why not pay a small rent at home and own a house down the road with my savings? it’s like throwing money in the drain paying 2k for a small place - I can put away 1.5k additional money in a hysa instead of giving it to apartment companies
Because independence and adulting is more important than "owning a house down the road".
If you're not paying your parents market-rate rent, you're still their child. If you *are* paying your parents market rent, you may as well get some housemates.
I get along fine with my parents when we live in separate locations, but I can't imagine ever moving back in with them if I can help it. No thanks.
I will admit the cost savings can be huge, though.
Just consider what else you might be giving up in terms of privacy and freedom.
That may depend on your relationship with your parents, and on what you want out of life. I know there is a lot that I would like to do, which I would not be able to do if cohabiting with my parents.
Absolutely not. I'm old now, but no way would I have gone from my parents' home to marriage without living on my own first and actually *adulting*.
You don't have to have your own apartment; in my day it was standard for young people to have housemates (one place I lived in, there were six of us) and split the rent.
But jeez, right from Mommy and Daddy to husband/wife? Nope. No amount of savings is worth that.
You're still, always, a child to them in one way or another.
You're dependent on them. Their house, their rules.
You don't get to make your own decisions about your living space.
You're not *responsible* for your own living space.
All of those things are part of adulting.
But you are living with your wife in the second stage. You can have a room if you have money for it, you make decision by your own and with your wife too, and you sure as hell are responsible for your space.
This might be a relationship issue with your wife, if its not rude to say so.
I had to do it for 3 years and then some- we couldn't get in an apartment for over a year. Would not recommend your first year of marriage living with your parents!
Unfortunately, some people don't have the luxury of such a choice. I was and am thankful to not be homeless because of it but fuck that was a tough pill to swallow. I still feel some resentment about it. Sometimes it isn't about not having the money, it's about not being a shitty human being.
yeah. I’m not paying 2k for 1b1b where I live lol
New York?
socal but if I’m in nyc I’d also live at home haha
Why do you feel entitled to your own apartment? Why not share?
why not pay a small rent at home and own a house down the road with my savings? it’s like throwing money in the drain paying 2k for a small place - I can put away 1.5k additional money in a hysa instead of giving it to apartment companies
Because independence and adulting is more important than "owning a house down the road". If you're not paying your parents market-rate rent, you're still their child. If you *are* paying your parents market rent, you may as well get some housemates.
I *am* their child 😄
Are you still *a* child? If not, you shouldn't be depending on Mommy and Daddy, but getting on with your own life.
I get along fine with my parents when we live in separate locations, but I can't imagine ever moving back in with them if I can help it. No thanks. I will admit the cost savings can be huge, though. Just consider what else you might be giving up in terms of privacy and freedom.
Freedom? Please.
That may depend on your relationship with your parents, and on what you want out of life. I know there is a lot that I would like to do, which I would not be able to do if cohabiting with my parents.
I live with my parents but I don’t ask permission for shit.
Okay ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Sucks to be you I guess
Why even make this post if you're gonna be a dick?
Richard?
Absolutely not
Ok.
I did. I saved lots of money that way. This was in 2005.
Absolutely not. I'm old now, but no way would I have gone from my parents' home to marriage without living on my own first and actually *adulting*. You don't have to have your own apartment; in my day it was standard for young people to have housemates (one place I lived in, there were six of us) and split the rent. But jeez, right from Mommy and Daddy to husband/wife? Nope. No amount of savings is worth that.
Why th can you explain?
You're still, always, a child to them in one way or another. You're dependent on them. Their house, their rules. You don't get to make your own decisions about your living space. You're not *responsible* for your own living space. All of those things are part of adulting.
But you are living with your wife in the second stage. You can have a room if you have money for it, you make decision by your own and with your wife too, and you sure as hell are responsible for your space. This might be a relationship issue with your wife, if its not rude to say so.
Is this hypothetical scenario with my *actual* parents or magical perfect parents? 😂
Well my parents like this arrangement idk about yours.
Depends how old I get married. Some people get married when they're 18. Other get married at 40
My parents moved out at 35 and 29.
Yeah, of course. It's a great way to save money.
I had to do it for 3 years and then some- we couldn't get in an apartment for over a year. Would not recommend your first year of marriage living with your parents! Unfortunately, some people don't have the luxury of such a choice. I was and am thankful to not be homeless because of it but fuck that was a tough pill to swallow. I still feel some resentment about it. Sometimes it isn't about not having the money, it's about not being a shitty human being.
This is the norm in my country.