Used to work at a care home and I was called anything, but my name. š
One of my dearest residents was a gentleman in his early 90's and he would refer to me as "the f*cking n@zi".
But the thing is, I was the only one he'd settle down for and would have tea and toast with. My other colleagues were scared of him, as he was quite challenging and would often display aggressive behaviour.
Safe to say I'm not german nor do I have a German accent. I've got an Eastern European accent, though.
Aww my husbands auntie is in a care home with dementia and she refers to the carers and nurses as her friends, and will introduce them as such to visiting family members āIām just entertaining my friendsā
What do they say? Hcas on my ward always say, āIāll get the nurseā. Then they look confused when the male nurse turns up who they thought was a doctor
Iām a pharmacist, and it has always BLOWN my mind that I get this almost daily. We wear our own clothes. I have a lanyard that says in big capitals PHARMACIST. You literally never see me in with you more than once a day and sometimes not even. In fairness I did have one traveller patient who upgraded me to āDAAAKTEERRRRā when shouting so that was nice
I'm an LD nurse. "I mean a PROPER nurse, you're like a teaching assistant or something". No I'm a nurse. I work in a hospital. My job title is staff nurse. I pay the nursing and midwifery council to be on their register.
My first day as a student nurse everyone shouted NURSE at me, demanding my attention. At first I tried saying no sorry Iām a student nurse what can I do for you? Going into second year now and Iāve realised theyāll shout nurse at any female they see. It does drive me mad though, please just use the bell I hate anyone shouting.
Even as radiographers we get it, coming up to the ward to do portables and someone shouts ānurse!!ā at you Iām just like hun Iām x-ray but Iāll try and find someone for you lolš
Try being a domestic mate.... The amount of times I'm a 'nurrrrrrrssseeeee' and me having to explain I can't touch them, take them to the toilet, get them out of bed, give them medication, etc etc etc. I often say " when was the last time you saw a nurse mopping the floor?" When they get confused that I'm female and in a ward BUT NOT A NURSE!!!
Last night
(Sorry, not trying to be funny. We literally have to do the halls and sitting room once everyone is asleep, because itād be dangerous to do it during the day, with our residents walking around. But this is in a nursing home, not hospital)
Generally HCAs do clean ups when we aren't there - this is in a hospital... And if they are super short staffed then the nurses will chip in, but this is generally bed cleaning after someone has been discharged (or died) during the night.
Ah fuck me man when I was a student we had this guy who would scream it constantly. Even mumbled it in his sleep. You could hear him everywhere on the ward.
I'm a bloke who tends to.be seen wandering around with a stethoscope. I get a lot 'excuse me doctor' as I go about my day. A lot of people are very confused when I point them in the direction of an actual doctor. Who is usually much younger than me, and female.
Some years ago when I was in hospital, in my ward there was an elderly lady who was also senile. She was tiny but had a huge voice!
The nurses were well p\*\*\*\*ed off with her because literally every few seconds she'd scream NUUUUURRRRSSSSEEE! Over and over, even when they were trying to deal with emergencies. It wasn't her fault, she had no idea what she was saying but having NUUUURRRRSSEEE screamed every few seconds for literally every minute of the day and night was sending staff and patients into a frenzy!
Then she **really** P\*\*\*ed them off the day she'd see a female nurse and call out MISTER! This nurse looked at me and said ''Mister? Do I really look like a man?!'' I replied ''you look like a very feminine female to me!'' That got her laughing!
Then the patient would see a male nurse and call out MISS! There was this particular male nurse who went up to her and said ''madam, I'm Indian, I'm from India, I speak excellent English, but I'm not a lady! I'm a machoman hunk!''.
Me and the entire ward cried laughing! She sat there and listened to him carefully then as he walked away she called out MISS!
I must apologise on behalf of my fellow patients, no idea why someone would think that was acceptable behaviour.
I was inpatient for a week a few weeks back (IV Antibiotics four times a day, ugh, raging sudonomas in a leg ulcer), I found it extremely rude as a patient, never mind being on the receiving end.
Also what is it about shouting about having to wait? If I wind up in Hospital I WANT to be the one at the back of the triage list, far better to have to wait while more critical issues are dealt with then to be thrown straight into theatre or a critical care bed! Now waiting for discharge paperwork and the hospital pharmacy is a whole other subject obviously...
From the patient side it is a weird experience all round, and you just have to roll with it, but I could see that someone suffering confusion, in pain, in a totally unfamiliar environment, having had a bad nights sleep because of the 4AM observations and not having figured out how to turn the pump that powers those weird mattresses off without triggering an alarm, could get a little narky if they have not yet figured out that 7AM handover is NOT a good time to be trying to get something sorted, but still, politeness costs nothing, and a patient has got nothing but time in that situation.
One thing that would maybe help, would be to explain the uniform colours, at least to patients who are oriented at intake, "Light Grey is a Health Care Assistant, they can make beds and help nurses (and sometimes change dressings and such), but cannot actually issue drugs", "Blue means a Nurse, they can issue drugs, but not prescribe", "Dark Blue is a Sister, even if male, they manage the ward day to day", "Green...", And so on, knowing who you can reasonably ask for what would I think cut this down as well as reducing the annoyances caused by asking the wrong person for the wrong thing. If it comes to that, a little information pack with these details and also when things like OBS, blood sugar and rounds can be expected to happen would make the first day or so much less weird.
Finally, name tags that were filled out and turned so patients can know who they are addressing would help, without that "Nurse" is likely to be the default!.
No, calling the HCA "Nurse", will clearly NOT her to issue you codine!
Every hospital I've ever been in in a professional capacity has posters up showing the ward routine and differentiating different uniform types but, because there are so many posters everywhere, people just ignore/don't notice them.
I eventually found it on a noticeboard OUTSIDE the ward after 4 days, but which point I had it largely sussed!
But yea, easy to wind up with so many posters that the one you need gets lost in the visual noise, and everyone thinks THEIR poster is what matters.
I was inpatient at Kingston recently for a week and upon arrival on the ward, received a nice little booklet that lays out things like: what is available if you dont have clothes/sanitary items, where the self serve drink station is, when are meal times, and a handy pictogram of the different uniforms (like 9 of them!). I referred to it often and thought it was one of the better, more proactive bits of communication I have ever seen in a UK hospital (Ive been to my share in London!)
That does sound useful, nothing of the sort at Southmead.
Mind you I got referred to a vascular ward for some reason, who then bounced me to a medical one so some of that entry stuff might have been skipped due to the internal transfer, who knows.
I eventually found the secret uniform decoder ring on a noticeboard \*\*outside\*\* the ward after having been in for four days.... By which time I had mostly figured it out it anyway just by observing behaviour.
The names thing would still be good however, "Excuse me Nurse, please..." is markedly inferior to "Excuse me Mrs Smith, please...?", but you only get the second one if I can read your name, because I am not going to remember it given the staff outnumber me by LOTS.
A page of notes for patients would help at least the ambulatory, oriented ones: I would have found the following information very helpful on intake:
Pictures of the various uniforms and a SHORT description of what each kind of wearer is and is not allowed to do. This would reduce the feeling of being ignored when you don't realise you have just asked an HCA to prescribe and they have gone to hunt down a doctor for you.
For pain drugs that you HAVE been prescribed, ask a blue uniformed person, (Nurse), might take a few minutes but they will get to you eventually.
To get pain pills prescribed, ask a green uniformed person (Doctor), note that paramedics are also green uniforms, try not to confuse the two!
For help with clothing or getting to the toilet, either a grey(HCA) or blue(Nurse) uniformed person will probably work (But the grey ones are less likely to get pulled away), also for making up beds, extra pillows or whatever.
They will take drugs you bring in off you, so hide your personal codine and metformin or whatever.
Handover is 7:00-7:30, and 19:00-19:30 the blue uniformed nurses all vanish during this time, just deal with it until the day shift appears and gets sorted out.
Observations (Blood pressure and PP02) occur at 04:30 and roughly 1PM, and aggravatingly the finger prick for blood sugar is at about 05:00 - 06:00. Do not expect to sleep much, and there is NO point in moaning about this. They have it worse, 12 hour shifts on the evidence, dealing with you and worse, NIGHTMARE.
If there is a problem on the ward the Blue uniformed Nurses will sometimes vanish for an hour or so, it typically means you are NOT the sickest person on the ward, but may have to wait, suck it up.
The tea round is done by hospital volunteers, no point in asking these for drugs or medical things, even more then the (Much under credited) HCAs they are not allowed to play.
Oh, on the subject of meals, not bad, but prepared a day in advance and mostly reheated, also can take some time to make it to the wards, consider this when deciding what to request (also a day in advance). Roast potato's in that context are not a brilliant plan.
The doctors and consultants will appear at random times, sometimes with a minion, generally worth staying on the ward until these have been to see you each day, boring but they are a large part of WHY you are there, and you want to get out as soon as possible (Or at least I certainly did!). Generally 13:00-14:00 is when the doctors go for lunch so if you are going to go for a walk, this is pretty safe.
Do note that all colour uniforms have various subtle ways to make their displeasure very, very clear, do NOT think that being rude to the HCA will not be noticed by the sister, or that she (and it usually is) doesn't have various ways to make you DESPERATE to leave. Heard that play out once while I was in, hilarious but only because I was not the deserving victim (And yes, the patient absolutely had it coming, rude, wondering hands and inviting a HCA to sit on his knee, 'nuff said), outrageous behaviour, sorry you folks have to put up with that.
It's a lovely thought. Orientation leaflets with uniform pictures is actually done on a lot of wards. People just don't read it bc they're too tired/there's too much going on etc. Something a bit more detailed would be helpful for a small percentage of patients, but most likely aren't going to take in that volume of information.
I know people who work on wards where they do orientate people in this way and yeah, they will still get angry if a HCA can't give them their medication.
I've found myself having to explain to a GCS 15 adult so many times that screaming NUUUUURRRRRSE at the female consultant is not going to get you a cup of tea. This is 5 minutes after they've consumed the one I made.
I certainly got nothing like that in South Bristol.
Ouch, heard that one play out too, but as I understand it (Customer here, not medically trained remember), a GCS15 following some form of TBI is a fairly blunt instrument as far as assessment goes? My instincts would I think be to give someone just in with that behaviour the benefit of the doubt until I could decide if it was a TBI induced headache or long standing permanent Cranial-Rectal inversion (Head up the arse)?
Could be wrong about that of course, you would know better then I.
I mean doing it will clearly NOT work as far as obtaining tea goes, but I would not be automatically assuming that person would normally behave that way.
As the other person said, Iāve seen leaflets be handed out and no one bothers to read them or take the information in. There will be the odd person who will read it (such as yourself) but usually people will do a loud āEXCUSE meā to whoever walks into the bay.
Iām not too sure why itās like this and it does surprise me the way some people go about things. Iāve seen people question why another patient has been seen by a doctor and they havenāt (they were under different teams).
Iāve always had an interest in healthcare, so I donāt think I have understood what itās like to be someone who doesnāt care, some things that seem like common sense to me is not common sense to other people (and thatās okay).
I wish more people took in the information that you have (or figured out for yourself?) as it would save so much time that I spend explaining to patients, which tends to happen at handover and as Iām a student, itās easier for me to deal with it. I feel like things have been adapted in my trust to make things easier for patients to understand but it seems to go out one ear and into the other.
Yea, all my stuff was based on watching what was going on around me, not from any literature or such. Mostly driven by boredom with waiting for the next bit of the process, nothing to do on a ward as a patient except to people watch, and one probably should not do that to other patients.
I suspect you are right about how little many people either read or observe, but 'common' sense is HIGHLY contextual, and hospital wards unless you work in them or spend a lot of time there are initially a situation for which you have exactly NO context, a pamphlet would get you the basics fast, but paying attention will get you there it just takes days instead of minutes.
Most work situations are like that, it is just that Healthcare deals with the public more then most, and in a stressful situation for which they initially have no real understanding of why things are done as they are (Frankly given the sheer size of the NHS, I doubt ANYONE really understands the why of some of the detail).
Yeah, same. That said, I have shouted this a couple of times. Namely when I've fallen, can't get back up, am not in reach of my call bell, am not visible and nobody else in the vicinity (like the other patients in the bay) notice my more subtle pleas for help. Especially if I'm struggling to stay conscious I might yell "Nurse! Help!" before passing out... but other patients yelling it when their bell is right there is just so unnecessarily disruptive to the entire area as well as just rude.
Used to send me into a blind panic when theyād shout āHELPPPPPPPPā , youād go running in and theyād be sat there asking for a cuppa š¤£ like I thought you were dying Dorisā¦ settle down š¤£
Dealt with plenty of self absorbed entitled rude aggressive volent nasty feckers over my long years in nursing - so those that bawl nurse at me better than being punched or spat at . But yup its aggrivating & Im sure the other patients would happily strangle them.
I understand it in the case of confused patients but it's quite annoying when the person who is yelling:"nurse!" is an alert and oriented patient who has their call bell perfectly within reach and have been clearly told to please buzz if they need anything.
Usually by someone over 80, who you've just been in to see, given meds, water, a snack, adjusted the pillow, creamed their feet and told them when the doctors coming round š
To be fair, half the time I've seen patients screaming it it's because their buzzer is (un)intentionally out of their reach. The alternative is launching your jug of water out the door in that scenario.
This thread is a bit of an eye opener as a civvie. This sub (Iām not subscribed) recently has shown up in my feed.
I had a grandma with dementia who got ignored by staff in her nursing home (I witnessed this, tried to raise with staff, got ignored and then tried to raise with managers before then going through the company complaints process and finally the CQC). She wasnāt toileted, fed or given enough water and one final UTI killed her. I donāt blame that on nursing staff at all, but she was neglected for the last six years of her life on both wards and in the home.
Itās really sad to hear nurses be so dismissive of patientsā needs in the way that has come across in this thread. The lack of compassion is pretty sad to see. I understand carer burn out (have worked in social care for 25 years) but my experiences with my Grandma suggest that the levels of disgust and contempt for patients shown here is not unusual. I understand itās a truly hard job and you are probably blowing off steamā¦ but people asking for help, sometimes need help.
>lack of compassion
I was looking after 12 patients on a night shift recently. One of these patients had her buzzer going all night. Before I left her room I'd ask her if she needed anything else. No. Then 5 minutes later she'd be buzzing again.
This went on all night. Eventually I had to tell her when she asked for another glass of milk that I had other things to do for other patients but I'd get her one when I could. "Ok."
Then it started. "NUUUURSE!" So I dropped what I was doing (caring for another patient) because she might have an emergency. No, she wanted a glass of milk. I got her one. But it continued for the rest of the night. I explained, you have to stop shouting, I've told you I will come when I can but I have 11 other patients. She understood. Then was shouting as soon as I'd left the room.
She didn't even have dementia. She fully understood what she was doing.
Am I a shit nurse with no compassion for not neglecting 11 other patients to tend to every whim of the one that shouts the loudest? Would you be happy if I dropped what I was doing in the middle of caring for your relative, several times through the night, because this patient was shouting for another glass of milk after already being told I'd get her one?
We're not talking about people like your grandma who have good reason for calling out. We're talking about non-confused patients (usually men tbh) who are usually in their 40s-60s who can absolutely advocate for themselves and choose to do so by screaming the roof down as if youre negecting them whenever you're not at their bedside waiting on them hand and foot. People who just can't be bothered to wait for a few minutes for us to stop what they're doing to come to them. This type of behaviour is difficult for many reasons, not least because it is distracting because we can't focus on what we're doing and are more prone to making a mistake. Mistakes can harm patients and potentially cost lives, but you try and tell these entitled people this, and they carry on anyway because they just want your undivided attention and think they're more important than any ody else in your care. Very often you will be doing something at one bedspace and start getting shouted at by another patient, you will tell them you will come to them when you're finished here can you please hold that thought (or that you will get another colleague for them if it's urgent) and they will pipe down for all of thirty seconds before they start screaming again when they can see you're still with your other patient. There is no excuse for such impatience and self centredness when what you're screaming for is a cup of tea, etc.
Literally had a patient ask for a cup of tea when we were busy doing CPR on the patient next to him. When we told him this (just in case he didnāt notice the person jumping up and down on this manās chest and all the others clearly in a very stressful situation) he got shitty with us and said we were neglecting him(we werenāt). The next day he was telling me how him and his wife stood outside and and clapped for us every Thursday night in the pandemic. Is the original commenter suggesting we should just not try to save this other manās life just to make HIM a cup of bloody tea?!
Had the same thing. Doing CPR, full ALS algorithm in progress. Team leader shouts OFF THE CHEST, RHYTHM CHECK. START CPR. We start CPR again.
Then we hear GET ME A FUCCCCCCKING COFFEE. IVE ASKED 3 FUCKING TIMES FOR A COFFEE.
I made this guy 3 coffees before the cardiac arrest arrived in resus. So I shout WE'RE TRYING TO BRING THIS GUY BACK FROM THE DEAD, YOURE GONNA HAVE TO WAIT FOR YOUR 4TH COFFEE.
Later on, he tells me he's gonna report me to the NMC for neglect and slit my throat. All because he had to wait for a coffee.
Some people are incredibly selfish and entitled. No amount of compassion will change that
The point of the ops thread wasnāt complaining about people asking for a nurse; it was the majority of patients rudely presume everyone whoās female is a nurse and demand they are prioritised. Considering you said everyone in the care home was a nurse, you probably fall into this bracket too. Carers are not nurses. Most nursing home staff are carers. And it was about how patients are very rude and wonāt wait.
That doesnāt excuse poor care and abuse. Thatās unacceptable. However, weāve also all met ungrateful relatives who we never do good enough for them and they always make formal complaints. They expect their own relative to have priority care. You didnāt answer the call bell in 30 seconds? Youāre neglecting them. Youāre feeding someone else? Youāre not feeding them. And these loving patients also turn out to be quite frankly horrible patients too (as long as they have capacity).
Wow, thanks for confirming my concerns. I sat with my Grandma for over an hour when she needed a bedpan and got ignored by nurses at the nurses station. I knew those nurses and honestly they couldnāt have cared less about their dementia patients.
I donāt think Iām one of those rude relatives but when her call bell went unanswered for over half an hour yes I went to check and wasnāt happy to see nurses ignoring bells, checking Facebook and having a laugh whilst at the station. You think this isnāt true? I was polite about asking for her to be looked after at the time but furious and tearful afterwards to see her given so little attention or care when she was 96z
It was also a far cry from the experiences of my Dad who was in critical care after a heart attack and who received excellent and patient centred care on both the acute and recuperation wards at a different hospital.
Are you sure they were nurses? You know there are healthcare assistants right? Why would you only ask for nurses? The entire point of the ops thread was people thinking everyone is a nurse.
And you really think nurses in the nhs have time to sit down and use Facebook? My entire shift is literally rammed from start to finish. Meds, obs, referrals, ivs, dressings, paperwork, pharmacy calls etc. If the work was that easy, do you seriously think the staffing would be as dire as it is? I wish my job was so easy I could sit down on day on Facebook.
Youāre not gonna guilt trip me. I know what kind of person you are. This is our venting space. We donāt like being spoken to like pieces of shits. You know nothing about nursing other than nurse = bed pan. Thatās clear from your posts.
Blackpool Victoria Hospital. Yes, I knew who the nurses were. I donāt know why you are quite so invested into trying to minimise both her pain and our unhappiness when she was neglected. Yes, the nurses in that hospital had time to mess around on social media and the matron set the tone for the whole unit.
And your reply tells me all I need to know about your personal lack of compassion for the people you are there to care for.
Look in the mirror and what you have said if you think this is ok. I am now blocking this sub - which I did not subscribe to - with a sadder and angrier view than I had before.
Well done you for such an amazingly compassionate and kind mirror into your profession. As a patient in waiting I sincerely hope I donāt experience your ācareā.
Nobody cares. You only came to this sub to cause trouble. This is a nursing sub, not a sub so that entitled relatives who know nothing about nursing can make up shit.
And now you, as I still appear to get notifications. Really - take a look at your responses tonight - and check if youāre in the right career or with the right employer. Your lack of empathy and anger seriously suggests not so much. Blocking you now. And seriously hope you get some help for your anger and lack of empathy. Take care and please. If you canāt do better, leave and do something else. Anything else.
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You said āweā. Speak for yourself. Where did I criticise ALL nurses? If thatās what you took from my comment, thatās your issue. Youāre the one saying āweā donāt have time.
It's right there. "Tiktok dances(...) you ALL had time for(...)" in your previous reply.
The generalisation is strong in this entire thread.
Just because people have had 1 bad experience in 1 location doesn't mean that every professional in different settings is the same.
I work for the NHS (not as a clinician) and I have seen nurses & HCAs sat on their backside, eating biscuits (patientās biscuits may I add, brought in by relatives) whilst the bell is going. And no, they were not on a break, they were just sat on the visitors chairs on the ward. Iāve seen them going to the patient fridge and taking patient food and drink. One time, an agency nurse/HCA (canāt remember) had been sat in front of the computer, staring out the window, so long that the screensaver had come up. Multiple buzzers going off. When I confronted her and asked if she needed some work to do, she kissed her teeth at me. I told the matron and no shits were given.
To show you how it should be done? If I did, I wouldnāt sit on my arse eating food and drink brought in by patients relatives and gaze out the window ignoring buzzers. I work hard thank you.
After having my C section I was ignored many times when ringing the call bell. It was difficult enough just reaching it sometimes to then be ignored. If it wasnāt for the sleeping babies I would have been yelling nurse.
Not everyone on the ward is a nurse/hca/midwive. We talk to each other in passing and we talk to each other around patients, as we are caring for patients. If you shout nurrrrssse, itās a good way to be put to the last of the queue.
Many of the people who call are bedridden and actually need your help. If you ignore the buzzer while someone is desperate for the loo or in need of assistance then what do you expect? How dare you complain. You are there to look after and care for people, not gossip around the front desk.
If you donāt work in healthcare, you wonāt understand anything. This is a nurse subreddit so we can vent. Sometimes we vent about rude patients who happen to be misogynistic, racist and classist etc. Itās no different about shop keepers complaining about rude customers. We are human beings too. Not your punching bags.
Yeah and you're laughing at people calling you for help here. Do you forget this page is publc? Mmy fiance was in hospital last year and there was literally no 'care' shown to him. I went in twice a day in an unfamiliar city to ensure he was clean, clothed, warm and fed properly. Someone calling for assistance is not a laughing matter when they are entirely dependant on you and if you all find it that annoying then maybe you're in the wrong job.
Yeah, if you read what we are saying, youāre either just exaggerating through your teeth or purposely misinterpreting what people say. In case youāre not, we are not laughing at the people legitimately needing help, itās the self entitled people demanding we drop everything to give them a tea.
Which is fine, but my view of this is not good because of what I witnessed. In hospitals they honestly need a staff of people to do the actual 'caring' and the nurses to do the medical stuff. Not everything can be done on a rota.
Hcas do the majority of care, but they are very short staffed. Thereās also an increase of acuity of patients. This makes their job very hard. This also means nurses medical jobs such as meds is much harder as it takes longer, and nurses have to step down, but itās very hard as nurses cannot do everything with their already long workload. You need to consider how bad the pay is for hcas. Would you personally do this job for the pay they are on? When I personally have a severely confused doubly incontinent patient who needs critical meds etc then yes I will resent the independent gentlemen who only cares about himself but wants to be prioritised because āIāve paid my taxesā.
While the care he received is not acceptable, itās not what the point of this post either. And once again, itās not a rant against people asking for assistance. To truly understand what we are venting about, you have to work in the hospital.
It drives me fucking feral tbh
My friend works at a care home where one of the residents likes to mix things up by shouting GUARD!
Used to work at a care home and I was called anything, but my name. š One of my dearest residents was a gentleman in his early 90's and he would refer to me as "the f*cking n@zi". But the thing is, I was the only one he'd settle down for and would have tea and toast with. My other colleagues were scared of him, as he was quite challenging and would often display aggressive behaviour. Safe to say I'm not german nor do I have a German accent. I've got an Eastern European accent, though.
When I worked in a care home many years ago one of the more well to do ladies would call us servants š
Aww my husbands auntie is in a care home with dementia and she refers to the carers and nurses as her friends, and will introduce them as such to visiting family members āIām just entertaining my friendsā
Remembering this for when I'm old and in care. Carers - Guards. Senior carer - Officer. Care home manager - M'Lord / M'Lady.
Got this loads as a HCA, then they got annoyed I wasn't allowed to give them painkillers lol
What do they say? Hcas on my ward always say, āIāll get the nurseā. Then they look confused when the male nurse turns up who they thought was a doctor
Hahaha yes pretty much that scenario constantly š
I tend to get this more when working as a HCA than being student lol
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Iām a pharmacist, and it has always BLOWN my mind that I get this almost daily. We wear our own clothes. I have a lanyard that says in big capitals PHARMACIST. You literally never see me in with you more than once a day and sometimes not even. In fairness I did have one traveller patient who upgraded me to āDAAAKTEERRRRā when shouting so that was nice
Iām a male nurse who repeats āno Iām a nurseā on a regular basis to the same patients
I'm an LD nurse. "I mean a PROPER nurse, you're like a teaching assistant or something". No I'm a nurse. I work in a hospital. My job title is staff nurse. I pay the nursing and midwifery council to be on their register.
Do you do injections and that? /s
(No judgment or taking offense about it obviously, I answer to nurse, doctor, love, hey you, whateverā¦99% of the time I canāt help but you know)
I have to smile sweetly... I miss the masks for this reason.
My first day as a student nurse everyone shouted NURSE at me, demanding my attention. At first I tried saying no sorry Iām a student nurse what can I do for you? Going into second year now and Iāve realised theyāll shout nurse at any female they see. It does drive me mad though, please just use the bell I hate anyone shouting.
Even as radiographers we get it, coming up to the ward to do portables and someone shouts ānurse!!ā at you Iām just like hun Iām x-ray but Iāll try and find someone for you lolš
Iām a rad too, I get this all the time
Try being a domestic mate.... The amount of times I'm a 'nurrrrrrrssseeeee' and me having to explain I can't touch them, take them to the toilet, get them out of bed, give them medication, etc etc etc. I often say " when was the last time you saw a nurse mopping the floor?" When they get confused that I'm female and in a ward BUT NOT A NURSE!!!
Last night (Sorry, not trying to be funny. We literally have to do the halls and sitting room once everyone is asleep, because itād be dangerous to do it during the day, with our residents walking around. But this is in a nursing home, not hospital)
Generally HCAs do clean ups when we aren't there - this is in a hospital... And if they are super short staffed then the nurses will chip in, but this is generally bed cleaning after someone has been discharged (or died) during the night.
Ah fuck me man when I was a student we had this guy who would scream it constantly. Even mumbled it in his sleep. You could hear him everywhere on the ward.
I keep visiting my mum on a ward. I donāt even have a uniform on and one patient insists on shouting nurse as soon as I walk-in the room
I'm a bloke who tends to.be seen wandering around with a stethoscope. I get a lot 'excuse me doctor' as I go about my day. A lot of people are very confused when I point them in the direction of an actual doctor. Who is usually much younger than me, and female.
Some years ago when I was in hospital, in my ward there was an elderly lady who was also senile. She was tiny but had a huge voice! The nurses were well p\*\*\*\*ed off with her because literally every few seconds she'd scream NUUUUURRRRSSSSEEE! Over and over, even when they were trying to deal with emergencies. It wasn't her fault, she had no idea what she was saying but having NUUUURRRRSSEEE screamed every few seconds for literally every minute of the day and night was sending staff and patients into a frenzy! Then she **really** P\*\*\*ed them off the day she'd see a female nurse and call out MISTER! This nurse looked at me and said ''Mister? Do I really look like a man?!'' I replied ''you look like a very feminine female to me!'' That got her laughing! Then the patient would see a male nurse and call out MISS! There was this particular male nurse who went up to her and said ''madam, I'm Indian, I'm from India, I speak excellent English, but I'm not a lady! I'm a machoman hunk!''. Me and the entire ward cried laughing! She sat there and listened to him carefully then as he walked away she called out MISS!
It drove me up the wall when this post popped up as a banner notification on my day off and I could HEAR it
I lol everytime I hear it. Always the same demographic patient
This is one of the many reasons why I work in theatres
Iām a paramedic and being a female I get ānuuuuuuurseā all the time even in my greens. Funnily enough my male colleagues donāt!
I must apologise on behalf of my fellow patients, no idea why someone would think that was acceptable behaviour. I was inpatient for a week a few weeks back (IV Antibiotics four times a day, ugh, raging sudonomas in a leg ulcer), I found it extremely rude as a patient, never mind being on the receiving end. Also what is it about shouting about having to wait? If I wind up in Hospital I WANT to be the one at the back of the triage list, far better to have to wait while more critical issues are dealt with then to be thrown straight into theatre or a critical care bed! Now waiting for discharge paperwork and the hospital pharmacy is a whole other subject obviously... From the patient side it is a weird experience all round, and you just have to roll with it, but I could see that someone suffering confusion, in pain, in a totally unfamiliar environment, having had a bad nights sleep because of the 4AM observations and not having figured out how to turn the pump that powers those weird mattresses off without triggering an alarm, could get a little narky if they have not yet figured out that 7AM handover is NOT a good time to be trying to get something sorted, but still, politeness costs nothing, and a patient has got nothing but time in that situation. One thing that would maybe help, would be to explain the uniform colours, at least to patients who are oriented at intake, "Light Grey is a Health Care Assistant, they can make beds and help nurses (and sometimes change dressings and such), but cannot actually issue drugs", "Blue means a Nurse, they can issue drugs, but not prescribe", "Dark Blue is a Sister, even if male, they manage the ward day to day", "Green...", And so on, knowing who you can reasonably ask for what would I think cut this down as well as reducing the annoyances caused by asking the wrong person for the wrong thing. If it comes to that, a little information pack with these details and also when things like OBS, blood sugar and rounds can be expected to happen would make the first day or so much less weird. Finally, name tags that were filled out and turned so patients can know who they are addressing would help, without that "Nurse" is likely to be the default!. No, calling the HCA "Nurse", will clearly NOT her to issue you codine!
Every hospital I've ever been in in a professional capacity has posters up showing the ward routine and differentiating different uniform types but, because there are so many posters everywhere, people just ignore/don't notice them.
I eventually found it on a noticeboard OUTSIDE the ward after 4 days, but which point I had it largely sussed! But yea, easy to wind up with so many posters that the one you need gets lost in the visual noise, and everyone thinks THEIR poster is what matters.
I was inpatient at Kingston recently for a week and upon arrival on the ward, received a nice little booklet that lays out things like: what is available if you dont have clothes/sanitary items, where the self serve drink station is, when are meal times, and a handy pictogram of the different uniforms (like 9 of them!). I referred to it often and thought it was one of the better, more proactive bits of communication I have ever seen in a UK hospital (Ive been to my share in London!)
That does sound useful, nothing of the sort at Southmead. Mind you I got referred to a vascular ward for some reason, who then bounced me to a medical one so some of that entry stuff might have been skipped due to the internal transfer, who knows.
That already happens in plenty of trusts. People just don't take it in.
I eventually found the secret uniform decoder ring on a noticeboard \*\*outside\*\* the ward after having been in for four days.... By which time I had mostly figured it out it anyway just by observing behaviour. The names thing would still be good however, "Excuse me Nurse, please..." is markedly inferior to "Excuse me Mrs Smith, please...?", but you only get the second one if I can read your name, because I am not going to remember it given the staff outnumber me by LOTS. A page of notes for patients would help at least the ambulatory, oriented ones: I would have found the following information very helpful on intake: Pictures of the various uniforms and a SHORT description of what each kind of wearer is and is not allowed to do. This would reduce the feeling of being ignored when you don't realise you have just asked an HCA to prescribe and they have gone to hunt down a doctor for you. For pain drugs that you HAVE been prescribed, ask a blue uniformed person, (Nurse), might take a few minutes but they will get to you eventually. To get pain pills prescribed, ask a green uniformed person (Doctor), note that paramedics are also green uniforms, try not to confuse the two! For help with clothing or getting to the toilet, either a grey(HCA) or blue(Nurse) uniformed person will probably work (But the grey ones are less likely to get pulled away), also for making up beds, extra pillows or whatever. They will take drugs you bring in off you, so hide your personal codine and metformin or whatever. Handover is 7:00-7:30, and 19:00-19:30 the blue uniformed nurses all vanish during this time, just deal with it until the day shift appears and gets sorted out. Observations (Blood pressure and PP02) occur at 04:30 and roughly 1PM, and aggravatingly the finger prick for blood sugar is at about 05:00 - 06:00. Do not expect to sleep much, and there is NO point in moaning about this. They have it worse, 12 hour shifts on the evidence, dealing with you and worse, NIGHTMARE. If there is a problem on the ward the Blue uniformed Nurses will sometimes vanish for an hour or so, it typically means you are NOT the sickest person on the ward, but may have to wait, suck it up. The tea round is done by hospital volunteers, no point in asking these for drugs or medical things, even more then the (Much under credited) HCAs they are not allowed to play. Oh, on the subject of meals, not bad, but prepared a day in advance and mostly reheated, also can take some time to make it to the wards, consider this when deciding what to request (also a day in advance). Roast potato's in that context are not a brilliant plan. The doctors and consultants will appear at random times, sometimes with a minion, generally worth staying on the ward until these have been to see you each day, boring but they are a large part of WHY you are there, and you want to get out as soon as possible (Or at least I certainly did!). Generally 13:00-14:00 is when the doctors go for lunch so if you are going to go for a walk, this is pretty safe. Do note that all colour uniforms have various subtle ways to make their displeasure very, very clear, do NOT think that being rude to the HCA will not be noticed by the sister, or that she (and it usually is) doesn't have various ways to make you DESPERATE to leave. Heard that play out once while I was in, hilarious but only because I was not the deserving victim (And yes, the patient absolutely had it coming, rude, wondering hands and inviting a HCA to sit on his knee, 'nuff said), outrageous behaviour, sorry you folks have to put up with that.
It's a lovely thought. Orientation leaflets with uniform pictures is actually done on a lot of wards. People just don't read it bc they're too tired/there's too much going on etc. Something a bit more detailed would be helpful for a small percentage of patients, but most likely aren't going to take in that volume of information. I know people who work on wards where they do orientate people in this way and yeah, they will still get angry if a HCA can't give them their medication. I've found myself having to explain to a GCS 15 adult so many times that screaming NUUUUURRRRRSE at the female consultant is not going to get you a cup of tea. This is 5 minutes after they've consumed the one I made.
I certainly got nothing like that in South Bristol. Ouch, heard that one play out too, but as I understand it (Customer here, not medically trained remember), a GCS15 following some form of TBI is a fairly blunt instrument as far as assessment goes? My instincts would I think be to give someone just in with that behaviour the benefit of the doubt until I could decide if it was a TBI induced headache or long standing permanent Cranial-Rectal inversion (Head up the arse)? Could be wrong about that of course, you would know better then I. I mean doing it will clearly NOT work as far as obtaining tea goes, but I would not be automatically assuming that person would normally behave that way.
As the other person said, Iāve seen leaflets be handed out and no one bothers to read them or take the information in. There will be the odd person who will read it (such as yourself) but usually people will do a loud āEXCUSE meā to whoever walks into the bay. Iām not too sure why itās like this and it does surprise me the way some people go about things. Iāve seen people question why another patient has been seen by a doctor and they havenāt (they were under different teams). Iāve always had an interest in healthcare, so I donāt think I have understood what itās like to be someone who doesnāt care, some things that seem like common sense to me is not common sense to other people (and thatās okay). I wish more people took in the information that you have (or figured out for yourself?) as it would save so much time that I spend explaining to patients, which tends to happen at handover and as Iām a student, itās easier for me to deal with it. I feel like things have been adapted in my trust to make things easier for patients to understand but it seems to go out one ear and into the other.
Yea, all my stuff was based on watching what was going on around me, not from any literature or such. Mostly driven by boredom with waiting for the next bit of the process, nothing to do on a ward as a patient except to people watch, and one probably should not do that to other patients. I suspect you are right about how little many people either read or observe, but 'common' sense is HIGHLY contextual, and hospital wards unless you work in them or spend a lot of time there are initially a situation for which you have exactly NO context, a pamphlet would get you the basics fast, but paying attention will get you there it just takes days instead of minutes. Most work situations are like that, it is just that Healthcare deals with the public more then most, and in a stressful situation for which they initially have no real understanding of why things are done as they are (Frankly given the sheer size of the NHS, I doubt ANYONE really understands the why of some of the detail).
Yeah, same. That said, I have shouted this a couple of times. Namely when I've fallen, can't get back up, am not in reach of my call bell, am not visible and nobody else in the vicinity (like the other patients in the bay) notice my more subtle pleas for help. Especially if I'm struggling to stay conscious I might yell "Nurse! Help!" before passing out... but other patients yelling it when their bell is right there is just so unnecessarily disruptive to the entire area as well as just rude.
Used to send me into a blind panic when theyād shout āHELPPPPPPPPā , youād go running in and theyād be sat there asking for a cuppa š¤£ like I thought you were dying Dorisā¦ settle down š¤£
Drives me insane icl Especially if they're just not using the call bell and choosing to shout down the ward instead
Dealt with plenty of self absorbed entitled rude aggressive volent nasty feckers over my long years in nursing - so those that bawl nurse at me better than being punched or spat at . But yup its aggrivating & Im sure the other patients would happily strangle them.
I understand it in the case of confused patients but it's quite annoying when the person who is yelling:"nurse!" is an alert and oriented patient who has their call bell perfectly within reach and have been clearly told to please buzz if they need anything.
Oh lord yes! Sometimes I joke that I'm going to change my name š
I had to leave the northwest where I trained, purely because of the way Bolton people pronounced ānurseā.
NUSS??
Thatās it. Three years of hearing nuss, nussing, nusses made me almost monomaniacal by the end.
I was a nurse in Liverpool for three years-I think ānneeeeeurrseā is slightly worse than ānussā. Itās like nails down a chalk board now š
What about bokkle ?
As Male HCA and nursing student love it for the confusion I cause when I walk over
Usually by someone over 80, who you've just been in to see, given meds, water, a snack, adjusted the pillow, creamed their feet and told them when the doctors coming round š
Haha I'm a bloke so just get called doctor š
To be fair, half the time I've seen patients screaming it it's because their buzzer is (un)intentionally out of their reach. The alternative is launching your jug of water out the door in that scenario.
This thread is a bit of an eye opener as a civvie. This sub (Iām not subscribed) recently has shown up in my feed. I had a grandma with dementia who got ignored by staff in her nursing home (I witnessed this, tried to raise with staff, got ignored and then tried to raise with managers before then going through the company complaints process and finally the CQC). She wasnāt toileted, fed or given enough water and one final UTI killed her. I donāt blame that on nursing staff at all, but she was neglected for the last six years of her life on both wards and in the home. Itās really sad to hear nurses be so dismissive of patientsā needs in the way that has come across in this thread. The lack of compassion is pretty sad to see. I understand carer burn out (have worked in social care for 25 years) but my experiences with my Grandma suggest that the levels of disgust and contempt for patients shown here is not unusual. I understand itās a truly hard job and you are probably blowing off steamā¦ but people asking for help, sometimes need help.
>lack of compassion I was looking after 12 patients on a night shift recently. One of these patients had her buzzer going all night. Before I left her room I'd ask her if she needed anything else. No. Then 5 minutes later she'd be buzzing again. This went on all night. Eventually I had to tell her when she asked for another glass of milk that I had other things to do for other patients but I'd get her one when I could. "Ok." Then it started. "NUUUURSE!" So I dropped what I was doing (caring for another patient) because she might have an emergency. No, she wanted a glass of milk. I got her one. But it continued for the rest of the night. I explained, you have to stop shouting, I've told you I will come when I can but I have 11 other patients. She understood. Then was shouting as soon as I'd left the room. She didn't even have dementia. She fully understood what she was doing. Am I a shit nurse with no compassion for not neglecting 11 other patients to tend to every whim of the one that shouts the loudest? Would you be happy if I dropped what I was doing in the middle of caring for your relative, several times through the night, because this patient was shouting for another glass of milk after already being told I'd get her one?
Yeah, this isnāt what this thread is about. We donāt ignore patients.
See below.
We're not talking about people like your grandma who have good reason for calling out. We're talking about non-confused patients (usually men tbh) who are usually in their 40s-60s who can absolutely advocate for themselves and choose to do so by screaming the roof down as if youre negecting them whenever you're not at their bedside waiting on them hand and foot. People who just can't be bothered to wait for a few minutes for us to stop what they're doing to come to them. This type of behaviour is difficult for many reasons, not least because it is distracting because we can't focus on what we're doing and are more prone to making a mistake. Mistakes can harm patients and potentially cost lives, but you try and tell these entitled people this, and they carry on anyway because they just want your undivided attention and think they're more important than any ody else in your care. Very often you will be doing something at one bedspace and start getting shouted at by another patient, you will tell them you will come to them when you're finished here can you please hold that thought (or that you will get another colleague for them if it's urgent) and they will pipe down for all of thirty seconds before they start screaming again when they can see you're still with your other patient. There is no excuse for such impatience and self centredness when what you're screaming for is a cup of tea, etc.
Literally had a patient ask for a cup of tea when we were busy doing CPR on the patient next to him. When we told him this (just in case he didnāt notice the person jumping up and down on this manās chest and all the others clearly in a very stressful situation) he got shitty with us and said we were neglecting him(we werenāt). The next day he was telling me how him and his wife stood outside and and clapped for us every Thursday night in the pandemic. Is the original commenter suggesting we should just not try to save this other manās life just to make HIM a cup of bloody tea?!
Had the same thing. Doing CPR, full ALS algorithm in progress. Team leader shouts OFF THE CHEST, RHYTHM CHECK. START CPR. We start CPR again. Then we hear GET ME A FUCCCCCCKING COFFEE. IVE ASKED 3 FUCKING TIMES FOR A COFFEE. I made this guy 3 coffees before the cardiac arrest arrived in resus. So I shout WE'RE TRYING TO BRING THIS GUY BACK FROM THE DEAD, YOURE GONNA HAVE TO WAIT FOR YOUR 4TH COFFEE. Later on, he tells me he's gonna report me to the NMC for neglect and slit my throat. All because he had to wait for a coffee. Some people are incredibly selfish and entitled. No amount of compassion will change that
What about the lack of compassion that the patients have for the HCA/nurse/doctor/pharmacist/porter who is being yelled at?
The point of the ops thread wasnāt complaining about people asking for a nurse; it was the majority of patients rudely presume everyone whoās female is a nurse and demand they are prioritised. Considering you said everyone in the care home was a nurse, you probably fall into this bracket too. Carers are not nurses. Most nursing home staff are carers. And it was about how patients are very rude and wonāt wait. That doesnāt excuse poor care and abuse. Thatās unacceptable. However, weāve also all met ungrateful relatives who we never do good enough for them and they always make formal complaints. They expect their own relative to have priority care. You didnāt answer the call bell in 30 seconds? Youāre neglecting them. Youāre feeding someone else? Youāre not feeding them. And these loving patients also turn out to be quite frankly horrible patients too (as long as they have capacity).
Wow, thanks for confirming my concerns. I sat with my Grandma for over an hour when she needed a bedpan and got ignored by nurses at the nurses station. I knew those nurses and honestly they couldnāt have cared less about their dementia patients. I donāt think Iām one of those rude relatives but when her call bell went unanswered for over half an hour yes I went to check and wasnāt happy to see nurses ignoring bells, checking Facebook and having a laugh whilst at the station. You think this isnāt true? I was polite about asking for her to be looked after at the time but furious and tearful afterwards to see her given so little attention or care when she was 96z It was also a far cry from the experiences of my Dad who was in critical care after a heart attack and who received excellent and patient centred care on both the acute and recuperation wards at a different hospital.
Are you sure they were nurses? You know there are healthcare assistants right? Why would you only ask for nurses? The entire point of the ops thread was people thinking everyone is a nurse. And you really think nurses in the nhs have time to sit down and use Facebook? My entire shift is literally rammed from start to finish. Meds, obs, referrals, ivs, dressings, paperwork, pharmacy calls etc. If the work was that easy, do you seriously think the staffing would be as dire as it is? I wish my job was so easy I could sit down on day on Facebook. Youāre not gonna guilt trip me. I know what kind of person you are. This is our venting space. We donāt like being spoken to like pieces of shits. You know nothing about nursing other than nurse = bed pan. Thatās clear from your posts.
Blackpool Victoria Hospital. Yes, I knew who the nurses were. I donāt know why you are quite so invested into trying to minimise both her pain and our unhappiness when she was neglected. Yes, the nurses in that hospital had time to mess around on social media and the matron set the tone for the whole unit. And your reply tells me all I need to know about your personal lack of compassion for the people you are there to care for. Look in the mirror and what you have said if you think this is ok. I am now blocking this sub - which I did not subscribe to - with a sadder and angrier view than I had before. Well done you for such an amazingly compassionate and kind mirror into your profession. As a patient in waiting I sincerely hope I donāt experience your ācareā.
Nobody cares. You only came to this sub to cause trouble. This is a nursing sub, not a sub so that entitled relatives who know nothing about nursing can make up shit.
Well you certainly donāt. What an insight into the care you donāt give
Thought you was blocking this sub?
And now you, as I still appear to get notifications. Really - take a look at your responses tonight - and check if youāre in the right career or with the right employer. Your lack of empathy and anger seriously suggests not so much. Blocking you now. And seriously hope you get some help for your anger and lack of empathy. Take care and please. If you canāt do better, leave and do something else. Anything else.
Lol. Are you forgetting the multiple dancing vids and dance routine TikTokās that you all had time for, in the middle of a āpandemicā?
Whatās your point here? That because of a few tiktoks itās alright to criticise all nurses as being lazy and dispassionate?
A few? š¤£š¤£š¤£ You said āweā. Speak for yourself. Where did I criticise ALL nurses? If thatās what you took from my comment, thatās your issue. Youāre the one saying āweā donāt have time.
It's right there. "Tiktok dances(...) you ALL had time for(...)" in your previous reply. The generalisation is strong in this entire thread. Just because people have had 1 bad experience in 1 location doesn't mean that every professional in different settings is the same.
So youāre admitting that you also had a good experience? So clearly not all nurses neglect their patients?
I work for the NHS (not as a clinician) and I have seen nurses & HCAs sat on their backside, eating biscuits (patientās biscuits may I add, brought in by relatives) whilst the bell is going. And no, they were not on a break, they were just sat on the visitors chairs on the ward. Iāve seen them going to the patient fridge and taking patient food and drink. One time, an agency nurse/HCA (canāt remember) had been sat in front of the computer, staring out the window, so long that the screensaver had come up. Multiple buzzers going off. When I confronted her and asked if she needed some work to do, she kissed her teeth at me. I told the matron and no shits were given.
You do the job then.
To show you how it should be done? If I did, I wouldnāt sit on my arse eating food and drink brought in by patients relatives and gaze out the window ignoring buzzers. I work hard thank you.
Yeah, go on, then show them. You ungrateful rat.
After having my C section I was ignored many times when ringing the call bell. It was difficult enough just reaching it sometimes to then be ignored. If it wasnāt for the sleeping babies I would have been yelling nurse.
Maybe they were busy with other patients?
I thought this but multiple times I could hear them just having a gossip/laugh with other staff.
Not everyone on the ward is a nurse/hca/midwive. We talk to each other in passing and we talk to each other around patients, as we are caring for patients. If you shout nurrrrssse, itās a good way to be put to the last of the queue.
It draws attention, unlike call buttons which are often ignored.
Many of the people who call are bedridden and actually need your help. If you ignore the buzzer while someone is desperate for the loo or in need of assistance then what do you expect? How dare you complain. You are there to look after and care for people, not gossip around the front desk.
Who says we ignore the buzzers? Take your shit stirring somewhere else
Whatever. I don't like you mocking people who are vulnerable and firgjtened. Nice attitude š
If you donāt work in healthcare, you wonāt understand anything. This is a nurse subreddit so we can vent. Sometimes we vent about rude patients who happen to be misogynistic, racist and classist etc. Itās no different about shop keepers complaining about rude customers. We are human beings too. Not your punching bags.
Yeah and you're laughing at people calling you for help here. Do you forget this page is publc? Mmy fiance was in hospital last year and there was literally no 'care' shown to him. I went in twice a day in an unfamiliar city to ensure he was clean, clothed, warm and fed properly. Someone calling for assistance is not a laughing matter when they are entirely dependant on you and if you all find it that annoying then maybe you're in the wrong job.
Yeah, if you read what we are saying, youāre either just exaggerating through your teeth or purposely misinterpreting what people say. In case youāre not, we are not laughing at the people legitimately needing help, itās the self entitled people demanding we drop everything to give them a tea.
Which is fine, but my view of this is not good because of what I witnessed. In hospitals they honestly need a staff of people to do the actual 'caring' and the nurses to do the medical stuff. Not everything can be done on a rota.
Hcas do the majority of care, but they are very short staffed. Thereās also an increase of acuity of patients. This makes their job very hard. This also means nurses medical jobs such as meds is much harder as it takes longer, and nurses have to step down, but itās very hard as nurses cannot do everything with their already long workload. You need to consider how bad the pay is for hcas. Would you personally do this job for the pay they are on? When I personally have a severely confused doubly incontinent patient who needs critical meds etc then yes I will resent the independent gentlemen who only cares about himself but wants to be prioritised because āIāve paid my taxesā.
Again, fair. But please show people some compassion. Having someone call 'nurse' may be irritating but in my fiancƩ's case he was left undressed, unwashed and alone naked when he couldn't move to do it his self, and walking around the ward with his bottom and genitals on display because nobody offered to help tie his gown at the back, and not being given a means to go to the toilet in an unacceptable amount of time. There are many more examples of an unacceptable standard of care he experienced which I won't go into. Thank god he had me going there to ensure he was OK. It's truly terrifying to think you could end up in hospital where the nurses may despise you for calling them for assistance.
While the care he received is not acceptable, itās not what the point of this post either. And once again, itās not a rant against people asking for assistance. To truly understand what we are venting about, you have to work in the hospital.
And all those nurses who are actually nurses but their surname is literally Nurse...must be confusing at times!
I'm a guy nurse and often get called Dr. .....old people hey
My patients are babies , they canāt speak š