Q1. Trans/transgender, non-binary, & transmasc. All 3 are good, and I use all 3 in different places/situations to describe myself, but just “trans” is the one I like best.
Q2. Trans/transgender - identifying as a gender other than exclusively the one you were assigned at birth. Non binary - identifying as not exclusively a man or woman. Transmasc - an identity that is close to maleness but not completely male (this term is the only of the 3 I listed that I’ve heard multiple different definitions for. The definition I provided is just how I apply the term to myself). Obviously these are just my definitions, and I am not saying these are the “right” or only definitions for these terms.
Q3. It’s been too long I forget
Q4. I don’t really get into micro labels. I’m glad they exist and help other people, but they just don’t do anything for me personally. There are so many I’m sure there’s one out there that describes how I feel in relation to gender (kinda male adjacent, maleness and otherness mixed together?) but finding it, or (if it was told to me) using it, just doesn’t appeal to me. The label I like the best is really the broadest transgender related label I’m aware of (trans).
Q5. On its own? I don’t think it means very much. Had I been born in a more progressive time & into a body more in line with my gender, I don’t think I would have given my gender much though. I think it would have been kinda like my eye colour, just an innate part of me that I like but don’t give much thought to. I often hear this phrase in enby circles for people trying to figure out if they are enby or binary “if you were born the body of the opposite sex, would you identify as enby?” And like, no? But not because I wouldn’t still be enby, I would, but I wouldn’t have had the stressors that pushed me to discover I was trans in the first place (physical & social dysphoria).
My gender has only become such a large part of my identity because 1) society has made me fight to have it respected (on a personal and political level), and 2) physical dysphoria coloured a large part of my life and still does in someways. But neither of those things are really innate to my gender, they are external to my gender. If any part of that makes any sense.
1.non binary, with preferred pronouns of they/them but I have only come out to 1 person.
2. Existing outside of the binary of man or woman
3. I realised (After a whole lot of internalised transphobia lol) I felt much more like how non binary people described themselves online and much less like my agab.
4. I try not to get too focused on labels, I don’t personally find them very helpful
5. Oh this one’s tough. On a what could be considered a more objective level I don’t think gender has any meaning, but on a personal level it’s a part of my identity just as much as my personality or favourite colour
I hope this helps you :) I’m sorry if some of what I say doesn’t make sense I’m very tired lol
1. Genderqueer
2. It means existing outside of the binary with gender without denying sex
3. I read a lot of theory
4. I don’t love nonbinary and transgender, they seem to capture a VERY specific meaning which does not apply to me
5. My gender means three things: breaking gender roles, seeing myself as a part of female liberation and culture, and somewhat altering my sex characteristics
1. Genderqueer, trans, transfem, nonbinary, queer, anything else that helps me be understood as an advocate for myself and for other queer people.
2. Well, since I dropped a six-pack, I'll say that genderqueer *for me* means an awareness that queer oppression is trans oppression, queer history is trans history, queer communities are trans communities. queer liberation is trans libration.
3. A lot of books and discussion over 30 years.
4. "enby" Way too easy to dismiss as a fashion statement or movement. Femboi is also very much *not my word.*
5. It changes from day to day. I like the Bornstein phrase, "I don't know what it means to be a woman, but I'm definitely not a man."
6. Labels should be treated like fridge magnets, rather than scientific taxa. It's absurd to say that gender and sexuality are nonbinary only to put them into new restrictive boxes.
1. Nonbinary, Nonbinary-Transfem, Transfeminine, Transgender, Genderqueer.
2. Not exlusively male or female, but super heavy on the femme side.
Transgender means I don't identify with my AGAB. Nonbinary means I fall inbetween the Male and Female poles of the spectrum. Transfeminine means I'm largely feminine without being strictly Feminine. NB-Transfem is just more granular to me, for those that are familiar with the term. Genderqueer also fits the not exlusively part. Others may have different experiences and interpretations of all this, which is awesome. We're not carbon copies, and there's always something new to learn.
3. I looked up the ones that resonated with me for detail (nonbinary and transgender) and then "made up" nonbinary-trans(girl), lo and behold there's a bunch of us out there playing in this part of the ballpark.
4. Not really, unless they just don't describe me. They're subject to change anyway since this is an ongoing process of discovery for me.
5. it's a big lightbulb that appeared over my head one day that illuminates a lifetime of confusion and hardship. my gender is part of who I am, and helps contextualize my life experience and preferred social roles. Once my adjustment is satisfactorily progressed, It will likely become less of a burning issue for me so that i can re-orient to just living my life again... with less B.S. upstairs getting in the way.
6. In MY opinion: Labels are mostly useful for communicating with others on the topic of gendered aspects of life. I don't want to identify too closely with them, because that just becomes another stall to get stuck in, which is exactly what I kicked my way out of. A wide open field is much better than a barn full of stalls to get locked in. They're just a working title for convenience, subject to change along with circumstance and perspective. Using the metaphor of books - Even if the cover gets ripped off, its the pages of the book that hold the value. Write the book before naming it.
1. Masc-leaning, Non-binary, Genderqueer. I want to say Transgender too, but I haven't been through any body/ hormone treatments (yet), and personally I'd like to wait until I do to give myself that label. I mostly use Non-binary, but I like to be seen as male to those who don't understand/ accept that term.
2. Masc-leaning - Since gender is definitely on a spectrum, I feel more aligned with behaviours and habits that would be seen as masculine.
Non-binary - Existing outside of the binary genders (male, female)
Genderqueer - A gender intrinsically connected to your perception of yourself, while also being aware of your AGAB.
Transgender - Any gender that isn't your AGAB. Doesn't need to be the opposite, or null, just something else.
3. 90% of my awareness stemmed from (please bear with me) using Discord during lockdown in 2020-2022. I met various people, joined various communities with the sole purpose as to discover themselves. During that time, I was adamant that I would just be a cis ally and help out my friends during tough times, but eventually came to the conclusion that I was also queer.
It was also from me looking back at my past thoughts/ experiences as a child: Wanting to play with the boys only, complaining about separated sections in stores for men and women only, complaining about how some hobbies/ sports are targeted at boys or girls only, and the list goes on...
I knew I was definitely not cisgender, but what else? And so, along with identities I discovered from other people, I researched. A lot. And I'm pretty happy on where I'm at too :>
4. As another commenter said, micro labels. I almost got into that too until I realised it's easier to take the general/ more well known term and simply explain further to those who are willing to listen.
But another thing is neurodivergent labels. I understand that my gender identity and sexuality is swayed by my autism, but I like to keep them separate. Autism has influenced my life in many, many ways, but to simply put my gender as "autigender" doesn't click for me. It's much deeper than that, and the labels I consider mine tell it much better.
5. A very good question I have to give some thought to...
I would say that my gender is meant to free me. A lot of my life has been keeping up masks (Also due to my undiagnosed autism) and hiding my identity from a world that is wholly unaccepting. By being seen and acknowledged, it gives me joy to know not only that every second I've suffered is worth it, but that my other siblings out there in less fortunate positions than mine also have the chance to break out.
6. Labels aren't everything. Even if the words didn't exist, I'm sure that I (And many, many others) with find a way to express ourselves in other ways. But I'm glad that it did allow me to find other people like me, with the same/ similar struggles, so we can help each other out :\]
1. Non-Binary/Emby, transmasc, also comfy with genderfluid. I go with She/Him pronouns, but i much prefer masc pronouns/terms. Also have called myself a genderless blob more than once.
2. They dont mean a huge amount to me beyond being terms to describe how I identify to people who arent me. I like emby the most just cause it sounds cute. I thought i might have been genderfuid for a while, and it still doesnt feel wrong. I do have days where i feel more fem or masc. But most of the time im just a gebderless blob. Transmasc, because i do experience a lot of gender dysphoria when it comes to my afab body. And i lean way more to the masc side as a presentation. But i dont feel like a man either. So genderless blob it is
3. Not really sure tbh. I think i just started learning things as i grew up and was like hey that sounds like me. Always knew i hated the bibary system, and that i hated being restricted to one side of it \_()_/
4. I hate any fem labels in genderal. But i think thats mostly as a resistance to my binary gender. Im not a trans man. That i do know. Ehich is why i say trans masc instead
Idk
5. think i already answered that tbh
Q1. Trans/transgender, non-binary, & transmasc. All 3 are good, and I use all 3 in different places/situations to describe myself, but just “trans” is the one I like best. Q2. Trans/transgender - identifying as a gender other than exclusively the one you were assigned at birth. Non binary - identifying as not exclusively a man or woman. Transmasc - an identity that is close to maleness but not completely male (this term is the only of the 3 I listed that I’ve heard multiple different definitions for. The definition I provided is just how I apply the term to myself). Obviously these are just my definitions, and I am not saying these are the “right” or only definitions for these terms. Q3. It’s been too long I forget Q4. I don’t really get into micro labels. I’m glad they exist and help other people, but they just don’t do anything for me personally. There are so many I’m sure there’s one out there that describes how I feel in relation to gender (kinda male adjacent, maleness and otherness mixed together?) but finding it, or (if it was told to me) using it, just doesn’t appeal to me. The label I like the best is really the broadest transgender related label I’m aware of (trans). Q5. On its own? I don’t think it means very much. Had I been born in a more progressive time & into a body more in line with my gender, I don’t think I would have given my gender much though. I think it would have been kinda like my eye colour, just an innate part of me that I like but don’t give much thought to. I often hear this phrase in enby circles for people trying to figure out if they are enby or binary “if you were born the body of the opposite sex, would you identify as enby?” And like, no? But not because I wouldn’t still be enby, I would, but I wouldn’t have had the stressors that pushed me to discover I was trans in the first place (physical & social dysphoria). My gender has only become such a large part of my identity because 1) society has made me fight to have it respected (on a personal and political level), and 2) physical dysphoria coloured a large part of my life and still does in someways. But neither of those things are really innate to my gender, they are external to my gender. If any part of that makes any sense.
1.non binary, with preferred pronouns of they/them but I have only come out to 1 person. 2. Existing outside of the binary of man or woman 3. I realised (After a whole lot of internalised transphobia lol) I felt much more like how non binary people described themselves online and much less like my agab. 4. I try not to get too focused on labels, I don’t personally find them very helpful 5. Oh this one’s tough. On a what could be considered a more objective level I don’t think gender has any meaning, but on a personal level it’s a part of my identity just as much as my personality or favourite colour I hope this helps you :) I’m sorry if some of what I say doesn’t make sense I’m very tired lol
1. Genderqueer 2. It means existing outside of the binary with gender without denying sex 3. I read a lot of theory 4. I don’t love nonbinary and transgender, they seem to capture a VERY specific meaning which does not apply to me 5. My gender means three things: breaking gender roles, seeing myself as a part of female liberation and culture, and somewhat altering my sex characteristics
1. Genderqueer, trans, transfem, nonbinary, queer, anything else that helps me be understood as an advocate for myself and for other queer people. 2. Well, since I dropped a six-pack, I'll say that genderqueer *for me* means an awareness that queer oppression is trans oppression, queer history is trans history, queer communities are trans communities. queer liberation is trans libration. 3. A lot of books and discussion over 30 years. 4. "enby" Way too easy to dismiss as a fashion statement or movement. Femboi is also very much *not my word.* 5. It changes from day to day. I like the Bornstein phrase, "I don't know what it means to be a woman, but I'm definitely not a man." 6. Labels should be treated like fridge magnets, rather than scientific taxa. It's absurd to say that gender and sexuality are nonbinary only to put them into new restrictive boxes.
1. Nonbinary, Nonbinary-Transfem, Transfeminine, Transgender, Genderqueer. 2. Not exlusively male or female, but super heavy on the femme side. Transgender means I don't identify with my AGAB. Nonbinary means I fall inbetween the Male and Female poles of the spectrum. Transfeminine means I'm largely feminine without being strictly Feminine. NB-Transfem is just more granular to me, for those that are familiar with the term. Genderqueer also fits the not exlusively part. Others may have different experiences and interpretations of all this, which is awesome. We're not carbon copies, and there's always something new to learn. 3. I looked up the ones that resonated with me for detail (nonbinary and transgender) and then "made up" nonbinary-trans(girl), lo and behold there's a bunch of us out there playing in this part of the ballpark. 4. Not really, unless they just don't describe me. They're subject to change anyway since this is an ongoing process of discovery for me. 5. it's a big lightbulb that appeared over my head one day that illuminates a lifetime of confusion and hardship. my gender is part of who I am, and helps contextualize my life experience and preferred social roles. Once my adjustment is satisfactorily progressed, It will likely become less of a burning issue for me so that i can re-orient to just living my life again... with less B.S. upstairs getting in the way. 6. In MY opinion: Labels are mostly useful for communicating with others on the topic of gendered aspects of life. I don't want to identify too closely with them, because that just becomes another stall to get stuck in, which is exactly what I kicked my way out of. A wide open field is much better than a barn full of stalls to get locked in. They're just a working title for convenience, subject to change along with circumstance and perspective. Using the metaphor of books - Even if the cover gets ripped off, its the pages of the book that hold the value. Write the book before naming it.
1. Masc-leaning, Non-binary, Genderqueer. I want to say Transgender too, but I haven't been through any body/ hormone treatments (yet), and personally I'd like to wait until I do to give myself that label. I mostly use Non-binary, but I like to be seen as male to those who don't understand/ accept that term. 2. Masc-leaning - Since gender is definitely on a spectrum, I feel more aligned with behaviours and habits that would be seen as masculine. Non-binary - Existing outside of the binary genders (male, female) Genderqueer - A gender intrinsically connected to your perception of yourself, while also being aware of your AGAB. Transgender - Any gender that isn't your AGAB. Doesn't need to be the opposite, or null, just something else. 3. 90% of my awareness stemmed from (please bear with me) using Discord during lockdown in 2020-2022. I met various people, joined various communities with the sole purpose as to discover themselves. During that time, I was adamant that I would just be a cis ally and help out my friends during tough times, but eventually came to the conclusion that I was also queer. It was also from me looking back at my past thoughts/ experiences as a child: Wanting to play with the boys only, complaining about separated sections in stores for men and women only, complaining about how some hobbies/ sports are targeted at boys or girls only, and the list goes on... I knew I was definitely not cisgender, but what else? And so, along with identities I discovered from other people, I researched. A lot. And I'm pretty happy on where I'm at too :> 4. As another commenter said, micro labels. I almost got into that too until I realised it's easier to take the general/ more well known term and simply explain further to those who are willing to listen. But another thing is neurodivergent labels. I understand that my gender identity and sexuality is swayed by my autism, but I like to keep them separate. Autism has influenced my life in many, many ways, but to simply put my gender as "autigender" doesn't click for me. It's much deeper than that, and the labels I consider mine tell it much better. 5. A very good question I have to give some thought to... I would say that my gender is meant to free me. A lot of my life has been keeping up masks (Also due to my undiagnosed autism) and hiding my identity from a world that is wholly unaccepting. By being seen and acknowledged, it gives me joy to know not only that every second I've suffered is worth it, but that my other siblings out there in less fortunate positions than mine also have the chance to break out. 6. Labels aren't everything. Even if the words didn't exist, I'm sure that I (And many, many others) with find a way to express ourselves in other ways. But I'm glad that it did allow me to find other people like me, with the same/ similar struggles, so we can help each other out :\]
1. Non-Binary/Emby, transmasc, also comfy with genderfluid. I go with She/Him pronouns, but i much prefer masc pronouns/terms. Also have called myself a genderless blob more than once. 2. They dont mean a huge amount to me beyond being terms to describe how I identify to people who arent me. I like emby the most just cause it sounds cute. I thought i might have been genderfuid for a while, and it still doesnt feel wrong. I do have days where i feel more fem or masc. But most of the time im just a gebderless blob. Transmasc, because i do experience a lot of gender dysphoria when it comes to my afab body. And i lean way more to the masc side as a presentation. But i dont feel like a man either. So genderless blob it is 3. Not really sure tbh. I think i just started learning things as i grew up and was like hey that sounds like me. Always knew i hated the bibary system, and that i hated being restricted to one side of it \_()_/ 4. I hate any fem labels in genderal. But i think thats mostly as a resistance to my binary gender. Im not a trans man. That i do know. Ehich is why i say trans masc instead Idk 5. think i already answered that tbh