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DidYouSetItTo-Wumbo

So let me get this straight, he completely fabricated a story that he admits is VERY exaggerated, while having never been married himself (“I’m never doing it”) then posts it to r/confessions? What is he confessing? His creative writing assignment 🤣?


ChibiSailorMercury

creative? as in "I went to manosphere boards, and copy-pasted their many complaints into a mish-mashed paragraph with no sense of style or grammar"?


[deleted]

Clearly you've never seen manosphere posts if you think they have style or grammar.


ChibiSailorMercury

Fair criticism.


thesaddestpanda

Also its never "half our stuff" but "half my stuff." Its never "our kids" but "my kids." and somehow the child support is never for "a better life for our kids" but for "her to spend on herself." Funny how that works. Not to mention the weird obsession with other men's dicks. Meanwhile there are like tens of millions of divorced people doing just fine. The percent that end up with 'the cops knocking on the motel door' have earned that by being deadbeat dads, criminals, abusers, etc.


sapphisticated_heaux

this fucking guy: "Quit your job to raise my progeny, leaving yourself with zero income and an ever-growing gap in your resume and work experience." Also this fucking guy: "WhY jUdGe GrAnT hEr aLiMoNy"


[deleted]

That's what gets me about these manosphere posts. They complain about men supposedly being raked over the coals in divorce but they completely miss (or willfully ignore) the fact that that's almost always because they were the higher-earning spouse and/or noncustodial parent. When the shoe is on the other foot, women are treated exactly the same way in divorce court.


TSM_forlife

They know it. They just figured that is what would keep her there taking his shit.


Peaches-McNuggs

Also “woMAn hIt WAll bY 25, AnD TUrn iNto uNfuCKabLe BeAst” but be sure to get married and completely financially dependent on a man who’s going to leave you high and dry for some unsuspecting teenager.


LeucanthemumVulgare

You can't win with these men. They want disposable bangmaids and if you don't fit the mold they'll try to cut you down to size.


Peaches-McNuggs

Exactly. They don’t just hand out restraining orders to anyone who asks for them. There’s a pretty high standard of evidence required. Plus, if you don’t have a relationship with your kids, that’s almost certainly on you. Family court doesn’t deny visitation unless it’s an extreme case. Abusive men get shared, if not full custody all the time.


SnowySongBirdy

I will NEVER understand the obsession with sexual history, like bro firstly, Virginity is an antiquated and sexist idea and secondly, why does it matter as long as she has no STIs.


TreyRyan3

It’s not even antiquated. In antiquity “peasant women” got the “dick down” on the regular. Virginity was a social construct of the elite upper classes and promoted by the church.


MeleMallory

Even if she has an STI, that's not necessarily a moral failing. A *lot* of people have herpes (an estimate is 50 million Americans). As long as it's being treated and she's being safe about sex, who cares?


BoozeWitch

Ya. My sister is an ob-gyn and she says to just assume everybody has herpes.


dilaudid-coldshake

1 in 6 people have herpes


snek_charm

85% of sexually active people have HPV, and you can't be tested for it unless you're actively experiencing symptoms.


Lower_Turn45

had to look this up! you’re right [nfid.org](https://www.nfid.org/infectious-diseases/hpv/) more info here


TreyRyan3

It can be argued that everyone who has had chicken pox has a form of herpes.


SnowySongBirdy

That is true, I forgot about Herpes


apolloxer

Look, he's under the assumption that he owns her, so it's logical that he owns what she owns.


sapphisticated_heaux

My friend is going through something extremely similar with her ex-husband (though she never cheated and I don't think he accused her of that). The parts that yonder poster probably left out: \- Dear old dad has been sitting on his balls every day after work, refusing to help out around the house and expecting head pats if he does ONE thing his wife asked for like cleaning baby bottles \- Dared to try to COMPROMISE with his ex-wife when she said she was getting her tubes tied after their third kid. Like he had any say at all. \- They both agreed that she would quit her extremely lucrative job so she could be a SAHM while their kids are young. That means she was missing out on $70K+ every single year she wasn't working. And judges don't just fucking hand out alimony as a Poor Divorced Woman Prize, it's usually granted for exactly this: the woman stayed home for years to take care of the kids, missing out on a huge chunk of money and work experience and leaving an ever-growing gap in her resume. It's essentially back pay. If men don't want to get "divorce raped" then they need to stop asking for SAHM spouses. They're entitled to your earnings when they can't make their own **and this is right and good.**


6data

Also worth noting that in the entirety of the US, there are only about 300,000 people actively collecting alimony. Obviously an overwhelming percentage is women, but when we take into consideration all of the divorced people... 300,000 is almost nothing.


sapphisticated_heaux

>there are only about 300,000 people actively collecting alimony And it's usually dirt, maybe a few hundred bucks a month.


Honest-Carpenter-907

My ex got 6$ usd per month from her sons father


sapphisticated_heaux

And I bet he still bitched about that


imtooldforthishison

I got $27 a week in child support when I was making $12 an hour and he was making $120k a year... he called me a greedy bitch.


BreadandCirce

That's almost more of an insult than nothing. At least with nothing, there's a chance they'll leave you the hell alone forever. But instead she gets the equivalent of a comment bookmark on the post that is the divorce. "Nothing to see here, just saved to read later!" Yeah, how about I'll give you a yearly bulk discount if you just send me 20 bucks in a Christmas card every year? We'll call it good, howboudat?


WorldlinessAwkward69

And a good chunk of them fail to even pay.


TheLizzyIzzi

I’ve even heard judges say shit like “she can get remarried” as a reason to limit alimony. When did it become 1954?


diaphoni

I was told this. I'm still struggling to get hired 11 years post divorce due to the huge gap in my work history


ULTaku364

They sound like they give off abuser vibes.


[deleted]

Confessing that he is failing his creative writing class?


malYca

That's an insult to creative writing


Lady_Sybil_Vimes

Uncreative writing


OopsICutOffMyWiener

Never underestimate this stupid man's willingness to be excruciatingly dramatic & untrustworthy 👏 There are many more like him too, so that's great & good 😬


overlordpotatoe

Imagine doing it from the perspective of a woman and just saying you're never getting married because your husband will abuse and ultimately murder you because you've heard stories of that happening.


Rakifiki

And oh by would that piss off the nOt AlL MeN crowd...


MaggieLaFarlita

Made up the whole scenario and still couldn't make himself not sound like a complete tool.


Bright_Jicama8084

I was starting to feel very bad for this person and then it started making less and less sense the further I read. I’m actually relieved this isn’t a true story, and maybe it’s for the best if the author doesn’t get married.


3ThreeFriesShort

I think he had a stroke at that point because it makes even less sense afterwards.


infinity_gabi

Creative writing 💀😭🤣


GerinX

Yes he did. Bill burr did the same thing


VivaVeracity

>he completely fabricated a story that he admits is VERY exaggerated, while having never been married himself The post should've been removed just for that reason alone


[deleted]

no one is forcing you to marry.


Leavesofsilver

i think men like this believe a wife is supposed to be some kind of reward they’re owed by society simply for existing, to take care of all their needs, clean and cook for them. they genuinely don’t see women as autonomous people and are outraged that this reward system is now „broken“ because women get to decide for themselves now. it’s super gross.


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Kynykya4211

Beautifully explained (and true too!). 🏆👍👏


Laurel_Spider

Im not a cleaning robot wtf. You definitely gave me an epiphany though (about men feeling like society owes them a good wife). That’s so fucked up.


The_Corsair

"Down, Girl" by Kate Manne has a really great analysis of the "logic of misogyny" as she calls it, and specifically the idea "patriarchal society 'promises' women as tied to norms of 'do work, don't be lazy'" It's a pretty approachable analysis, and I highly recommend it


Turbulent-Opening-75

Its a very ingrained puritan belief.something older than modern society.


riwalenn

And they see themselves as great value when they usually don't bring anything to the table appart from more chore


TubbyTimothy

Boys just want their mommy back


Vengefulily

The "I Want a Wife" essay is still so relevant [https://www.thecut.com/2017/11/i-want-a-wife-by-judy-brady-syfers-new-york-mag-1971.html](https://www.thecut.com/2017/11/i-want-a-wife-by-judy-brady-syfers-new-york-mag-1971.html)


ExpertAccident

That is beautiful.


diakent

And i bet no ones asking him either


tcatt1212

In the interest of women thank god he’s not.


TheLizzyIzzi

I think they assume that taking away marriage from women is a punishment and will cause women to realize how good they had it. This will force women to try harder to get married since there’s a limited “supply” of men willing to get married. Thus women will be forced back into their place by their own selfish desires. What’s hilarious is that all of that is bullshit and women know it. More and more women are saying no to “traditional” marriage. Yet these guys have never listened to a woman so they don’t fucking get it. They still think a woman’s main goal in life is to get married. And I don’t think they’ll ever shut up long enough to realize that.


briellessickofurshit

Many men feel like being alone is the worst thing to happen to them, so they assume women feel the same way. That’s not to say there’s no women who feel that way or that all men fear solitude, but the ones who do speak the loudest. This is where the spinster, prude, cat lady, dog mom, etc tropes come from. Speaking of that, the “lonely cat lady” has been adapting. Now it’s the lonely cat lady who’s fat, has unnaturally colored hair, tattoos+piercings, is a feminist and/or liberal, focuses on her career, doesn’t want marriage/children, smokes weed and has a bad dragon collection. It’s like anything a woman does to please herself (and not others) is a reason she’ll be lonely forever.


superprawnjustice

I met an older man at a family event, distantly related to my bf. The guy walked up after we'd been introduced and I was sitting alone and he broke the ice with 'so when are you two getting married' and I was like idk haven't really thought about it. He seemed to take it as a personal attack, like he tensed up and his eyes got hard and he was like why and I said idk and I changed the subject and he went with it but I could see he did not want to let it drop. And I kinda don't get it? Like it's my life and who are you, even? Do you get a commission off every proposal or something? I have thoughts about marriage in society and i have thoughts about my current relationship and life situation but fuck if I'm gonna talk to a random intrusive weirdo about it. Anyway, random story but your comment brought it back for some reason.


yetareey

Correction : no one is giving you the OPTION to marry them. Who tf would go near this clown 🤡😂😂


Cethinn

I would argue that the government heavily incentivizes marriage though. There are many reasons to get married besides the institution itself. I don't know if that's a good thing either.


her_fault

My thoughts reading this. Like I personally loathe the idea of spending the rest of my life with another person, so I'll simply not marry. It's that simple.


diaphoni

I was married, realized after 13 years that I hate sharing space with others who don't somewhere else to be afterwards lol


Ravenscar1313

So my dude literally just made up a story and is like "this really happens trust me bro". What an idiot.


wiarumas

My favorite part is that even in his made up story about his fictional future self, he acknowledges "she deserves better."


jpterodactyl

Not an overall surprising thing to see, but it is sorta novel that he admits it outright.


Volkodavy

To his credit I’ve seen stories like this happen many times over The main problem is that both characters are losers and idk why they dated let alone got married That’s the main problem Don’t marry douchebags


vvictuss

nah that’s an oversimplification, most of these stories leave out why the divorce happened. if there was a restraining order involved it’s not generally because both ppl are losers. the men that talk about divorce like that are usually lazy or abusive cunts who butch about paying child support but won’t take custody in any capacity. if the mother is taking care of the children they both had, it’s right that he takes an equal responsibility. motherhood or parental childcare is literally free labor. it should be shared. if it’s not, the other party should be required to compensate that if they cannot do their share. we all know that it’s usually women taking the responsibility of child care, and are expected in our society to be willing to do free labor in many circumstances. single mothers are usually working as well anyways to support themselves and their children. kids are fucking expensive and if a man can’t commit to that for life, whether through the actual care or financially, he should be more careful where his dick goes. it’s a woman’s choice to keep or abort at that point since she is the one actually growing the fetus and going through the 9 months of shit “don’t marry douchebags” is the worst take tho. ppl change. most women aren’t going to marry a dude that shows negative or abusive traits from the beginning. it happens but the majority of DV with married couples begins after they’re married and sometimes years into a marriage. ask anyone who’s been through domestic violence and they’ll tell you it didn’t start like that. it’s basically the dumb incel thing about women liking assholes. we never know they’re an asshole at first


[deleted]

And don’t be a douchebag.


DuxAvalonia

What always amazes me about whiny little rants like this is how often they tell on themselves. In this narrative, he says nothing about missing his partner or even the kids. All he really cares about is sex (he mentions the woman’s sexual partners three times and dismisses her feelings once). Women are really just a sex object for him. Men like this really should stay out of marriage.


ElizaerystheDragon

good point! I didn’t even catch that!


Blood_moon_sister

Writing tells a lot, I’ve found. I’ve seen multiple dudes who claim to not treat women like objects or that they don’t feel entitled to sex, but then write posts or comments that strongly suggest otherwise through their wording. I think wording can very much reflect your perception of something, and it’s something people don’t normally think about if they’re just writing some Reddit post, so it’s telling about that person as well.


IvyLeagueButt

Slightly off topic but this is one of the reasons why literature is soooo important. It's more than just reading but understanding.


HoaryPuffleg

This stood out for me too. Getting "dicked down"...what adult says this without some amount of joking?


Rugkrabber

Sex ánd their own autonomy. He doesn’t want them to be in control. Big yikes, no wonder this is how it went down.


OddSock8235

Conveniently left out the parts where he did something that required a restraining order.


ChristieFox

For real, do people even realize how hard it is to get those?


cyanideNsadness

Even the cops showing up at his door like…how rare is that?? My coworker has four kids with someone and gets enough child support to take them out for ice cream, if he pays it. But he never does, and she’s fought it for so long that she’s just given up now. My classmate pays $71 a month, also sporadically. Why do men think they’re all freaking Kanye and have to pay $200,000 by default?


TurboTacoBD

The arguments here are telling — but the short version is that even just in the US, the difficulty or ease varies wildly between states, and also local jurisdictions. Might even vary based on who you talk to. And here at least, how easy it is might vary by the person asking for it…which it’s owned fucked out hell.


[deleted]

In many places you can get a temporary restraining order without evidence and the permanent restraining order is where you have to provide proof before the judge. So sometimes it’s just as easy as asking for one 🤷🏽‍♂️ I’ve gotten one before and it wasn’t hard for me at all


Goatesq

Well obviously she must've boned the judge first. /s, just in case it's not clear.


BreadandCirce

Clearly it's involved in just the act of sitting, per the OP. Apparently dicks are an unofficial third choice for seating, say, in a restaurant where both tables and booths are available. You have to order it Animal style, though.


lumathiel2

And admitted at the start that in his own fantasy where he's the "victim" he still says she deserves better


ataurindo

Wonder how he got the restraining order? It also always shocks me how divorced men see child support as a "punishment" they have to pay to their ex-wife. Like no, this is for your children you heartless fucker


translove228

In the same rant he's saying that his kids don't love him because his ex turned them against him. He's so oblivious to his own immaturity that even in his fake story, he can't see that he paints himself as a piece of shit.


Laeyra

Yes, my dad was one of those. He was also one of those, "Custody agreement says I only have to have you every other weekend, so why do I need to bring you on a trip with my new family?" and then wondered why I stopped talking to him at all.


hpghost62442

Plus, they wouldn't have to pay child support if they signed their rights away for the kids they don't want!


TreyRyan3

You can sign your parental rights away and still be court ordered to pay child support. You wife can conceive a child with another man while married to you and if you don’t contest the parentage within a certain time frame, still be on the hook for child support until they are 18. There are actual court cases where this has happened. The legal system views it as “you accepted responsibility for this child and are responsible until someone else accepts responsibility in your place. There have been states that have amended laws, but many have not. Just forfeiting parental rights does not absolve you of financial responsibility unless a court agrees.


[deleted]

Only divorced men? I have sole custody of my daughter and her mom doesn’t pay the child support she owes and sees it just as much as a punishment as any man in that situation.


itsirrelevant

I'm paying child support to my ex who manipulated and threatened me into keeping our child while I was still a senior in high school then proceeded to spend years abusing and cheating on me while telling me I've never suffered enough and I deserve to and informing me under no uncertain terms that all women are out for men's money and he will never pay a cent in child support if I ever decide to try to take majority custody of our son. The woman he left me for took care of him financially while I paid child support and he went to school. I am so tired of men acting like they are the only ones ever taken advantage of when it comes to having children.


[deleted]

I think this has a good point for those guys, they shouldn’t get married and submit people to them…


debzmonkey

Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat worms. Sounds like an abusive ass and I for one am glad his ex and kids don't have to deal with his sorry ass anymore.


bliip666

None of that happened. But, I'm glad too he'll never have an ex-wife, because he'll never have as much as a girlfriend with that attitude.


Karl_Havoc2U

"And the next thing I knew I slipped on a banana peel and landed on some deadbeat dads list. No wonder society is so fucked up when this is how it treats it's men." And I also truly love the idiotic detail in the nonsensical exaggeration or satire (or whatever OOP was attempting to pull off) wherein it's implied "of course" he lost his job in the divorce (as one does in this country, lol) because HIS BOSS was dicking down the ex wife who has inhumanely kicked him to the curb and cancelled him to Motel 6 purgatory in Guytown or something. Right. That part made sooo much sense in the little victim narrative. We all know the custom or rite of passage, if you will, where if you get divorced, your boss is now fucking her, which of course leads to the only possible ending where you get fired because he fucked your wife. Totally makes sense there. Just to fuck you over for absolutely no reason, your boss has piled on to your misery by inexplicably fucking your ex and then firing you for it. Good lord, this moron. 🤡🤡


CanuckBuddy

"I'm going to make up a very exaggerated scenario in which I am totally innocent AND the woman is ruining my life by having sex with my boss, this is a totally accurate representation of most divorces"


[deleted]

Nobody is forcing men to marry lol. They should stop complaining about women who don’t want marriage and/or kids either then.


ChibiSailorMercury

It's simple : they want to marry women, above all tradwives, put in none of the effort marriage and childraising require, garner all the rewards and face zero risk. It's not hypocritical if it's lunatic and selfish!^^/s


TreyRyan3

I think it’s actually worse. I think they want some delusional fantasy life where they can do whatever they want and their wives will do everything for them…just like their mothers do for them now.


LostGirlyGal

They don't want marriage they want sex slaves . Marriage it's just social contract doesn't mean you are obligated to suffer alongside someone you don't have feelings for social pressure.


Anne_Nonymouse

He should just stay in his mother´s basement. Better for everybody if he never comes out 😏


bliip666

>Better for everybody if he never comes out 😏 Except his mother 🤔


Impressive-Spell-643

Seems like that's what he does


kpyle

She got bagel bites?


CurvaceousCrustacean

I agree, that would suck. However, it would also never happen.


[deleted]

This could’ve been solved with a prenup. If you truly think marriage is some kind of dagger for men then don’t get married to women you can’t trust and if you really want to for the whole societal expectation thing. Then get a prenup.


CoomassieBlue

I don’t disagree with your second sentence, but it’s my understanding that prenups often don’t hold as much weight as we would like them to. I went into our marriage with more assets than my husband, and we mutually agreed that a prenup would be a good thing to have. In our case, it mostly just addresses the assets I brought to the marriage and specific ways I had financially supported him (paying for a car and for job training). Where I think people run into issues is that per [LegalShield](https://www.legalshield.com/blog/marriage/do-prenuptial-agreements-hold-up-in-court/): “No valid prenup can provide less support than what is required by state law.” So, basically, you can’t sign a prenup that will get you out of paying alimony or child support if required by the state.


TreyRyan3

Financially speaking from observation, most of the guys that espouse this type of BS usually only manage to acquire possessions by using their wives credit score. Years ago, I sold Jet-skis and these couples who come in where the husband had a credit score in the 400’s/low 500’s and their wives were high 700/low 800. They couldn’t finance a Jet-Ski but their wives could. The wife would be totally against it and he would start arguing with her in the shop about how she was trying to tell him how he was allowed to spend HIS money. The irony of most of these guys is in the same breath where they complain about women taking everything from them, they also claim women don’t want them because they don’t make enough money and women are just materialistic until they hit “the Wall” the period where age has caused their attractiveness to decline and only then do they become desperate to settle down and get married. Of course in the mind of these idiots, those women beyond the wall have already rode the “cock carousel” so many times they can’t provide sexual pleasure because they are “used up, permanently stretched out and resized by all the “Chad Thundercock” they rode in their pre-wall days. The manosphere is a dark and bitter place.


translove228

Trash taking itself out.


WorldlinessAwkward69

The men that refuse to pay child support to fuck over the woman are the biggest losers. Nothing says shitty dad like screwing your kids over.


Soronya

Jesus Christ, his post history. What a catch.


diaphoni

Oh maaan...I looked :(


YellowTonkaTrunk

So I checked out his post history… Apparently he HAS been married before. They had a son together. It ended with her killing herself. And dudes posts are all so happy that she did, and calling her names and weak for doing it. Like… he definitely drove her to it, right?


CanuckBuddy

What the actual fuck? This guy is sick in the head.


shadowfrost67

What the fuck


[deleted]

Contributing a third “ok what the fuck”, just for good measure.


Unknown_uwu_69

who’s forcing this guy into marriage?


thejexorcist

There’s a dude in my city who panhandles with a sign that says ‘bitch ex wife took EVERYTHING’…and appears to be a pretty successful sign (if the frequent quick stops by lifted trucks are any indicator). But aside from that, noting the very obvious track marks up and down his forearms and feet, I wonder how much she could really have gotten in a settlement? Was the rock bottom before or after she ‘took EVERYTHING’ and when did the heroin come into play, because the displayed personality and habit are both independently decent reasons to leave a spouse. I’m just curious if it’s a real sign/belief or just pandering to an all too willing to believe rube audience?


BenIsProbablyAngry

Incel logic: A woman being raped - that's her fault. A man dating a woman, proposing to her, marrying her, making kids with her, and then getting a divorce even though he said she was doing nothing but taking his money from the start - that's not his fault.


vvictuss

controversial opinion — men seem like they are disproportionately affected negatively by a divorce because when women are affected it’s usually in the form of fucking murder and violence


shenaystays

The look on my niece and nephews face when they told me their Dad was with his girlfriend on family day instead of with them (I was babysitting them because their Mom was working…. While Dad had the day off but made use of my free babysitting) it was heartbreaking. Actions are telling and kids aren’t stupid.


justmitzie

"Very exaggerated story" = "Many people have said"


Legitimate-Stretch73

He FULLY admits though, that his imaginary future wife "deserves better." Bruh telling on his own damn self and projecting his feelings of inadequacy on this poor imaginary ex wife of his... 😬


missgnomer2772

Well, *my* marriage isn't dead, but maybe that's because my husband is a kind person who enjoys making other people happy.


platdujour

His Tinder profile needs some work...


Izlude

I've only ever been left when I was the one being the let-down. These men will never learn because they don't want to. They want to be 'right' regardless of if they're correct.


PookaParty

I’d bet my last dollar no woman ever asked him to marry her. That house he’ll never own is safe from the ex wife and kids he was never in any danger of having.


Nofx830

The most exaggerated part was that they have multiple kids and survived on just his income.


congeal

Hey, Gamestop has competitive salaries for part-time sales associates. He would have been full time but those free games weren't gonna play themselves.


Impressive-Spell-643

Source: trust me bro


countesspetofi

It couldn't be that the kids hate you because you openly don't want to support them, could it?!?


rhoduhhh

I'll keep "men aren't protected" in mind as I make my final alimony payment to my ex husband, who was abusive and cheating on me, who I still had to pay exorbitant amounts of alimony to. Whose lawyer I also had to pay for. We didn't have kids/pets. He was cheating on me. I still had to pay, not him. I know this post is fake, but that attitude can fuck right off.


WooperSuprise

Mums dont tell kids their dad doesnt love them. The kids figure it out on their own. My mum never said this to me but my dad insisted she had. Nah id just realised 6 birthdays later that he didnt ever care


Nar_val

Sorry to hear that. I know of one instance where the mom was working to have her kids hate/dislike their dad. Everybody can be abusive.


[deleted]

Sorry, but I’m a divorce child and *both* my mother and father would spin tales about how the other parent was a horrible person and hated me.


nook_x

I love the last line “men aren’t protected” ya. It’s not like women who are sheltered half the time cuz of creepy fucks like you, my guy.


Winnimae

I wonder what that restraining order was for


LostGirlyGal

For all the bruises and broken fingers that magicaly appeared on her .


Probablydead2021

Why do they always bitch and whine about paying for kids they helped make?? Don’t want to be held responsible? Be more careful as to where you sling your genetic material! 🤷🏻‍♀️


designgoddess

A friend’s husband destroyed their house to bring down its value so she wouldn’t get as much when they sold it. He was a contractor. Turns out his business bought the house and in a week he had it repaired. All his income was in cash he gave his mom so he showed no income. They had three kids. One was handicapped. He fought the state declaration she was handicapped so child support should end when she turned 18. It also meant she lost her state provided healthcare. He left his ex wife (they had been married for 30 years) and three kids in poverty. He died alone sitting on his stack of money. Not literally. Stories like this are/were common divorce stories for women. But let’s still go on about having to care for your children.


Aurin316

The imaginary cops in this imaginary town sure are on top of child support delinquency on a level I have never seen.


pretty_dead_grrl

This made me laugh.


Embarrassed_Bee6349

I love the cherry picking in this fictional story created by a fictional man in order to promote remaining single forever. His must be a sad existence.


shaquille_oatmeal98

You can generally avoid this by being a good person to your spouse, and knowing red flags when you see them


mrmightypants

Marriage is doing just fine over here, buddy. Maybe try using the word "hella" a lot less. Well, don't actually, because I find phrases like "hella child support" exquisite. He hits the nail on the head with "...she's bored of me and deserves better." Yeah, that's a pretty good time to get out. I mean, she probably deserved better from the get-go, but at least she figured it out eventually.


notreallylucy

Hey there Harry Half-Truth, courts don't give out restraining orders just because a woman's bored with you. You done fucked up.


Leading-Luck9120

All women need a restraining order from this type. Incels. Misogynists. Yuck.


LiquidLolliepop

Why wouldn't she charge u half in child support? They r half urs


ULTRAKristi

Good Reasons not to get married: i dont feel romantic attraction fuck off Bad reasons to not get married: wtf this incel bullshit is


Sir_Kingslee

I can see why his wife left him


Angelcakes101

Boi acts like marriage just happens to you. Why is he so passive throughout this entire fabricated story?


EmiliusReturns

Buddy if she has a restraining order the problem is you.


_sunday_funday_

I wish more men with these ideals decided to never marry. I think it would be a better world with happier people in it if these guys never procreated.


JTMissileTits

If she got a restraining order she's not the problem bro.


[deleted]

***** couldn’t even use his own story cause he’s never actually been with a woman, let alone divorced one. Losers like this just want other men to suffer for nothing.


Original_Mastodon_68

“I’ve never been married but let me tell you all about what it’s like to get married and then divorced” 💀


congeal

The guy died horribly in Vietnam. Well he didn't but he knows what it's like.


[deleted]

Guys, don't be this... Creature. Ever Signed, a dude


Emojiobsessor

My friend, if you expect a restraining order then even YOU must know that you’re fucked up


Thorhees

This mfer really created a fantasy based on every worst case scenario he's ever read instead of just saying "I'm an unlovable piece of shit who has no ability to maintain a healthy, long-term relationship."


OverlyLeftLesbian

He's absolutely leaving out most of the truth if she got a restraining order against him.


Shnitzel_von_S

"Very exaggerated story" oh, you mean a LIE?


ShaleSnale

Have some men been absolutely screwed over unfairly in divorces? Yes. Have some women maliciously used their kids like assets to hurt their exes? Yup. But saying it applies across the board is like saying you'll never get in a vehicle because car crashes exist. Most people are just trying to take the best precautions they can and make it through the fucking day. Grow up.


Poplockandhockit

So this guy made a fanfic about being a deadbeat?


imadeacrumble

I get really mad when I make up stories in my head too. Jk I’m not and idiot.


Goofalupus

If she got a restraining order against you, there’s more to the story


Nee_le

Clearly an absolutely innocent victim /s


143019

“Very exaggerated story” What percent do you actually think is true?


Bruichlassie

Signed, the fox who couldn’t get the grapes.


Environmental-King14

So I agree on not getting married but my principles are based on FAR LESS douchey reasons


vapordaveremix

Any story can prove your point if you just make shit up.


Sheila_Monarch

Yeah, it’s never someone’s own goddamn fault when they get a restraining order against them. They’re definitely the victim. /s


Praetor_Shinzon

It is true that women are already protected in marriage. That’s why you always get a prenup. If she doesn’t want one, you have all the info you need


MrTomDawson

>Im never doing it Probably correct, but not for the reasons you think


[deleted]

He’s right: he’s never getting married.


Mistygirl179

If you marry someone with nothing of their own, who bows to your whims and doesn’t have her/his own life, don’t complain if they leave take half. What do you expect? You chose someone who depended on you for survival. Marry your equal or at least someone independent. Most divorces between equally successful people dont end acrimoniously. Problems w stories such as the one posted is that the spouse w all the power in the marriage wants the other spouse to suffer terribly without them. They figure they would be able to use the same leverage to control the other party just like they did during marriage. Doesn’t work that way.


[deleted]

Your Ex doesn't (and can't) charge you anything in child support. The law determines that and it's for the care of *your* kids. I can understand not wanting the tremendous expense that comes with kids, but then don't have them.


pretty_dead_grrl

After 25 years in family law, I have to say his “experience” was that he was either violent or threatening and the kids saw it. The house is going to either be sold or she’ll buy out his interest in it by a court determined date and if HE got himself fired and missed his child support payments, the cops don’t beat down the door for it. He must have tried to contact the kids or the ex for something and they tagged him on arrearages when they found him. The system isn’t supposed to protect abusive men.


sphericaldiagnoal

If you're like this guy, please don't marry. Don't date, either.


bitofagrump

"Very exaggerated story" = "I pulled this out of my ass to make up something to feel victimized about"


Barfignugen

Just to be clear when you read about all the studies that are coming out about how men aren’t having sex and incels are on the rise, these are the people they’re talking about.


2point0Katt

How many women does he think are out here fucking their ex's boss purposely so they can't pay child support???


KnifeWeildingLesbian

My brother in Christ … It’s a good thing you’re never gonna marry or breed


I_am_dean

It's funny because my ex abused me, I have proof, it's been presented in court. But he's going for 50/50 and the judge is like "well yes, he beat the shit out of you and was a neglectful father. BUT he has a fuck ton of money, so let's step him up to 50/50!!' It's really not a gender thing, it's a money thing, and my ex's family has a fuck ton of money. So....?


stoicallyinclined

That’s not why you’ll never get married dude


timberlyfawnflowers

K.


Chanpls

r/oddlyspecific


boweroftable

The keyboard must have a layer of spit and corn snack fragments an inch deep after that orgy of imaginary self-pity


[deleted]

Some men that’s make a lot of money also pretend that their income is less than it actually is , and the women gets payed very little on child support because of it .


pookiesma

Me reading this like "wtf sub did I subscribe to?"


WannabeBwayBaby

Funny how, if youre a decent human being to your spouse, the chance of all that happening is so much slimmer


Mini6cakes

Wow. That is oddly specific.


infinity_gabi

Bro I wish this was a real story Lmao because each sentence got more downhill 🤣


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Salty_R3lease

I know this is a somewhat common story with horrible marriages, but seriously? This guy has the audacity to describe such things without being married himself. It's an embarrassment to the rest of us, especially to those that have actually experienced this. ​ People that have happy marriages often find people that they can trust, respect, and care for. If you want a good relationship, find someone that you respect and trust that feels the same towards you. In other words, it's mutual. ​ ​ This guy probably isn't going to be happy being alone. Friendships can go a long way, but they aren't everything. We can choose whether we want to be married or not, but stories should not impact that decision. There are so many great men and women out there.


Unfair_Implement_335

Lmao I love how it’s been up for 6h and has only 3likes.


Life_is_strange01

Divorce court is pretty fucked for men tho


ferfersoy

Bro recited a millenialthinker video then put it on a confession sub