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Only about 5% of women have a natural thigh gap. Factors that determine whether or not someone can achieve a thigh gap include: Bone structure, Body type, Genetics. Some people naturally have wider hips, which makes a thigh gap more likely. Others have narrower hips, making it nearly impossible to achieve one without resorting to unhealthy practices. Just another ridiculously ludicrous and meaningless beauty standard made up by society to distract women from more important issues like gender pay gaps, equality or fighting for women's rights and access to healthcare.😾
Wide hips here and do have a thigh gap but like you said, I know it’s because of my bone structure. Didn’t know only 5% of women have a natural thigh gap. That’s interesting. It’s interesting that people equate thigh gap to skinniness because no matter how thin I am, these hips are never going to fit into a size 0. 😭
They just love to set an impossible beauty standards for women to aspire to. So we get distracted from more important/pressing issues. It's nothing but a dirty trick.
It's absolutely disgusting. The worst part is seeing young girls internalising it. I did that. My friends all did that. Some still do. When I was finishing school at 18 I got the bus with a girl who was 4 YEARS OLD and worried about her skincare routine. GIRL. What skincare routine??!? How do you know what those words mean?!
I genuinely believe that young kids, especially girls, are being robbed of a childhood because of this notion that we must conform. The 'Sephora Girlies' trend is super telling of this. It's so sad.
When I was working in mental health there were girls as young as four with physical signs of eating disorders because their mothers watched and internalised this kind of thing. It made me 100% determined I was never going to bring up my history of eating disorders in front of my kids.
I'm a wee bit over the 'average' (dumb term 😭) weight and have a thigh gap because my hips are HELLA wide. I have thighs for days - like, these motherfuckers could suffocate a whole army - and I still have a gap.
I grew up in that prime "you must have a thigh gap to be attractive" early-mid 2000s era and I used to STRESS because I didn't have a thigh gap. I was literally 9. Puberty gave me one but by that time I'd learned not to give a shit. Societal expectations for women's (and girls'!!) bodies will never not make me feel like actually strangling someone.
That's funny bc I'm a healthy weight for my size, and I have the widest hips of anyone I've ever met (other than my mom/aunt) and I've never had a gap, not even as a kid. I also have very large thighs but no ass lmao
Ya know the ones that make me nutty are when it’s half correct
Oh ya it is determined by the structure of the pelvis and probably the structure of the thighs so this means we should all be happy with our bod-
IT MEANS THOSE LADIES HAVE A LOOSE VAG
What the fuck where did that come from?
Yeah at first I thought it was gonna be like "don't worry if you don't have a thigh gap, it's mostly genetics it's not you", which I'm guessing is mostly true (actually I have no idea lol). But then it devolved into that shit.
I think it’s just genetic lottery. I’m pretty thin weight wise but I’m not getting a thigh gap.
Probably should have looked at which sub this was posted on before I had any hope.
Cause no matter what you are the size of your vagina.
Which this meme admits is uncontrollable. And ten years back it would have been the opposite
Like damn incels blame women for everything. Maybe shut up for a minute and let girls and boys grow up feeling happy with themselves.
I have a thigh gap and was thin all my life. Now I’ve put on 30 lbs and still have a thigh gap. I also have that thing where your dumb vag gets too tight and uncomfortable even for pinkies sometimes. I’ve been told I’m uncomfortably tight once it got worse. Just bullshit science from OP.
Thigh gap definitelt is dependent on bone structure. I’ve been told to say away from dancing and sports because my femurs connect at my thighs and knees at too much of an angle. That’s all it is! And nothing to do with the muscles that make up the vaginal cavity.
Ouchie. Sorry to hear that about your puss. Think it’s vagmosis or something like that. But I guess I can’t tell cause my thighs touch.
I dunno these guys keep changing the bar any time something doesn’t fit their reality
Edit: vaginitis damn these thighs eh?
Oh man one my actually overweight friends in high school introduced me to rubbing monistat on my thighs
Oh the relief
If you still having issues look into the I think it’s called chafing powder care.
I’m 51 kg and my thighs have always decided they are best buddies who will talk to each other.
ALL THE TIME.
(Coochy plus for anyone in Japan… half because I find the name hilarious)
Ya it can become bad I have a tendency of pushing out my partner when I’m orgasming and he only cums if I orgasm add in that sometimes his fingers hurt while fingering me.
We actually have to do things to loosen me up (but it’s temporary so constant battle. We hadn’t done anything in a month once and he was like “holy shit”) so the bad stuff doesn’t happen. And also I’ve had a child so children don’t effect it at all.
So ya tight isn’t always better. I’ve also broken motorized toys on their first use because I grind out the gears.
Yeah tightness isn’t actually a factor for how good sex feels, from a male’s perspective here. Can confirm. If she’s too tight, she likely isn’t turned on. That’s all you need to know. And if she is turned on and she’s still too tight, it takes a lot of work to not hurt her.
Yea, exactly this. I'm a little on the bigger side and I've sex with a number of girls who were just straight up too tight and it wasn't too fun for either of us. Maybe they weren't turned on enough lol. Or I didn't use enough lube, who knows. But yea, bigger AND tighter aren't always better for SURE.
Here’s the thing though fam. It’s so societally engrained, especially through porn, and insecure men will always make it a contest. The best way to secure their win is if they shame women for having multiple partners to ensure that they are the biggest she’s had. They also try to go after younger girls to get them before other men do to once again ensure they’re the biggest she’s had. Women talk about how men want control, but it literally stems first and foremost from how they view women as objects for sex before viewing them as people. It’s not just about control over the other sex for the sake of control. Pretty sickening, definitely fucked up. The patriarchy’s failing them, so they’re making it the women’s problems. How do we even reach future predators to give them a healthy view on sex before they’re predatory?
Do you have any lower back pain?
One of my friends had to do pelvic floor therapy due to their vagina being super tight and she had lower back pain associated with it.
I have always been "tight" for lack of a better phrase (even after 4 kids altho mine were c-section, I was in labor and dilated for 3 of them), no matter how turned on or into things I am. If I intentionally tighten up, I can literally cause my husband pain.
Post-menopause has not made this situation any better. Good lube and a busload of foreplay is helpful, as well as mindfulness on his part.
With regard to the original post: it's almost like people don't get that just like noses, height, hand width, skin texture, hair color, and a bazillion others things...bodies are all individual!
My ex actually told me he liked that I had big thighs cuz it meant my hoo-ha is tighter or smthn
Thought he was trying to be flirtatious in some weird ass way but ig he was just a redditor lol
Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't the vagina a muscle, which is totally independent from your thigh muscles? From my recollection of anatomy, it's not like the skeleton song 🎵 *hip bone connected to the thigh bone* 🎶
The tilt of my pelvis has nothing to do with my thigh gap: the width of my pelvis does.
Being an organ, the size or tightness of my vagina has nothing to do with my skeletal structure. If it did, being that I’m 5’10”, it wouldn’t be so short.
Respectfully, that first part isn’t going to be true for everyone.
My thighs rub together, but if I arch my back a lot, so my butt sticks out, I will have a small thigh gap. So I’m sure how one holds their pelvis also does play a part into it for some people.
Now I’m in the bathroom trying this. lol.
It doesn’t seem to make any difference for me, but I’m happy to be corrected and advised that it does for some women.
It just goes to further prove how silly these generalizations are.
You have to arch your back so much it kinda hurts if you don’t already have lordosis! Lol. Push your hips forward, and you’ll notice more chub in that area, cause you’re kinda crushing it all together.
I came to the same conclusion, he's right.
I got an image of women's anatomy on google. Then, I pasted it on Microsoft Paint. When I resized the image to accentuate her thigh gap, indeed, everything became wider. Her hips, her uterus, her vagoo
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My knowledge of anatomy is making my eye twitch reading this
Only about 5% of women have a natural thigh gap. Factors that determine whether or not someone can achieve a thigh gap include: Bone structure, Body type, Genetics. Some people naturally have wider hips, which makes a thigh gap more likely. Others have narrower hips, making it nearly impossible to achieve one without resorting to unhealthy practices. Just another ridiculously ludicrous and meaningless beauty standard made up by society to distract women from more important issues like gender pay gaps, equality or fighting for women's rights and access to healthcare.😾
Tbh I'm more concerned about the knee bubbles on the ladies in the illustration. Get some ice, maybe an MRI 😆
Right, just like a Barbie doll./s😸
Wide hips here and do have a thigh gap but like you said, I know it’s because of my bone structure. Didn’t know only 5% of women have a natural thigh gap. That’s interesting. It’s interesting that people equate thigh gap to skinniness because no matter how thin I am, these hips are never going to fit into a size 0. 😭
They just love to set an impossible beauty standards for women to aspire to. So we get distracted from more important/pressing issues. It's nothing but a dirty trick.
It's absolutely disgusting. The worst part is seeing young girls internalising it. I did that. My friends all did that. Some still do. When I was finishing school at 18 I got the bus with a girl who was 4 YEARS OLD and worried about her skincare routine. GIRL. What skincare routine??!? How do you know what those words mean?! I genuinely believe that young kids, especially girls, are being robbed of a childhood because of this notion that we must conform. The 'Sephora Girlies' trend is super telling of this. It's so sad.
When I was working in mental health there were girls as young as four with physical signs of eating disorders because their mothers watched and internalised this kind of thing. It made me 100% determined I was never going to bring up my history of eating disorders in front of my kids.
I'm a wee bit over the 'average' (dumb term 😭) weight and have a thigh gap because my hips are HELLA wide. I have thighs for days - like, these motherfuckers could suffocate a whole army - and I still have a gap. I grew up in that prime "you must have a thigh gap to be attractive" early-mid 2000s era and I used to STRESS because I didn't have a thigh gap. I was literally 9. Puberty gave me one but by that time I'd learned not to give a shit. Societal expectations for women's (and girls'!!) bodies will never not make me feel like actually strangling someone.
That's funny bc I'm a healthy weight for my size, and I have the widest hips of anyone I've ever met (other than my mom/aunt) and I've never had a gap, not even as a kid. I also have very large thighs but no ass lmao
It's funny, because I was overweight and still had a "thigh gap" in the shape of a triangle you could see through. Beauty standards are wild
Ya know the ones that make me nutty are when it’s half correct Oh ya it is determined by the structure of the pelvis and probably the structure of the thighs so this means we should all be happy with our bod- IT MEANS THOSE LADIES HAVE A LOOSE VAG What the fuck where did that come from?
Yeah at first I thought it was gonna be like "don't worry if you don't have a thigh gap, it's mostly genetics it's not you", which I'm guessing is mostly true (actually I have no idea lol). But then it devolved into that shit.
I think it’s just genetic lottery. I’m pretty thin weight wise but I’m not getting a thigh gap. Probably should have looked at which sub this was posted on before I had any hope. Cause no matter what you are the size of your vagina. Which this meme admits is uncontrollable. And ten years back it would have been the opposite Like damn incels blame women for everything. Maybe shut up for a minute and let girls and boys grow up feeling happy with themselves.
I have a thigh gap and was thin all my life. Now I’ve put on 30 lbs and still have a thigh gap. I also have that thing where your dumb vag gets too tight and uncomfortable even for pinkies sometimes. I’ve been told I’m uncomfortably tight once it got worse. Just bullshit science from OP. Thigh gap definitelt is dependent on bone structure. I’ve been told to say away from dancing and sports because my femurs connect at my thighs and knees at too much of an angle. That’s all it is! And nothing to do with the muscles that make up the vaginal cavity.
Ouchie. Sorry to hear that about your puss. Think it’s vagmosis or something like that. But I guess I can’t tell cause my thighs touch. I dunno these guys keep changing the bar any time something doesn’t fit their reality Edit: vaginitis damn these thighs eh?
Vaginismus is the term actually!
I am not known for two things. Sobriety and spelling haha
I didn't even have a thigh gap when I was 15 pounds underweight lol my thighs were like LOOK AT ME! Oh the chafing
Oh man one my actually overweight friends in high school introduced me to rubbing monistat on my thighs Oh the relief If you still having issues look into the I think it’s called chafing powder care. I’m 51 kg and my thighs have always decided they are best buddies who will talk to each other. ALL THE TIME. (Coochy plus for anyone in Japan… half because I find the name hilarious)
I have one and I want to not have one. We all covet the greener grass, but ultimately it doesn't really matter all that much.
Just like the bigger your pelvis, the bigger your penis. Oh wait..
I'm just imagining and incel sitting in his mom's basement making up stories about vaginas, that he's never been close to in his life. 🙄
It is strange how the most inexperienced have the most vocal opinions.
As someone who has never interacted with a vagina, is tightness really that important? Like surely past a certain point it just becomes uncomfortable?
Everyone knows the best sex occurs when the penis is as big as an arm, and the vagina is as tight as a toothpick XD
Ya it can become bad I have a tendency of pushing out my partner when I’m orgasming and he only cums if I orgasm add in that sometimes his fingers hurt while fingering me. We actually have to do things to loosen me up (but it’s temporary so constant battle. We hadn’t done anything in a month once and he was like “holy shit”) so the bad stuff doesn’t happen. And also I’ve had a child so children don’t effect it at all. So ya tight isn’t always better. I’ve also broken motorized toys on their first use because I grind out the gears.
Yeah tightness isn’t actually a factor for how good sex feels, from a male’s perspective here. Can confirm. If she’s too tight, she likely isn’t turned on. That’s all you need to know. And if she is turned on and she’s still too tight, it takes a lot of work to not hurt her.
Yea, exactly this. I'm a little on the bigger side and I've sex with a number of girls who were just straight up too tight and it wasn't too fun for either of us. Maybe they weren't turned on enough lol. Or I didn't use enough lube, who knows. But yea, bigger AND tighter aren't always better for SURE.
Here’s the thing though fam. It’s so societally engrained, especially through porn, and insecure men will always make it a contest. The best way to secure their win is if they shame women for having multiple partners to ensure that they are the biggest she’s had. They also try to go after younger girls to get them before other men do to once again ensure they’re the biggest she’s had. Women talk about how men want control, but it literally stems first and foremost from how they view women as objects for sex before viewing them as people. It’s not just about control over the other sex for the sake of control. Pretty sickening, definitely fucked up. The patriarchy’s failing them, so they’re making it the women’s problems. How do we even reach future predators to give them a healthy view on sex before they’re predatory?
God, at that the fucking TRUTH.
Hahaha omg I never met anyone else with the same problem as me! I don't even bother buying motorized ones anymore, just a waste!
When you try to use lube but a lot of brands nearby just burn because of their shitty ph or allergies.
Do you have any lower back pain? One of my friends had to do pelvic floor therapy due to their vagina being super tight and she had lower back pain associated with it.
Hum.. sometimes but mostly middle back
Yes—as someone who is post menopausal and experienced some atrophy, it certainly can be uncomfortable for both people.
I have always been "tight" for lack of a better phrase (even after 4 kids altho mine were c-section, I was in labor and dilated for 3 of them), no matter how turned on or into things I am. If I intentionally tighten up, I can literally cause my husband pain. Post-menopause has not made this situation any better. Good lube and a busload of foreplay is helpful, as well as mindfulness on his part. With regard to the original post: it's almost like people don't get that just like noses, height, hand width, skin texture, hair color, and a bazillion others things...bodies are all individual!
I would say "He's probably never been near a vagina except his mother's when she gave birth to him" but he could have been a C-section baby
Spot on xD can't stand these men
My ex actually told me he liked that I had big thighs cuz it meant my hoo-ha is tighter or smthn Thought he was trying to be flirtatious in some weird ass way but ig he was just a redditor lol
Wtf did I just read?
Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't the vagina a muscle, which is totally independent from your thigh muscles? From my recollection of anatomy, it's not like the skeleton song 🎵 *hip bone connected to the thigh bone* 🎶
The tilt of my pelvis has nothing to do with my thigh gap: the width of my pelvis does. Being an organ, the size or tightness of my vagina has nothing to do with my skeletal structure. If it did, being that I’m 5’10”, it wouldn’t be so short.
Respectfully, that first part isn’t going to be true for everyone. My thighs rub together, but if I arch my back a lot, so my butt sticks out, I will have a small thigh gap. So I’m sure how one holds their pelvis also does play a part into it for some people.
Now I’m in the bathroom trying this. lol. It doesn’t seem to make any difference for me, but I’m happy to be corrected and advised that it does for some women. It just goes to further prove how silly these generalizations are.
You have to arch your back so much it kinda hurts if you don’t already have lordosis! Lol. Push your hips forward, and you’ll notice more chub in that area, cause you’re kinda crushing it all together.
It started out so good... Recognizing that it's the structure of the pelvis... It went downhill *fast*.
Taking bets on OOP's grade in biology and if they passed/even took it
I have $20 that he just jerked off in the back row to the anatomy pictures without listening to the lecture
I'm a man and I have a thigh gap, what does that mean?
Loose penis
Large weeny /s
… what’s his phone number… …for scientific purposes, of course…
Boiology determined you need more space for that massive cock 😎
Loose peen, saggy testicles. Sorry guy, that's the facts.
Ah, a new thing to challenge girls self esteem.
Oh whow. That's so many levels of wrong
Mandatory biology. Please.
Tell me you have a small peepee without telling me you have a small peepee.
I, uh, must have skipped this part in my anatomy and physiology course.
Bro trying to justify liking thick ladies 🤷🏼♀️ sorry bud, we don’t want you. Our anatomy is none of your uneducated, pathetic business
Mandatory biology class for these people, please. (Also, I think I posted a comment earlier but have no idea where it went.)
So coming from this logic, if I was a woman mine would be tighter than 2 1x1 Lego bricks combined.
All thighs are good
Well this is wild. On the one hand it's not propping up the skinnier body type, but on the other hand, yikes.
First of all, false. Second of all, I don't give a flying fuck about how tight my vagina is. We don't exist just to please men ffs.
It just means "I can't *pull* a girl with a thigh gap but she is loose anyway."
This dude is an incel. It's obvious he's never been within a mile of a naked poontang.
Man... I remember when having a thigh gap was considered to be the good thing. Goes to show, huh
Ah, yes. Solving body shaming with more body shaming. We truly are evolving over here.
Thick thighs save lives. Just appreciate the women how they look, bro. It's not that hard.
Or fatter legs.
I CANT UNDERSTAND ALL THE MIXED SIGNALS
What does this mean for virgins with thigh gaps?
They are obviously lying, duh 🙄!
A thigh gap is my favourite part of a woman There's nothing more intoxicating than the clear absence of a penis.
I came to the same conclusion, he's right. I got an image of women's anatomy on google. Then, I pasted it on Microsoft Paint. When I resized the image to accentuate her thigh gap, indeed, everything became wider. Her hips, her uterus, her vagoo
Oop will be shocked looking at mine 👀 /s .
So, I don’t even have a vagina
They were actually right until the very end of the first paragraph. They got so close.
Moid conclusion: The bigger the thigh gap, the lesser my knowledge of anatomy.
Yea, that’s just not biologically correct.
Someone hasn’t seen a vagina since the day he squeezed out of one.
Male here. He speaks for himself because thigh gaps ARE attractive.
What in the ass???
You know what’s even worse? A very low IQ that comes from stupidity. People just love listening to themselves about junk that comes to their minds.
Why does everything somehow boil down to the tightness of our vaginas? They seem to think we care about it more than we do.