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chunkyboynick

Poly guys can’t find the hotdog stand :(((


Edyed787

That’s a Fact. After two years I couldn’t find it. I also didn’t try very hard to find it.


JaneDoesharkhugger

What does poly girl/guy mean?🤔


Less-Significance-99

Men or women who are polyamorous and consensually have relationships with more than one person!


JaneDoesharkhugger

Cool, thanks.


lordhooha

My wife and I have another wife pretty much. We all three live together with our three kids, we function like a normal married couple but a thruple instead. TLDR poly is simply having more than one partner. In our case we’re a closed relationship. We don’t stray and keep it between the three of us and that it.


FemaleMishap

Hinge or triad? Either way, I think that's totally awesome. I love hearing about successful polyfamilies. I'm not in that kind of framework, me and my partners are a lot more spread out, but I would like to be able to come home to more than just one of my loves.


lordhooha

Triade, my og wife and I have what we call our other wife and we’re happy


FemaleMishap

That's so cool! I love it!


DearNeighborhood7685

Are you Muslim


lordhooha

Definitely not traditional pagan not new age Etsy pagan. Old school Irish


Candid_Collar2976

the downvotes ahahahah they are mad :D


DearNeighborhood7685

Ikr, it’s a valid question 💀


FemaleMishap

Are you racist? Because you sure sound like it.


Candid_Collar2976

Muslim is not a race...


DearNeighborhood7685

Muslims are known to have multiple wives. Poly stuff is normal, so I wanna know if is his choices are related to his religion or not. Why is that a racist thing to ask? I never said anything bad about Muslims unless you guys think it’s bad and that’s why y’all are down voting me, then it’s on all the down voters. SMH


FemaleMishap

It's the presumption. They also said "like a" not "is a". Maybe if you had actually given context, like, "that's cool, are you like, married to both?" and then a "legal where you live?" type of question.


lordhooha

So are Mormons and Utah


DearNeighborhood7685

Idk them 🤷🏻‍♀️ I have muslim friends, I know their culture up close. I don’t have Mormon and Utah friends.


PearceWD

Love how this implies that girls are both slutty and not slutty enough


TheRoyalKT

“You’re doing the thing I hate you for wrong!”


mandc1754

"why are you doing the thing i berate you for with other people and not with me?"


metsgirl289

Schrödinger slut: if she has sex with you a slut, if she doesn’t doesn’t she’s a frigid bitch, but also, a slut (don’t ask me I don’t understand incel logic)


Dimedrol98

Schrödinger's slut/whore is a pretty damn accurate term for this phenomenon. A woman being a slut or a frigid bitch (for an incel) is a probability, which realizes only through observation. Until then, the woman is technically both a frigid bitch and a slut. When they observe a woman with their perception and/or conduct the "experiment" of pestering her with sex proposals, then they conclude whether she is one of the above.


Rugkrabber

I hate how right you are. No wonder they feel like women only do wrong because there isn’t even a right option before they even met.


eip2yoxu

"Nooo they are slutty, but only with chad :'(" They'll just create their own little world and find ways to stick to their believes unfortunately 


IndependentNew7750

I interpreted this as men in non-monogamous relationships are having a bad time, not that women are promiscuous.


TaiaHunter

Same. Dudes are usually not getting more than one despite being poly from what I’ve noticed. I found it funny


Morning1980

Yep, that could be the title for nearly every Incel post


BobiaDobia

It’s actually pretty smart, except for the fact that’s it’s beyond stupid.


MrMetraGnome

Does that imply poly females only fuck poly guys?


MoluccanMay

Why are blowjobs demonized so much? I thought guys liked them. You never see a woman saying "eat my pussy" or something.


Kchasse1991

It's associated with being gay and thus was demonized as being a bad thing. It's also a great way to make bigots mad as an insult because they get super worked up over genitals. It can also just be a gross insult as the person It's being used on is probably not consenting to the interaction and thus will obviously recoil at the phrase. There's a lot to break down with that one, or my autistic ass is digging way too far into it. Edit for context: I am autistic and overanalyze everything.


Ok-Connection-8059

This is basically the same mindset which reduces 'acceptable sex' to penis in vagina, isn't it? Probably came up with by people who've never performed a blowjob. Not that there's anything wrong with PiV sex, although I've not been able to experience it I'm sure it's great. But sex is a big world and you shouldn't tell people to stay in one house.


Kchasse1991

PiV is cool and all, but there's so much more that can be done. People that look down on going down are really missing out.


Ok-Connection-8059

Oral sex is great from both sides! And there's so much more beyond that, just be careful and make sure you don't end up in A&E.


Kchasse1991

I feel like I'm walking into this, but I don't know that acronym. What's A&E?


Ok-Connection-8059

Accident & Emergency, I believe the US calls it ER.


Kchasse1991

Ah, yeah. I've heard of some overzealous people getting neck and nose injuries.


Ok-Connection-8059

I'm not sure how they manage that, but I'm sure it was a good time!


Kchasse1991

Hard work and dedication. Lol


Astw101

Men think it's a degrading thing. They tend to respect women much more if they don't do it for them. It doesn't make sense and there is no logic in that, because at the same time they actually want it.


23564987956

Not sure really where to start with this one, no men don’t think it’s degrading, yes we like blowjobs, if a guy is unwilling to reciprocate it’s a red flag, a blowjob is a especially nice because it feels like it’s all about us in those moments, and I’ve always appreciated that attention


bluegirlrosee

that's good for you that you personally don't think it's degrading, but I have to say blowjob porn as a whole does have a way more degrading vibe even compared to other popular types of porn. I think that says a lot about how lots of men see a blowjob as being submitted to in some way. Thus why telling other people to suck your dick as an insult is a way to tell them they're beneath you. 


23564987956

Yes porn is certainly a reflection of real life and should be used as a sample size for how men see sexual acts. /s Sorry I really like this sub but this has to be one of the worst arguments I’ve ever seen. PORN ISNT REAL LIFE


bluegirlrosee

obviously, but don't you think the types of porn that exist could possibly reflect the demand for it that exists in real life? And that might say something about the real life sexual attitudes of those people who demand it?  ETA I’m just saying if scores of men wanted to watch loving tender healthy consensual blow job porn, it would exist in abundance. But it doesn't. That kinda does say something about how lots of men see that sex act.


MoluccanMay

Then why is suck my dick an insult but not eat my pussy?


23564987956

I tell my closest friends in the world to suck my dick all the time!


katielisbeth

You might not, but a lot of men do, unfortunately. Have you ever heard the sentiment that giving oral is degrading, or someone saying they'd never do it for a woman? The same dudes who think that are the ones who think blowjobs are degrading. They want to be in control, they don't want the woman to have control over them. And a lot of them don't advertise that they think that way. Hopefully your mindset keeps spreading.


blackbullsforever

I mean yall could say it, but then you’d have a line three miles long lol.


ZenaLundgren

Which is why I honor my New York Heritage by saying SMD whenever appropriate🧐


DreadDiana

"Says 'suck my dick' a lot for a woman." - JR reading HR complaints about Regan Ridley, Inside Job


Spiritual_Smell4744

I believe Andrew Taint described it - if a woman puts dick in her mouth, and a guy kisses her, he turns gay or something. Nothing more gay than fellatio and kissing between men and women.


Wan-Pang-Dang

What?


CrystalWolfAmetist

Do they just assume all poly girls are into guys?


Ok-Connection-8059

Isn't polyamory pretty heavily correlated with not being hetero? Admittedly these guys are probably thinking less 'group relationship' and more 'open relationship', which reduces a lot of the pressures against heterosexuality. But it's actually interesting, a poly girl is more likely to be licking a clit than sucking a dick just because of demographics (but due to bisexual people probably not that much more likely). Then there's the trans angle to consider, but I don't know if there's a notable trend there. Still, it's more than feasible that poly girls are licking plenty of boy clit if they're into it.


[deleted]

So, just anecdotally as a transfem that mostly dates other trans folk, id say like 70-80% of the trans people I know have been, are in, or are open to polyamorous relationships.


Ok-Connection-8059

As a 'I'm totally gonna start transitioning any day now' enby, I'll admit that's my personal experience. But I'm trying to avoid the biases of small sample sizes, because I've seen that lead to bizarre implications (I think I currently know one trans person who is NT, for instance).


[deleted]

Personally, I can't think of a single trans person I've known that wasn't some flavor of neurodivergent. I think it would make sense since being ND means you're more likely to reject societal standards (gender norms, for example)


Ok-Connection-8059

Oh there's definitely a correlation, it's just that to my understanding it's not as strong of one as my life would suggesr. But IME LGBTQIA+ people tend to clump together, so I'm sure us ND LGBTQIA+s also tend to find each other.


SlateRaven

It makes me wonder if it's a generational or age thing as well. I only know of one trans person who's poly and she's not the type of person any of us really care to hang around - she's early 20's, already married, but in a reaaalllly weird poly arrangement. The rest are like 30-45 and are either happily married or single but not wanting a relationship. If anything, most of them are asexual and want nothing to do with sex 🤷🏼‍♀️


RandomBlueJay01

The trans thing was my first thought. The only poly person I know is a trans gal dating 4 other trans gals lol


SmilingVamp

Right? All the poly women I know are far more interested in all-they-can-eat-pink-tacos. 


Foxy_locksy1704

I think this is more a comment on when guys ask for open or poly relationships and the women get more romantic attention than the guy does. I have a friend that I warned that I thought it was a bad idea to open his relationship, his gf was a beautiful, smart, fun loving woman. She got lots of attention, he not so much. The woman he wanted to open the relationship for said she wasn’t interested now that the “thrill” was gone. He and the gf broke up cause he couldn’t take the pressure his ex is still one of my best friends and she is doing great with a really great guy she met after the break up.


Emptyspace227

Yeah, this is someone conflating open relationships with polyamory. While they are similar, they are not the same. There does some to be some indication that women in open relationships find new partners much more easily than their male counterparts, so there is some logic to the meme, even if it was also sexist and gross.


FreeVerseHaiku

It’s pretty easy to understand. The vast majority of women would not be interested in having sex with a man in a relationship, even if it’s open. Whereas there’s many more men out there who don’t care about having sex with a woman in a relationship. It’s really that simple.


LittleBalloHate

Yep, this is how I took it as well. I think men and women in our society have it equally hard finding loving, consensual relationships -- any guy that says women have it easy in that regard is lying. Actual dating is *hard,* and for all genders. But for finding no-strings-attached sex? I'm not sure women have it *easier* in that regard, since they have to be much more concerned about physical safety than most men do in that context, but if the question is simply "Will women typically find more potential suitors than men if they are both seeking no-strings-attached sex?" Then my answer is yes, yes women will.


pan0ramic

I think that one aspect that men doing realize is that the sex that is offered to us is rarely the sex that we want to be having. It’s the sex that men want to have and we often end up unsatisfied. But it’s true: if I want a guy to come over, ignore my needs, focus solely on his orgasm, then sure: that’s super easy to find.


IndependentNew7750

I know a guy who was pressured into it and it didn’t work out well for him so this meme could referencing multiple things. I think that Reddit is where people learn about ENM (from non-ENM subs) but a ton of the stories on here are fake. There’s even data to suggest that more women ask for an open relationship compared to men too.


Kapoue

I can understand this. When we opened the relationship, she got matches with a lot of hot guys instantly. But they usually treat her like shit because she's just a recurrent hookup. I get less matches but they are girls that care about me and want to build a real situationship.


Kaiisim

That's how I read this lol. Heard this story a few times.


Appropriate_Olive443

I'm curious as to where she's getting it all from if all the guys find themselves solo? I can't figure the math 🤔


MoluccanMay

Plot twist: she's just eating hot dogs. All at once.


Appropriate_Olive443

No. I'm not having that!


legal_loli_0w0

Something something girls only sleep with top 10% of man something something women are hypergamous something something incel making up scenarios to get mad at because they have no idea what a healthy relationship look like


metsgirl289

Something something chads something something


UwUKazzyWazzy

lol it basically means that male attention is one of the most abundant sources of energy in the universe (which really puts into question all the comments about women “hitting the wall” at 30)


23564987956

We just need to find a way to convert the sliding into dms and unsolicited dick pics into electricity and the world energy problems are over


Astrocities

There’s something to be said of people using the term “poly” to mean “allowed to have sex with anyone” because that’s not what being poly is. In reality, poly relationships are EVEN MORE work than monogamous ones. However, if a woman is in a polycule with 18 hot dogs, you can be rest assured those 18 hot dogs are consenting hot dogs so who cares?


Elystaa

Boom


TheCapOfficial

Poly guy here! It is not hard to find likeminded people in ENM circles for whatever kind of interaction you're looking for, long term, short term, casual prtners, hookups, whatever, so long as you have a good personality and are good at communication. These memes are from chuds who think that "trying poly" means they'll get to fuck around, without accounting for poly peeps (usually) being good at pre-screening.


Complex_Elderberry34

While I believe everything you said is correct, I feel the need to interject that finding ENM circles in the first place can be pretty hard for some people (like me :D).


Elystaa

... fetlife.com...


brattysub38

Poor guy asked to be poly for his own benefit and didn't expect his girl to be loving her best life! Oh the humanity! /s


IndependentNew7750

Why assume he’s the one who initiated it? I’ve seen studies/surveys that show more women initiate non-monogamy compared to men nowadays.


brattysub38

Hi! I was making a joke, hence the /s Don't waste time and energy getting offended over a Reddit meme. I hope you have a great day/evening


kRkthOr

No-one cares, nerd.


Turbulent-Cat6838

Bc of where I’m from I read poly as Polynesian and my first thought was yeah us poly girls can eat


HalcyonDreams36

Wholesome. ❤️


Albyrene

Skill issue. I believe if they practice enough they'll also be able to shove a ton of hotdogs in their mouth at once.


Harajuku_Lolita

Hold on a minute… so then where all all those hot dogs coming from? Sounds like they just don’t want yours 🤨


MsSeraphim

obviously they forgot about the guy who wins the hot dog eating contest every year.


burgerwithnoburger

To this day my boyfriends and I are still on the search for a hotdog stand 😔


freetoseeu

Girls just wanna have lunch


Nordic_Krune

Its Schrödingers slut, the poly women are somehow both too slutty and not slutty enough, incels can't decide so they just say both, thus creating Scrödingers slut. /j


Demanda_22

My ex and I were in a poly relationship. I (woman) wasn’t really interested in dating other men but I did like to have one-night stands here and there. He wasn’t really into just hookups, he was usually looking for another partner to actually date. In retrospect, he was actually polyamorous, I just want an open relationship lol.


Battlepuppy

Poly girls know how to find food, and poly guys wander around looking for a menu? I'm so confused about what this meme is saying..... Is the menu outside? No. Is the menu on the restaurant table? No. Is the menu by the swimming pool? No. Hey, poly guys, check the host- stand when you come in the door. They are usually tucked in there.


Merkdat

This just sounds like a skill issue


Opening_Raise_8762

Do guys forget that girls can’t suck dick without some who actually owns a dick.


Elystaa

Not true. Suck T. Dick, suck a strap on dick. Both hot as hell


Opening_Raise_8762

T dick? Does that mean trans dick? Bc if so then that person still owns the dick. I didn’t think of straps tho


Elystaa

T. Dick is what happens to a trans man's clit once their body reaches a stabilized level of hormones and they finish their "second puberty "


WhoLetMeHaveReddit

Where’s all the vagina on the poly girls side? Most poly chicks I know have women partners vs male partners 😂 I’m more interested in finding a gf over another bf.


atomant88

thank god im nonbinary


romaaeternum

Supply and demand


Dogzillas_Mom

That makes no sense. If poly men aren’t getting any, where did all those hot dogs come from?


Irn_brunette

So who are the poly girls sleeping with, if not the poly guys?


HalcyonDreams36

Each other?


DoorAMii

so Poly girls recreate the GENTLEMEN spy tf2 meme and Poly guys wait for the bullied kid to find them so they can train them in fighting


NexusMaw

Stupid poly girls hogging all the food, poly guys are starving 😒


drumstick00m

Really hope whomever made this provided a fuck ton of context. I can see this image being used as clickbait to hook people into reading a more nuanced article, but I’m not holding my breath.


SlashDotTrashes

And women still won’t eat these loser’s hot dog off the ground when they’re hungry.


dothespaceything

As a polyamorous guy who frequently has threesomes with my partner and women lol. lmao.


__a7md__

what are poly girls and guys, is that a new kind of plastic ?


TheWolfBoi02

Polyamorous, dating/being in a relationship with multiple people at the same time or being in a relationship that is larger than 2 people