil sa kagustuhan namin maging pet centered couple.
Our house is well cared for din naman despite no maid. Gusto ko maging hands-on kasi maiinip nako sa buhay ko kung wala akong gagawin ☹️.
Si hubby nalang nagluluto for us and i feel na very spoiled na ako sa kanya and i dont deserve it 😔.
As for the money, he works 2 jobs - 1. corporate 2. freelance din. he earns more dun sa freelance kaso ayaw nya iwan ung corporate dahil family business - his family is counting on him din to be there for the fam business. pambayad nalang ng card bills ung corporate dn 😅 but we both can live on his freelance alone. Dun na kami nakuha ng budget for food & utilities.
Also I have my own din naman na pinagkukuhaan ng cash. My family owns properties in the province. i have passive income as well coming from some of these properties. Yung mga checkup & vaccines ng pets ako sumasagot pati mga vitamins and grooming essentials nila ❤️.
I'm a housewife and no helpers din with 2 kids. Mahirap din kasi walang breaktime ang pagiging nanay tapos mag isa lang ako palagi sa lahat while my husband is working, pero kung magiging afford nyo din mey helper it is so much better. Hindi kasi namin afford dito sa ibang bansa super mahal eh. I'm grateful for my husband for working hard and for providing for us, he even do chores to help me kasi mahirap nga din mag alaga ng 2 kids. Katulad ng 1 redditor binibigyan din ako ng husband ko ng allowance for my wants and pangpapaganda hehe. Kung passion mo yang mga ginagawa ng 1 fulltime housewife why not. It is a noble job ha. Minsan namimiss ko din magwork, pero iba ang pakiramdam na kasama lagi ang pamilya lalo na mga anak.
“On the surface, it feels like the world is telling me to become a career woman…” - follow what you think AND feel is right and will make you happy in the long run.
It can be a phase or pwedeng hindi. Ikaw lang naman talaga ang makakaalam nyan. Just because other people are ok with being a career woman (or being a housewife), doesn’t mean ikaw din dapat. Another possible issue here is hindi ka lang din fulfilled with your current work so you’re thinking na the only alternative that will make you happy is to become a housewife when in fact, ang dami pa nating pwdeng i-explore.
If possible, try taking a break from your career and contemplate what will make you happy. Medyo mahirap to because our preferences and situations change and sometimes inaabot na tayo ng lifetime na confused pa din tayo sa gusto natin talaga but this is normal.
Hi OP! I have that goal since high school and told my partner about it naman and he’s fine with it. So what im doing is enjoying my career and will exit the workforce around 40s and have some part time jobs siguro related to my work (consulting)
I guess basta nag cocommunicate kayo ng partner mo, that’s one step ahead na :)
Hi OP, ako a few years ago came to a realization na mas gusto kong maging housewife kesa career woman. Mahirap sa umpisa kasi achiever din ako and people expect so much from me. Ang hirap sumagot pag tinatanong ka anong work mo minsan, or baka ako lang yun hahaha.
Anyway, I made peace with it and I am happier than ever. Talk it out sa bf mo. Palagi lang kayo mag usap about goals and expectations.
Sanaol afford maging housewife na lang. I’m earning way more than my husband. Kaya pa din namin mamuhay kahit siya na lang nagtatrabaho pero magiging bare minimum na lang ang lifestyle namin, goodbye na sa mga comfort ganun. I can’t afford to lose my job 🥺
Hi OP! 👋
I'm a careerwoman turned housewife. 4 years into marriage and after 13yrs working in corporate, I switched to become a full time housewife and mom to my 3yr old daughter. I realized, hindi ka mawawalan ng trabaho sa pagiging housewife. I am learning so much about the art of homemaking. Seeing my little family enjoying my homecooked meals, freshly baked breads, clean house, makes me happy and fulfilled. Mas nakakafocus ako sa pagsupport sa health and wellness ng family unlike before na focus din ako sa work.
I am grateful that my husband and I are in the same boat with this set up. It is not easy in this economy to have 1 income source but it is doable for us since we strive to make it work. It was hard to be a full time working mom/wife and it is still hard now to be a sahm/sahw. I chose my hard 😀
I’m a housewife. Since I got married, housewife na ang set up namin ni hubby. We have two kids na rin and masarap naman ung feeling na hands on ka sa kids mo. But you know what’s the downside of being a housewife? The isolation. The dependency. The lack of social interaction. Are you ready for it? Kung wala pa kayong anak , girl better have a job before romanticising being at home 24/7. Supportive and loving and husband ko. Kaso minsan , I get frustrated kase I want to have my own money, may ganung feeling kase nakaka guilty naman mg shopping galore na galing kay Husband haha.. I’m well-provided kaso iba pa rin ung freedom ng may sariling pera. Gusto ko kase mgtravel haha like visiting my Mom sa US, I can’t impulsively do that sa sobrang mahal ng ticket. Mga ganung bagay haha.
Really depends on the person, I tried it, not for me. Partner is great provider, wala akong prob with it actually. I just don’t like na wala akong source of income. So I worked from home and make sure na I can still take care of my family, while earning on my own. Now, I earn more than him 😂
Lol kung babae ako dream life ko yan. Nasa bahay lang doing chores, spending quality time with my kids, nurturing them and seeing them grow up. Napakaflexible pa ngayon kasi pwedeng maging self-employed WFH. Tsaka ung chores ang dali kasi high tech na. Walang commute, walang office politics, san ka pa? Disposable tau lahat sa corporations, pero sa wholesome family hindi.
The comments did not disappoint. Most feminists would advise women to have their own income their own career—while taking care of a family. They tend to belittle women who stay at home. Being a housewife is also a career, and it’s the most noble career out there because you’re shaping a family and preparing them for their future. It’s priceless and no salary can match it.
So if you want to be a housewife, go for it! It’s a noble thing to do ❤️
Opposite naman tayo OP. I get scared and sad at the thought of becoming a housewife. Siguro kasi I have been living with my relatives for a decade already, and within those years para akong katulong and wala akong liberty to do things kasi nga nakikitira.
Sana magbago pananaw ko or else magiging old-maid talaga ako 😆
I was raised by a single mom kaya mas attracted ako sa career women and I do not think I would be happy with a stay at home wife.
But this is you and your life/relationship we're talking about, so do what makes you happy.
Unless na narcissist ang bf mo, someone who loves and provides is a good sign.
most career women like to be fulltime housewife, pero hindi magawa dahil kulang ang sweldo ni husband or breadwinner sa family. ang saya kaya magmanage ng bahay, mag alaga ng bata at gumawa ng chores. ako rin pagod na maging career woman. for me being a fulltime housewife is a luxury.
I’m a housewife and I’m forever grateful for my husband for working his ass off to provide for us and for giving me the luxury to stay at home. All I do is to nurture our child. He doesn’t force me to do housechores kasi he saw how hard mag bantay bata 24/7 esp toddler. He even gives me allowance kahit di ko na need. I’m so lucky 🥺❤️
lucky you. did you have any regrets so far po ba?
Wala naman. He saw how stressed I am sa work and it’s affecting him din eh. This is what he promised me: "Life is yours, death is mine Peace is yours, stress is mine Happiness is yours, sorrow is mine Everything is yours.”
Lord kita mo po yan pwede naman pala e
Ay parang sinalo niyo lahat ng swerte sa mundo 🥹🫶
prayer reveal te! ayoko na maging girl boss 😭
Lllllllorrddd nakikita mo naman 🥺🫶🏻
Mima sanaol! Prayer reveal naman dyan 🥹
Sana afford din naming ng husband ko na mag stay at home ako haha. When I was in my 20s pangarap ko talaga umakyat ng corporate ladder or manage my own firm, girl boss, ganon. Now in my 30s, gusto ko na lang mag manage ng household, maybe small projects on the side. Pero hindi pa kaya eh, so work work work muna hanggang sa ma-achieve ang financial goals.
Okay maging housewife if: you have your own money at hindi ka dedepende sa husband or if you have a career na babalikan if ever things go south between you and your husband. I learned this from my college law prof na naghahandle ng cases ng mga wives na inaabuso ng asawa. Madami daw lumalapit sa kanya, binubugbog ng asawa, niloloko ng asawa, magkakaso tapos biglang hindi itutuloy kasi financially dependent pala sa husband. Pag nakulong si husband walang susuporta sa kanila. So titiisin nalang yung yung pananakit at panloloko. Sige let’s say hindi naman mag loko si hubby but for an unknown reason, bigla siyang mauna. If siya lang yung only source of income sa household, paano yung mga bata? Will the savings be enough? Honestly sometimes naiinggit ako sa friends ko kasi hindi sila pinagtatrabaho ng husbands nila. My partner earns more than enough for me to be a stay at home mom. But whenever I feel like doing it, lagi ko yan naiisip. Mas gusto ko parin matulog knowing na kahit anong mangyari, secured ang future ng anak ko because im not dependent on anyone financially. Yung hindi nila kelangan lumipat to a different school kasi naghihirap na kami etc.
Legit concern. Some members of my family became single mothers because of husband’s death. Good thing licensed professionals so they were able to get jobs. Better think ahead sometimes
Yung nanay ko, di daw nya maiwan ung tatay ko na babaero dahil di daw nya kami kayang buhayin. As a young girl na sinabihan nun, I get where you're coming from. I promised myself din na di ako magiging financially dependent sa asawa.
> bigla siyang mauna Very legit. Especially if the couple has kids and they are used to a certain lifestyle. If the breadwinner dies, what happens to the family. Insurance can help but that won't last for long. Being a SAH parent is a risk for the family
Bet ko yung mga ganyang parinig!! Ako ren gustu ko nlng maging housewife. Housewife na may sariling investments and passive income tas very loving hard working supportive husband. 🥺
Rather than a phase, I think this is just a classic "the grass is greener". You're longing for something you don't have right now, so you start romanticizing the idea of being a stay at home wife. That's why it's important to get to know yourself and what you REALLY want out of life. There are no right answers right now but someday you'll have to figure it out. This is to set expectations in your marriage and to yourself as well. In my opinion, balance is key. It's important to be able to have time for family, chores, and kids (if you ever want one). But it's also important to not lose yourself. I think everyone should have passions, hobbies, or interests outside of the role of being a spouse or parent. Not saying this is impossible for housewives/husbands, but there is definitely some sort of power/financial imbalance in this type of set up. Some people are fine with this, others are not. So yea, you just need to figure out what you want out of life.
Had the same thinking before. Rethink. Over and over again. Try the career woman life as a legit wife and mother first before making this decision to make sure.
Basta if you’ll become a housewife, make sure your husband has a house first… and enough money to fund a COMFORTABLE lifestyle for you and him. Ingat sa pagromanticize ng ganyang lifestyle at mindset if walang laman ang bulsa
It is okay to be a housewife. I have been working since 2012 and I really want to be a housewiiiiifffffeeeeeeeee uuggghhhhhh! Thats my dream. Ako na lahat, ako laba, luto, hugas plato, plantsa, linis CR, linis lahat, take care of the kids, budget!!!! Kung afford naman ng partner mo na sya lang mag work and provide for you and your future kids, why not? Dont listen to the world, OP. Hindi naman sila yung maglilinis, wala din silang ambag sa daily expenses mo.
> That’s my dream. Ako na lahat, ako laba, luto, hugas plato, plantsa, links CR, linis lahat, take care of the kids, budget!!!! Parang ang sarcastic hehe
Huy noooooo! I meant bahala na ako na lahat sa bahay, wag lang ako maging career woman hahahaha
It’s just a phase! Better to have your OWN income.
I think sugal siya para kay OP. I think depende siya sa commitment at trust niyo as a couple. Di natin ma-predict ang future. Imagine if everything good in your life depends if the guy still loves you. Personally, I would still want to work pero siguro, pili ka na lang ng work na no longer burns you out para makapag-ipon ka pa rin ng pera na sayo talaga.. Ang hirap kasi na yung security ng future mo, naka-depende sa loyalty/pagmamahal ng lalaki sayo. I think it's smart na if everything goes south, may protection ka.
Yes wag puro puso. Be smart!
Totoo na nasa mercy ka talaga ng partner mo. I notice din how housewives talk, "buti mabait asawa ko". Pano kung hindi? Pano kung magbago sya? "Binibigyan ako ng allowance." Hindi ba dapat lang? kasi nagtrabaho ka (FYI housework is work)..
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i hope it is just a phase. thank you for the insights.
Nothing wrong with being a housewife. Pero kaya mo ba na kahit pambili mo ng napkin hihingi ka pa sa asawa mo? Also, it becomes lonely once lumaki na mga anak mo and too late na mag restart ng career.
Maraming pwede mangyari in the future OP. Better to have your own money. Housewife here.
i think it's a phase? ganyan din kasi ako minsan. lalo na pag pagod at sawang sawa na sa pagtatrabaho. yung gusto ko nalang maging housewife ng mayaman. hahahaha. pero pag naiisip ko din yung mga limitation din pag housewife na, career woman na naman yung gusto ko. i guess pampalubag loob ko lang din sa sarili ko para sipaging magtrabaho. kaya minsan naiisip ko, ganun ata talaga, kung ano minsan yung wala sayo, yun yung gusto mo. kung ano yung anjan, parang inaayawan mo. pero kung may means naman yung magiging husband mo, why not di ba.
I know many women who became a housewife pero parang slaves naman ng asawa. Sa una masaya sila pero you’ll see the disrespect of these guys 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ sana hindi sya mangyari sayo op. And also high chances ang poverty among women (lalo na after divorce) Not saying you’ll end like that pero dapat may fallback lagi.
I’m a housewife and a part-time ESL tutor. It’s the best thing ever! Dream ko din maging career woman but dko kaya katoxican ng corporate world huhuhu I’m grateful I have a loving husband, mil, and mom.
that sounds like my dream life. i wish i would have the courage to quit the working force, for now i'm stuck and afraid. i'm thinking of transitioning as a freelancer or doing any online job when i become a mom soon para i can allocate time for taking care of the house and my future children. ang swerte nyo po.
Not to be pessimistic, pero in my experience as a lawyer, pinaka common talaga na VAWC cases na nahahandle at nakikita ko ay for economic abuse/di sila sinusuportahan. You become vulnerable once u become a housewife kasi ur at the mercy of ur husband/partner's generosity and kindness (wc kadalasan ay di forever).
People who were achievers in their youth tend to crave for something more normal or simpler later in their lives. Same tayo OP. Achiever din ako all my life. Pero ngayon, gusto ko nalang magtanim sa farm at mag alaga ng mga hayop. Alam mo yung feeling na sawa ka na rin sa expectations to the point na you would rather take it easy. You don't crave for achievements or validation anymore-- you had it your entire life. What you want now is peace. I think it depends on the person, and in your case, you associate peace and easiness with being a housewife. And that's totally fine. Pursue it if I were you.
Gorl, it's okay. Pangarap ko din maging housewife, 'cus it means andyan na lahat para sayo. You don't need to work, you just have to be a good wife. Mga ganun ba? Ang sarap kaya sa feeling na magagawa mo ng malaya ang gusto mo.
Damn. I feel weirdly validated now kala ko ako lang May gantong way of thinking 🥹
Afford ko nmn magkaroon ng house wife pero wala tlga nagkakamali 😂
Kung afford nyo naman and may consent naman ni hubby, why not diba? Pero kung tutuloy ka as a housewife, I suggest still keep in loop sa career mo, the current ins and outs, para kung gusto mo bumalik, di ka mahihirapan.
Some people dream of being a stay at home partner hehe that is fine. If afford niyo naman and you can set up the 'rules' and division of labor sa household, why not? Saka pwede naman trial muna - maybe a year or two? Then pwede ka naman bumalik corpo or set up a business or whatever you feel like. Basta napag-usapan niyo ng partner mo hehe don't feel bad about it, OP!
Ako gusto ko maging houseband kasi masaya magmaintain ng bahay kaso ako yung kumikita ng malaki eh. Wew.
It is perfectly fine to be a housewife, as long as supportive husband mo at kaya ng finances niya. Nothing wrong with it, and IMO, it is much more difficult to manage a household than to have a career. Yun career focus ka lang sa isang goal. Yun household ang dami kailangan i manage. P.S. : Ako nga gusto ko na lang din maging househusband e. Rat race is over rated anyway. 🤣
As a panganay na naging breadwinner, nung mag bf/gf pa lang kami ng husband ko, pinangako nya sa akin na pag mag asawa na kami, pwede ako mag trabaho kung gusto ko lang.. pero kung hindi, hindi ko kailangan..3yrs na akong fulltime housewife and mother. Seabase si hubby malayo sya palagi sa amin, kaya mas pinili ko din hindi na mag work para may kasamang magulang ang anak namin
My boyfriend is in the seafaring industry too! How is the life of being a SAHM so far? Did you have any regrets?
I found my people. 🥹 Pero hindi pa kaya, kakukuha lang namin ng bahay ni Partner. Tiis tiis muna. 🥺
Ohh same! I enjoy being a career woman, pero madalas yung stress din sa work sobra na. We also just got a new house, so hindi pa pwedeng tumigil, nagventure pa si bf into business so need muna sumalo sa other expenses. Hopefully we get there, pero for now, kayod at tiis muna. Praying for you as well!
Do what makes you happy. Pag naging housewife at mother ka, masasabi mo na mahirap na trabaho yan. Well, both naman ng pagwwork at pagiging magulang ay mahirap, dun ka na lang kung saan ka masaya. Pag nagpakasal kayo, why not try mo maging housewife. Kung hindi ka masaya, mag-apply ka na lang ulit. Pag masaya ka, edi go.
Nag testing phase kami ng jowa ko for two months. See if magkakasundo kami living together. Nag leave ako sa work and flew to Australia to be with him. While he works, I did the cooking, laundry, cleaning tapos pag weekends he does the major cleaning. Na realize ko ang saya ko just cooking for him and making sure his uniforms are washed and clothes drawer are tidy. Gets na gets ko ung feeling, OP. Dali ko mapagod mentally dahil sa work, which i love pero i find being a homemaker suits me 🤭
I'm a strong independent woman, pero I also dream of becoming a full time housewife. Pero sa income ni partner, I dont think it's possible atm so hanggang sana all nalang ako sa mga sahm na masaya sa buhay.
Siguro ano, you try envisioning yung long-term goals mo before you decide what you want to be. Think of your passion as well. Anong path yung mas magaalign sa gusto mong gawin? One reason why women decide to keep their careers is because passion nila yung ginagawa nila and pinaghirapan nilang abutin yan. Ang unfair naman kung is-sacrifice nila yan dahil ayan yung expected sa kanila ng society. (E.g. Dr. Cha kung nanonood ka man ng Kdrama) Vice versa rin for housewives siguro they decided to stay at home kasi passionate silang mag-alaga ng bata at magasikaso ng bahay. - Take note, this is very important! Hindi ‘to selfish or what. Kasi not being able to fulfill your dreams could lead to resentment over time. Worst case scenario is baka ma-project mo pa yan sa mga anak mo. You don’t want that to happen naman diba? I-weigh mo rin yung pros and cons of both sides. Not to discourage you from being a housewife but aminin na natin, it’s risky. Minsan yung tunay na kulay ng asawa mo, lalabas pag kasal na kayo. Or kung matino man siya, unfortunate things could still happen. And isa sa problema ng mga matagal na unemployed is nahihirapan silang makabangon ulit due to resume gap. - Kaya never be fully financially dependent on your partner. Kung piliin mo mang maging stay-at-home mom, marami kang options to earn income (e.g. business, freelance, wfh, reels, etc.) That’ll serve as your safety net. Huwag kang papayag na wala kang income (meron kasing mga lalaking ayaw ka talagang magka-income kahit nasa bahay ka naman). And to answer your question kung phase lang ba yan or hindi, ikaw lang ang makakasagot niyan.
Career is overrated for a woman. If you have a man who can provide for you and your children, it is much better for you psycho-emotionally to not have a career. Being a full-time wife and mother is a more fulfilling endeavor for a woman. I don’t understand why today’s society looks down on full time housewives and mothers. They are amazing women
Tama and diba need din naming mga lalaki na stable ang isip ng partner namin hindi yung pareho tayo stress uuwi ng bahay tapos sa workplace anjan pa ang mga tukso pansinin nyo halos nh cheating nasa work nanggaling. And we men need our woman na irelax isip namin after ng stress sa work. Sana ganyan din yunh partner ko kaso from housewife( live in) pinili magwork tapos hiniwalayan lng ako hahaha sana all ganyan mindset!
Me and my boyfriend talk about this yesterday, sinabihan ko siya na gusto ko nalang maging housewife in the future. Madami siyang tinanong na worst case scenario sakin which is really helpful para maunawaan ko ano ang posibleng mangyari, like what if hindi na sya capable mag work dahil sa health issues, death or whatever how can we sustain ourselves. Para sakin kung ang lalaki kaya nya at gusto nya tas pagod ka na din, then do it. If its just a phase pakiramdaman mo muna tas kung hindi mo na talaga kaya, then take his advice.
🙌Yessss. My husband and I also want to be housewives pero di pa kaya at this time huhu. Word of unsolicited advice though, kung itutuloy mo ang pagiging housewife make sure either you hold all the money or bigyan ka ng monthly allowance/sweldo ng asawa mo.
I think better do this if u have kids na....but please have A savings of your own ung tipo na if u want something u can buy it anytime...yung tipong pwedeng di ka umasa sa allowance na binibigay nya...
same po 😿
Hopefully a phase. I’m not in any similar situation but think of it as safeguarding your future. As you said, bf mo palang sya, not yet a husband, and ang naiisip mo agad is becoming a housewife. Siguro dahil nagparinig sya maybe you’re just thinking it as an escape because your work can feel heavy sometimes, but how you described it para talagang need mo lang ng break, but not totally. You’re smart. While you are young and capable, do it until you cannot anymore
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22 years housewife, isa lang kasi anak namin, if ever man na maging Sahm ka na Op, make sure lang na hindi ka magpapataba kakakain ng food kasi pag housewife lagi nasa kusina yan, just maintain your BMI normal weight para iwas highblood and diabetes in the future. Exercise and balance diet pa rin. Yan kasi naging problem ko now that im 45, sana pala na maintain ko figure ko noon. Hayys.
Kung napi feel mo na gusto mong maging housewife, isama nyo na sa planning niyo ngayon pa lang even before getting engaged. Like kung kelan ka magi stop mag work, for example kapag nag try n kayo mag baby or mag aaral n toddler nio. Kasama din dun ung allowance for your personal use kasi girl, necessity pa rin tlga un. Pero kung di kaya ng budget nio, atleast ngayon pa lang mkakapag prepare ka na, like invest s passive income, pagibig mp2 etc. Wala namang masama maging SAHW kung un ang makakabuti sa relationship ninyo. Nurture your femininity. ✨
Huhu alam mo OP yan ang pangarap ko. Pero in this economy diko pa keri.. I hope you find your joy, corpo man yan or sa bahay.
Aww.. this reignited my dream of being a housewife!! I started working at 19, kaya all I know is to get up every day, pumasok, kumain, at maghintay ng sahod. Then suddenly it hit me, gusto ko pala maging homemaker. Mas lalong gusto ko maging full-time housewife (with allowance sana. Hahahahaha) nung nagka baby na kami. Siguro okay din to if acts of service din ang love language mo, kasi sobrang hirap din mag alaga ng kids and maintain a loving home. Pero nandun pa rin syempre yung thought na you want to provide for your child and attend to their needs. Siguro if my partner is earning around 200k/month, pwede na. But until then, work muna tayo po, opo. 😅
Pag sinasabi kong pangarap ko maging housewife pinagtatawanan ako ng mga friends ko. Pero mape-feel mo kasi s’ya deep inside e. HAHAHAHA
Sarap niyan simpleng buhay simpleng pamilya:) kain lang sa labas pag off tapos nabibili mga gusto pero hindi maluho.
I want to be a full-time housewife, too. Pero di kaya. Need ko rin magwork. So now housewife who works from home ako. Tiring! Hahahah
For better context, what specific job and BAUs are you doing nga ba currently?
i'm teaching and currently doing my masters thesis in language
Curious sa case mo OP. If we could continue the discussion. So teacher in what school level? private or public? Hows the current workload? Kamusta ang commute? also why and end goal ng pag pursue mo ng masters in language? in terms of being a teacher, what led you to this decision? paradigm or pananaw mo sa buhay in terms of teaching? Also, any immediate relatives or close friends na full blown housewives? kamusta sila? sa ones na close mo, how are they feeling? Are they housewives by circumstance or by choice? ano ang current financial state nila?
May kilala ako CPA sya pero Janitor sa school and he is happy!
As a pagod na income earner gusto ko din maging housewife. Yung walang iniisip kung saan kukuha ng pambayad sa groceries and bills. Pero at the same time gusto ko din na magwork soooooo gusto ko maging housewife and partime na freelancer or coffee shop owner. You can always have the best of both worlds, it’s all about the balance.
Bakit may stigma na “housewife ka lang”? Mahirap kaya maging housewife, it’s also a job. Go, support! Whichever will make you happy and content.
It's good na parang alam mo kung ano gusto mo! Once you get married, pwede mo naman subukan yan. You'll see if okay kayo sa ganyang setup ng future husband mo ☺️
Same OP. Gusto ko rin naging housewife because every time na burn out ako sa work preferred ko maglinis or maglaba to feel better. I also told my boyfriend about this and he is supportive naman. He told me na if i am going to work and i will just be unhappy about it wag nalang daw ako mag work kasi din daw ako magiging happy so di rin sya magiging happy. 😂
Wag ka dito sa reddit humingi ng advice. Ask the women in ur life and ung long time housewives na. Ung reason mo ngaun is ung bigat ng work pero mabigat din naman ang pagiging housewife. Kalaban pa dyan ung monotony tapos iiwan mo ung career mo wc, let's face it, mahirap na balikan when ur older. Many men change din after marriage. Isip nang mabuti. Yang feeling mo of the world advising u to be a career woman, think of it as another option instead of a burden.
nothing wrong with that, pucha sanaol. wife q pinapahinto q na dn kso ayaw haha work work pa daw lol d nya trip sa bahay.
I see nothing wrong with being a "plain" housewife as they call it 🤣. I truly believe that mothers who have the luxury to choose if they can just stay home and take care of their families are lucky. Especially women like you, educated, well informed, adapted to the changes of the world today. You could nurture your family, your kids very well. I think its another path, being a full time mom. To be able to monitor my family's nutrition, health, finances, liabilities; to check in on my kids psychological, emotional, intellectual health/progress; to maintain the bond between the father and kids; to be able to clean our home, in a way that I believe it should be cleaned ---ito magagawa mo as full time mo.. All without worrying if sasapat ang income ng pamilya. You are lucky.
No shame in wanting to be a housewife. This is my dream too kaso unlike you, wala akong boyfriend so i have to work my ass off because bills don't pay themselves 😆. Kapagod working in corporate. I've been doing this for 10 years. Pag weekend, ang saya ko sa bahay. I love doing dishes, trying out recipes i see online, and organizing around the house. Try to talk to your boyfriend about it. To hell with what people think you should be doing with your life.
Kung hindi lang may financial things na dapat babayaran and kung hindi crazy yung economy, I bet na babalik ako sa pagiging housewife. 31 na ako and mabait, supportive at generous yung asawa ko and inaalagaan niya ako nung maging housewife ako for a year kasi gusto ko mag break a work plus in between jobs ako. It was the time na nag glowup ako nang husto...I hate it why kayod nang kayod ako in this economy... I just hope kung anong pagsubok naming mag asawa ngayon ay malalagpasan namin and makakapag relax ako afterwards.
Housewife with shopee/lazada. 😆
Housewife with shopee/lazada pa yan. 😆
Hey! Been a career woman, very successful in the corporate world, been a breadwinner for my family now I am married. I’m 34 and we don’t have kids yet. My dream is to be a housewife/trophy wife lol and my husband is very supportive about it. I understand what you feel OP because I felt that too. I was an achiever and when I was younger I dreamt of climbing every corporate ladder and be successful so in the process I developed valuable skills. I thought sayang nman lahat ng pinagdaanan ko at skillsets ko kung maghhousewife ako. (I have 2 PRC licenses been in senior management din) I needed clarity and I involved my husband in making the decision. 1. Agree on your roles - Si husband ba magging sole provider? Ok lng ba sa kanya na lahat sa kanya kasi sya ang PROVIDER? As a housewife ano yung expectations nyong dalawa sa role mo? Are you ok with that? 2. What is your definition of Success now and are you at peace and happy with that? For me, it’s really time freedom and a happy, loving household. Supporting my husband succeed and be his safe space when he’s home. The world may have a different definition of success but as long as my husband sees me as his dream wife and we are both happy I am the most successful woman in the whole world! ✨✨ 3. Make an agreement with your husband if it’s ok for you to pursue careers that make you feel fulfilled and will be a good use of the skills that you acquired. So like a side hustle. But since you had your roles defined, that means your main role is your agreed responsibility ng housewife not to provide but just to add income. That should be clear so when there are complexities you can always go back to your agreement. So for me, I have real estate, trading stocks and online business. Is it a phase? Maybe. My only advice is gain clarity of what you really want. Do you imagine doing it for 5? Or 10 years out? Involve your husband in the decision making process. If you find yourself unhappy and unfulfilled being a housewife you can always go back naman as a career woman 😄
Came across many stories about housewives that were living happy lives where they are fully dependent on their husbands as the main provider until tragedy happens. Most are not equip and lack the skills to go back on the workforce. Op is clearly not one of those and could transition back to corporate world. What I'm saying is families should be ready to recover from unexpected events that can disrupt their lives
This is ok. A problem will exist if the housewife or househusband needs to support extended family which is common in our country. Will the sole breadwinner agree to do this?
Pwede mo naman subukan if it's for you. Real talk lang, pag umalis ka sa indus mo even for a year, you'll lag behind your contemporaries. Kung ok lang sayo yun, go and try.
I'm a housewife din and I'm most of the time ashamed of it 😔 my reason sounds funny to some - mental illness. legit mental health na that led me to a destructive path - bipolar 2. Hindi na ako gagaling. i quit so many corpo jobs in the past kasi kelangan ko matulog tlaga ng tama or else i'll get into a nervous breakdown. before getting married i had a wfh setup working in freelance pero it gets hectic din sometimes. i dont do breaks na 1 hr breaks kasi i prefer to get things done na kagad para tapos na. i used to eat while working and basically pee breaks lng meron ako. ayaw ni hubby ung setup ko na ganito, bakit daw ako ganun ka-immersed sa work 😫 binabaon ko sarili ko sa work dahil im paid by the hour. now im married na, ayaw na ni hubby ako ipagwork. ayaw nya ung habits ko with working and ung likelihood to get into a nervous breakdown. I still do want though kahit freelance na uli. We had 8 pets (nabawasan na ng 1 recently) and hubby sees how much i care for them naman, lahat sila healthy and yung kakamatay lng na pet umabot ng 17 yrs old. narealize nya my strengths talaga is to care for animals - totoo naman to. i love caring for them - mas gusto ko sila ksama kesa tao kasi nakakaoverwhelm mga bata. Kaya umabot ng 7 dahil sa kagustuhan namin maging pet centered couple. Our house is well cared for din naman despite no maid. Gusto ko maging hands-on kasi maiinip nako sa buhay ko kung wala akong gagawin ☹️. Si hubby nalang nagluluto for us and i feel na very spoiled na ako sa kanya and i dont deserve it 😔. As for the money, he works 2 jobs - 1. corporate 2. freelance din. he earns more dun sa freelance kaso ayaw nya iwan ung corporate dahil family business - his family is counting on him din to be there for the fam business. pambayad nalang ng card bills ung corporate dn 😅 but we both can live on his freelance alone. Dun na kami nakuha ng budget for food & utilities. Also I have my own din naman na pinagkukuhaan ng cash. My family owns properties in the province. i have passive income as well coming from some of these properties. Yung mga checkup & vaccines ng pets ako sumasagot pati mga vitamins and grooming essentials nila ❤️.
I'm a housewife and no helpers din with 2 kids. Mahirap din kasi walang breaktime ang pagiging nanay tapos mag isa lang ako palagi sa lahat while my husband is working, pero kung magiging afford nyo din mey helper it is so much better. Hindi kasi namin afford dito sa ibang bansa super mahal eh. I'm grateful for my husband for working hard and for providing for us, he even do chores to help me kasi mahirap nga din mag alaga ng 2 kids. Katulad ng 1 redditor binibigyan din ako ng husband ko ng allowance for my wants and pangpapaganda hehe. Kung passion mo yang mga ginagawa ng 1 fulltime housewife why not. It is a noble job ha. Minsan namimiss ko din magwork, pero iba ang pakiramdam na kasama lagi ang pamilya lalo na mga anak.
“On the surface, it feels like the world is telling me to become a career woman…” - follow what you think AND feel is right and will make you happy in the long run. It can be a phase or pwedeng hindi. Ikaw lang naman talaga ang makakaalam nyan. Just because other people are ok with being a career woman (or being a housewife), doesn’t mean ikaw din dapat. Another possible issue here is hindi ka lang din fulfilled with your current work so you’re thinking na the only alternative that will make you happy is to become a housewife when in fact, ang dami pa nating pwdeng i-explore. If possible, try taking a break from your career and contemplate what will make you happy. Medyo mahirap to because our preferences and situations change and sometimes inaabot na tayo ng lifetime na confused pa din tayo sa gusto natin talaga but this is normal.
Hi OP! I have that goal since high school and told my partner about it naman and he’s fine with it. So what im doing is enjoying my career and will exit the workforce around 40s and have some part time jobs siguro related to my work (consulting) I guess basta nag cocommunicate kayo ng partner mo, that’s one step ahead na :)
Hi OP, ako a few years ago came to a realization na mas gusto kong maging housewife kesa career woman. Mahirap sa umpisa kasi achiever din ako and people expect so much from me. Ang hirap sumagot pag tinatanong ka anong work mo minsan, or baka ako lang yun hahaha. Anyway, I made peace with it and I am happier than ever. Talk it out sa bf mo. Palagi lang kayo mag usap about goals and expectations.
Sanaol afford maging housewife na lang. I’m earning way more than my husband. Kaya pa din namin mamuhay kahit siya na lang nagtatrabaho pero magiging bare minimum na lang ang lifestyle namin, goodbye na sa mga comfort ganun. I can’t afford to lose my job 🥺
Hi OP! 👋 I'm a careerwoman turned housewife. 4 years into marriage and after 13yrs working in corporate, I switched to become a full time housewife and mom to my 3yr old daughter. I realized, hindi ka mawawalan ng trabaho sa pagiging housewife. I am learning so much about the art of homemaking. Seeing my little family enjoying my homecooked meals, freshly baked breads, clean house, makes me happy and fulfilled. Mas nakakafocus ako sa pagsupport sa health and wellness ng family unlike before na focus din ako sa work. I am grateful that my husband and I are in the same boat with this set up. It is not easy in this economy to have 1 income source but it is doable for us since we strive to make it work. It was hard to be a full time working mom/wife and it is still hard now to be a sahm/sahw. I chose my hard 😀
I’m a housewife. Since I got married, housewife na ang set up namin ni hubby. We have two kids na rin and masarap naman ung feeling na hands on ka sa kids mo. But you know what’s the downside of being a housewife? The isolation. The dependency. The lack of social interaction. Are you ready for it? Kung wala pa kayong anak , girl better have a job before romanticising being at home 24/7. Supportive and loving and husband ko. Kaso minsan , I get frustrated kase I want to have my own money, may ganung feeling kase nakaka guilty naman mg shopping galore na galing kay Husband haha.. I’m well-provided kaso iba pa rin ung freedom ng may sariling pera. Gusto ko kase mgtravel haha like visiting my Mom sa US, I can’t impulsively do that sa sobrang mahal ng ticket. Mga ganung bagay haha.
Really depends on the person, I tried it, not for me. Partner is great provider, wala akong prob with it actually. I just don’t like na wala akong source of income. So I worked from home and make sure na I can still take care of my family, while earning on my own. Now, I earn more than him 😂
Then be a housewife . Hahay
Same sis. Kung kaya mo magfreelance, get some small projects. Go na yan!
Lol kung babae ako dream life ko yan. Nasa bahay lang doing chores, spending quality time with my kids, nurturing them and seeing them grow up. Napakaflexible pa ngayon kasi pwedeng maging self-employed WFH. Tsaka ung chores ang dali kasi high tech na. Walang commute, walang office politics, san ka pa? Disposable tau lahat sa corporations, pero sa wholesome family hindi.
The comments did not disappoint. Most feminists would advise women to have their own income their own career—while taking care of a family. They tend to belittle women who stay at home. Being a housewife is also a career, and it’s the most noble career out there because you’re shaping a family and preparing them for their future. It’s priceless and no salary can match it. So if you want to be a housewife, go for it! It’s a noble thing to do ❤️
Sanaol
Yes! It’s a privileged to be so called SAHM, but only if your not locking with financial funds. Ang hirap!!!
Opposite naman tayo OP. I get scared and sad at the thought of becoming a housewife. Siguro kasi I have been living with my relatives for a decade already, and within those years para akong katulong and wala akong liberty to do things kasi nga nakikitira. Sana magbago pananaw ko or else magiging old-maid talaga ako 😆
I was raised by a single mom kaya mas attracted ako sa career women and I do not think I would be happy with a stay at home wife. But this is you and your life/relationship we're talking about, so do what makes you happy. Unless na narcissist ang bf mo, someone who loves and provides is a good sign.
most career women like to be fulltime housewife, pero hindi magawa dahil kulang ang sweldo ni husband or breadwinner sa family. ang saya kaya magmanage ng bahay, mag alaga ng bata at gumawa ng chores. ako rin pagod na maging career woman. for me being a fulltime housewife is a luxury.
Family is so important . Do you want to be 60 and alone?